Good Boy Rufous

“Rules of Food Sneaking #73: If you do it real fast most people will never know.” ~ Rufous the Dog

Hello, Peoples,

I am Rufous. And it is true – I am a bit of a nibbler. Most things can be edible if you chew on them enough.

Like Mum’s slippers.

I have eaten three pairs now. And they were delicious. I usually tried to sneak one off into the paddock where I could dissect it at leisure, or I’d stash one under the bed and chew quietly on it there.

But then there were no more slippers, and Mum started wearing socks instead and then it was Summer.

Now it is almost Mother’s Day and Dad bought Mum new slippers. They are lovely and fluffy and they will be such a surprise. I have already nibbled off the tags. I’m sure she will appreciate that. I am such a good boy.

Harry Dog and me are sending all our loves to you for Mum’s Day, to every single people, because people need to feel loved and everyone does Mum jobs sometimes, even if it is just for themselves.

And don’t forget, if you get yourself or your Mum or a Mum friend good snacks for Mother’s Day, that dogs always appreciate a bit of a taste of that good snack!

Lots of happiness to you, from Rufous the Dog xoxo

Celebrating Yourself On Mother’s Day

Image from stuffpoint.com

Image from stuffpoint.com

“People of our time are losing the power of celebration. Instead of celebrating we seek to be amused or entertained. Celebration is an active state, an act of expressing reverence or appreciation. To be entertained is a passive state–it is to receive pleasure afforded by an amusing act or a spectacle…. Celebration is a confrontation, giving attention to the transcendent meaning of one’s actions.”
~ Abraham Joshua Heschel

 

When I was a young girl, a wise maiden aunt – my Great-Aunt Gwendolyn, told me how important it was to do nice things for oneself.

Although in poor health, and often taking meals on a tray at her bedside, this elderly woman still regularly made an effort to enjoy a more formal meal, although she was the only one dining. Once a week the table would be set with the good china, she would dress for dinner, and then she would dine on her own.

‘Why?’ I asked her. ‘Why would you go to so much trouble?’

‘Wouldn’t you do that if a special friend were coming?’ she said. ‘Don’t you make an effort for others?’

‘Of course,’ I said.

‘Well,’ the old lady said, looking down her long aquiline nose and fixing me with her steely gaze, ‘why should you be any less worthy of such treatment?’

Aunt Gwen’s long since passed, but  her advice is especially valuable today – Mother’s Day.

Mothers are usually hallmarked for their sacrifice to others; their children, their parents and grandparents, their communities. They often don’t take time for themselves.

Mother’s Day is also a difficult day for the many people who come from fractured or dysfunctional families, who have lost parents or children, or who have never been able to become parents themselves.

While many people will be gathering for a meal with their loved ones today, or being served breakfast in bed by their children, there is also a group of people for whom that can’t be possible.

For those of you who identify with that group, I want you to know that it is entirely possible to celebrate or commemorate Mother’s Day without parents or children being present. You don’t have to be a mother. You don’t even need to be a woman. Mother’s Day can become a gift you give yourself.

Today is a day where you can acknowledge your mothers, grandmothers and the women of your line.

Today is a day where you can acknowledge those people who have played a mothering role in your life – in mine that includes my husband, my dog Nurse Bert, and various friends and neighbours who have done everything from soup-making and care-taking me when I am ill, to tough-love talks and gentle guidance.

Finally, today is a day where you can acknowledge your own mothering journey – for the role you play in mothering others. For the role you play in mothering yourself.

Me? Right now I’m alone in the city with Harry the Cafe Dog. For my own personal Mother’s Day celebration I have set the table with my favourite rose-patterned china, a candle and some fresh flowers.

I’ve designed myself a simple and delicious lunch menu: Warm Salad of Baby Vegetables with Crispy Bacon, Pistachios and Feta Cheese, followed by Baked Persimmon with Honey Cream and gluten-free Almond Bread . (Of course there shall be extra bacon for Harry.) To finish I’ll enjoy a pot of good tea, and a square or two of rich dark chocolate while I curl up on the couch with a good book.

I know Aunt Gwen will approve, and I’m sure she’ll be smiling down upon me, or sitting at one of the empty chairs at my table.

Wherever you are today, and whatever you’re doing, I’m sending you love and warm wishes. Be kind to yourself today, and always. Nicole <3 xx

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Thoughts on Mother’s Day

image from www.weheartit.com

image from www.weheartit.com

“There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.”~ Albert Ellis

 

It’s Mother’s Day in Australia today. It’s a day when so many families will get together with their Mothers, give heartfelt gifts of appreciation, share meals and practice love and gratitude. Love and gratitude is a beautiful thing. Togetherness and belonging is the foundation of so much that is good in our society.

No doubt there will be a flood of feel-good sentiment in our media, and on facebook and twitter. But this Mother’s Day I want to acknowledge a different reality.

Today’s also a hard day for many people. I want my post to stand for you.  I want you to have a space to put your feelings. I want you to know that you are heard.

This is a post for all of the children, some long grown, whose Mothers failed to love them, protect them and nurture them.  Not everyone had a happy shiny family.  Not everyone has the love and support of a wise and kind Mother, as a child or as an adult.

This is a post for all of the women who gave up their children, who lost them to accident or illness, who had them torn away by war or foul play or relationship breakdown. Today, some Mothers will know great pain, as their mothering goes wasted, as their arms stay empty of a child to hug.

This is a post for the women whose wombs could never bear fruit. The women who know the pain of infertility, of miscarriage and of stillbirth. The women, whom through circumstance, have not become Mothers. Or who are unacknowledged in their identify as a Mother because there is no surviving child for others to see.  The women who wonder, each Mother’s Day, how their life might have been different…

This is a post for the children who have lost their Mothers early, or who have never known them, and for those abandoned or deserted by their Mothers.

This image from www.favim.com

This image from www.favim.com

This is a post for all of you who loved your Mothers and Grandmothers, and who won’t have them at your table this year. Perhaps they are ill, or passed on. Perhaps distance separates you, or misunderstanding. Perhaps they are living in the shady halls of memory where they no longer recognise you, or the love you have for them, or they for you.

This is a post for the blended families, for the difficulties of mothering children who are not your own, and who may not accept you.  This is for those of you whose Father chose someone other than your Mother, and where you still feel the pain of the loss of that sense of family and of all you had held dear. This is a post for the children who became second best or didn’t rate at all, once the family structure shifted.

This is for the Mothers whose children will be in your ex-partner’s home, and with that side of the family today, while you sit at home alone. Perhaps for you a phone call.  But no hugs. No day of sharing. Not this year.

This is for the Mothers who are not accepted, loved or acknowledged by their Mother-In-Laws. For the families who know friction and tension, but who still make an effort to keep up relationships and appearances.

This is for all of the Grandmothers who don’t see their grandchildren because of relationship breakdowns or sheer distance and the life choices of their own children.

This post acknowledges all of the women so busy working, or looking after the children of other people, that they never had the time or the privilege to be the Mother they would have liked to have been for their own children.

This is for all the Mothers who made mistakes that they regret, who made bad choices, or who wish now that they had done things differently.

This is for the single Mothers, who long for support and company and someone to share the load, but who are doing the best they can.

This is for the Mothers who do not like their children, and the children who do not like their Mothers.

Life can be a strange, hard and sometimes cruel journey. Mothering and the love of a Mother is not a given and it is certainly not a right.

But we all need love, and at times we all need to be Mothered. This Mother’s Day, you can start by being kind to yourself. By recognising that we receive Mothering energy from many, and give it ourselves, although it may not be to our own children. By letting it be okay that today might be bittersweet, or downright difficult. Life is not a Disney Movie.

This Mother’s Day it’s okay to feel pain, to cry and to wish things could be different.

This Mother’s Day, above all else, I want you to know that I see you, I honour you, and I am sending you love. I’m thinking of you today.  Bless ♥ xoxo

The Healing Power of Flowers and Fairy Blessings

Flower fairy by Cicely Mary Barker. Image from eso-garden.com

I’d rather have roses on my table than diamonds on my neck.  ~ Emma Goldman

Flowers are a precious gift from nature.  Their colour, fragrance, shape and texture have a marvellous ability to impart energetic and healing qualities to us.

My beautiful fairy friend Sokli (you can read about her here) and I chose these flower pictures for their energy and how this can positively affect you.  We have also meditated on each image to charge it up for you.

Here’s Sokli’s message to you:

Hiya. Hi Hi Hi! Remember that the Earth is your Mother too, and she loves you very much and so do we. Flowers is always a nice gift for yourselves and you don’t even have to pick them, you can grow them in your garden or go for a nice walk and drink up all their lovely goodness. Even perfumes that smell of flowers are good for you because they still have the magic in them from the flower. Flowers is to make us happy and to give us gifts. I love them very much and I hope you do too, and we made some nice flower presents for you so that you remember how much we love you. It’s a Mothers Day present for EVERYONE. Okay bye and thanks for being our friend. We love love love you Love from your friend Sokli xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

The Fairy of Flowers by Cathy Delanssay

Instructions for using today’s post

Today I want you to scroll down through the following images and then let yourself come back to the one you are most drawn to.

When you have chosen your flower, scroll further down for that flower’s specific gift to you in your healing journey.

I hope you enjoy this exercise as much as Sokli and I enjoyed putting it together.

Love and Light,

Nicole ♥ xx

White Rose – Image from fanpop.com

Liatris – Blazing Star Flower – Image from flowerinfo.org

Pink Lily – Image by allbestwallpapers.com

Blue Iris – Image from floweringflowers.net

Nasturtium – Image by flowerfinder.net

Daisy – Image from desktopia.net

Hibiscus – Image by arichards63 Flickriver

♥ The Healing Message and Gift of each Flower ♥

Each flower has a message for you. We have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of the flower you choose.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. (If you’d like to know more about working with crystals click here) The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need and that you are strongly attracting right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word). The Australian Bush Flower Essence is a vibrational remedy that holds the energy and essence of a particular flower within it. This remedy will be supportive of you right now, and will help you open to positive change and healing.

♥ White Rose – Messages and love from the spiritual realms, loved ones watching over you, the need for self-care and self nurture in your life. ♥ Best Crystal – Rose Quartz  ♥ Power Word – Love  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Bottlebrush

 Liatris – Fertility, new creative ideas and partnerships, blooming self confidence and identity.  ♥ Best crystal – Citrine  ♥ Power Word – Becoming  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Macrocarpa

 Pink Lily – Inner strength, confidence, recognition of your worth, ability to act with grace and courage.  ♥ Best crystal – Tourmaline (any colour)  ♥ Power Word – Confidence  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Dog Rose

 Blue Iris – Rest, relaxation and unwinding of mental tension, an easing of what troubles you, help is at hand. ♥ Best crystal – Amethyst  ♥ Power Word – Clarity  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Crowea

 Nasturtium – Joy, sunshine, fun, friendship and laughter. Finding the path back to happiness. ♥ Best crystal – Aventurine  ♥ Power Word – Joy  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Five Corners

 Daisy – The natural world, nature spirits, fairies, physical healing, seeing the unseen, the healing power of nature. ♥ Best crystal – Jasper  ♥ Power Word – Trust  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Sunshine Wattle

 Hibiscus – Individuality, freedom to walk your own path, unique voice, flow and vitality. ♥ Best Crystal – Carnelian ♥ Power Word – Energy  ♥ Australian Bush Flower Essence – Little Flannel Flower