Telling yourself a better story

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I really haven’t had that exciting of a life. There are a lot of things I wish I would have done, instead of just sitting around and complaining about having a boring life. So I pretty much like to make it up. I’d rather tell a story about somebody else.
Kurt Cobain

We all tell ourselves a story.  We often tell that story to others too. Our story is the way we see ourselves in the world, our view of what’s happened to us in the past, and who we are because of it.

Sometimes our story is sad, sometimes, it’s funny, sometimes it’s downright terrible.  And we trot that story out time after time; for ourselves, our families, our friends…

But what if that story doesn’t serve you? What if that story compounds low self-esteem, or failure, or loneliness? What if that story is a constant reminder to us of a painful time in our lives?

The Law of Attraction states that whatever we think about most and talk about most is what we draw to us.  That or things of a similar vibration.

You need to ask yourself if you want to keep living that story.

Because maybe it’s time to write a new one…

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Journal Exercise:

Today, write yourself a new story.  Make it up, like any good writer would, but let it have a few bones that are real.

Tell yourself a story that is empowering and positive.

Look for examples from your life that illustrate a different truth for you – of times when things have worked out, when people have been kind or helpful, when you’ve known success, when miracles have happened.

Or, if you are feeling brave, or creative, just write a new and entirely ficticious account of your past, present or future.

What is the life you would like to live? Write about that AS IF IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING!!!

Here are a few prompts to get you started.  Choose whatever most appeals and then start writing:

  • My life is unfolding in the most exciting of ways…
  • The place I’m living now is so well suited to me.  It is…
  • You’ll never guess how it happened.  It all worked out perfectly in the end. One day…
  • So we’ve been together for…
  • And one day a letter came in the mail and it said…
  • The doctors couldn’t believe it…
  • My life is so blessed because…
  • It’s my dream life.  I have to pinch myself to remind me that it’s real. Now my world looks like…
  • I answered the phone and you’ll never believe who was on the other end…
  • OMG! This is exactly what happened, and it’s FABULOUS…
  • It feels so good to be able to…
  • My career is going from strength to strength.  Already I have…
  • I’ve planned the most amazing holiday.  It starts with…
  • Such wonderful relationships in my life.  Let me tell you a bit about them…
  • Now there’s no more money worries because…
  • My proudest moment is…
  • I finally achieved…

Words really do have a magical power in your life.  So choose them wisely – when you write them, speak them, think them… Expect magic and know that you are worthy and deserving of good in your life. NOW is your time to invite the future to look different to the past.  Believe! ♥

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25 thoughts on “Telling yourself a better story

  1. AMAZING! That was exactly the discussion I had two days ago!! I started to think and visualize myself with my children leaving on a plane, feeling happy, getting away and arriving to our new home, in a new country.

  2. I LOVE this post!! I truly believe that we create our own realities. I love this idea and I am definitely going to do this writing exercise. I think my son will also benefit from doing this, it’s really a great idea for kids as well as adults. Thank you for another inspiring post! <3 you!!

  3. This can be such an entertaining exercise. I know of someone who did it by photocopying his bank statements and adding zeros to the columns to make himself look like a millionaire, when he was actually in debt. And guess what – he’s now a millionaire! I’ve told people about this and they think it’s a bit mad, but the fact is it works and can change your life. It was great to read your post Nicole, I’m going to do this today, and enjoy it! I really hope you’ve had a bit of rest since rescuing the lady in the street and that you’re feeling more refreshed. I’m sending you good vibes and hugs, and if I were nearer I’d be making you a nice cup of tea and a wee scone.xo

    • Thanks Lorna! I’ve had a lovely rest day today – writing, cups of tea, and naps while the rain came down. I love the idea of the photocopied bank statements with extra zeroes. Will have to try that! Much love to you xoxo

      • I’m delighted to hear it, that was just what the doctor ordered! I tried a variation on the bank statement thing, creating ficticious accounts with a ridiculously large monthly income coming in every month and it really made me laugh. It hasn’t come true yet but you never know…xoxo

  4. Sooo timely!! I started this tonight before reading your blog. Love the synchronicity… To me it was a sign to get my affirmations on! Thanks a bunch Nicole!
    Xx

  5. I am definitely guilty of sometimes locking myself into a negative narrative. Your post reminds me that it is never to late to rewrite the story. Great post, Nicole. Thank you!

  6. So true!!! I have had this coming up for me a lot especially lately, It’s like I am observing myself as I’m saying these out dated stories particularly about money, relationships . and starting my own business.. it does feel hard though when your everyday is slowly improving but nothing to substantial.,
    It’s like having a war of affirmations..
    I can’t wait to do this activity.., thankyou❤

    • It’s a positive step that you are noticing your old stories and how they no longer serve you! Keep telling yourself better ones, aligned with who you want to be and where you want to go. Much love to you xoxo

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