Monday Oracle – 11 February 2019

A vision without a strategy remains an illusion. ” ~  Lee Bolman

Hello, Lovelies!

February is a month for action and self-empowerment – for taking your plans and turning them into goals, action steps and habits. It’s a month for speaking your truth and standing your ground. It’s a month for creating positive change, embracing your individuality and investing in yourself and your dreams. It’s a short month that packs a big punch! Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Strategy brings us.

This is an important week. It’s a week for bravely committing to change. It’s a week for boldly choosing a goal, a direction, a potential outcome and then working towards that.

Strategy shows us the need for thinking deeply about HOW we will make this happen, and for breaking our bigger tasks down into bite-sized pieces. We need to play the long game, thinking about our future self even as we live day-by-day.

Strategy also reminds us that someone has already done the thing we want to do, or something like it, so we don’t need to reinvent the wheel. It’s a powerful week for mirroring the good example set by mentors, coaches, individuals or companies whom you’d like to emulate.

The key questions to ask yourself this week:

  • What goals, projects or outcomes do I want to achieve this year or in the next few years?
  • What are the major action steps that will take me from where I am now to my end goal?
  • How can I break those action steps down into even smaller tasks and goals?
  • What bits can I do myself?
  • What bits will need help? And who can help me with that?
  • What is the most logical/sustainable/sensible/practical order for me to undertake these tasks?
  • How will I celebrate my minor and major milestones of accomplishment?

Then take your answers and create your STRATEGY – your plan for achieving these things in your life.

Apply that strategy, tweak and refine it as you go, rest if you need to, and don’t give up. If you work that plan, progress is assured.

Strategy is no good unless it is actioned, so your final question for yourself is: ‘What baby step can I take today that will move me toward my bigger goal?’

DO that thing. Then find another baby step. DO that one. Keep going. You’ve got this!

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Lace Agate supports your Throat Chakra, helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. It’s a great stone for all forms of communication, and it also brings a sense of calm. Sunstone (pictured) helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in your life. Pyrite promotes confidence, good decision-making, courage and the ability to embrace your potential.  Fluorite taps you into your innate creativity, fires up your inspiration and helps you to be honest, objective and innovative with your work.  

Helpful essential oils?

Choose any of the following oils or combine them for a diffuser blend to help you focus, think clearly and structure your ideas and information:  Vetiver, Lemongrass, Lavender and Cypress.

Vetiver is one of my favourite oils. It has a woodsy, earthy fragrance that is very calming and grounding. It will help you to concentrate, soothes anxiety and helps your thoughts become more structured and logical. Lemongrass helps with being open to change and for pattern-breaking.  It’s a beautiful oil to diffuse to promote fresh and positive mental perspectives. Lavender calms an over-busy or stressed mind and opens you to possibility. Cypress will improve your mental focus and clear away those cobwebs in your brain, helping you to problem-solve and work effectively.

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Want to make the most of your year in 2019?

I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported in the year ahead. Membership to my online group, courses and YOM community – by subscription or a yearly fee – is also available

You can access the Membership, Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Guided Meditation Bundle

I’ve bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.

The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Craft A Visionary Talisman

This online course will help you to select a guiding card for the year ahead, or for a specific project, and then create and activate a Visionary Talisman to anchor helpful energies and qualities to guide and support you in your daily life. It’s practical shamanism, and you’ll learn a range of skills to support you on your spiritual journey. (Of course, if you’re a member of the YOM community you have access to this course for free!) For more information click here or go to my store.

Wishing you a transformative and uplifting week of action. Aim high, give it your best shot, and no matter what you do, be true to YOU!

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Strategy’, is from the Peace Oracle. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

A Week for Action! – Monday Oracle 4 February 2019

“Start by doing what is necessary, then what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” ~ St. Francis Of Assisi

Hello, Lovelies!

February is a month for action and self-empowerment – for taking your plans and turning them into goals, action steps and habits. It’s a month for speaking your truth and standing your ground. It’s a month for creating positive change, embracing your individuality and investing in yourself and your dreams. It’s a short month that packs a big punch! Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card New Beginning brings us.

January was a month of planning, of identifying what we want more of and less of in our lives OR of being shown that by the Universe getting right up in our faces and poking her bony finger in our breastbone as the world fell apart around us while saying ‘Do you get it yet?’ (Hopefully, your answer was yes!)

We can’t keep repeating the same old patterns this year. We don’t want to. We can’t afford to. So here is February to help us get firmly on a better path – one that truly supports our goals, dreams, talents and wise inner self.

The week New Beginnings urges us not to quit on the things we started in January and where we’ve already fallen off the wagon. Broke your diet already? Make a list, do a shop, plan and pre-prepare your meals and start again. Slept in instead of going to the gym? Start again tomorrow. Meanwhile, don’t cave, decide you’re a loser and eat an entire tub of icecream. NO. You’ve got this. It’s normal to be wonky when we are trying something new. So you missed the early-morning gym session? Go for a walk. Hydrate. Decide to do better. Haven’t even begun to tidy the mess that is your home? Go pick one drawer, in one room. Or tackle the dirty dishes in the sink. Take a photo of ‘the before’. Tidy it. Take another photo. Compare the two. Remind yourself that progress is possible and that even the tiniest of steps forward is still a step forward. Lots of tiny steps and suddenly you’ll be a long way forward from where you are right now.

New Beginnings helps us to understand that the hardest part of change is committing and getting started because we don’t have any momentum yet, and the results of decisions and actions (or lack thereof) we made yesterday are all we can see. Don’t let your current circumstances dictate your future. Declare self-sovereignty, pick something and just make a start.

New Beginnings also reminds us that between the periods of doing and busy-ness we need to rest, to recharge and to have some fun. Change, healing and help for us and our dreams are all possible. Balance is everything this year and slow and steady will give lasting benefits over big efforts followed by crash and burn. You KNOW this is true so take it to heart. Be done with working and living unsustainably. Take time to build nurture and meaning into your daily life.

Need help to get started? Find a class, coach, course, buddy or mentor to provide support and motivation. (Unless that’s another one of your procrastination patterns, in which case just get on with it!)

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Lace Agate supports your Throat Chakra, helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. It’s a great stone for all forms of communication, and it also brings a sense of calm. Sunstone (pictured) helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in your life. Pyrite promotes confidence, good decision-making, courage and the ability to embrace your potential.  Fluorite taps you into your innate creativity, fires up your inspiration and helps you to be honest, objective and innovative with your work.  

Helpful essential oils?

Combine Basil, Lemongrass and Bergamot Essential Oils for an uplifting and focusing diffuser blend this week.

Basil is a fabulous oil for motivation and for overcoming exhaustion and overwhelm. It will help with moving you to a place of emotional and spiritual renewal, and aids focus and concentration. Lemongrass helps with being open to change and for pattern-breaking.  It’s a beautiful oil to diffuse to promote fresh and positive mental perspectives. Bergamot boosts optimism and confidence, and is relaxing and calming while maintaining energy levels. These oils can be used individually or combined in a ration of 3:1:4

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Want to make the most of your year in 2019?

I have limited hard copies of my beautiful YOM 2019 Planner left. And plenty of copies of the digital version. If you purchase one, or one of the Planner packs (that also have new year direction readings, meditation malas or crystals with them) I’ll gift you a month’s free access to my community and membership site (and a chance to win a year’s free membership!) so you can experience my work, and be well supported in the year ahead. Membership to my online group, courses and community – by subscription or a yearly fee – is also available

You can access the Membership, Planner and Planner Packs here in our store or read more about them here.

Guided Meditation Bundle

I’ve bundled together four powerful guided downloadable meditations and created a companion workbook to support you in your spiritual journey. The Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle will help you to connect with and explore Earth Energies, Ancestor Energies, your Solar Plexus energies and personal power, and the Stardust Energies. There is over an hour’s worth of Guided Meditations and a 38-page workbook. The workbook holds specific instructions for using the four guided meditations, as well as journalling activities and reflection/awareness exercises.

The material in the Stardust Connection Meditation Bundle can be used at any time over the next four years, and beyond. My intention with this bundle is to help you become confident in your direction, your intuition, and your contribution to the unfolding history of the world and humanity. To access the bundle or to learn more about it go to my store or click on this link.

Wishing you a transformative and uplifting week of action. Go give it your best shot, and no matter what you do, keep being YOU!

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘New Beginning’, is from the Peace Oracle. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

Being Okay With Where You Are

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” 
Lao Tzu

I’m still recovering from the flu, and gee, it’s taking muuuuuuch longer than I would have liked. On top of that I managed to pick up a vomiting bug because of my dodgy immune system, so that has meant a couple of useless days just as I was picking up again.

I have to be honest. Yesterday morning after a horrid night I was quite despairing. You know; tears of frustration, being totally over it, and yes – being down on myself too. I wanted to be writing. I wanted to be back at work. I wanted to be doing so many other things. I wanted hair free of knots!!! (Try lying in bed through fevers and misery for a month and see what that does to your hair – I know some of you completely get this because things like illness and depression are not friends to long locks…)

And oh the guilt I began to feel that here I was in bed. Again.

I didn’t stop myself feeling any of those things.

That never helps.

This is my truth. I’m getting better slowly. I’m frustrated. I had a less-than-great couple of days. It was okay to be in a bit of a hole.

It’s helpful to be able to be honest about where you are and how you feel. I had a cry on the phone to my sister. I had a cry with Ben. I had a cry with the dogs. After which I slept and slept and slept.

This morning I am doing better. In a week or so I’ll be back to doing all the things I had wanted to do. Meanwhile, I am where I am and it is what it is.

I realised a few years ago that I had bought into this crazy belief that I needed to be 100% on 100% of the time. Because of that belief I pushed myself relentlessly. No matter what my truth was. This perfection thing is all around us – on social media, in magazines and on television and in movies. It’s the expectation at schools and universities and in our workplaces. We’re not meant to have down days, sad days, sick days, ugly days.

Except that we all do.

We all do.

So my lovelies, the next time you have a down day or a sick day, the next day you feel like crawling back under the covers and not facing the day, extend yourself some compassion and know that it’s normal to not be 100% on your game every single day. Only robots and Stepford Wives do that. Everything else you see providing evidence to the contrary is a carefully curated lie. Please don’t buy into that!

A model’s self portrait in the style of the Stepford Wives by Christine McConnell

No matter what your current reality there is no point fighting it. It is what it is. Fighting against your truth is disempowering. You beat yourself up, lower your vibration and end up feeling even worse than you did before. It keeps you in the hole longer.

Accepting where you are at, honestly and without judgement, creates shift.

Don’t like where you are at? Accept that truth. Sometimes that’s all you need to do to create movement in a new direction and a lightening up of your mood and situation.

Don’t want to keep living this current version of yourself? Decide to change it. That’s not fighting it, that’s empowering yourself to move in a different direction. Wanting to change and then deciding to change still honours where you currently are and that’s so important for self-love and self-acceptance. Affirm to yourself I am where I am but I can change. 

No matter our current situation and how difficult things are we still have choices. We change emotionally, intellectually, spiritually or physically. That knowledge can be a life-raft, and it can open doors to new possibilities.

Self-acceptance is, in itself, a powerful force for change and for creating flow.

Sending you love and hugs, and holding you in my meditations, Nicole  xx

Let The Dying Live!

Painting by Iain Vellacott at www.inoils.com

Painting by Iain Vellacott at www.inoils.wordpress.com

“You’ve got this life and while you’ve got it, you’d better kiss like you only have one moment, try to hold someone’s hand like you will never get another chance to, look into people’s eyes like they’re the last you’ll ever see, watch someone sleeping like there’s no time left, jump if you feel like jumping, run if you feel like running, play music in your head when there is none, and eat cake like it’s the only one left in the world!”
~ C. JoyBell C.

 

This post is the next in my Wednesday series on death and dying…

Many years ago, my friend Pixie was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer. It was caught late because she was breast-feeding, and doctors kept telling her she had mastitis. It was only her continued urging that led to her ultimate diagnosis. Despite using both aggressive traditional and alternative medicine the cancer continued to progress.

With her initial diagnosis and surgery came much attention from friends. But then Pixie’s illness dragged on.

And on.

Friends stopped calling. Family came much less frequently. The immediate crisis had been averted, and other folk went back to their regular lives. Some also stopped visiting or calling because they didn’t know what to say, or what to do. Chronic and terminal illness can be very lonely.

I was also seriously ill. So it was logical that Pixie and I should keep each other company. She would go to my house, or I to hers. We talked a lot about life. We talked a lot about death. Both of us had been given a poor prognosis. Both of us had experienced physicians tell us that we were dying.

Eventually I found a new doctor, and a new regime that seemed to promise better outcomes. My outlook improved. But Pixie continued to decline. Soon she needed a cane to walk. She was frail, and tired easily. She could no longer drive. Her life became an endless round of medical appointments and resting at home.

One morning she rang me. She’d had more bad news. There were no treatment options left for her. Her doctors could only suggest pain management and palliative care. Could I come over for a visit? Yes, I could. (this was back in the days when I was still driving!) Dress up in something pretty, she said. Wear a nice perfume. We are going out!

I drove to her house, and Pixie shuffled to the door to greet me. Instead of her usual dressing gown and slippers she was wearing a pink dress, pearls and flats. She had a scarf tied over her head where only patchy hair had ever regrown. Closing the house door firmly behind her she took my arm. Come on, she said. I’m taking you for coffee!

Are you drinking coffee, I asked, surprised.

I am now, she laughed. And so are you. Today we are ordering like we are living, not dying!

We ventured a short distance to a large local plant nursery that had a gift shop and a cafe attached. Taking my arm, Pixie and I walked slowly through the gardens and rows of plants for sale, and then took a seat in the little cafe. It was still so early that the staff were busy watering the plants and sweeping the paths, ready for the day ahead.

A waiter came and took our order and very quickly two excellent coffees arrived.

Pixie picked up her coffee, inhaled and smiled rapturously. I sipped mine tentatively. It was delicious. Neither of us had drunk coffee for the longest time. It wasn’t on our cure-everything-diets.

We were quiet for a moment, perusing the menus. None of it was the food we’d usually eat. The lemon tart looks amazing, Pixie said. So does the eggs benedict, I added. We got both, with extra side plates so that we could share. Pixie made sure that her lemon tart came with cream and ice-cream.

What’s the occasion, I asked, once the waiter had left with our orders.

I’m sick of dying, Pixie said. I’m still alive. I’ve been alive for ages and I’m going to be alive for a bit longer yet. Hopefully. So I’ve decided to live while I’m alive. Dying is overrated, and it isn’t any fun!

We were both quiet for a moment, sitting with the truth of that.

It is so easy for dying to sneak in and rob the colour and the pleasure from life while you’re still alive.

For the eight months before Pixie became completely bedridden and shifted into that final stage of life we continued to have little outings, or on days when Pixie wasn’t up to a car trip I’d bring the world to her via treats, flowers, conversation and news.

One of our most precious days was when I wheeled her bed out onto their patio so she would feel the dappled sunlight and smell the fresh air of the changing seasons. She could look up through the pergola and see green leaves and flowers. She could see trees. She said it made her feel connected to life in a way that she couldn’t experience from between the white walls of her room.

My dear friend taught me something very important about dying.

Even when you are dying you are still living. That time is precious. There can be so much pleasure and value in it if it is lived and savoured.

So, if you, or someone you know has a chronic or terminal illness, think about how to have more shared experiences of living. This goes for people who are aging too!

Take Pixie’s hard-earned wisdom and let it shape your life. Celebrate and live life. For yourself and for your loved ones. Let the dying live. Help them to live while they are still alive. It will enrich life for both of you.

Sending so much love your way, Nicole <3 xx