Choosing What Matters – Monday Oracle 15 May 2017

“Sometimes the dreams that come true are the dreams you never even knew you had.”
~ Alice Sebold

“If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for.”
~ Thomas Merton

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Destiny’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for May, you’ll remember that May brings beautiful heart-nurturing energies, helping you to move towards love, forgiveness, inner peace and emotional freedom.

So, what gifts does Destiny bring for you this week?

Destiny reminds us, with love and wisdom, that this is our one beautiful life. These days will never be repeated. There is no second chance. No matter what other lives we may have, no matter what comes after this life ends, today is all we have, and we cannot rely on having a certain number of tomorrows.

What do you want to do with this one precious life? What do you want your days to look like? Your weeks? Your years?

I don’t mean what was expected of you by your family or your teachers or your culture. What you think you should do. What you think you have to do.  What you think it’s too late to change. And I don’t mean what you are doing now; what you trained for, what you fell into, what you’ve fought for or been handed . No.

I’m talking about what is in your heart. That secret dream, that desire, that urge, that longing, that curiosity, that idea which won’t let go.

Today is all we can be sure of. Destiny nudges our heart, and helps us to see what really matters, and if it matters to us then we must act to make it real for us.

So, my lovelies, what will you choose this week? What matters to you? What would you die regretting if you didn’t follow your heart on this?

Supportive crystals this week?

Rhodonite is great for supporting us to follow our hearts. Snowflake Obsidian will help to remove old negative self-talk and replace it with optimism. Citrine opens us to ideas creativity and being able to accept help and opportunities. Red Jasper will keep you grounded and emotionally supported if you need to move through trauma or anxiety in order to make changes.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Awaken essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Rosemary, Orange, Frankincense and Lavender. Awaken essential oil blend smells sweet and woody and can be worn as a perfume (place on wrists, over heart and on back of neck) or used in a diffuser. A few drops in the bath are heavenly too. It’s a great oil to get you out of your head and into your heartspace. It promotes spiritual connection and intuition and is deeply calming. I love this oil, and it’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

When You’re in Flow and Your Loved One’s Stuck? Be The Lighthouse…

“What does a lighthouse do? I ask myself. It never moves. It cannot hike up its rocky skirt and dash into the ocean to rescue the foundering ship. It cannot calm the waters or clear the shoals. It can only cast light into the darkness. It can only point the way. Yet, through one lighthouse, you guide many ships. Show this old lighthouse the way.”
~ Lisa Wingate, The Prayer Box

 

2016 is a year of shift and change and growth.

Right now some of us are shifting back into flow, our futures are looking brighter, we have a dream and passion and positivity and…

… our loved one is our polar opposite. It could be our husband, our wife, our lover, our child, our friend, our parent, our sibling. While we are moving, they are stuck. While we are in light, they are in shadow.

There are so many reasons for this. It could be illness, unemployment, depression. It might be family dramas, money problems, low self-esteem, addiction, anger, or a raft of other things.

It’s hard for them – that place where they are. It’s hard for us, when we see our beloved hurting. Sometimes it’s hard to even be in their space.

But we love them.

So, what do we do?

Most Lightworkers are helpers and healers. That’s our first impulse. First and foremost, don’t be your loved one’s therapist. Help them find one, if that’s what they need. It is not your job to ‘fix’ them. Loving and supporting is what we’ve signed up for. Listening. Caring. Carrying the load for a while if we must.

I know, you still want to do something! Even after I have told you not to rush in.

That’s okay. There is something you can do. A lot you can do, actually.

Here’s my advice. It’s tried and tested. It works.

 

Work on you

Work on you. Lift your own vibration. Work on your own shit. Do this without the need for validation or approval or praise. Do it because it’s what your soul needs. Find your own therapist, if that is what it takes. Get support. Get help. Spend time getting to know and understand yourself. Get happy in your own skin, as much as anyone can. Recognise that life is peaks and troughs and it will never be all happiness. It will never be everything going right for everyone all the time. That’s okay. Work on you. Do it because self-work is important, and we come to it in our own time. When we are ready. Some people aren’t interested in self work. Some people are not ready. That’s okay. Work on you.

When you work on you, and heal things in your own life, your vibration lifts. Healing and change ripple out in mysterious and wonderful ways, provoking healing and shift in others. As your vibration lifts it positively affects the people around you. That’s how vibration works. But don’t do it for them. Do it for you!

 

Get excited about your own life

Get excited about your own life.  Find friends within the areas that interest you – spiritual stuff, business, writing, gardening, chainsaw ice-carving, whatever is your thing – and hang out with them. Talk with them about your amazing breakthroughs, your hopes and dreams for your interests.

Don’t limit your dreams or your life because your loved one is stuck and miserable. Don’t put your own happiness on hold. Talk about your life with your loved one when it’s appropriate but don’t be boastful, don’t hold yourself up as some shining example. Don’t make it worse for them. They are already in the hole. Treat them normally. Have the conversation if it’s right for both of you.

If your loved one is cynical, angry, defensive or caustic – if they put you or your dreams down, and leave you feeling worse for having shared – don’t share. Protect your own hopes and dreams. Leave a little space that is sacred and light-filled and that can be a refuge for you against the darkness, pain and negativity of other areas of your life. Doing what you love fills you up, and allows you to keep giving. Getting excited about your own life helps you cope better with the space your beloved finds themselves in.

 

Hold Space for Your Loved One

What does holding space even mean? Simply this – we choose to stop each day, in our prayers or meditations or quiet spaces, and we see our loved one’s life unfolding in positive ways. We dwell for a moment on their best qualities, on happy memories from the past, and on potential positive outcomes in the future. We think and see the best for them, and our intention helps pave the way.

Image by Dougal Waters

Image by Dougal Waters

 

Live From Kindness

Choose words and actions that are loving and kind. For yourself. For your loved ones. Treat yourself well. Look after your body. Get enough sleep. Drink water and eat nourishing foods. Clean your house. Do what you can to pay the bills. Set clear boundaries at home and work. Respect yourself. Fill yourself up with what makes you happy. Know that we each have our own journeys and our own lessons.

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When we look after ourselves and live from a place of calm centre – when we work on ourselves and lift our own vibrations – we become like the lighthouse. We beam light, love and positive vibration out into the world, and others are affected. I have seen loved ones go through enormous shift after I have worked on my own life. I have seen all kinds of magic that has been invoked through the simple act of self-responsibility and self-love.

When we work on ourselves the whole world changes.

This may mean that your loved ones will shift to a better place. That they will find their way out of the space they are in and you will find a deepening and a healing within your own relationship with each other. When this happens it is a beautiful and precious thing. And it happens a lot when we do self-work!

This may mean that you shift so far that you find you can no longer be in the same circle, the same space, the same relationship as the one you love or loved. The relationship may fall away. That will be okay too. It will be what it needs to be.

 

My sister-in-law sent me this beautiful video, taken near my farm at Byron Bay on last year’s Blue Moon. I love how the moon rises. I love how the Lighthouse stays constant. Both shine their light. Both guide us.

This year, be the Lighthouse. Shine your light. Be the moon. Rise in your own way, and live from your own inner magic and beauty. Even in the darkness. Through every storm and tempest.

 

 

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. ~ Marianne Williamson

 

Writing Advice that works for Life too!

“Don’t throw it all away, our love, our love.
Don’t throw it all away, our love.” ~ The Bee Gees

 

The wonderful thing about good advice is that it’s usually applicable to more than one thing. Yesterday I was reading a great post called 23 Tips from Famous Writers for New and Aspiring Authors.

One tip in particular stood out for me. This one:

“Imagine that you are dying. If you had a terminal disease would you ­finish this book? Why not? The thing that annoys this 10-weeks-to-live self is the thing that is wrong with the book. So change it. Stop arguing with yourself. Change it. See? Easy. And no one had to die.” ~ Anne Enright

I thought about a particular manuscript languishing in my bottom draw. You know, it’s a rotten feeling having written an entire book, only to stuff it in a bottom draw because it just doesn’t work for you. There’s two years of my life in that drawer but I’ve never been able to work out how to fix it.

So I applied Anne Enright’s advice. What is wrong with this book? What’s annoying me so much?

It’s the ending. I can’t stand the ending and the neat way I tie everything up. Life isn’t like that. Life has ragged edges.

Thanks Anne! I now have a project for November, (NaNoWRiMo) my writing month.

BookEditing

Anne’s advice was so useful that I decided to apply it to some non-writing situations; just a little experiment to see what might happen.

You know what? It works. Her technique helped me spend a lazy Sunday afternoon in bed work-shopping my business, a renovation project and a troublesome relationship.

Have you reached a standstill with something in your own life? Are you stuck and don’t know what to do next?

Ask yourself what’s bothering you about it. Even an “I don’t know how to…” shows you your next move.

Sometimes we don’t even need to fix it ourselves. We can ask for help, or get an expert to do it for us.

Wishing you a week full of revelations, insights and progress!

Much love to you, ♥ Nicole xoxo

Image from hauwei

Image from hauwei

Remembering to take care of YOU!

“Right in the difficult we must have our joys, our happiness, our dreams: there against the depth of this background, they stand out, there for the first time we see how beautiful they are.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

 

Recently I received a message from a lovely lady, asking about balance:

I thought of you as I was reflecting on my past week & trying to set goals for the months ahead and wondered how you ‘balance’ yourself, between giving yourself all the appropriate time you need & still helping others. I struggle with giving me some time to myself. Any tips or ideas would be gratefully appreciated.

It’s always a tricky thing – this balancing act, and truth be told, there is no magic formula to create a perfect life where you can neatly tick all of the boxes.  Sometimes you need to go all out for other people.  Most of us are good at that bit.  Where we suck is in going all out for ourselves.

But do you know what? It’s YOUR life – this ain’t no dress rehearsal, and your goals and dreams deserve as much air play as all of those people you are supporting to achieve theirs!

Keith Urban performing on stage - he owul dnever have achieved his dreams without practice, and being brave enough to take a chance on himself. Photo: Daniela Rodriguez

Keith Urban performing on stage – he would never have achieved his dreams without practice, and being brave enough to take a chance on himself. Photo: Daniela Rodriguez

Find some time each day that’s just for you.  Even ten minutes is a help. Not to be productive, but to replenish! It could be a morning run, a meditation, a first cup of coffee with the crossword from the back of the paper, a picnic lunch and time with a book in the park in your lunch hour, a long hot soak at day’s end. It’s worth it to get up that little earlier to find a quiet moment.  Those quiet moments are what fill us up and help us get through the day.

Goals – identify them.  Go ahead and allow yourself some dreaming time. If you need help these try these posts:

Writing as a Manifestation Tool

Writing Yourself into a Brighter Future

Gifts to give yourself this Christmas (Valid all year round!)

When you’ve written your goals and dreams, pick three. Now pick one of the three and break it into do-able chunks.  Schedule a little time each day, or a bigger chunk of time one or two days a week, or one insane period of a few days and work on your goal chunk by chunk until it is done.  Give up on perfection and embrace action!!!

Carve out some time in your Schedule. Only you know how much effort you’ll need to get something done. If all you want is a few moments to yourself then find a way to squeeze some time in by starting later or finishing your day a little earlier. Maybe you’ll need to give yourself Monday nights, or Sunday afternoons.  Maybe you’l need to get bold and block out whole swathes of time in your diary.  It all depends on how big your dream is and how much you want to make your dream a reality.

Sleep! People who are juggling caring for others, paying the bills and a myriad other responsibilities usually cut corners trying to squeeze more into their day. It’s a false economy that leads to burn out.  Give yourself the gift of sleep.  Nothing will get you back on your feet and making good decisions faster than a solid night’s sleep. Say yes to some pillow time, and put everything else on hold. If possible take a whole weekend and devote it to rest. Can’t rest at home?  Check into a hotel or take your tent and vanish for a few days of sleep and soul restoration. You and your sanity are worth it!

Set clear boundaries.  When your dance card is already full, saying yes to more offers of dancing is insane. Know your limits.  Let go of things, or take a night off and let someone else be responsible. If you’re drowning, put your hand up and ask for help. When you need to say no, say no.

Eat well.  When you’re struggling to find space for yourself in a busy life, believe me that is the WORST TIME to skip meals, live on crappy take-aways or cupboard food (yeah, you know what I mean: instant noodles, corn chips, sweet biscuits etc) When we are under stress we need to fuel ourselves up with plenty of healthy, nutritious food and lots of good clean water.

Image from www.wilstop.info

Image from www.wilstop.info

Take proper time out to nurture and maintain yourself.  Get your hair done, visit the dentist, see a movie, go to the library and stock up on your favourite movies and books, enjoy a massage or something else relaxing and meaningful for you.

Get your support crew together. We can’t do this journey alone.  My support crew includes my husband, the Sisters of the Pen – my writing cadre who are also the dearest of friends and secret keepers, my online community, a few close friends (and yes some of these people live on the other side of the world and we skype, text and call each other!), my acupuncturist, herbalist, dentist, doctors, my accountant, my Guides, and a host of books, motivational videos, courses and websites. I will also add in a few good coffee shops, cafes and farmers’ markets for good measure.

Carrots – you need some so work them out and then dangle them enticingly in front of you.  We call them rewards for a reason.  What is hard work without some well-earned pleasure at the end of the road?  Have a range of small treats and bigger ticket items.  Never put yourself into financial hardship to reward yourself – sometimes my best reward is a coffee at a favourite cafe, a walk on the beach, or a new book and a whole Sunday to myself.

hammock-on-the-beach

I’ve done burn out. And nursed that deep resentment from putting everyone else first and me last.  Trust me, it isn’t worth it. It isn’t useful. All it does is break your spirit and your body and leave you floundering and exhausted.

It’s your responsibility to take care of yourself and to honour your dreams.  If you don’t, who will?  Your life is yours to live, so be an active participant and make the days count.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

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Useful extra reading:

The Broken Robot Repair Shop

Simple Pleasures

Doing Nothing is Productive!

Simplicity is a choice

Animal Messengers – Your Sunday Psychic Oracle

“Lots of people talk to animals…. Not very many listen, though…. That’s the problem.”

~ Benjamin Hoff, The Tao of Pooh

 

The Animal Kingdom contains a wealth of wisdom, and today we are going to tap into that wisdom, to find a message relevant to us in our daily lives right now.

I was inspired to create this post from the multitude of wildlife and natural wonders here at my farm. While it isn’t always possible for everyone to sit on their doorstep, or walk through a field, waiting to gain clarity and perspective from the animals that cross your path, today you can tune in to a series of images, and from them find a message just for you!

 

Instructions for using today’s post

Scroll down through the following animal images and then let yourself come back to the one you are most drawn to.

When you have chosen your image, scroll further down for your message; designed to help you focus on spiritual and personal growth.

Trust that you will be shown what you most need to know right now.

Love and Light,

Nicole ♥ xx

 

Let Nature Guide You…

1.  Australian Dingo:

2.  Panda:

3.  Bengal Tiger:

4.  Horse:

5.  Elephant:

6.  Koala:

7.  Owl:

Great Horned Owl – Picture by Mike Everhart

8: Swan:

 

♥ The Healing Message and Gift of each Image ♥

Each animal image has a message for you. I have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of change in your life.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. (If you’d like to know more about working with crystals click here) The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word).

 

1.  Australian Dingo:

♥ MessageIt’s time to break free from the pack, and to trust only those closest to you with your plans and future intentions. Think carefully about your next moves, where you want to go, what you wish to become – and then create a map of how you’re going to get there.  It doesn’t matter if your plan will take time.  Becoming always does. Slowly but surely put your plan into action, knowing that all you need to do is follow your plan, put one foot in front of the other, and your future success will be assured. Your time to begin is now!

♥ Crystal – Tiger Eye  

♥ Power Word – Independence

 

2.  Panda:

♥ Message – Panda knows that true happiness comes from a combination of work and play. It’s time to end your social isolation and reach out to friends and family, engaging with life again. Panda also knows that there must be some portion of your life devoted to spiritual contemplation and meditation, and another part that is about study and personal growth.  Pandas are always learning. True mental power and personal breakthrough comes from a combination of rest, work, reflection and play. When learning opportunities come up, say YES!

♥ Crystal – Blue Kyanite

♥ Power Word – Learning

 

3.  Bengal Tiger:

♥ Message – Tiger warns you against being scattered in your energies.  It is time to focus on your goals with clear intent, and to remove time wasters and meaningless relationships from your life. Find yourself a good teacher or mentor.  Hang out with people who also seek positive change.  Each day when Tiger wakes up, Tiger KNOWS what needs to be done, and Tiger acts upon that knowing. Tigers create powerful momentum in their lives through their direct focus on their goals, and from their strategic relationships. Their friends are tigers too – whether they hunt alone or together, they have a singular purpose, and they support each other in their purpose.  Choose your friends wisely. Seek out those who already do well the thing you wish to do or become. Put time and energy into your dreams!

♥ Crystal – Citrine

♥ Power Word – Clarity

 

4.  Horse:

♥ Message – Horses are noble creatures.  They embody courage and grace, and they run like the wind.  The horse’s message for you is simple. Hold true to your values. Don’t sell out.  Stand up for what you believe in.  And if it is impossible to live by your values and stay where you are, if you are not loved and supported where you are, then move on. It’s time to believe in yourself, it’s time to honour your values and convictions, it’s time to live with courage, and to let your inner beauty and wisdom shine. Horses always find others of their own nature to run with.  It’s time to find your own tribe, and break free from old limitations. There is great freedom in action.  Run free!

♥ Crystal – Bloodstone

♥ Power Word – Freedom

 

5.  Elephant:

♥ Message – It’s time to begin sharing what you know. You’re a natural teacher, and you have powerful wisdoms and experiences to share with others.  Elephant has appeared to remind you of your promise to the Universe – to be of Service; to help others on their journey; to do what you can, with what you have. Sharing knowledge can happen in the simplest of ways – sometimes our most profound encounters are from a passing conversation, or encouragement from a stranger.  You’re being called. You have gifts to share, and there is value for others in those gifts. Step up, it’s time!

♥ Crystal – Amethyst

♥ Power Word – Wisdom

 

6.  Koala:

♥ Message – Koala is a master of personal comfort and security. Security isn’t about guard dogs and high fences – security is about knowledge, and building a solid foundation on which to base your life.  When Koala has a home tree to return to, he can travel far in the world, because home is an anchor that always draws him back to a place of sanctuary.  Koala’s message to you is this – learn all you can about money.  Pay down your debt and put a plan to manage your money in place.  You’re coming into a great time for getting comfortable with where you live and building your personal wealth. Think about investing or buying a home of your own. Don’t waste your precious cash on things that don’t add meaning or value to your life. And on the home front, tidy up – make your home an inviting sanctuary that nurtures and supports you. If the tree you live in doesn’t meet your needs, go on the hunt for a better tree. Let your home reflect who you are, no matter how simple or how lavish. Build solid foundations for your future, and the future of your family. Take responsibility for your money, and your home. Acknowledge the importance of personal security and make a plan to improve yours!

♥ Crystal – Red Jasper

♥ Power Word – Security

 

7.  Owl:

♥ Message – Owl always signifies a time of rapid spiritual and psychic growth. Life may feel turbulent, it might make no sense to you at all, but Owl reminds you to trust in a greater wisdom, and to know that there is a Higher Plan for your life.  Retreat from the world when you need to. Protect yourself from people and situations that diffuse your enthusiasm and personal energy. Spend time in reflection, contemplation and study.  Allow yourself some time to settle into your new energies, and be gentle with yourself during this time of transformation. Practice meditation, and spend time in nature. Be gentle with yourself, rest often, and eat well. Wait for the messages.  Owls always bring messages!

♥ Crystal – Rutilated Quartz

♥ Power Word – Transformation

 

8: Swan:

♥ Message – Swan signifies an opening of the heart, energies of forgiveness, and energies of true love.  Swans enjoy relationships based on love, trust and deep respect.  Swan comes into your life to herald transformation in your love relationships – a renewal of energy and passion, deeper connection, new mates when you have been alone. They can also signify a Higher Love coming into your life. This might be a spiritual or a religious calling. It may also be finding a Life Path that requires your full heart and devotion, and where you can happily give yourself over to that passion, knowing that it is  truly your path of Highest Good.

♥ Crystal – Moonstone

♥ Power Word – Fulfillment