Getting Ready for February!

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”
~ Peter F. Drucker

“We are made to persist.
that’s how we find out who we are.”
~ Tobias Wolff


Hello Lovelies!

February is nearly upon us, and I promised that I would support you in making the most of this year’s opportunities, so here’s a quick Heads Up about the month ahead, as well as a few suggestions for embracing all that February has to offer.

Card for the Month:

I’ve chosen a card for February for you, from the Osho Zen Tarot Deck.

The message of this card is all about action. You’re being asked to leap. To do the thing that scares you. And you’re being reminded to trust.

If we create plans, and then never put energy towards those plans, the plans will remain pictures in our heads. They’ll be wishes. Nothing more.

February is reminding us that to live the life we love, or to move towards that life, we need to actively seek that life. We need to set our course and deliberately and consciously move in that direction.

This is a month for helpful people, for new ideas, for finding the perfect course or book or teacher for yourself or your loved ones. It’s a great energy for making a start and for small steps that will gather momentum throughout the year.

February is also a FANTASTIC month for writing and creating. If you’ve ever wanted to write a book, a blog, a course, a poem, a love letter, a journal, a thesis. If you’ve wanted to start a project, make a baby, knit a jumper, build that garden, then February is a grand month to begin, and then to build on those beginnings.

There is one other thing that February is reminding you to do…

You need to fill your tank. Do that by ensuring you get some good-quality rest and relaxation. And do some of the things you love – that nurture and inspire and support you.

Art by the very talented Tia Mushka

Art by the very talented Tia Mushka

February needs a rhythm of work and play, create and pause, run and then rest.

Can you feel that?

It’s like the energy of the rolling waves upon the ocean. Crest and then calm. Crest and then calm. Crest and then calm.

In February, I’m encouraging you to ride the wave. You can do it! Let it be joyful. Let it be playful. Relax into it. There’s no need to push, or to struggle.

This video, shot in my hometown of Byron Bay, captures perfectly the energy of February.


Need some extra encouragement, support or inspiration?

Try these posts:

Direction or Destination – if you’re still trying to work out where to head, or where to put your energies.

Manifesting New Directions and Opportunities – lots of journalling exercises and ideas to really help you get focused, and some lovely visualisation too.

Writing as a Manifestation Tool – Using the power of words to create a new life, or new energy within your life. Also good for summoning help, helpful people, new opportunities and various other positive energies.

Writing Yourself into a Brighter Future – using thoughts and words to positively and powerfully co-create our future.

Guided Meditation for Emotional Healing – a short guided meditation working with heart and heart chakra energy to help you let go of pain, and to anchor yourself in love and possibility.

Sending all my love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

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Create Positive Change Program – Week 2

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“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.

One of the biggest obstacles to change is that feeling of overwhelm we get when we look at where we are now, and then at the distance between us and our goal/heart’s desire/impossible dream. The bigger the gap, the more likely we are to feel stuck, or unable to make that first step. In fact, we can get so stuck that we can no longer even conceptualise that first step!

It’s not unlike that brain freeze feeling you get from eating ice-cream too fast – there’s pain, confusion and a need to lie down in a darkened room. And that’s when the ghosts come out – all those voices from our past (or even our present) that tell us we can’t do it, we’re not good enough, we don’t deserve it, we don’t have what it takes. Our failures parade before us. We see all the things we’re not, all the things we don’t have, and all our glaring faults.

This week we’re going to work with energies that get us back on solid ground – connected into our heart space, and able to ‘hear’ our inner guidance about what to do next.

Are you ready?

Great! Let’s go!

Anchoring your heart energy

Lie down on the ground. If at all possible lie on the earth itself – the grass or sand or rock or dirt. Now imagine the back of your heart opening up and connecting deep into the core of the earth. Feel that earth energy warmly grounding you, supporting and nurturing you. Then open the front of your heart and connect it up into the sky. Go up beyond the blue. Feel the sun, the moon and the stars. Open to the wisdom and guidance of Universal energy. In this space of being anchored and connected just breathe and fill your body up with energy and love. Let yourself be replenished.

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What do you feel?  Be open to any insights or revelations. Do this process a few times over the next week. What you feel and become aware of will change over time. Write down anything important in your journal.

Count Your Blessings!

Every day this week write down three blessings in your life – three simple things for which you are grateful. See if you can come up with new things each day. Cultivate an attitude of awareness, actively looking for the positive moments in your life.

Write them like this: Today I am thankful for (the blessing) because (write down a simple reason). eg: Today I am grateful for my barista because she always makes the most wonderful creamy latte for me!


When we count our Blessings we are inviting positive energy into our lives and putting ourselves into a receptive and abundant state of mind.

Affirm the Positive!

Take your rock from Week One, and thank it. Write the Affirmation you used in your Blessings Book. You can now place the first rock beside your bed or somewhere where you’ll see it often.

Select the second rock from the eight you selected at the start of this course. This is your second Affirmation Stone. Carry it around with you, or place it somewhere where you can see and hold it every day.

Hold this second stone in your hands. Now think of something else in your life that you want to change. Affirm that as a statement of declaration to the Universe,

Here are some examples:

I choose Healthy Relationships.

I choose Financial Stability.

I choose Bright New Ideas.


Each day hold that stone in your hands and repeat your declaration, out loud, or in your mind. You can do this just once, or as many times as you like. Say your declaration with enthusiasm and commitment. This simple act of declaration begins to align you with this energy, opening you to more of this thing in your life.

Using your Gratitude Rock!

The Gratitude Rock anchors positive energy and gratitude at the end of every day.  You can carry your stone with you, or leave it beside your bed.  At night, before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock in your hand.

As you hold the stone say to yourself I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life.  Then hold in your mind one or more image of a thing you have been grateful for today.  It doesn’t matter if your review your Blessings from your Blessing Book, or add in something new.  Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe. Visualise a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.

Now here’s the fun bit – imagine all of the other people who are taking part in this Positive Change Program with us – people from all over the world, just like you. Once again build up a strong positive energy in your heart, and then imagine shooting a stream of golden light out into the Universe to those people.

Say Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Positive Change, Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.

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Last week we started with some simple exploration questions. This week return to your answers and read over them, and then answer the following questions with as much detail as feels right to you.

Last week: I need change in my life right now because:  This week: The best place to begin is:

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Last week: One thing I would change about my health is _______ because ______:  This week: The easiest change I can make, starting today is ________

Last week: One thing I would change about my work is ______ because ______:  This week: The easiest change I can make, starting today is ______

Last week: One thing I would change about my personal life is ______ because ______:  This week: The smallest change I can make, starting today is ______

Last week: One thing I would change about my thinking is ______ because ______:  This week: A better thought I can choose, starting today is ______

Last week: One thing I’m really stuck on is:  This week: This week I’m going to be open to ______

Last week: One thing I’m really clear on is:  This week: So, knowing that, the first tiny step I can take, starting today, is ______


PS: If you’d like to review any aspect of this course, or start back at the beginning click here.

Day 21 – Gratitude Challenge

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“Every time I have some moment on a seashore, or in the mountains, or sometimes in a quiet forest, I think this is why the environment has to be preserved.”
~ Bill Bradley

In the morning the city
Spreads its wings
Making a song
In stone that sings.

In the evening the city
Goes to bed
Hanging lights
About its head.
~ Langston Hughes

We are deeply affected by environments. Man-made or natural, each place we spend time in influences our own energies.

Whether we have travelled widely, or stayed closer to home, all of us can find environments to be grateful for.

I am constantly thankful for my farm, and the natural beauty of the Byron Shire.

Libraries are also a favourite haunt, as are good coffee shops – each has their own special magic for me.  I adore the tiny winding streets of inner-city Melbourne with its cafes and hidden arcades of treasures.

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I have been moved by the wide open majesty of the Australian Outback, seduced by the sunshine and balmy breezes of tropical islands, and brought into contemplative spiritual spaces in churches, shrines and temples across the world.

One of the tiny rock islands in Palau, Micronesia

What environments have moved you?  What places do you go to replenish your spirit? What places are like medicine for your Soul?

Truly, we have so much to be thankful for.

Counting Our Blessings and Using our Gratitude Rock

If you need a detailed reminder of our daily process, you can review it here in Day 1 of the Gratitude Challenge.

  1. List five Blessings in your journal, explaining why you are grateful for each one.
  2. Count your Blessings off on your fingers, summoning positive emotion and saying Thank You from your heart for each one.
  3. Retrieve the paper from under your Gratitude Rock.  Hold it in your hands and say Thank you for the wonderful ideas flowing into my life. I am grateful for this abundance of positive change.  Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!  Fold up the paper and carry it around in your pocket or wallet.
  4. Tonight before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock and affirm I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Visualise one thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe, then imagine a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
  5. Still holding your Gratitude Rock, bless your fellow travellers on this Gratitude Journey by sending them golden light, and saying Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.

If all you do each day is these first five steps, know that is enough.

For those of you who would like to do more towards developing an attitude of gratitude, read on!

The view from my Hotel in Gubbio, Italy

Gratitude for a Sense of Place

Think of a place that you are grateful for.  It could be something that speaks to you of majesty or freedom, it could be a place where you feel relaxed or safe, it could be a place where your creativity always flows…

Ponder for a moment what makes this particular place special to you.

Then ask yourself, how can I bring some of that magic into my day today?

Find a small way to connect into that energy. Celebrate and give thanks for that blessing of environment, and its gifts for you.

Here are some of my own paths to that connection:

  • Coconut scented body lotion to remind me of tropical holidays
  • A Thai meal, to connect me back to one of my favourite countries
  • Sitting in the sun at lunchtime, to remind me of the freedom and relaxation of a summer day at the beach
  • Coffee in a dark-walled local cafe that somehow transports me back to Venice
  • Flicking through photos or travel brochures
  • Watching clips of favourite places on youtube
  • Visiting a French boulangerie patisserie in Brisbane that evokes Europe every time

Life is a precious gift, just waiting to be unwrapped and enjoyed!

Byron Bay – what’s not to love?

3O Days of Gratitude to Change Your Life

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Are you ready to change your life?  Are you ready to attract things that make you smile, that improve your health, that attract better jobs and relationships, that make you laugh, that fill your bank account with money and your heart with love and gladness?

If your answer is yes, then read on!

I’m a big believer in counting my Blessings.  In fact, during some of the harder parts of my life thus far, I am convinced that this is the one thing that got me through and out the other side.  The more I have embraced gratitude, the more I have noticed miracles and abundance turning up in my life.

Gratitude has become such a natural part of my life that I forget others might struggle with this concept, or perhaps not even understand it at all.

I decided to create this free 30 Day Gratitude Program in response to a person whose life is becoming increasingly broken as they complain bitterly about how awful it is. Today they asked me for help, and this 30 day challenge is my answer to them.

I promise that if you follow these simple instructions too, within 30 days you’ll start to see results.

Psychologists have found a link between gratitude and well-being. Studies have shown that when a person is depressed, anxious, negative and directionless, they can take control of these emotions and begin to turn them around themselves through a daily practice of finding things to be grateful for in their everyday life. The practice of gratitude literally has the capacity to rewire our brains, firing off more of our feel-good emotions and thinking patterns.  It helps us to remember who we are, what makes us happy, and where we want to go in life.

Conversely, when we focus on complaints, unhappiness and wrongs in our lives, we generate even more feelings of inadequacy, anger, frustration, depression and resentment. None of those energies are good for our health and well-being. It also makes us much less fun to be around.

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Of course, in my world, I don’t see this as mere psychology.  I see this as the Law of Attraction in action.  Quite simply, whatever we think about, and attach emotion to, we draw into our lives.  Our thoughts and emotions are magnetic to things of similar energy.

If your life isn’t turning out to your satisfaction, maybe it’s time to tune in to what you are thinking, and make some positive changes.

If you’d like to join me in this challenge, here’s what you need to do:

  1. Find yourself a journal or notebook (yes you can use your computer or ipad etc if that works for you).
  2. Find yourself a gratitude rock.  This is a stone small enough to fit into your hand.  It can be a crystal or an ordinary garden variety rock. Choose what feels good to you.
  3. Set aside ten minutes each morning to read the daily challenge and about ten minutes during the day to work through your daily activity.

There will be a variety of activities, as well as some meditations. None of it will be hard.  Some of it will actually be fun.  And all of it will be working to shift your vibration and make you more magnetic to good in your life.

Want to join me?  If you’re up for it, leave me a comment below.  Let’s make this a giant Gratitude Party.  Feel free to invite your friends too.  The more we create a positive intention and vibration, the more it affects everyone and everything around us in magical ways – and that’s the definition of a Lightworker!

Lastly, write the following pledge in your journal.  When it’s written, repeat it out loud, with as much sincerity as you can muster. That way the Universe is put on notice of your intentions.

Dear Universe,

I am open to the possibility that there is more for me in this life, and I am ready to receive these Blessings by offering my thanks and gratitude in reciprocation.

I am so very grateful for my life, and for the learning opportunities I am being shown.

I am ready to embrace positive change and to accept an avalanche of good in my life. 

My commitment to you is that for the next 30 days (and beyond) I am willing to look for and name things I am thankful for, and to celebrate the many Blessings I already have.

With love and gratitude,

(insert your own name here)


Tomorrow we start Day 1.  See you there!

Releasing Limitations through Journalling

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Can it really be that simple?

Can you really write, and in that act of writing, let go of what is holding you back?


The beauty of this exercise is that often we don’t KNOW what is holding us back – all we know is we’re not getting there…

By writing about what comes up for you around the following images, you’ll begin to tap into those subconscious and unconscious blocks and programs that no longer serve you. Once we know what they are, we can begin to work on changing them!

Choose an area where you would like to have greater results or flow, and then just pick a journal starter and allow yourself to write whatever comes to mind…

Releasing Limitations around Love

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  • Even though I’m lonely and I want to be able to find a soul mate I
  • I don’t deserve love because
  • I’m not really lovable because
  • Having a relationship with me will be difficult because
  • I’m not ready for love because
  • If I was in a love relationship I might not be able to


Releasing Limitations around Health and Wellbeing

  • While I am not well I don’t have to 
  • People don’t understand that because I’m ill I can’t
  • I can’t seem to change my habits, even though I know what I need to do, because
  • There’s just no point in me becoming more fit or healthy because


Releasing Limitations around Success


  • Success scares me because
  • When you’re successful, people start to
  • I’m worried that if I put myself and my work out into the world
  • I don’t feel ready for success because
  • Success isn’t likely to happen for me because
  • The reasons success hasn’t happened for me yet include




Releasing Limitations around Wealth and Abundance

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  • Money isn’t all that great a thing. Lots of people with money are
  • Money changes you, and it changes the people around you. If I had more money I might end up
  • I don’t understand money and wealth.  I don’t know how to
  • If I had more money people would expect me to
  • I’m worried that if I start creating real wealth and cash flow,
  • I don’t deserve to have abundance and wealth because

Releasing Limitations around Your Own Abilities

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  • If you look back at my long history of mistakes you’ll see that I keep doing
  • The reason other people succeed before me is
  • I have a shortfall in
  • I just can’t seem to be able to
  • I have never been good at



Next week, I’ll show you how to turn this negative energy and thinking into a powerful creative force for good in your life.  Until then, keep writing, and uncovering your blocks, and treat yourself with love and respect.  Remember that all of these thoughts, while sometimes painful to uncover, are also better ‘out’ than still bottled up inside you.

Bless ♥

Writing Ourselves into Awareness

“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
― C.G. Jung

Sometimes we get so confused.  We run this way and that way – searching for the thing, the answer, the lover, the teacher…

We forget to trust ourselves.  We forget to ask ourselves. We are so busy running and searching that we don’t stand still long enough to catch our breath and look inside.

Today, we are going to take that time. We are going to gift ourselves twenty minutes of  self-exploration, in the form of journalling. If possible, take a ten minute walk before you begin. (If you are unwell, or unable to go outside, take ten minutes and watch the video at the bottom of this page. It will help put you in that same energetic space of relaxation and connection.)

Then make yourself a nice cup of tea, or take yourself out to a coffee shop. (Maybe you could walk there!) With a beverage at your elbow, and a notebook and pen in hand, work through the following activity. You might surprise yourself at what you discover.

Journal Exercise:

Start by writing this passage at the top of your page.

Dear Universe, 

I trust that there is a part of me that already knows what I want most in this lifetime. I also trust that there is a Universal Wisdom that recognises my gifts and talents, and that understands what outcomes and adventures are best for my Highest good.

I am ready to embrace the possibility of a better life for myself.  I am ready to move from struggle into flow.  I am ready to embrace abundance, in all its forms. I want you to know that I’m ready for whatever wonderful experiences and opportunities you send my way. I am ready for my Soul to show me my heart’s true desire…

Now choose any of the following journal starters, and use it to begin writing.  Don’t judge what comes next, and don’t over-think it.  Just trust that what you write will begin to create a greater sense of personal and spiritual awareness in your life.

NB: If you feel that you are walking a path of spiritual awakening right now, and you’d like to explore that further, I suggest you do this exercise while holding one of the following crystals:

  • Clear Quartz – for connecting with Guides and Higher Wisdom
  • Fluorite – for understanding your creative path, and for clear guidance with writing
  • Sodalite – for answers about relationships and knowing your own truth
  • Amethyst – for connecting into your spiritual gifts
  • Rhyolite – for channelled wisdoms – showing you that inner truth you find difficult to access on your own


  • When I am relaxed, and feeling good about life, it becomes clear to me that the most meaningful direction for me right now is
  • If I was to remove myself from the things that cause anxiety in my life, and then sit quietly and listen to my body, I’d become aware that
  • I take a few calming breaths and close my eyes. Then I sit in the silent presence of my wise inner being. When I open my eyes again I understand that
  • If I could do anything, go anywhere, be anyone, then my heart is leading me to
  • When I am calm, and I take time to reconnect, I feel that
  • If my wise self could tell my weary and confused brain one thing, it would be this:
  • If God, my Angels or my Guides had a message for me, and I could finally hear it, it would be
The path to Awareness requires that we make the time to know ourselves.  And journalling creates a sacred space where we can do that, opening the way for a meaningful dialogue with our inner being. These questions can be used once, or you can return to them again and again to discover more about yourself.
Bless ♥ xx


Writing Yourself into a Brighter Future

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The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Did you know that thoughts have great power?  When we have clear goals and ideas, and attach positive emotion to them, we magnetise these mental images and begin the process of creating them in our reality. (See this post for more information: Writing as a Manifestation Tool)

What sort of future are you planning for yourself?  Are there particular dreams or goals you would like to achieve?

I know a way to help make them happen, and all you need is a pen and paper.

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Writing a Letter to Our Future Self…

Today we’re going to compose a letter to ourselves. Hand write it, if you can, because something magical happens when we put pen to paper.  It links our heart and our mind, and carries that energy through our entire body, grounding it as it goes.

But there’s a twist.  We’re going to write this letter from the perspective of already being in the future. You can choose the date. Don’t pick anything less than a year from now, but also don’t pick more than ten years. Go with what feels right for you!

Now write the letter to congratulate yourself on your achievements at this future point in time. The letter will express your hopes and dreams as if they have now happened.  Talk about how proud you are, or mention the satisfaction or other positive emotions you feel.

You might want to include health, career, relationships, where you live, travel plans, investments/financial position and creative ambitions. Make your statements specific, and only include things that truly are important to you, and that fill you with hope, excitement and anticipation.  Really feel this in your heart. Dream good dreams for yourself and let this be a love letter from yourself to you.  Be your own cheer squad.  Celebrate your life!

When you’ve finished, seal it in an envelope addressed to you, marked ‘Not to be opened until xxxx’. Then put it somewhere safe where you will be able to find it again in the future.

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Here’s an example from one I wrote to myself back in April 2008. It’s obviously very personal, so I’ve chosen some random sentences and pasted them together to give you a general idea. (And it does sound quite dorky in its randomness!) The actual letter is three pages long, ambitious, and quite detailed, and almost everything I had written has come, or is in the process of coming true.

Dear Nicole,

I’m writing this letter for you to open 5 years into the future. I congratulate you on your great health….  You really look sensational, and I love what you’ve done with your hair… I’m really proud that you’ve gone out and bought yourself some beautiful clothes and that you’re finally enjoying exercise… It’s great to see your blog so loved, and that you’re reaching such a wide audience…  Your writing buddies are the best and have become true friends…. And now you have a publishing deal…

I really love you, Nicole, and I’m proud of you. You deserve this happiness and success.

All my love to you,

Nicole xx

Allow yourself to enjoy this process of deliberate co-creation. It’s amazing how much we can manifest by this simple process.

And finally, a beautiful guided meditation to soothe you, relax you and help you create a positive vibration that will encourage the realisation of your dreams;

Using your Internal Compass to Navigate Life

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At any moment, you have a choice, that either leads you closer to your spirit or further away from it.

~ Thich Nhat Hahn

Inside each of us in a compass.  Although we can’t see it, it spins and turns in ways we can feel, if only we learn to tune in to it. The purpose of this compass is to guide us safely toward what serves us, what best makes use of our talents and gifts, what shall give us happiness, contentment, freedom.

Today we’re going to practice using this compass, with a pen and journal as tools to help us fine-tune our mapping skills. This is a particularly useful exercise when we are stuck, or trying to make choices and decisions but are feeling lost and confused.

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Journal Exercise:

Calibrating your Compass

Our compass has three main positions: 1 – Home. 2 – On a Slight Detour. 3 – Off Track.

We are going to use our feelings to calibrate these compass points. For us to know if we are in a ‘true’ position, we must identify with this compass position at least 80% of the time. (Hey – everyone has better days and worse days! That’s part of the natural rhythm of life.)

Take a moment and tune in to each position, looking for times in your life where can positively identify each compass point.  Write down some notes in your journal for each of the three positions, explaining each of them with illustrations from your own life. (I’ll add in some examples from my own life to help you understand the process.)

Once we become familiar with the way our compass works, and how each position feels, we can start using the compass for guidance for situations and relationships right now.

1. Home

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Here we have the feeling that all is well on our life. We are happy and content.  We feel confident in our abilities, our relationships, and good at what we do. This feel-good energy spills over into other aspects of our lives too. We feel that we are on our path, and we are excited about how the future is unfolding. (Your ‘home’ might feel and look different to the image below.  That’s okay.  We all need to find a ‘home’ feeling, and a representation of that feeling, that is right for us.)

This is one of my examples:

Remember when we were studying, and living at College? The course work was fun, and I was good at it. I loved being involved on the Student Union and organising all the social activities.  I enjoyed staying up late after I’d finished my assignments, drinking tea and writing poetry.  I went dancing every Friday night, and my head was always filled with music…

2. On a Slight Detour

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This is not necessarily a bad thing! Sometimes we make these slight detours so that we can grow, change, evolve or refine our preferences. These periods in our life are categorised by a sense of something missing, although we may not be able to name what that is. We will have a slight discontent, a need to search for answers, a sense of something more, if only we could work out what that was. We actively seek out information. We look for new experiences, and for self-growth that leads to change.

Here’s my example:

I was living in the Kangaroo Valley.  The work was good, I was enjoying the place, and my new friends, and learning a lot.  But I struggled with the cold of winter.  I was lonely much of the time, and I felt like I should be doing something else, in addition to what I was already doing.  I kept looking at courses, and I began writing a journal.  I tried yoga, and cheese making and gardening.  I couldn’t seem to find what was missing.

3. Off Track

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That horrible place where we KNOW we are lost, where we feel pressured and like we are running out of time to work it out and get back on track.  We are unhappy, frustrated, stressed and sad.  We might also feel lonely, misunderstood, exhausted, or just plain wrong – we don’t recognise ourselves or our lives, or we are miserably stuck in a place we know and despise. We aren’t using our talents and gifts, or if we are we are using them to prosper others at the expense of ourselves.

My last example:

We couldn’t talk any more.  You were never home, and you left me to make all the decisions, earn all the money, maintain all the relationships.  I felt like my whole life was a lie every time I answered the phone, walked out the door, or ran into your mother.  I felt like I had dug my own grave and my job was to be alive with a smile plastered on my my sorry face, when I would rather have been dead. I lost a major contract, because I was so distracted. I became ill.  Everything was falling apart. (Blerk! That was no fun – revisiting that!)

Checking In with Our Compass

You can choose any or all of the journal starters below, but only work with one at a time.  To do this part of the exercise, choose a starter, write it in your diary, and then jot down some names, situations or ideas underneath to correspond to the starter and any or all of its breakdown points.  Then tune in with your compass, and work out which way the needle is pointing for you: Home, Slight Detour, or Off Track.

Use your feelings to write honestly about where you are at with this thing and how you feel, until you are sure about what compass position fits the thing you have identified.

  • Relationships: Love, Family, Friends, Work, Social Interactions, The Past
  • Money: Earnings, Debt, Potential, Job, Other Contributors, Abundance
  • Work: Current Job, Previous Jobs, New Possibilities, Dream Jobs, What Others are doing
  • Home: Where I live, Who I live with, What I do in my spare time, My Community
  • Fun: Holidays, Friends, Socialising, Time on my Own, Activities I do often, Things I love, Stuff I used to do, Stuff I’d like to do
  • Learning: What I already studied, What I could do next, Secret Aspirations, Stuff I wasn’t good at, Stuff I know I’m good at
  • Spirituality: Things I was taught to practice or believe, Habits, Things I miss, Things I enjoy, Ways I connect, Creativity, Things that nurture my soul, Things I’ve thoughta bout exploring

A Third Way to Use Your Compass

Choose one of the areas you’ve written about that doesn’t give you a feeling of home. Using stream of consciousness, (I gave an example of how to do that here – it’s the bit about circles and words – you’ll find it!) write down a list of potential actions or solutions.

Example Home: I don’t like where I live, or my current flatmates

Write your list of solutions:

  • Tough it out for 6 months til the lease is up
  • Use this opportunity to take a job interstate
  • Find a new place to live and break my lease
  • Kick them out and get new flatmates
  • Move in with my lover
  • Go home to Mum and Dad’s and save the deposit for a place of my own
  • Go travelling

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Now tune in to each solution separately.  Do you get a sense of stress or a sense of relief?  (Read more about this process here)

Cross out the solution that gives you the most stress – the on that makes you feel the most uncomfortable and unhappy.  Keep going over the remaining list, always looking for the feeling of relief.  That’s the thing your internal compass is pointing you towards, so listen to your inner wisdom and choose that thing.

When we are off track, whatever gives us that sense of relief will always be the right direction to take us back home!

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Seven Gifts from Your Wise Self to You

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Who doesn’t love a gift?  One of my favourite realisations around journalling was that your wise self can present your conscious (and sometimes very confused or narrow-thinking) mind with all manner of gifts – through the form of realisations, guidance and new ideas.

Today we’re going to explore some of the treasure that is locked away inside you.  You might be helped by your subconscious, your inner child, your higher self, or divine guidance.  But no matter where that help comes from, trust that sometimes, with just a simple pen and paper, you really can map out a new future for yourself; one with clearer direction, that is more fulfilling and that better uses your talents and gifts.

Journal Exercise:

Start by writing this at the beginning of your page:

I trust that within me are the answers I need.  Within my heart lies a map to guide me along life’s many roads.  I am open to answers.  I expect to find solutions.  I am ready to change. Miracles happen every day. New ideas can come to anyone. I am open to receiving my truth. I am excited by the possibilities within my reach.

Now use any of the prompts below, to begin unwrapping these gifts from yourself to you.  Pick any one journal prompt that appeals to you (or repels your) from beside each image of a gift.  That way you’ll get seven answers.  Don’t expect to ‘know’ these answers.  Just start writing and see what happens…

Gift One:

  • One of the best ways for me to feel grounded is to
  • The easiest change I can make around my financial situation is
  • One person I really need to say to no to is
  • A tiny, achievable little business idea I could do part-time from home, and that would really suit me well is

Gift Two:

  • Music that always makes me feel good includes
  • The most satisfying way for me to spend spare time in a creative way right now would be
  • What my body most needs right now to feel healthy and energised is
  • If I was to work with one creative idea right now. the one most suited to my own talents and abilities, I would
  • I’d forgotten, but one of the things that best expresses me, and that I don’t do any more is
Gift Three:

  • The area I need to pay attention to, so I can get my stress under control would have to be
  • Some of the best chores and responsibilities for me to delegate include
  • If there is one thing I want to achieve, it is
  • The thing that would make me feel better about myself within the next six months would be
Gift Four:

  • Deep in my heart, I know that
  • Given a chance, I could shine at
  • If I was to put my energy towards one thing it needs to be
  • I am happiest when
  • If I was to leave a legacy, I would like it to be
Gift Five:

  • A terrific hobby for me would be
  • It’s a huge project, but if I start in this small corner over here, I could definitely
  • The things that most nurture and fill me up are
  • My deepest ambition is to
  • If I let go of
  • The thing I most want to share with the world is

Gift Six:

  • Once, I was shown
  • My inner guidance is pointing towards
  • This keeps coming up for me, that I need to
  • Every time I do this, I could keep doing it forever. I feel so positive and excited every time I begin to

Gift Seven:

  • In ten years time, when I look back, I want to be able to say
  • I keep forgetting how much I love to
  • In a perfect world I would be
  • My deepest, most carefully held wish is that
  • I try to hide from myself the fact that
  • If I had some good advice for me right now, that would help me get back on track, it is

And for a final piece of believe-in-yourself-and-your-dreams wisdom, watch this…

Telling yourself a better story

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I really haven’t had that exciting of a life. There are a lot of things I wish I would have done, instead of just sitting around and complaining about having a boring life. So I pretty much like to make it up. I’d rather tell a story about somebody else.
Kurt Cobain

We all tell ourselves a story.  We often tell that story to others too. Our story is the way we see ourselves in the world, our view of what’s happened to us in the past, and who we are because of it.

Sometimes our story is sad, sometimes, it’s funny, sometimes it’s downright terrible.  And we trot that story out time after time; for ourselves, our families, our friends…

But what if that story doesn’t serve you? What if that story compounds low self-esteem, or failure, or loneliness? What if that story is a constant reminder to us of a painful time in our lives?

The Law of Attraction states that whatever we think about most and talk about most is what we draw to us.  That or things of a similar vibration.

You need to ask yourself if you want to keep living that story.

Because maybe it’s time to write a new one…

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Journal Exercise:

Today, write yourself a new story.  Make it up, like any good writer would, but let it have a few bones that are real.

Tell yourself a story that is empowering and positive.

Look for examples from your life that illustrate a different truth for you – of times when things have worked out, when people have been kind or helpful, when you’ve known success, when miracles have happened.

Or, if you are feeling brave, or creative, just write a new and entirely ficticious account of your past, present or future.

What is the life you would like to live? Write about that AS IF IT IS ALREADY HAPPENING!!!

Here are a few prompts to get you started.  Choose whatever most appeals and then start writing:

  • My life is unfolding in the most exciting of ways…
  • The place I’m living now is so well suited to me.  It is…
  • You’ll never guess how it happened.  It all worked out perfectly in the end. One day…
  • So we’ve been together for…
  • And one day a letter came in the mail and it said…
  • The doctors couldn’t believe it…
  • My life is so blessed because…
  • It’s my dream life.  I have to pinch myself to remind me that it’s real. Now my world looks like…
  • I answered the phone and you’ll never believe who was on the other end…
  • OMG! This is exactly what happened, and it’s FABULOUS…
  • It feels so good to be able to…
  • My career is going from strength to strength.  Already I have…
  • I’ve planned the most amazing holiday.  It starts with…
  • Such wonderful relationships in my life.  Let me tell you a bit about them…
  • Now there’s no more money worries because…
  • My proudest moment is…
  • I finally achieved…

Words really do have a magical power in your life.  So choose them wisely – when you write them, speak them, think them… Expect magic and know that you are worthy and deserving of good in your life. NOW is your time to invite the future to look different to the past.  Believe! ♥

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