Grown-Ups Get To Choose!

“We are always told that anyone over the age of eighteen should know what they are doing. The fact is, they don’t.” 
~ Rae Earl

One of the most important lessons I ever learned in life came from a trip to the corner store at the end of the street.

I was cooking dinner and realised I had run out of potatoes. Ben walked with me for the company and busied himself at the front counter while I rifled through the potato bin. He bought himself a bag of mixed lollies (candies), all counted out into a striped paper bag.

I paid for my two potatoes and then reached out for a sweet. ‘Hey,’ said Ben pulling the packet out of reach. ‘These are mine. If you want some, get your own!’ He was joking, but it made me realise something.

Lollies? I never bought lollies. I hadn’t bought a bag of sweets like that since I was a kid and my pa would give me fifty cents to buy some in the holidays. ‘Okay, I will!’ I said defiantly. It was wonderful to choose them, and on the way home I felt like a kid as I let myself eat a couple right before dinner – something my mum would never have allowed. By the time we got in the front door Ben’s bag was empty. I told him off for ruining his dinner.

‘Nic,’ he said, ‘I’m a grown-up. I can do what I want. I would have eaten them all before dinner or after dinner, but I ate them now because I felt like them and they were delicious. That’s the thing about being an adult. You get to choose.’

It might sound weird but that was a revelation for me. I’d grown up in a strict household, and I carried that strictness and all of those rules into my own independent life. But now there was no-one to tell me what to do. I could do what I wanted. I was an adult. I didn’t even have to eat my dinner if I didn’t want to. I could just eat my bag of lollies.

That freedom of being able to eat breakfast cereal for dinner, to not make your bed or to stay in pyjamas all day can be an awesome thing. But so often we only use that freedom adulthood bestows upon us to make childish or insignificant choices. The rest of the time we let life happen to us, or we make a choice once and think we can no longer make another. These July energies support change and I want you to understand that as an adult there are many other things you can use this superpower of choice on.

You can choose to give up smoking. You can choose to get a better job. You can choose to stay and work on a marriage with problems. You can choose to leave a bad relationship. You can choose to sell everything up and travel the world. If you’re stuck, if you’re unhappy, if something’s not working YOU CAN CHOOSE SOMETHING ELSE INSTEAD.

What will you choose in July?

Much love, Nicole xx

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Monday Oracle – 10 June 2019

“We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.
~ C. JoyBell C.

Hello, Lovelies!

June brings energies of growth and transformation. This month you can build on existing situations, foundations and opportunities, further transforming your life through work and self-belief. You’ll start to see results, and your progress will become visible to others too. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Exploration brings us.

Exploration is about future vision – that vision you can create for yourself of the life you want to have, the life that inspires or nurtures or fulfills you better than the life you are living right now. It’s about the spirit of possibility and of experiencing life rather than simply existing, of growing and realising more of your potential, of changing in ways that engage, please and satisfy you.

This week put aside your sense of practicality, your self-doubt, and that part of you that shuts down ideas and new directions before you’ve even begun. Let yourself dream a bit. Got dreams already that you’ve put in a box and forgotten or that you’ve ignored? Exploration urges you not to give up on them just yet!

Transformation often starts by seeing possibilities for yourself in whatever area of your life you’d like to change. Possibilities are fueled by research. How can you know what you want and follow that path if you don’t know what’s available? This week is a great week to find out more about the things that have been engaging your curiosity or that have popped into your awareness unbidden.

Exploration is also saying: ‘Do I need a guide? Do I need someone to guide me in whatever area of my life I’m looking for that growth and change?’

Sometimes the thing that grows us is finding a guide, a coach, a mentor. You might need a course, or to join a group of like-minded people who are focused on the same interest as you.

And for a few of you? The Universe has a clear message. YOU ARE THE GUIDE. What are you waiting for? There is someone out there who needs your help, your wisdom, your message. It’s time.

(No idea how to do that or feel like you need some guidance with that yourself? Contact my PA Trish at nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com and put your name down for advance notification on my course and retreat Platform in November 2019 – which is all about helping you craft your book, message and course to put out into the world.)

Supportive crystals this week?

Map Jasper helps you to concentrate, analyse and understand. It supports the adrenals and counteracts overthinking and intellectual exhaustion. (Can’t find Map Jasper? Use a combination of your favourite Jasper with Black Tourmaline.) Peach Moonstone encourages self-care, soothes worry, raises vibration and stimulates your capacity to problem solve using both intuition and reason. Clear Quartz (pictured) amplifies intuition and your ability to tune in to Universal and Personal Wisdom. It’s a great stone to enable you to understand at a soul level what you really need. Amazonite helps you to live bravely and from your heart, especially in regard to decisions and direction. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth. 

Helpful essential oils?

Combine Frankincense, Lemon and Douglas Fir Essential Oils for an energising and focusing diffuser blend this week. A ratio of 2 drops of Frankincense and 3 drops each of Lemon and Douglas Fir is delicious!

Frankincense helps you to be grounded and connected at the same time, and reduces stress and inflammation within the body.  Lemon is uplifting and helps bring focus and clarity, and Douglas Fir (pictured below) helps your mind to move past limitations and to connect into possibility and good decisions and it has the added bonus of smelling like Christmas Trees – all woody freshness with some citrus undertones.

Need an oil to enhance your creativity, and to help you move out of overwhelm or anxiety? Use Neroli by diluting and applying to your pulse points as a perfume or add it to your diffuser alone or with a couple of drops of the oils mentioned above.

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

This is your one precious life (with this particular set of people, circumstances and dates anyway) – and only you can live it. Be open to the energies of Exploration this week. If you’re not satisfied with your life the way it is, trust that this week you can be shown glimpses of how it could be. Transformation is in the air, and I have so much faith in you! I’m cheering you on.

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, Exploration, is from the Sacred Power Reading Cards by Anna Stark . I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

How to Move into Alignment – Monday Oracle 8 April 2019


“When you start doing things that are truly in alignment with what your true self wants, what your soul wants, you flourish and life becomes a lot easier.” ~ Joel Annesley

Hello, Lovelies!

April calls you to live from your heartspace. This month lifts you above your obstacles, or helps you to blaze a trail through them. Expect magical insights and guidance to help light the path ahead. It’s time to believe in yourself and your dreams even if no-one else yet believes. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Energy Balance brings us.

This week speaks of the importance of being in alignment. I’m not talking physical alignment (although you may want to get some bodywork or structural work done!), I’m talking about how your external life aligns with your internal values and sense of self.

When you are OUT of alignment it’s easy to become physically and emotionally exhausted, sad, angry, resentful, anxious, depressed or lost. That’s because you’ve created an energetic conflict between who you are, what you believe and what matters to you on the inside and your choices, behaviours and relationships out in the world.

You may even feel like you have no right to feel this way because your life is abundant or blessed or privileged. That’s okay. These feelings are red flags that lead to deeper self-awareness if you are brave enough to follow them. So, if you feel this way, find some quiet time and explore those energies. Explore WHY you feel the way you do, and what flag that raises for you about an aspect of your life that is out of balance.

The more you move into alignment with your values the more your mood will lift. Your optimism and creativity will return. As you make space in your life to live by your values and give energy to your goals, your hopes and your dreams, the more you will find that ideas will flow, inspiration will flow, healing will flow, energy will flow.

So use the gifts of Energy Balance this week to really pay attention – going deeper to find out where you’re blocked, and where things are flowing and what you can do to live more authentically in the world by honoring the truth of who you are.

We need you in the world. That beautiful, authentic, original you. You don’t need to be like everyone else. You are precious and worthy just as you are, and you validate and empower yourself by being true to you. Blaze a trail for that you this week. I promise, it might be hard but it will be worth it.

The extra blessing of that? Being yourself gives others permission to be themselves too, and you become a positive role model for other people who are like you (including your children!).

Supportive crystals this week?

Malachite is a stone to help you overcome perceived limitations. It is a stone of manifestation and abundance that gifts focus and resilience. Amethyst (pictured) helps you to tune in to all forms of spiritual guidance and to make wise decisions. It helps you to become comfortable with an expanded sense of yourself. Clear Quartz amplifies intuition and your ability to tune in to Universal and Personal Wisdom. Use it to get clear about what matters in your life! Orange Calcite connects you to creativity, inspiration and your heart’s desires and helps you to develop confidence in yourself and your dreams. Use it to help you see your next steps forward.

Helpful essential oils?

This week you need essential oils that can help you bring your mind and spirit to a place of clarity, calm and productivity. The following oils can be diffused or inhaled on their own but also blend beautifully together:

  • Rosemary
  • Lemon
  • Lavender
  • Peppermint
  • Cypress
  • Eucalyptus

And always, when your emotional tank is empty, Rose or Geranium diffused or used like perfume on wrists, throat, behind ears and over your heart!

Take some time this week and find your answers. Trust that your own wise soul knows your next moves. Whatever you do, honour your truth!

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, Energy Balance, is from the Sacred Power Reading Cards by Anna Stark . I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

Advice I Wish I Could Have Given My Young Self And Her Friends

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.” ~ Confucious

An old school friend of mine passed away. Over the years we’ve lost others; to suicide, accident, misadventure and illness. But this is the first of my friends who has passed due the cumulative stresses of aging.

I’ve been looking at photos of us all from when we were at school and university, from when we were young and fearless and life was in front of us as an endless rolling wave of possibilities. I can see that this is one of the blessings of youth – to be eager-eyed and unbowed by life experiences. I see that in my friends’ children now and I’m awed by that energy.

But there is a blessing to being older too. And that’s the blessing of wisdom.

If I could teleport back through time here are the things I wish my wise older self could have said to us all back then, back when we were still at school and contemplating the lives we might lead:

  1. Don’t choose a career to please your parents or impress your school or anyone else. Don’t be pressured into making study and career choices that hold no joy except the promise of a prestigious occupation or a big paycheck.
  2. It’s okay if you don’t know what you want to do when you leave school. Education is important, and those basics of literacy and numeracy will never go out of style. Get an education for the experience of it, and to broaden you, but know that your life may take you far from your starting point, and that’s fine too.
  3. Travel while you’re young. Take a gap year. Take off after you graduate. Take off before there is a mortgage or a partner or the kind of job you won’t be able to leave for more than a week or two at a time.
  4. Don’t do drugs. Not the injectable kind, or the snort up your nose kind, or the magical pill kind. And don’t ever see drugs or alcohol as an escape or a solution. If you need an escape change your life or get some counselling. If you’re depending on drugs or alcohol but you are telling yourself there is no problem – there’s a problem. And don’t drive under the influence of anything, ever!
  5. Don’t stay in a relationship with someone you don’t love, and don’t get married just because everyone else is. Don’t feel pressured, ever, to marry, have kids, or do things you don’t feel ready for. Most importantly don’t do any of these things just to make someone else happy. The cost will be too high.
  6. Have an interest that has nothing to do with your career. Maybe something you enjoy now. Don’t put it down and forget about it when you leave school because you aren’t ever going to set the world on fire or be the next greatest thing with the musical instrument you play, or the sport you enjoy or the craft you do on weekends. Cultivate that as a life-long interest and you’ll be going a long way towards gifting yourself strong mental health.
  7. Learn to cook. Seriously. Just some basics. And learn to clean the house, to manage your finances and other basic adulting skills. This is the stuff that is the background of life, and being able to do these things will give you confidence and freedom.
  8. Have a bucket list. They aren’t just for old people. If you’ve always wanted to surf Indonesia, trek the Himalayas, wander through India or drink espresso in Italy then hold those plans in your mind and work towards them. Keep adding to that bucket list so there is always something to look forward to, even as you tick things off. Don’t leave it till retirement. By then you may be incapable of the things you could have enjoyed more fully when you were younger.
  9. Relationships take work. And there is nothing like a relationship that has weathered the highs and lows of your life to bring you comfort and stability. Put effort into the important ones. Work through your problems and get help if it’s needed. Sometimes we need to learn how to communicate or to break old patterns so that we can move on, together.
  10. Once you have a job or career don’t let it take over your life. Same with family and relationships. Save some time that’s just for you. No time for yourself will breed exhaustion and resentment and is a recipe for burnout and breakdown. Everyone needs time to themselves to recharge and to indulge interests that others might not share.
  11. Look after your health. It’s so easy to take it for granted when you’re young but looking after yourself is a kind of insurance policy that your older self will one day thank you for.
  12. Do what’s in your heart. Even if it won’t make you money. Even if everyone else thinks you’re mad. Don’t die with the dream still in you. It’s never too late to start, but don’t leave it too long, okay?

Thinking of you, and sending love, Nicole ❤ xx

When I Loved Myself Enough…

Image by Sibel

Image by Sibel

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
~ C. JoyBell C.

 

After yesterday’s post about using the good china (and all those other good things we put away for special occasions) I received two messages that broke my heart. Here they are:

I cannot tell you how many times I have thrown away expensive chocolates that were ” too good” to eat. Or expensive perfumes and lotions that have turned bad because I was saving them. I have come to realize that I have such low self-esteem, I do not feel worthy. It is something I must work on.

and this…

I don’t feel like I deserve anything nice, Nicole. I don’t even know how loving myself would look. I’m not sure how to be nice to myself. How do you treat yourself well? I’m not even sure what that is.

So, for them, and as a reminder to you, I’ve put together a few ideas.

 

When I loved myself enough, I used the expensive lotions and perfumes that other people gave me. I’d even use them before I went to bed, so that I slept enveloped in a fragrant and beautiful cloud. How heavenly!

Image from Hermeswitch

Image from Hermeswitch

When I loved myself enough I was delighted when anyone gave me a delicious gift of food. I’d eat it slowly, or fast, or anyway I wanted, because every mouthful was an affirmation of love from the giver. And even better – yum!

Image from The Wendy House

Image from The Wendy House

When I loved myself enough I wore my good jewellery, even if it was to the school play, or afternoon tea on my own somewhere. I delighted in playing dress-ups, even though I was now grown up. Who doesn’t enjoy looking pretty? I enjoyed feeling the link with the place or person or memory connected with those jewels. And if the memory was rotten I made up a fantabulous story that made me feel much better, and let me be the hero of my own life.

Image from Wif&Hub

Image from Wif&Hub

When I loved myself enough I occasionally allowed myself to eat chocolate or cake or ice-cream for dinner. Or cheese and biscuits. Sometimes you just need that kind of a dinner after a rough day. And I’d fill myself up with romance novels or excellent old movies or endless youtube funny kitten clips. Most importantly I’d not allow myself a smidgeon of guilt. Who needs guilt if you already feel bad!

When I loved myself enough I chose to nourish my body with good nutritious foods. I cooked myself healthy meals, packed healthy lunches and went to yoga classes or for a walk with my dog. It’s my body and I have to live in it. I may as well keep the joint clean, tidy and in good working order. Anyway, it just feels better. And it’s never too late to start.

Image from Health Maven

Image from Health Maven

When I loved myself enough I realised that life was confusing, crazy and a little bit wild. Of course I’d occasionally look and feel dishevelled, brutalised or downright lost. I was patient with myself and kind. I made sure I got some early nights. I phoned a friend. I hugged my cat/dog/Significant Other/llama/Hello Kitty Pillow and spoke gentle words to myself until I felt better again.

Image by jr-Gong

Image by jr-Gong

When I loved myself enough I understood that I am a soul living in a skin suit. I have to wear that suit every day, and sometimes it stretches, shrinks, changes colour, gets worn-looking or bits break or even fall off. That’s okay. It happens to everyone, and I’ll have to give this suit back one day anyway. They’ll expect it back in used condition. I’ll be one of the lucky ones if I get to keep my skin suit for a long, long time. In the meantime I can nurture it with good food, pretty jewellery and dress-ups, yoga and lotions and perfumes and hugs.

Life is a gift. It’s short, precious, crazy and no-one is getting out of it alive. You might as well treat yourself well and make the best of it!

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Wishful Thinking versus Deliberate Action

Image from Reverie Dreams

Image from Reverie Daydream

“If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.”
~ C. S. Lewis

“I’m a greater believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it” 
~ Thomas Jefferson

 

Rollo shared a simple but profound wisdom during last night’s channelling session. We were taking about how to make 2014 different to all of the years that have been before it.

He suggested that we first think about what we wanted for 2014.

Then, he said, we needed to make a choice. We needed to get out of our heads.

We needed to move from wishful thinking to deliberate action.

So this morning I’m asking you…

What deliberate actions can you identify that will bring you closer to your goals and dreams?

Write them down.

And then do them!

Do them regularly, if they are the kind of actions which need to be repeated.

I look forward to seeing what magic you can create in your life! 🙂

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