“We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses.” ~ Alphonse Karr
Someone commented recently on how lucky I was to have such an awesome life, and that having my life would make anyone happy. This was a person who had only just met me, and knew nothing of my chronic illness or any of the other complexities of my life. I tend to agree that I have an awesome life, despite some of my current circumstances. But I have also come to know that happiness is a choice.
The fact is that I AM happy most of the time, and more and more my life is beginning to be shaped in pleasing ways. But there are still many things in my life that are challenging, and sometimes downright devastating, be it my own health issues, deaths of friends, family or livestock and family illness and decline. None of us are immune to pain and suffering and I certainly have my share.
I came to a realisation years ago that I could either focus on the good things or focus on the bad. Focusing on the good helps you to feel better. Feeling better helps you climb out of the hole. When you feel good you are magnetic to more good. When you feel bad and ooze that vibration of misery and gloom, more of that stuff seems to come your way.
So, understanding that happiness is a choice, a discipline as much as a philosophy, has helped me to heal, to heal relationships, and to attract more love and friendship into my life. I’m not saying it’s easy to choose happiness, but it’s ALWAYS better than the alternative.
Make a little time for some self-reflection. Take your journal, and over the next few weeks carefully and honestly answer the following questions?
Who supports me in my life?
What have I always been good at?
What activities or things make me feel good about myself?
How often do I experience these?
Does my home environment reflect who I am?
Does my work environment reflect who I am?
How can I make small changes to help my surroundings mirror the inner me?
Who erodes my sense of self? How do they do this? What can I do about it?
What six small things can I do right now, in this next week, to reflect my inner worth and personality?
What ten things have I always wanted to do, and that will be beneficial to my Soul and Sense of Self, but that I have not done yet?
Now use these answers to start making some changes. Thinking is always useful, but DOING is what makes the difference! Choose to focus on the positive and lift yourself up. I promise it makes a difference.
“Connecting with yourself and knowing yourself is a monumental and life changing event.”
~ Bryant McGill
It’s the final day of our Accelerated Channelling retreat today, although we still have another month together of online lessons and sharing.
It’s also the final day of your Mini-Retreat, although you still have a whole lifetime of being able to work with your Higher Self, your Guides and Angels and you, of course!
We are at the beginning of a new energetic era. Everything is faster. Spiritual connection comes quickly. Psychic abilities develop easily. This is an era of communication, collaboration, integration and balanced energy.
In this new era you cannot have spiritual and psychic development without also having personal development. This is a journey of integrated growth. Of being in alignment with your heart, your values and your soul calling.
So on this last day of our retreat, I am calling on you to sit quietly with yourself and feel into that space within. Psychic development must be about your own journey first.
Today sit awhile with your soul. Call upon your Higher Self and your Guides and Angels if needed. Use your journal and your cards. Sit in nature and allow yourself the gift of deep listening. And then consider these questions. Let the answers come, and then sit again, just listening. Let the awareness and the questions and answers sit with you. Don’t feel that you need to act or to understand all at once. Clarity and wisdom often take time.
Where am I moving in the right direction? (Celebrate this and then go deeper with this direction. Where else can you go? What comes next?)
Where can I end things?
Where can I begin?
What are my gifts?
How can I best serve myself, my loved ones and humanity?
Thank you so much for joining us as we have journeyed through the past five days. The remainder of this week and next are a fabulous time for further insights, self enquiry and clarity of direction. I hope that you are able to make use of the energies to deepen your connection to soul and source.
Holding you, as ever, in my thoughts and meditations, Nicole xx
“In writing, you must kill your darlings.” ~ William Faulkner
Welcome to Week Three of our journal challenge. If you missed the start you can go here to catch up on the tools you’ll need, and here to do Week One’s activities.
This week, starting on August 9, holds a strong and supportive energy for killing things off! No, I don’t mean actually murdering anyone. Instead, we are being supported to step away from things that don’t work for us, especially those seductive ‘safe’ things, the ‘chasing the money but no heart in it’ things, or the things we do to please others.
In writing there is a wonderful expression known as killing your darlings. Killing your darlings is all about letting go of a character, a scene, a concept that might have been the thing that started the whole novel, but that no longer has a place now our story is done. When we kill the darling and remove them from the story our work becomes stronger, clearer and more vital. But it’s hard to do, because we are emotionally attached to our darlings. Often we had such high hopes for them.
Most of us have a few darlings hanging around. Not characters, but ideas, relationships, beliefs, behaviours and items that we cling to even as they pull us down, or under. The things that drain our energy without ever giving anything back. The things we worry that in giving up, we might lose ourselves. Truth is, the only self we will lose is the imaginary self we are attached to, that prevents us from being real, and living here and now.
You know it. The investment or decision we can’t let go of that just keeps costing us money. The guitar under our bed which we will never play, although we love the fantasy that one day we might. The pottery wheel, covered in cobwebs in the back shed.
The project we’re helping someone else with that stops us working on our own. Even though we so love the other person and they are so very grateful. The job we do for all that money, that we hate with every fibre of our being.
The too-tight, too-old or too-low-self-worth clothes we shrug into, telling ourselves we still look okay. The familiar and comforting voice in our head that tells us, one day when all these other things are done we will start. But we have to get the (insert appropriate darling here) finished/built/established first.
And then there are the darlings we tell ourselves we love, and all the while our inner five-year-old is stomping their foot and saying No, Don’t wanna! We should listen to that wise, brave clear inner child more often. They know… Give that thing the boot too!
When we kill off our darlings we are left with space, integrity and a clearer, truer direction can begin to emerge. It’s a kind of de-cluttering of our souls.
Each week of this nine week challenge will follow the same format:
We will begin with the short guided meditation for the week, using your guidance stone. During this meditation you’ll be given a colour to work with for the week, and a word or phrase.
We will choose an oracle card to give us inspiration and direction for the week ahead
We will spend ten minutes (or more if desired!) to complete our weekly journal prompt.
We will spend a few moments at the end of our day in gratitude.
1. Guided Meditation
Take your guidance stone and sit or lie quietly. Then simply follow the sound of my voice. You’ll need seven minutes.
When the meditation is complete, write down your power colour and your power word or phrase in your journal.
How can you use your Power Word this week? Write a few ideas, based on your word. Trust whatever comes and write it down. Don’t overthink it.
What does your Colour mean to you? What words or ideas does it provoke? Write them down. This week, use this colour to boost your energy. Shut your eyes for thirty seconds and breathe it into your body whenever you feel a bit flat or low. Wear it as clothing. Choose flowers in your colour. Eat food that colour. Be creative with it.
2. Oracle Card
Take your cards, offer up a small prayer that whatever you do be for your Highest Good, and then shuffle the deck. As you’re shuffling, ask the question‘What do I most need to focus on this week?’ Say it out loud or hold it as a thought in your head. Either will work.
Choose one card. How you choose is up to you. Split the deck. Fan them out. Top or bottom. Dive right in. There is no right or wrong.
Now look at your card and hold your guidance stone in your non-writing hand. Really look at the card. Don’t use the book or the ‘proper’ meaning. We are being intuitive here, people! What stands out for you in the picture? What thoughts and ideas do the images provoke? Take a minute or two and write those thoughts down. I know, you might feel like you’re just making it all up. That’s okay. Write anyway. Trust that there is a part of you that is wise and that has been waiting for this chance to speak with your conscious mind.
This week I had a repeat of the same oracle card I chose last week. I sat with it for a while, and then saw how much the messages of the card were still relevant for me, and also how they were evolving. Once again I didn’t see the friendly face in the top right of the card until I was done writing. Oh yes, I thought to myself. Help is always there, but I so often forget to ask! Here’s how the beginning of this week’s journal looks for me:
3. Week Two Journal Prompt
This week we’re going to explore what darlings we need to let go of in our lives. Start your journal writing with this prompt and then let your heart take you where it will.
I love the idea of it, but my life would work so much better if I finally let go of….
Now try this one:
The truth is, I don’t really love…
How much you write is up to you. Do this once, or write a little every day. Whatever works for you. Hold your guidance stone in your non-writing hand or place it on your lap or beside you while you write.Genuinely seek to connect with what matters to you.
You might have big things or little things. Things you know, or that completely blindside you.
You’ll know when you’ve written enough.
I’ll show you my first page. I actually ended up writing heaps and heaps for this one:
What you don’t see is the big lecture I gave myself on page two, about perfectionism, and my total need to kill that darling dead! I know some of you will relate. 🙂
Using the Gratitude Rock:
The Gratitude Rock anchors positive energy and gratitude at the end of every day. You can carry your stone with you, or leave it beside your bed. At night, before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock in your hand.
As you hold the stone say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
Now here’s the fun bit – imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this journalling challenge with you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.
Say Thank you. I Bless You. I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.
Happy exploring through words this week! Let your Power Word and colour guide you. Think on the wisdom you’ve taken from your oracle card. Use it all! And remember to pop over to facebook and let us know how you’re going. I always love to hear from you.
Who doesn’t love a gift? One of my favourite realisations around journalling was that your wise self can present your conscious (and sometimes very confused or narrow-thinking) mind with all manner of gifts – through the form of realisations, guidance and new ideas.
Today we’re going to explore some of the treasure that is locked away inside you. You might be helped by your subconscious, your inner child, your higher self, or divine guidance. But no matter where that help comes from, trust that sometimes, with just a simple pen and paper, you really can map out a new future for yourself; one with clearer direction, that is more fulfilling and that better uses your talents and gifts.
Start by writing this at the beginning of your page:
I trust that within me are the answers I need.Within my heart lies a map to guide me along life’s many roads. I am open to answers.I expect to find solutions. I am ready to change.Miracles happen every day.New ideas can come to anyone.I am open to receiving my truth.I am excited by the possibilities within my reach.
Now use any of the prompts below, to begin unwrapping these gifts from yourself to you. Pick any one journal prompt that appeals to you (or repels your) from beside each image of a gift. That way you’ll get seven answers. Don’t expect to ‘know’ these answers. Just start writing and see what happens…
One of the best ways for me to feel grounded is to
The easiest change I can make around my financial situation is
One person I really need to say to no to is
A tiny, achievable little business idea I could do part-time from home, and that would really suit me well is
Music that always makes me feel good includes
The most satisfying way for me to spend spare time in a creative way right now would be
What my body most needs right now to feel healthy and energised is
If I was to work with one creative idea right now. the one most suited to my own talents and abilities, I would
I’d forgotten, but one of the things that best expresses me, and that I don’t do any more is
The area I need to pay attention to, so I can get my stress under control would have to be
Some of the best chores and responsibilities for me to delegate include
If there is one thing I want to achieve, it is
The thing that would make me feel better about myself within the next six months would be
Deep in my heart, I know that
Given a chance, I could shine at
If I was to put my energy towards one thing it needs to be
I am happiest when
If I was to leave a legacy, I would like it to be
A terrific hobby for me would be
It’s a huge project, but if I start in this small corner over here, I could definitely
The things that most nurture and fill me up are
My deepest ambition is to
If I let go of
The thing I most want to share with the world is
Once, I was shown
My inner guidance is pointing towards
This keeps coming up for me, that I need to
Every time I do this, I could keep doing it forever. I feel so positive and excited every time I begin to
In ten years time, when I look back, I want to be able to say
I keep forgetting how much I love to
In a perfect world I would be
My deepest, most carefully held wish is that
I try to hide from myself the fact that
If I had some good advice for me right now, that would help me get back on track, it is
And for a final piece of believe-in-yourself-and-your-dreams wisdom, watch this…