Sometimes I have a little cry…

“Unless you have been very, very lucky, you have undoubtedly experienced events in your life that have made you cry. So unless you have been very, very lucky, you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit.” 
Lemony Snicket

I love what I do.

It’s an honour and a blessing.

It’s also a great responsibility.

As a psychic, I am often up close with the suffering of others. As an empath I feel their pain, I know their thoughts, and I see life as if through their eyes. Sometimes I see the path ahead for someone and it breaks my heart, knowing what they will go through, knowing what must come for them and being unable to change it or stop it.

Now and again it gets too much. Even as there is joy and great fulfilment in my work there is so often more in my life than those positive moments alone – there is the holding of space for others, holding space for those who are passing and supporting their loved ones on that journey, the bearing witness to a client or student’s troubles, the vicarious experiencing of violence or trauma or other dark deeds that I must see and know as part of my wider work. It’s not just people either. Often I cannot put into words my worry for the earth, and how it wakes me up at night and plays constantly upon my mind.

Meditation is my constant – my antidote to all of that emotional thrum. But sometimes even that doesn’t work. So when I am overfull of grief and pain sometimes I cry.

Crying doesn’t fix anything, but it opens a window in my soul and lets in fresh air. It brings release and a return to calm. Often, afterwards, it brings the soothing balm of sleep.

I used to be ashamed that I occasionally succumb to tears. Now I am glad for it. It is one of my finer coping mechanisms. Humans were made to cry. Crying works for me.

I hope you know that it’s okay for you to cry too.

Sending much love your way, Nicole  xx

 

19 thoughts on “Sometimes I have a little cry…

  1. ‘Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.’ — Khalil Gibran
    xx

  2. Sending you hugs Nicole. I know these things you speak of so eloquently all too well. If it helps a little bit, I read once that tears are natures way of cleansing sorrow from the heart x Eily

  3. Thank you for being brave and baring you’re soul this is such a honourable action and example to others of leadership. Acceptance and nurturing of body and soul.

  4. “It opens a window in my soul and lets fresh air in” what a great way to describe it. It’s a release isn’t it to it releases stuck emotion when we persuade it to come to the surface. I cried today too the stillness and peace afterwards gives us the opportunity to heal.

  5. Dear Nicole,

    Crying deeply is the only way move through grief and reduce the pain held in the heart. I found if I didn’t cry and tried to put on a strong face, I would crumble later for a lesser trigger. I could feel it building and would sometimes look for a tear jerking movie to bring it on. The next
    Best go with the flow and know that every tear shed is healing in some way.

    Hugs and much love to All
    Kate

  6. Oh Nic you carry such a weight on your shoulders and then your own health issues on top of that. Crying DOES fix something it washes everything clean so you can see and feel clearly and unload some of the burden. So much love to you xx

  7. I cried this morning and knew it was necessary to help me continue to release the pain of my loss. Thank you for reminding me that it is normal and that even the strong (you!) do it too.

  8. Thank you for caring for us when we are at our lowest ebb. The words in your blog moved me to tears a bit again., but, as you have said, it will pass. Just thank you again

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