The Power of Mentors – Your Path To Success

Mentorship is simply learning from the mistakes and mastery of a successful person in his/her field. – Bernard Kelvin Clive

 

We all learn by modelling ourselves on others.  As babies we mimic our parents, copying everything they do until we learn to do those things for ourselves; facial expressions, gestures, words, movements…  The fastest way to have success in anything is always to find someone who is already doing that thing, and then copy what they do, or even better – engage with them and have them show you, or help you.

A mentor is someone who has walked the path before you, learned from their mistakes and become successful in their field. What makes them valuable to you is that THEY know how to do what you want to do because they’ve done it already. I have found business mentors, writing mentors (Hi, Doctor Kim!), money mentors and organic farming mentors to name a few. Sometimes my relationship with these people has been a tangible thing, and sometimes I’ve just watched what they’ve done or read their book – and copied what they did to become successful in their field.

I also work as a spiritual mentor with people who want to develop their metaphysical and psychic abilities. That’s a road I know very well.

It’s never too late to change or improve ourselves.  Today we’re going to use journalling to help us identify who we want to be, and who can help us achieve those dreams. Why not make yourself a nice cup of tea, or take yourself out to a coffee shop. With a beverage at your elbow, and a notebook and pen in hand, work through the following activity. You might surprise yourself at what you discover.

Journal Exercise:

Start by writing this passage at the top of your page.

Dear Universe, 

I trust that there is a Universal Wisdom which recognises my gifts and talents, that understands what outcomes and adventures are best for my Highest good, and that matches me to mentors best suited to helping me achieve my dreams.

I trust that there is someone out there who knows exactly what I need to do next. 

I am ready to embrace the possibility of a better life for myself. I am ready to move from struggle into flow.  I am ready to embrace abundance, in all its forms. I want you to know that I’m ready for whatever wonderful experiences and opportunities you send my way. I am ready to embrace change, and I am ready to embrace success. Thank you for the mentors I now attract into my life.

Now think of an area in your life where you would like to have success.  Don’t judge what comes next, and don’t over-think it.  Just trust that what you write will begin to create a greater sense of personal and spiritual awareness in your life.

Create a list of people who are leaders in this field, and that you can look up to. (if you don’t know who they are, then do a little research!)

Choose one of the people on your list and spend some time writing about WHY you admire this person, and what they do or have done that you would like to have more of in your own life.  Really allow yourself to explore this in detail, making the emotions you feel as you write this strong and real.

When you have finished, write about how you want YOUR life to look as you walk this same path.  Write down the outcomes you want for yourself, and how this will positively change your future, and the world around you.

Do this over a couple of days, using different mentors from your list each day. Trust that as you build this connection through writing, the perfect teachers, courses, resources, mentors and support will begin to show up in your life.

NB: If you feel that you are walking a path of spiritual awakening right now, and you’d like to explore that further, I suggest you do this exercise while holding one of the following crystals:

  • Clear Quartz – for connecting with Guides and Higher Wisdom
  • Fluorite – for understanding your creative path, and for clear guidance with writing
  • Sodalite – for answers about relationships and knowing your own truth
  • Amethyst – for connecting into your spiritual gifts
  • Rhyolite – for channelled wisdoms – showing you that inner truth you find difficult to access on your own

 

One more thing…

You know more than you think you do.  How can you mentor others? Where can you reach out to people to share what you know, so that others can learn from YOUR experiences and mistakes?

Learning is love – so let’s spread the love around.  Helping others achieve their dreams always moves us closer to our own. ♥

Will You Honour Your Own Needs This Weekend?

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“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.” 
~  Karl Lagerfeld

Hello, my lovelies!
I was reminded of something powerful yesterday, while attending this three-day professional development conference with Ben.

I know you’ll understand because it’s something that almost all intuitives and empaths have in common – we are polite to a fault, and we are so aware of the feelings and emotional states of other people that we put huge amounts of energy into making sure that others are okay.

Which is great. To a point. But sometimes in the caring for others and being attuned to their needs we neglect our own.

Let me give you an example.

I always make it a practice to talk to new people at events like these, and yesterday I struck up a conversation with a quiet and shy-looking woman near the coffee station.

I introduced myself, and then asked her how she was enjoying the day.

Out flooded a torrent of negativity. She was only here because her husband made her come. They’d travelled from Melbourne. She’d never been to Brisbane. She had no time in her life for anything like this. She hated her job. The traffic was terrible where she lived. She never got time for herself. And on it went.

On and on and on.

I’m sure many of you have found yourself in a similar situation, stuck in a corner with some negative Nellie at a family function or a work party or a gig you attended where you’d really wanted to enjoy yourself.

I’ve set myself a goal of finding a few people to mastermind with over this weekend. The only time we get to meet is in the breaks, and this woman was not someone I wanted to hang out with.

Normally polite Nicole would stay, listen, be empathetic and kind and reassuring. But then I’m not meeting my own needs, I’d be putting hers first. And this woman was dragging my energy down so fast it was like I’d been shot and was leaking life force all over the floor.

As soon as she drew breath I smiled. ‘I hope you can find something positive from the weekend. And if it all gets too much we’re surrounded by great shops and restaurants, so you could go exploring instead. Have a great day!’ After which I got myself out of there fast.

I honoured my own needs. I found some other people to talk with and soon I was enjoying myself again; learning, engaging and growing through more positive conversations.

This weekend will you be like that poor woman, doing something you don’t want to do or being someplace you don’t want to be? (I’ve been in her shoes – haven’t you!) How much better it would have been for her if she’d said no, or found a way to honour her own interests and needs while still supporting her man. Or if she’d found a way to make the most of her experience, even if it wasn’t her first choice. Being open-minded can open us up to extraordinary synchronicities and miracles.

If she’d stayed open-minded and it still sucked for her, there was a world waiting just outside the door. A city she’d never travelled to, and three days to fill!

How about you?

Can you say no this weekend? No to the things that you don’t want.

Can you say yes this weekend? Yes to the things that fulfil you and meet your own needs?

Can you walk away from situations that suck all the joy out of you, and put your own needs front at centre, or at least make them as important as everyone else’s?

I promise that the act of acknowledging what you want and making space for it starts a quiet revolution in your life. One that may well make you a much more happy and fulfilled person.

Wishing you a weekend filled with just what you need!

Biggest love and hugs, Nicole  xx

PS – That unhappy woman would really benefit from attending my upcoming Pop Up Shop and Events. At our Channelling and Guided Meditation Evening we’ll be discussing all kinds of ways to uplift, nurture and heal ourselves, and how to better manage anxiety and depression. Learning a foundation of spiritual practices at my Saturday workshop would give her a framework for self-awareness and a whole toolkit of methods for exploring who she is, what she needs and what life direction will make her soul sing At my Sunday workshop she could craft a meditation mala and then learn how to use it. With that mala around her neck she’d feel comforted and reassured, and she’d have a tool at her fingertips for affirmation, meditation, co-creation and transformation. My events run over the weekend of May 25-27 here in Brisbane, Australia. No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program and a beautiful selection of spiritual tools, crystals, singing bowls, jewellery, prayer shawls and more in my shop. More details here!

Why This Teacher Is Still A Student

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“It is not that I’m so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.”
~ Albert Einstein

 

I first discovered meditation when I was eleven. My dad worked for a book company, and he’d bring home boxes of books which I was allowed to trawl though. Some of them were about meditation, working with the subconscious mind and developing ‘mind power’. These were things I’d already been playing around with on my own since my earliest memories, but here they were all laid out in a book. I was hooked. Each day I would shut the door to my bedroom and practice focusing my mind, doing breathwork and other meditation methods.

Soon I was meditating every day.

Meditation soothed my anxiety, and helped me to study better. I was able to think more clearly, and to sleep more soundly.

Eventually I found that meditation was a doorway to inner knowing.

Inner knowing led to more profound intuition.

Intuition led to a deepening psychic ability.

Journalling was my other self-exploration discovery. Years later I would add crystals, Tibetan singing bowls, oracle cards and runes to my toolkit too.

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Now I aid others to connect to and use their intuition. I show them how to meditate. I help them find connection with their Higher Selves, their Guides, the Akashic Records and many more journeying and self-work techniques. I teach channelling and psychic development.

But I never stop learning.

I am no guru. I am a fellow journeyer, walking that same path toward self-knowledge and more.

Every time I run a course or a retreat I learn something. When my students sit down to do the activities I set, I do them too. There are always new insights to glean. Deeper perspectives. So many times I have been humbled by the wisdom of one of my students, and the way they have propelled my own journey forward.

And twice a day, without fail, before and after sleep I meditate.

The more I learn, the more there is to share with others. I delight in learning and in sharing. It fills me up to be able to grow and evolve. To truly create or find a new understanding.

Most of all, though, I practice. I work on one thing to gain a level of skill and proficiency before moving to the next. Some things, like meditation, will always have more for me to explore and master.

I highly recommend creating some space in your life for spiritual practice and self-reflection. Even one hour a week will help you to know yourself better, and to awaken your metaphysical abilities.

What do you need to start?

Meditation. Maybe a little journalling. A little time for quiet self-reflection. It doesn’t need to be difficult, or expensive. All you really need is you!

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If you’d like some support for your journey try these posts:

Six Simple Meditation Techniques for Beginners

Journalling for Spiritual Clarity and Connection – A four week course

 

Will You Join Us for the 2014 Soul Sanctuary Retreat?

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“When we pay attention, whatever we are doing – whether it be cooking or cleaning or making love – is transformed and becomes part of our spiritual path. We begin to notice details and textures that we never noticed before; everyday life becomes clearer, sharper and at the same time more spacious.” ~ R. Fields

 

I’m holding a residential retreat from November 29 to December 5, in beautiful Byron Bay. It’s a perfect way to see out the energies of 2014, and prepare for 2015. Perhaps you’d like to join us?

The Soul Sanctuary Retreat is for women only.  A safe space for us to come together, to step into our powerful feminine energy and sisterhood. It’s a week of pamper, nurture and time for yourself. A perfect opportunity for you to rest and rejuvenate, indulge in some self-care and make the focus all about YOU!

2015 is almost here. It will be a year for building solid foundations, new patterns of behaviour and engaging, and truly living from our heart’s truth. This retreat is designed to help you get ready for that energy, so that you can truly make the most of the year ahead.

Highlights of this week-long retreat:

  • We will learn some simple meditation techniques to calm us, centre us and clear us.
  • We will give ourselves space to relax and renew.
  • We will identify our hidden (or not so hidden) addictions, so that we can address them and create a plan for moving back towards balance.
  • We will explore where we sabotage ourselves and what positive behaviours we can practice instead of the old ways that no longer serve us.
  • We will discover how to connect with, and utilise our internal energetic compass.
  • We will learn how to use the Universal Ordering System to bring ourselves back into flow and abundance.
  • We will examine shame and how it steals our power and keeps us small and limited.
  • We will work with the Power of Forgiveness, which is a hugely transformative force for good in our lives.
  • We will discover or remember our Soul Passions; using some channeled wisdoms from Nicole and her Guides, some art therapy, some spiritual work and some journaling
  • We will work with our Guides and Ancestors, learning to connect into and listen to their wisdoms and insights.
  • We will learn about creating a Spiritual Foundation of practices that can guide us, soothe us and enlighten us.
  • We will create a group Earth Healing Mandala, an individual Heart Healing Mandala, and a very special Sacred Talisman Mandala to act as our personal Spirit Map for 2015.

 

There will also be plenty of restful time for naps, swims, contemplation, friendship and personal projects. There will be time for meditation, and lots of channeled goodness with Nicole’s beautiful team. There will be time for healing, journaling, relaxing, spiritual goodness and lots of yummy organic food, lovingly created by our own personal chef, the amazing Deb Preston.

On this retreat we will be working with the energies of the waning moon, which is perfect for developing a deeper understanding of ourselves, for inner work, for soul connection and spiritual guidance.

This gentle but powerful week will help you to truly bring the focus back to yourself, and to become clear about what is important in your life. Perhaps for the first time you will be able to see clearly what matters to you, and what has been holding you back. You’ll find ways to hear the whisperings of your own heart. What you find will enable you to create a path forward that has meaning and magic to it.

2014 has been such a big year, and the energies of 2015 are vastly different. Our retreat will enable you to move into the new year refreshed, clear and ready for what comes next.

I’m so excited about this course, and we still have a few places left.

If you’d like more information please contact Dana, my wonderful PA, at info@nicolecody.com or nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com

Or drop us a note below or on our facebook page and we’ll send the details through to you.

Lots of love 🙂 Nicole xoxo

Lyme and Making Plans

“She had learned the lesson of renunciation and was as familiar with the wreck of each day’s wishes as with the diurnal setting of the sun.” 
~ Thomas Hardy, The Mayor of Casterbridge

“Success is when everything that goes wrong, fits in your plan.” 
~ Gary Rudz

 

When I was diagnosed, finally, with Lyme disease, back in January 2013, we did a lot of shuffling of plans. A much-looked-forward-to holiday was called off. I cancelled workshops and retreats. My clever PA began adding a footnote to each appointment she made for me, letting people know that I was being treated for Lyme and that I may need to reschedule their session at short notice, depending upon my health on the day.

I’ve had to do a lot of that anyway, in my adult life. Cancel things. Say no. Pull out at the last minute. Always because of unreliable health. Too often that has made me the unreliable friend, family member, or neighbour. The only area I have managed to be mostly reliable has been work. But doing that has meant creating a business where I can work from home, part-time, and where everything else suffers so that I can get that work done.

Sure I’ve gone ahead sometimes and done the thing, but too often afterwards I’ve paid the price. An afternoon of socialising might mean three days of crippling exhaustion. A few hours of gardening could leave me flat out for the rest of the week.

“Gee Nicole,” a friend said once, frustrated at my lack of energy, “we all get tired.” Yes, we do. But Lyme tired is something else. Lyme tired is truly chronic fatigue. Lyme tired is neurological fatigue, as well as physical. It’s the kind of tired where after just a few hours work I am in bed by seven and asleep by ten past. And that’s on a good day. 🙂 Lyme tired is the kind of tired where I can struggle with basic daily living – like showering and dressing, holding a conversation, preparing a meal or attending to the simplest kinds of housework. The kind of tired where my arm stops working, or my eye starts twitching, or my brain goes on strike.

My exhaustion is an ocean, under the influence of some great unseen force. Sometimes it recedes, leaving a gleaming bright shore of possibility. I get stretches where I can do so much more, and I settle in to that as my new normal. But then the tide comes back, and I find myself with a smaller and smaller window of available time where my brain works, or my body works and I can get things done.

To be honest, I’d hoped that this far into my Lyme treatment, an aggressive protocol of drugs and herbs, that I would have been back to much more glorious planning again by now. That I would be saying ‘yes’ more often, and ‘no’ much less.

But as I’ve travelled this road I’ve come to realise that there’s still so far to go. I might be in this hazy half-life place for a while yet.

So, I’ve gotten smarter.

Now I make plans EXPECTING to be tired. I create my business around what I can do on a bad day, or an average week, rather than what I might be able to do if I had a sudden upsurge in energy or was miraculously well again. I plan socialising around my best times (mornings), or for early nights.

I am planning my whole future around having a flat battery.

It’s not pessimistic. I fully intend to get back to well. Or as well as it is possible to be, for me. But oh how it takes the pressure off, knowing that I am catering for low energy, or sudden patches of incapacity.

Anyway, my heart is on the way to being completely normal, and I have my brain back. There is no longer an imminent threat of dying. I can write and think and dream again. And I’ve always been able to do psychic work – no matter how ill I’ve been. That’s a gift that comes through me, and it’s never influenced by my health. In fact, it has often been the thing which has energised me and kept me going during my darker days. So, planning is possible. As long as my plans make space for down-time, disaster and the unexpected.

I even changed my whole business model, so that I can run an ever-expanding enterprise from bed, on a few average health days a week. Imagine how much lovely free time that will give me as I move back towards well. Imagine how much writing I will be able to get done. How much living. That’s exciting for me!

Maybe you don’t have lyme, or some other kind of incapacitating situation in your life, but I can guarantee you that making plans based on reduced energy and reduced input isn’t a bad thing. Instead it’s a plan for life that makes room for life. It’s about designing a life where there is space for you to grow, to heal, to love, to change your mind, to move in new directions, to spend the afternoon napping, or with your lover, or catching a series of perfect waves.

I’m all for planning. Planning moves us purposefully in a direction of our choosing. It enables us to be effective with the use of our time and resources. It helps us to actively design our lives.

But I am also for living honestly, and being realistic about what’s on our plates. I am also for being kind to ourselves. I am all for making room to breathe rather than heaping responsibility, duty and endless tasks upon us.

What kind of plans have you made in your life?

Have you crammed so much in that there is no room for downtime, rest or fun?

Lyme has proved to be a wise teacher for me. I hope that by sharing my story, it also helps you to be kinder to yourself, to be more trusting of the process of life, to focus on your most important priorities and still leave space.

All sorts of miracles and wonderments can happen when we leave enough space for them. It’s not up to us to have to fill in all the blanks. Where would be the magic in that?

Much love to you, Nicole xx

Life-is-a-miracle

 

Making My Life Work for Me – Week 4

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“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.”~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”
~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Welcome to Week 4 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’re just joining us now, pop back and read the very first post so that you can gather the materials we’ll be using today and catch up with our prior activities.)

Our focus this week is on knowledge – and the acts of learning, sharing and valuing our own knowledge and skills.

Life is a learning journey, and we come here to teach as much as we come here to gain knowledge.  One of the ways to make our life work better for us is to identify areas where we’d like to learn more, and to acknowledge the things we already know and can do with a level of mastery.  I’m not just talking school learning – one of my best friends, a woman with very little formal education, has just begun teaching sewing lessons, and it has turned into a thriving business for her.

Instructions:

We follow the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

We’re going to start with a meditation to help you connect into and draw more love into your life.  Hold your crystal and drape your scarf or shawl around your shoulders.  Set aside ten minutes for this. When you’re ready click the link below and simply follow the sound of my voice:

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for connecting to our own Wisdom and Path

 

Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  Feel yourself using your talents and gifts in ways that give you joy and meaning. See yourself in the flow of abundance that is ours as we step into a life that works for us.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

Using Your Journal:

Go back to the front of your journal and read your Pledge out loud.

You’ve committed to making a better life for yourself.  A better life means valuing your time and your skills, investing in yourself, and setting clear boundaries.  Be open to knowledge in all its forms as you work with your journal this week.

Feel free to use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your journal visually attractive. Be mindful of words and what they mean to you this week.  Look for words that make you feel clear, focused and powerful.,

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s start our week by selecting some reflective spiritual Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

This week’s card, chosen by me, bears an important message. We often think of boundaries as limitations, but boundaries can have many positive advantages in our lives, if we use them to protect what is precious to us.

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Take some time to reflect on the boundaries in your life.  Do you expect respect, or do you let people take advantage of you? Do you make room for your own interests and dreams, or does everyone else come first?

Week 4 Journal Activity:

On a new page write a stream of consciousness around the question What knowledge and skills can I share with the world?  Think outside the square.  What are you good at?  What do you enjoy doing? Where have you developed skill and expertise? What do you enjoy doing, or teaching others? Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it. Think right back to when you were young, and then follow the path of your life to the present, and beyond that into the future.

And this week’s creative activity is:

Collage – The Essence of ME and All that I’m Becoming  Today’s collage will help you to understand what your soul loves to do and share, and the learning paths you might follow into the future, to further enrich your life.

Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom to help me understand my own wisdom and my future possibilities.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to all that your soul knows now and desires still to learn.

Then when you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly, and then spend some time arranging them on a page or double page of your journal. Let the images and words inspire and inform you. If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry.

What did you notice as themes from this exercise? What new possibilities can you see for yourself?

Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that clarify, empower and enlighten. Wishing you a wonderful week.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

Don’t tell me how good you are. Show me…

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“As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. ” ~ John F. Kennedy

“Talk is cheap.” ~ Anonymous

Today’s post has come about in part after watching a good friend be deeply wounded and disillusioned by the bullying actions of some people who loudly proclaim themselves as ‘enlightened and spiritual’.

Another friend is considering walking away from their life’s passion because of the vicious and mean-spirited ‘critique’ (it wasn’t constructive criticism, it was a poisonous personal attack) from an instructor at an invitation-only Master Class intended to guide emerging artists in front of a public audience at a large gallery. The instructor used my friend to make themselves look good and to extract a laugh or two from the crowd. The attack left my friend floundering in self-doubt, shame and humiliation, suffering anxiety attacks and questioning everything they’d previously held as true.

Most of the people I know who are incredibly good at what they do are also among the most humble, no matter their what field of endeavour. They sit in their integrity. They acknowledge their ability as fact, but have little need to bang their own drum because they are busy being actively engaged in the things that define them. As the saying goes, they walk their talk.

The yoga teacher who awakens each day to perform her personal meditation, pranayamas and asanas before eating her healthy yogini breakfast and getting ready for her classes. Who then comes home to eat her healthy dinner and concludes her day with more yoga, as an integral part of her daily life and philosophy.

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The business mentor who has had years of experience building and running successful organisations, and who continues to sit on the Board of Directors of profitable companies.

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The artist who still attends classes and workshops, and considers themselves constantly evolving; working on their craft even though they are at the top of their field and lauded by their peers.

'Painting in Gold' by Chad

‘Painting in Gold’ by Chad

Whether you are looking to form a relationship, seek employment or learn something new (and especially if you’re a starry-eyed beginner), listen with your eyes. Don’t be seduced by spin.  Don’t be sucked in by wild claims and promises. When we are eager and ready to begin the journey, our enthusiasm often nudges our discernment over into a corner.

Eagerness and newness make us all vulnerable. And sadly, I’ve seen many a beginner derailed because the people they put faith in to guide them on their journey trampled and stamped out that fledgling flame. Or didn’t give them the tools they need to have that promised ‘success’, and then put it all back on the learner when they fail. “Oh well,” they say, “you mustn’t want it enough, you don’t have the ability, your attitude’s all wrong.”

There are so many self-proclaimed ‘guru’s’ out there.  Who do you trust? How do you work out who can actually support your growth?

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Word of mouth is a great place to start.

Trust your intuition.

And look for validity of the person’s abilities or claims. Do they walk their talk?  Are they respected within their industry or profession?  Do they have a public track record?  Do their ACTIONS align with their mouth?

The ‘Law of Attraction Wealth Creation Coach’ who has a mountain of debt and lives on credit cards?  Maybe not your best bet.

The ‘Parenting Expert’ who has never had children of their own, or even had them in their home for any length of time.  Really?

The ‘Write a Best-Seller Workshop’ run by the person who has never been published. Perhaps someone who has already walked the path you want to walk would have more concrete advice to share with you.

Even more than that, are they a person you can respect?  Do they have the sort of values and habits you aspire to? Do they treat others well? Are they leading by example?

In this age of social media it’s easy to set yourself up as an expert. In fact there are courses in how to do that!

Back in the day, experts had… wait for it… expertise.  And expertise was hard won through experience.

There’s no magical pill or quick fix in this life that is going to take you from the bottom to the top of your particular mountain. We all have our own path to walk, and everyone has something to teach us, whether that’s through a positive or a negative experience.

The people ahead of you in the climb up your mountain will have valuable insights to share based upon their own journeys. Those insights can save you time, move you ahead more quickly, and help you hone your own skills and talents. So be an active player in your own development.   Use your discernment.  Do your homework.  Make sure they really are higher up that mountain, and not someone standing at the bottom with a giant megaphone and some smooth-talking words…

Take on board what resonates for you, and leave the rest behind.

Above all, don’t take it all too seriously.  Life is an adventure – a big messy glorious adventure. And that’s a beautiful thing.

2013 – Guidance for the Year Ahead

Happy New Year and welcome to the energies of 2013!  New Year’s Day is always a special time for me. I like to welcome the day with meditation,  a walk at the beach, and a swim in the ocean (one of the benefits of it being summer in Australia right now). Then over the course of the day I contemplate my year ahead, asking for spiritual guidance, and writing in my journal.

I have one tarot deck that I use only for the first day of the new year.  I have done this for over 20 years, and it is something I look forward to as a touchstone to set the themes of my year so that I might live with greater awareness and understanding.  I don’t use it as a predictive tool – rather I use it for reflection, and to seek guidance about qualities, actions and perspectives that might benefit me over the next twelve months.

This morning I asked for one card for you – to give YOU guidance over the year ahead.  This is my personal interpretation of that card for you.  Take what resonates as truth for you, and discard the rest.

The EMPEROR – Insights for 2013

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In 2012 our focus was on huge change and growth, but that change and growth was within us, and our immediate surrounds and relationships. We weathered many challenges and always the emphasis came back to the personal and internal.

2013 is a foundation year of growth and positive change, where we are reflecting these energies out from ourselves as we inhabit a place of stronger authenticity, awareness and connection. This year, as we sit in our personal power, we will feel a desire to contribute, to explore, to dream up new ways of being, and to action those dreams in the world.  It is a time for visionaries, leaders and the building of lasting change.

Take time to reflect on what you have learned from the crucible of 2012.  What are your strengths, your weaknesses, your passions and desires?  What do you want more of? Less of? Use this information as a map for your future.

This next year will see opportunities for you to set or rebuild the foundations for stability and financial security again – for yourself and family, and within your community, business or country. As you begin to feel secure, it will feel natural to extend a helping hand to others, and so the cycle of growth and kindness will spiral outwards in many manifestations.

2013 is a year for inspired vision – the vision we hold for ourselves, and the vision we hold for the world around us.  Many leaders and positive movements will be born from this energy, and those with a yearning to serve and to shape will have ample opportunity to do so.

It will no longer work for us to be engaged in activities ‘just for the money’.  We will only find satisfaction as our hearts, our intellects, our values are integrated into how we live and the way we operate in the world. We will feel compelled to make decisions and to take actions that reflect our vision, and we will have a strong need to make the world a better place – at home, and then further afield.

2013 is a year for developing our skills and our craft – be it a creative, personal or spiritual path. You’ll discover a strength within you, and it will no longer serve you to live a life that is categorised by fear, doubt and limitation.  Forge partnerships, find your tribe, align yourself with mentors and courses and resources that encourage and support your growth, or be that supportive teacher for others!

Creating a sense of richness and inspiration through the arts, culture, nature, time, relationships, travel, and your own creative endeavours can make this a landmark year for you. Let go of relationships and pursuits that are empty and meaningless and focus your precious time on what lights you up.

Allow yourself to be a bold explorer of life this year.  Blaze a trail. Think outside the square.  Lend your voice and your energy to the things you are passionate about.  Be part of this powerful force of change.

Cultivate a sense of personal responsibility, make a plan and be open to new opportunities that come your way. This year you are being empowered to make your life work, and for it to look more like the life you dream for yourself.  This will take courage and action, but with these two qualities so much is possible.

2013 is the beginning of a new age – so get ready to make the most of this transformative energy and be part of this global vibration of change.

It’s time to remember…

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The Power of Mentors

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“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.”
 – Benjamin Disraeli

We all learn by modelling ourselves on others.  As babies we mimic our parents, copying everything they do until we learn to do those things for ourselves; facial expressions, gestures, words, movements…  The fastest way to have success in anything is always to find someone who is already doing that thing, and then copy what they do, or even better – engage with them and have them show you, or help you.

A mentor is someone who has walked the path before you, learned from their mistakes and become successful in their field. What makes them valuable to you is that THEY know how to do what you want to do because they’ve done it already. I have found business mentors, writing mentors (Hi, Doctor Kim!), money mentors and organic farming mentors to name a few. Sometimes my relationship with these people has been a tangible thing, and sometimes I’ve just watched what they’ve done or read their book – and copied what they did to become successful in their field.

I also work as a spiritual mentor with people who want to develop their metaphysical and psychic abilities. That’s a road I know very well.

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It’s never too late to change or improve ourselves.  Today we’re going to use journalling to help us identify who we want to be, and who can help us achieve those dreams. Why not make yourself a nice cup of tea, or take yourself out to a coffee shop. With a beverage at your elbow, and a notebook and pen in hand, work through the following activity. You might surprise yourself at what you discover.

Journal Exercise:

Start by writing this passage at the top of your page.

Dear Universe, 

I trust that there is a Universal Wisdom which recognises my gifts and talents, that understands what outcomes and adventures are best for my Highest good, and that matches me to mentors best suited to helping me achieve my dreams.

I trust that there is someone out there who knows exactly what I need to do next. 

I am ready to embrace the possibility of a better life for myself. I am ready to move from struggle into flow.  I am ready to embrace abundance, in all its forms. I want you to know that I’m ready for whatever wonderful experiences and opportunities you send my way. I am ready to embrace change, and I am ready to embrace success. Thank you for the mentors I now attract into my life.

Now think of an area in your life where you would like to have success.  Don’t judge what comes next, and don’t over-think it.  Just trust that what you write will begin to create a greater sense of personal and spiritual awareness in your life.

Create a list of people who are leaders in this field, and that you can look up to. (if you don’t know who they are, then do a little research!)

Choose one of the people on your list and spend some time writing about WHY you admire this person, and what they do or have done that you would like to have more of in your own life.  Really allow yourself to explore this in detail, making the emotions you feel as you write this strong and real.

When you have finished, write about how you want YOUR life to look as you walk this same path.  Write down the outcomes you want for yourself, and how this will positively change your future, and the world around you.

Do this over a couple of days, using different mentors from your list each day.  Trust that as you build this connection through writing, the perfect teachers, courses, resources, mentors and support will begin to show up in your life.

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NB: If you feel that you are walking a path of spiritual awakening right now, and you’d like to explore that further, I suggest you do this exercise while holding one of the following crystals:

  • Clear Quartz – for connecting with Guides and Higher Wisdom
  • Fluorite – for understanding your creative path, and for clear guidance with writing
  • Sodalite – for answers about relationships and knowing your own truth
  • Amethyst – for connecting into your spiritual gifts
  • Rhyolite – for channelled wisdoms – showing you that inner truth you find difficult to access on your own

 

One more thing…

You know more than you think you do.  How can you mentor others? Where can you reach out to people to share what you know, so that others can learn from YOUR experiences and mistakes?

Learning is love – so let’s spread the love around.  Helping others achieve their dreams always moves us closer to our own. ♥

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Let the Teacher appear…

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Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined. ~ Henry David Thoreau

If you have a dream, chances are you’ll need help to get there. Whether you want to write a book, climb a mountain, win Olympic Gold, speak a new language or improve your health, your best bet will be to attract a good teacher into your life – one who will believe in you, and have the ability to help you to grow and to shine.

Sometimes the only thing that holds you back from success is not a lack of talent or good ideas, it’s a lack of knowledge, skills or techniques.  But that doesn’t have to be an obstacle – trust that there truly is someone or something out there in the Universe that can help you bridge that knowledge gap. Someone will have walked that road before you, and they’ll be willing to show you how to follow in their footsteps…

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You might need a coach, a mentor or a teacher. Maybe a course or a book will help.  It might even be a job, a radio interview you just happen to tune in to, a magazine article or a useful suggestion from a stranger.

Know that the Universe is listening, and that it responds to your call.

Let the Universe know that you’re ready.  Ask for support.  Ask to be shown.  And then trust that the perfect person or information will show up in your life.

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I’ve created a short guided meditation to faciltate this process, and help you draw that teacher or resource to you.  All you need to do is listen, and stay open to the possibility of help turning up in your life:

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for calling Teachers into your life

 Believe in yourself.  Believe in your dreams.  Allow yourself to be magnetic to change and growth.  Now is your time to shine! ♥ xx

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