Christmas Full Moon – 2015

“The songs of our ancestors are also the songs of our children”
~ Philip Carr-Gomm


Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

There is a full moon tonight – Christmas Night, 2015.  (I know, I know, some of you dear readers are only up to Christmas Eve, but I’m in Australia, where it’s tomorrow already!)

It seems quite fitting that we are having this particular full moon on Christmas night. It’s an Ancestors Moon. A pattern-breaking moon. Given that most of us will spend time at Christmas thinking about family, or spending time in their presence, I believe this to be a moon of great potential influence and healing.

This moon truly shines a light on ancestral and family patterns, allowing us opportunity for healing and for ending old patterns within our family line that no longer serve us, and which we do not wish to see repeated within the lives of our children and their children.

I’ve created a simple ritual that you can do at any time today, or tonight, that will help this process of healing and growth within your family.


Christmas Full Moon Ritual

Tools you will need:

A small stone or crystal that you are comfortable to discard. Ten minutes of your time.


Read through this first, and then perform the ritual. You can do this ritual at any time on Christmas Day or Christmas evening.

  1. Sit or stand somewhere on your own, where you won’t be disturbed. Take your stone in your hand and close your eyes.
  2. Offer up a prayer that all work be for your Highest Good and the Highest Good of your family line.
  3. Feel back in time, and begin to notice and become aware of all of your ancestors. You might have this as a feeling, an intention or idea, or you may get images. Whatever happens for you, know that the ritual is still working.
  4. Feel how all of those souls who came before you, including your own parents and grandparents have shaped you. Don’t judge the relationships. Simply be aware of them.
  5. Feel the love and support for you, and the encouragement from souls in your family line who have passed over. It doesn’t matter that you have not met them. Their history and blood flows in your veins. You are a part of them, and they are a part of you.
  6. Think of a situation, pattern of behaviour, or belief that needs healing or ending within your family right now. Understand that this situation, belief or pattern was needed for learning.
  7. Flow love and light into your stone, and visualise that situation, pattern or belief. Flow that into the stone as well.
  8. Say out loud “I offer myself as the pattern breaker. This energy will end with me.”
  9. Lock the energy into the stone.
  10. Now offer a prayer that this situation, pattern or belief be healed within your family.
  11. Say out loud the words, “I AM, and it is so. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”
  12. Stand or sit in the energy as long as feels right for you. You may receive energy, insights or other gifts now.
  13. When you are ready open your eyes. Lay your stone out under the open sky and the moonlight for the night. If this isn’t possible leave it on a windowsill where it can be exposed to the energy of the Ancestors Moon.
  14. Tomorrow, after the moon has set, take your stone and bury it in the earth, or within the soil of a pot-plant. You could also cast your stone into the river or sea. Let it go. Let it all go now.
The Owl and the Moon by Christy Patino

The Owl and the Moon by Christy Patino

Dreading Christmas This Year?

“It struck him that how you spent Christmas was a message to the world about where you were in life, some indication of how deep a hole you had managed to burrow for yourself
~ Nick Hornby, About a Boy


For many people, Christmas isn’t a Hallmark moment. It’s a time of stress and dread. A time of friction and anxiety. It’s being tied up in knots about having to spend time with people who don’t like you, or who bully you, or who criticise and put you down in front of others while everyone else stands around doing nothing. It’s about worrying if your partner or parent will be rageful or drunk or mean. It’s about having to put on a brave face as you spend a whole day with your ex and the new partner they left you for – while smiling and being happy for your children.

It’s being a kid who is dragged between locations so that each parent gets them for part of Christmas day, when all you want to do is stay home where it’s familiar and safe.

It’s not having enough money and putting yourself into debt for the whole Hallmark experience, which never delivers anyway.

Or it’s being lonely and sad because you decided NOT to do the family Christmas thing. Or because you weren’t invited to the family Christmas thing. Or because you have no family close, or your family has been broken apart by death, illness or divorce.

No wonder you’re dreading Christmas.

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So, I have a suggestion.

Why not do it differently this year?

It’s perfectly fine if you choose not to celebrate at all. If you’d rather just spend a quiet day at home, or the park, do that and feel glad for your choice. It’s your life and you are the Captain of your own ship.

Or create a new Christmas Tradition. One that reclaims Christmas and that allows you to do Christmas your way.

Say no to the event you’re dreading.

Have a small gathering, within your means. Start some new traditions together, especially if you have children. Especially if it’s just you, or you and your partner, or you and your pets. Do something that is meaningful for you, and that feels indulgent in some way.

Bake something together, or have a favourite movie you all watch every year. Sing songs or play a board game. One of my dearest friends, who left an abusive relationship and was in dire poverty started a ‘Christmas Nachos in front of Love Actually‘ tradition with her family ten years ago. Christmas Nachos? It was party food, and cheap, and it looked sort of Christmassy with the green and red salsa against the cheese. Time’s moved on, and her kids are grown now. She’s in a new relationship. But they still do Christmas Nachos and watch that movie. Every year.

Another friend of mine books herself into a city hotel for a few days, on her own. Her husband died a few years ago and she has no family. There were plenty of invites to other family homes, but that just underscored her loss. Now she goes shopping in the Christmassy city malls and buys herself new pjyamas, books and chocolate. Some other special gift for herself that she’d like. She sleeps in, has long bubble baths, watches cable and gets room service. A day or two after Christmas she goes home refreshed. It’s something she looks forward to now, although the first year was hard, and the second a little hard too.

Host an orphan’s Christmas, or go to one. There are plenty of people who are in the same boat as you, and who are excellent company for sharing a meal, some laughs and a little merriment.

Volunteer at a soup kitchen for a few hours, and be part of the kindness that Christmas can be.

Above all, know that it’s okay to make a different choice this year. Get support, if you need it. See a counsellor or a therapist or talk to a friend. But don’t keep suffering just to keep up appearances and make other people happy at your expense.

This year, let a better Christmas be your gift to you.

Thinking of you and sending all my love, Nicole <3 oxo