My Unscheduled Five-Star Holiday!

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“Whenever I pull an oracle card for myself, it always seems to have one message… Rest!” ~ Nicole Cody


Hello Lovelies,

I’m having a little enforced rest in this lovely five-star resort (some would call it a hospital!) due to my naughty misbehaving heart. Thank you, Lyme Disease. Even on the way out of my body you bang the doors and throw major tantrums.

So, I won’t be blogging very frequently for the next little while, or facebooking, or answering emails and messages. I’m sure you’ll understand. And of course, addled brain often here right now, courtesy of morphine et al.

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I’m going to be just fine, now that I have all this horrid pain under control. But I have promised my doctors that I will lie quietly and rest (yes, I had to hold my hand over my heart and swear to do no work!) for a fortnight.

The view is fabulous, and there is room service. The nurses are all angels disguised by flat shoes and sensible uniforms. I am being very well taken care of.  I have also been promised similar treatment back at the farm.

So I’m waving to you from bed, and sending my love to you all,

See you after my rest. This is my best 5am kissy face for you!

Big love and hugs,

Nicole <3 xoxo

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How to Be At Home Wherever You Are

“Home wasn’t a set house, or a single town on a map. It was wherever the people who loved you were, whenever you were together. Not a place, but a moment, and then another, building on each other like bricks to create a solid shelter that you take with you for your entire life, wherever you may go.”
~ Sarah Dessen, What Happened to Goodbye


Did you read my post about the energies of October? Here’s a snippet of what I wrote:

“October is a month for nestling and cocooning. For finding and nurturing that sense of belonging. For doing the things that fill your heart with gladness, peace and contentment. It’s a month for working away on projects that have meaning for you, for quiet time and family time. It’s the perfect month for anything to do with heart and home.”

After the post went up I was flooded with emails and messages from people who are not living at home right now, or who travel a lot, or for whatever other reason are feeling displaced. The message below pretty much sums up the sentiment of all that correspondence:

Your October post brought tears to my eyes because I just moved to xxxxxx last week and feel anything but a sense of home and belonging. Physically I have a lovely house to live in but am struggling to feel settled and at peace with so much to adjust to. Am reaching out to try and make relationships and connections, I guess these things all take time! And I know that once I do start to feel like I belong here my PhD work will naturally flow out of that. If you have any special tips I would love love love to hear them xx

Home isn’t a place, it’s a feeling. So, how do you create an energy so that you can feel at home wherever you are? I have a few tips for that.

  1. If you travel a lot make a small grab bag of a few significant items. I have an old medicine bag that a dear friend gave me back at university. No matter where I have gone within Australia or the wider world I take this bag. Inside it are my meditation shawl, my journal, a deck of oracle cards, my runes, and a crystal or two. This supports my daily spiritual habits. Each day I journal, pull a card, and meditate. I can wrap myself in the shawl for comfort, even if I am not meditating, and the things that are important to me are kept close. When I lay these things out I am at home, wherever I am. 2015-10-06 17.17.24
  2. Have a ritual that feels like home, and keep that ritual as part of your daily routine. It might be a simple yoga or tai chi practice on the floor beside your bed. It might be going jogging. It could be checking facebook over a cappuccino at a local cafe. Rituals anchor us and centre us, no matter what is going on around us.
  3. Make sure you feel safe where you are. If you can’t feel safe you can’t relax. If where you are staying doesn’t feel safe to you, then maybe it’s time to find somewhere else to call home. Set personal boundaries too, and get time on your own. It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to close the door on the world every now and then.
  4. Make some playlists, and use music to bring you back to that place of inner peace.

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  5. Create new relationships. When we travelled to Italy a few years ago we bought a coffee at the delicatessen on the corner near our apartment every morning. Within a week we were being greeted like locals. Take a chance and say hi to people. Connect where you can. Community gives us a sense of home and belonging as much as a personal space does.

  6. Take a hobby with you. It might be knitting, or writing, or sketching. Keep a small bag of items that support your hobby, and then spend time each day nurturing that interest.
  7. Food can also be a great anchor, especially when travelling or living in unfamiliar places. Many Australians I know go abroad with a jar of vegemite for their morning toast. My lovely writer friend travels with her favourite teapot and tea leaves, as well as whatever story she is working on.
  8. Decorate your room in your own taste. Maybe it’s a quilt you love, or a poster of your favourite band. When I travel I often pick flowers for my room, or make a small altar with leaves and found objects. Do you have a favourite mug? Take it with you. It’s okay to have an item that acts like a personal talisman of home. fnd-mug-shots_s4x3_lg
  9. Give yourself time to acclimatise to wherever you are. When something is unfamiliar of course it will feel strange or alienating. Go for a stroll. Take in the sights. Get your bearings.
  10. Scent can anchor you too. You might choose a brand of soap, or a body lotion, cologne or perfume that provokes feelings of nurture and comfort. Some people use essential oils or incense. A little lavender essential oil on my pillow at night helps me to get a good night’s sleep even if I am not in my own bed.

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Easy Goat Cheese and Mushroom Canapes

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“A good time occurs precisely when we lose track of what time it is.”
~ Robert Farrar Capon



This is a super little recipe – it’s healthy, quick to make, and utterly yummy. You’ll find that it goes perfectly with afternoon tea, as canapes with drinks, or for a plate to share.

With the holiday season coming up, this recipe is a no-brainer for easy entertaining, and it’s so simple the kids can make it!

These goodies are gluten-free, and for people who are cows’ milk intolerant they are a very appreciated addition to a snacks platter.


12 small mushrooms, 1/2 cup soft goats cheese, a mixture of fresh chopped herbs to make 2 tablespoons (I used garlic chives and parsley), one teaspoon of smoked paprika and a little extra fresh herb for garnish (I used parsley)

Note: The flavour of the smoked paprika really makes this dish, so do try to use it if you can!

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  1. Remove stalks from mushrooms. Wipe the mushrooms clean with a damp cloth, or peel the outer skin if you prefer.
  2. Place goat cheese and chopped herbs in a small bowl and mix together with a fork.
  3. Fill each mushroom cap with the herbed cheese mixture.
  4. Sprinkle with smoked paprika and garnish with a little extra herb of your choice.
  5. Serve, or store in fridge until needed.

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Cancer, Coffee and Community


“My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you. But for every real word spoken, for every attempt I had ever made to speak those truths for which I am still seeking, I had made contact with other women while we examined the words to fit a world in which we all believed, bridging our differences.”
~ Audre Lorde, The Cancer Journals


If there’s one thing that my husband Ben and I have become very experienced with, it’s living with dire medical prognoses and chronic illness. We know what it’s like to live with a shadow hanging over you, with death lurking around the corner, and to have a private life that few other people understand. We know what it is to cling to hope, and to try absolutely every option in order to keep living.

Fortunately for me, after years and years of bad news, I have turned a corner again. Just as I have a number of times when I’ve been given rotten news and short time-frames for life expectancy.

Now, sadly, dear friends of ours are on a similar journey. The wife has stage four metastatic breast cancer. They are trying everything they can, but it’s a hard battle, and an emotionally exhausting one. We’ve been supporting them as best we can, and passing on our tips for everything from shower chairs and toilet chairs to oxygen machines and incontinence pants. Getting wills in order, having an enduring medical power of attorney, notifying your spouse about your wishes in the event of a catastrophic health event, DNR forms (do not resuscitate), hiring medical equipment, diet and therapy successes  – all the things we have had to deal with during my own illnesses, and which we are now sharing with our friends.

The wife is in hospital receiving pain management palliative care right now, so we met her husband at a local cafe yesterday.

It was early when we got there, and I thought perhaps we might sit at a table far away from the main cafe, to have some privacy. But Ben had other ideas. ‘We always sit at the main table,” he said, “so we will today too. Our mate will be fine. It will be good for him to talk about normal things.”

We chatted with some of the other locals before our friend arrived, and then introduced him to our regular coffee mates. The talk turned to football – Australia has several grand finals this weekend. Over excellent coffee we hashed the weekend sport, politics, and all things farming.


Our local friends turned to speak to some new-comers and finally on our own we discussed our friend’s wife, and how she was doing. They have a meeting with her main oncologist next week to get a treatment plan. And they have a whole team of doctors and natural therapists onside too.

“Make sure you take a notebook and write everything down,” one of the local farmers at our table quietly added.

We all looked over to him. “You’ll never remember it all,” he continued. “Don’t be intimidated by the doctors. Ask them to explain anything you don’t understand. Ask lots of questions. Write everything down. That’s what my wife used to do.” He cleared his throat. “I hope you don’t mind me joining the conversation,” the farmer said. “I have a bit of experience here.”

Over the next hour we talked cancer, treatments, doctors, and staying sane in difficult times.

“Just know that you’re never alone, mate,” the farmer said to our friend as we left. “Heaps of us have been through this, and there’s always going to be someone you can talk to, or who can help you. All you have to do is reach out and ask. Don’t sit on this. Don’t stay silent. You need your friends. You need your community. We all have to be here for each other.”

Who’d have thought that a simple breakfast at a local cafe would prove to be so nourishing?


October 2015 – What to Expect

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“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.”
~ Masaru Emoto, Secret Life of Water


Hello, Lovelies <3

October snuck up on me,but we’ve made peace and I’ve had a solid investigation of the energies for the month ahead. Let me share my insights with you.

October is a month for nestling and cocooning. For finding and nurturing that sense of belonging. For doing the things that fill your heart with gladness, peace and contentment. It’s a month for working away on projects that have meaning for you, for quiet time and family time. It’s the perfect month for anything to do with heart and home.

You’ll be amazed at just how much you can get done in October, as you focus on what is important to you. It especially favours planning, study, writing, art and all forms of creativity. If you have a home renovation project or you just need to do a big tidy up, October is a fine month for getting things moving.

But no matter where you are, or what you are doing in October, make sure to spend a little time gifting yourself peacefulness, connection and a sense of home – whatever that means to you.


Card for the Month:

I’ve chosen two cards for October for you: one from the Osho Zen Tarot Deck, and one from Colette Baron-Reid’s The Enchanted Map. Remember that I don’t use these cards in the conventional way, but rather as a stimulus for channelled information.

Here is what I have received from each card:

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“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”  ~ Lao Tzu


The message of  Abundance is being at home wherever you are, and finding reasons to be grateful for what you already have.

This is the energy of being at home, or at work, or anywhere at all in our daily lives, and being fully present in each moment, while appreciating the great gift that is our life, and this planet that we call home.

It’s about being the King or Queen of our personal domain. Not in an egotistical way, but in a manner where we feel supported and where our needs and desires are being met.

October wants you to get creative and happy where you are. To relax in your home, and enjoy the space around you. If your home space is not reflective of who you are, and doesn’t meet your needs then change it! Do what you can to help yourself feel more comfortable. Kick back and enjoy some replenishment time on your own, if that’s what’s wanted. Invite friends over, or to share a meal and some good times with your loved ones if that appeals to you.

October’s’s gift is the ability to find or create for ourselves a space of contentment and comfort – and from that energy of contentment we find ourselves more open, more generous, happier and kinder to ourselves and others. Creativity flows. We find ourselves wanting to work towards our goals, but from a place of inspiration and balance rather than grind, fear or drudgery.



“After all,” Anne had said to Marilla once, “I believe the nicest and sweetest days are not those on which anything very splendid or wonderful or exciting happens but just those that bring simple little pleasures, following one another softly, like pearls slipping off a string.”
~ L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Avonlea


The second card, Home, supports the message of Abundance.

Home says to you ‘make time for what’s important’. Shut the door on people and situations that drain you, and find comfort in the solitude and safety of your own space. In the quiet of your home let your mind soar. Write, create, paint, dance, build things, study, focus on your goals and interests.

Magical transformations can occur in October. Lots of things can be birthed, or take shape, or even be completed. It’s a fertile time, and a wonderful time for all kinds of creativity.

Remember to have some small celebrations. Not for any particular reason, but just because you are alive, and you feel the seasons changing, and it’s raining or there’s sunshine, or a moonlit night, or fog!


Even as you are busy, you will find that this joyful October energy restores you and replenishes you. It will make you want to dance amid the daisies and tiptoe through the tulips.

If things are ending, don’t be too sad. Know that there is a season for everything and everyone, and that there will always be more beginnings in every cycle, including yours.


Bonus October Meditation:

I’ve recorded a short meditation to help you find that heart-space that October offers. It takes about twelve minutes. All you need is to sit or lie somewhere quietly and then just follow along to the sound of my voice:



October comes heralding good things. Don’t stretch yourself thin. Take a little time to make yourself comfortable at home, to rest, and to enjoy the simple pleasures of life. Work towards your dreams, with lots of stops for cups of tea and other life adventures.

Much love to you,

Nicole <3 xx

Bush Lemons And Farm Strolls

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“Lemons. He liked lemons. They made you make funny faces when you bit them, and a very, very long way in the future there was a really amazing planet where they’d evolved into people and lived in harmony with a variety of hyper-intelligent bee. Evolution. Thousands and thousands of years of tiny changes could turn little burning sparks of chemistry into people, into monsters and angels and even human beings.”
~ Nick Harkaway, Doctor Who: Keeping Up with the Joneses


Yesterday morning at the Mullum Farmers Markets I bought some fresh local oysters on the half shell for my dinner. Noel Baggaley grows them at his oyster leases on the Brunswick and Tweed Rivers and they are the most delicious things – all briny, creamy and fat.

Fantastic! But when we got home I realised I had no fresh lemons. Our Meyer lemon is covered in tiny fruit and flowers, and it will be months before they are big enough and ripe enough to enjoy. Then I remembered. Down by the dam grows a bush lemon tree.

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The bush lemon is a rough, thick-skinned lemon that has become naturalised in sub-tropical Australia. This one is growing wild. Ben grabbed a bucket and we took the dogs for a walk down the paddock to see if the tree had any fruit on it. Luckily for us, it did.

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Ben gave the tree a mighty shake (it has BIG thorns on it) and we picked up the fruit that tumbled to the ground. Enough for my oysters and then some. :)

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Bert is enjoying being able to wander the paddocks again after his successful cruciate ligament surgery. He’s only been mobile a few days, and we’re keeping an eye on him, but so far he looks just fine.

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Harry Dog? Well, by the time we were finished our walk he was covered in mud from his refreshing dip in the dam.

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And the lemons? Juicy and delicious!

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Batman Or Iron Man? Which one are you?

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“There are two types of people on planet Earth, Batman and Iron Man. Batman has a secret identity, right? So Bruce Wayne has to walk around every second of every day knowing that if somebody finds out his secret, his family is dead, his friends are dead, everyone he loves gets tortured to death by costumed supervillains. And he has to live with the weight of that secret every day. But not Tony Stark, he’s open about who he is. He tells the world he’s Iron Man, he doesn’t give a shit. He doesn’t have that shadow hanging over him, he doesn’t have to spend energy building up those walls of lies around himself. You’re one or the other – either you’re one of those people who has to hide your real self because it would ruin you if it came out, or you’re not one of those people. And the two groups aren’t even living in the same universe.” ~ David Wong


When I first read this quote I had one of those aha moments. The words resonated for me because, you see, I’ve been both.

Until my early thirties I lived like Batman. My great secret was that I am psychic. I have been since I was a child.

I remember so clearly the afternoon my best friend at high school passed judgement on an advertisement in a women’s magazine, showing a stereotypical psychic in a purple robe and turban with her hands suspended over a crystal ball. “It’s such a scam,” said  my friend. “Psychics are all bullshit. They just exploit stupid people and the vulnerable.”

My other friends all nodded their heads in agreement. There was something contemptuous about both the people claiming to be psychic, and those people dumb enough or desperate enough to use their services. Lotto numbers. Soul Mates. Fortune Telling… Intelligent people made their own way in the world, did their own research, and chose trusted professionals to be their life advisors. Not women with exotic names who wore jewelled turbans and touted lucky numbers. Here I was, a well-educated young woman at an academic school, intending to go on to university studies. How could I claim to be like the crystal-waving freak?

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I was so worried about being found out. About ending up an outcast. All I could think to do was withdraw further so that no-one would even suspect this thing in me, engage with people in a way that was all about them and never about me, and stay under the radar until this phase in my life had well and truly passed.

For years I was ashamed to be me. I hid my abilities and true nature, except where I knew it was safe to share the truth of my life.

What an exhausting and miserable way to live. Always in constant fear of being discovered, judged and ostracised. Of no longer being taken seriously.

Eventually illness stripped so much of my old self away that all that remained was my intuitive and psychic ability. The Universe certainly had the last laugh. The thing I fought so hard to hide was the only thing left that I could do.

That was when I decided that it was better to live like Iron Man – Tony Stark. To openly declare who and what I am, and to support others to be who they are too. Psychics aren’t freaks, but normal people with a particularly well-honed sense that is available to us all.

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My life and my work is now an open book. I share it all – the good, the bad and the ugly. It’s liberating. There’s no more stress. And in giving myself permission to live honestly as who I am, I help others to do that too. I surround myself with people who accept me for who I am, and I don’t care any more if you don’t like me, respect me or appreciate me or my gifts. I just won’t hang out with you, and I no longer put myself into situations or relationships where it is necessary to hide my truth or where you’ll put me down. Goodness, what a relief!

How about you? Are you Batman or Iron Man?

I know which one works better for me.