“People who appear to be resisting change may simply be the victim of bad habits. Habit, like gravity, never takes a day off.” ~ Paul Gibbons

We’re on Retreat, as I lead a group through the process of connecting to their Calling. In each activity, as is always the way, some students charge on through the work, and some students stumble over old habits and beliefs that limit initial progress.

In every instance what is blocking the student isn’t lack of ability. If they couldn’t work at the level I require I would not have approved their application to join us. No. What’s blocking them is an old out-dated and limiting belief or story.

When you hit this kind of resistance – where you have a deeply ingrained thought-pattern or self-speak – most students sit with the idea that they must first dismantle their belief. But that’s like sitting in a room where you don’t like the wallpaper and then picking that ugly wallpaper off the walls with your fingernails. It’s slow. It’s messy. And every darned day you can still see the wallpaper. What’s worse? The ugly wallpaper is your main focus!

The better approach is simply to paint over that wallpaper with a colour of your conscious choosing.

It’s like that with limiting beliefs and behaviours too. It’s better just to start that new habit and then keep strengthening it. Eventually that new habit or belief will drown out the old one, and you’ll move to a better place within yourself, with much less resistance.

Today we’re working on creating action steps that move us closer to where we want to be by painting over our own versions of outmoded wallpaper. Where in your life would you benefit from doing the same?
Biggest love and hugs, Nicole ❤ xx