If only we could pull out our brain and use only our eyes.
~ Pablo Picasso
When I was younger, and just becoming interested in love relationships, my Nana gave me an odd piece of advice. She told me I needed to learn to listen with my eyes.
Of course I had no idea what she was talking about.
But as I get older I am more and more grateful for her wisdom. It holds true for love, friendship, business… It has helped me get my head straight about things more than once in this lifetime.
Don’t be seduced by your ears, she told me. People can tell you anything, and make it sound good. People can tell you anything, and you might believe it… But it might only be words.
Learn to listen with your eyes.
That boy who tells you how great he is, and how successful – how does he speak to his mother? How does he treat his sister?
Do you see him studying hard, and bettering himself?
How does he speak to the waitress in the coffee shop? Is he patient with old people? Kind to animals?
Does he turn up when he says he will, call you like he promised, pay his fair share?
Don’t listen to what he tells you, let your eyes hear his truth.
Conversely, there will be people you meet who don’t talk themselves up at all. There might not be much to hear with your ears, but when you listen with your eyes you’ll learn plenty.
When our feelings, hopes, desires, fears, needs and expectations get in the way they colour everything we hear.
Listening with our eyes helps us to see things as they are – and from that place of knowing we are far better placed to make wise and informed decisions that serve us well.
Evaluating people by their actions, rather than their self-promotion, is a powerful tool in your relationship toolkit. It’s also a great wisdom to live by in your own life – let your actions speak louder than your words and live life with integrity, in a way that showcases your values. That sort of authenticity attracts people and opportunities far better suited to your Highest Good.