Why are you following this path?

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Image by Wallsheer

“You’ve got this life and while you’ve got it, you’d better kiss like you only have one moment, try to hold someone’s hand like you will never get another chance to, look into people’s eyes like they’re the last you’ll ever see, watch someone sleeping like there’s no time left, jump if you feel like jumping, run if you feel like running, play music in your head when there is none, and eat cake like it’s the only one left in the world!”
~ C. JoyBell C.


Why are you doing this thing?


Are you interested in this path? Did you choose it for yourself?

Life is short, and there are many roads that might take us where we want to go. Is that path you’re on working for you? Are you enjoying the journey, or at least satisfied with the end destination?

It doesn’t matter what path you choose, only that the choice satisfies something within you. If it doesn’t, it is perfectly fine to choose another path, and I encourage you to do so, even though change can be scary and confronting.

What sense is there in choosing boredom, mediocrity or misery if there are other alternatives? You came here to LIVE this life. It’s always going to be an adventure into the unknown.

I know that for some of you the path is hard right now.

Take a moment and tune in with your inner wisdom.

Why are you here?

Why are you doing the hard yards while everyone else is out having fun, why are you standing by this relationship, sticking to this brutal regime, writing this book, looking for a better way, putting together your website, slogging it out through University, spending all your free time painting, working out, clocking massive hours at your job, adding to your portfolio, turning up each day?

If you don’t know the answer to that, it’s time to re-evaluate your life!

If you have an answer and it’s a big enough WHY then I know you will get through it.

There is nothing like love, a dream or a deep-seated core belief to keep us going, and to give our feet the energy to keep walking that path, even when we have nothing left in the tank.

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Image from Beyond Rubies

What if you are walking this path for ‘success’? To be a ‘winner’ in your field, to have fame and fortune.

Those are reasons that sit outside yourself, rather than in the marrow of your being.

Please, don’t tell me you are only in it for the money.

Please, don’t tell me it’s because you want to be on Oprah, to get your five minutes of fame, to be the next big thing.

Fame and fortune can be fleeting. And there’s no guarantee they’ll make you happy. We tend to take our problems where-ever we go…

If your motivator is a vague catch-all of mega yachts, mega millions and other intangible things, that vision won’t fuel you when the going gets hard.

And the going always gets hard at some point.

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Image from BRW

This is YOUR life.

If you want to meander along a gentle path of home, family, a day job and truly meaningful days off, then live that path with joy.

If you’re happy with your life, stay on the path you’re on.

If your vision is fame and fortune for no real reason, and as a result of no deep-seated passion then you need to choose a better path or a bigger WHY.

But if you’re one of those people who has a burning desire within you, a compulsion to do something and keep doing it, a need to serve others, a vision you can’t let go of, a drive to make yourself over, an inspired dream, a sense of destiny then put energy into that.

Here’s the truth of the matter:

You’ll never set the world on fire if your heart’s not in it.

The converse of that is this – if you live with passion and commitment, if you hold to the path where others give up because YOU JUST CAN’T STOP DOING THIS THING AND BEING THIS THING, you will get there.

This life is yours. You choose any path you want. You can change mid-journey. You can change any time you want!

For some of you, that path was lit up bright in your heart and coursing through your veins before you even got here. You’ll be full of this strange compulsion to follow a particular destiny. You’ll feel that urge deep within you to BE something or to DO something.

You’ll know if that’s you.

And if it is, my best advice is this: Don’t give up. Fuel yourself with that dream. Make it the brightest star on your horizon. Deep inside you already know it was what you were born to do. Oprah and mega-bucks had nothing to do with it. It’s about destiny.

Live your Dream. Why else are you here? Live that Dream!

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Image by wollymood at deviantART

Defining Your Priorities in Life

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Life is short. Life is precious. And in our lives we need to be able to fit into a limited amount of time the things that will satisfy us, grow us, and make us happy.

So many people that I know have this terrible sense of never having enough time, and never getting around to the things that are important to them. Those dreams and desires keep getting relegated to ‘tomorrow’, and as we all know, tomorrow never comes.

If you’re in a place of overwhelm and exhaustion, you might find this post helpful to get you started: Simplicity is a Choice  You can also read about how I got my own personal priority act together here: The gift of impermanence OR live like you’re dying

So how do we work out what’s important to us? Journalling is one of the best ways I have found for clearing out the clutter in our minds and tidying our thoughts onto a page.  Today’s post will help you start that process of clarifying what matters to you, and how you want your life to look.

Journal Activity:

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It’s important to re-orient yourself back to your own internal priorities for this exercise, rather than the pressures of your life the way it is right now.

If possible, take yourself somewhere away from work or home – maybe a library, a coffee shop or a park, even the back yard or a veranda could work. Having surroundings that are not associated with chores, duties or your to-do-list will be very helpful for this process. Allocate at least ten minutes for this journal task, but note that if you haven’t been giving yourself much time lately you may need considerably longer.  The investment in yourself will be worth it!

Start by writing this passage into your journal or diary. Feel free to use coloured inks, stickers, doodles or anything else that makes your heart sing.

My life is precious to me, and I recognise that it’s a gift.  Before I was even born I was dreaming of the things I could do, experience and discover in this lifetime.

Inside me is a strong wisdom about what matters to me. My heart, my soul, my gut – they all have messages for my mind to hear and understand – and I’m really ready to listen.

More than that, I’m ready for change.  I‘m ready to act upon my priorities.  My life matters to me.  My time is now! 

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Choose any of the following journal starters and then begin writing:

  • This idea in the back of my mind is
  • I feel unbelievably pressured because
  • All I really want to be doing is
  • If I had more time I would
  • The thing that lights me up inside is
  • I know I need to
  • If I won a million dollars, suddenly I would be able to
  • My biggest regret is that
  • If I could find a way to support myself I would
  • Ever since I was little I have dreamed of
  • The secret hope inside me is
  • I get a huge surge of relief every time I think about
  • My whole world would change if
  • It makes me outrageously happy to think about
  • People have always said that I
  • When I look back on my life, I’d like to be able to say that
  • The things on my personal bucket list are

We never know what life has in store for us. You’ll never please everyone, but the one person we often forget to please is ourselves. You are worthy, valuable and you came to this life to live your dreams. Maybe it’s time to honour that in some small way. Live without regrets! Live each day not so that you can cross it off and breathe a sigh of weary relief, but so that it counts for you, so that it matters to you and to your dreams. ♥

PS – Nickelback says it so well… ↓