Wallpaper and White Paint


“People who appear to be resisting change may simply be the victim of bad habits. Habit, like gravity, never takes a day off.” ~ Paul Gibbons

We’re on Retreat, as I lead a group through the process of connecting to their Calling. In each activity, as is always the way, some students charge on through the work, and some students stumble over old habits and beliefs that limit initial progress.

In every instance what is blocking the student isn’t lack of ability. If they couldn’t work at the level I require I would not have approved their application to join us. No. What’s blocking them is an old out-dated and limiting belief or story.

When you hit this kind of resistance – where you have a deeply ingrained thought-pattern or self-speak – most students sit with the idea that they must first dismantle their belief. But that’s like sitting in a room where you don’t like the wallpaper and then picking that ugly wallpaper off the walls with your fingernails. It’s slow. It’s messy. And every darned day you can still see the wallpaper. What’s worse? The ugly wallpaper is your main focus!

The better approach is simply to paint over that wallpaper with a colour of your conscious choosing.

It’s like that with limiting beliefs and behaviours too. It’s better just to start that new habit and then keep strengthening it. Eventually that new habit or belief will drown out the old one, and you’ll move to a better place within yourself, with much less resistance.

Today we’re working on creating action steps that move us closer to where we want to be by painting over our own versions of outmoded wallpaper. Where in your life would you benefit from doing the same?
Biggest love and hugs, Nicole ❤ xx

A Note of Encouragement For You – Monday Oracle for 27 February 2017

“Understanding is the first step to acceptance, and only with acceptance can there be recovery.”
~ J.K. Rowling

Hello, Lovelies.

The oracle card I have chosen to guide us this week is ‘Acceptance’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for February, you’ll remember for these last few days of the month that February is all about turning inwards, and tuning in to our own wants and needs, staying true to ourselves and our goals despite our fears or what other people may tell us. Keep that in the back of your mind as you read through the rest of this post.

So, what gifts does Acceptance bring for you this week?

This week is a week for accepting that where we are at is where we are! We cannot run away from ourselves or the truth of our current situation, even if we want to be further along in our lives, and have a head full of plans and dreams to make it so.

We are also reminded that we are enough. If we have been given a dream, we are enough and there is enough within us for us to be able to realise that dream.

We are worthy of love. We are worthy of success. We are worthy of happiness. We are worthy of redemption. No matter what has gone before, what choices we may have made or failures we may have endured, there is always hope. Life is constantly changing, and so can we.

Sometimes the realisation of our hopes and dreams starts in the most humble of ways, with steps forward that are invisible to everyone else except us.

But we can see them. That matters!

Saving an extra $5 a week, walking around the block, writing 500 words a week, putting one less sugar in your coffee, devoting an hour every Sunday to your bigger plan – none of that is dramatic or sexy or immediately life-changing. But it all adds up. Slow steady change is more likely to become transformative and sustainable than one or two crazy efforts that exhaust you and can’t be easily replicated.

Acceptance encourages us to stay true to our course, even if we can’t see results yet. It reminds us not to compare ourselves to others. It tells us not to give up on ourselves and our dreams.

Supportive crystals this week?

Carnelian will support you if you are tired, unwell or plain burned out! Add White Howlite to this if you are struggling with depression, anxiety or overwhelm. Just pop them in your pocket, or wear them somewhere on your body. They are also good to hold in meditation or to place under your pillow before sleep. If you are struggling to communicate your thoughts and ideas, or need support to speak your truth or ask for help, choose a lovely blue Sodalite! Rose Quartz if you need a boost of love, kindness and nurture.

Helpful essential oils? 

Young Living’s Joy or Common Sense essential oil blends, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of Rose, Rosemary, Lemon, Vetiver and Lavender. The Joy blend is fabulous if you are feeling anxious or uncertain, or a bit sad or stuck. It’s reassuring and uplifting; wonderful for gently shifting depression and self-doubt. I often wear it as a perfume. Common Sense oil is a super stress-buster that will help with allowing you to become clear about what you want, and to feel secure with your choices and decisions, especially around change. It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser again this week.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx