Choosing Your Perspective

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“If we are always arriving and departing, it is also
true that we are eternally anchored. One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.”
~ Henry Miller

 

I have never been much good at arranging flowers. I’ve never had the eye for it.

That is, until I found myself suddenly vision-impaired as a side-effect of some medication.

Usually my friend Christine arranges flowers from my garden for me when she comes to clean my house. It’s such a simple thing, but her arrangements always give me so much pleasure. Whenever I tried to create an arrangement of my own they never looked as pleasing as Chrissie’s.

While I have been in the city, recovering from surgery, there have been no flowers in our little farmhouse. So now I am home I decided to have another go and do it myself.

It was easier this time. Everything is blurry, so all I had to do was cut some blooms from the garden, choose a vase (an old teapot!) and then begin. I found myself arranging them by placing a few taller flowers and then filling in the holes with colour. It became all about the colour rather than the individual flowers or their shapes. It became about emotion and flow rather than about getting it right, and suddenly I had a vase full of flowers that spoke to my heart.

All I’d needed was to change how I saw things.

It’s amazing what a simple change of perspective can do for you.

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These flowers on my kitchen windowsill are in honour of my friend, Kate, who passed away 6 years ago. Every year on October 26 I pick the first gardenias for her. This year for the first time there was a red rose too. I felt that shift from grief to acceptance. I still miss her madly but I walk this world with the ghosts of so many departed loved ones at my side now that it has become oddly comforting.

 

I still can’t see very well (I have about 20% vision in one eye and 50% vision in the other) but I am back doing most of the things I always do – with some necessary modifications. I’ve also had some bonuses. As I watched a wedgetail eagle soar above our farm yesterday I realised that the giant bird left a momentary energy trail in the sky, which I could see as a river of colour behind it, mapping its flight path through the sky. It was breathtakingly beautiful.

This doesn’t mean that suddenly I am okay with vision loss. It’s been incredibly hard. At least once a day I teeter at the edge of a dark deep hole. It’s only recently I haven’t fallen in several times a day. Still not a day goes by that I don’t shed a quiet tear or become momentarily swamped by misery. Truth is, I would much rather have my sight.

But crying and feeling bad doesn’t help. It doesn’t solve anything. And after a while it just gets boring. It is what it is, and adapting works better for me than stubbornly resisting what is and being only okay if it all changes back to how it was before.

I do my best to focus on what I can do. I look at how I can adapt and keep moving forward. I search out alternatives and new solutions. I change my paradigm. Looking from a different perspective always helps. It’s one of my best coping skills.

How about you?

Where in your life right now would you benefit from a perspective shift?

Lots of people have been telling me how panicked they are, or how regretful, that this year is almost over and they never got done what they’d hoped to. You can keep looking at life from that perspective, but it essentially means that you give up on your cherished dreams and outcomes. It’s almost over – I’ll stop trying. It’s almost over – there’s no point in even starting.

What if you change that perspective? There are two months left until year’s end. That is time enough to create change and to forge a different result for yourself.

If you’d like to join us for a month of dedicated perspective-shifting and outcome creation, sign up for #GeShiDoMo – our November-long program for creating and completing goals – and finish 2016 strong. I’ve designed this program so that if you are really stuck you can ease back into momentum again. There are choices that allow for all kinds of goal-setting and achievement, and a special category for those of you who actually need to have less DOING and more BEING in order to find a path back to self-care and life balance.

There is always time to change our perspective and try life from a new angle. I know you’ll be glad that you did!

Sending much love to you, Nicole <3 xx

flowers from my garden

The Power of Positive Self Talk

“You may be the only person left who believes in you, but it’s enough. It takes just one star to pierce a universe of darkness. Never give up.”
~ Richelle E. Goodrich

 

Sometimes I have to pull out everything in my bag of tricks in order to rise above my current circumstances. Like right now, flat on my back in bed right when I’d been planning a million other things…

One thing I have found invaluable in that bag of tricks is simply talking out loud to myself.

I know. That’s what crazy people do. Right?

That may well be, but research shows that talking to yourself can have a profound positive impact on your motivation and coping skills.

You might have read my blog post earlier this year about being in resistance to choosing my One Big Thing for 2016, where I asked myself Nicole, what’s really going on? You’ll notice that I talk to myself and call myself by name.

I have talked to myself out loud for many years through my illness and despair. Almost always, the words I have used are as a coach, encouraging myself…

Nicole, you can do this. Nicole, you are stronger than this. Come on, Nic, get up and keep going. Nic, you’ll find a way. Nic, you’ll heal this. You’ll get past this.

Talking to yourself is also known as self-talk. All of us run a continuous dialogue with ourselves, but it’s usually in our heads. And often, we aren’t very supportive or kind to ourselves. But when we do start to harness the power of speaking with kindness and encouragement to ourselves, things can really change.

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Image by serg_dibrova

Studies show that speaking out loud and shifting from using the pronoun ‘I’ to addressing as ‘you’ has a powerful impact on our self-regulatory behaviours, beliefs and actions. To amplify the effect further, call yourself by your name.

Talking out loud to ourselves is the same as having someone else talk to us. It engages a different part of our brain. We listen and consume the message in a completely different way to the way we pay attention to a thought. Talking out loud cuts through our mental chatter and gets the message noticed. And addressing ourselves in the third person (*you) rather than the first ( *I ) moves us away from fear, which clouds our judgement and prevents us from thinking clearly.

Research has proven that talking out loud to yourself can:

  1. Reduce pain scores
  2. Increase coping skills
  3. Improve state of mind
  4. Increase emotional and physical resilience
  5. Improve focus and attention
  6. Heighten the learning state
  7. Strengthen determination
  8. Speed healing
  9. Create and maintain a positive outlook
  10. Build self-acceptance and self-esteem
  11. Better manage stress
  12. Improve physical and emotional health

The way we talk to ourselves matters. It is a simple way that we can help and support ourselves.

We can tell ourselves a different story – one that overwrites the narrative of not-good-enough or never-changing that we (or others) may have been telling ourselves for years.

Speak your name out loud, and give yourself the words that can help you change your life. Talk yourself through the difficulties, the decisions, the hard times. Be your own wise coach and cheer squad. I promise it will make a positive difference in your day.

All my love, Nicole <3 xx

 

Rewarding Yourself Is A Good Thing

“The reward of a work is to have produced it; the reward of effort is to have grown by it.”
~ Antonin Sertillanges, The Intellectual Life: Its Spirit, Conditions, Methods

“To celebrate the production of the work and the personal growth created by the effort is a wonderful thing. Stopping to mark a personal achievement can be a defining and cherished moment, and yet it is a moment so often wasted in our hurry to get to the next goal.” ~ Nicole Cody

 

Many of my clients are high achievers. But many of them have something in common which makes me feel quite sad:

They never stop to celebrate their achievements!

I don’t just encourage celebrating when you achieve a goal. I actively encourage you to choose a future reward as you are starting out – something that you will gift yourself in return for completing that goal – so that the way you celebrate your achievement also becomes a motivating force to help you get there.

Sometimes, having a reason to do something helps you to actually get that thing done.

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Image from Pinterest

Celebration creates an attitude of gratitude and puts your awareness on what is good in your life.

Choosing an event or reward for the completion of some activity into the future acts like dangling a delicious carrot in front of you. It will help keep you motivated on the hard days and the dark days.

Completing the event or reaching the milestone and then celebrating with your chosen reward reinforces the behaviour of striving and working consistently toward your goal. And of course, the act of reward or celebration helps you to sit and absorb the moment. It allows you to acknowledge to yourself ‘Hey, I did that!’.

Think about what’s happening in your life right now. Is there anything you’re working towards? How are you going to reward yourself when you get there?

It might be something you need to get done today. Maybe you’ll treat yourself to a walk in the park, or a coffee at your favourite cafe afterward.

Maybe it’s something bigger. Completing study. Retiring. Achieving a fitness or health goal. Paying off the house or credit card. Finishing a book you’ve been writing. Holding an exhibition. Finishing chemotherapy. Getting five years of bookwork and taxes up to date. The kids finally leaving home.

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Image from photobucket

Perhaps it’s time to start something.

No matter, what it is, and whether the idea or project is in its infancy, or whether you’re midway there, think about how you could celebrate the completion point. Choose something that excites you.

At my encouragement, a friend of mine recently celebrated completing her PhD with a trip to Venice. When she committed to her PhD Carol was only part way through an undergraduate degree which she was doing at night by correspondence while she cleaned houses for a living to support her children. The whole time she was studying Carol squirreled spare cash away, had garage sales and sold things on ebay to add to the money that would pay for her trip. Most of Carol’s money went on rent and looking after the kids. Her Venice fund was a jar of dollar coins and silver. But it was her dream too. So she kept feeding that dream. Venice and doctorate went hand in hand after a while, and all her family and friends knew about her plans. Many of us gifted her funds towards the trip at her graduations.

Achieving the PhD was a huge thing for Carol. She was the first of her family to finish school, or to go on to university. She studied after her marriage broke up, and while she raised three kids as a single mum. By the time she was doing her PhD her kids were at university too.

She sent me a beautiful email from Venice. Here’s some of what she said, below:

“For the first time in my life I am acknowledging what an enormous effort all of this has been. Because, you know, at the start, part of me thought that achieving my PhD and going in Venice was some kind of fantasy, the sort of thing that only happened to other people, and not to Carol from Woodridge.

As I toured the canals in my Gondola today, I realised how far I’d come, and how many sacrifices I have made, this housewife from Australia who now has a doctorate and a future. Nic, this is also the first time I have ever done anything for me. Until now, it’s all been for my kids, and I wouldn’t change any of that, none at all. But to sit here, in Venice, drinking wine and eating pasta, filling myself up with the beauty and the history, well, it makes me realise that I matter too. My life and my dreams matter as much as my children’s. I am proud that I am also finally taking care of me. I’ve changed my own life.”

 

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Image from Lucky Trips

How about you? What goal can you work towards? What reward can you choose for yourself? Maybe it will change your life too.

Bless xx

PS: I’ll share my crazy dream and reward with you. I’ve decided to walk the Camino with my husband in 2016, after recovering from Lyme disease and finally reclaiming my health. I intend to walk 800km, drink wine with my meals, be in my body and celebrate living! The walk will be my reward for wellness. Right now, as a girl who has spent the last four years mostly bed ridden, it is indeed a crazy dream. To be well. To walk so far. But hey, what a great reward. I already have money in a tin – the beginning of my savings – and a guidebook!

Lucky Dip #2

“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.” 
~ Bob Marley

 

It’s one of those ‘not coping very well’ kind of days. I’ve been enduring nights of no sleep, constant pain, fevers, sweats and anxiety. But that’s okay. It’s all for a good cause. And I’m prepared for days like these.

This morning I reached into my bag of Love Letters to Myself and got this:

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Perfect. Music is one of those powerfully magically soul soothers.

And so’s the message on the back of the card…

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You know, those messages might just work for you too. And you’re welcome to my choice of songs! Here’s my Playlist:

Don’t Give Up – Peter Gabrielle and Kate Bush

Running Up That Hill – Kate Bush

Cloudbusting – Kate Bush

and we’ll end on an ‘up’ note with

Walking on Sunshine – Katrina and the Waves

Wishing you magic, music and miracles in your day today, Nicole xx

A Little Bag of Comfort!

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Image from ZingTravel

“There’s a sorrow and pain in everyone’s life, but every now and then there’s a ray of light that melts the loneliness in your heart and brings comfort like hot soup and a soft bed.” 
~ Hubert Selby Jr., Requiem for a Dream

Right now I’m pushing through an aggressive round of drugs and herbs to treat my Lyme disease and various co-infections. Oh goodness yesterday was tough. In fact my misery had started late in the afternoon of the previous day, from which time everything deteriorated.

At first I meditated. Then I tried to distract myself with a thoughtful gift from a friend who had packed me a little bag full of prompts, sounds and smells to take me on a journey through France, all from the comfort of my bed.

Eventually though, my physical pain and discomfort became too much for those kinds of imagination games. My very bones ached, my head throbbed as if it might explode, my skin burned, it felt like a million monsters were scratching and biting at me. Nothing I did seemed to reduce my suffering. How was I going to cope with weeks more of this same horror?

I needed some help.

Reaching over the side of my bed I groped around in my ‘Lucky Dips’ bag, and pulled out the first one my fingers found.

Here’s the little Love Letter I chose for myself. Perhaps it will have a message for you too…

My Lucky Dip Bag #1. All of the items inside were chosen randomly and placed in bags ready for when I might need them. Because of the way I put these packages together I have no idea what the contents will be.

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Lucky Dip #1 contents:

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An Oracle Card from Doreen Virtue’s Goddess Guidance Deck:

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A random note of encouragement from me:

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A Kimberley Amethyst I picked up many years ago in the company of my Aboriginal Aunties:

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I hugged that rock to me all day and used it as a focus point while I meditated.

‘It will all be worth it’, I reminded myself.

‘My prayers have been heard and are being answered.’

I slept with the crystal under my pillow. I slept! This morning I woke up feeling a little better. Less pain. More optimism. 5 weeks, 3 days to go…

Whatever challenges you’re facing right now, I’m encouraging you to keep going. It will be worth it! You’re in my thoughts, prayers and meditations.

Much love to you, Nicole xx

What Are You Waiting For?

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“TIME: Today Is My Everything” 
~ Richie Norton

 

Sometimes it’s good to rest, to step back and take time out, to think on things for a while…

But eventually, you’re going to need to take action.

Not much gets done on its own.

What one thing can you do this week that will make things better for you, brighter for you, that can get you on track with something important to you?

It might be one small action, repeated daily.

It could be a decision.

It might be one phone call, one email, one conversation.

Or it might be a journeying out into the world to find what you’re looking for.

Life is precious, and sometimes the only way we get out of the place we’re in is by our own actions.

Today I’m wishing you strength, clarity and courage. I’m also intending for you persistence.

This is your life. You’ve got things to do and places to be. What are you waiting for?

Let’s go!

Why are you following this path?

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Image by Wallsheer

“You’ve got this life and while you’ve got it, you’d better kiss like you only have one moment, try to hold someone’s hand like you will never get another chance to, look into people’s eyes like they’re the last you’ll ever see, watch someone sleeping like there’s no time left, jump if you feel like jumping, run if you feel like running, play music in your head when there is none, and eat cake like it’s the only one left in the world!”
~ C. JoyBell C.

 

Why are you doing this thing?

Why?

Are you interested in this path? Did you choose it for yourself?

Life is short, and there are many roads that might take us where we want to go. Is that path you’re on working for you? Are you enjoying the journey, or at least satisfied with the end destination?

It doesn’t matter what path you choose, only that the choice satisfies something within you. If it doesn’t, it is perfectly fine to choose another path, and I encourage you to do so, even though change can be scary and confronting.

What sense is there in choosing boredom, mediocrity or misery if there are other alternatives? You came here to LIVE this life. It’s always going to be an adventure into the unknown.

I know that for some of you the path is hard right now.

Take a moment and tune in with your inner wisdom.

Why are you here?

Why are you doing the hard yards while everyone else is out having fun, why are you standing by this relationship, sticking to this brutal regime, writing this book, looking for a better way, putting together your website, slogging it out through University, spending all your free time painting, working out, clocking massive hours at your job, adding to your portfolio, turning up each day?

If you don’t know the answer to that, it’s time to re-evaluate your life!

If you have an answer and it’s a big enough WHY then I know you will get through it.

There is nothing like love, a dream or a deep-seated core belief to keep us going, and to give our feet the energy to keep walking that path, even when we have nothing left in the tank.

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Image from Beyond Rubies

What if you are walking this path for ‘success’? To be a ‘winner’ in your field, to have fame and fortune.

Those are reasons that sit outside yourself, rather than in the marrow of your being.

Please, don’t tell me you are only in it for the money.

Please, don’t tell me it’s because you want to be on Oprah, to get your five minutes of fame, to be the next big thing.

Fame and fortune can be fleeting. And there’s no guarantee they’ll make you happy. We tend to take our problems where-ever we go…

If your motivator is a vague catch-all of mega yachts, mega millions and other intangible things, that vision won’t fuel you when the going gets hard.

And the going always gets hard at some point.

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Image from BRW

This is YOUR life.

If you want to meander along a gentle path of home, family, a day job and truly meaningful days off, then live that path with joy.

If you’re happy with your life, stay on the path you’re on.

If your vision is fame and fortune for no real reason, and as a result of no deep-seated passion then you need to choose a better path or a bigger WHY.

But if you’re one of those people who has a burning desire within you, a compulsion to do something and keep doing it, a need to serve others, a vision you can’t let go of, a drive to make yourself over, an inspired dream, a sense of destiny then put energy into that.

Here’s the truth of the matter:

You’ll never set the world on fire if your heart’s not in it.

The converse of that is this – if you live with passion and commitment, if you hold to the path where others give up because YOU JUST CAN’T STOP DOING THIS THING AND BEING THIS THING, you will get there.

This life is yours. You choose any path you want. You can change mid-journey. You can change any time you want!

For some of you, that path was lit up bright in your heart and coursing through your veins before you even got here. You’ll be full of this strange compulsion to follow a particular destiny. You’ll feel that urge deep within you to BE something or to DO something.

You’ll know if that’s you.

And if it is, my best advice is this: Don’t give up. Fuel yourself with that dream. Make it the brightest star on your horizon. Deep inside you already know it was what you were born to do. Oprah and mega-bucks had nothing to do with it. It’s about destiny.

Live your Dream. Why else are you here? Live that Dream!

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Image by wollymood at deviantART

Taking a Dose of my Own Medicine

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“Always laugh when you can. It is cheap medicine.”
~ Lord Byron

It’s ironic that the day after posting about my progress yesterday I found myself back in herxing land. Herxing is a side effect of the lyme bacteria inside me dying off and releasing their toxins as a parting gift.

I haven’t felt this dreadful for a while.

I remind myself that this fever, these aching ears, these swollen glands and runny lopsided eyes, these weird pains and sleeplessness are all good. It’s another sign of progress, even if it doesn’t look very sexy or feel very awesome.

That’s the way it is when we’re committed to something for the long haul. It doesn’t matter what it is; making a marriage work, raising kids, running a business, writing a book, sticking to a fitness program, completing a PhD. There’s going to be down swings. Nothing is all puppy dogs and roses and magical unicorns.

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Most things worth having or achieving in life require require work. And sometimes that work will have us down in the pit – shabby, exhausted, cranky and NOT HAVING FUN, but still plodding on, or gritting our teeth and just getting through any way we can.

Who hasn’t been sore after a big session at the gym? Who wasn’t exhausted when their kids were newborns or teething? Who didn’t feel resentful when the weekend rolled around and you were stuck at your desk working or studying while everyone else was out having fun? Who hasn’t argued with someone they love dearly? Who didn’t freak out when they left the security of a job or a relationship to start out on their own?

When we commit to something and stick with it, we build this muscle called resilience. As we ride out the bumps, and push ourselves through the tough bits we change and grow. We build character and inner strength. We learn to depend on ourselves, and we find out what we’re made of.

Of course it helps to stay motivated, and to remind yourself of why you’re doing this thing. And it also helps to remind yourself how far you’ve come.

Remember: Remind yourself it will be worth it!

Today I am reading back over my progress, and reassuring myself that days like this are becoming fewer, and my goal is on a horizon I can actually see now, rather than some mythic far-off land which may or may not exist. I’m schlurping up a spoonful of tough-it-out and another of things-are-actually-measurably-better. I’m already feeling better than I did yesterday!

And I’m sending all my love to those of you who are down in the trenches. Take heart. You can do this thing! All power to you. ♥  Nicole xx

PS – I wish I could buy my medicine here…

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Happy Pills – Coolest Lolly Shop ever. Barcelona, Spain. Image by Scott Anderson

How to Get Through the Hard Stuff

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“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”

~ Christopher Robin to Pooh (by A. A. Milne)

Life. It’s just hard sometimes.

I know, I know. There’s a library full of books out there on the magic of positive thinking, positive attitudes, thinking beautiful thoughts to create beautiful realities.

And that’s terrific.

But…

Sometimes life is just hard. Or unfair. Or filled with the sorts of things that make you wonder how you’ll ever keep going, or ever get back on your feet.

When you’re in that hard place, it can be impossible to think about rainbows and puppies and sunshiny happiness. Sometimes life is all sad unicorns…

So, my friend, I’ve put together a small list of suggestions and strategies that I have personally tested while in that hard place. Perhaps something here might be useful for you. If you don’t need this right now, tuck it away for a rainy day, or save it for a friend. No one’s immune to suffering. We all get our shot at the hard stuff…

1) Whisper positive encouragement in your own ear. Tell yourself that you can do it. Be your own cheer squad. And if it’s really, really grim and no encouraging words can be summoned then simply grit your teeth and remind yourself ‘this is not how it ends!’

2) Hold a picture in your mind of what you want your end result to be. Visualise it often. Make sure it is positive. Make it as real as possible. The sort of image that inspires you! Keep it fresh in your mind.

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3) Know your why. Why are you doing this? Why? For you, your children, your future, your health, your security? To get the deposit for a house? To never have back pain again? So you don’t die early? So you can finally get out of the rat race? When our why is clear enough and strong enough, we can get ourselves through anything.

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Image from Weight Watchers

4) Give yourself some mini-breaks. When the going really is tough, and the road is a long one, letting yourself have a moment to catch your breath and get your strength back is always a good idea. Do all you can to make this journey sustainable.

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5) Don’t look back. Always keep looking forward. Keep your eyes on where you want to go. Looking back can fill us with regrets, slow us down, weaken our resolve. Live in the moment, not the past.

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Image from Studded Hearts

6) Break it down into the smallest possible increments. Smaller, smaller, smaller if you must. Then deal with just that small bit. Then the next one.  Then the next one. Bit by tiny bit. That’s how you make it through.

7) Distraction therapy. You know what I’m talking about. You get through the chemo or the transfusion by listening to music. You survive the weekend with the in-laws by painting the fence or cooking the world’s most complicated dinner. You scrub mold from the walls while you plan your next vacation. As you do the hard thing, let part of you be somewhere else or engaged with something else.

8) Stay away from the non-believers. It’s hard enough without all those people telling you just how hard it is, or that you can’t do it, won’t do it, don’t deserve to succeed etc etc… If you can’t stay away learn the blah-blah song (sing blah-blah-blah in your head to drown out their negativity. Smile at them or put your best ‘I’m-really-listening-to-you’ face on as you do this – you’ll find it’s quite empowering) . Or wear your psychic raincoat.

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Image from Traffic Scene

9) Celebrate the tiny milestones and look for the smallest wins. Cheer yourself on. Remind yourself that you’re making progress. Chart it on the wall. Sometimes hour by hour IS a victory. Don’t kid yourself it’s not. When the going really is this hard, just hanging in there is worth celebrating.

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10) Have faith and develop a support network. Draw on whatever uplifts you and gets you through. Pray; meditate; spend time in nature; hug your dog; play music; light candles; talk to your Guides, your Nana in heaven, your best friend, God, the sun and the stars. Make positive little signs to remind yourself of the why, and place them around the house. Choose a daily Angel Card. Put a magical rock in your pocket. Or maybe Elvis is your thing. The point is, go with what works for you! Oh, and did I mention that maintaining a sense of humour and a healthy appreciation of the absurd is also very useful?

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Image from Charlie

We are human. In this cycle of life we shall all know victory and defeat, pleasure and pain. There is a buddhist saying that has served me very well during the hard times, and it is this: ‘This too shall pass’.

It’s true. There is always an end to difficult times. Hang in there, my friend. I’m thinking of you and sending love. {{{HUGS}}} Nicole xx

Reminding yourself why…

“Difficult things take a long time, impossible things a little longer.” ~ Author Unknown

Sometimes the thing we need to do isn’t pleasant, isn’t fun, isn’t anything we really want to do.

Or it might have started out easy, and fun, and then suddenly we reach the hard bit!

Now, to get to where we need to go, we have to get through this somehow.

When the going’s hard, when all you want to do is quit, when you are despairing because it feels like nothing is working and you’ll never get to where you want to go, and you don’t know how you’re going to do this thing, and you don’t feel ready,

You just need to remind yourself WHY.

I’m doing this thing because…

IT WILL BE WORTH IT!

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Why are we doing this thing? Because it will be worth it. Because this thing will change our lives. Because we will become transformed.

Don’t quit. Don’t give up on yourself and your plans for a brighter future. Don’t shelve that dream.

Life IS hard somethings. Healing things, changing things, learning things, improving things, creating things; none of that is easy – it all takes time, effort, sweat and some pain.

And lots of people walking your path have quit.

But some didn’t. Some worked through that pain and kept going…

And YOU need to be one of them if you want to break through and end up in a better place.

“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”
~ Patanjali – the author of Yoga Sutra

Keep going. Rest if you must. But hold that end in sight and strive towards it.

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Today I’m going to hang in there, and I’m not going to quit. Why? Because I know it will be worth it.

How about you? Are you with me?

Start the thing. Keep going. I’m right here cheering you on!

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