The Peace And Quiet Of Broken Social Media

“Being connected to everything has disconnected us from ourselves and the preciousness of this present moment.” 
~ L.M. Browning

Hello, Lovelies!

I had a wonderful day yesterday, although apparently I should have been in melt-down. 😊 Facebook was down for most of the day for many business users, or at least most of the functionality was, and the same went for Instagram and WhatsApp.

I should have been stressed. My blog post didn’t cross-post to Facebook. My Instagram post didn’t load. My team and I couldn’t post or comment. Messenger went kind of crazy too.

Apparently this is a disaster!!!

Oh well.

Instead, I took myself for a walk through the laneways of Adelaide and stopped for good chai. I talked to people, read the paper, and made notes in my journal. Later a girlfriend came to pick me up for lunch and deliver me to my conference venue and we talked, shopped and hung out.

It was lovely.

I worked on a new deck of oracle cards and a book about card reading spreads that we are creating for you.

My phone wasn’t constantly pinging me with messages and updates. My crazy inboxes couldn’t load anything else into themselves. Instead I had static and quiet.

I’d forgotten how much I love that unplugged space.

It’s also made me more determined to create more of that in my life.

How about you? Do you get enough unplugged time?

There’s a whole world beyond our screens. And as much as I am grateful for having the world in my pocket and connectivity at my fingertips I find the here-and-now most satisfying too.

Biggest hugs to you, Nicole ❤ xx

30 Things That Changed When I Took An Unplugged Day Every Week

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“My imagination functions much better when I don’t have to speak to people.”
~ Patricia Highsmith

 

In January this year I made an important decision. I have a life where I am almost always on call. Always connected and reachable. Always busy. Even though I work for myself and love my work, and I certainly don’t work every hour of every day, I had reached a point where I was doing some kind of work every day.

So this year I decided to make a change and designated Sunday as my unplugged day.

I made some simple rules for this unplugged day:

  • no work
  • no blogging
  • not even a skerrick of work
  • no social media
  • no checking emails
  • no checking my phone
  • no surfing the net
  • no games on my phone or tablet
  • no saying yes to invitations out of duty or obligation
  • no answering my cell phone (only family, close friends and neighbours have our home phone number)
  • no time at the mall, or shopping or doing other ‘duties’

I admit that it was awkward at first. I was jonesing to check my emails. Or my facebook feed. Or to use my time to catch up on work.

And I did an awful lot of sleeping on my first few Sundays off.

Did I mention the guilt at not being productive?

But after a month or so I settled into having this space just for me and my loved ones. I began to look forward to Sundays. And this is what I discovered:

  1. I began to hear and know my own voice again
  2. I slept better
  3. I began to remember who I was before I got so busy
  4. My priorities changed
  5. My garden got some love
  6. I enjoyed being with my partner rather than resenting him for constantly interrupting my work, or feeling guilty for setting aside work to be with him
  7. During the work week I found myself refreshed and ideas came more easily
  8. There was time for me to do the things I love
  9. There was time to do nothing, if that was what I felt like doing
  10. I began to dream about my future, and to make plans more aligned with my soul energy rather than just a business blueprint
  11. My creativity began to flow again
  12. I began to take better care of my health
  13. I let go of relationships that I’d held on to because of duty or habit or fear of loss
  14. I felt better about myself and my place in the world
  15. I became more content with myself and my life
  16. I was more confident in my decision-making
  17. I connected more deeply with nature
  18. I connected more deeply with my creative projects
  19. I lost interest in constantly checking social media on days other than Sunday
  20. I became more aware of time wasters in my daily life
  21. I needed less stuff and less stimulation
  22. I became more mindful
  23. I began to see relationships more clearly once I got a little thinking space. I saw that some needed more love and time, and others were draining me while giving me nothing in return.
  24. I created more and consumed less
  25. I felt happier
  26. I began to perceive myself differently
  27. My life began to flow better and all manner of synchronicities occurred, or maybe I was just in the space to finally notice them
  28. I read more
  29. I napped and felt good about napping
  30. I began to understand that one unplugged day wasn’t enough and began creating stronger boundaries in my daily life

Enough time has passed now that I am confident in recommending a totally unplugged day to you too. You might be equally surprised and satisfied with your own outcomes.

Much love, Nicole <3  xx

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