It’s The Weekend. I Have A Project For You!

“I live to enjoy life by the littlest things, feeling the grass between my toes, breathing fresh air, watching the wind sway the trees, enjoying the company of loved ones, a deep conversation, getting lost in a good book, going for a walk in nature, watching my kids grow up. Just the feeling itself of being alive, the absolute amazing fact that we are here right now, breathing, thinking, doing.” 
Marigold Wellington

2018 is a year that supports spending time on what matters – family, friendship, fun, and the priorities and projects dear to our hearts. It’s year to be creative, to kick back and enjoy ourselves, to slow down a little.

But all of this behaviour can be so very hard to embrace when we have been used to work, work, work, stress, stress, stress, busy, busy, busy.

So this weekend I have a project for you, even if you do have work scheduled! See how many of these you can tick off your list by Sunday night:

  1. Sitting with a cuppa or your favourite beverage and taking ten minutes to enjoy every sip and the peacefulness that comes with stopping for a while.
  2. Time in nature – a walk outside to look at the sky counts too!
  3. A relaxing shower or soak in the bath where you take time to enjoy the experience of the water and how it soothes you.
  4. Time with a beloved person or pet where you put everything else aside and just be there for them and with them. Phone calls and video calls count too!
  5. A fragrant treat – scent is a fast-track to happy memories, and to a place that is innovative and creative and upbeat within us. How can you connect to that? Maybe it’s a few drops of essential oil, or your favourite perfume or cologne, a fragrant soap or body lotion, a bunch of flowers, the scent of baking or a good coffee, the ocean or clean clothes fresh from the line still smelling of sunshine.
  6. A nourishing meal, eaten slowly and savoured, as you feel how it is doing you and your body good.
  7. A nap, a rest, or some quiet time to refresh you and recharge your batteries. I find books to be a wonderful downtime tool when I can’t get my mind quiet. Music is good for that too.
  8. Social time – this could be a drink or meal with friends or family, time at the movies or a shopping mall or anywhere you like to hang out with other people. Don’t know anyone? Smile or say hello to people anyway.
  9. Time on a project that is important to you. Even ten minutes counts. Just make them quality minutes by putting away your phone and other distractions.
  10. Some time where you do nothing at all, or anything you want and don’t feel guilty about that being wasted time.

Life is precious, sweet and over all too soon – especially if we have lived our entire lives busy and distracted. Slow down this weekend and make some little pockets of time for you and time for what truly matters.

Biggest love and hugs, Nicole xoxo

Soul Journeying OR You Are More Than Your Earthsuit

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“Life’s journey doesn’t start on the highest mountain peak where a clear view of the trail ahead, obstacles and all, is laid out for us to observe before setting foot on the path. No. Life’s journey begins on a low road, in a valley, or even down inside a pit where the trail beyond can only be seen in short stretches, and any obstacles are met as they come. This makes life trying, even scary at times. Have faith that God gave you this life, and hence it is worth seeing through to the end of the trail.” 
Richelle E. GoodrichSlaying Dragons

 

Hello, lovely friends,

I’ve been thinking very deeply about the private responses you’ve sent me in the past few days. Messages about your secret shames and fears, your despair about not being able to overcome a health issue, or your limitations due to illness or living with a partner or child with an illness, or some other deep-seated issue or problem that has left you feeling unable to be all you hoped you could be.

There was a theme amidst your messages that deeply resonated with me, because it was my own theme for so very long: I am not worthy – I am not worthy and even worse I cannot follow my path…

I am not worthy because I am ill or disabled or afflicted or depressed or anxious or traumatised or unable to get out from under whatever is weighing me down. I can’t share my problems because they make me feel like a failure. They are shameful. I am shameful. I cannot follow my path because I am ill or afflicted or exhausted or broken or unable to do it the way that I wanted to. I have my life on hold and I am waiting for this thing to be fixed, even though I’ve been trying to fix it myself for so long. Or I’m broken from trying and I am ashamed that I have now given up. I am waiting to walk my path. I am waiting to be ready for my spiritual journey. I am waiting to find my gifts or share them.

Dear ones, if that in any way resonates, my words today are for you.

The soul journey happens despite what is going on in our lives. In fact, it’s often because life becomes difficult that a yearning awakens for a more spiritual path. It doesn’t matter  if you’re a little broken or a lot, if your time here on earth is short, or longer and not of the quality you had hoped. Let go of the idea that this is somehow all your fault, and that you must be fixed before you can journey.

This is the journey.

I’m reaching out to you today because I need you to hear this.

You can live broken. It can still be a good life. It can still fill you up and be beautiful despite illness, pain, despair and limitation. You can create and dream and make and connect and love and laugh and adventure and matter – to yourself and to others – even if your life is not perfect, or working out the way you had planned. I know, because I have lived with pain and brokenness and despair and frustration and so many other things. And I still do.

We are souls dressed up in Earthsuits. (Yep, I’m talking about your body here!) Sometimes those suits get awfully dinged up and damaged. Life is a risky business.

But inside that suit is your soul. And souls endure, remaining shiny and unaffected by the dust and damage that your Earthsuit might have accumulated.

In fact, I think that our souls deepen and shine brighter because of the hardships our Earthsuits go through.

Please, stop beating yourself up. Stop blaming. Stop the meanness and the endless stress and self-recrimination. Stop waiting for things to change. Stop needing things to be better. Surrender to where you are. Surrender to what is. This is your one beautiful chance at this life, and it goes by in the blink of an eye. Your Earthsuit might be damaged but you are still here, and life outside your Earthsuit still holds wonder and beauty and magic if only you can allow yourself to keep feeling and experiencing and allowing, in spite of whatever else is going on for you.

You can be a healer and still be broken yourself. You can be a teacher, and never leave your home. You can be an artist or a writer or an entrepreneur and never leave your bed. You don’t need to be perfect or beautiful or young or fit or healthy or able-bodied. You can limp through life and still live it well. If you are alive, even if only just, you can think and feel and dream and you can do soulwork. You can lift yourself out of pain and isolation and back into connection, just be deciding that you’ll live anyway, despite whatever circumstances you find yourself experiencing.

You are worthy just as you are. And there is a path for you in this life that only you can take. No matter how messed up or impossible things might seem to be for you right now. Just by being alive you matter.

Soul work – that space of meditation and reflection, of connection and communion, or asking the big questions and being okay with silence or answers unexpected, that great big process of opening up to yourself and the Universe? You, my friend, are born to it. In fact, because of all this shit you have endured or are enduring, you are primed for something deeper and more meaningful in the way that your soul will journey.

So, let me give you a hug. Your journey is my journey. I’m here for you. You matter to me, and your life matters.

That world of perfect bodies and healthy happy people doing amazing things and living a life you can never have? It doesn’t even exist. It’s all just marketing. Everyone in their lifetime will experience troubles, pain, hurt, frailty and diminishment. Everyone. Most people just don’t talk about it. It’s not very Facebook or Instagram worthy.

Take a deep breath. You are where you are. And it might totally suck. But somewhere inside you is a place untouched by that pain, and perhaps made more beautiful and wise because of it. You’re a soul, and you have every right to be here, and to follow your heart. It’s why you came to Earth, despite all the risks and dangers. Be yourself anyway. Live, anyway. Do, anyway. Be, anyway. Feel, anyway. It’s worth it. All it takes is a little shift in your thinking and your life can open up again.

I love you. I’m here for you. I’m cheering you on. Nicole  xx

PS – If you want help to walk this path you can join my Year of ME membership group – a supportive place where you can belong and fit right in, just as you are (details in my shop – look for the year long course or subscription option), or come along to my Awakening to Spirituality Retreat. You’d be so welcome!

 

 

It’s Not Your Job To Understand The How

“The Universe is under no obligation to make sense to you.” 
Neil deGrasse Tyson

 

Right now we’re in a great energy for making decisions, crafting plans and dreaming up visions of how we would like our lives and our future selves to be.

I hope you take advantage of this energy to remodel your life or your life direction.

I’d also like to offer some advice;

All you need to work out is what you want. It’s not your job to work out the how.

I see so many people come up with a fantastic vision for their lives, or an incredible business idea. The thoughts they have give them energy and motivation. They are inspired. They are lit up from within.

And then…

And then their brain kicks in.

‘But it’s impossible’, their brain tells them. ‘We don’t know how to do that.’ ‘It’s unrealistic.’ ‘That will never work.’ ‘It will take forever and you’re already too old to be starting something like that.’ ‘We don’t have any money.’

Suddenly goals and dreams that were inspiring and potentially life-changing get whittled down to ‘sensible, practical and achievable’. With that smaller goal comes a total loss of passion and enthusiasm. The spark goes out of it. What was inspired becomes more grind. It breaks my heart!

Here’s the thing. It’s not your job to work out the how. It’s only your job to say YES to this big idea. All you need to do is commit to that vision or goal and start putting energy into it as best you can. As soon as you commit the Universe kicks in support and all kinds of magical synchronicities and help begin to flow your way. As you walk the path you’ll work out what direction to take, or what step needs to come next. Or someone else will show you or assist you.

It doesn’t mean there won’t be setbacks or obstacles. We all experience those, no matter what we do.

So, if an idea comes to you and lights you up, say yes to it. Even if you have no idea how to make it happen. The how comes later. And if you don’t say YES to that idea it will leave you, and go find someone who is willing to invest energy into it to make it move from thoughtform into reality. Think about it – I’m sure you’ve had a good idea before and not acted on it. At some later date you’ve walked down the street or turned on the TV and there’s your idea, brought to life by someone else and making them happy or making them money! Hey, you think. That’s my idea. But it isn’t. Because you didn’t commit. You got stuck in your head and let the HOW question overwhelm you.

So, Lovelies, dream big. Dare to think about your future and what that might look like. Be open to ideas. Invite them in. And don’t worry about the HOW. The universe is an ever-unfolding, ever-expanding miracle, looking for opportunities to express and explore. That means that those inspirations need a home. Be that home. Say YES. The HOW will take care of itself. That’s the way it’s always been done. Commit and you will find a way.

Biggest hugs and love to you, Nicole  xx

10 Acts of Self-Care That Don’t Involve Baths or Beautifying

 

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.”  ~ J. Pierpont Morgan

Hello, Lovelies!

Almost everyone who talks to me about self-care seems to think that self-care is about taking long indulgent baths with candles burning and soft music playing in the background. Or it’s getting a massage, or having a facial. There’s nothing wrong with any of those, and sometimes they might be just what you need, but today I’d like to offer some self-care alternatives to scented beauty products and body work.

The following acts of self-care are tried and tested, and may well prove to give more lasting effects that a mani-pedi.

  1. Close your computer, put down the phone, stand up, and go for a walk outside. Breathe deeply. Be aware of your surroundings. Do this daily for best results.
  2. Meal plan for a healthy week; shop the plan, cook to the plan, eat to the plan.
  3. Start a savings account, or create and follow a simple plan to pay down debt. Money problems too overwhelming for that? Seek advice. Get a plan. Follow it.
  4. Have an early night once a week. Turn off the wifi. Sleep.
  5. Hydrate. Drink enough water each day.
  6. Journal, and use oracle or tarot cards as tools for self-reflection. Work out how you feel about yourself and your life. Understanding that positions you to make better choices.
  7. Spend some time in nature each week, alone or with favourite people or animal companions.
  8. Unkink your body. Try yoga, pilates or good old-fashioned stretches. Consider getting a stand-up desk or a balance ball instead of a chair.
  9. Meditate, even if it’s only five minutes. Meditation calms and centers us, and helps us find our way back to ourselves, our soul and to Spirit. Try any of these simple techniques: Easy Five Minute MeditationThree Minute Essential Oil MeditationTaking Energy From TreesEating The Sun Meditation.
  10. Make time each week for a hobby or interest that you care about. Time spent doing what you love is never wasted, and can be an oasis of safety and replenishment in an otherwise difficult life.

Your life matters, and taking care of yourself helps you to live sustainably and with joy.
Choose kindness today, for yourself and towards those around you.
Much love, Nicole   xoxo

Choosing What Matters – Monday Oracle 15 May 2017

“Sometimes the dreams that come true are the dreams you never even knew you had.”
~ Alice Sebold

“If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for.”
~ Thomas Merton

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Destiny’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for May, you’ll remember that May brings beautiful heart-nurturing energies, helping you to move towards love, forgiveness, inner peace and emotional freedom.

So, what gifts does Destiny bring for you this week?

Destiny reminds us, with love and wisdom, that this is our one beautiful life. These days will never be repeated. There is no second chance. No matter what other lives we may have, no matter what comes after this life ends, today is all we have, and we cannot rely on having a certain number of tomorrows.

What do you want to do with this one precious life? What do you want your days to look like? Your weeks? Your years?

I don’t mean what was expected of you by your family or your teachers or your culture. What you think you should do. What you think you have to do.  What you think it’s too late to change. And I don’t mean what you are doing now; what you trained for, what you fell into, what you’ve fought for or been handed . No.

I’m talking about what is in your heart. That secret dream, that desire, that urge, that longing, that curiosity, that idea which won’t let go.

Today is all we can be sure of. Destiny nudges our heart, and helps us to see what really matters, and if it matters to us then we must act to make it real for us.

So, my lovelies, what will you choose this week? What matters to you? What would you die regretting if you didn’t follow your heart on this?

Supportive crystals this week?

Rhodonite is great for supporting us to follow our hearts. Snowflake Obsidian will help to remove old negative self-talk and replace it with optimism. Citrine opens us to ideas creativity and being able to accept help and opportunities. Red Jasper will keep you grounded and emotionally supported if you need to move through trauma or anxiety in order to make changes.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Awaken essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Rosemary, Orange, Frankincense and Lavender. Awaken essential oil blend smells sweet and woody and can be worn as a perfume (place on wrists, over heart and on back of neck) or used in a diffuser. A few drops in the bath are heavenly too. It’s a great oil to get you out of your head and into your heartspace. It promotes spiritual connection and intuition and is deeply calming. I love this oil, and it’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

When You’re in Flow and Your Loved One’s Stuck? Be The Lighthouse…

“What does a lighthouse do? I ask myself. It never moves. It cannot hike up its rocky skirt and dash into the ocean to rescue the foundering ship. It cannot calm the waters or clear the shoals. It can only cast light into the darkness. It can only point the way. Yet, through one lighthouse, you guide many ships. Show this old lighthouse the way.”
~ Lisa Wingate, The Prayer Box

 

2016 is a year of shift and change and growth.

Right now some of us are shifting back into flow, our futures are looking brighter, we have a dream and passion and positivity and…

… our loved one is our polar opposite. It could be our husband, our wife, our lover, our child, our friend, our parent, our sibling. While we are moving, they are stuck. While we are in light, they are in shadow.

There are so many reasons for this. It could be illness, unemployment, depression. It might be family dramas, money problems, low self-esteem, addiction, anger, or a raft of other things.

It’s hard for them – that place where they are. It’s hard for us, when we see our beloved hurting. Sometimes it’s hard to even be in their space.

But we love them.

So, what do we do?

Most Lightworkers are helpers and healers. That’s our first impulse. First and foremost, don’t be your loved one’s therapist. Help them find one, if that’s what they need. It is not your job to ‘fix’ them. Loving and supporting is what we’ve signed up for. Listening. Caring. Carrying the load for a while if we must.

I know, you still want to do something! Even after I have told you not to rush in.

That’s okay. There is something you can do. A lot you can do, actually.

Here’s my advice. It’s tried and tested. It works.

 

Work on you

Work on you. Lift your own vibration. Work on your own shit. Do this without the need for validation or approval or praise. Do it because it’s what your soul needs. Find your own therapist, if that is what it takes. Get support. Get help. Spend time getting to know and understand yourself. Get happy in your own skin, as much as anyone can. Recognise that life is peaks and troughs and it will never be all happiness. It will never be everything going right for everyone all the time. That’s okay. Work on you. Do it because self-work is important, and we come to it in our own time. When we are ready. Some people aren’t interested in self work. Some people are not ready. That’s okay. Work on you.

When you work on you, and heal things in your own life, your vibration lifts. Healing and change ripple out in mysterious and wonderful ways, provoking healing and shift in others. As your vibration lifts it positively affects the people around you. That’s how vibration works. But don’t do it for them. Do it for you!

 

Get excited about your own life

Get excited about your own life.  Find friends within the areas that interest you – spiritual stuff, business, writing, gardening, chainsaw ice-carving, whatever is your thing – and hang out with them. Talk with them about your amazing breakthroughs, your hopes and dreams for your interests.

Don’t limit your dreams or your life because your loved one is stuck and miserable. Don’t put your own happiness on hold. Talk about your life with your loved one when it’s appropriate but don’t be boastful, don’t hold yourself up as some shining example. Don’t make it worse for them. They are already in the hole. Treat them normally. Have the conversation if it’s right for both of you.

If your loved one is cynical, angry, defensive or caustic – if they put you or your dreams down, and leave you feeling worse for having shared – don’t share. Protect your own hopes and dreams. Leave a little space that is sacred and light-filled and that can be a refuge for you against the darkness, pain and negativity of other areas of your life. Doing what you love fills you up, and allows you to keep giving. Getting excited about your own life helps you cope better with the space your beloved finds themselves in.

 

Hold Space for Your Loved One

What does holding space even mean? Simply this – we choose to stop each day, in our prayers or meditations or quiet spaces, and we see our loved one’s life unfolding in positive ways. We dwell for a moment on their best qualities, on happy memories from the past, and on potential positive outcomes in the future. We think and see the best for them, and our intention helps pave the way.

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Image by Dougal Waters

 

Live From Kindness

Choose words and actions that are loving and kind. For yourself. For your loved ones. Treat yourself well. Look after your body. Get enough sleep. Drink water and eat nourishing foods. Clean your house. Do what you can to pay the bills. Set clear boundaries at home and work. Respect yourself. Fill yourself up with what makes you happy. Know that we each have our own journeys and our own lessons.

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When we look after ourselves and live from a place of calm centre – when we work on ourselves and lift our own vibrations – we become like the lighthouse. We beam light, love and positive vibration out into the world, and others are affected. I have seen loved ones go through enormous shift after I have worked on my own life. I have seen all kinds of magic that has been invoked through the simple act of self-responsibility and self-love.

When we work on ourselves the whole world changes.

This may mean that your loved ones will shift to a better place. That they will find their way out of the space they are in and you will find a deepening and a healing within your own relationship with each other. When this happens it is a beautiful and precious thing. And it happens a lot when we do self-work!

This may mean that you shift so far that you find you can no longer be in the same circle, the same space, the same relationship as the one you love or loved. The relationship may fall away. That will be okay too. It will be what it needs to be.

 

My sister-in-law sent me this beautiful video, taken near my farm at Byron Bay on last year’s Blue Moon. I love how the moon rises. I love how the Lighthouse stays constant. Both shine their light. Both guide us.

This year, be the Lighthouse. Shine your light. Be the moon. Rise in your own way, and live from your own inner magic and beauty. Even in the darkness. Through every storm and tempest.

 

 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~ Marianne Williamson

 

Writing Advice that works for Life too!

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“Don’t throw it all away, our love, our love.
Don’t throw it all away, our love.” ~ The Bee Gees

 

The wonderful thing about good advice is that it’s usually applicable to more than one thing. Yesterday I was reading a great post called 23 Tips from Famous Writers for New and Aspiring Authors.

One tip in particular stood out for me. This one:

“Imagine that you are dying. If you had a terminal disease would you ­finish this book? Why not? The thing that annoys this 10-weeks-to-live self is the thing that is wrong with the book. So change it. Stop arguing with yourself. Change it. See? Easy. And no one had to die.” ~ Anne Enright

I thought about a particular manuscript languishing in my bottom draw. You know, it’s a rotten feeling having written an entire book, only to stuff it in a bottom draw because it just doesn’t work for you. There’s two years of my life in that drawer but I’ve never been able to work out how to fix it.

So I applied Anne Enright’s advice. What is wrong with this book? What’s annoying me so much?

It’s the ending. I can’t stand the ending and the neat way I tie everything up. Life isn’t like that. Life has ragged edges.

Thanks Anne! I now have a project for November, (NaNoWRiMo) my writing month.

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Anne’s advice was so useful that I decided to apply it to some non-writing situations; just a little experiment to see what might happen.

You know what? It works. Her technique helped me spend a lazy Sunday afternoon in bed work-shopping my business, a renovation project and a troublesome relationship.

Have you reached a standstill with something in your own life? Are you stuck and don’t know what to do next?

Ask yourself what’s bothering you about it. Even an “I don’t know how to…” shows you your next move.

Sometimes we don’t even need to fix it ourselves. We can ask for help, or get an expert to do it for us.

Wishing you a week full of revelations, insights and progress!

Much love to you, ♥ Nicole xoxo

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