“In writing, you must kill your darlings.” ~ William Faulkner
This week, starting on August 9, holds a strong and supportive energy for killing things off! No, I don’t mean actually murdering anyone. Instead, we are being supported to step away from things that don’t work for us, especially those seductive ‘safe’ things, the ‘chasing the money but no heart in it’ things, or the things we do to please others.
In writing there is a wonderful expression known as killing your darlings. Killing your darlings is all about letting go of a character, a scene, a concept that might have been the thing that started the whole novel, but that no longer has a place now our story is done. When we kill the darling and remove them from the story our work becomes stronger, clearer and more vital. But it’s hard to do, because we are emotionally attached to our darlings. Often we had such high hopes for them.
Most of us have a few darlings hanging around. Not characters, but ideas, relationships, beliefs, behaviours and items that we cling to even as they pull us down, or under. The things that drain our energy without ever giving anything back. The things we worry that in giving up, we might lose ourselves. Truth is, the only self we will lose is the imaginary self we are attached to, that prevents us from being real, and living here and now.
You know it. The investment or decision we can’t let go of that just keeps costing us money. The guitar under our bed which we will never play, although we love the fantasy that one day we might. The pottery wheel, covered in cobwebs in the back shed.
The project we’re helping someone else with that stops us working on our own. Even though we so love the other person and they are so very grateful. The job we do for all that money, that we hate with every fibre of our being.
The too-tight, too-old or too-low-self-worth clothes we shrug into, telling ourselves we still look okay. The familiar and comforting voice in our head that tells us, one day when all these other things are done we will start. But we have to get the (insert appropriate darling here) finished/built/established first.
And then there are the darlings we tell ourselves we love, and all the while our inner five-year-old is stomping their foot and saying No, Don’t wanna! We should listen to that wise, brave clear inner child more often. They know… Give that thing the boot too!
When we kill off our darlings we are left with space, integrity and a clearer, truer direction can begin to emerge. It’s a kind of de-cluttering of our souls.
Weekly Structure Reminder
Each week of this nine week challenge will follow the same format:
- We will begin with the short guided meditation for the week, using your guidance stone. During this meditation you’ll be given a colour to work with for the week, and a word or phrase.
- We will choose an oracle card to give us inspiration and direction for the week ahead
- We will spend ten minutes (or more if desired!) to complete our weekly journal prompt.
- We will spend a few moments at the end of our day in gratitude.
1. Guided Meditation
Take your guidance stone and sit or lie quietly. Then simply follow the sound of my voice. You’ll need seven minutes.
When the meditation is complete, write down your power colour and your power word or phrase in your journal.
- How can you use your Power Word this week? Write a few ideas, based on your word. Trust whatever comes and write it down. Don’t overthink it.
- What does your Colour mean to you? What words or ideas does it provoke? Write them down. This week, use this colour to boost your energy. Shut your eyes for thirty seconds and breathe it into your body whenever you feel a bit flat or low. Wear it as clothing. Choose flowers in your colour. Eat food that colour. Be creative with it.
2. Oracle Card
Take your cards, offer up a small prayer that whatever you do be for your Highest Good, and then shuffle the deck. As you’re shuffling, ask the question‘What do I most need to focus on this week?’ Say it out loud or hold it as a thought in your head. Either will work.
Choose one card. How you choose is up to you. Split the deck. Fan them out. Top or bottom. Dive right in. There is no right or wrong.
Now look at your card and hold your guidance stone in your non-writing hand. Really look at the card. Don’t use the book or the ‘proper’ meaning. We are being intuitive here, people! What stands out for you in the picture? What thoughts and ideas do the images provoke? Take a minute or two and write those thoughts down. I know, you might feel like you’re just making it all up. That’s okay. Write anyway. Trust that there is a part of you that is wise and that has been waiting for this chance to speak with your conscious mind.
This week I had a repeat of the same oracle card I chose last week. I sat with it for a while, and then saw how much the messages of the card were still relevant for me, and also how they were evolving. Once again I didn’t see the friendly face in the top right of the card until I was done writing. Oh yes, I thought to myself. Help is always there, but I so often forget to ask! Here’s how the beginning of this week’s journal looks for me:
3. Week Two Journal Prompt
This week we’re going to explore what darlings we need to let go of in our lives. Start your journal writing with this prompt and then let your heart take you where it will.
I love the idea of it, but my life would work so much better if I finally let go of….
Now try this one:
The truth is, I don’t really love…
How much you write is up to you. Do this once, or write a little every day. Whatever works for you. Hold your guidance stone in your non-writing hand or place it on your lap or beside you while you write.Genuinely seek to connect with what matters to you.
You might have big things or little things. Things you know, or that completely blindside you.
You’ll know when you’ve written enough.
I’ll show you my first page. I actually ended up writing heaps and heaps for this one:
What you don’t see is the big lecture I gave myself on page two, about perfectionism, and my total need to kill that darling dead! I know some of you will relate. 🙂
Using the Gratitude Rock:
The Gratitude Rock anchors positive energy and gratitude at the end of every day. You can carry your stone with you, or leave it beside your bed. At night, before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock in your hand.
As you hold the stone say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
Now here’s the fun bit – imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this journalling challenge with you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.
Say Thank you. I Bless You. I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.
Happy exploring through words this week! Let your Power Word and colour guide you. Think on the wisdom you’ve taken from your oracle card. Use it all! And remember to pop over to facebook and let us know how you’re going. I always love to hear from you.
Much love, Nicole ❤ xx