My Top Tips For Managing Overwhelm

“That’s your solution? Have a cookie?’ Astrid asked. ‘No, my solution is to run down to the beach and hide out until this is all over,’ Sam said. ‘But a cookie never hurts.” 
~ Michael Grant

Goodness, lovelies, my inbox is FULL of messages from those of you who are majorly stuck in overwhelm right now. It’s a space I am well acquainted with, and as much as I would like to say that with maturity has come the capacity to not succumb, the truth is that I sometimes still move into overwhelm too. So I figure it’s not whether you’ll ever find yourself in overwhelm but when!

Here are my top ten tips for managing myself when I get into overwhelm. I hope you find them useful too.

1.Check my energy levels. Am I exhausted? Dehydrated? Are my blood sugar levels low? Can it be as simple as that? Yes! Sometimes what I need is to chug some water, eat a decent meal and have a good long sleep. Things usually look more manageable after that.

Image by congerdesign from Pixabay

2. Go for a walk in nature. Walking clears the head, oxygenates the body and helps ground me back into my self.

3. Take a break. Sometimes I just need to step back from my desk or project and disengage for a while. This refreshes and renews me, and is often enough to help me find my flow again.

4. Clutter really contributes to my sense of overwhelm. When things get on top of me I clean my desk, clean my house, put a load of washing on, clean out the fridge, take out the trash, vacuum, diffuse a favourite essential oil. As things move from visual chaos back to calm it helps me find the peace within myself too. Plus it is giving me a much-needed break from my workload or emotional burden and I get the benefit of satisfaction for having cleaned up after myself.

5. I take an hour or two and write down EVERYTHING that needs doing. Even the act of writing it down helps pull it back into some kind of manageable shape for me. It’s always better when I have gotten it out of my head and onto a list.

6. I pick one small thing from my to-do list. I do that thing and I don’t start a new thing until this first thing is done. There is a lot of satisfaction to be gained from actually completing something.

7. I chunk big scary goals or projects down into bite-sized tasks. Then I do those tasks one after another. Anywhere I can I delegate whatever is possible to delegate so I am working on the things that only I can do.

8. I make sure I have time for me to do things that fill me up and make my heart sing. Sunday is always a day off and planning day and I don’t compromise that for anything. Working madly 24/7 will only burn me out and create resistance and resentment.

9. Talk with a mentor, coach or friend. Someone who has walked the road ahead of me can often give me a new perspective and some handy tips. Why reinvent the wheel?

Photo by Farrel Nobel on Unsplash

10. Believe that I WILL get it done, and manage my expectation so that I am not unrealistic about getting a gazillion things done in one day!

Photo by Katrina on Unsplash

I’m cheering you on. Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

Monday Oracle – 11 December 2017

 “Much unhappiness has come into the world because of bewilderment and things left unsaid.
-Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Hello, Lovelies!

December is a month of gifts of pleasure, true abundance and celebration

Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts which the oracle card Confusion brings us.

So, what awareness does Confusion bring us this week?

This card has a simple but powerful message: Everything looks and feels worse than it is when you are in a place of exhaustion!

Confusion reminds us that sometimes the best decision we can make is to postpone that decision while we get some rest. When we’re so tired that our brain is about as sharp as a beachball it’s never going to be our best thinking.

We live in a crazy, busy unrelenting world. Confusion asks us to consider what we can do to ease the craziness this week. Maybe we need an early night, or to go for a walk each morning or before bed to clear our head. Maybe we need to cut back on outings, commitments, social media or screen time. Perhaps we can support ourselves better with some nutritious food (good quality takeout can sometimes be an option at times like this – make sure to order enough so that there are leftovers for a second meal).

Confusion’s teaching: This week look at what you can delegate, delay or drop from your busy schedule. Free up some breathing space. Get a little time for yourself, even if it’s just ten minutes over your favourite brew in the local cafe or at home in a cosy quiet corner. Treat yourself with great care and love. You’ll be in a much better position to make decisions or create plans once you’re rested and your head is back on right.

Note: In my Year of ME Planner (ME stands for Manifesting Energies, and for those already using it our planner is known as the YOM planner and our community are YOMMERS!) we cover this very situation in a section known as Sustainable Madness, where I show you how to navigate crazy times or crazy deadlines while exerting extreme self-care.

It’s nearly time for our yearly Planner Launch (this year we even have A5 physical copies too, yay!) Stay tuned and I’ll give you more details tomorrow.

Image from

Supportive crystals this week?

Clear Quartz lifts your vibration and opens you to flow. It is a highly spiritual stone, encouraging self-reflection and helpful for hearing messages and receiving signs or direction that can assist you on your journey.  (This is not a great choice if you are feeling scattered, because Clear Quartz amplifies your energy – if you’re all over the place then choose a Carnelian or Red Jasper to centre you back in yourself and give you energy.)  Unakite helps you to feel supported, calm and grounded. It opens your heart to love, and draws love, friendship and helpful people to you. It also helps you to overcome feelings of isolation or loneliness.

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Young Living’s Envision this week. It’s an oil blend I often use in my workshops and retreats to help my students connect to inner wisdom and intuition. It helps us to see a greater possibility for ourselves. Use Envision for spiritual connection, inspiration and breakthroughs. Yes, especially when you are exhausted, uncertain or feeling a bit broken. Dab a drop on your Crown Chakra, back of neck, over your heart, wrists and the soles of your feet, inhale directly or add to your diffuser. 

Want to make your own blend? Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own for you this week, but they’ll also make a delicious combination for diffusing. Vetiver will calm and ground us, promoting emotional balance, Lavender keeps us in flow and relaxed, Ylang Ylang opens our hearts and is supportive when we feel anxious or overwhelmed, and Bergamot brings joy, gratitude and optimism.  To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.


Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Confusion’, is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book.