Seeking Help Is Not Failure

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“You are never strong enough that you don’t need help.”
~ César Chávez

 

I had a long chat with a close friend yesterday. She’s been struggling for a while – I’ve heard it in her voice, I’ve seen it in the way her usual happy disposition had given way to a furrowed brow, a tight smile, and an inability to laugh things off the way she once had. I’ve felt it in her energy.

Are you okay? I’d been asking her this year.

Yep, she’d say, shutting down the conversation. Or ‘just a bit tired’ she’d say, before moving us on to talk about something else.

She was doing all the right things – exercising, eating a great diet, getting time out for herself. But at the same time she was spiralling down into a very flat place, where every day was an effort, a place where all the joy had been sucked out of life. Each day was just another day to endure. My friend was shrinking; becoming less visible in her life, and with her friends, and becoming less and less emotionally available to the people who loved her. She didn’t have the creative drive, or the enthusiasm, or the innovative and problem-solving ideas that were a normal part of her disposition. My friend was less like herself each day.

Her life is not so different to many. She has a family member who is in need of extra attention right now. She rarely gets an unbroken night’s sleep, and hasn’t had a decent break for a long time. They have financial pressures, and their household is dealing with changed circumstances. As well as all of life’s usual stress.

Having continuously elevated levels of stress hormones is never good. They rob us of sleep and mood enhancing hormones. They diminish our libido, paint every day grey and leave us as exhausted, miserable shells of ourselves. Our digestion becomes compromised, and our immune systems. It becomes impossible to feel happy, because we lack certain hormones and chemicals that allow us to relax and operate in our usual way.

Some of us can bring ourselves back with meditation, diet, and lifestyle changes. Sometimes a therapist or support services can help. But my friend was doing all of that, and she couldn’t just hand back her family, or walk away from her life. Changing her current circumstances is not an option.

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My friend found herself looking forward to that glass of wine each night. In fact she was beginning to rely on that glass of wine. No, she didn’t have a drinking problem. But she had a sleep problem. An exhaustion problem. A ground-down by life problem. She was chronically over-tired, stressed and wired.

Sound familiar?

Crunch time came when she was at the doctor for something completely different, and the kind physician asked her how my friend was coping.

My friend burst into tears.

The doctor suggested a low-dose anti-depressant. My friend was so reluctant to say yes. But in the end, out of desperation and needing to try SOMETHING to help, she did.

And it HAS helped. Finally my friend has been able to sleep better, to unload some of the tension inside her, and to go from feeling cranky or numb to a place where there is some sunshine again.

We talked about it yesterday.

It was as if my friend had a terrible secret she needed to confess.

I was just grateful she had finally found something that was working, and that could help her cope better with her life right now.

Who would ever want their friend to suffer?

My friend summed it up so well. ‘I needed to do something to make life livable again,’ she said.

As a psychic, people ‘confess’ often to me that they are on medication for stress, or depression, or anxiety. For them it has often been a last resort, after they’d tried everything else and nothing had given them relief. They are all strong people. In that strength they’d often carried on for far too long without seeking help.

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There is too often a shame, or an embarrassment with their ‘confession’. Some kind of stigma about how they may be perceived – because they weren’t ‘strong enough’ or because somehow they are flawed or weak compared to the rest of society.

They often feel that they need to get on and off the medication fast too. What if they become dependent? What if people find out?

Goodness. Why should mental health be different to any other kind of health? Some people take hormones to balance their thyroids, or to regulate ovulation. Some people take insulin to stabilise and regulate their blood sugar. Some people need blood transfusions or anti-virals or immuno-suppressants. No stigma there.

If you are stuck in a place where life isn’t working for you, you deserve to explore all of the options which could lead to a change in how you feel. Talking to someone can help. Changing your diet, exercising and using behaviour-based therapies can help. Changing your life circumstances might do the trick. And for some people, taking medications or supplements to help improve their brain chemistry and hormones works well too.

It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to seek solutions. It’s okay that one of those solutions may come in the form of a small pill which helps normalise your body’s functionality until you’re back in a place of being able to cope on your own.

You deserve to be well, to be happy and to be able to function in the world.

If you need to, ask for help.

Everybody needs help sometimes.

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Will you do something for me today?

Will you do something for me today?

Hug the ones you love. Tell them you love them. If they aren’t close enough to hug, pick up the phone and let them know you care.

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Take a minute, stop, and just appreciate this gift of life.  Smell the roses.  That’s why they’re there.

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Look after yourself. Say yes to what’s good for you.  Value your health and wellbeing.  Practice kindness and compassion with yourself.

Do something that you love to do.  Something that gives you pleasure, joy, satisfaction or comfort.

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Today, live with awareness.  Live from your heart. It’s amazing what a difference that awareness and heart energy can make for you, and in the world around you.

Thank you. ♥ xx

Day 14 – Gratitude Challenge

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If not you, who? If not now, when? ~ Garry Herbert

At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. ~ Albert Schweitzer

If there was a Gold Medal for consistency and commitment, today I would give one to you!  Well done – today you will complete two entire weeks of gratitude.

Gratitude is a powerful force for good in our world. Not only is it magnetic to attracting more positive emotions, experiences, and relationships, it is also able to be flowed from us to others so that we can uplift and support loved ones or strangers. In doing so we raise the vibration of all involved.

When we are grateful for the athletic ability, health, physicality and wellbeing of those around us, we also draw those qualities towards ourselves.

It’s a perfect time for that right now, while the Olympics are being held. But at any time in our lives, we can appreciate and give thanks for those who have these qualities of grace, power, and endurance or the values of good sportsmanship, enthusiasm, commitment and courage.

Can your positive thoughts actually influence someone else’s performance? Yes, it’s possible. If they are open to allowing, or are in a vibration that is aligned with your intention, then your energy strengthens and uplifts their own.  How do we do that?  Not by wanting them to win, and not by pleading or cheering from the sidelines (or the couch in front of television!).  We do it by holding them in appreciation – by being grateful for all that they are or all that they do and feeling that swell of pure love and gratitude for them in our hearts.

But what if you are nervous for them?  What if you are anxious about their performance, or negative in some way? Don’t worry – these energies are more about YOU than about the other person.

We are only ever affected by the negativity of others when we are also in a negative space.

The best way to stay in a positive vibration?

Count our many blessings and develop an attitude of gratitude!

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Counting Our Blessings and Using our Gratitude Rock

If you need a detailed reminder of the process, you can review it here in Day 1 of the Gratitude Challenge.

  1. List five Blessings in your journal, explaining why you are grateful for each one.
  2. Count your Blessings off on your fingers, summoning positive emotion and saying Thank You from your heart for each one.
  3. Think of someone to whom you would like to flow health, well-being and positive physical energy.  Take a photo of them or write their name on a piece of paper.  Hold the photo or name in your hands and say I intend for you _____________ and I give thanks for the Blessing of _________ in your life.  Really feel that positive energy in your heart.  Now place the photo or name under your Gratitude Rock.  Know that as you affirm this for others, you are also allowing for similar energies to come into your own life.
  4. Tonight before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock and affirm I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Visualise one thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe, then imagine a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
  5. Still holding your Gratitude Rock, bless your fellow travellers on this Gratitude Journey by sending them golden light, and saying Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.

If all you do today is these five steps, know that is enough.

Would you like to try another Gratitude Challenge?  Today’s exercise is designed to amplify health, wellbeing and positive physical energy in your life.

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Gratitude for the Grace of the Physical

Today, find a way to express gratitude for the health and wellbeing of someone else.  You could do this by sitting in a park, watching a jogger go by.  You could do it by watching a dancer, or a sporting event.

You could even do it by watching children run around in the playground.

Feel how easily their body moves.  Feel the energy within them, the power and the grace.  Feel their emotions of determination or control or give-it-everything-I’ve-got.

From your heart, feel appreciation for the sheer beauty and magnificence of the human form.  And when you’re ready, say a heartfelt Thank You.  Thank You to the person who is showing you this picture of athleticism and health.  Thank you to the Universe for our physical forms.

And if you’re watching a live (or live televised) sporting event, and you want to positively influence the outcome?  Just practice that emotion of supreme gratitude.  Let yourself be blown away with appreciation for their efforts, their skill, their ability and determination.  Let the outcome of the actual event or act become unimportant, and let your feel-good attitude become everything!

Enjoy!  ♥ xx

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Day 12 – Gratitude Challenge

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“Begin to see yourself as a soul with a body rather than a body with a soul.”
~ Wayne Dyer

We’ve been so busy being grateful for the world around us, and the people in our lives, that we’ve spent little time giving thanks for one of the most amazing blessings of all – our own bodies.

We are Souls having human experiences, and our Souls are housed in the most wondrous of vehicles. We are gifted with sight, hearing, taste, touch and smell.  We are gifted with movement.  We have thoughts and emotions, and our bodies provide us with the means to visualise, create and explore.

Our physical bodies have a wisdom all of their own, and guide us on a journey from conception though to the end of our days – constantly changing, adapting, evolving.

It is only because of the miracle of our physical bodies that our souls can have this human experience.

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It isn’t about outer beauty, our weight or the colour of our eyes or hair. External beauty is subjective, and transient at best.

Today, give thanks for a body that gives us the privilege of walking on this earth.  Give thanks for a body that serves us; a heart that keeps beating, legs to walk with, fingers to type with, hands to hold, eyes to see, ears to hear, a mouth to talk and taste. Internal organs and a mind that keep the whole show running without our conscious input.

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Today let’s Count Our Blessings and Use our Gratitude Rock

If you need a detailed reminder of the process, you can review it here in Day 1 of the Gratitude Challenge.

  1. List five Blessings in your journal, explaining why you are grateful for each one.
  2. Count your Blessings off on your fingers, summoning positive emotion and saying Thank You from your heart for each one.
  3. Tonight before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock and affirm I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Visualise one thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe, then imagine a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
  4. Still holding your Gratitude Rock, bless your fellow travellers on this Gratitude Journey by sending them golden light, and saying Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.

If all you do today is these four steps, know that is enough.

If you’d like to build on this positive energy of health and well-being even more, then try today’s Gratitude Challenge.

Loving My Body

When you have your bath or shower today, take a few minutes and really appreciate your body. As you wash each part of your body, spend a moment and give thanks for all it does for you.  For example: Say out loud Thank you, foot and then say why you are thankful for your foot.  Let your shower be an act of gratitude and self love.

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When you towel yourself dry or rub moisturiser into your skin, thank the Universe for providing you with this precious body.  Give thanks for your health and well-being, knowing that whatever we value and affirm multiplies in our lives.

Releasing Limitations through Journalling

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Can it really be that simple?

Can you really write, and in that act of writing, let go of what is holding you back?

Yes.

The beauty of this exercise is that often we don’t KNOW what is holding us back – all we know is we’re not getting there…

By writing about what comes up for you around the following images, you’ll begin to tap into those subconscious and unconscious blocks and programs that no longer serve you. Once we know what they are, we can begin to work on changing them!

Choose an area where you would like to have greater results or flow, and then just pick a journal starter and allow yourself to write whatever comes to mind…

Releasing Limitations around Love

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  • Even though I’m lonely and I want to be able to find a soul mate I
  • I don’t deserve love because
  • I’m not really lovable because
  • Having a relationship with me will be difficult because
  • I’m not ready for love because
  • If I was in a love relationship I might not be able to

 

Releasing Limitations around Health and Wellbeing

  • While I am not well I don’t have to 
  • People don’t understand that because I’m ill I can’t
  • I can’t seem to change my habits, even though I know what I need to do, because
  • There’s just no point in me becoming more fit or healthy because

 

Releasing Limitations around Success

 

  • Success scares me because
  • When you’re successful, people start to
  • I’m worried that if I put myself and my work out into the world
  • I don’t feel ready for success because
  • Success isn’t likely to happen for me because
  • The reasons success hasn’t happened for me yet include

 

 

 

Releasing Limitations around Wealth and Abundance

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  • Money isn’t all that great a thing. Lots of people with money are
  • Money changes you, and it changes the people around you. If I had more money I might end up
  • I don’t understand money and wealth.  I don’t know how to
  • If I had more money people would expect me to
  • I’m worried that if I start creating real wealth and cash flow,
  • I don’t deserve to have abundance and wealth because

Releasing Limitations around Your Own Abilities

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  • If you look back at my long history of mistakes you’ll see that I keep doing
  • The reason other people succeed before me is
  • I have a shortfall in
  • I just can’t seem to be able to
  • I have never been good at

 

 

Next week, I’ll show you how to turn this negative energy and thinking into a powerful creative force for good in your life.  Until then, keep writing, and uncovering your blocks, and treat yourself with love and respect.  Remember that all of these thoughts, while sometimes painful to uncover, are also better ‘out’ than still bottled up inside you.

Bless ♥

Writing Your Way to Better Health

It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Your Body has its own wisdom; it knows what it needs to heal itself and be well, it knows what it needs to be energised, it knows what it needs to come back into balance. Your Soul knows what your ideal physical body feels like, looks like, moves like. Your Mind knows what it needs to feel calm, centred and balanced, happy.

Writing has great power. Today’s journalling exercise is all about using the power of words and visualisation to manifest better health and to help understand and create your ideal body.

Journal Activity

Over the next week use the following journal starters and write as much or as little as feels right for you.  Begin by transcribing these words (the ones in coloured ink) into your journal. Then choose a journal starter that resonates for you and let the words flow.  You can use the same journal starter more than once if it really resonates.

Dear Soul-Body, Heart-Body and Mind-Body, 

There are things in my life that I would appreciate some help or guidance with right now. I know some of these can be quickly sorted, and some may take more time. I am open to the wisdom you need to share with me, I am open to however this works.


  • I know that the best time of day for me is
  • My body really enjoys
  • The sort of food that revitalises me includes
  • The thing that will most improve my mental health and wellbeing right now is
  • The thing that will most improve my physical health and wellbeing right now is
  • The thing that will most improve my emotional health and wellbeing right now is
  • I am now willing to release my addiction to
  • I would love to attract into my life a person who could
  • Exercise that suits my current body is
  • One way I can treat my body better is to
  • One way I can give myself some mental relief is to
  • A thing I used to do that always made me feel good is
  • If I had more energy I would be able to
  • If I felt better about my physical appearance I could
  • One way to nurture my body today is
  • Some of the things I need to cut down on are
  • Some of the things I need to include more of are
  • One of my favourite ways to move my body is
  • One thing I’d forgotten about that always improves my health is
  • My ideal body would look like
  • My ideal mental state would be
  • My ideal emotional and soul state would be
  • The most important thing I need to pay attention to right now is

Inner Child Work:

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Often we think that the best way to find guidance is to look to someone older and more experienced, or a Guide, Angel, God or our Higher selves.

There is however, a wonderful source of Guidance within you, known as your Inner Child.  This is the refreshingly honest, loving and very caring part of you who can tell you with all the affront and careful attention of a five year old, what’s really going on in other parts of you.

The best way to work with your Inner Child directly is to have a conversation between the Big you, and the Little you.  You can do this through what is known as Left Hand – Right Hand Dialogue.  It’s an easy thing to do!  Simply find some different coloured pens or pencils.  Use your dominant hand (the one you usually write with) to be the Big you, the conscious awareness of you as an adult.  Choose one pen for this hand.  Then use your non-dominant hand to represent your Little you, and let that hand pick a pen, or pens to write with.

Have your Big You write a question for your Little You, and then let your Little you respond.  The writing will be awkward, and don’t worry about spelling or vocabulary.  What you’ll get is honesty, and love, and isn’t that all we really ever need to get started?  You can do this to work on health problems and blockages in your life, and you can even get your Little you to draw and create works of art.  Enjoy experimenting!

Art Journal Activity – Inner Child Drawing

Using coloured crayons or pens, have your inner child do a drawing of you with your non-dominant hand.  Feel free to also use other materials and collaged images as well as words.

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Now use a left hand, right hand dialogue as described above, to ask your Little You questions about what the drawing represents, and any advice they have to give concerning this.  Be prepared for some surprises!  This is a great technique for working with health and diet, and other aspects of wellbeing.  And may bring to the surface things you’d never even thought of!

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The following video contains some useful affirmations for health and well-being, and can also be used as a meditative practice.  Be well! Love and Honour yourself this week. ♥