Small Acts Of Kindness – We Need More Of Them!

Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
~ Mark Twain

 

Small acts of kindness ease our burdens. They remind us that we are loved and that there is still hope and goodness in the world.

Don’t ever underestimate the gift of small acts of kindness.  A simple phone call, a cuppa and a chat, a bunch of flowers from your garden, a casserole or a pot of soup, the loan of some books or DVDs – all of these simple gestures can make a vast difference in the life of someone who is busy coping with whatever life has just thrown them.

Anyone who has suffered from depression, ongoing family or relationship issues, the prolonged care of a loved one with a chronic or terminal illness, or who has suffered a loss or setback in life will tell you that support is often strong to start off with, but fades away, or worse – people begin to tell them to ‘think positive’, to ‘look on the bright side’, to ‘snap out of it’, ‘get over it’, ‘move on’ or equally unhelpful sentiments.

Some situations in life are over in an instant but leave a lasting impact.  Some situations take a very long time to resolve. And we all manage grief and loss in our own way.  (Side note –  It’s actually okay to let people who are in the midst of misery express grief, be sad, feel flat or lost, and be anything but the life of the party.)

So how do we help when difficulties are drawn out for our friends and loved ones?  Think about the times in your own life when things have been hard. What made a difference to you?  Firstly, don’t judge your friends and loved ones, and don’t feel you have to fix anything or take responsibility for changing them or their situation.

Ask them how they’re going.  Ask them what they need.  Sometimes we need to talk things through, sometimes we need to talk about ANYTHING other than what’s really happening, sometimes we want to be left alone. And our needs might change from moment to moment, hour to hour.

The best advice here is to stay in contact, and then ask the simple questions:

‘How are you?’ or ‘Are you okay?’

‘Is there anything I can do to help?’

If you can see an obvious need, don’t be afraid to ask and then step in.  Or if it’s appropriate, just go ahead and do it – hose the garden, mow the lawn, bake the cake, mind the kids, take the washing off the line, bundle up a care parcel.

Sometimes all that’s needed is a hug or a kind word.

When I was ill recently, a dear friend brought me homemade chicken soup, and another loaned me a book. It was the difference between me eating something healthy and going without, and I had soul food in the form of something new to read. Heaven.

Yesterday, after a difficult day, I went to my front door and found a posy of flowers and a tender note filled with love and encouragement. It brightened my spirits immeasurably. Friends texted me to check in on me. I felt loved, affirmed and connected.

It’s these small acts of thoughtfulness, these simple gestures of kindness that ease the way for us when life’s road gets hard.

How can you be a friend today?

Much love, Nicole  xx

I Have A Favour To Ask You

“When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him. In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.” 
~  Albert Camus

If you read my Welcome to March post you’ll remember that this month is all about relationships and being committed to what matters to us.

Energetically we’ve just gone through a few weeks with solar flares and planetary alignments creating situations where many of us have faced challenges or have needed to face or address problems in our lives.

I know you will have felt it, as all of you here in our Cauldrons and Cupcakes community are intuitive, empathic and sensitive, which is why we get along and understand each other so well.

So my friends, here’s my weekend challenge to you, based on how you’re feeling. Choose the option that suits you best. And yes, you can choose more than one.

  1. Phone a friend or relative to touch base, say hi and check on how they’re doing. This is especially important if they have ongoing issues or if something has happened recently or a while ago in their lives. The world has a short attention span and often only offers support and caring in the first five minutes of an event. Be that voice of kindness at the end of a phone line.
  2. Catch up with some loved ones or friends. Go for a coffee. Ask them around to your place and have them bring a plate to share. Go bowling or to a movie together. Hang out in each others company and catch up on each others news. Yes, this includes your partner and kids! And maybe your pet needs some attention too 🙂
  3. Spend some time on something that matters to you and that will refill your tanks. Alone or in a group – whatever it is that you most need right now.
  4. If you’re the one feeling wrung out or fragile reach out to someone. Phone a family member or friend, join a support group or make an appointment to get some help from a professional. You don’t have to do this alone.
  5. Do something that makes you feel alive. Dancing, travelling, laughing, gardening, surfing. Something new. An old favourite you don’t have enough time for anymore.
  6. Connect up. Use prayer, meditation or your favourite spiritual practices to connect into the comfort and wisdom of your Higher Self, Guides, Angels, God, Nature or whatever is your faith.

We’re all in this crazy life together, and it’s our togetherness that will get us through.
biggest hugs and love, Nicole xoxo

Love-bombed! A lesson in trust…

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“Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone – we find it with another.”
~ Thomas Merton

 

On Monday I wrote a blog post about the energies of the week ahead. (If you missed it you can catch up here.) It took a lot of effort to do what has usually been easy. I’m still recovering from my recent superbug infection health scare. In fact, after I blogged that I had turned the corner, hooray, and it was all uphill from here, it wasn’t. There have been a few fairly major complications, but I’m in good hands and finally I am slowly improving. SLOWLY.  So slowly. I’m home. Resting. Sleeping. Recovering. Any energy I find is quickly spent on such simple things as showers, meal preparation or being upright for an hour.

My poor body is decimated after the ridiculous amounts of oral and IV antibiotics and other treatments I’ve taken in a bid to kick this infection.

It’s been such a worrying time for my family and I.

Unexpectedly, there has also been an avalanche of psychological stuff to process. I mean, things got serious enough before I finally responded to drugs that I actually spent a long sleepless night redrafting my will, writing instructions for my staff, and jotting down all our internet banking passwords and details for Ben in case I kept going downhill and croaked it.

Thanks to my awesome doctor and his wife, and their hard work and worry, things are finally back on track. (I so owe you lunch, with champagne and every good thing, Adam and Jodi <3 )

I’m still here. I keep reminding myself of that. Good friends keep reminding me of that. But I’m so weary of this seemingly endless battle. I’ve been feeling uncharacteristically ground down this time – after all the other health things that have been my journey with chronic late-stage Lyme disease and the complications it brings to everything related to my health.

So as I sat in this place of struggle yesterday my husband returned from our mail box with a big surprise. A virtual explosion of letters! Forty-nine – one for each of my years here on this good earth. Forty-seven cards and notes of encouragement and well wishes. Two letters from new sponsor children who wrote to thank me for helping them, wrapped up with love, prayers and gratitude. In a week that is all about kindness and being of service, kindness found me. I have been love-bombed by dear souls whose messages have truly uplifted me when I needed it most.

Thank you to all of you. There is such wisdom in these letters and cards. You’re my miracle this week. My message of love from the wider Universe. My cheer squad reminding me not to give up. I hear you. Thank you <3

May you all find the grace, love and encouragement you need this week too.

Sending so much love your way,

Nicole <3 xoxo

PS – I have to say that there is a joy and an intimate preciousness to holding a real letter or card in your hand that just cannot be bested by a text or email. Call me old-fashioned. I don’t care!

 

Letter Writing Challenge – Week Four

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Image from hercampus.com

“Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
~ Marcel Proust

 

Welcome to Week Four of my Letter Writing Challenge. For six weeks, every Monday, I am posting a theme and ideas, and asking you to pen a short (or long!) letter to someone, and then pop it in the post or otherwise deliver it to them.

Here’s what you’ll need:

  • Your favourite pen or writing implement
  • Writing paper, cards or postcards
  • A small crystal or stone
  • Between five and thirty minutes each week to sit down and write your letter.

Are you ready? Let’s go!

Read the instructions through once, and then complete the activity.

This Week’s Theme :  A Heartfelt Thank You!

Hold your crystal or stone in your hands. Close your eyes, and build an energy of gratitude in your heart. Feel your heart swell with emotion. Pour that energy of gratitude into the crystal and then continue to sit in meditation for a minute or two longer. In that place of gratitude and love open your heart and reflect on people who have contributed positively to your life – people who have taught you, supported you, loved you, cared for you, believed in you, grown you. Allow one of those people to become prominent in your heart and mind as someone to whom you can write a heartfelt thank you letter.

Now write your card or letter.

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Image from hipgallery.com

Trust that you will be guided to find the best words to express your thanks. Explain to that person what they or their actions have meant to you, and how it made you feel. Write about what you have learned and how you have changed as a result of knowing them. Tell them WHY you are so grateful and thankful.

So often the truth we hold inside us remains unacknowledged in the wider world. By sharing our heartfelt thanks we are contributing to the positive flow of energy in the world, as well as within ourselves.

Note: If your heart has chosen someone who is no longer in your life, or who has passed away, it is still okay to write your letter to them. When you have finished the letter, burn it so that symbolically and energetically it can still reach them.

PS: If you want to share what you’ve done, pop over to our facebook page and say hi, and share away!

Missed the start of the Challenge?

You can go back and catch up here:

Letter Writing Challenge – Week One

Letter Writing Challenge – Week Two

Letter Writing Challenge – Week Three

 

My Christmas Eve Gift to Myself

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“Just imagine becoming the way you used to be as a very young child, before you understood the meaning of any word, before opinions took over your mind. The real you is loving, joyful, and free. The real you is just like a flower, just like the wind, just like the ocean, just like the sun.”

~ Miguel Angel Ruiz

 

We’re having a simple Christmas this year. Just my husband and I, Nurse Bert and Cafe Dog. For most of the day anyway. Our little farm-house is filled with love, badly wrapped gifts under a small lopsided tree with dodgy tinsel and over-sized baubles, and a fridge full of good food – more than enough to share.

Christmas has not always been an easy time for me. Family stuff. You know how it is. But a few years ago I decided to reclaim Christmas, to see it as an opportunity to spread ‘peace on earth and goodwill to all men’.

Starting first with myself.

Today, Christmas Eve here in Australia, I’ll walk on the beach, swim in the ocean, take some time for myself, count my blessings, hug my husband and my dogs, and top up my gratitude tank. Breakfast in the Bay (that’s Byron Bay!) and a good coffee or two. That’s my gift to me.

Then I’ll be ready for sharing the Christmas Spirit with others.

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We’ll be dropping off our goody bags of homemade festive fudge, coconut ice, rich fruit cake and other tasty treats to all of the people who’ve helped and supported us this year. The library ladies, baristas and wait staff, the market vendors, the excavator man, and the bush mechanics, and the man who is always fixing our mower/chainsaw/everythingfromtheshed.

We’ll call on a few elderly friends to make sure they are okay, and take them a little parcel of Christmas cheer.

This afternoon I’ll make a pot of tea and sit on the veranda with my journal, reviewing the year that was, and being thankful for all I’ve come through, and all that has cracked my heart wide open. It’s been a big and challenging year, but a good one too.

I’ve told our friends we’ll be home all day tomorrow, apart from an early morning beach swim. Bless them, they want us to have time alone. So we will. But late in the afternoon a few will drop by, despairing of the loneliness and emptiness that has been their day, and we’ll gather them around our table. A couple of friends will come here needing a debrief after the family Christmas they just endured. Our home and our arms will be open to them. There is always enough food here to share. Enough love to go around. For so many this is a difficult, fraught time of year. I want to be able to give our friends a safe place to land, and somewhere they can feel welcome, affirmed and loved.

But today, Christmas Eve, this is my day for me.

A day to breathe deeply and surrender myself to the ocean.

A day for lattes and love, and so many cuddles.

Peace in my heart. Good will towards myself. Me first, so that I can then share that same energy with others. For me, that’s the true spirit of Christmas.

I’m holding that space for you too.

All my love, Nicole xx

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Kindness Challenge – Week Six

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Image from Stone Arch

“Are we being good ancestors?”
~Jonas Salk

 

Hello Lovelies! Welcome to the sixth and final of our Kindness Challenge.

To participate in today’s challenge all you need to do is select and perform one of the following kindness activities. This week’s challenge is all about leaving a legacy that can benefit others in some way.

I encourage you to explore more than one of the ideas I have listed over time. Not only will these ideas help to leave the world a better place, they will also enrich your life as you are living it. There is a great gift in giving to others; in how we feel about ourselves and regard ourselves. There is also a sense of comfort to be had in being able to shape the future of those around us in positive ways.

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Image from youwall.com

Okay, Kindness Ambassadors, let’s go!

  1. Write or record the stories of your life, to leave for your children and grandchildren.
  2. Record or have your grandparents or parents write down the stories from their own lives.
  3. Plant a tree that you will never live to see fully grown.
  4. Write down all the family recipes in a book you can give to a younger relative.

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    Image from FamilyHistory4U

  5. Encourage people. You never know what that encouragement might lead to, or who will be able to thank you later in life for your kind words, or having had faith in them.
  6. Donate to charity or tithe as part of your daily life. Give money to organisations or individuals whose values you admire or that sit well with your own.
  7. Join a political party, or other organisation whose aim is to serve others and to shape the world in some way. Join because you care, and want to help change things. Join because you want to be involved, to contribute.

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    Image of Sea Shepherd Crew from All Road Sat

  8. Write letters to your loved ones, that can be given to them after your passing.
  9. Love your family and friends well, so that your love lives on in their hearts and memories after you are gone.
  10. Use your talents and gifts. Do what you can to refine and polish these things within you. Be the best that you can be in your chosen field, hobby or interest.
  11. Live with passion.
  12. Strive for excellence in what matters to you. As you lift yourself up, you lift those around you, you set a good example, and you can mentor others.
  13. Pass your values and skills on to others. Don’t worry if what you share is a life skill. Teaching someone to knit, to cook an egg, or to tie a knot is as valuable as teaching a complex science. There is strength, wisdom and beauty in skills passed down, enriching each generation. And the memories that are made!

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    Elizabeth teaches Katie to knit – Image by Elizabeth Foss

  14. Prepare your will. Put thought into it. Update it as needed.
  15. Record the names, dates and locations for your old photographs. If you have elderly relatives, offer to do this with them while they still remember.
  16. Donate information, images and old items to museums or historical associations.
  17. Organise to donate your organs. You won’t need them if you die, but you could give someone else the most precious of gifts – life!
  18. If you want to have children, get healthy and be in the best shape you can be before conception. Look after yourself during pregnancy. Don’t drink or smoke. Gift your child a healthy start to life.
  19. If you are an artist, a writer, a thinker, an inventor, a cook, a creator, a builder. a nutty professor – leave a body of work behind. Books, music, paintings, papers, recipes,philosophy, inventions,constructions, creations.

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    Christ in the House of His Parents – painted 1849 – By Sir John Everett Millais

  20. Provide emotional support to someone in need.
  21. Create a family scrapbook or photo album.
  22. Record the history of artifacts you’re received from others For example, if there is a piece of furniture, jewelry, or an embroidered article write down the history of the piece and how it came to you. Accompany your history with photos and information about how to best care for and use the item.
  23. Be honest, and live with integrity.
  24. Don’t give up when you fail. So many of life’s successes came after many, many failures.
  25. Live from your heart, be brave enough to be vulnerable, love deeply.

Kindness Challenge – Week Five

“The clearest way into the Universe is through a forest wilderness.”
~ John Muir

 

It’s fitting, in a way, that I couldn’t bring you last week’s kindness challenge due to in part to the extreme weather events we were experiencing in our part of the world. But here we are. On with the challenge!

 

Hello Lovelies! Welcome to Week Five of our six week Kindness Challenge.

To participate in today’s challenge all you need to do is select and perform one of the following kindness activities. The beneficiary of our acts of kindness for Week Five is our beautiful Planet.

Our planet could use a little kindness right now. It gives so much, we take so much, and there is a fragile balance here that deserves our mindfulness and care.

I encourage you to find one or two things from the following list that you can commit to doing on a regular basis. This is the only earth we get. We owe it to ourselves, our planet, and our future, to do the best we can for this biosphere we call home.

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Image from County of Hawaii

Okay, Kindness Ambassadors, let’s go!

  1. Leave the car at home. Walk, ride your bike, catch a lift with a friend or use public transport.
  2. Water a thirsty plant.
  3. Plant a tree.
  4. Start a vegetable garden, even if it is just a few herbs in tubs on your windowsill.
  5. Recycle your waste.
  6. Put a birdbath in your garden.
  7. Buy less. Use less.
  8. Re-use and re-purpose. Buy what you need second-hand. Repair the broken thing, re-sole your favourite shoes. Do what you can to utilise what has already been created. If you no longer need it, pass it on to someone who will.
  9. Don’t buy products that use ivory, tortiseshell, coral, shark, tiger teeth, or reptile skins. These animals and plants are endangered.
  10. Use less processed food, and more fresh locally grown and produced foods.
  11. Don’t waste food.
  12. Buy dolphin-friendly fish, and fish that is sustainably grown or caught.
  13. Take your canvas bags to the supermarket. 
  14. Use your own water bottle or coffee cup, rather than a disposable one.
  15. Start a worm farm or a composting program for your food waste.
  16. Turn lights and appliances off when you’re not using them.
  17. Stop using chemicals in your garden and look for natural alternatives.
  18. Stop using chemicals in your personal care and cleaning products and look for natural alternatives.
  19. Use both sides of the paper. Recycle when finished.
  20. Support farmers who farm organically, sustainably and cruelty-free.
  21. Wear an extra jumper or put another blanket on the bed rather than using the heater.
  22. Dry your clothes using sunshine.

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    Image from leafjournals

  23. Put rubbish in the bin, even if it’s not yours.
  24. Share or borrow objects you don’t need to use very often.
  25. Recycle your wrapping paper, ribbons and bows. Be creative with your gift wrapping.
  26. Organise a clothes swap party with your friends.
  27. Wash in cold or warm water, not hot.
  28. Buy local, including supporting local artists.
  29. Don’t buy stuff just because it’s cheap! CreeIndianProphecy-e1373927658240
  30. Use rechargeable batteries.
  31. Take a shorter shower, or shower with a friend. 🙂
  32. Don’t flush medications or chemicals down the toilet or sink.
  33. Replace disposable products like razors with durable ones that have replaceable heads.
  34. Use real crockery and cups rather than disposables.
  35. Don’t release helium balloons into the air – they present significant risks to wildlife who may ingest them.
  36. Cut six-ring plastic pack holders (like the ones used for beer) apart before disposing of them so that they don’t harm wildlife.
  37. Fix dripping taps.
  38. Consider solar panels or a solar hot water system.
  39. Support groups and policies that work to protect natural spaces, habitat and endangered species. We all need wild spaces and clean environments.
  40. Use the cooled cooking water from vegetables or boiled eggs to feed to your houseplants or garden.

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It’s a beautiful world. It deserves our love. <3

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Kindness Challenge – Week Three

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
~ Lao Tzu

“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”
~ Robert Fulghum

 

Hello Lovelies! Welcome to Week Three of our six week Kindness Challenge.

To participate in today’s challenge all you need to do is select and perform one of the following kindness activities. The beneficiaries of our acts of kindness for Week Three are our Loved Ones.

Loved ones are those souls who are closest to us. It could be our partner, our children, our parents, our pet, a best friend, a brother or a sister. It’s the family we were born into, or the family we make for ourselves.

Sometimes we get so busy, or time slips by, and we take our loved ones for granted, or fail to show them just how much they mean to us. This week lets us address some of that imbalance.

Naturally, if you choose to do this activity more than once, or to work on one each day that’s absolutely fine. In fact, it’s marvelous. 🙂

Okay, Kindness Ambassadors, let’s go!

  1. Make a phone call or a skype call to a family member who lives too far away for you to visit easily. Let them know you’re thinking of them, and send them all your love.
  2. Send a card to a dear friend. One they can find in their letterbox. Just because!
  3. Visit an elderly loved one. Spend time talking together. Everyone appreciates a visit.
  4. Do someone else’s chores for them.
  5. Make your loved one a cold drink, or their favourite hot one, and take it to them for them to enjoy. Maybe include a tasty treat too. 🙂

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    Image from risewall.com

  6. Knit, sew or craft something as a surprise present for someone you love!
  7. Leave a loving and encouraging note in a loved one’s lunchbox or diary.
  8. Wrap your loved one in a big hug, and whisper in their ear how much you love them.
  9. Make a favourite food from your childhood (or their childhood) to share with a loved one.
  10. Offer a back rub, foot rub or manicure.
  11. Say sorry for that thing you did. Mean it. If you can’t say it to their face then write it in a letter. Let there be space again for healing and love.
  12. Forgive a loved one for that thing they did. Let them know they are forgiven.
  13. Acknowledge the struggle of a loved one. Sometimes the best kind of support is actually not being invisible to the ones we love.
  14. Recognise and praise the efforts of a loved one who is making changes in their life.
  15. Pass on a book/movie/music that you’ve enjoyed.
  16. Read a bedtime story to your child, or anyone else you love who might enjoy one!

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    Image from Wikipedia

  17. Organise a get-together for no special reason.
  18. Tell a loved one how much they mean to you, and why they are important in your life. If you can’t do it in person, write it in a letter.
  19. Send a newsy letter or email with some photos to someone who loves you but who doesn’t get to see you very much.
  20. Play. With your children, your pets, your lover, your friends. Playing is good for all of us.

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    Image from This is Me

  21. Give a loved one the gift of your undivided attention.
  22. Let a loved one sleep in, while you take charge. Better yet, stay in bed together!
  23. Meet a loved one for a picnic lunch, or a simple picnic dinner. What matters is that you spend time together, making new happy memories.
  24. Do something together that you used to do when you first met or knew each other.
  25. Leave a meaningful treat and a loving note for that person you love. It could be a bunch of flowers, a chocolate, a batch of homemade brownies, a warm pair of socks or a book from a much-loved author.

Kindness is all about spreading the love around. Thanks for being part of the magic. Bless xoxo

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Image from BeemBee

Kindness Challenge – Week Two

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Image from Candid Slice

“Why did you do all this for me?’ he asked. ‘I don’t deserve it. I’ve never done anything for you.’ ‘You have been my friend,’ replied Charlotte. ‘That in itself is a tremendous thing.”
~ E.B. White, Charlotte’s Web

“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”
~ Jon Katz

 

Hello Lovelies! Welcome to Week Two of our six week Kindness Challenge.

To participate in today’s challenge all you need to do is select and perform one of the following kindness activities. The beneficiaries of our acts of kindness for Week Two will be friends.

Naturally, if you choose to do this activity more than once, or to work on one each day that’s absolutely fine. In fact, it’s wonderful. 🙂

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Okay, Kindness Ambassadors, let’s go!

  1. Pick up the phone and call a friend you haven’t spoken to for a while. Remind them of five reasons why they are terrific.
  2. Whip up a double batch of soup, cupcakes, spaghetti or something else tasty. Keep half for you, and deliver half to a friend who could use a night off from cooking.
  3. Write a letter to a friend, telling them how much your friendship means to you.
  4. Spend some time with your friend, and really, really, really listen to them. Make them the most important thing in the world for that time you share together. Gift them your attention and your presence.
  5. Put out your neighbour’s bin, or bring it in for them when it is empty.
  6. Go through your old photos and make some copies to send to your friend, capturing happy or special moments you’ve shared together.

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    Image from The Thing Itself

  7. Send a text message, email or card encouraging your friend to believe in and follow their dream. Let them know you have faith in them!
  8. Pick a bunch of flowers from the garden, and give them to your friend for no reason except that you love them.
  9. Buy your friend a coffee, or invite them over for a cup of tea or a glass of wine and enjoy some time catching up.
  10. Offer to walk the dog or look after the kids while your friend is ill.
  11. Post an anonymous gift to a friend going through a hard time. It could be a small amount of money, a scratch it card, a voucher or a movie ticket. Write a note, disguising your handwriting, that says simply THINKING OF YOU XX
  12. Give your friend a heart-felt and sincere compliment.
  13. Play day spa and give your friend a footmassage, a manicure or a new hairdo.

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    Image from IFeng.com

  14. Offer your friend some reiki or a healing if you do that kind of thing.
  15. Go for a picnic together, even if it’s in the backyard!
  16. Choose a crystal for a friend, give it to them, and tell them why you chose it and how it can be helpful for them.
  17. Offer to clean the kitchen, do a basket of ironing or some other chore to help out a busy friend.
  18. Send five text messages, at random times throughout the day, reminding your friend that they are fabulous and letting them know how much you love them.
  19. Give your pet ten minutes of your undivided attention. Do something together that you know they love!
  20. Make a mix tape/CD/USB stick of songs from the era you and your friend grew up in, or from an important time in your lives. Give it to them as a gift.
  21. Give your friend a hug! Hugs are good for us. Feel free to hug your pet too.

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I’ll Keep This Short And Sweet

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” 
Barack Obama

 

Not much time for blog writing today. A dear neighbour’s very elderly family member fell and broke their hip last night, so my neighbours will be spending all their time at the hospital. Emergency surgery did not go well. The final part of their beloved family member’s journey has begun.

And I have a good friend who’s ill, and trying to juggle work and family while her husband is away.

I love these people, and I want to support them, and for me the best way to do that is to cook. Some simple meals that can be easily reheated. Some treats for lunch boxes. One less thing for them to worry about, and a way for me to feel useful.

I’m still not well either, but at least this is something I can manage. So today’s agenda is cooking, napping and if I’m lucky, a little writing.

See you tomorrow, for the next Guided Meditation in our seven week series.

Lots of love and big hugs to you too! Thanks for being part of my life. 🙂 Nicole xoxo