A Grateful Heart Is A Magnet For Miracles – Monday Oracle 9 October 2017

“When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” 
~  Anthony Robbins

Hello, Lovelies!

If you read my forecast for October, you’ll know that it’s a month of energies of love, friendship, community and togetherness. It’s also a month for getting creative and for self-acceptance.

Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts which the oracle card Abundance brings us.

So, what awareness does Abundance bring us this week?

We’re reminded that in order for things to stay within our circle we must treat them well, and with respect. When we care for what we have it strengthens its connection to us. If we treat it badly or with disregard, the connection weakens or falls away.

This week Abundance encourages us to put energy into the things that matter to us. That might be our marriage, our children, our friendships. It could be our money, business or art. By paying attention, by expressing gratitude, by taking care and giving time we nourish these connections, and grow these things that we care about. The Law of Attraction would explain this as ‘Whatever you put your attention to, multiplies in your life.’ As we pay attention we also find deeper connection and a stronger flow of energy and inspiration. (Conversely, it is also important not to keep telling yourself the old stories of hardship and hard-done-by. Or guess what will keep showing up?)

This week’s Abundance energies also apply to our relationship with ourselves. We’re called to nourish and take care of ourselves this week, and to give ourselves the time and attention we need. Look for areas where you are stressed and out of balance, and start there. Clean the mess, create some breathing space, attend to the things that are worrying you. We can never be completely in flow if we are held back by the energy of things left neglected and undone. These old energies act like drains that siphon off our enthusiasm and life force. As soon as we make a start with dealing with problems areas it creates a shift, and then opportunity and ideas can begin to show up again in our lives.

Above all, find time for gratitude and for appreciation this week. What do you want to have multiplied in your life? Direct your thoughts and visualisations toward those things. Create a beautiful corner, a lovely meal, or style an outfit that uplifts you. Think about the existing blessings in your life and feel that appreciation ripple out from you, knowing that it will now attract more of that same energy back into your life. Become a magnet to new possibilities and then open to allowing these energies in your life. We don’t always need to know how to create a situation in our lives – all we need to do is be open to it, trust that it can be possible and then keep working on the things we can do. In that space of action and allowing, miracles can happen.

Supportive crystals this week?

Orange Calcite connects you in to inspiration and is a wonderful beginner stone for tuning in to the spiritual realms. Expect accelerated connection with your Guides! If I could choose only one stone this week it would be Orange Calcite. Red Jasper is a stone for mental, physical and emotional rejuvenation. Deeply grounding, it helps you connect to your heart and your truth. Fluorite helps us to be honest, objective and innovative with our creativity. Pearls nurture us, helping us to heal the pain of breaking up and moving on from an idea, situation or relationship. Each of these stones can be worn, held, placed into a work space or popped into your pocket.

 

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Young Living’s Clarity and Believe blends for October. Use Clarity for focus, inspiration and breakthroughs. Dab a drop on your Crown Chakra and the soles of your feet, inhale directly or add to your diffuser. Use Believe when you are doubting yourself and want to find your confidence and self-belief. It’s great to inhale directly, diffuse or add a drop to Heart Chakra and inner wrists. A few drops added to your bath make for magical self-care.

Want to make your own blend? Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own for you this month, but they also make a delicious combination for diffusing. Frankincense elevates our mood and promotes spiritual connection and intuition, Lavender keeps us in flow and relaxed,  Ylang Ylang opens our hearts and is supportive when we feel anxious or overwhelmed, and Bergamot for joy, gratitude and optimism. To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Abundance’, is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

 

The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 28 November

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“May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back, the way it is with children.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

 

Hello, Friends!

Welcome to the final days of these fabulous November energies.

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead.

‘Totality’ is from the Osho Zen Tarot deck, and it heralds  a week of flow, good timing and helpful people.

It’s a week where you need to act on intuition. Trust your reflexes. Go with your gut. Know that the first thought will be the right thought.

It’s a week that favours completion of tasks. You’ll find that it’s the kind of week where you can get the impossible done. All it requires of you is focus and commitment. This is not a week to be wishy-washy.

This is a week where the pieces will start to come together for you.

It’s a week where you’ll get more done if you work with a team.

It’s a week where your unwavering commitment to a goal or a dream will see you making progress or experiencing breakthroughs beyond what you conceived as possible.

Within this week’s pattern of advancement and completion we will leave some things behind. Or they will bid us adieu.

That’s okay.

Everything has its season.

Be gracious about these endings. Don’t try to hold on to things that have finished their cycle. Many relationships, situations and patterns of behaviour will come to an end in the lead-up to 2017. It’s their time.

Stay in flow. Be open to what comes next. Be open to the possibilities that this positive change will bring for you.

This week the energies of change will make it hard for you to delude yourself about your true feelings. Situations and solutions will become clear. You’ll feel compelled to do something.

Trust.

Act.

Stay in flow.

It’s a big week for commitment. Saying ‘Yes’. Saying ‘I love you’. Saying ‘Let’s do this!’.

Be brave and jump in!

 

 

 

You’ll feel a return to energy this week. You’ll bounce back stronger. You’ll be able to look the world in the eye and say ‘I’m going places. Come with me or get out of my way.’

Flow with it – whatever it is. Give yourself to the task, the idea, the project, the relationship.

Commit, commit, commit.

You’ll amaze yourself with what changes and gets done!

 

Supportive crystals this week? Fluorite, Amazonite, Citrine and Tiger Eye.  Helpful essential oils? Young Living’s Clarity essential oil blend, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of cedarwood, lemon, ylang ylang and bergamot.

Wishing you a wonderful week and holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations. I can’t wait to see where this week takes you.

Nicole❤ xx

The Unworthiness Issue OR Why am I freaking out when things are finally going so well?

Image from Klopp

Image from Klopp

“It seemed so natural, receiving it, watching others receive it, assuming that the approval of others determined our worth. Then one day we found we couldn’t feel any worth without it. We’d forgotten that we were gifted in ways unimaginable, created with a unique purpose like no other, that people are hurting, that we beat that same hurt and we can help them. There is no one as valuable as you. Unlearn that old lie.” 
~ Lee Goff

A client rang me in tears recently. She’s in the entertainment industry, and in the past few years her life has changed radically. In a good way. She has an agent, contracts, a tour. After years of obscurity she is doing so well.

So why the tears? She found herself in a luxury foreign hotel, hoarding the soaps, tiny bottles of shampoo and shower caps. Her suitcase was stuffed full with them. She confessed that deep down she’s expecting the ride to end at any second. Right as she’s in production of another album. Right as her sales are going through the roof. Right as she’s finally got a team of people who believe in her and who are carefully and wisely managing her and her career.

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Image from Elliot

And then there’s the woman who has turned her life around. She’s kicked the loser boyfriends to the kerb, ended years of battles with various addictions and co-dependency and her life is wonderfully on track. Now she’s manifested this great new man. A really fabulous new man. He has his life together, he adores her, he wants her in his life and he doesn’t mind how long she takes to get used to that idea. She wants it too, with all her heart. But she’s terrified, and she told me she doesn’t know what to do…

What do both of these women, and countless of my other clients and friends, have in common?

Deep-seated unworthiness issues.

Those issues might have been patently apparent at one time in their lives. Back when things really WERE bad. When they were in abusive relationships, caught in addiction, broke, starving, homeless, going nowhere or any of the other very visible outward signs of things not being right.

They will even put their hands up now and own how bad it was. “Yes, that was me, Nicole. I was a mess. I was broken. I was making bad choices. Nothing was going right…”

Or maybe they lived with broken and messed up. Or were parented by broken and messed up.

Then they pulled themselves up by their boot straps. They got help or wised up and sorted things out. They started making better choices, and got rid of or distanced themselves from the broken and the messed-up.

They could look themselves and the world in the eye and say “I’ve changed.” Or they could look the world in the eye and say “that other shame/person/situation does not  or no longer defines me”. Which is the same thing.

But is it true?

The litmus test for anyone’s self-worth isn’t how we cope with the hard stuff. Both of these women, and most of the other people I know in similar situations, KNOW how to cope with the hard stuff. Another ratbag boyfriend comes along, they recognise the signs and boot him to the kerb. Begin to get addicted to some new thing. See the pattern. Break the pattern and come back to a place of healthy managing again.

It might not look like it once your life gets to a better place, but it’s still shades of the same thing. I used to be broken and messed up. I lived with broken and messed up. Now I know how to recognise and deal with broken and messed up. And there’s the problem.

I still only know how to work and live along the spectrum of broken and messed up. I have the skill set to thrive in attracting and then avoiding or managing various degrees of some aspect of my life always being out of balance. How will I cope and succeed if the rules change and everything starts going my way? I don’t trust myself in that unfamiliar environment, even though it’s what I want for myself.

Why? Part of me is still very uncomfortable with the whole concept of worthiness. I don’t know HOW to sit in the allowing of life becoming better and better, with my personal and professional relationships actually being functional and healthy. I don’t know how to be in flow. Flow is terrifying. Everything going right for me is terrifying. Because I only know broken and messed up, and that territory is safe and familiar and I can shine there. If I’m fighting broken and messed up, and I’m beating it, then I must be worthy, right? I’m earning that worthiness.

I don’t know how to shine when it’s all going my way. It makes me uneasy. I don’t know the rules. I can’t control this new space. Therefore I keep looking over my shoulder waiting for something to go wrong. I’m much more at ease in dealing with things going wrong and then pulling myself up by my bootstraps. It’s what I do. It’s what other people know and respect/admire/value/ me for too. Being a fighter and a hard worker and a survivor has shaped who I am.

In fact, I can get SO panicked and uncomfortable with this feeling of ease and flow that I will find a way to sabotage myself back into a little of that broken-ness because that’s where I feel safe.

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Image from kulfoto

When we have a self-worth issue, we put the speed brake on ourselves. We do anything we can to slow down our acceleration into that better place, and often we don’t even realise that we’re doing it.

We limit ourselves. We talk ourselves down from that scary high place. We come back to a level that feels more manageable.

What I want to encourage you about today is expansion. I want you to embrace standing in that place where the view is unfamiliar, and to be brave enough not to turn around and run.

When we’re growing and moving forward it will always feel uncomfortable to start with. And you’ve already been here when you’ve made smaller positive changes in the past. What you’re starting to get now is momentum. With momentum everything happens faster. We attract more synchronicities, opportunities, good relationships, sound ideas.

The speed of the positive change can feel a little or a lot overwhelming. We will always grow out of our comfort zone, adjust, get cosy, and then expand and start the process over again.

Give your self-worth time to catch up. Trust that you were born worthy, and that better and better can happen for you if you are open to allowing that energy into your life.

Stop worrying about fear of failure, fear of success, letting others down, letting yourself down, being ready or whatever other story you keep telling yourself.

Instead, practice awareness. Be present. Stay in the moment rather than clinging to the past or projecting too far into the future.

In the moment, our situation is always manageable. One breath at a time. One positive moment at a time. One bright new possibility at a time.

I have so much faith in you. You can do this!

Much love to you,  ♥ Nicole xx

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“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
~ Buddha