If only we could pull out our brain and use only our eyes.
~ Pablo Picasso
When I was younger, and just becoming interested in love relationships, my Nana gave me an odd piece of advice. She told me I needed to learn to listen with my eyes.
Of course I had no idea what she was talking about.
But as I get older I am more and more grateful for her wisdom. It holds true for love, friendship, business… It has helped me get my head straight about things more than once in this lifetime.
Don’t be seduced by your ears, she told me. People can tell you anything, and make it sound good. People can tell you anything, and you might believe it… But it might only be words.
Learn to listen with your eyes.
That boy who tells you how great he is, and how successful – how does he speak to his mother? How does he treat his sister?
Do you see him studying hard, and bettering himself?
How does he speak to the waitress in the coffee shop? Is he patient with old people? Kind to animals?
Does he turn up when he says he will, call you like he promised, pay his fair share?
Don’t listen to what he tells you, let your eyes hear his truth.
Conversely, there will be people you meet who don’t talk themselves up at all. There might not be much to hear with your ears, but when you listen with your eyes you’ll learn plenty.
When our feelings, hopes, desires, fears, needs and expectations get in the way they colour everything we hear.
Listening with our eyes helps us to see things as they are – and from that place of knowing we are far better placed to make wise and informed decisions that serve us well.
Evaluating people by their actions, rather than their self-promotion, is a powerful tool in your relationship toolkit. It’s also a great wisdom to live by in your own life – let your actions speak louder than your words and live life with integrity, in a way that showcases your values. That sort of authenticity attracts people and opportunities far better suited to your Highest Good.
Lesson learned the hard way. Great advice I wish I knew then. XXX
i’m so envious! how i wish i had someone telling me that when i was younger. could have saved me from so much trouble! but hey, better late than never…. right?!
today I am drifting further than usual in thoughts…
and I let go to just wander and know I would find the voice that I needed to hear…
your words have been that voice…in the silence of written words we can hear them more clearly I think…we can “see” them and feel the magick that was entwined through them…
my life is a mess..my doing…but still a mess…
do you ever feel like you are fighting your way out of a plastic bag, with no air and it is molding into you? thats how I feel today…Your Nana’s words are so true….but when you do this
it takes your breath away and you wonder if it will come back…
Thank you…your posts I have landed on will start me breathing or at least I hope so….
Take Care…You Matter…
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Blessed Be
maryrose
Thanks Nicoles Nana!! Very wise and true.. I will be sure to pass the wisdom on too my three children.. xx
That would be a great thing to do, Brooke! Isn’t my Nana the best! ❤ xx
So wise!! Lucky to have such a beautiful and wise nana <3
We learned that in psychotherapy training as well!
Great post!
Good advice and so timely. Much love and many blessing to you.
{{{HUGS}}} Thank you Patricia xx
You are most welcome. Keep posting those intriguing articles.
Great advice!! :0)
Thank you! xx
love Nana’s advice
Me too. And I really love my Nana! Thanks for stopping by my blog. Bless ♥ xx
Great post! Excellent advice!
Such wise advice your nana gave you. And what a beautiful lady! You are both lucky to have had each other so long in your lives.
I don’t know why I didn’t see that post before!!
I LOVE it so much Nicole. I always tell my children that. When they have new friends and they feel really excited about this new friendship, I always tell them to observe how these new friends are treating others, because however nice they are now, they will one day treat them the way they are now treating others.
On another hand, when someone asks me how I chose my friends, I tell them I look at them through their eyes, and only listen to what they tell others not what they tell me.
What beautiful advice for your children! If only more parents could share that wisdom…
Much love to you xoxo
Good advice all around. Great post–thanks for getting me thinking!
You can thank my Nana for this one! ♥
Love your Nana. AND OH SO TRUE! I love the part about treating people well even if they are ONLY a coffee waitress (been there). Be an observer. It is a great tool!
I love my Nana too! And if you can’t treat a coffee shop waitress well, chances are there are going to be lots of other people you treat badly…
Your Nana is definitely a “wise elder”. And this post is wonderful. The eyes are definitely the gateway to the soul, and so what your Nana said so many years ago, is true Wisdom in simple words. Subtle and very profound. Thanks for sharing this
with love light and JOY
Thank goodness for wise old elders! It has been so very helpful for me to have people who’ve walked the path ahead of me give me advice about what they’ve encountered and how they dealt with it or learned from it.
Thanks for stopping by, Jane. Always lovely to have you here xx
This is great!
Thank you! 🙂
great post!
Thank my Nana! ♥
Such good advice. I wish more people learnt to listen better.
True, but at least if we listen better it’s a positive start. 🙂
The first step is awareness, yes.
I love your (and your grandmother’s) call to observe deeply and attentively and see beyond appearances. lovely!!
I’m blessed to have had wonderful grandparents to help guide me through life. ♥
What an awesome reminder. xxx
Thank you ♥♥♥
Very true! People get so distracted too nowadays with iPhones and all kinds of gadgets. Their eyes are always elsewhere. I think that we forget that listening with our eyes is also being a better and focused listener!
Eyes are much harder to deceive than ears, that’s for sure. And you’re right, to be aware we need to give things our full attention, which seems to be harder and harder for many people to do.
Nana is a wise woman!
She sure is, and one of my favourite people on the planet!
Amen, amen and amen again……True Words!
{{{HUGS}}} Thanks for stopping by xx