Attracting Love – Part 2 *Soul Mates and Life Partners

There is something wonderful about sharing life’s journey with someone you love.  I can say that from experience, having happily celebrated my twelfth wedding anniversary yesterday. A life partner, a soul mate, a companion, lover, friend – for many of us it is one of life’s greatest gifts and pleasures.

But what do you do when you haven’t found them yet?  When you are lonely and looking and wondering if there’s anyone out there who can truly  love you for who you are, and whom you can love deeply in return…

The following formula has worked for me, and many of my friends and clients.  I trust that it can also work for you.  So read on!

Knowing what you want

The Universe works like a giant restaurant.  It will only deliver you what you order.  If you keep changing your mind, it makes it hard for those hard-working kitchen angels to create the right ‘dish’ and deliver it speedily to you.  Mixed messages are confusing for everyone, and will ultimately frustrate you in your attempts to find true love.

Most people spend more time choosing a car than they do choosing a life partner.  How often do people fall into a relationship and then try and make it over into the one they want?  We throw so much time and energy and money into trying to make square pegs fit into round holes.  Often years of our lives are spent fighting battles we were never meant to win.  Sound familiar?

Discernment is the key to successful relationships, and discernment must ALWAYS start with awareness.  Are you aware of what you want in a relationship?  For many people, their clearest opinions and decisions start out being based around what they DON’T want.  This is as good a place to start as any, as long as you are able to then turn each negative into a positive.  “I don’t want a partner who will cheat on me” becomes, “I deserve a partner who will be faithful and loyal to our relationship.”  Look to the good and unsuccessful relationships around you to guide you in making your love choices.

Journalling:  Take time to really think about the sort of partner and the type of relationship you are looking for.  As you become clearer about what you want, begin by writing the qualities and characteristics of this relationship down.  Create a “Love Shopping List”, and add to it as your awareness increases.  Take your time with this.  Do you rush into buying a house, or choosing an expensive once-in-a-lifetime holiday?  Make your list comfortable, accurate and reflective of your innermost desires.

If you meet someone who clearly does not fit what you ordered, then wait!  Maybe the Universal Chef is still cooking your meal.  (And of course they may wonderfully surpass all of your expectations!)


I have used this method myself, and so have many of my friends and clients.  This activity involves letting the Universe know exactly what you are wanting in a love relationship so that it can deliver this to you.  In every single case that I am aware of it has been successful!  I also know of people who have refreshed and revived existing relationships using the same technique.

When you have compiled your list of characteristics and qualities for your desired partner (from the journalling activity before this one), review them until you are satisfied with your choices.

Take a clean white sheet of paper and then write the following:

“I, (Insert your name), now chose the following in my life partner:”

Now write down your list.  Finish the work by writing, “I now accept this or better in my life”.  Sign the work and set it to one side.

Take a second piece of paper.  On this piece write down all of the qualities and characteristics within YOU that you can offer a loving partner.  Be honest and humble.  Sign it with, “I offer this and better to my life partner”.  This part is important because the Universe is governed by laws of energetic exchange – you don’t get anything for nothing!

Now fold both pieces of paper and seal them in an envelope.  In your mind’s eye, imagine these pieces of paper and surround them with a pink bubble of Light.  Send them to Spirit, and whenever you think to in the future, send more pink Light to them.

Put the envelope somewhere safe, and place your expectations to one side.  Be open to what comes to you.  Spirit always surprises us with more good than we could ever imagine for ourselves.


This five minute meditation will help you to consciously connect into the energy of your Soul Mate.  It works on opening your heart chakra, allowing you to radiate love into the world.

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for Attracting your Soul Mate

This is lovely, and describes this process perfectly.  It will also help YOU get into that wonderful ‘attracting’ vibration of joy and anticipation…

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Hi! I'm Nicole Cody. I am a writer, psychic, metaphysical teacher and organic farmer. I love to read, cook, walk on the beach, dance in the rain and grow things. Sometimes, to entertain my cows, I dance in my gumboots. Gumboot dancing is very under-rated.
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32 thoughts on “Attracting Love – Part 2 *Soul Mates and Life Partners

  1. wow! What a wonderful post. I have only just started the process, but I already feel the bond between my soul mate and I growing. Thank you so much for the meditation and journal work. They are both wonderful tools!

  2. Thank you for a beautiful article, and a wonderful meditation. My first thought was oh dear, I am not a “good gardener” but I opened through that and I loved the meditation!

  3. After a busy long day..although I did read your blog this morning quickly whilst having my green smoothie..I have now just finished the exercises and meditations…I feel so blissed out..and a knowing that my soul partner is also just waiting patiently for us to meet. I look forward to the day when I can share this with you…big smile on dial! XX

  4. Hello,
    Happy Anniversary.
    Yes, I totally agree, one’s mate truly does exist. Worth waiting for and when they are finally with you, appreciate them and tell them how they compliment your life’s journey with love and happiness. Mxx

    1. You don’t have to do it properly, Sal, you just have to have that childlike intention of doing it. That wonderful, magical believing kind of trust that kids have. I KNOW someone wonderful and beautiful is out there for you, and coming closer every time you trust and believe just the tiniest bit. xx

  5. I’m doing it now, beautiful music on in the back ground to remind me what’s most important. What a lovely idea for this morning xxxx

  6. Another beautiful blog Nicole! Admittedly, I bawled my eyes out upon reading it – do you think there might be something in those words for me! *blush* Hehehehehe… Definitely resonate with it all, and can see how confusion, among other things, has contributed to the lengthy delays. Here’s to miracle unfolding in delightful and delicious ways – I’m open to be dazzled by the splendour of life! Yippee!

  7. Dear Nicole,
    I am going to send this to my beautiful baby sister who has been fairly unlucky in love. She is one of the most beautiful intelligent women of this world but I think her vibration needs some improving. I hope she takes some notice about articulating what she wants in a man and what she would like in a partnership….So glad to here you are happy in love. I too am very happy in love and we will celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary this year and I would love for my sister to find her soul mate too.

  8. Definitely going to do it over the weekend and meditate / tune into the desired specifics for my future partner … I do get surrender and allow is for me though because after 18 years of marriage / 2 gorgeous kids to having spent the past 3.5 years wondering how/ why/ what / when with a future partner AND realising that self love and finding that inner flow within are the beginning of attracting my soul partner — but the above advice brings into focus precisely what I’d love and with my new platform of more self love I feel it’s around the corner for me …..ahhh relax and enjoy the anticipation !!!!

  9. WONDERFUL Nicole- yes i made the list back 24 years ago- left a couple of things of and have spent the past 23 years + in a loving, nurturing, growing, supportive relationship- i met my soulmate. There have been highs and lows and for me the past 7 months have increased in my love for Des- he has been such an amazing carer for me on my healing journey and through this our love has got stronger.

    1. To me that’s what true love is all about, being there for each other through the good times and the bad. It’s the challenges that grow us and strengthen our love. Thanks for being such an active part of my blog, Suzie. You’re a treasure! xx

    2. MY pleasure- amazing how the heart chakra emerged for me as you were doing this series. My painting that followed my meditation today is for me quite revealing and then at the beach I found a piece of coral that depicted what i had seen in my meditation. My self-love journey I now feel has reached another level xx

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