Retreat Success and Finally – a Day Off!


“ When you prepare for something big in your life and work towards it with such intensity, it takes confidence to take a day off and have peace with it. ” 

 J.R. Rim

Hi Everyone!

This is Chelsi and I am hijacking Nicole’s blog.

Kidding aside, I would like to tell everyone that after a very successful retreat (congratulations to everyone who finished Connect to Your Calling Retreat and Mentoring Program!), Nicole will be taking a day off today to sleep in and she is sending all her love to you!

Love Lots!
Cauldrons and Cupcakes Team

The Authority of Soul


“Whatever you are physically…male or female, strong or weak, ill or healthy–all those things matter less than what your heart contains. If you have the soul of a warrior, you are a warrior. All those other things, they are the glass that contains the lamp, but 
you are the light inside.” 
~ Cassandra Clare

I am so wearied by the New Age teachers and practitioners telling you that the tarot cards have the power, or your Guides, or the Angels, or the dead relatives who sit all around you. Or that your life is goverened by some soul contract or past life karma of which you have no knowledge. I want you to know that this was never true.

One of the things that is most important to me as a metaphysical teacher is for you to understand that your ultimate power lies within you, your ultimate authority and wisdom also. This is YOUR life, and when you learn to tune in to your own wisdom you become empowered to make the decisions that are right for you. No-one knows you better. And everything I teach is for the purpose of helping you know yourself, to connect you to your inner wisdom and to help you forge your own considered path in the world.

It’s our last day of Retreat today, and our participants will leave here having deepened that soul connection and with renewed personal clarity. I’m so proud of all they have achieved and I am excited to be supporting them on the next part of their journey as I mentor them in actioning the Calling they have identified for themselves.

When you stop giving your power away, and learn to trust your inner Guidance, so much more is possible.

How about you? Are you steady and trusting in listening to the wisdom of your heart or are you still looking outside you for guidance and direction?

When you learn to tune in, and you start to trust what you know, your life will change for the better. I promise.

Much love to you, Nicole ❤ xx

Wallpaper and White Paint


“People who appear to be resisting change may simply be the victim of bad habits. Habit, like gravity, never takes a day off.” ~ Paul Gibbons

We’re on Retreat, as I lead a group through the process of connecting to their Calling. In each activity, as is always the way, some students charge on through the work, and some students stumble over old habits and beliefs that limit initial progress.

In every instance what is blocking the student isn’t lack of ability. If they couldn’t work at the level I require I would not have approved their application to join us. No. What’s blocking them is an old out-dated and limiting belief or story.

When you hit this kind of resistance – where you have a deeply ingrained thought-pattern or self-speak – most students sit with the idea that they must first dismantle their belief. But that’s like sitting in a room where you don’t like the wallpaper and then picking that ugly wallpaper off the walls with your fingernails. It’s slow. It’s messy. And every darned day you can still see the wallpaper. What’s worse? The ugly wallpaper is your main focus!

The better approach is simply to paint over that wallpaper with a colour of your conscious choosing.

It’s like that with limiting beliefs and behaviours too. It’s better just to start that new habit and then keep strengthening it. Eventually that new habit or belief will drown out the old one, and you’ll move to a better place within yourself, with much less resistance.

Today we’re working on creating action steps that move us closer to where we want to be by painting over our own versions of outmoded wallpaper. Where in your life would you benefit from doing the same?
Biggest love and hugs, Nicole ❤ xx

Monday Oracle – 18 February 2019

“ It is in the shelter of each other that the people live. -Irish proverb ” 
Louisa Thomsen Brits, The Book of Hygge: The Danish Art of Living Well

Hello, Lovelies!

February is a month for action and self-empowerment – for taking your plans and turning them into goals, action steps and habits. It’s a month for speaking your truth and standing your ground. It’s a month for creating positive change, embracing your individuality and investing in yourself and your dreams. It’s a short month that packs a big punch! Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Shelter brings us.

This week Shelter urges us to look to the environment. What can we do to help protect and nurture this habitat in which we all co-exist? The earth is our one irreplaceable home, and if it becomes uninhabitable due to climate change, species extinction, deforestation, pollution, and water scarcity then all of us lose.

There are already many grass-roots organisations that are taking the initiative to create a more sustainable and green world. Or perhaps you could start your own.

Here are our favourite simple actions that everyone can take to help the planet:

  • Plant trees. If every person planted ten trees we would go a long way towards halting or reversing climate change. Also think food plants, balcony and indoor plants and plants with flowers that encourage and feed insects, bees and birds.
  • Reduce your consumerism, re-use and recycle.
  • Support a group (financially or with your time) that is already doing work with conservation, replanting and preservation of biodiversity.
  • Stop buying single-use plastic containers, especially bottled water. Use your own keep-cups and water bottles for hot and cold beverages. Say no to plastic straws and plastic bags.
  • Conserve water and electricity.

Shelter encourages us to make our homes places of safety, sanctuary and nurture. We need to do this for ourselves, but we may also be called to create that safe and nurturing space for someone we love, or to extend that help and support to a friend or stranger. Remember that animals and plants can benefit from us creating those places of sanctuary for them too.

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Lace Agate supports your Throat Chakra, helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. It’s a great stone for all forms of communication, and it also brings a sense of calm. Sunstone helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in your life. Petrified Wood (pictured) helps you connect to the energies of ancient forests, grounding and calming you and helping to reduce stress, anxiety and inflammation. Green Aventurine supports you to be playful, joyful and optimistic about life.

Helpful essential oils?

Choose any of the following oils or combine them for a diffuser blend to help you create a sense of sanctuary at your home or office:  Vetiver, Geramium, Lavender and Bergamot.

Vetiver is one of my favourite oils. It has a woodsy, earthy fragrance that is very calming and grounding. It will help you to concentrate, soothes anxiety and helps your thoughts become more structured and logical. Geranium helps with creating a sense of safety and is a comforting and supportive oil.  Lavender calms an over-busy or stressed mind and opens you to possibility. Bergamot reconnects you to joy, creativity and hope.

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Want to make the most of your year in 2019?

I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported in the year ahead. Membership to my online group, courses and YOM community – by subscription or a yearly fee – is also available

You can access the Membership, Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Guided Meditation Bundle

I’ve bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.

The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Craft A Visionary Talisman

This online course will help you to select a guiding card for the year ahead, or for a specific project, and then create and activate a Visionary Talisman to anchor helpful energies and qualities to guide and support you in your daily life. It’s practical shamanism, and you’ll learn a range of skills to support you on your spiritual journey. (Of course, if you’re a member of the YOM community you have access to this course for free!) For more information click here or go to my store.

Wishing you a transformative and uplifting week of action. Aim high, give it your best shot, and no matter what you do, be true to YOU!

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Shelter’, is from the Peace Oracle. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

Rain and Deep Soul Work


“… so this is for us.
This is for us who sing, write, dance, act, study, run and love
and this is for doing it even if no one will ever know
because the beauty is in the act of doing it.
Not what it can lead to.
This is for the times I lose myself while writing, singing, playing
and no one is around and they will never know
but I will forever remember
and that shines brighter than any praise or fame or glory I will ever have,
and this is for you who write or play or read or sing
by yourself with the light off and door closed
when the world is asleep and the stars are aligned
and maybe no one will ever hear it
or read your words
or know your thoughts
but it doesn’t make it less glorious.
It makes it ethereal. Mysterious.
Infinite.
For it belongs to you and whatever God or spirit you believe in
and only you can decide how much it meant
and means
and will forever mean
and other people will experience it too
through you.
Through your spirit. Through the way you talk.
Through the way you walk and love and laugh and care
and I never meant to write this long
but what I want to say is:
Don’t try to present your art by making other people read or hear or see or touch it; make them feel it. Wear your art like your heart on your sleeve and keep it alive by making people feel a little better. Feel a little lighter. Create art in order for yourself to become yourself
and let your very existence be your song, your poem, your story.
Let your very identity be your book.
Let the way people say your name sound like the sweetest melody.

So go create. Take photographs in the wood, run alone in the rain and sing your heart out high up on a mountain
where no one will ever hear
and your very existence will be the most hypnotising scar.
Make your life be your art
and you will never be forgotten.” 
~ Charlotte Eriksson

Here we are on Retreat. The rain has come in and blanketed us in a cool misty silence during the night. We feel a long way away from the outside world right now.

Today we’ll be doing incredible things, deep soul work, major shift…

…while the outside world moves on, oblivious to the magic happening here.

And that’s okay. This is work we are doing for ourselves. It was never meant for a public audience. I want to encourage you to keep working on what matters to you and what gives you joy too. I want you to embrace that yearning in your heart or the idea that won’t let go.

Do it for yourself.

It will make the world better anyway.

Much love, Nicole ❤ xx

The Definition Of Courage


“This, ultimately, is the lesson to come away with from our brief foray into the world of experimental psychology: To build your working life around the experience of flow produced by deep work is a proven path to deep satisfaction.” ~ Cal Newport

Hello, Lovelies!

From today I am leading the ‘Connect To Your Calling’ Retreat for the next 6 days. It’s a deeply immersive experience for the participants, where they are voluntarily cutting off from the outside world and all modern technological distractions for the period of our time together.

We’ll be diving deep into the metaphysical, as I help my students gain clarity around who they are and why they are here. It’s BIG soul work. Deep work. And possibly life-changing work for some.

It’s a course that requires curiosity and courage – my students will be led to stand in front of themselves and truly see themselves as they are, and as they can be, free from limited thinking and the contrivances and mis-beliefs that have kept them safe and stagnant in their ordinary lives. The techniques I will teach them are those I have been refining and working with in my own life over the past thirty years. I know they work, and I know the results that can come from connecting into the deeper truth within yourself.

Change, and opening to possibility is always hard. But I also know that a time comes when it is harder to stay still then to begin moving, even if that new direction takes you far away from everything you have previously thought you knew about yourself.

After our time together I’ll be mentoring the group intensely for the next three months as we work to cement the learnings that will be gathered in Retreat. I’m excited to see what will come from this mentoring and how these brave students will then go out into the world to follow their Calling and share their gifts.

I know that not all of you are able to travel across the world to be at one of my Retreats, and this content is so important. If you would like me to look at turning the ‘Connect to your Calling’ work into an online course and mentoring group please contact Chelsi at chelsi@cauldronsandcupcakes.com or by commenting below. If there is enough interest I will work to create something for the second half of this year for you.

Much love, Nicole ❤ xx

Valentine Chocolate Oracle for Manifesting Love!

You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.
~ Dr. Seuss

Valentine’s Day has a wonderful sentiment – that we should celebrate love and lovers, that we should name the emotions that often sit silent in our heart.

But why have just one day for the celebration of love?  Why not live with that sense of appreciation and joy every day! And of course it’s not just for the young, for couples, and for romantic love.  Love is an emotion that is available to us all.

Today’s blog gives you a mini-reading about love, in many different forms. It’s not a fortune-telling exercise for finding a soul mate, instead it’s about letting more love into your life. All you need to do is scroll through the pictures of my Valentine Chocolates, and choose the one that appeals to you most. Then go further down the page to read the meaning for the chocolate treat you have chosen.

♥♥♥ Love, love, love to you, Nicole xoxo ♥♥♥

Today’s Chocolate Selection:

1. ♥ Kaleidoscope of Colour

2. ♥ Sprinkle of Magic

3. ♥ Everything’s Rosy

4. ♥ Elegant Luxury

5. ♥ Set The Mood

6. ♥ Wholesome Simplicity

7. ♥ Pure Soulfood

8. ♥ My Sweet Treat

♥ The Love Message and Gift of each Chocolate♥

Each Valentine Chocolate has a message for you. I have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of your chocolate choice.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need and that you are strongly attracting right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word). Your Magical Healing Environment is a place or activity you’ll find supportive and healing.

♥ 1. Kaleidoscope of Colour – Celebrating the joys of life! Life is about living – not just existing! It’s time to enjoy life’s everyday offerings a little more. Take yourself out to a movie or an art exhibition. Meet a friend for coffee. Go to a concert. Visit someplace near home that you haven’t been before. Go shopping somewhere you’ve always wanted to visit and just appreciate all the choices available to you. Pack a picnic and go visit a favourite outdoor place or picnic on the lounge-room floor of a loved one’s space!  *If you’re in a relationship, or happy on your own, spend your time exploring the world outside your front door. Change up your routines. Find the pleasure in life again! If you’re single think of joining an interest or dinner group – it’s time to put yourself out into the world.  ♥ Best Crystal – Green Aventurine  ♥ Power Word – Enjoyment  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that reminds you of the blessings and opportunities in your life.  Wandering through the city or your favourite mall, an art gallery or favourite cafe, a florist shop or a beautiful garden.

♥ 2. Sprinkle of Magic – Treating yourself well and living your best life. It’s time to value yourself more. You might need a mini-make-over – a new hairstyle, a manicure, a new perfume or cologne, some new clothes that truly suit you and make you look and feel good. It might be time to sort your health out, join that yoga group, and throw out all the junk food. Or maybe it’s time to enrol in that study you’ve always dreamed about. This is your one beautiful life – not some dress rehearsal. You won’t get a chance to do this life over, so make every moment count. *If you’re in a relationship, refresh the energies with some together time and appreciation. Maybe plan a holiday together, or take yourselves out for a special dinner. If you’re happily single, think about your dreams and goals and make one of them a priority. Make sure your life is rich with meaning and satisfaction. If you’re looking for love, aim high. No renovators delights for you. If love doesn’t elevate you and make you feel safe, warm and cherished it’s not worth settling for. ♥ Best Crystal – Citrine  ♥ Power Word – Self-worth ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that makes you feel good about yourself. This could be a day spa, a session with a personal stylist, time with your wise and loving Nana, a yoga class or a bookshop. It might be sitting in a lecture theatre or kayaking around the bay.

♥ 3. Everything’s Rosy – Adventures in Sensuality.  It’s time to bring pleasure and sensuality back into your life. Explore tastes and textures, indulge all of your senses, make time for massages, lovemaking, dancing and beautiful food. Buy yourself some gorgeous underwear, perfume or body lotion. Let yourself come alive again. *For couples, find ways to bring magic and pleasure back into your relationship. For happily singles, nurture and nourish your senses.  If you’re looking for love, embrace your sensual side. Think about what pleasure means to you, and get comfortable with it!  ♥ Best Crystal – Garnet  ♥ Power Word –Feel  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – anything that reconnects you to your senses.  Bubble baths, clean sheets, music, dancing, lying in dappled sunlight on soft green grass, ocean swims, perfume and cologne, warm embraces, patisseries and chocolate shops.

♥ 4. Elegant Luxury – Levelling Up In Love and Life. Life is too short to settle for second best. In your job, in your relationships, in your living environment. It’s time to let your life level up. Don’t stay in situations or relationships where you are not happy and fulfilled. Don’t stay friends with people (or family!) who put you down or treat you badly. Value yourself!  *For couples, talk about your future and where your life is headed. Get help if your relationship is in trouble – whether that is counselling to stay together or to exit the relationship. Happily singles – be discerning about your life and reward yourself with things that matter deeply to you.  For those of you seeking love, set your sights high and know that this is the year you can make your romantic dreams come true. ♥ Best Crystal – Tiger Eye  ♥ Power Word – My Highest Potential  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Change.  Change can be a force for good. Plan out your future, a future that you’ll love. Spend time thinking about what positive changes you can make in your life and know that the Universe is supporting you to do so.

♥ 5. Set The Mood – Love of Knowledge.  Knowledge and learning can be a beautiful thing. Getting to know yourself, getting to know each other, learning about something new, or taking existing knowledge deeper. Classes, courses, books, travel, study – or you out in the world teaching and sharing your own wisdom. This isn’t superficial learning. This is knowledge that transforms and enriches you. *Couples, go travelling together or learn something as a team. Happily singles, indulge in whatever learning takes your fancy, or spend time in conversation with someone you’d like to know better. If you’re single, follow your interests and be brave enough to go deeper with them. Don’t be surprised if love aligns itself to this new you. ♥ Best Crystal – Fluorite ♥ Power Word – Wisdom ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Time for yourself and your interests. Read books, join a course, attend a lecture, go travelling, make space to think deeply and to soak up knowledge.

♥ 6. Wholesome Simplicity – Choose Creativity and Playfulness.  Love expresses itself often through creativity. What do you love to do? Or a better question, what did you ‘used to love to do’? Re-acquaint yourself with lost loves, be that art, craft, music, foods, hobbies, places or activities. Make room for a creative project in your life, or at least rub shoulders with creative spaces for a while. *For couples, find a common creative interest and go do that thing together. For happily singles make room in your life for something that gives you creative joy. For those of you looking for love, join a group or class that supports a creative interest. And watch out for pregnancies – the ultimate form of creativity! ♥ Best Crystal – Any form of Jasper  ♥ Power Word – Explore  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that gets you in that creative mood. Hardware stores, book stores, craft supply shops, kitchen stores, the library, or wherever you can make, create and play.

♥ 7. Pure Soulfood – True Heart Connection.  It’s time to feed your Soul. Who makes your heart sing? Open your heart and connect with them. Spend time with the important people in your life.  It might be your partner, a best friend, a family member or a pet. We sometimes take the love of others for granted.  What can you do to let another know that you value and appreciate them? Don’t forget quality time for yourself too! *If you’re in a relationship, honour and celebrate your togetherness. If you’re happily single, dwell on the things you like about yourself. If you’re looking for love, get clear about what your values are, and what you’re looking for in a partner. Know that you deserve someone who will love you well and just as you are. ♥ Best Crystal – Rose Quartz  ♥ Power Word –Relating ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Togetherness, wherever that works best for you.  Cuddles, time together over a meal or a coffee, phone calls, a movie, spending time doing something you used to do together but don’t get time for anymore. Time communing with a favourite place or hobby.

♥ 8. My Sweet Treat – Stand Up For What You Believe In.  When we sit in our hearts we know what matters. It’s time to stand up for what matters. Maybe you need to start sharing your message or your work. Perhaps it’s time to become an activist or to join a local community group who are working to make one corner of the world a better place. If you chose this oracle the Universe wants you to know that what you care about matters, and that it’s time to give that thing your energy and care. *For couples, have the conversation about what matters to you. Support each other to pursue that thing. For happily singles, go make a stand or start towards that dream of yours. For those of you looking for love, you may well find it on the front line of a protest or at that charity dinner. Go follow your heart and the universe will take care of the rest! ♥ Best Crystal – Carnelian  ♥ Power Word – Empowerment  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that fires your passion and lets you know that your presence matters. Political groups, activist groups, protest groups, organisations or movements for social good, environmental groups, writers groups, support groups, or you on your own, toiling away at your dream!

Want to make the most of your year in 2019?

I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported in the year ahead. Membership to my online group, courses and YOM community – by subscription or a yearly fee – is also available

You can access the Membership, Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Guided Meditation Bundle

I’ve bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.

The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Craft A Visionary Talisman

This online course will help you to select a guiding card for the year ahead, or for a specific project, and then create and activate a Visionary Talisman to anchor helpful energies and qualities to guide and support you in your daily life. It’s practical shamanism, and you’ll learn a range of skills to support you on your spiritual journey. (Of course, if you’re a member of the YOM community you have access to this course for free!) For more information click here or go to my store.

Wishing you a transformative and uplifting week of action. Aim high, give it your best shot, and no matter what you do, be true to YOU!

Lots of love, Nicole  xx

When Love Keeps You Up All Night

“One day you will do things for me that you hate. That is what it means to be family.” ~ Jonathan Safran Foer

I’m late blogging today. We have an elderly family member in care whose health deteriorated last night, and it has taken precedence over everything else.

There have been endless phone calls back and forth in the middle of the night between family members as possibilities are explored, facts gathered and decisions discussed.

We haven’t had much sleep.

It’s all okay in the scheme of things. This is just part of loving someone, part of caring for elders, part of being a family.

So now I’ll make a pot of tea and some breakfast toast, and Ben and I will sit on the verandah with the dogs while the morning still holds a trace of cool. And we’ll wait to see what happens next. That’s all we can do.

Sending much love, Nicole xx

Nicole Update and a Pep Talk!


“I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.”
~ John D. Rockefeller

Hello, Lovelies!
Thanks so much for all the love and positive energy that has flowed my way the past week or so. I’ve felt it, and it has helped.

Firstly, for everyone who asked, the dogs weren’t in the car with us. Thank goodness, because they would have been squashed. The other driver has cracked vertebrae but will be okay. I am stiff and sore but getting better. Ben’s even been back to our wrecked car and retrieved all our personal effects. So that chapter of our lives is over and it’s time to think about new cars, new directions and new eras.

It has been a strange week since the accident. Useful, but strange.

I found that there is a place inside me brimful with fear and memories of prior trauma. It came very close to the surface a few days ago. After seeing the doctor we stopped at the coffee place we had originally been heading to before our car crash. I sat with my coffee in front of me and as I picked it up my hands began shaking so much I had to put the cup down.

My heart raced. My eyes filled with tears. Suddenly, every shitty awful thing that has happened in the past came rushing forward. So many. Too many.

Oh my God, I thought. I’m having a breakdown.

Ben put his big hand on my leg. You okay? he asked.

It broke the spell and I half-laughed with tears running down my face. ‘Just peachy’ I told him. ‘Really, I’m fine.’

Of course I am. I’m still here. Life goes on. Sh*t happens. I roll with it.

It made me see how I have stuffed certain emotions deep down inside me as a coping mechanism. Each time I did it consciously and mindfully so that I could keep existing in the moment – through pain or illness, horror or exhaustion. At each instant I talked to myself (often out loud) and said ‘Come on, Nicole. You can do this. You’ve got this. You’re okay.’ Always at a time when I was most definitely NOT okay.

And do you know what?

Every time I did this I truly was okay. I got through things I never thought I’d survive. I managed. Not always gracefully. Sometimes limping through with no style at all. But I kept going. I kept saying to myself, ‘I’ve got things to do. I’ll deal with this later’.

People have been saying to me lately that they don’t know how I have coped, with so difficult many things one after the other. But the truth is that when you’re deep in the middle of something you find a way through.

Am I going to sit and explore all that pain and trauma stuffed down in me? I’ve already done that on many occasions. I’ve done more self-work and reflection than anyone I know. This is what I’ve discovered. If I endlessly replay all the old hurts and traumas I get stuck there. Instead I always look to HOW I COPED and WHAT I LEARNED.

All that pain in me is actually a strength. From it arises a wild and ferocious warrior women who will carry me through any fire and emerge me out the other side. Sure, maybe battered and singed and partly broken, but still here.

When I came home from the coffee shop I sat in meditation and reached into that place of pain. I saw that beside it and equal to it was a place of calm and wisdom and compassion. That tranquil inner place in me was born of the fire. It didn’t come first, it came as a response. It came BECAUSE I had suffered.

I’m sharing this with you because you may have forgotten that you are stronger than you know. You are stronger than any obstacle, any current circumstance. You’ll get through this too.

Holding you, as ever, in my prayers and meditations, Nicole ❤ xx

Monday Oracle – 11 February 2019

A vision without a strategy remains an illusion. ” ~  Lee Bolman

Hello, Lovelies!

February is a month for action and self-empowerment – for taking your plans and turning them into goals, action steps and habits. It’s a month for speaking your truth and standing your ground. It’s a month for creating positive change, embracing your individuality and investing in yourself and your dreams. It’s a short month that packs a big punch! Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Strategy brings us.

This is an important week. It’s a week for bravely committing to change. It’s a week for boldly choosing a goal, a direction, a potential outcome and then working towards that.

Strategy shows us the need for thinking deeply about HOW we will make this happen, and for breaking our bigger tasks down into bite-sized pieces. We need to play the long game, thinking about our future self even as we live day-by-day.

Strategy also reminds us that someone has already done the thing we want to do, or something like it, so we don’t need to reinvent the wheel. It’s a powerful week for mirroring the good example set by mentors, coaches, individuals or companies whom you’d like to emulate.

The key questions to ask yourself this week:

  • What goals, projects or outcomes do I want to achieve this year or in the next few years?
  • What are the major action steps that will take me from where I am now to my end goal?
  • How can I break those action steps down into even smaller tasks and goals?
  • What bits can I do myself?
  • What bits will need help? And who can help me with that?
  • What is the most logical/sustainable/sensible/practical order for me to undertake these tasks?
  • How will I celebrate my minor and major milestones of accomplishment?

Then take your answers and create your STRATEGY – your plan for achieving these things in your life.

Apply that strategy, tweak and refine it as you go, rest if you need to, and don’t give up. If you work that plan, progress is assured.

Strategy is no good unless it is actioned, so your final question for yourself is: ‘What baby step can I take today that will move me toward my bigger goal?’

DO that thing. Then find another baby step. DO that one. Keep going. You’ve got this!

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Lace Agate supports your Throat Chakra, helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. It’s a great stone for all forms of communication, and it also brings a sense of calm. Sunstone (pictured) helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in your life. Pyrite promotes confidence, good decision-making, courage and the ability to embrace your potential.  Fluorite taps you into your innate creativity, fires up your inspiration and helps you to be honest, objective and innovative with your work.  

Helpful essential oils?

Choose any of the following oils or combine them for a diffuser blend to help you focus, think clearly and structure your ideas and information:  Vetiver, Lemongrass, Lavender and Cypress.

Vetiver is one of my favourite oils. It has a woodsy, earthy fragrance that is very calming and grounding. It will help you to concentrate, soothes anxiety and helps your thoughts become more structured and logical. Lemongrass helps with being open to change and for pattern-breaking.  It’s a beautiful oil to diffuse to promote fresh and positive mental perspectives. Lavender calms an over-busy or stressed mind and opens you to possibility. Cypress will improve your mental focus and clear away those cobwebs in your brain, helping you to problem-solve and work effectively.

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Want to make the most of your year in 2019?

I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported in the year ahead. Membership to my online group, courses and YOM community – by subscription or a yearly fee – is also available

You can access the Membership, Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Guided Meditation Bundle

I’ve bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.

The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Craft A Visionary Talisman

This online course will help you to select a guiding card for the year ahead, or for a specific project, and then create and activate a Visionary Talisman to anchor helpful energies and qualities to guide and support you in your daily life. It’s practical shamanism, and you’ll learn a range of skills to support you on your spiritual journey. (Of course, if you’re a member of the YOM community you have access to this course for free!) For more information click here or go to my store.

Wishing you a transformative and uplifting week of action. Aim high, give it your best shot, and no matter what you do, be true to YOU!

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Strategy’, is from the Peace Oracle. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book.