In ordinary life, we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich. ~ Dietrich Bonhoeffer Hey, Lovelies. I was speaking with a friend yesterday who is going through a very rough, very dark patch in her life. She has […]
What Will People Think?
We are all wonderful, beautiful wrecks. That’s what connects us–that we’re all broken, all beautifully imperfect. Emilio Estevez Hey, Lovelies. I had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine, Michael, yesterday. He called me specifically to discuss the fact that I blogged about seeing a therapist. ‘Why did you do that?’ he wanted to […]
One Of The Best Gifts I Ever Gave Myself
The best gift I ever gave myself is a gift that keeps enriching my days. It’s a gift of time and care, of comfort and support, of gentle and of hard questions, and sometimes, hard answers. It’s the way I manage life. The way I cope with the things that should break me. I highly recommend it…
My Need For Quiet
“Smile, breathe and go slowly.” Thich Nhat Hanh So, Lovelies, I am sure some of you will relate to what I am about to share. I’m a Highly Sensitive Soul. I am sure you may be one too. Because of my sensitivity, my intuitive and psychic abilities, I am able to connect deeply with people. […]
Embracing Stillness
As spiritual searchers we need to become freer and freer of the attachment to our own smallness in which we get occupied with me-me-me. Pondering on large ideas or standing in front of things which remind us of a vast scale can free us from acquisitiveness and competitiveness and from our likes and dislikes. If […]
My Favourite Coping Mechanisms For Difficult Times
Facing it, always facing it, that’s the way to get through. Face it. Conrad Joseph Hey, Lovelies.It’s been a busy time for me. I am settling into our new home. I am unpacking. I am writing our Planner for 2022. I am back at work, conducting psychic readings. And I am supporting our community, many […]
The Anxious Girl And The Birds
“Nothing can wear you out like caring.” S.E. Hinton Hey, Lovelies! A dear friend of mine has two daughters, in year 1 and year 3 at school. My friend is a First Responder. It’s a stressful job, and he is constantly worried about the many threats we are facing from COVID, climate change, and then […]
For You Who Are Weary And Don’t Know Why
Let me ask you outright, gentle reader, if there have not been hours, indeed whole days and weeks of your life, during which all your usual activities were painfully repugnant, and everything you believed in and valued seemed foolish and worthless? E.T.A. Hoffmann Hello, Lovely. Many of my community have been asking me if there […]
Sometimes Healing Means Closing The Door On Something
It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over. Paulo Coelho Hey, Lovelies. Once upon a time I used to think that in order […]
A message for strong people who aren’t coping
You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength. Marcus Aurelius Hey, Lovelies. Right now my inbox is jammed with messages from strong people who are suddenly not in a great headspace, or who are having problems coping with the curve balls 2020 has thrown their way. […]
My Top Coping Strategies For When Life Gets Really Hard
It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change. Leon C. Megginson Hey, Lovelies. I’ve just come off the back of an unexpected period of intense and stressful days. Lots of family stuff. Some big decisions after life suddenly changed. A stupid amount of work […]
Coping Skills for Overwhelm In These Intense Times
“The most significant gifts are the ones most easily overlooked. Small, everyday blessings: woods, health, music, laughter, memories, books, family, friends, second chances, warm fireplaces, and all the footprints scattered throughout our days.” Sue Monk Kidd Hey, Lovelies. Are you doing okay? It’s a crazy time, isn’t it? So many things that need attending to. […]
The Minister and Sister Sinner
“Ah. I smiled. I’m not really here to keep you from freaking out. I’m here to be with you while you freak out, or grieve or laugh or suffer or sing. It is a ministry of presence. It is showing up with a loving heart.” ~ Kate Braestrup I remember sitting in a coffee shop twelve years […]
Just Breathe – It’s a Magical Superpower
“The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.” ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn the next time you want to screamthe next time you want to crythe next time you feel all alonethe next time the pain is unbearablethe next time life is squeezing you so hard it hurtsthe next time you have no idea what to […]
Start Again In June!
“Today is the perfect day for a fresh start. Stop delaying, stop making excuses, stop putting it off. Now. Today is the perfect moment. You can change things, you can try. Don’t give up.” ~ Akiroq Brost I had so many messages yesterday from readers and students and clients all asking me if they could start […]
Is this life of mine my fault?
“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.” ~ Rainer Maria Rilke Lovelies, I received a very thought-provoking question recently in regard to the quote […]
Coping Strategy #73
“The single greatest lesson the garden teaches is that our relationship to the planet need not be zero-sum, and that as long as the sun still shines and people still can plan and plant, think and do, we can, if we bother to try, find ways to provide for ourselves without diminishing the world.” ~ […]
Small Steps and A Pep Talk For Hard Days
“Small steps may appear unimpressive, but don’t be deceived. They are the means by which perspectives are subtly altered, mountains are gradually scaled, and lives are drastically changed.” ~ Richelle E. Goodrich As most of you know, I am recovering from illness right now. I’ve just finished two months of bed rest and am […]
Find Your Grit
“I learned a lesson I’d never forget. The lesson was that, when you have setbacks and failures, you can’t overreact to them.” ~ Angela Duckworth I’m off to the doctor today. And tomorrow. And Monday. And more after that. Many different specialists, all with their own opinions. I know I’m not going to like some of […]
Sometimes You Don’t Need Solutions, You Just Need To Be Heard
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~ Leo Buscaglia Ben and I met a close girlfriend for coffee yesterday. We’re each going through quite a […]
Three Key Strategies for Dealing with Life’s Hardships
“And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s […]
The Art of Surrender
“Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? what could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life and see how life suddenly starts working for […]
Sad Unicorns OR Is your New-Age Thinking Positively Unhelpful?
“Great heroes need great sorrows and burdens, or half their greatness goes unnoticed. It is all part of the fairy tale.” ~ Peter S. Beagle, The Last Unicorn “People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all. People talk about how great love is, but that’s bullshit. Love hurts. Feelings are disturbing. […]
It’s Freak Out Week. So how are YOU feeling?
Let me ask you a personal question. Do any of the following sound like you right now (although a few weeks ago you were fine, or certainly more fine than you are now)? exhausted, for no apparent reason achy and unwell in a very non-specific way restless, or feeling like you want to run away […]