Who’s your Support Crew in 2014?

Image of the Blue Angels Support Crew watching a flight formation - Wikimedia Commons

Image of the Blue Angels Support Crew watching a U.S. Navy diamond flight formation 1952 – Wikimedia Commons

“Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends”

~ John Lennon and Paul McCartney

Few of us get there on our own. The journey is always made easier when we have support, no matter what that journey is. So my big question to you is this:

Who is YOUR support crew in 2014?

No matter what kind of year you’re in for, we all need friends and helpful people. People who can cheer us on, offer helpful advice, pick us up when we fall, do the things we need doing but cannot do for ourselves, lend their own kind of magic to ours for that beautiful effect that multiplies our success to be greater than the sum of the parts.

I know that most of you are a lot like me…

Sensitive souls, empaths, carers, healers, kind-hearted people – we are stunningly good at putting everyone else first, and being that support which others need – being a support person is just what we’re wired to do. And if we’d had rough patches in life we’ve become good at being resilient and self-sufficient too.

All of this means that we may not be so flash at asking for favours or putting our hand up for help.

This year I’m putting up my own hand and asking for help. I’m drawing to me the best support crew I can to get me through 2014. I’m also minimising my contact with the crazy-makers and relationships that drain or sabotage me and my direction. (Want help with toxic relationships? Click here!)

Mots of us already have a support network. We may even be putting energy into supporting THEM right now. The biggest issue for many of us is that we don’t ask, or have found ourselves in the habit of having the barriers up as we steam along in that solo kind of self-sufficiency mode. Or we just plain forget that these people are here for us to draw on.

Not all of our support crew will work for love. And that’s okay too. Hiring people to support us is a great act of self-love and affirmation of self-worth. We can also access this support through books, courses and audio files.

We all need a cheer squad, and sometimes we need more tangible help. The point is – we can’t do it all alone!!!

Image of this awesome supportcrew from the South East London Ladies Swimming Club

Image of this awesome support crew from the South East London Ladies Swimming Club

Right now I have my husband and my wonderful PA, Dana, creating firewalls and boundaries in my work and personal life.

My fridge is full of nurturing soup from kind friends. Others have offered to clean my house while I’m too unwell to do this for myself.

I may not be able to get out much, but my sister and a few friends are on speed dial. I have great neighbours, and a fabulous bunch of Soul Sisters from my mentoring groups and retreats. I have all of you, dear readers, lending your support and kindness.

My Sisters of the Pen are always there for online and ‘for reals’ conversation and support for writing and life. The Queensland Writers Centre is my go-to place for continuing development of my craft.

And beyond my emotional needs I have doctors, herbalists, accountants, a good lawyer, a web designer (Hi Tim!), dentist, chiropractor, acupuncturist, an online business mentoring group, lyme boards and forums, music, libraries, bookshops and the internet. I have the Farmers Markets and some wonderful local cafes. There’s also the yellow pages for when I need a plumber, a termite expert or a tree lopper.

Of course, none of these people will be any good to me if I don’t reach out and ask!

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Image by maryam

2014 is shaping up to be a big year, and it’s time to start thinking about who you need on your support crew.

To help you get a better picture of what that may look like I’ve created a simple journal exercise for you!

Journalling my Web of Support

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Image from akmhcweb

Here are some simple questions for you to think about and journal. Don’t feel that you have to answer them all today, but DO give them thought over the next few weeks.

1. Who in my family can I draw on for support, guidance, laughs or to help me lift that heavy bookcase? Remember that it’s okay to include loved ones who’ve passed over. I talk to my grandparents all the time!

2. Which friends in my life (online as well as people I’ve met in person) are supportive of me, my interests and my ambitions?

3. What do I really need to get done this year that I keep putting off?

4. Do I really need to do this myself? Who can help me with this thing? What kind of support do I need for each of those goals or tasks? Do I know someone? Can I pay someone?

5. Who can help me with my health this year?

6. Who can help me with my finances and/or business?

7. Who can help me with my spirituality and soul questing?

8. Who can I laugh with?

9. Who can I cry with?

10. Who’ll cheer me on up that mountain?

11. Music, movies and other motivators that keep me feeling good about myself and on track?

12. Habits and actions I KNOW do me good and support my journey?

I hope in some small way that I can support you too, through my blog and my facebook page. Let’s make this our best year yet – together!

Lots and lots of love,

Nicole xoxo

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Create Positive Change Program – Week 4

Letting Go by senyan1

Letting Go by senyan1

“It’s not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What’s hard, she said, is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.”
― Shauna Niequist, Bittersweet: Thoughts on Change, Grace, and Learning the Hard Way

That’s the thing about change. It requires room. Change’s very essence is about allowing for things to evolve, to become different, to be altered from what they are now. But how can that happen if your life is already crammed to capacity with being and doing? How can you grab hold of the new if your hands are already full?

This week we’re going to look at how we can begin to make room for the things that matter to us.

It will mean letting go of, or temporarily putting aside, some of the the things we’re currently giving energy to so that there is space for what’s coming.

Are you ready for that?

Good! Let’s go. :)

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Image from Diana’s Words

Count Your Blessings!

Writing our Blessings down provides a concrete reminder of the everyday good and everyday magic already present in our lives.  This simple practice draws more abundance into our lives by focusing our attention on what matters to us.

Again this week write down three blessings in your life every day – three simple things for which you are grateful. When we count our Blessings we are inviting positive energy into our lives and putting ourselves into a receptive and abundant state of mind.

Write them like this: Today I am thankful for (the blessing) because (write down a simple reason). eg: Today I am grateful for Australia’s Outback, because being under this wide blue sky makes my heart feel free.

The wide soft sky at sunset...

The wide soft sky at dawn…

Affirm the Positive!

Take your rock from Week Three and thank it. Write the Affirmation you used in your Blessings Book. You can now place the third rock beside your bed or somewhere where you’ll see it often.

Select the fourth rock from the eight you selected at the start of this course. This is your fourth Affirmation Stone. Carry it around with you, or place it somewhere where you can see and hold it every day.

Hold this fourth stone in your hands. Now think of something else in your life that you want to change. This week we’re focusing on what we ARE READY FOR. Affirm that as a statement of declaration to the Universe.

Here are some examples:

I am ready for a Soul Mate.

I am ready to become a published author.

I am ready for a healthy, happy pregnancy.

I am ready to commit to higher study.

I am ready to create my dream job.

I am ready to embrace change and become a successful visual artist.

 

Each day hold that stone in your hands and repeat your declaration, out loud, or in your mind. You can do this just once, or as many times as you like. Say your declaration with enthusiasm and commitment. Put lots of energy into the words I AM READY. This simple act of declaration begins to align you with this energy, opening you to more of this thing in your life.

Using your Gratitude Rock!

Are you enjoying this part of our Program? I confess it might actually be my favourite!

As you hold your stone tonight say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life.  Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today.  It doesn’t matter if you review your Blessings from your Blessing Book, or add in something new.  Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.

Now imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this Positive Change Program with us – people from all over the world, just like you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.

Say Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Positive Change, Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and close your eyes, cocooned in this good energy. Let yourself heal, let yourself be nurtured, let yourself connect spiritually while you sleep.

Sleeping Beauty by Kinuko Craft

Sleeping Beauty by Kinuko Craft

Homework:

This week we’re going to do a little honest exploring, via our journal.

In as much or as little detail as you need, answer the following questions. You can repeat the questions more than once, and you can also make the actions as small or as massive as you are ready for. Big change can often come from the tiniest realignment or action so don’t feel you NEED to make a grand gesture. On the other hand, sometimes big is what it takes to finally move us out of stuckness and back into flow.  Tune in to your heart. You’ll find your way!

I’m prepared to give up ______ to help me improve my health because ______.

I’m prepared to give up ______ to help me improve my financial situation because ______.

I’m prepared to give up ______ to help me improve my relationship with ______ because ______.

I’m prepared to give up ______ to free up more time because ______.

I’m prepared to stop ______ because I’m aware that ______.

I’m prepared to swap ______ for ______ because ______.

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PS: If you’d like to review any aspect of this course, or start back at the beginning click here.

Create Positive Change Program – Week 3

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Image from www.vb.is

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs

Sometimes the advice we get, and the experts, mentors and people in positions of authority that we look to for direction end up giving us a bum steer.

Seriously.

When we are really strong in our own power and confidence, and fired up by what it is we want to be/do/have, then it doesn’t matter so much if other people disagree or don’t believe in us. The positive energy and vision we hold for ourselves will carry us through.

But when we’re just starting out, when we’re vulnerable and uncertain it can be very easy for other people to sink our ship.

Some folks persist in telling you not to get on the boat, or threaten to disown you if you do. Some like to blow our ship right out of the water, some smash it to bits while it’s still in the construction phase, and others sneakily let the bungs out and the water in while telling us they 100% believe in our ability to float that boat. Still others commandeer our ship and steer it to places we didn’t want to go, or limit our horizons.

But it’s still our own little ship of dreams, and what matters is that it’s ours – not anyone else’s.

This week we’re going to look at one of the biggest things that holds us back from positive change – believing the people who don’t believe in YOU!

Click on the video below for a little positive reinforcement – these are all people who were told they would fail, but who eventually (note that word eventually) succeeded beyond their wildest dreams. Imagine what would have happened if they’d stopped trying?

Okay – let’s do our foundation exercises.

Count Your Blessings!

How’s your Blessings Book going? I love looking back over mine, especially the ones from years ago.  This simple practice can bring enormous riches into your life by regularly focusing your attention on what matters to you.

Again this week write down three blessings in your life every day – three simple things for which you are grateful. When we count our Blessings we are inviting positive energy into our lives and putting ourselves into a receptive and abundant state of mind.

Write them like this: Today I am thankful for (the blessing) because (write down a simple reason). eg: Today I am grateful for rain because I get to wear my awesome purple gumboots!

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Affirm the Positive!

Take your rock from Week Two, and thank it. Write the Affirmation you used in your Blessings Book. You can now place the second rock beside your bed or somewhere where you’ll see it often.

Select the third rock from the eight you selected at the start of this course. This is your third Affirmation Stone. Carry it around with you, or place it somewhere where you can see and hold it every day.

Hold this third stone in your hands. Now think of something else in your life that you want to change. This week we’re focusing on what we CAN do. Affirm that as a statement of declaration to the Universe.

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Image from Coaching Journey

Here are some examples:

I can manage money well.

I can create financial freedom for me and my family.

I can be healthy and happy.

I can be cherished in a loving, lasting relationship.

I can get published.

I can make money doing this _________ (thing I love – insert your own thing here)

 

Each day hold that stone in your hands and repeat your declaration, out loud, or in your mind. You can do this just once, or as many times as you like. Say your declaration with enthusiasm and commitment. Put lots of energy into the word CAN. Say it loud enough and strongly enough to defeat all of the doubters in your life. This simple act of declaration begins to align you with this energy, opening you to more of this thing in your life.

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Image from smithfit

Using your Gratitude Rock!

Using my Gratitude Rock is one of the favourite parts of my day. It makes me feel so connected to each of you, and very supported and loved. Because our Gratitude Rock anchors positive energy and gratitude at the end of each day we go to sleep in that beautiful bubble of healing energy, and remain connected, empowered and loved.

As you hold your stone tonight say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life.  Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today.  It doesn’t matter if you review your Blessings from your Blessing Book, or add in something new.  Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.

Now imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this Positive Change Program with us – people from all over the world, just like you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.

Say Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Positive Change, Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy. I’ll send you a few extra sparkles this week! :)

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Homework:

This week we’re busting through the old negative energy and thinking caused by people making us feel small, inadequate, incapable or undeserving.

Who are they to tell you how to live your life?

Make a list in your journal of all of the people who have said or done things that have contributed to you giving up, holding yourself back, or never even starting. Write as much or as little detail as you need.

Then we’re going to do a little visualisation exercise to get our power back. We’ll see them saying/doing that thing to us and then we’ll affirm that it doesn’t matter what they say. We’ll allow ourselves to do or be that thing anyway. We can write it out or act it out in our imagination – whatever feels right.

If you need to stomp your foot, raise your voice, add a thousand exclamation marks or anything else that helps, do it! This is not a time to act small in the world.

Here’s my example:

Someone near and dear to me (I’m not going to name and shame them here in public) once said to me, “You’re not pretty like your sister, but at least you have a nice personality.” I totally took that on board and believed I wasn’t attractive, although I did get the consolation prize of a ‘nice personality’.

So now I’ll hold that person in my thoughts, and imagine them saying that to me again. And then I will visualise myself saying to them: Well, I’m sorry but that’s just your opinion. I forgive you and set you free. I AM pretty and I reclaim my prettiness. I’m pretty to me, and that’s all that counts!

If they’d said I couldn’t write well, I’d say Well, I’m sorry but that’s just your opinion. I forgive you and set you free. I CAN write well and I’m going to keep on writing. So there!

This might take a while, so feel free to do one or two people at a time, or to repeat the exercise as you need to. It’s very empowering, and you’ll be amazed at what comes up that you thought you’d forgotten.

Let go of all this old stuff that’s holding you back. It’s time! Reclaim your power.

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PS: If you’d like to review any aspect of this course, or start back at the beginning click here.

Create Positive Change Program – Week 1

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Image from www.jolie.fi

“For things to change, you have to change.” 
~ Jim Rohn, The Art of Exceptional Living

There’s change in the air. We’re finally shifting away from those old energies, those old patterns, and into the beginnings of a new space.

Change is always a little chaotic, and it can be unsettling and uncomfortable. But change also gives us our best shot at growth and at creating lives that are more satisfying and meaningful.

Today, we’re going to welcome the energy of change into our lives. We’re going to invite it in, and then dance with that energy.

Are you ready?

Over the next eight weeks we will work together to embrace this change, and to make it work for us. I’ve designed this program so that as you work with positive change you begin to anchor it into your lives.

Let’s start with our Embracing Change Toolkit.

1) Take out your large journal (or the electronic device of your choice!). On a clean page write the following:

Dear Universe,

All of my life I have wanted to move in this new direction. I have felt it calling me, I have felt it just beyond my reach, although I have not always been able to clearly define that place or what it might mean for me.

I have always known that I was destined for more - being more, loving more, sharing more, having more.

Although I am uncertain, although I still cannot name all the changes I desire, my heart is open to them if they be for my Highest Good.

Today I honour my yearning for change, and I offer it up to you, trusting that I will be guided to discover the next steps, that I will be drawn to inspiration and opportunity, and that I can create a life for myself which is more expansive, more aligned to my purpose, more in flow.

My commitment to you is that for the next 8 weeks (and beyond) I am willing to explore and open to the possibilities of change, and to celebrate the many Blessings I already enjoy.

With love and gratitude,

_____________________________________

(insert your own name here)

This large journal is where we will do all of our musing, exploring and pondering. It’s also where we’ll write our homework answers, and place our inspired thoughts and ideas.

2) Now take your small journal (or electronic device). On a clean page write:

This Blessings Book is the property of 

_____________________________________

(insert your own name here)

Each day, write down three blessings in your life – three simple things that you are grateful for. The Blessing can be anything for which you are thankful.  It can be a big thing or a small thing, it can be from the present or the past, but you must be sincere in having gratitude for this thing in your life. You can do this at any time during the day, but do it every day! Try to come up with new things each day. The more you look, the easier this gets.

Write them like this: Today I am thankful for (the blessing) because (write down a simple reason). eg: Today I am grateful for my dog because he always gives me so much love.

When we count our Blessings we are inviting positive energy into our lives and putting ourselves into a receptive and abundant state of mind.

3) Using your eight little rocks: (PS: Don’t you love these little heart-shaped rocks that were given to me by my beautiful friend Nerida!)

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Select your first rock as an Affirmation Stone. This week you can carry it around with you, or place it somewhere where you can see and hold it every day. Each week the process will be the same, but using a different stone.

Pick your first rock and hold it in your hands. Now think of something in your life that you want to change. Affirm that as a statement of declaration to the Universe.

Here are some examples:

I choose Health.

I choose to have Boundless Energy.

I choose Abundance.

I choose Positive Cash Flow.

I choose to be Loved.

Each day hold that stone in your hands and repeat your declaration, out loud, or in your mind. You can do this just once, or as many times as you like. Say your declaration with enthusiasm and commitment. This simple act of declaration begins to align you with this energy, opening you to more of this thing in your life.

4) Working with your Gratitude Rock:

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The Gratitude Rock anchors positive energy and gratitude at the end of every day.  You can carry your stone with you, or leave it beside your bed.  At night, before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock in your hand.

As you hold the stone say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life.  Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today.  It doesn’t matter if your review your Blessings from your Blessing Book, or add in something new.  Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.

Now here’s the fun bit – imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this Positive Change Program with us – people from all over the world, just like you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.

Say Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Positive Change, Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.

5) Homework

Change works best through action! To complete this Program allow a window of thirty minutes each week to complete your homework, plus five minutes at the beginning or end of every day. That will give you time to work on any activities I set you, to record your three daily Blessings, and to use your Gratitude Rock and Affirmation Stone.

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This week, explore these questions in your journal. Don’t over-think it. Just let the words flow onto the page. Write as little or as much as feels right.

I need change in my life right now because:

One thing I would change about my health is _______ because ______:

One thing I would change about my work is ______ because ______:

One thing I would change about my personal life is ______ because ______:

One thing I would change about my thinking is ______ because ______:

One thing I’m really stuck on is:

One thing I’m really clear on is:

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And don’t forget to drop in and leave us some feedback, here or on our facebook page, to let us know how you’re going with it all.

Sending much love to you, ♥ Nicole xx

PS: If you’d like to review any aspect of this course, or start back at the beginning click here.

Working to Create Positive Change – An 8 Week Program

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Image by Vasantha

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” ~ Jim Rohn

We’re living in exciting times – times that are opening us up to great new possibilities and future directions. But how can we make the best of these energies of change that are upon us?

Over the next eight weeks each Monday (that’s Sunday for you folk on the other side of the world to Australia!) I’ll be giving you some simple suggestions, activities, journal exercises and meditations to help you to work with these energies and create positive change in your own lives.

Are you ready to embrace change? Or even just the idea of things being better than they are now?

Do you already have a burning desire to create a new future for yourself?

Want to join me?  If you’re up for it, leave me a comment below. Feel free to invite your friends too. WE are the change we want to see in the world. It always starts with us, right here, in small ways that ripple out from our own lives. The more we create a positive intention and vibration, the more it affects everyone and everything around us in magical ways – and that’s the definition of a Lightworker!

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To get your Embracing Change Toolkit ready make sure you find the following before we begin next week:

  • A large journal or notebook (you can also use your computer or ipad if that works for you)
  • A small journal or notebook (ditto the computer or ipad for this one too)
  • Some pens (feel free to have some different colours to choose from!)
  • 8 little stones or crystals (any type is fine – just go with what you’re drawn to or what is to hand)
  • A Gratitude Rock. This is a stone that will fit comfortably into your hand.  It can be a crystal or an ordinary garden variety rock. Choose what feels good to you. (If you took part in my 30 Day Gratitude Challenge last year, feel free to use that stone, which will already have lots of good energy invested in it!)
  • A window of thirty minutes each week to complete your homework, plus five minutes at the beginning or end of every day.
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Image from kootation

One last thing…

Think of your future, right now. Go on! What’s your innermost desire?

Name it. Then make a wish. I dare you!

The Universe specialises in delivering the kind of magic ordered up by your heart.

And if you’re so stuck that you don’t have a clue what your innermost desire is, then just wish for clarity. Easy. :)

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Image from favim

See you next week.

I’m excited. Hope you are too.

Lots of love, Nicole xx

Here are the links to each week’s activities:

Week 1

Week 2

Week 3

Week 4

Week 5

Week 6

Week 7

Week 8

Making My Life Work for Me – Week 6

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.” ~ Harriet Tubman

Welcome to the final week of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’ve only just joined us, you might like to pop back and read the very first post so you can gather the materials we’ll be using today and catch up on all our prior activities.)

Our focus this week is on putting it all together – now that we’ve been journalling and collaging and visualising, it’s time to get a plan! Change and progress come from action.

Instructions:

We have followed the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

This week’s meditation exercise is a simple walking meditation.

To start hold your crystal or place it in your pocket, draping your scarf or shawl around you. Then step outside and go for a walk.  It doesn’t matter where you walk, although walks in nature are wonderful.  What is important is the sense of movement, and being able to empty your mind and simply enjoy observing your surroundings.

Remember this technique:

Breathe, and look around me. Breathe and put one foot in front of the other. Breathe and be aware of my body and my surroundings. Breathing and walking and being aware.

Set aside ten minutes for this, although you can take longer if you have the time or are enjoying yourself.

If it is not possible for you to walk, then close your eyes and take a walk in your imagination.  It will have the same effect.

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Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  See yourself in a space of calm, filled with certainty and enthusiasm.  See yourself as healthy.  See yourself as happy. See yourself having the life you desire, in as much detail as possible.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

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Using Your Journal:

Go back to the front of your journal and read your Pledge out loud one more time.

Then turn to the next blank pages, and write the following Positioning Statement, and sign it. When it’s written, repeat it out loud, with as much sincerity as you can muster. That way the Universe is put on notice of your intentions:

Dear Universe,

I am grateful for the clarity, direction and inspiration I have received so far.

I am ready to begin creating a life for myself that is satisfying and richly meaningful - a life that reflects my values, and that best uses my talents and gifts.

I am ready to embrace positive change and to accept an avalanche of good in my life. 

My commitment to you is that I will create a plan, and take consistent small steps in the direction of my dreams.

I am open to Divine Inspiration, Higher Guidance, Magic and Miracles.  I am open to Breakthroughs, New Opportunities and Helpful People.

I am excited about co-creating a brighter future for myself and the ones I love.

With love and gratitude,

 

_____________________________________

(insert your own name here)

 

Get creative! Use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your Positioning Statement and your journal visually attractive.

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s start our week by selecting some reflective spiritual Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

The final card I’ve chosen for us is all about the magic of thinking big – it encourages us to dream, and reminds us that there are powerful forces in the world which come together to support us as we move in the direction of our dreams.

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This week, give yourself permission to dream of that brighter future.  Actively look for ways to bring more of the energies of positive change into your life.

Week 6 Journal Activity:

This week use your stream of consciousness around the question Where to from here? Stay open to whatever you write down, and don’t censor or judge anything as it pours out onto the page. Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it.

And this week’s creative activity is:

Collage – The Best of Everything  This collage will help you to clarify the essence of what your heart desires.

Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom.  I know that I am worthy and deserving.  From this place of self love and self worth, show me what I most value and enjoy.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to all that your soul desires.

When you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly.

Place the images in your journal, laying them out so that you feel good when you look at them. Allow yourself to be excited!

If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry.

Pulling It All Together:

In the coming days and weeks, go back over your journal.  Take a highlighter, and look for all of the positive, inspiring and directional words and phrases you have included on these pages.

Look for repetitions of images, words and themes.

Look for words and images that strike a powerful emotional chord within you.

Look for the messages from your Soul to your Conscious Mind.

Write down a list of those themes and messages.

Now pick just three.

Choose one, and find a way to begin to bring that energy into your life.

When it has begun to appear, then begin on the second.  When that energy has also appeared in your life, begin on the third.

If it moves you, go back and do this process again.

Change comes from small consistent steps in the direction of our dreams. And small steps often travel us great distances…

Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that clarify, empower and enlighten.

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Thank you so much for taking part in this project. I trust that you can find ways to keep moving yourself in the right direction, so that your life works better and feels better for you!

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

Making My Life Work for Me – Week 5

Taking out the trash - Image from www.dennisflood.com

Taking out the trash – Image from www.dennisflood.com

“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” ~ Daphne Rose Kingma

“There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go.” ~ Jessica Hatchigan

Welcome to Week 5 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’ve only just stumbled upon us, pop back and read the very first post so you can gather the materials we’ll be using today and catch up on prior activities.)

Our focus this week is on empowering ourselves through ‘letting go’ of people, possessions, attitudes and the not-so-great-past; all those things that hold us back, weaken our self-belief and self-esteem. It’s time to have a clean up, and take out the trash!

Instructions:

We follow the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

This week’s meditation exercise is a moving meditation. It is a Qi Gong form called Shower of Light, and this simple exercise combines breathing, movement and awareness.  It allows you to consciously ‘scoop up’ energy and push it through your body. It will balance and energise your chakras, and help clear your energy field. It’s one of my favourite things to do.

To start, sit or stand and hold your crystal, draping your scarf or shawl around your shoulders. Close your eyes and offer up the prayer or intention that you release trapped energy and emotions within you, that you ground strongly into the earth, and that you re-energise and nourish your body with Universal Energy.

When you’re ready, put down the crystal and scarf, and perform this gentle series of movements.  You can follow along with the video, or observe and then perform the exercise barefoot outside in the garden or on a balcony facing nature.

Set aside ten minutes for this.

 

Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  See yourself filled with clarity and purpose, enjoying healthy relationships where you are loved, valued and respected. See yourself expressing yourself in the world in ways that are authentic and aligned to your core values.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

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Using Your Journal:

Go back to the front of your journal and read your Pledge out loud.

You’ve committed to making a better life for yourself.  A better life means respecting yourself, clearing out the clutter, letting go of the relationships and situations that no longer work for you, and freeing up your energy to channel towards new opportunities. Value yourself! Forgive the past and move on. Value your time, your ideas and your surroundings. Be open to letting go in all its forms as you work with your journal this week.

Feel free to use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your journal visually attractive.

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s start our week by selecting some reflective spiritual Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

I’m not surprised at the message of this week’s card.  We hold on tight to things sometimes, and that holding on so tightly stops our sense of flow. Lack, fear and doubt, poverty consciousness and anxiety can fill our cupboards and our minds to bursting with things we no longer need – broken things, old things, things that don’t suit us anymore…

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Use some of your energy this week to play this simple game. It’s called ‘Just One Thing’. Open a draw or a cupboard or a file. Choose just one thing to throw out, give away, or even to sell. During the week, do this at random in different areas of your home and workplace. If it feels right, choose more than one thing each time. Allow yourself to be lighter and clearer – ready for new opportunities, relationships, ideas and energy to flow your way.

Week 5 Journal Activity:

This week use your stream of consciousness around the question Who or what do I give my power away to? Allow your mind to travel far back into the past, as well as sitting in awareness about your life now, and any fears or concerns you have that are draining the energy out of your future. Who has eroded your confidence? Who needs forgiving, including yourself? What stories do you tell yourself that limit you?  Who saps your confidence and makes you feel small?  Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it.

And this week’s creative activity is:

Collage – What I need to let go  This collage will help you to understand what you’re ready to release, including any behaviours, foods or other things that sabotage your health, energy, happiness and success.

Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom to help me understand what I need to let go of in my life.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to all that your soul is ready to release.

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When you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly.  You can also use photographs, if that helps.

Draw or create an image that represents you, in the middle of your page.  Now make some lines of various distances, radiating out from you. Use your own words and wisdoms, as well as your collected images, to anchor your images of what you are ready to release at the end of each line.  You’re already creating distance between you and these things by stretching them away from you with these lines.

If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry.

Come back to this later, and look carefully at what you have created.  Then in your imagination, take a big pair of silver scissors and snip each line. As you snip, say to yourself I forgive you, I thank you, and I release you. Let any emotions come to the surface, honour them, and let them drift away too.  You might like to go for a cleansing walk when you’re done!

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Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that clarify, empower and enlighten. Wishing you a wonderful week.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

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If you’d like to explore this topic further, these posts may be helpful:

Burning the Past – a Ritual for Cleansing Pain

How to Deal with Toxic People

Get yourself an ugly journal…

Making My Life Work for Me – Week 4

“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.”~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”
~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Welcome to Week 4 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’re just joining us now, pop back and read the very first post so that you can gather the materials we’ll be using today and catch up with our prior activities.)

Our focus this week is on knowledge – and the acts of learning, sharing and valuing our own knowledge and skills.

Life is a learning journey, and we come here to teach as much as we come here to gain knowledge.  One of the ways to make our life work better for us is to identify areas where we’d like to learn more, and to acknowledge the things we already know and can do with a level of mastery.  I’m not just talking school learning – one of my best friends, a woman with very little formal education, has just begun teaching sewing lessons, and it has turned into a thriving business for her.

Instructions:

We follow the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

We’re going to start with a meditation to help you connect into and draw more love into your life.  Hold your crystal and drape your scarf or shawl around your shoulders.  Set aside ten minutes for this. When you’re ready click the link below and simply follow the sound of my voice:

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for connecting to our own Wisdom and Path

 

Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  Feel yourself using your talents and gifts in ways that give you joy and meaning. See yourself in the flow of abundance that is ours as we step into a life that works for us.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

Using Your Journal:

Go back to the front of your journal and read your Pledge out loud.

You’ve committed to making a better life for yourself.  A better life means valuing your time and your skills, investing in yourself, and setting clear boundaries.  Be open to knowledge in all its forms as you work with your journal this week.

Feel free to use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your journal visually attractive. Be mindful of words and what they mean to you this week.  Look for words that make you feel clear, focused and powerful.,

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s start our week by selecting some reflective spiritual Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

This week’s card, chosen by me, bears an important message. We often think of boundaries as limitations, but boundaries can have many positive advantages in our lives, if we use them to protect what is precious to us.

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Take some time to reflect on the boundaries in your life.  Do you expect respect, or do you let people take advantage of you? Do you make room for your own interests and dreams, or does everyone else come first?

Week 4 Journal Activity:

On a new page write a stream of consciousness around the question What knowledge and skills can I share with the world?  Think outside the square.  What are you good at?  What do you enjoy doing? Where have you developed skill and expertise? What do you enjoy doing, or teaching others? Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it. Think right back to when you were young, and then follow the path of your life to the present, and beyond that into the future.

And this week’s creative activity is:

Collage – The Essence of ME and All that I’m Becoming  Today’s collage will help you to understand what your soul loves to do and share, and the learning paths you might follow into the future, to further enrich your life.

Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom to help me understand my own wisdom and my future possibilities.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to all that your soul knows now and desires still to learn.

Then when you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly, and then spend some time arranging them on a page or double page of your journal. Let the images and words inspire and inform you. If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry.

What did you notice as themes from this exercise? What new possibilities can you see for yourself?

Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that clarify, empower and enlighten. Wishing you a wonderful week.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

Making My Life Work for Me – Week 2

Image from flickr

Image from flickr

“Never tell a young person that anything cannot be done. God may have been waiting centuries for someone ignorant enough of the impossible to do that very thing.” ~ G. M. Trevelyan

“Maybe we should develop a Crayola bomb as our next secret weapon.  A happiness weapon.  A beauty bomb.  And every time a crisis developed, we would launch one.  It would explode high in the air – explode softly – and send thousands, millions, of little parachutes into the air.  Floating down to earth – boxes of Crayolas.  And we wouldn’t go cheap, either – not little boxes of eight.  Boxes of sixty-four, with the sharpener built right in.  With silver and gold and copper, magenta and peach and lime, amber and umber and all the rest.  And people would smile and get a little funny look on their faces and cover the world with imagination.”  ~ Robert Fulghum

Welcome to Week 2 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’re just joining us now, pop back and read the very first post so that you can gather the materials we’ll be using today.) This week our focus is on being open to new ideas, new solutions and things that have been lurking in our subconscious that we have been too stressed, tired, wired or defeated to pay any real attention to.  There’s good stuff in that head of yours.  There’s treasure for sure!

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Instructions:

We will be following the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

We’re going to start with a meditation. But today it’s an active meditation. Find a song or piece of music you love and queue it ready to play.  Hold your crystal and drape your scarf or shawl around your shoulders.  Start your song and then close your eyes.  Lose yourself to the music.  Let the music get right inside you. When the song finishes sit for a minute, absorbing the energy, and be open to what comes next. The music will deliver a message to you.  Be open to it, and write it down in your journal. It could be lyrics, an image, an idea.  Trust whatever comes to you. This week, in quiet moments, expand on what this message means to you, and how you can begin to incorporate this energy in your life.

Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  Feel the emotions that come with this, and have gratitude and expectation of drawing these things into your life.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

Using Your Journal:

Go back and re-read your Pledge.  Think about your commitment to making this new life for yourself: one that fits you much better, one that gives you far better satisfaction and scope for joy. Hold this energy of possibility in your heart as you work with your journal this week.

Feel free to use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your journal visually attractive.  Get involved in the creation process and let your Inner Child rock your world, in the very best of ways!

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s get the ball rolling by selecting this week’s Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

The card I’ve chosen this week is well aligned with our theme.

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Trust that there is a wise and creative part of you that wants to help you redesign your life.  All the answers are within you – now we simply need to learn how to tune in and find them!

Week 2 Journal Activity:

On a clean page write a stream of consciousness around the question What can I do?  This is a big question, once you get started, so don’t limit yourself.  You may even want to come back to it over several days. Write as little or as much as you need to. Simply ask yourself the question and then answer it, letting the words pour out of you. If you feel blocked get up and go for a walk.  Play your song again, and then write! Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it. If you cry or have some other emotional release understand that this is a good thing.

And now for some fun…

Collage – Things that inspire me.  Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom to show me the things inspire me, and show me beneficial direction in my life.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to that wisdom.

Then when you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly, and then spend some time arranging them on a page or double page of your journal.  If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry.  Now you have a strong visual reminder of your inspirations, how can you incorporate more of these energies in your daily life?

Were there any surprises?  Did you notice any particular themes?

Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that inspire, heal and inform. Wishing you a wonderful week.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

Making My Life Work for Me! – A 6 Week Journal Program

Image by vgm8383

Image by vgm8383

“I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It’s all a question of how I view my life.” ~ Paulo Coelho

I’ve been quite overwhelmed with the flood of messages and emails since yesterday’s post on Remembering to take care of YOU!  Seems that many of you are feeling unfulfilled, overwhelmed, under-appreciated, stuck in a life where you’re just going through the motions or too busy looking after everyone else to even start on the things that are dear to your hearts.

Well my lovelies, that just isn’t good enough!  You are here to shine your light in the world! You have talents and desires that deserve airplay in your lives!

Perhaps you may remember me talking about the energies of 2013 -

’2013 is a foundation year of growth and positive change, where we are reflecting these energies out from ourselves as we inhabit a place of stronger authenticity, awareness and connection. This year, as we sit in our personal power, we will feel a desire to contribute, to explore, to dream up new ways of being, and to action those dreams in the world.  It is a time for visionaries, leaders and the building of lasting change.’

Because I want you to make the most of this fantastic energy for change I’ve decided to create a simple weekly course, delivered right here each Monday over the following 6 weeks, to help you get clear about what’s important to you and how to make your life more meaningful and satisfying.

The foundation of this course is going to be:

  • Journalling
  • Gratitude
  • Meditation, and
  • Visualisation

and I’ll be holding your hand every step of the way.

'Nothing's gonna harm you' by Pulmoll

‘Nothing’s gonna harm you’ by Pulmoll

So to get ready for next Monday I need you to do a few things;

  1. Find or buy yourself a journal.  Choose one without lines because we need to be able to write, draw and glue stuff.  Let it be big enough that you can actually fit some stuff on the pages.  It doesn’t need to be expensive – even a kid’s cheap scrapbook or scribble book would do.
  2. Get some art materials together.  Nothing fancy – just some scissors, glue, coloured crayons or felt pens, and some old magazines you can cut up. You’ll also need some pens or pencils for writing with.
  3. Find a scarf, shawl or wrap in a favourite colour that empowers you.
  4. Choose a deck of positive cards (such as Angel Cards etc) or runes and a rune book.
  5. Select a crystal of your choice.

It’s going to be fun. It’s going to be enlightening. And it’s going to propel you into action.  Hooray for that! Bless ♥ xx

Image from ReLove Planet

Image from ReLove Planet

And here’s the full program, all in one place for you.  I’ll add the links each week as the new activities get posted: