How To Attract a Soul Mate Into Your Life

“When you make a choice, you change the future.” 
Deepak Chopra

 

July is a wonderful month for love. But what if you don’t have any in your life yet? Today I’d like to share a simple technique with you that can help you call in a soul mate or rejuvenate an existing relationship. (Yes, Leisa, I wrote this post for you!)

When it comes to manifestation the Universe works like a giant restaurant. It will only deliver you what you order. If you keep changing your mind it makes it hard for those hard-working kitchen angels to create the right ‘dish’ and deliver it speedily to you.  Mixed messages are confusing for everyone, and will ultimately frustrate you in your attempts to find true love.

Most people spend more time choosing a car than they do choosing a life partner.  How often do people fall into a relationship and then try and make it over into the one they want?  We throw so much time and energy and money into trying to make square pegs fit into round holes.  Often years of our lives are spent fighting battles we were never meant to win.

Discernment is the key to successful relationships, and discernment must ALWAYS start with awareness.  Are you aware of what you want in a relationship?  For many people, their clearest opinions and decisions start out being based around what they DON’T want.  This is as good a place to start as any, as long as you are able to then turn each negative into a positive.  “I don’t want a partner who will cheat on me” becomes, “I deserve a partner who will be faithful and loyal to our relationship.”  Look to the good and unsuccessful relationships around you to guide you in making your love choices.

Take time to really think about the sort of partner and the type of relationship you are looking for. As you become clearer about what you want, begin by writing down the qualities and characteristics of this relationship. Create a ‘Love Shopping List’ and add to it as your awareness increases. Take your time with this. Do you rush into buying a house, or choosing an expensive once-in-a-lifetime holiday? Make your list comfortable, accurate and reflective of your innermost desires.

If you meet someone who clearly does not fit what you ordered, then wait!  Maybe the Universal Chef is still cooking your meal.  (And. of course, they may wonderfully surpass all of your expectations!)

 

Activity

I have used this method myself, and so have many of my students, friends and clients.  This activity involves letting the Universe know exactly what you are wanting in a love relationship so that it can deliver this to you. In every single case that I am aware of it has been successful! I also know of people who have refreshed and revived existing relationships using the same technique.

When you have compiled your list of characteristics and qualities for your desired partner (as explained in the previous paragraphs above) review them until you are satisfied with your choices.

Take a clean white sheet of paper and write the following:

I, (Insert your name), now chose the following in my life partner:

Now write down your list. Finish the work by writing, I now accept this or better in my life. Sign the work and set it to one side. 

Take a second piece of paper. On this piece write down all of the qualities and characteristics within YOU that you can offer a loving partner.  Be honest and humble.  Sign it with, I offer this and better to my life partner.  This part is important because the Universe is governed by laws of energetic exchange – you don’t get anything for nothing!

Now fold both pieces of paper and seal them in an envelope. Hold the letter in your hands. In your mind’s eye, imagine these pieces of paper and surround them with a pink bubble of Light. Pour love energy into the pink bubble until your letter feels fully charged.

Put the envelope somewhere safe, and place your expectations to one side. If you ever think of the letter send more love and light to the pink bubble of energy surrounding it. Be open to what comes to you. The Universe always surprises us with more good than we could ever imagine for ourselves.

Wishing for you a month of kindness, love and heart healing,

Nicole  xx

Making My Life Work for Me – Week 3

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“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” ~ Oscar Wilde

“A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.” ~ Thomas Carlyle

“Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.” ~ Leo Buscaglia

Welcome to Week 3 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’re just joining us now, pop back and read the very first post so that you can gather the materials we’ll be using today.)

Our focus this week is on reconnecting with the energy of love in our lives.  Life becomes very empty without love – and I don’t just mean romantic love.

Get ready to open up your heart and let love in. A life lived with passion, purpose and a full heart will make you feel alive, energised and so grateful for the blessing of every day.

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Instructions:

We will be following the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

We’re going to start with a meditation to help you connect into and draw more love into your life.  Hold your crystal and drape your scarf or shawl around your shoulders.  Set aside twelve minutes for this. When you’re ready click the link below and simply follow the sound of my voice:

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for Manifesting Love

Know that true and lasting love is possible. Know that you are already Loved. Love is your Nature. Love is your natural expression. ❤

(PS – I apologise for the breathy-ness of the recording, especially towards the end but my big fat heart is playing up today.)

Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  Feel yourself well loved, in love with life, and expressing that love joyfully in the world.  Have gratitude and expectation of drawing these things into your life.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

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Using Your Journal:

Go back to the front of your journal and read your Pledge out loud.

You’ve committed to making a better life for yourself.  A better life means a life that holds more love – more connection to the significant relationships in your life, new relationships, and time for what matters to you. You are worthy of true and lasting love – with yourself, with family and other important people, with life paths, places and lifestyles. Be open to love in all its forms as you work with your journal this week.

Feel free to use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your journal visually attractive.  Get involved in the love manifestation process by pouring your creative heart into this week’s activities.

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s start our week by selecting some reflective spiritual Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

Here’s what I chose for us: I love the message and appropriateness of this week’s card!

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Our lives are made rich by relationships, and by having things in our lives that we care about deeply. Who can you reach out to this week and in the months ahead? How can you show love for yourself or someone special to you?

Week 3 Journal Activity:

On a clean page write a stream of consciousness around the question Where do I need more Love?  Start by clearing your mind, and then focus on your heart. This can be a hard thing to do if you haven’t checked in for a while. Look to the following areas and choose any or all of them to explore: self, health, family, life partner, friendships, animal companions, home, hobbies and interests, career, finances, spirituality, community.  No matter what you find when you look inside, intensify that feeling and then start writing. Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it. Play music if it helps evoke the mood. Cast your net wide, and over the next few days keep adding to your list.  Allow any emotions that come up to be honoured, and then let them go. Keep bringing your attention back to your heart.

And now for heart art…

Collage – Self Portrait: Things that my heart loves.  Today we’re going to make a collaged picture of ourselves, made up of all of the things our heart loves.  If you choose, you can also add in photographs or copies of photographs of people, pets, places and other things dear to you.

Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom to help me invite, understand and honour the energy of love in my life. I AM love – love is in me and all around me.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to that heart wisdom.

Then when you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly, and then spend some time arranging them on a page or double page of your journal. Start by drawing a rough outline of your head and shoulders.  Then fill in your self portrait with images and words. If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry. There are so many things to fill you up with love.  Expect them to start turning up in your life.

Were there any surprises?  Did you notice any particular themes? How can you bring more of this nourishing love energy into your life?

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Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that inspire, heal and inform. Wishing you a wonderful week.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

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Choosing Crystals To Attract Love ♥ Part 2

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
― Dr. Seuss

Can you use crystals to manifest love in your life?

You bet!

But let’s be clear that you can use them at attract ANY kind of love.  Romantic love, friendship, a creative project, dream job, a holiday that you adore, a baby…

I’m going to show you two ways today of calling in love.  The first is very easy and conventional.  The second feels amazing, and is much more ‘witchy’.  They both work well, so choose the method that most resonates with you.

First of all, let’s look at some crystals that would be helpful for this exercise:

Clear Quartz – The perfect stone for Soul Mates and Life Partners.  It can also be used for any other love purpose too. A great all-rounder.  It doesn’t matter if it’s a tumbled stone, a point, a shape, or a cluster.  Go with what feels right for you!

Danburite – This is one of the scrummiest stones I know for fertility and babies.

Amethyst – This is useful for calling in spiritual Soul Mates and also for connecting strongly with your Guides

Green Aventurine – The best crystal for attracting real and lasting friendship into your life.  Green Aventurine literally sparkles with that joyous energy of heart expansion.

Fluorite – my favourite stone for calling in creative ideas that I will adore.  Terrific for writers, musicians, artists and other creative types, or for folks who are looking for some artistic pathway to fall in love with.

Citrine – Use this stone for calling in your dream job, your perfect project, a career path that you will LOVE.  Great for finding your direction when you’re unclear.

You can actually choose ANY crystal that calls to you, when you’re choosing something to bring love into your life.  The most important thing is that you FEEL drawn to and happy with your choice.  I have been known to walk into a crystal shop, absently pick up a rock without realising, and then find it still clutched in my hand as I am leaving.  Sometimes I have not been visually attracted to the stone, but I knew I had to have it.  It became un-put-down-able…  Those sorts of stones are just fine too!

Feel free to review this general information on choosing and preparing crystals too, before we complete our activity for today:

Choosing A Crystal

Cleansing and Connecting with Crystals

Now, let’s work with our chosen stone.

Method one:

  1. Activate your hand chakras
  2. Take your crystal in one hand (left for men, right for women) and hold it up in front of your heart.
  3. Place your other hand just above the crystal, so that it is cupped between the energy of your two hands.
  4. Pour energy and light into your stone, and then set the clear intent of what you want.  You don’t need words.  Just FEEL the energy of a new love, a new baby, a new job, whatever it is that you are seeking to call to you.  Intensify that energy as you pour it into the stone. 
  5. Say aloud, or strongly in your head I call you to me now.  I call you to my heart. Thank you.
  6. Finish by closing both hands over the stone and offering up a prayer or words of gratitude to the Universe.
  7. Now that your stone is programmed you can keep it on you, or place it by your bed, desk or on your windowsill.

Method Two:

  1. Follow Method One first! Then take your programmed crystal and go outside.
  2. Find a spot to lie down on the earth. Lie right down on the ground so that you are facing the sky. You can choose to hold your crystal in your hand, or place it on your chest, over your heart. Close your eyes, and feel a deep connection into the earth.
  3. Offer up a prayer of thanks, affirming that you now draw this love into your life.
  4. Feel your heart begin to spin.  When the energy is strong, imagine an energy like a tornado rising out of your heart.  Feel your body strongly connected into the earth, while the energy from your heart soars out into the universe like a swirling, spiralling storm. Let your heart energy roam until it connects into something.  You won’t get a name or a face – you’ll just get a feeling. Say with strong intention I welcome you into my life now. Thank you.
  5. Pull that feeling of connection back into your heart, and then allow your awareness to settle back into your chest.
  6. Become aware of the earth beneath you as you come back into your body.  Take a moment or two and relax before you stand up again.

Day 29 – Gratitude Challenge

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“We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.” ~ Mary Dunbar

If there is one thing I have learned in this lifetime, it is this: When I love myself, when I am kind to myself and encouraging of myself, healing happens, doors open and life falls into place.

One of the singular most powerful acts you can perform that will transform your life is to have gratitude for YOURSELF.

Appreciate your own efforts, acknowledge your work and your growth, be gentle with yourself when you fail, and praise yourself when you pick yourself back up.

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When we treat ourselves with love and respect, we are sending a strong message to the Universe – what we give out is what we attract back into our life. By respecting and loving ourselves, we attract respectful and loving relationships.

Do I need to add that by running ourselves down, selling ourselves short, heaping criticism upon ourselves, berating and blaming ourselves – we attract negative, exploitive and abusive relationships at home and at work?

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There is only one you in the whole of creation and there will never be another soul with your unique blend of DNA, thoughts and experiences.

You bring something special to the Universe.

This life is a great gift, and your existence is no accident…

YOU – your unique talents and your very life are Blessings.  It’s true that this can be a challenging perspective at first, but I promise that the more you look at yourself through eyes of love and gratitude the more satisfying your life will become.

Today, think kind thoughts towards yourself, and cultivate an attitude of gratitude for this wonderful journey we call life!

Counting Our Blessings and Using our Gratitude Rock

If you need a detailed reminder of our daily process, you can review it here in Day 1 of the Gratitude Challenge.

  1. List five Blessings in your journal, explaining why you are grateful for each one.
  2. Count your Blessings off on your fingers, summoning positive emotion and saying Thank You from your heart for each one.
  3. Write the following words on a piece of paper, feeling the truth of this energy in your heart,  and add this paper to the ones already under your Gratitude Rock : My life is a Blessing, and I am ready to share my unique talents and gifts with the World. I am grateful for my Life.  Thank You, Thank You, Thank You.
  4. Tonight before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock and affirm I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Visualise one thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe, then imagine a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
  5. Still holding your Gratitude Rock, bless your fellow travellers on this Gratitude Journey by sending them golden light, and saying Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here.

If all you do today is these five steps, know that is enough.

But if you’re ready for a little more, why not join me for today’s gratitude challenge?

Mirror, Mirror!

Go find some quiet place with a mirror. Stand or sit in front of it and close your eyes.  Think about your body for a moment.  Think of how it always works to serve you – so much going on inside you to keep you well and healthy – your body always doing its best for you.  Think of the gift of your mind – that ability to think, imagine, learn, visualise, problem-solve and create. Think of your heart’s ability to connect, to care, to love.  Think of your Soul’s wisdom. You truly are amazing.  Really swell that sense of gratitude for all that you are, and feel it building in your heart.

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When you’re ready, open your eyes.  Look into your own eyes in the mirror and say I Love You, You are Enough. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You.

It’s okay if this is difficult.  It’s okay if you feel emotional. Just allow for some space in your understanding to know that it is true.

Today I honour you.  Thank you for being you. Bless ♥ xx

Releasing Limitations through Journalling

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Can it really be that simple?

Can you really write, and in that act of writing, let go of what is holding you back?

Yes.

The beauty of this exercise is that often we don’t KNOW what is holding us back – all we know is we’re not getting there…

By writing about what comes up for you around the following images, you’ll begin to tap into those subconscious and unconscious blocks and programs that no longer serve you. Once we know what they are, we can begin to work on changing them!

Choose an area where you would like to have greater results or flow, and then just pick a journal starter and allow yourself to write whatever comes to mind…

Releasing Limitations around Love

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  • Even though I’m lonely and I want to be able to find a soul mate I
  • I don’t deserve love because
  • I’m not really lovable because
  • Having a relationship with me will be difficult because
  • I’m not ready for love because
  • If I was in a love relationship I might not be able to

 

Releasing Limitations around Health and Wellbeing

  • While I am not well I don’t have to 
  • People don’t understand that because I’m ill I can’t
  • I can’t seem to change my habits, even though I know what I need to do, because
  • There’s just no point in me becoming more fit or healthy because

 

Releasing Limitations around Success

 

  • Success scares me because
  • When you’re successful, people start to
  • I’m worried that if I put myself and my work out into the world
  • I don’t feel ready for success because
  • Success isn’t likely to happen for me because
  • The reasons success hasn’t happened for me yet include

 

 

 

Releasing Limitations around Wealth and Abundance

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  • Money isn’t all that great a thing. Lots of people with money are
  • Money changes you, and it changes the people around you. If I had more money I might end up
  • I don’t understand money and wealth.  I don’t know how to
  • If I had more money people would expect me to
  • I’m worried that if I start creating real wealth and cash flow,
  • I don’t deserve to have abundance and wealth because

Releasing Limitations around Your Own Abilities

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  • If you look back at my long history of mistakes you’ll see that I keep doing
  • The reason other people succeed before me is
  • I have a shortfall in
  • I just can’t seem to be able to
  • I have never been good at

 

 

Next week, I’ll show you how to turn this negative energy and thinking into a powerful creative force for good in your life.  Until then, keep writing, and uncovering your blocks, and treat yourself with love and respect.  Remember that all of these thoughts, while sometimes painful to uncover, are also better ‘out’ than still bottled up inside you.

Bless ♥