Wishful Thinking versus Deliberate Action

Image from Reverie Dreams

Image from Reverie Daydream

“If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.”
~ C. S. Lewis

“I’m a greater believer in luck, and I find the harder I work the more I have of it” 
~ Thomas Jefferson

 

Rollo shared a simple but profound wisdom during last night’s channelling session. We were taking about how to make 2014 different to all of the years that have been before it.

He suggested that we first think about what we wanted for 2014.

Then, he said, we needed to make a choice. We needed to get out of our heads.

We needed to move from wishful thinking to deliberate action.

So this morning I’m asking you…

What deliberate actions can you identify that will bring you closer to your goals and dreams?

Write them down.

And then do them!

Do them regularly, if they are the kind of actions which need to be repeated.

I look forward to seeing what magic you can create in your life! 🙂

74

 

 

Progress! All the little things that add up…

Image from zpply

Image from zpply

“Progress, however, of the best kind, is comparatively slow. Great results cannot be achieved at once; and we must be satisfied to advance in life as we walk, step by step.” ~ Samuel Smiles

Are you one of those impatient types? You know what I’m talking about. You start the diet Monday and expect to have a visible transformation by the end of the week. You begin a wealth creation program and a month later you’re disappointed to learn you’re only a little better off than you were at the start. You make changes and then wonder if this new thing is worth sticking with when there isn’t an obvious result yet.

I know I’m stating the obvious here, but MOST CHANGE TAKES TIME.

Sometimes the increments of change are so minute that from hour to hour, day to day, week to week, it just doesn’t look like all that much is happening.

And sadly, because of that, too many of us give up. We stop following the diet, going to the gym, putting words on the page or whatever else it was that was supposedly plodding us towards our goals.

Because who ever wants to just plod?

But here’s the thing. If you keep plodding along, eventually when you look back over your shoulder you’ll realise you’ve travelled quite a distance from where you first started out.

398032-goin_trip_long_journey

Here’s my latest milestones in my recovery from Lyme Disease. It’s given me so much encouragement to grasp that I AM making progress, even if I still feel tired, unwell and quite wretched very often.

  • Almost no chest pain. I have been acutely aware of my heart since my first heart attack in 2009, because I could feel it under my ribs and it hurt! I couldn’t hunch my shoulders, turn over in bed some nights or lie on my side because of how much pain it caused. In the last few months the pain has largely abated.
  • I can walk up hills. Slowly, but I can!
  • I can climb stairs.
  • I can handle hot weather better. My body is thermo-regulating and my heart is behaving. I don’t need oxygen.
  • I can put numbers into order, and file my bank statements. This has eluded me for years, since my last really bad lapse in 2002 which threatened to put me into a nursing home, so bad had my cognitive decline become.
  • I can do simple sums in my head.
  • I don’t feel like I am about to die.
  • I no longer feel like someone is digging a pitchfork into my head and twisting it viciously to get my attention.
  • I can bend over without passing out.
  • I can stand up quickly without passing out.
  • I can balance on one leg.
  • I can shut my eyes and not fall over.
  • I am physically stronger.
  • My vocabulary has increased.
  • I can prioritize and make lists.
  • My memory has improved.

Sure there’s heaps of stuff that could still work better in me. I acknowledge I have a long way to go. But when I think of where I was two years ago my improvement is actually quite astounding.

How about you? Are you making changes and sticking with them? Can you identify any tiny milestones? Sometimes when we’re looking at where we are now, we lose sight of how far we’ve already come.

I really want to encourage you not to give up. Even if from day to day it appears pointless. Even if it seems that what you’re doing is insignificant.

Most of my gorgeous clients who are ‘overnight successes’ slaved away unrecognised and unrewarded for years.

All that plodding and not giving up will get you where you want to go. And I promise the view will be magnificent. Hang in there! Much love, ♥ Nicole xx

longfellow-quote2

There’s a Change in the Air…

Image from Reliable Air

Image from Reliable Air

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person, or if we wait for some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” 
~ Barack Obama

Can you feel it?

There’s great shift coming. Great change.

There’s nothing you need to do, if you choose to stay where you are. If you want your life to keep looking like it always has. If you want tomorrow to look like yesterday.

But, if you are ready for change, or even if you’re just prepared to contemplate it, then this energy that’s coming will help you to shape a new tomorrow.

Image from Dream Culture

Image from Dream Culture

If you want to, you can ride this energy of change. You can choose – in this moment – to make fresh choices, new decisions, take a different direction, start something, end something, begin again.

Take some time to consider your life. Aren’t you ready for this shift? Aren’t you ready for something other than what you have right now?

The whole Universe is conspiring towards your success.

If I had one piece of advice for you today, it would be this:

Let go of the past.

Look forward.

Dream boldly.

Believe that it’s possible.

And in any way you can, begin!

Image from www.425mom.com

Image from www.425mom.com

If I’m on my Path, why is it so rocky?

RockyPath

“Life wasn’t meant to be easy, my child, but take courage: it can be delightful!” ~ George Bernard Shaw

I received an email from a student recently, who has just started working as a healer in a new clinic. It’s been her dream for many years, and she’s good at what she does. Here’s an except of what she sent me:

I start in my new clinic today, but I’ve had a challenging night last night and my bowels are misbehaving. I don’t know if it’s fear, if perhaps I got this all wrong and the universe is telling me so by putting so many obstacles in my way, or if it’s testing my resolve to do this work. But I thought if you were on your path, things would flow. Terribly confused. I wonder if you might consider a blog on this subject.

I love that she was brave enough to share her fear and insecurity, rather than pretending everything was fine while inwardly imploding! Especially because what she expressed is so common, and many of us have felt this way at times.

There are actually a number of issues within that one little paragraph, so I’ll deal with them separately.

1. WE place big expectations on ourselves. We’ve become a society where winning is everything, where the grand gesture and the overnight success are held up as examples of normal. Some of the anxiety my student is feeling is because she has created an image in her head of what success looks like, and that is generating fear and doubt about whether she will now live up to that preconception.

I have great faith in my student.  I believe that in time her healing practice will exceed the the image in her head.  But on Day 1 of her opening her practice it’s unlikely.

What needs to be celebrated here is that she is opening the doors, that she has furthered her dream with action, that she was brave enough to put herself out there. It’s a beautiful thing that she is giving life to what is in her heart. And this is one little step in a massive continuum. It would be sad indeed if she  judged the potential of her new business by the first few days, or even the first few months…

2. Sh*t happens, and inevitably in life some things don’t go our way. Don’t feel special.  It happens to everyone. Life is challenging. Sometimes extremely so. It is unrealistic to expect that everything will turn out smoothly and be problem-free every time. Don’t take it so personally.

People with a spiritual outlook on life will often try and interpret and understand what’s going on. If things aren’t happening in a streamlined, efficient and easy manner it could be because “The Universe is trying to tell me I’m on the wrong path” or the flipside of that, “It’s a test to see if I am committed enough”. While I do believe that there can be a Higher Wisdom involved at times where it all comes together, or where it all falls apart, we are often so busy interpreting the signs that we lose faith and momentum. Don’t disempower yourself – you are a soul with free will and a bright mind.  Don’t be afraid to make decisions, and to figure it out for yourself.

All of the people I know who’ve enjoyed success have had their fair share of failures, rejections, disasters, narrowly avoided catastrophes and slow starts. The thing that sets them aside from other, less successful, people is that they gritted their teeth, held onto their dream and kept plugging away, long after others had quit. The journey changed them, the journey grew them, and from the journey they BECAME the person they needed to be in order to have that success.

3.  When we step outside our comfort zone it’s uncomfortable! Who isn’t a little scared and nervous when they try something new?  In fact I know seasoned performers who still get nauseous before they go on stage. The funny thing about stretching ourselves is that eventually we become comfortable in the expanded space, and then we’ll look to try something new and repeat the process all over again.

4.  We all have to serve our apprenticeship. Even people with natural talents need to hone and polish those gifts with experience.  And the only way we get experience is to do this thing that terrifies us. Why does it terrify us? Because we care so much about it.  If we didn’t care, it wouldn’t matter! You learned to walk by getting up, tottering around and falling down. Same same with any new thing, be that writing a novel, opening a healing practice or mastering the perfect sponge cake. Embrace that state of learning – it’s a powerful and wonderful state to live within.

Image from wikimedia

Image from wikimedia

The path to your dream might be rocky, and it might be steep.

But I promise you the view from the top of the mountain, or even part way up, will be magnificent. And the journey – that’s the best part of all.  It’s why we’re here, and why we keep coming back.

I honour all of you who are bravely embracing your dreams.  Baby steps, my friends, and sometimes giant leaps. Hard bits and easy bits… If it’s in your heart don’t give up on it.  I have so much faith in you. Be gentle with yourself, and remember to celebrate the journey.

Bless ♥ xx

Do you really need to start with a Grand Gesture?

Image from www.hiola.tk

Image from www.hiola.tk

“You just have to keep on doing what you do. It’s the lesson I get from my husband; he just says, Keep going. Start by starting.”~ Meryl Streep

Is there something you really want to do? Is there a dream or a goal, a vision you hold for the future?

Maybe you want to be a published writer, maybe you want to be a healer, or an architect, maybe you’d like to be lean and toned, or perhaps your dream is to travel through France, speaking fluent french and soaking up the lifestyle…

Well, my advice is this: don’t wait for things to be perfect, start small, but most importantly just get started!

I see so many people fail to take off because they put too much effort into a grand gesture – letting the world know that they are here, talking things up, making things look good – and not enough effort into actually doing the thing.

If you want to be a healer, just start.  Maybe you need to do a course.  Or maybe you’ve done the course, and now you need to work with people. You don’t need fancy business cards and a room in some swank practice. Just start where you are. In your home. At a friend’s. Let it grow organically.

Do you really need to spend thousands of dollars on a flash new computer and all the latest software in order to write your best-selling first novel? Perhaps the old computer, a notebook and a pen, and a good back-up system will work fine for now.

2012-05-17 07.34.52No matter what your dream, a grand gesture is not needed. In fact, that grand gesture may steal so much enthusiasm and momentum from you, or so overwhelm and intimidate you that you never really begin.

Almost every great business, every victory or success, started from humble beginnings. Don’t be afraid to start small.  The only thing that matters is that you are brave enough to begin! The Universe inspired YOU for a reason. So why not start? Who knows where this might take you. And when you start small, there’s no pressure. Instead there is possibility, stretching far out in front of you…

I’m standing on the sideline, cheering you on. Bless ♥♥♥

45489_485162688208155_1211844641_n

Day 8 – Gratitude Challenge

Image from runthepath.com

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

~ Innerspace

Congratulations! You’ve completed your first full week of gratitude. Well done. ♥  You are gently retraining your brain to remove resistance to flow, and installing habits of appreciation and abundant thinking.

We are all looking for greater flow in our lives. When we are in ‘flow’ life just works, somehow.  We find the right job, the money is there, we have love and music and contentment in our hearts. When we are in flow doors open… miracles happen… life just feels good.

The greatest obstacle to flow is resistance. Resistance isn’t something external to us. It is our internal dialogue.  I’m sure you know what I mean.  That thing we do where our head gets filled with grumbles and complaints:

Not fair.  Too hard.  No fun.  Not enough.  Not worthy. Too much money.  Not enough money.  Too fat. Not smart. How come she gets that? How come he got that? When’s it my turn?  It’s never my turn. I’m an idiot. I can’t believe I did that. I don’t deserve that. That good thing will never happen for me.

Can you feel how anti-magnetic those kind of thoughts are to the good stuff?

Can you feel how magnetic these thoughts are to more cranky, miserable and impoverished kinds of events, relationships and outcomes?

Image from photobucket

The antidote to resistance is…

Yes, you know what I’m going to say…

Finding an attitude of gratitude.

When we can find something to be grateful for, no matter how difficult our current circumstances, we begin to ease ourselves out of that struggle energy and back into flow.

So let’s get into that affirming energy that allows us to move from flow to allowing, by counting our Blessings.

Daily Gratitude Practice – Count Our Blessings and Use our Gratitude Rock

If you need a detailed reminder of the process, you can review it here in Day 1 of the Gratitude Challenge.

  1. List five Blessings in your journal, explaining why you are grateful for each one.
  2. Count your Blessings off on your fingers, summoning positive emotion and saying Thank You from your heart for each one.
  3. Tonight before you go to sleep, hold your Gratitude Rock and affirm I am richly Blessed. I have an Abundance of Good in my life. Visualise one thing you have been grateful for today. Swell that positive energy up in your heart like a beautiful golden light, and give a heart-felt Thank You, Thank You, Thank You to the Universe, then imagine a tiny shower of golden light travelling from your heart into your Gratitude Rock.
  4. Still holding your Gratitude Rock, bless your fellow travellers on this Gratitude Journey by sending them golden light, and saying Thank you.  I Bless You.  I intend for you Love, Miracles and Abundance. Know that as you are saying this for them, they are also saying this for you. Feel that connection and gratitude and know that there is real love and support for you here. Place your rock back beside your bed, and go to sleep, cocooned in this good energy.

If all you do each day is these first four steps, know that is enough.

If you feel especially flat, then carry your Gratitude Rock with you, or lie/sit in bed at the start or end of the day, and hold it over your heart so that its energy can recharge you.

If you have an abundance of gratitude and feel-good energy, send some extra to your fellow travellers on this journey, with the intent to uplift those who need it. You can do this as easily as closing your eyes and imagining or intending it be so.

Image from blessyourheart.blogspot.com

The beautiful thing about this challenge is that we are all in this together, helping and energising each other, and amplifying our collective energy.

Are you ready to dissolve more resistance?  If your answer is yes, then join me for today’s additional Challenge:

I’m So Happy For You, and Thankful for Your Success!

Think of something you really want.  It could be a soul mate, a great promotion, a publishing contract, a gold medal…

It’s okay that you don’t have it yet. Someone else does.  And their having it proves that it’s also possible for you to have it.  The energy of their success is something you can draw to you and make your own, because gratitude amplifies the energy of what we are thankful for and creates it in our own lives.

Today, think of something you really want. Then think of someone who has it already.

Maybe you want a loving and lasting relationship, and your grandparents still hold hands and adore each other after 50 years of marriage. Hold a picture of them, and of their beautiful relationship in your mind. Swell your heart with feel-good emotion and gratitude for their loving relationship.  Then say “I’m so happy for you, and for your success. I am thankful for the energy of a loving marriage.” Really feel those words, and mean them with all your heart.

Image from plasticjungle.com

Maybe you want a publishing contract.  Think of an author whose books and success you admire. (This won’t work if you are resentful of them or jealous of them, or think their books suck.)  Hold a picture of the author, and of their incredible sales figures and wonderful books in your mind. Swell your heart with feel-good emotion and gratitude for their success as writers.  Then say “I’m so happy for you, and for your success. I am thankful for the energy of being a successful published author.” Really feel those words, and mean them with all your heart.

Whatever it is that you want to experience, find ways to be grateful for that energy as it already exists in the Universe. There is no surer way to melt that resistance and magnetise yourself to that Abundance.

Wishing you an inspired day of awakening and awareness. I am so very grateful that you choose to share this Gratitude Journey with me. Bless ♥ xx

Patience and Right Timing

The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.

~ Leo Nikolaevich Tolstoy

If you read yesterday’s post, you’ll know that I am a big fan of trusting in two things: Universal Wisdom and Right Timing.

You might wonder what that has to do with patience? Everything, my friends, everything!

Why? Well, when we are asking for a sign, when we’re newly on our path, when we’re in the early stages of love, a new diet, a fledgling business or a fresh story idea we are usually good with waiting, and things unfolding in a gradual or haphazard manner. We most often have a sense of support too, and that loved-up and cosy feeling of being listened to by the Universe, God, our Guides, Angels or whomever else we feel is out there for us.

But what happens when the newness wears off?

This is usually where we start to falter.

When things are new, or the search hasn’t even really begun yet, we run on excitement, hope, anticipation and adrenalin.

But when we are well into things, or what we want hasn’t shown up yet, or we’re staring up at the bigness of the project we have just undertaken, we can wonder if we are EVER going to achieve the thing we desire. We become impatient.

Doubt creeps in. Fear too. And once you’ve cracked the door open to doubt and fear, all those lousy opportunistic emotions and limiting beliefs from our past start tapping us on the shoulder: defeat, failure, not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not worthy enough, too old, too fat, too late…

All things take time.  And I have seen too many people walk away from the thing that was actually working, just because it wasn’t unfolding within the time-frame they’d set for it.

Oh, we say to ourselves.  Love is NEVER coming.

Oh, this business is NEVER going to make money.

I’ll NEVER get this book published.

Or whatever other sad story you tell yourself…

And so you stop what you’re doing.  You give up.  You go home.

But what makes you so wise that you can suddenly know the workings of the Universe?

What makes you think that you can have a plan better than Divine Timing?

It’s a bit like being three months pregnant and ready to have that baby RIGHT NOW, because the nursery is painted, the freezer is full of casseroles and you have a few weeks leave up your sleeve.  Come on, baby, you think.  I’m ready!  Let’s do it!!! Only problem is, babies take longer to make than three months.

If I have any advice for you, it’s this:

❤ Relax and enjoy the journey! When we are patient, we perfect our craft.  We grow, and learn and develop all manner of new talents and insights. We gain mastery. It’s never just about the destination – and it’s always about the becoming…

❤ Trust that Universal Wisdom has a much better plan than anything you could come up with on your own, and all you need to do is keep putting one foot in front of the other, living with an open heart and an open mind.

❤ Know that things have a wonderful way of working out with Right Timing. And that timing is usually not YOUR timing.  If it hasn’t shown up yet, if it’s taking too long, there’s a reason for that. You just can’t see that from where you’re standing, and you might be closer than you think.

You ARE supported and well-loved, and there IS a magic and a wisdom to the way things unfold for us.

Your job is to be happy, to follow your heart, to live with gratitude and compassion and to be open to opportunities and miracles. You’re not in this alone, so stop acting like it and start trusting! ❤

I’ve recorded a simple Guided Meditation to help you relax into the energy of patience and trust.  All you need to do is click on the link below, and then close your eyes and listen…

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for Patience and Divine Timing

You are a well-loved child of the Universe. You are supported and connected to source energy.  All is well.