It’s Okay To Choose For Yourself


“Look to your heart and soul first, rather than looking to your head first, when choosing. Rather than what you think, consider instead how you feel. Look to the nature of things. Feel your choices and decisions. It just might change everything.” 
~ Jeffrey R. Anderson

Hello, Lovelies.

Today I have a favour to ask of you. Today I’d like you to choose for yourself.

You might think that’s an odd request. You might also think it doesn’t apply to you. But if you are in love, empathic, sensitive, a parent, a partner, a people-pleaser or a soother of others I think it does.

You see, so many of us (myself included), will make choices in life with another person in mind. Your sweetheart loves the apple pastry so you take the lemon one. Your friends love sci-fi so you go see the latest movie with them even though it’s a genre you’re not fussed about. Your partner doesn’t eat seafood so you just don’t cook that anymore. When a family member offers to make dinner for you, you ask for spaghetti because that’s the kids’ favourite. You make choices that make others happy. And it’s not a drag for you, honestly. You don’t mind the lemon pastry. It’s good just to hang with your friends. Chicken’s as tasty as fish. It’s just nice to have someone else cook. No biggie, right?

Still. what if you constantly make small choices – ones that don’t really matter to you – that suit the preferences of other people over your own?

It might seem inconsequential but it soon stacks up. How many decisions and choices will you make in a day that completely negate what you might want? What message does that send to the Universe?

Each time you put the well-being and happiness of someone else over your own you are asserting to the Universe that they matter more than you, that their happiness and positive life experience matters more than your own. And even though you may start out being happy to have made someone else happy that joy will eventually wear off if your own needs never get any airplay. What’s worse, you train the people around you that these decisions you make are okay for you, or even great for you. So how will they ever know what you really want? How will they ever know you’d have preferred an apple pastry too? Trust me, this is the kind of behaviour that eventually breeds simmering resentment and misery where the only person who’ll be suffering is you.

So, just for today, I’m asking you to choose for yourself. Choose the cooking show over the football. Choose to hang out at the art gallery while everyone else goes to the museum. Eat pasta when the gang has burgers. Choose what you really wanted to say yes to, even if that means you go on your own or eat on your own.

That’s okay. Your life is valuable too. Your choices and happiness matter too. This is your one shot at this precious life. Don’t waste it by never giving yourself the chance to experience all the longings of your heart.

Much love, Nicole ❤ xx

The Energies of February – 2017

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“If nothing else in this long and short life, let me be true to my conscience, to the dignity of my own heart. Let me act in a way that says, I have honored my spirit as truly as I have honored others. Let me stand tall and rooted as a mountain in the face of a quaking world.”
~ Jennifer DeLucy

 

Hello, Lovelies :)

Suddenly, here we are at February. After the fresh hopes and the new beginnings offered by January and the dawning of 2017, some of you may now be feeling a little less optimistic, a little less enthusiastic, a little more overwhelmed.

Or a lot.

But take heart. There is a groundswell of energy in February that speaks of a return to alignment and integrity, and a need for the values and principles of your heart to be reflected in the life you live. Breathe out fear and breathe in love. Anchor love and light in yourself and in your corner of the world. Radiate love and calm to those around you. And most importantly – live true to yourself and your values this month. Stand in your integrity. Speak up for what you believe in. Act from love and compassion. That’s what’s most needed in our lives and in the world right now.

Cards for the Month:

I’ve chosen two cards for February for you: one from the Osho Zen Tarot Deck, and one from Colette Baron-Reid’s Wisdom of the Oracle. Please note I don’t use these cards in the conventional way, but rather as a stimulus for channelled information.

Here is what I have received from each card:

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“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.”
~ Suzy Kassem

February brings a counter-balance to the more exuberant energies of January. In February we’re asked to turn inwards, and to tune in to our own wants and needs. Find quiet time for reflection this month. Get some periods of time on your own, even if it’s just an hour. Walking, meditating, time in nature, quiet nights at home – these are all great activities for February.

This is an important month for staying true to yourself and your vision and goals, despite what other people might say or advise. No matter your own doubts in your abilities. Look for mentors and friends who will support you and lift you up. Sign up to study and self-enrichment work.

February whispers words of encouragement in your ear. It’s time to back yourself and your plans. It’s time to honour your truth and to be yourself, with no apologies. Work on your future. Commit to your ideas and decisions. Stay strong and trust yourself! Nurture that garden and plant more seeds.

It’s also a fabulous month for developing more intuition and psychic ability. This takes quiet time and the ability to slow down and pay attention to the world around you, and the feelings within your own body. Meditation will make everything better in February!

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The second card I’ve chosen is Orphaned. The picture captures so well the devastating loneliness that comes when we try to change or disguise ourselves to fit in or gain approval, and even after all of that soul denial we find ourselves (or aspects of ourselves) unaccepted and unloved.

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“The thought of being whoever I want is a terrifying thing, because I have only ever been who everyone has wanted me to be.”
~ Dianna Hardy

 

In February, decide that it is best to be yourself and to be loved for who you are.

Get counselling to help you overcome the wounds and pains of past or existing relationship.

Make your emotional well-being a priority. If you are in friendships, workplaces or love relationships where you have to keep yourself small or hide major aspects of yourself in order to satisfy others, or where the situation goes against your values and beliefs, consider leaving.

Life is too short to be unhappy in an unfulfilling situation. Better to give yourself the chance to be loved and appreciated for who you are by starting over somewhere else.

The truth is that you are beautiful, you are valuable, you are worthy.

You are lovable, and you have the right to emotional fulfillment and to be able to freely express your thoughts, ideas and beliefs by being yourself.

Someone will love you. Someone will resonate with who you are. There will be a workplace where you don’t have to suffer bullying. There is no need to change or to hide yourself any longer. And that love must start with you – loving and valuing yourself enough to decide that you will no longer accept second-rate relationships and situations where you are not respected or valued.

 

Best crystals this month?

Ametrine and White Howlite.

Ametrine is a rare stone that combines amethyst and citrine crystals. It promotes self-awareness, clarity and spiritual connection and gets you back in flow with your Higher Self.

Image from www.crystalvaults.com

Image from www.crystalvaults.com

White Howlite creates a sense of deep calm and peace, and helps you find answers and direction during dreams or meditation.

Image from www.sacredsource.com.au

Image from www.sacredsource.com.au

 

Essential oils to support your journey?

Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own for you this month, but they also make a delicious combination for diffusing. The essential oils you will find helpful in February are Rosemary, Lavender, Cedarwood, and Bergamot. Rosemary helps us to make good decisions and to problem-solve, Lavender keeps us in flow and relaxed, Cedarwood is grounding and supportive – especially when you feel anxious or overwhelmed, and Bergamot gifts us optimism and a sense of gratitude for our lives and the world around us. To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.

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Need some extra encouragement, support or inspiration for your year ahead?

Want a system and support to help you make 2017 a great year for you? In life or in business? Check out my Year of ME Planner – 2017 and community. It has everything you need! And you’ll be among friends. We’d love to welcome you in, and share this journey together.

I have a number of options for you, and they are all in my SHOP:

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Membership of my Year of ME Community – 12 months of membership to a private facebook group, as well as a year-long online course that will guide you through the year. Lots of lovely bonuses, webinars, meditations and more. Plus my community is the most kind, supportive and helpful space. You’ll fit right in!

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There are monthly subscriptions for each of the communities too.

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Come join us. We’re already creating magic for our year and making breakthroughs for ourselves and each other. I can’t wait to hang out with you.

Lots of love, Nicole❤ xoxo

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