A Message For You If You’re Not Feeling Great About Yourself – please read it!

A fine glass vase goes from treasure to trash, the moment it is broken. Fortunately, something else happens to you and me. Pick up your pieces. Then, help me gather mine.

Vera Nazarian

Hey Lovely,

After my recent posts I’ve had a lot of messages from people who feel invisible, without value, or who have been made to feel that way because they might not work, they might have an illness or a disability, or their life isn’t a shining Instagram-able success story.

Oh, honey. I want to gather you into my arms, kiss your precious face (or if you are hug and touch averse let’s sit comfortably together), and tell you that I love you. I want to tell you something important – something you may have forgotten, something you may not have ever known:

You matter, and your life matters, just by being yourself. Just because you were born.

You bring gifts to the world by simply being yourself. You are enough. You have value. Just as you are.

The essence of your soul, the thing you ARE right at the core of yourself, that’s what matters.

I’ll give you some examples, and maybe you’ll start to understand what I mean…

My friends have a son, Michael, with Down Syndrome and some other genetic health problems. He’s in his twenties now, he still lives at home, he needs help with most things. Chronic illnesses mean that he won’t have a normal life span. He can never hold a job, pay taxes or have a ‘normal life’. None of that matters. Michael beams genuine care and joy to everyone he meets, everywhere he goes. He is one of the most loving souls I have known. There have been days when I have felt exhausted and wrung out, and visiting with Michael has restored something deep in my soul. He holds space for a deep well of calm. His mum works at an Aged Home, and takes Michael with her some days. He sits with ‘lonely people’, and brings a sense of peace to agitated non-verbal adults with dementia. Those feelings of calm, love, inclusion and peace he brings to others? That’s his gift.

My Grandmother had a gift for listening. When you spoke with her you knew she truly heard you, and acknowledged what you were saying and feeling. She was trustworthy and wise, and she helped many people through this gift. She never had a job or a career, and yet she touched the lives of many.

I have a client who has never been educated.  He can’t read or write, and can barely sign his name. He has lived in the Outback his entire life. But he can break any horse. He can turn any wild brumby into a horse that can be ridden and worked with, and he does it gently, without breaking their spirit.  No-one ever showed him.  He just seems to know how to communicate with them and win their trust.

I have a friend who is a nurse. I’ve know her for many years. She’s a talented nurse, and studied hard to get there, but her real gift? She has a knack for comforting people. Ask anyone who’s known her and they’ll tell you the same. She’s been like that since she was small. Animals, people, upset children, she just seems to know what to say, how to move, and her touch is filled with love and kindness. Her voice is soothing and reassuring, or cheerful when it needs to be. It’s not just her ability to do her job as a nurse, it’s the essence she brings to that job that is so important.

Don’t ever think that you have nothing worthy to offer the world. You can anchor love. You can anchor calm. You can offer kindness, a smile, a word of encouragement. Remember that you came here with a gift inside you too, perhaps even more than one. That might not be a gift that will bring you great fame and riches, or public acclaim, but for someone in your life, your gift will mean the world.

Not sure what your gift is? Look back through your life. What came easily? What was a natural expression of who you are? Where have you uplifted, or connected, or helped in some way? You may have discounted this thing as ordinary or unimportant.  But I promise you, it’s not. And all you ever have to be is yourself!

You are precious, and valuable, and important to the richness and texture of life, just because you are here. Just because you are alive.

I needed you to know that today.

Sending so much love to you, Nicole xx