“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
~ Lao Tzu
I’m still recovering from the flu, and gee, it’s taking muuuuuuch longer than I would have liked. On top of that I managed to pick up a vomiting bug because of my dodgy immune system, so that has meant a couple of useless days just as I was picking up again.
I have to be honest. Yesterday morning after a horrid night I was quite despairing. You know; tears of frustration, being totally over it, and yes – being down on myself too. I wanted to be writing. I wanted to be back at work. I wanted to be doing so many other things. I wanted hair free of knots!!! (Try lying in bed through fevers and misery for a month and see what that does to your hair – I know some of you completely get this because things like illness and depression are not friends to long locks…)
And oh the guilt I began to feel that here I was in bed. Again.
I didn’t stop myself feeling any of those things.
That never helps.
This is my truth. I’m getting better slowly. I’m frustrated. I had a less-than-great couple of days. It was okay to be in a bit of a hole.
It’s helpful to be able to be honest about where you are and how you feel. I had a cry on the phone to my sister. I had a cry with Ben. I had a cry with the dogs. After which I slept and slept and slept.
This morning I am doing better. In a week or so I’ll be back to doing all the things I had wanted to do. Meanwhile, I am where I am and it is what it is.
I realised a few years ago that I had bought into this crazy belief that I needed to be 100% on 100% of the time. Because of that belief I pushed myself relentlessly. No matter what my truth was. This perfection thing is all around us – on social media, in magazines and on television and in movies. It’s the expectation at schools and universities and in our workplaces. We’re not meant to have down days, sad days, sick days, ugly days.
Except that we all do.
We all do.
So my lovelies, the next time you have a down day or a sick day, the next day you feel like crawling back under the covers and not facing the day, extend yourself some compassion and know that it’s normal to not be 100% on your game every single day. Only robots and Stepford Wives do that. Everything else you see providing evidence to the contrary is a carefully curated lie. Please don’t buy into that!
No matter what your current reality there is no point fighting it. It is what it is. Fighting against your truth is disempowering. You beat yourself up, lower your vibration and end up feeling even worse than you did before. It keeps you in the hole longer.
Accepting where you are at, honestly and without judgement, creates shift.
Don’t like where you are at? Accept that truth. Sometimes that’s all you need to do to create movement in a new direction and a lightening up of your mood and situation.
Don’t want to keep living this current version of yourself? Decide to change it. That’s not fighting it, that’s empowering yourself to move in a different direction. Wanting to change and then deciding to change still honours where you currently are and that’s so important for self-love and self-acceptance. Affirm to yourself I am where I am but I can change.
No matter our current situation and how difficult things are we still have choices. We change emotionally, intellectually, spiritually or physically. That knowledge can be a life-raft, and it can open doors to new possibilities.
Self-acceptance is, in itself, a powerful force for change and for creating flow.
Sending you love and hugs, and holding you in my meditations, Nicole ❤ xx
10 thoughts on “Being Okay With Where You Are”
thanks Nicole, I was being down on myself a lot yesterday too – crap Mum – not doing the right thing by the boys etc…. even thought that they would be better off with their father – NOW THAT IS DOWN ON MYSELF! How ridiculous! new day, new opportunity and a new chance to shine. Bring it on xxxxx
Yeap! It is 100% right to have bad and low days .Thank you for remembering us 🙂 and have a nice extra slow week of recovery dear Nicole.
Nicole you truly are amazing and such an inspiration to me and so many others sending you heling love and hugs xo
So beautifully & apt…I had to read this to come to terms with my reality…thanks Nicole !
You are such a shining beacon of positivity, even when you’re feeling so low. Thank you Nicole and sending you much love. 💙
Thanks for talking about even your darkest times….I really does help me. May we be well xx
Love to Nicole. I had to learn to pace myself early on after having mono in college and later, chronic fatigue syndrome. Sometimes you just can’t be or do everything and that’s okay. Take care of yourself. The wisdom you gain from being forced to rest will benefit others in the future as you set an example on how to authentically you.
Sending you love and healing. You are a beautiful light. Thank you for being you. You are awesome on legs (or in bed with knotty hair). xoxoxo
Love you Nicole. You are such an inspiration. So much love, hugs and healthy vibrations to you. PX