Start Again In June!

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“Today is the perfect day for a fresh start. Stop delaying, stop making excuses, stop putting it off. Now. Today is the perfect moment. You can change things, you can try. Don’t give up.” 
Akiroq Brost

I had so many messages yesterday from readers and students and clients all asking me if they could start their year over again now it is June.

Well, of course, they can!

And so can you.

My lovely friends, let me reassure you. If this year hasn’t gone to plan for you it’s not too late. Start over again in June.

Start with small steps. Take one step and then another. Aim only to keep moving, no matter how slowly.

Don’t aim for perfection. Perfection will drag you down until you are stuck, exhausted and utterly unable to put one foot in front of the other or to make any useful decision.

Instead, aim to just start.

Don’t know what to do? Feel overwhelmed at the idea of committing to anything? That’s okay. Just start somewhere. Anywhere. Anything you begin and stick at will help to build momentum, and once you have momentum it will be easier to move in a new direction if that’s what you decide to do. But for now, just start. Or start over. Little step by little step.

June is a month where you can turn anything around, where you can reinvent yourself, where you can pick up the pieces and keep going. Start small, but start.

You’ve got this.

Cheering you on, Nicole ❤ xoxo

It’s The Weekend. I Have A Project For You!

“I live to enjoy life by the littlest things, feeling the grass between my toes, breathing fresh air, watching the wind sway the trees, enjoying the company of loved ones, a deep conversation, getting lost in a good book, going for a walk in nature, watching my kids grow up. Just the feeling itself of being alive, the absolute amazing fact that we are here right now, breathing, thinking, doing.” 
Marigold Wellington

2018 is a year that supports spending time on what matters – family, friendship, fun, and the priorities and projects dear to our hearts. It’s year to be creative, to kick back and enjoy ourselves, to slow down a little.

But all of this behaviour can be so very hard to embrace when we have been used to work, work, work, stress, stress, stress, busy, busy, busy.

So this weekend I have a project for you, even if you do have work scheduled! See how many of these you can tick off your list by Sunday night:

  1. Sitting with a cuppa or your favourite beverage and taking ten minutes to enjoy every sip and the peacefulness that comes with stopping for a while.
  2. Time in nature – a walk outside to look at the sky counts too!
  3. A relaxing shower or soak in the bath where you take time to enjoy the experience of the water and how it soothes you.
  4. Time with a beloved person or pet where you put everything else aside and just be there for them and with them. Phone calls and video calls count too!
  5. A fragrant treat – scent is a fast-track to happy memories, and to a place that is innovative and creative and upbeat within us. How can you connect to that? Maybe it’s a few drops of essential oil, or your favourite perfume or cologne, a fragrant soap or body lotion, a bunch of flowers, the scent of baking or a good coffee, the ocean or clean clothes fresh from the line still smelling of sunshine.
  6. A nourishing meal, eaten slowly and savoured, as you feel how it is doing you and your body good.
  7. A nap, a rest, or some quiet time to refresh you and recharge your batteries. I find books to be a wonderful downtime tool when I can’t get my mind quiet. Music is good for that too.
  8. Social time – this could be a drink or meal with friends or family, time at the movies or a shopping mall or anywhere you like to hang out with other people. Don’t know anyone? Smile or say hello to people anyway.
  9. Time on a project that is important to you. Even ten minutes counts. Just make them quality minutes by putting away your phone and other distractions.
  10. Some time where you do nothing at all, or anything you want and don’t feel guilty about that being wasted time.

Life is precious, sweet and over all too soon – especially if we have lived our entire lives busy and distracted. Slow down this weekend and make some little pockets of time for you and time for what truly matters.

Biggest love and hugs, Nicole xoxo

Soul Journeying OR You Are More Than Your Earthsuit

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“Life’s journey doesn’t start on the highest mountain peak where a clear view of the trail ahead, obstacles and all, is laid out for us to observe before setting foot on the path. No. Life’s journey begins on a low road, in a valley, or even down inside a pit where the trail beyond can only be seen in short stretches, and any obstacles are met as they come. This makes life trying, even scary at times. Have faith that God gave you this life, and hence it is worth seeing through to the end of the trail.” 
Richelle E. GoodrichSlaying Dragons

 

Hello, lovely friends,

I’ve been thinking very deeply about the private responses you’ve sent me in the past few days. Messages about your secret shames and fears, your despair about not being able to overcome a health issue, or your limitations due to illness or living with a partner or child with an illness, or some other deep-seated issue or problem that has left you feeling unable to be all you hoped you could be.

There was a theme amidst your messages that deeply resonated with me, because it was my own theme for so very long: I am not worthy – I am not worthy and even worse I cannot follow my path…

I am not worthy because I am ill or disabled or afflicted or depressed or anxious or traumatised or unable to get out from under whatever is weighing me down. I can’t share my problems because they make me feel like a failure. They are shameful. I am shameful. I cannot follow my path because I am ill or afflicted or exhausted or broken or unable to do it the way that I wanted to. I have my life on hold and I am waiting for this thing to be fixed, even though I’ve been trying to fix it myself for so long. Or I’m broken from trying and I am ashamed that I have now given up. I am waiting to walk my path. I am waiting to be ready for my spiritual journey. I am waiting to find my gifts or share them.

Dear ones, if that in any way resonates, my words today are for you.

The soul journey happens despite what is going on in our lives. In fact, it’s often because life becomes difficult that a yearning awakens for a more spiritual path. It doesn’t matter  if you’re a little broken or a lot, if your time here on earth is short, or longer and not of the quality you had hoped. Let go of the idea that this is somehow all your fault, and that you must be fixed before you can journey.

This is the journey.

I’m reaching out to you today because I need you to hear this.

You can live broken. It can still be a good life. It can still fill you up and be beautiful despite illness, pain, despair and limitation. You can create and dream and make and connect and love and laugh and adventure and matter – to yourself and to others – even if your life is not perfect, or working out the way you had planned. I know, because I have lived with pain and brokenness and despair and frustration and so many other things. And I still do.

We are souls dressed up in Earthsuits. (Yep, I’m talking about your body here!) Sometimes those suits get awfully dinged up and damaged. Life is a risky business.

But inside that suit is your soul. And souls endure, remaining shiny and unaffected by the dust and damage that your Earthsuit might have accumulated.

In fact, I think that our souls deepen and shine brighter because of the hardships our Earthsuits go through.

Please, stop beating yourself up. Stop blaming. Stop the meanness and the endless stress and self-recrimination. Stop waiting for things to change. Stop needing things to be better. Surrender to where you are. Surrender to what is. This is your one beautiful chance at this life, and it goes by in the blink of an eye. Your Earthsuit might be damaged but you are still here, and life outside your Earthsuit still holds wonder and beauty and magic if only you can allow yourself to keep feeling and experiencing and allowing, in spite of whatever else is going on for you.

You can be a healer and still be broken yourself. You can be a teacher, and never leave your home. You can be an artist or a writer or an entrepreneur and never leave your bed. You don’t need to be perfect or beautiful or young or fit or healthy or able-bodied. You can limp through life and still live it well. If you are alive, even if only just, you can think and feel and dream and you can do soulwork. You can lift yourself out of pain and isolation and back into connection, just be deciding that you’ll live anyway, despite whatever circumstances you find yourself experiencing.

You are worthy just as you are. And there is a path for you in this life that only you can take. No matter how messed up or impossible things might seem to be for you right now. Just by being alive you matter.

Soul work – that space of meditation and reflection, of connection and communion, or asking the big questions and being okay with silence or answers unexpected, that great big process of opening up to yourself and the Universe? You, my friend, are born to it. In fact, because of all this shit you have endured or are enduring, you are primed for something deeper and more meaningful in the way that your soul will journey.

So, let me give you a hug. Your journey is my journey. I’m here for you. You matter to me, and your life matters.

That world of perfect bodies and healthy happy people doing amazing things and living a life you can never have? It doesn’t even exist. It’s all just marketing. Everyone in their lifetime will experience troubles, pain, hurt, frailty and diminishment. Everyone. Most people just don’t talk about it. It’s not very Facebook or Instagram worthy.

Take a deep breath. You are where you are. And it might totally suck. But somewhere inside you is a place untouched by that pain, and perhaps made more beautiful and wise because of it. You’re a soul, and you have every right to be here, and to follow your heart. It’s why you came to Earth, despite all the risks and dangers. Be yourself anyway. Live, anyway. Do, anyway. Be, anyway. Feel, anyway. It’s worth it. All it takes is a little shift in your thinking and your life can open up again.

I love you. I’m here for you. I’m cheering you on. Nicole  xx

PS – If you want help to walk this path you can join my Year of ME membership group – a supportive place where you can belong and fit right in, just as you are (details in my shop – look for the year long course or subscription option), or come along to my Awakening to Spirituality Retreat. You’d be so welcome!

 

 

It’s Not Your Job To Understand The How

“The Universe is under no obligation to make sense to you.” 
Neil deGrasse Tyson

 

Right now we’re in a great energy for making decisions, crafting plans and dreaming up visions of how we would like our lives and our future selves to be.

I hope you take advantage of this energy to remodel your life or your life direction.

I’d also like to offer some advice;

All you need to work out is what you want. It’s not your job to work out the how.

I see so many people come up with a fantastic vision for their lives, or an incredible business idea. The thoughts they have give them energy and motivation. They are inspired. They are lit up from within.

And then…

And then their brain kicks in.

‘But it’s impossible’, their brain tells them. ‘We don’t know how to do that.’ ‘It’s unrealistic.’ ‘That will never work.’ ‘It will take forever and you’re already too old to be starting something like that.’ ‘We don’t have any money.’

Suddenly goals and dreams that were inspiring and potentially life-changing get whittled down to ‘sensible, practical and achievable’. With that smaller goal comes a total loss of passion and enthusiasm. The spark goes out of it. What was inspired becomes more grind. It breaks my heart!

Here’s the thing. It’s not your job to work out the how. It’s only your job to say YES to this big idea. All you need to do is commit to that vision or goal and start putting energy into it as best you can. As soon as you commit the Universe kicks in support and all kinds of magical synchronicities and help begin to flow your way. As you walk the path you’ll work out what direction to take, or what step needs to come next. Or someone else will show you or assist you.

It doesn’t mean there won’t be setbacks or obstacles. We all experience those, no matter what we do.

So, if an idea comes to you and lights you up, say yes to it. Even if you have no idea how to make it happen. The how comes later. And if you don’t say YES to that idea it will leave you, and go find someone who is willing to invest energy into it to make it move from thoughtform into reality. Think about it – I’m sure you’ve had a good idea before and not acted on it. At some later date you’ve walked down the street or turned on the TV and there’s your idea, brought to life by someone else and making them happy or making them money! Hey, you think. That’s my idea. But it isn’t. Because you didn’t commit. You got stuck in your head and let the HOW question overwhelm you.

So, Lovelies, dream big. Dare to think about your future and what that might look like. Be open to ideas. Invite them in. And don’t worry about the HOW. The universe is an ever-unfolding, ever-expanding miracle, looking for opportunities to express and explore. That means that those inspirations need a home. Be that home. Say YES. The HOW will take care of itself. That’s the way it’s always been done. Commit and you will find a way.

Biggest hugs and love to you, Nicole  xx

10 Acts of Self-Care That Don’t Involve Baths or Beautifying

 

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.”  ~ J. Pierpont Morgan

Hello, Lovelies!

Almost everyone who talks to me about self-care seems to think that self-care is about taking long indulgent baths with candles burning and soft music playing in the background. Or it’s getting a massage, or having a facial. There’s nothing wrong with any of those, and sometimes they might be just what you need, but today I’d like to offer some self-care alternatives to scented beauty products and body work.

The following acts of self-care are tried and tested, and may well prove to give more lasting effects that a mani-pedi.

  1. Close your computer, put down the phone, stand up, and go for a walk outside. Breathe deeply. Be aware of your surroundings. Do this daily for best results.
  2. Meal plan for a healthy week; shop the plan, cook to the plan, eat to the plan.
  3. Start a savings account, or create and follow a simple plan to pay down debt. Money problems too overwhelming for that? Seek advice. Get a plan. Follow it.
  4. Have an early night once a week. Turn off the wifi. Sleep.
  5. Hydrate. Drink enough water each day.
  6. Journal, and use oracle or tarot cards as tools for self-reflection. Work out how you feel about yourself and your life. Understanding that positions you to make better choices.
  7. Spend some time in nature each week, alone or with favourite people or animal companions.
  8. Unkink your body. Try yoga, pilates or good old-fashioned stretches. Consider getting a stand-up desk or a balance ball instead of a chair.
  9. Meditate, even if it’s only five minutes. Meditation calms and centers us, and helps us find our way back to ourselves, our soul and to Spirit. Try any of these simple techniques: Easy Five Minute MeditationThree Minute Essential Oil MeditationTaking Energy From TreesEating The Sun Meditation.
  10. Make time each week for a hobby or interest that you care about. Time spent doing what you love is never wasted, and can be an oasis of safety and replenishment in an otherwise difficult life.

Your life matters, and taking care of yourself helps you to live sustainably and with joy.
Choose kindness today, for yourself and towards those around you.
Much love, Nicole   xoxo

Choosing What Matters – Monday Oracle 15 May 2017

“Sometimes the dreams that come true are the dreams you never even knew you had.”
~ Alice Sebold

“If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for.”
~ Thomas Merton

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Destiny’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for May, you’ll remember that May brings beautiful heart-nurturing energies, helping you to move towards love, forgiveness, inner peace and emotional freedom.

So, what gifts does Destiny bring for you this week?

Destiny reminds us, with love and wisdom, that this is our one beautiful life. These days will never be repeated. There is no second chance. No matter what other lives we may have, no matter what comes after this life ends, today is all we have, and we cannot rely on having a certain number of tomorrows.

What do you want to do with this one precious life? What do you want your days to look like? Your weeks? Your years?

I don’t mean what was expected of you by your family or your teachers or your culture. What you think you should do. What you think you have to do.  What you think it’s too late to change. And I don’t mean what you are doing now; what you trained for, what you fell into, what you’ve fought for or been handed . No.

I’m talking about what is in your heart. That secret dream, that desire, that urge, that longing, that curiosity, that idea which won’t let go.

Today is all we can be sure of. Destiny nudges our heart, and helps us to see what really matters, and if it matters to us then we must act to make it real for us.

So, my lovelies, what will you choose this week? What matters to you? What would you die regretting if you didn’t follow your heart on this?

Supportive crystals this week?

Rhodonite is great for supporting us to follow our hearts. Snowflake Obsidian will help to remove old negative self-talk and replace it with optimism. Citrine opens us to ideas creativity and being able to accept help and opportunities. Red Jasper will keep you grounded and emotionally supported if you need to move through trauma or anxiety in order to make changes.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Awaken essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Rosemary, Orange, Frankincense and Lavender. Awaken essential oil blend smells sweet and woody and can be worn as a perfume (place on wrists, over heart and on back of neck) or used in a diffuser. A few drops in the bath are heavenly too. It’s a great oil to get you out of your head and into your heartspace. It promotes spiritual connection and intuition and is deeply calming. I love this oil, and it’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

When You’re in Flow and Your Loved One’s Stuck? Be The Lighthouse…

“What does a lighthouse do? I ask myself. It never moves. It cannot hike up its rocky skirt and dash into the ocean to rescue the foundering ship. It cannot calm the waters or clear the shoals. It can only cast light into the darkness. It can only point the way. Yet, through one lighthouse, you guide many ships. Show this old lighthouse the way.”
~ Lisa Wingate, The Prayer Box

 

2016 is a year of shift and change and growth.

Right now some of us are shifting back into flow, our futures are looking brighter, we have a dream and passion and positivity and…

… our loved one is our polar opposite. It could be our husband, our wife, our lover, our child, our friend, our parent, our sibling. While we are moving, they are stuck. While we are in light, they are in shadow.

There are so many reasons for this. It could be illness, unemployment, depression. It might be family dramas, money problems, low self-esteem, addiction, anger, or a raft of other things.

It’s hard for them – that place where they are. It’s hard for us, when we see our beloved hurting. Sometimes it’s hard to even be in their space.

But we love them.

So, what do we do?

Most Lightworkers are helpers and healers. That’s our first impulse. First and foremost, don’t be your loved one’s therapist. Help them find one, if that’s what they need. It is not your job to ‘fix’ them. Loving and supporting is what we’ve signed up for. Listening. Caring. Carrying the load for a while if we must.

I know, you still want to do something! Even after I have told you not to rush in.

That’s okay. There is something you can do. A lot you can do, actually.

Here’s my advice. It’s tried and tested. It works.

 

Work on you

Work on you. Lift your own vibration. Work on your own shit. Do this without the need for validation or approval or praise. Do it because it’s what your soul needs. Find your own therapist, if that is what it takes. Get support. Get help. Spend time getting to know and understand yourself. Get happy in your own skin, as much as anyone can. Recognise that life is peaks and troughs and it will never be all happiness. It will never be everything going right for everyone all the time. That’s okay. Work on you. Do it because self-work is important, and we come to it in our own time. When we are ready. Some people aren’t interested in self work. Some people are not ready. That’s okay. Work on you.

When you work on you, and heal things in your own life, your vibration lifts. Healing and change ripple out in mysterious and wonderful ways, provoking healing and shift in others. As your vibration lifts it positively affects the people around you. That’s how vibration works. But don’t do it for them. Do it for you!

 

Get excited about your own life

Get excited about your own life.  Find friends within the areas that interest you – spiritual stuff, business, writing, gardening, chainsaw ice-carving, whatever is your thing – and hang out with them. Talk with them about your amazing breakthroughs, your hopes and dreams for your interests.

Don’t limit your dreams or your life because your loved one is stuck and miserable. Don’t put your own happiness on hold. Talk about your life with your loved one when it’s appropriate but don’t be boastful, don’t hold yourself up as some shining example. Don’t make it worse for them. They are already in the hole. Treat them normally. Have the conversation if it’s right for both of you.

If your loved one is cynical, angry, defensive or caustic – if they put you or your dreams down, and leave you feeling worse for having shared – don’t share. Protect your own hopes and dreams. Leave a little space that is sacred and light-filled and that can be a refuge for you against the darkness, pain and negativity of other areas of your life. Doing what you love fills you up, and allows you to keep giving. Getting excited about your own life helps you cope better with the space your beloved finds themselves in.

 

Hold Space for Your Loved One

What does holding space even mean? Simply this – we choose to stop each day, in our prayers or meditations or quiet spaces, and we see our loved one’s life unfolding in positive ways. We dwell for a moment on their best qualities, on happy memories from the past, and on potential positive outcomes in the future. We think and see the best for them, and our intention helps pave the way.

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Image by Dougal Waters

 

Live From Kindness

Choose words and actions that are loving and kind. For yourself. For your loved ones. Treat yourself well. Look after your body. Get enough sleep. Drink water and eat nourishing foods. Clean your house. Do what you can to pay the bills. Set clear boundaries at home and work. Respect yourself. Fill yourself up with what makes you happy. Know that we each have our own journeys and our own lessons.

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When we look after ourselves and live from a place of calm centre – when we work on ourselves and lift our own vibrations – we become like the lighthouse. We beam light, love and positive vibration out into the world, and others are affected. I have seen loved ones go through enormous shift after I have worked on my own life. I have seen all kinds of magic that has been invoked through the simple act of self-responsibility and self-love.

When we work on ourselves the whole world changes.

This may mean that your loved ones will shift to a better place. That they will find their way out of the space they are in and you will find a deepening and a healing within your own relationship with each other. When this happens it is a beautiful and precious thing. And it happens a lot when we do self-work!

This may mean that you shift so far that you find you can no longer be in the same circle, the same space, the same relationship as the one you love or loved. The relationship may fall away. That will be okay too. It will be what it needs to be.

 

My sister-in-law sent me this beautiful video, taken near my farm at Byron Bay on last year’s Blue Moon. I love how the moon rises. I love how the Lighthouse stays constant. Both shine their light. Both guide us.

This year, be the Lighthouse. Shine your light. Be the moon. Rise in your own way, and live from your own inner magic and beauty. Even in the darkness. Through every storm and tempest.

 

 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~ Marianne Williamson

 

Writing Advice that works for Life too!

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“Don’t throw it all away, our love, our love.
Don’t throw it all away, our love.” ~ The Bee Gees

 

The wonderful thing about good advice is that it’s usually applicable to more than one thing. Yesterday I was reading a great post called 23 Tips from Famous Writers for New and Aspiring Authors.

One tip in particular stood out for me. This one:

“Imagine that you are dying. If you had a terminal disease would you ­finish this book? Why not? The thing that annoys this 10-weeks-to-live self is the thing that is wrong with the book. So change it. Stop arguing with yourself. Change it. See? Easy. And no one had to die.” ~ Anne Enright

I thought about a particular manuscript languishing in my bottom draw. You know, it’s a rotten feeling having written an entire book, only to stuff it in a bottom draw because it just doesn’t work for you. There’s two years of my life in that drawer but I’ve never been able to work out how to fix it.

So I applied Anne Enright’s advice. What is wrong with this book? What’s annoying me so much?

It’s the ending. I can’t stand the ending and the neat way I tie everything up. Life isn’t like that. Life has ragged edges.

Thanks Anne! I now have a project for November, (NaNoWRiMo) my writing month.

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Anne’s advice was so useful that I decided to apply it to some non-writing situations; just a little experiment to see what might happen.

You know what? It works. Her technique helped me spend a lazy Sunday afternoon in bed work-shopping my business, a renovation project and a troublesome relationship.

Have you reached a standstill with something in your own life? Are you stuck and don’t know what to do next?

Ask yourself what’s bothering you about it. Even an “I don’t know how to…” shows you your next move.

Sometimes we don’t even need to fix it ourselves. We can ask for help, or get an expert to do it for us.

Wishing you a week full of revelations, insights and progress!

Much love to you, ♥ Nicole xoxo

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Remembering to take care of YOU!

“Right in the difficult we must have our joys, our happiness, our dreams: there against the depth of this background, they stand out, there for the first time we see how beautiful they are.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

 

Recently I received a message from a lovely lady, asking about balance:

I thought of you as I was reflecting on my past week & trying to set goals for the months ahead and wondered how you ‘balance’ yourself, between giving yourself all the appropriate time you need & still helping others. I struggle with giving me some time to myself. Any tips or ideas would be gratefully appreciated.

It’s always a tricky thing – this balancing act, and truth be told, there is no magic formula to create a perfect life where you can neatly tick all of the boxes.  Sometimes you need to go all out for other people.  Most of us are good at that bit.  Where we suck is in going all out for ourselves.

But do you know what? It’s YOUR life – this ain’t no dress rehearsal, and your goals and dreams deserve as much air play as all of those people you are supporting to achieve theirs!

Keith Urban performing on stage - he owul dnever have achieved his dreams without practice, and being brave enough to take a chance on himself. Photo: Daniela Rodriguez

Keith Urban performing on stage – he would never have achieved his dreams without practice, and being brave enough to take a chance on himself. Photo: Daniela Rodriguez

Find some time each day that’s just for you.  Even ten minutes is a help. Not to be productive, but to replenish! It could be a morning run, a meditation, a first cup of coffee with the crossword from the back of the paper, a picnic lunch and time with a book in the park in your lunch hour, a long hot soak at day’s end. It’s worth it to get up that little earlier to find a quiet moment.  Those quiet moments are what fill us up and help us get through the day.

Goals – identify them.  Go ahead and allow yourself some dreaming time. If you need help these try these posts:

Writing as a Manifestation Tool

Writing Yourself into a Brighter Future

Gifts to give yourself this Christmas (Valid all year round!)

When you’ve written your goals and dreams, pick three. Now pick one of the three and break it into do-able chunks.  Schedule a little time each day, or a bigger chunk of time one or two days a week, or one insane period of a few days and work on your goal chunk by chunk until it is done.  Give up on perfection and embrace action!!!

Carve out some time in your Schedule. Only you know how much effort you’ll need to get something done. If all you want is a few moments to yourself then find a way to squeeze some time in by starting later or finishing your day a little earlier. Maybe you’ll need to give yourself Monday nights, or Sunday afternoons.  Maybe you’l need to get bold and block out whole swathes of time in your diary.  It all depends on how big your dream is and how much you want to make your dream a reality.

Sleep! People who are juggling caring for others, paying the bills and a myriad other responsibilities usually cut corners trying to squeeze more into their day. It’s a false economy that leads to burn out.  Give yourself the gift of sleep.  Nothing will get you back on your feet and making good decisions faster than a solid night’s sleep. Say yes to some pillow time, and put everything else on hold. If possible take a whole weekend and devote it to rest. Can’t rest at home?  Check into a hotel or take your tent and vanish for a few days of sleep and soul restoration. You and your sanity are worth it!

Set clear boundaries.  When your dance card is already full, saying yes to more offers of dancing is insane. Know your limits.  Let go of things, or take a night off and let someone else be responsible. If you’re drowning, put your hand up and ask for help. When you need to say no, say no.

Eat well.  When you’re struggling to find space for yourself in a busy life, believe me that is the WORST TIME to skip meals, live on crappy take-aways or cupboard food (yeah, you know what I mean: instant noodles, corn chips, sweet biscuits etc) When we are under stress we need to fuel ourselves up with plenty of healthy, nutritious food and lots of good clean water.

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Take proper time out to nurture and maintain yourself.  Get your hair done, visit the dentist, see a movie, go to the library and stock up on your favourite movies and books, enjoy a massage or something else relaxing and meaningful for you.

Get your support crew together. We can’t do this journey alone.  My support crew includes my husband, the Sisters of the Pen – my writing cadre who are also the dearest of friends and secret keepers, my online community, a few close friends (and yes some of these people live on the other side of the world and we skype, text and call each other!), my acupuncturist, herbalist, dentist, doctors, my accountant, my Guides, and a host of books, motivational videos, courses and websites. I will also add in a few good coffee shops, cafes and farmers’ markets for good measure.

Carrots – you need some so work them out and then dangle them enticingly in front of you.  We call them rewards for a reason.  What is hard work without some well-earned pleasure at the end of the road?  Have a range of small treats and bigger ticket items.  Never put yourself into financial hardship to reward yourself – sometimes my best reward is a coffee at a favourite cafe, a walk on the beach, or a new book and a whole Sunday to myself.

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I’ve done burn out. And nursed that deep resentment from putting everyone else first and me last.  Trust me, it isn’t worth it. It isn’t useful. All it does is break your spirit and your body and leave you floundering and exhausted.

It’s your responsibility to take care of yourself and to honour your dreams.  If you don’t, who will?  Your life is yours to live, so be an active participant and make the days count.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

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Useful extra reading:

The Broken Robot Repair Shop

Simple Pleasures

Doing Nothing is Productive!

Simplicity is a choice

Animal Messengers – Your Sunday Psychic Oracle

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“Lots of people talk to animals…. Not very many listen, though…. That’s the problem.”

~ Benjamin Hoff, The Tao of Pooh

 

The Animal Kingdom contains a wealth of wisdom, and today we are going to tap into that wisdom, to find a message relevant to us in our daily lives right now.

I was inspired to create this post from the multitude of wildlife and natural wonders here at my farm. While it isn’t always possible for everyone to sit on their doorstep, or walk through a field, waiting to gain clarity and perspective from the animals that cross your path, today you can tune in to a series of images, and from them find a message just for you!

 

Instructions for using today’s post

Scroll down through the following animal images and then let yourself come back to the one you are most drawn to.

When you have chosen your image, scroll further down for your message; designed to help you focus on spiritual and personal growth.

Trust that you will be shown what you most need to know right now.

Love and Light,

Nicole ♥ xx

 

Let Nature Guide You…

1.  Australian Dingo:

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2.  Panda:

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3.  Bengal Tiger:

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4.  Horse:

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5.  Elephant:

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6.  Koala:

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7.  Owl:

Great Horned Owl – Picture by Mike Everhart

8: Swan:

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♥ The Healing Message and Gift of each Image ♥

Each animal image has a message for you. I have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of change in your life.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. (If you’d like to know more about working with crystals click here) The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word).

 

1.  Australian Dingo:

♥ MessageIt’s time to break free from the pack, and to trust only those closest to you with your plans and future intentions. Think carefully about your next moves, where you want to go, what you wish to become – and then create a map of how you’re going to get there.  It doesn’t matter if your plan will take time.  Becoming always does. Slowly but surely put your plan into action, knowing that all you need to do is follow your plan, put one foot in front of the other, and your future success will be assured. Your time to begin is now!

♥ Crystal – Tiger Eye  

♥ Power Word – Independence

 

2.  Panda:

♥ Message – Panda knows that true happiness comes from a combination of work and play. It’s time to end your social isolation and reach out to friends and family, engaging with life again. Panda also knows that there must be some portion of your life devoted to spiritual contemplation and meditation, and another part that is about study and personal growth.  Pandas are always learning. True mental power and personal breakthrough comes from a combination of rest, work, reflection and play. When learning opportunities come up, say YES!

♥ Crystal – Blue Kyanite

♥ Power Word – Learning

 

3.  Bengal Tiger:

♥ Message – Tiger warns you against being scattered in your energies.  It is time to focus on your goals with clear intent, and to remove time wasters and meaningless relationships from your life. Find yourself a good teacher or mentor.  Hang out with people who also seek positive change.  Each day when Tiger wakes up, Tiger KNOWS what needs to be done, and Tiger acts upon that knowing. Tigers create powerful momentum in their lives through their direct focus on their goals, and from their strategic relationships. Their friends are tigers too – whether they hunt alone or together, they have a singular purpose, and they support each other in their purpose.  Choose your friends wisely. Seek out those who already do well the thing you wish to do or become. Put time and energy into your dreams!

♥ Crystal – Citrine

♥ Power Word – Clarity

 

4.  Horse:

♥ Message – Horses are noble creatures.  They embody courage and grace, and they run like the wind.  The horse’s message for you is simple. Hold true to your values. Don’t sell out.  Stand up for what you believe in.  And if it is impossible to live by your values and stay where you are, if you are not loved and supported where you are, then move on. It’s time to believe in yourself, it’s time to honour your values and convictions, it’s time to live with courage, and to let your inner beauty and wisdom shine. Horses always find others of their own nature to run with.  It’s time to find your own tribe, and break free from old limitations. There is great freedom in action.  Run free!

♥ Crystal – Bloodstone

♥ Power Word – Freedom

 

5.  Elephant:

♥ Message – It’s time to begin sharing what you know. You’re a natural teacher, and you have powerful wisdoms and experiences to share with others.  Elephant has appeared to remind you of your promise to the Universe – to be of Service; to help others on their journey; to do what you can, with what you have. Sharing knowledge can happen in the simplest of ways – sometimes our most profound encounters are from a passing conversation, or encouragement from a stranger.  You’re being called. You have gifts to share, and there is value for others in those gifts. Step up, it’s time!

♥ Crystal – Amethyst

♥ Power Word – Wisdom

 

6.  Koala:

♥ Message – Koala is a master of personal comfort and security. Security isn’t about guard dogs and high fences – security is about knowledge, and building a solid foundation on which to base your life.  When Koala has a home tree to return to, he can travel far in the world, because home is an anchor that always draws him back to a place of sanctuary.  Koala’s message to you is this – learn all you can about money.  Pay down your debt and put a plan to manage your money in place.  You’re coming into a great time for getting comfortable with where you live and building your personal wealth. Think about investing or buying a home of your own. Don’t waste your precious cash on things that don’t add meaning or value to your life. And on the home front, tidy up – make your home an inviting sanctuary that nurtures and supports you. If the tree you live in doesn’t meet your needs, go on the hunt for a better tree. Let your home reflect who you are, no matter how simple or how lavish. Build solid foundations for your future, and the future of your family. Take responsibility for your money, and your home. Acknowledge the importance of personal security and make a plan to improve yours!

♥ Crystal – Red Jasper

♥ Power Word – Security

 

7.  Owl:

♥ Message – Owl always signifies a time of rapid spiritual and psychic growth. Life may feel turbulent, it might make no sense to you at all, but Owl reminds you to trust in a greater wisdom, and to know that there is a Higher Plan for your life.  Retreat from the world when you need to. Protect yourself from people and situations that diffuse your enthusiasm and personal energy. Spend time in reflection, contemplation and study.  Allow yourself some time to settle into your new energies, and be gentle with yourself during this time of transformation. Practice meditation, and spend time in nature. Be gentle with yourself, rest often, and eat well. Wait for the messages.  Owls always bring messages!

♥ Crystal – Rutilated Quartz

♥ Power Word – Transformation

 

8: Swan:

♥ Message – Swan signifies an opening of the heart, energies of forgiveness, and energies of true love.  Swans enjoy relationships based on love, trust and deep respect.  Swan comes into your life to herald transformation in your love relationships – a renewal of energy and passion, deeper connection, new mates when you have been alone. They can also signify a Higher Love coming into your life. This might be a spiritual or a religious calling. It may also be finding a Life Path that requires your full heart and devotion, and where you can happily give yourself over to that passion, knowing that it is  truly your path of Highest Good.

♥ Crystal – Moonstone

♥ Power Word – Fulfillment