“What we call our destiny is truly our character and that character can be altered. The knowledge that we are responsible for our actions and attitudes does not need to be discouraging, because it also means that we are free to change this destiny. One is not in bondage to the past, which has shaped our feelings, to race, inheritance, background. All this can be altered if we have the courage to examine how it formed us. We can alter the chemistry provided we have the courage to dissect the elements.”
~ Anaïs Nin
My Relationship with Myself
Our relationship with ourselves is the singular most important human relationship in our lives. How well do you know yourself? Like yourself? Trust yourself? Respect yourself?
The more we improve our relationship with ourselves, the better and more honest our other relationships will become. Remember, that all we are doing is getting a position on where we are right now. Where we are can change once we put awareness and insight to our current situation. Let’s explore this further.
Here’s what you need to do.
Take your crystal, and complete this short guided meditation:
Hold your stone in your cupped hands, close your eyes, and slow your breathing. Bring white light into your body until you feel peaceful and calm. Then bring white light into the crystal too. Allow yourself to connect to the stone. You may feel it tingle, or visualise a colour in your mind’s eye. When you are ready, open your eyes. Keep your stone near you, and hold it when you write.
Now shuffle your cards, while silently asking the question to yourself ‘What is my true relationship with myself?’
When you have shuffled the cards and they feel ‘done’, select one card using the method that feels right for you.
Place the card face up in front of you.
Clear your mind by closing your eyes and taking one deep breath in and then out. Open your eyes again. Take a minute and look at the picture.
What stands out for you today? Is it an image or a colour? Is it a number or a word? What are your first impressions? What thoughts come into your mind?
Write these down in your journal.
Now let’s go a little deeper. What feelings or words does this card evoke in your mind when you think about the card and its images in relation to the question ‘What is my true relationship with myself?’ Take five minutes and write some stream-of-consciousness thoughts down. Don’t censor or judge them. Trust the process. Draw a second card for clarification if you need to.
Finally, read back over what you have written.
This may have been a difficult task for you today. If you feel emotional, sit in meditation again at the end of your session and run white light through your body and then bring pink light into your heart.
Know that you can come back and keep working on this question over time. Congratulations! This is a big, brave step.
Lots of love, Nicole xx