‘Fairies know stuff. Animals know stuff too. Like when your doggie feels sicky so he eats some grass. Humans used to know stuff, but they forgot. So I’ll help you remember. Also it would be very nice if you could be kinder to yourself and to animals and all the people and also to the planet because it is a home for everyone and you’re wrecking it. Love from your friend Sokli xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx’ ~ Sokli, a fairy
I ran a webinar for my membership group the other night. We talked about many things that can support energetically sensitive people right now, I took the group through a guided meditation, and I also did some channelling.
Sokli, my beautiful fairy friend, came through at the end of the night with a simple bedtime drink recipe for the group.
The energies around us are quite turbulent right now – between Mercury, this big full moon and lunar eclipse, some solar flares and a few other crazy astronomical things – and they’ve been disruptive for sensitive and intuitive souls. Sokli’s simple drink recipe, to be drunk before bed, will support the liver and help it to work better. It’s a soothing balm for anyone who is feeling emotionally or energetically frazzled. It can also be sipped during the day if you are feeling especially fatigued or unbalanced.
Sokli’s Bedtime Drink helps support liver detoxification, balancing of blood sugar and provides energy for your brain too. It’s soothing, calming and nurturing. It can also help you sleep.
1 cup of water – not freezing cold and not boiling either – just lovely and warm or at room temperature
The juice of half a fresh lemon or lime
1 tablespoon of pure maple syrup
1 little pinch of a good salt
Mix all the ingredients together and then drink. If drinking this at night take it twenty to thirty minutes before bedtime. Remember to clean your teeth afterwards as the sugar and acid is not good for your tooth enamel. Enjoy!
“We all grow tired eventually; it happens to everyone. Even the sun, at the close of the year, is no longer a morning person.” ~ Joyce Rachelle
Sorry, Lovelies, but I need a sleep-in. It’s been a ragged few days of supporting others and running on little sleep. Long experience has taught me that sometimes the most magical restorative gift I can give myself is some extra time in bed. So, no blog of any consequence this morning. I’m too busy taking care of myself.
“Ah. I smiled. I’m not really here to keep you from freaking out. I’m here to be with you while you freak out, or grieve or laugh or suffer or sing. It is a ministry of presence. It is showing up with a loving heart.” ~ Kate Braestrup
I remember sitting in a coffee shop twelve years ago. We were regulars there, Ben and I, at a place close to our city home.
We knew everyone. One of my favourite people, let’s call him Brian (not his real name) was an elderly ex-dragqueen and retired male escort. He was HIV positive, impeccably groomed and an excellent conversationalist. (People always seem to confide their life story and innermost confidences to me, and I am glad that they feel safe to do so.) I kept an eye on Brian and often invited him to dinner or brought him a home-cooked meal. Brian kept me interesting articles from The New Yorker.
Brian had recently been deep in conversation with a younger man, a man who always seemed stressed and harried and who kept to himself. But, on this particular morning, Brian brought that man – Mark (also not his real name) – to my table and introduced him, telling me to look after him because Mark had just experienced a bad night at the deathbed of someone in his community.
We became friends that day and in the months after we often shared a table and a chat over early morning coffee. Mark was clever, funny and sharply sarcastic. Slowly I came to know what Mark did. Slowly he came to know my world too. Mark was a minister on the other side of town. He confided that to me as some kind of illicit secret some months after I first met him. He asked that I didn’t tell anyone who he was or what he did. Jokingly Mark christened me ‘Sister Sinner’ because I was a practising psychic and the Bible expressly forbids that. I explained to him that being psychic wasn’t a choice, just like being gay wasn’t a choice. We were born this way, made this way. Mark agreed.
A few years later Mark abruptly left his ministry, causing a huge scandal. I sat with him over coffee that same morning as he explained why he was leaving. He was from a religious family and he told me that he had no faith, had never had faith, didn’t believe anything he taught, didn’t believe the Bible and envied me that I had a faith at all. He’d taken the job in the church for security, a clear opportunity for advancement, and a safe place for himself as an undeclared gay man. But he hated dealing with people and he hated having to serve a congregation.
I felt so sad for him. Mark had the kind of job I’d wanted for myself when I was small. He was there for all of the important events in the lives of his parishioners. He got to give them comfort, to guide and support them, and to bring them together as a community. As a child at primary school I’d wanted to be a minister but I couldn’t, because I was a girl and also because I struggled with the teachings of the church. It didn’t fit with the feelings and knowledge that I had in my heart. I kept waiting for a better version of religion to show up, but no matter where I went I didn’t find a doctrine that fitted me. In the end, Buddhism meditation practices and my own quiet faith in something bigger than this little life we live are what serves me. I have seen too much to doubt that there is existence beyond this one, although I certainly don’t have all the answers. Which brings me back to Mark, whom I haven’t seen for ten years.
I bumped into him yesterday, in the corridor of a hospital.
He was visiting his elderly mother who is recovering from surgery. He’s back working with the church, studying and writing and following an academic path.
I was visiting a long-time client who had called me in crisis. She reached out to me for guidance about how to be with her six-year-old daughter who is dying from a brain tumour. I was up at the hospital to support this woman, her family and her daughter in these final hours.
Mark and I chatted briefly. Then he hugged me and laughed in a kindly way. ‘So, Nicole,’ he said, ‘it seems you’ve got your own flock after all, although I don’t know what qualifies you. You’re a minister without a church, without a God, without a pay packet. Meanwhile, I’ve got the gold watch, the all-expenses-paid trips to Rome, the superannuation and the bright future. I think you’ve got a bum deal. Best of luck, Sister Sinner.’
I could tell he meant it in the best possible way. I’m glad things worked out for him. I’ll keep him in my prayers and meditations.
Also, Mark, I know you’ll be reading this and I do know what qualifies me. Being human. Having empathy and kindness. Being present for others. Having a deep desire to serve. Devoting myself to this spiritual path, although it may not be one that you understand, and wanting to share this path with others so that it may bring them comfort and meaning.
There are more people on my particular path than you know. Maybe it’s a path that you would finally find meaning from too.
“An apology can be a wonderful thing so long as it is infrequent and from the heart. However, beware of the person who justifies bad behavior with apologies. For them it is a means to an end, and quite often at your expense.” ~ Gary Hopkins
Yesterday I wrote about how the energies right now are causing many sensitive and intuitive souls to back away from drama and poor behaviour in relationships. Instead, sensitive souls are seeking greater peace and harmony in their everyday lives.
I had lots of comments and messages from people who identified with that need for peace and who had been actively stepping out of or minimising difficult relationships, and I also had a few messages like the one below. Although this is a more extreme example the sentiments expressed were a common thread in my inbox:
Dear Nicole, I was wondering if you could help me. I am living in a difficult situation. I moved home from the city a few years ago when my father became ill, and I live in a flat under my parents’ house. I’m self-employed and I’m single with no kids, unlike my siblings, so it was decided I would be the best person to help out.
My dad is an alcoholic invalid who becomes physically violent at times, and my mother often takes out her frustration on me by verbally abusing me, hitting me or wrecking my stuff. On my birthday this year some friends came to our country town for the weekend to celebrate with me. My mum smeared faeces all over my car inside and out just before I was to drive into town to meet them for lunch. There is no taxi service in my town and I was so upset that I cancelled the lunch, and couldn’t get the car clean enough to meet them the next morning either and I was too ashamed to tell my friends what had happened.
My parents rely on me to drive them places, to manage their medications, do their shopping and the lion’s share of the housework. In the few years I have been home they have become increasingly frail and more and more dependent on me. Both of them drink and my mum is addicted to pain meds.
I am at the end of my rope. I’ve just turned forty and my parents may live for another twenty years or more. Respite Care won’t take them and the Blue Nurses will no longer come because both my parents have been violent towards them. Can you please tell me how to find some peace in my situation? It sometimes gets so bad that I consider self-harm.
Dear friend, I have some very simple advice for you. Call your siblings and have a family meeting. Don’t negotiate with them. You’ve done your time. It does not matter that you don’t have children or a partner. Your life is equally valuable! You are wasting your precious life on people who have no regard or respect for you. It’s time to leave.
Just because someone is a family member does not give them the right to abuse you and disrespect you. And just because you are a woman, and a single woman, does not mean you should get stuck with becoming a carer in such a difficult environment. Work with your family and health care providers or the appropriate departments to get a care solution for your family that doesn’t involve you. Or, just leave. Your parents are adults too. They are making their choices and you have the right to make your own.
To all of you dear readers who find yourself in a situation where a family member or loved one shames you, bullies you, intimidates you, hurts you, abuses you, disregards or disrespects you – please understand that being family is not an excuse for bad behaviour. Being family does not give anyone the right to treat you badly. And being family does not mean that you must remain loyal, subservient or tolerate abuse.
If you are a sensitive, intuitive or empathic soul and you are craving quiet over drama, peace over difficulty, safety over trauma, then do what is right by you and distance yourself from the relationship or situation. You can let someone stay in your heart but remove them from your life. This is your one precious life and you don’t get a do-over. Don’t waste it on people who can’t respect or care for you even as you care for and respect them.
I’m sending you so much love, and holding space for you to find the courage to choose a life that gives you back your freedom, Nicole xx
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” ~ Dalai Lama XIV
Many people are telling me right now that they feel a compulsion to drop the drama. These are people who are going through a spiritual or psychic awakening or who identify as empaths, intuitive, sensitive or psychic.
Suddenly they don’t feel like being with ‘friends’ who gossip destructively, who drink excessively or who otherwise drain them. They find themselves putting up barriers, or going into behaviours such as avoidance by not answering their phone or returning emails. They feel themselves withdrawing from the complexities and overwhelming interaction of their lives. They also feel the need to ‘get their house in order’. For some people that might be doing seven years of overdue taxes. For other people, it could be de-cluttering their home, or even their social calendar so that they can reclaim some calm quiet space for their transformational journey. Does that sound like you?
Many people have also asked me if it’s okay to feel like this? Of course it is! Sometimes we need to simplify and create time for ourselves so that we can heal and reconnect. When we reduce the outside chatter and the need to be organised and involved we are free to spend times with ourselves, in self and spiritual exploration. Our inner world is rich and filled with delights, directions, ideas and advice, but we can only connect with this aspect of ourselves through peace, solitude and rest. And sometimes we need to rest FIRST. Reconnection can begin after our batteries have recharged enough that we are no longer just in survival mode.
Most of us live bombarded by situations, workplaces, devices and relationships that over-stimulate us. In fact, this overt stimulation seems ‘normal’ and we don’t realise just how frazzled, stressed and over-extended we are because that’s how everyone lives!
In this state of bombardment, our bodies produce extra chemicals to hype us up and help us cope. As we become more stressed we are less able to hear our own inner guidance systems and Universal guidance. This further taxes our body and soul. We also become much more left-brain dominant. Our left brain analyses and organises and prioritises and schedules and criticises to help us cope with the overwhelming inflow of stimulation and information. (I feel exhausted just reading that!)
Our creative, emotive, spiritual right brain is used much less when we are under stress. That aspect of us becomes ignored. As a result, we become depleted, depressed, exhausted and just plain old stuck. In fact, sometimes we become so depleted or overwhelmed that the Universe assists us in our need to hibernate and reconnect by gifting us an illness, accident or other life-altering drama so that we have no choice but to rest and re-evaluate.
If that sounds even remotely like you, it’s time to nurture some inner peace. Inner Peace is a place of calm connectedness, an energy of stillness and silence that is found deep within you. It replenishes you, it heals and refreshes you, and it radiates from you to touch, heal and calm others.
Here are some simple suggestions for nurturing Inner Peace:
Declare certain days or times of the day to be screen free.
Simplify your life.
Spend less time doing things you don’t want to, and being with people who tax you.
Instead of going to shopping malls and crowded places, try a beach, a park, your garden, or even your lounge or bedroom. (But no TV, phone or computer!)
Let go of some of your extra commitments and activities.
Book a weekend break somewhere in nature where you can eat, sleep, walk, read and rest. Leave the phone and laptop at home and resist the urge to listen to the radio, read the newspaper or watch TV. Practice being lazy and indulgent.
Learn to meditate.
Take up yoga, tai chi or qi gong and practice it daily on your own.
Indulge in a regular massage, health or beauty treatment that is relaxing and/or healing. Ask the practitioner not to talk unless the question or instruction is part of the treatment.
Spend five minutes each day just being mindful of where you are, how you feel, what is happening around you in nature, and what is happening in your body.
Go on a retreat.
Start a hobby you can do on your own like art, woodwork, knitting or writing. Make the hobby a form of meditation.
Dance. It frees and builds energy within the body, and promotes joyfulness.
Sleep. (It’s a remarkable antidote to fatigue!)
Here is a short guided meditation to nurture your connection to inner peace:
Take care of yourself, today and always, Much love, Nicole xx
“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” ~ Albert Einstein
July is a powerful month, bringing insight and empowerment. It’s a month for understanding what is holding you back and keeping you trapped. It’s a month for honestly identifying and owning any addictions, self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours and damaging relationships (with people, beliefs or situations). July also gifts you the clarity, energy and courage to end those things that do not serve your Highest Good. (And I have a gorgeous new online course which will help you capitalise on all of this good energy! Details Here) Keep July’s energy in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Air Guardian brings us.
Air Guardian encourages you to look into all the old hurts, pains and shames of your past. Know that it is possible to do that without being triggered back into pain this week. Instead, you’ll find that – often for the first time – you can look at that situation or relationship and see the learnings that have come from it, so that you can take the learning and then close the door on the past.
Air Guardian supports you as you grow wiser. This is not knowledge from books. This is hard-won wisdom from the experiences of life. Wisdom that is owned in every cell of your body – the kind of knowing that, once understood, can never be lost.
See everything that has happened as part of your growth.
Know that healing is possible. You are a different person today. Today is a new life. Yesterday is forever in the past and your future is anchored in the NOW. Air Guardian invites you to live mindfully in the now, looking forward with hope and your hard-won wisdom.
Supportive crystals this week?
Amazonite (pictured) helps you to live bravely and from your heart. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth. Mookaite is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and embracing change. Dalmatian Jasper helps you move forward, living in mindfulness. It releases stress and amplifies joy. Yellow Obsidian is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and for embracing change.
Helpful essential oils?
I’m loving Frankincense and Ylang Ylang essential oils again this week. Frankincense is the Master Healer and is fabulous for connecting to your inner wisdom. Ylang Ylang has proven ability to promote relaxation and positive emotions.
These diffuser blends will work well for you:
2 drops of Frankincense, 2 drops of Ylang Ylang and 2 drops of Cypress to promote clear thinking, forward vision and personal empowerment
3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Bergamot and 1 drop of Vetiver for a blend that is grounding and uplifting and sure to shift you into a positive headspace and support taxed adrenals
3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Geranium and 2 drops of Lavender for a sublimely relaxing and nurturing blend (this one’s good in the bath too!)
2 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Jasmine, 2 drops of Sandalwood and 1 drop of Frankincense to promote deep meditation and heightened intuition
I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Do you want some support for your journey?
My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. Suitable for complete beginners and advanced students. The feedback from students already enrolled in this course has been amazing and their results have been too! Click here to find out more.
Be gentle with yourself this week. There’s no point in beat yourself up about the past. The only place where you have power is when you are in the moment. Learn, grow, turn your face to the sunshine and keep moving forward.
Lots of love, Nicole xx
PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Air Guardian’, is from the Angels and Ancestors Oracle Cards by Kyle Gray. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different from the meaning found in a book.
‘Then I was standing on the highest mountain of them all, and round about beneath me was the whole hoop of the world. And while I stood there I saw more than I can tell and I understood more than I saw; for I was seeing in a sacred manner the shapes of all things in the spirit, and the shape of all shapes as they must live together like one being. And I say the sacred hoop of my people was one of the many hoops that made one circle, wide as daylight and as starlight, and in the center grew one mighty flowering tree to shelter all the children of one mother and one father. And I saw that it was holy… But anywhere is the center of the world.’ ~ Black Elk, Holy Man of the Sioux Nation
We cannot separate ourselves from the Earth. She provides for us in so many ways; the air we breathe, the food we eat, the water we drink, the materials from which we house and clothe ourselves. We have forgotten that we are part of her. What we do to the earth we are also doing to ourselves.
Over time many of us have become distant friends with our planet. We no longer hear or understand her. Some of us don’t even visit her in her natural spaces anymore. And yet she continues to love and nurture us.
These ideas might help you reconnect with the Earth, and all she has to offer us. The energy can be used for healing, balancing and grounding us, and for opening us up to higher levels of awareness.
Sit under a tree and become consciously aware of that tree. Introduce yourself to it. Open to its energy.
Go for a walk by a river or creek. Sit for a while and just watch nature.
Swim in the ocean. Let the water cleanse and revitalise you physically, emotionally and energetically.
Collect some interesting stones that you find on your walks. Perhaps you’ll be blessed with a feather or a pretty leaf too. Place them somewhere in your home or workplace where they can remind you of the outside world.
Place some cut flowers in your house. Flowers heal and nurture us with their colour, scent and energy.
Play with crystals – wear them, put them beside your bed or on your windowsill, and hold them!
Sit at a look-out on a hill or mountain. Let peace wash over you. Feel the Earth breathing in and out.
Plant a garden, even if it’s just a few herbs in a pot. Nurture those plants. Let their tending be a meditation on mindfulness and nature.
Dance in the rain.
Play with a pet. Animals are wise, loving souls with so much to give us.
Celebrate each season. Enjoy the heat of Summer, eating watermelon and swimming, enjoy Autumn and the falling leaves – the refreshing change in the air, enjoy Winter with slow foods, short days and cold nights, and then celebrate Spring, when new life emerges, leaves and flowers burst forth and the sun begins to sparkle again.
Pay attention to the cycle of the moon and how that makes you feel.
Take a picnic to a favourite park or nature place. Take some friends, a pet or a book, but leave your phone, laptop and worries at home.
Visit a Farmers Market and buy some fresh, seasonal organic produce to nourish yourself and your family. Understand more about where your food comes from, and how it can heal you.
Meditate and consciously connect into the grounding, healing and stabilising energies of Mother Earth
Go outside at night and look at the stars and Moon. If you can’t see them from where you live, consider taking a weekend away in nature to reconnect with the night sky.
Sit by a campfire and listen to the crackle and dance of the flames.
Watch an insect, bird or small animal going about its day. Allow yourself to become quiet and calm and open to any lessons that the creature shares with you.
Visit a wild space. A place where there is only nature. Let it fill you with peace.
Sit in the sunshine and let the warm rays of the sun enter your body with their healing light. Feel yourself relax and unwind.
“People who enjoy meetings should not be in charge of anything.” ~ Thomas Sowell
Once upon a time, I was a member of the corporate world. My meetings lasted hours and sometimes days. I wore a suit. I was often bored, or frustrated. Every hour a meeting dragged on made me feel a little more dead inside.
I do meetings differently now.
Our Staff Meeting started with a cup of tea and a tasty piece of cake on the veranda.
After a skype meeting with our team member who’s in another country (Hi, Miss Love, And HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR TODAY!!!), we broke for sourdough toast and soup in the winter sunshine.
Then we did a little more work.
We finished scheduling our next course and looking at the calendar for 2020. That also involved scheduling a mini-break interstate with Ben for my birthday in September this year. Because holidays matter!
In the afternoon we walked up into the orchard and picked sweet mandarins and lemons.
Just a little more work and then we called it a day.
In the early evening we stood outside looking up at the moon and the stars in the crisp winter sky before we came back to sit by the fire and enjoy a leisurely dinner.
We got plenty of work done and came up with some great new ideas. But we also balanced that work with living. And that feels right for me.
I like this new business model much better than that old way of working. How about you? What kind of business world do you want for yourself?
“I think there needs to be a meeting to set an agenda for more meetings about meetings.” ~ Jonah Goldberg
My PA, Trish Lyons, turned up at the farm yesterday afternoon so we could have a staff meeting.
Staff meetings are important. We feel we approached it the right way.
The first thing we did was have a cup of tea.
Then we went for a walk and fed the cows.
The sun was getting low in the sky by then so we made a snacks platter, got the log fire going and got a roast dinner ready for the oven.
We then ate the snacks platter and the roast dinner.
After which it was time for bed.
Today Trish will have a sleep-in while I go down to Byron Bay to get some acupuncture and Lyme treatment. Then we’ll regroup, make more cups of tea and sit on the verandah with our notebooks and flipcharts and a Zoom hotline to Love, our other team member who can’t join us in person (We miss you, Miss Love!).
One of the most important things I have learned is that if you wouldn’t invite a person to your home, or share a meal at your table with them, then they’re not the right person for your business.
I’m really blessed to have a great work team who are also my good friends.
Today we’ll finalise our gorgeous new 2020 Planner before it goes to the printer, our courses and program for the rest of this year and our new Academy of Learning for 2020. I’ll update you as soon as we’re done! I imagine this will be a multi-cup-of-tea and snacks kind of day.
“An awake heart is like a sky that pours light.” ~ Hafiz
Yesterday I received an email from a reader who has been experiencing something unusual when they meditate:
‘Just a small question about meditation. Have you experienced a change in lighting sometimes, like the whole room’s lighting changes? Such as, everything has a slight yellow and blue or even green extra layer to it, like overlayed on top or on the side of the object. It’s really quite annoying during my meditations and I cannot seem to concentrate. It’s happening every, single, time. There’s no resources online for this, so I thought I might ask you.
If I could describe it in another way, it would be like as though someone took the room’s image into a computer program, and changed the hue on the image to only yellow, blue and green output then stuck it back over the original image. Or a five-year-old’s school art project.
I guess 1 more bit of crucial info would be that my body sort of locks into place, a sort of temporary paralysis, kind of like when your body does that before astral projecting, going into trance or doing a journey.
Sorry that’s about as much as I know. Your expertise would be greatly appreciated.
Dear Reader, let me start by reassuring you about the eye tints. I have been meditating in earnest since I was eleven. In the past 41 years, I have experienced everything you’ve described. Many of my students have also experienced aspects of this as well. In fact, today I feel that my eyes have become permanently altered through meditation. One eye holds a warm orange tint when I look through it, and one holds a cold blue tint. It’s unchanging and no optometrist or opthamologist has ever been able to give me an explanation.
Try not to let it bother you. You are adjusting to seeing energy differently. This doesn’t happen to every meditator but it often happens to people who have intuitive and psychic ability. It will settle over time. But it may always happen to some degree.
As to that feeling of being locked into place? That’s also quite normal. An aspect of your consciousness has been outside your body. You must be fully ‘back in’ your body before you regain the capacity to move. Don’t let it alarm you. It’s a very common occurrence.
Try to see both of these quirks of meditation as signs that you are having a genuine energetic experience of an altered state. Feel good about that. It’s an indication of a greater capacity for metaphysical work.
Stay tuned. My team and I are working out the final details of our online spiritual mentoring course which helps give you foundation skills for psychic and spiritual development. We’ll blog all the details just as soon as we’ve nutted them out. That course will be useful for you. And next year I’ll be launching my new online Academy so that there will be somewhere for you to go to learn about your abilities and how to use them, and so you can meet and hang out with other like-minded people.
Until then, keep meditating. It’s one of the best things you can do for stabilising and expanding your metaphysical gifts.