“The key is this: Meet today’s problems with today’s strength. Don’t start tackling tomorrow’s problems until tomorrow. You do not have tomorrow’s strength yet. You simply have enough for today.”
~ Max Lucado
Did you read yesterday’s post about the energy of this week? It’s a week of help coming our way, and of hope being restored, but first… first it’s a week that may be quite hard for some. It’s an energy where many of us will feel regret, remorse, guilt, shame, pain or sorrow as we look back on the past and realise that we can’t change it, or that we may need to let go of cherished dreams and plans we’ve long held for our future, leaving us with uncertainty as we look forward in life.
It’s also a week where we can come face-to-face with habits, behaviours and attitudes that are harming us, and where we know we need to change or get help because now we see what we are doing or what we are ignoring and we know we can’t keep living like this.
So, for those of you in that hard place – with shames you are hiding, and fears you are nursing – take the first step and tell someone you trust, or a stranger of good repute whose calling is to help people with the kind of problem that you do.
When we tell someone our truth we shed light on this difficult thing and we crack open the place from where it can begin to transform.
When we hold a secret to our chest it weighs us down more and more with every year. When we hold a secret to our chest and tell no-one of our plans to change it is easy to back out on the promises we made to ourselves. You only need to tell one person, to take one step, to open your circle of one into a circle of two.Two is where change happens, and hope returns. When someone else knows, the problem that has become beyond your ability to fix on your own suddenly has a chance to be healed.
Who can you tell this week? My wise old Nana always used to tell me that a problem shared is a problem halved, and the older I become the more I know it to be true.
Sending so much love your way, Nicole ❤ xx
Thank you so much for this! I was sitting here thinking of so much past hurt and current insecurity, when i found this. It is definately time for a change in perspective and i struggle with that every day.This was a little light at the end of a long tunnel.
I think the problem is often to find someone who “responds with empathy and understanding”. There is a cartoon of Brenee Brown on youtube about the difference between empathy and sympathy. Lovely. And very to the point.
I’ve been writing them in my journal because right now I have noone I can trust to talk to and talking to a professional either face to face(2 hr bus journey one way) or via skype is too hard with a child..
This is lovely – thanks for the reminder to be open.
My mum, I can share everything and anything with my mum
What a blessing to have a mum like that, Joanne! xoxo
Big question for me, who can I tell? I feel very relieved to read this today as I tackle all my guilt, shame and sadness but I now feel reassured that help is coming my way and hope will be restored. Just knowing this gives me comfort and strength to be open and ready to share. Thank you 🙏🏽 as always your presence in my life is truly a gift 💝😘
Kate, you can always tell me. Love you 😘
Thank you Nicole xxx
Hugs and love to you, Suzy xoxo