Since we all have varying degrees of tolerance for pain, and have equally varied experiences with different types of pain, it makes the scale feel kind of meaningless — especially when you consider that the person trying to ascertain how much pain the patient is in has his or her own experiences with pain that are thrown into the mix, too. A doctor trying to figure out how much pain a patient is in, when she says it’s ‘worse than a broken leg,’ but ‘not as bad as childbirth,’ is still only going to be able to guess what that means based on his or her own experiences — and perceptions — of pain.Abby Norman
*Please note I have changed the names due to privacy, but use this story with permission
I was talking with a client yesterday afternoon. Jessie told me in passing that her husband had taken a sick day for the first time in years. Dave had a meeting scheduled, where he’d been due to give an important presentation. He’d been snappy and short all weekend, not hungry, grumpy with the kids, and had not gotten the presentation finished. This was not like Dave at all. He’d put himself back to bed in the spare room after calling in sick, and had blankets over him even though it was a hot day. When Jessie went to check on him at lunch he’d told her to leave him alone. She thought it might be depression.
All my alarm bells started to go off.
I felt into it.
My alarm bells went critical.
‘Call an ambulance,’ I said.
‘Seriously?’ Jessie asked me, laughing. ‘For a bad mood and a tummy ache?’
‘Please, I’m not joking,’ I replied. ‘I think he’s going septic. I can see an infection in his bowel that’s going into his blood stream.’
Jessie hung up on me. She called back ten minutes later. The ambulance was on the way. She’d checked on Dave and he was clammy, grey and short of breath, his temperature was below normal, and he was slurring as if he was drunk. The bed sheets and Dave’s clothes were soaked in sweat and he was shaking as if he was freezing cold even though he had put every quilt and blanket in the room on top of the bed. Jessie was panicking. I told her to pack a bag for him, to get the neighbours to look after the kids, and to keep me posted.
Hours later she called again. Dave had come back into ICU after emergency surgery for a ruptured colon from undiagnosed diverticulitis. Doctors had successfully repaired the bowel and would now treat him with IV antibiotics. They had told her that if she had left him alone even a few more hours he would have had a very poor outcome, and they might not have been able to turn him around.
Please be aware of the signs of sepsis. It’s under-diagnosed and a silent killer. Symptoms can include:
- fever and chills
- shivering, feeling very cold and can’t get warm
- lower than normal body temperature
- rapid breathing
- fatigue or weakness
- fast heart rate
- severe discomfort or pain
- sweaty or clammy skin
- dis-coloured skin or rash
- lowered urine output
Look after yourself and each other. Remember, it’s better to seek help and it be a false alarm, than to leave it too late.
Love, hugs and deep gratitude for good timing, Nicole xx
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Oh wow…i am so glad you were talking to her. My husband almost died from sepsis last year after eating some eggs a neighbor gave us. I had him transferred to another hospital because my gut instinct told me the one he was at didn’t know what the problem was. The nurse told me i made the right call. Luckily he is still here. We knew nothing of sepsis til this. We thought he just had a stomach bug. He went downhill fast. Yes everyone should know the signs. It is quite scary. Thanks for letting everyone know about it.
That ‘s one big amazing gift you have there, Nicole
Wishing Dave and Jessie a speedy recovery and lovely time back as a family.