“It is best as one grows older to strip oneself of possessions, to shed oneself downward like a tree, to be almost wholly earth before one dies.”
~ Sylvia Townsend Warner
One of our loved ones is elderly and in care. She has dementia and numerous health problems, but until recently she has always alternated between being determined to go home to her own home or being happy to be where she is, within the walls of a place that looks after her and helps her feel safe and connected to others.
Suddenly that’s shifted. Yesterday she told us she no longer wants to be here. She is tired of living, she said. So very tired. She’s had enough. She’s miserable and is it okay that she just wants to go?
She’s lost all interest in food. She’s struggling to keep up with conversations that were okay for her even a week ago. In every way we can see her withdrawing from life.
She’s easing away from us, and as much as it breaks my heart I am also relieved for her. There’s no more fight in her. No more strength. She’s down to her last meagre reserves. Of course it’s okay if she wants to go. It’s her life, and she’ll know when she’s ready. My prayer now is that she really does just slip away.
Sending you all so much love, and my wishes for peace in your life and peace in your heart,
Nicole ❤ xx
Wishing you and yours nothing but love & peace in this difficult situation. May she slip away in her dreams, and embraced with total love…..
Love, always,
xoxoxo
Love and peace with you. Thoughts are with your family.
All my love to you and Ben.
Big hugs from me to you both.
Love
Mxxx
I hope she has a peaceful transition to whatever happens next.Be tender with each other.also laugh and sing while you are with her.❤
Biggest hugs and luv to you and your loved ones.. your all in my prayers and thoughts 💖❤️🌈✨
Hugs to all who have loved her. Xxx
Sending all of you love and light. May she slip away from this early place peacefully. xoxoxo
A beautiful post. Thanks for sharing. You all are in my thoughts and prayers.
Challenging times; thoughts and prayers for a quick and peaceful end with as much dignity as possible.
Praying for a peaceful transition xxx
Much love xx
Sending you all love, peace, and Light. Xoxoxo
Thinking of you and your family. In a way I think it is beautiful when someone just slips away when they are ready. Lots of love to you all♥️
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The second last time I visited my Nan I told her it was ok to go be with Pop, I told her just in case she needed to know it was ok with us. Mum told her a week later and she passed not long after that
May your loved one just quietly and peacefully slip away.And may you and Ben feel our loving support .
Thinking of you and Ben Nic. I hope she drifts away too without any pain or fear. You’ve both done well by her. Lots of love to you both xx
Thank you Nicole for sharing your families journey I appreciate your insight. This gives me more prospective for my family’s future with one of our family members.