How To Attract a Soul Mate Into Your Life

“When you make a choice, you change the future.” 
Deepak Chopra

 

July is a wonderful month for love. But what if you don’t have any in your life yet? Today I’d like to share a simple technique with you that can help you call in a soul mate or rejuvenate an existing relationship. (Yes, Leisa, I wrote this post for you!)

When it comes to manifestation the Universe works like a giant restaurant. It will only deliver you what you order. If you keep changing your mind it makes it hard for those hard-working kitchen angels to create the right ‘dish’ and deliver it speedily to you.  Mixed messages are confusing for everyone, and will ultimately frustrate you in your attempts to find true love.

Most people spend more time choosing a car than they do choosing a life partner.  How often do people fall into a relationship and then try and make it over into the one they want?  We throw so much time and energy and money into trying to make square pegs fit into round holes.  Often years of our lives are spent fighting battles we were never meant to win.

Discernment is the key to successful relationships, and discernment must ALWAYS start with awareness.  Are you aware of what you want in a relationship?  For many people, their clearest opinions and decisions start out being based around what they DON’T want.  This is as good a place to start as any, as long as you are able to then turn each negative into a positive.  “I don’t want a partner who will cheat on me” becomes, “I deserve a partner who will be faithful and loyal to our relationship.”  Look to the good and unsuccessful relationships around you to guide you in making your love choices.

Take time to really think about the sort of partner and the type of relationship you are looking for. As you become clearer about what you want, begin by writing down the qualities and characteristics of this relationship. Create a ‘Love Shopping List’ and add to it as your awareness increases. Take your time with this. Do you rush into buying a house, or choosing an expensive once-in-a-lifetime holiday? Make your list comfortable, accurate and reflective of your innermost desires.

If you meet someone who clearly does not fit what you ordered, then wait!  Maybe the Universal Chef is still cooking your meal.  (And. of course, they may wonderfully surpass all of your expectations!)

 

Activity

I have used this method myself, and so have many of my students, friends and clients.  This activity involves letting the Universe know exactly what you are wanting in a love relationship so that it can deliver this to you. In every single case that I am aware of it has been successful! I also know of people who have refreshed and revived existing relationships using the same technique.

When you have compiled your list of characteristics and qualities for your desired partner (as explained in the previous paragraphs above) review them until you are satisfied with your choices.

Take a clean white sheet of paper and write the following:

I, (Insert your name), now chose the following in my life partner:

Now write down your list. Finish the work by writing, I now accept this or better in my life. Sign the work and set it to one side. 

Take a second piece of paper. On this piece write down all of the qualities and characteristics within YOU that you can offer a loving partner.  Be honest and humble.  Sign it with, I offer this and better to my life partner.  This part is important because the Universe is governed by laws of energetic exchange – you don’t get anything for nothing!

Now fold both pieces of paper and seal them in an envelope. Hold the letter in your hands. In your mind’s eye, imagine these pieces of paper and surround them with a pink bubble of Light. Pour love energy into the pink bubble until your letter feels fully charged.

Put the envelope somewhere safe, and place your expectations to one side. If you ever think of the letter send more love and light to the pink bubble of energy surrounding it. Be open to what comes to you. The Universe always surprises us with more good than we could ever imagine for ourselves.

Wishing for you a month of kindness, love and heart healing,

Nicole  xx

A Week For Romance and Matters Of the Heart – Monday Oracle – 26 February 2018

“Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.” ~ Swami Sivananda

Hello, Lovelies!

February energies are about building on the strength and intuitive connection we found for ourselves at the beginning of the year. February brings opportunities for planning, learning and growing in order to bring about positive change. We’ll also step into the energies of March this week – it’s a month for relationships, commitment and being unapologetically ourselves. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of awareness which the oracle card Ace of Hearts brings us.

This week brings romance, and falling in love with opportunities, ideas, places and possibilities.

It also brings healing in many forms – for some it’s an opportunity to move on from old hurts, for others it is justice and an acknowledgement of our truth, for some it’s about reunions and reconnections. It’s a week where we can commit whole-heartedly to an idea, a project or a business. It’s a week for new beginnings, proposals, engagements and recommitments. In short it’s a big heart-centred week of doors closing so that others might open.

The Ace of Hearts reminds us that living from our heart, honouring our feelings, standing up for love and justice, and pouring our whole heart into what matters to us is always the best way to live.

This week make time for love, and for loving life.

Supportive crystals this week?

Sunstone helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in life and to believe in your right to a better future. Banded Agate creates a sense of security and courage as you open up to living more fully as yourself. Amazonite (pictured) is fantastic for being brave in putting yourself and your ideas out into the world. It’s a super stone for taking first steps in relationships and for helping you express your feelings. Unakite opens your heart to love, and draws love, friendship and helpful people to you. It helps you to overcome feelings of isolation or loneliness.

 

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Joy or Believe essential oil blends, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of Grapefruit, Basil, Geranium and Sandalwood. The Joy blend is fabulous if you are feeling anxious or uncertain, or a bit sad or stuck. It’s reassuring and uplifting; wonderful for gently shifting depression and self-doubt. I often wear it as a perfume. Believe oil is a super stress-buster that boosts feel-good energies and self-esteem. It smells so uplifting and pretty too. It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week.

Want to make your own blend? Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own but they also make a delicious combination for diffusing. Frankincense elevates our mood and promotes spiritual connection and intuition, Lavender keeps us in flow and relaxed, Ylang Ylang opens our hearts and is supportive when we feel anxious or overwhelmed, and Bergamot promotes joy, gratitude and optimism. To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.

Need some extra support for your year?

Go grab one of my Year of ME Planners over at my Store (ME stands for Manifesting Energies, and the energies of 2018 are fabulous!) The digital full-year planner can be in your inbox in minutes, ready for you to review 2017 and begin mapping out what matters for you in 2018.

The Channelling Recordings for 2018 have heaps of supportive information about relationships and learning how to feel good about yourself.

Want fun, friendship, learning and loveliness? Join my Year of ME community for a whole year of webinars, meditations and loads of activities and helpful tools and the most fantastic online facebook group. You’ll feel right at home with us!

I’ve got a fabulous course and coaching options if you are a heart and soul centred entrepreneur or if you want to be. Come join my YOMpreneur group and let me help you create or grow your business.

All the information you need is over at my Store.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Nine of Swords’, is from the Inner Child Cards – A Fairy-Tale Tarot. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

 

Monday Oracle – 19 February 2018

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” 
― Suzy Kassem

 

Hello, Lovelies!

In February we are building on the strength and intuitive connection we found for ourselves at the beginning of the year. February brings opportunities for planning, learning and growing in order to bring about positive change. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of awareness which the oracle card Nine of Swords brings us.

This week’s card speaks to that place within us that is scared, doubtful and filled with feelings of insecurity and unworthiness. Nine of Swords calls us to embrace the challenges and opportunities in our lives.

This week don’t let fear hold you back. Don’t let insecurity prevent you from engaging or putting yourself out there. So much of your fear is from limited thinking, and from being in your head rather than in a place of action.

If you are feeling overwhelmed look for a mentor or coach to guide you. Or try a book, a course, or a group of like-minded people.

Whatever it is that you want to do, someone has done that thing before you. If they found a way you will too. Look at how you can model your thoughts and actions on someone who is already enjoying success in the area that is calling to you.

Most importantly, don’t give up – on yourself, on your dreams, on your future.

The longing in your heart is a sure sign of the direction you need to follow. Make space for those dreams this week, be brave and take action!

Longing For You by mandyleft at deviantart

Supportive crystals this week?

Sunstone helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in life and to believe in your right to a better future. Banded Agate (pictured) creates a sense of security and courage as you open up to living more fully as yourself. Amazonite is fantastic for being brave in putting yourself and your ideas out into the world. Unakite opens your heart to love, and draws love, friendship and helpful people to you. It helps you to overcome feelings of isolation or loneliness.

 

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Young Living’s Clarity and Believe blends this week. Use Clarity for focus, inspiration and breakthroughs. Dab a drop on your Crown Chakra and the soles of your feet, inhale directly or add to your diffuser. Use Believe when you are doubting yourself and want to find your confidence and self-belief. It’s great to inhale directly, diffuse or add a drop to Heart Chakra and inner wrists. A few drops added to your bath make for magical self-care.

Want to make your own blend? Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own but they also make a delicious combination for diffusing. Frankincense elevates our mood and promotes spiritual connection and intuition, Lavender keeps us in flow and relaxed, Ylang Ylang opens our hearts and is supportive when we feel anxious or overwhelmed, and Bergamot promotes joy, gratitude and optimism. To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.

Need some extra support for your year?

Go grab one of my Year of ME Planners over at my Store (ME stands for Manifesting Energies, and the energies of 2018 are fabulous!) The digital full-year planner can be in your inbox in minutes, ready for you to review 2017 and begin mapping out what matters for you in 2018.

Want fun, friendship, learning and loveliness? Join my Year of ME community for a whole year of webinars, meditations and loads of activities and helpful tools and the most fantastic online facebook group. You’ll feel right at home with us!

I’ve got a fabulous course and coaching options if you are a heart and soul centred entrepreneur or if you want to be. Come join my YOMpreneur group and let me help you create or grow your business.

All the information you need is over at my Store.

We’ve also got a very special Residential Retreat coming up in March, that will help you to create a sustainable spiritual practice, connect to your Higher Self and Guides, and gain clarity about your inner energy, life path and best direction. More details: Awakening to Spirituality Retreat and here

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Nine of Swords’, is from the Inner Child Cards – A Fairy-Tale Tarot. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

 

Valentine Cupcake Oracle – A Reading for Love!

We accept the love we think we deserve.” 
~Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

Valentine’s Day has a wonderful sentiment – that we should celebrate love and lovers, that we should name the emotions that often sit silent in our heart.

But why have just one day for the celebration of love?  Why not live with that sense of appreciation and joy every day! And of course, it’s not just for the young, for couples, and for romantic love.  Love is an emotion that is available to us all.

Today’s blog gives you a mini-reading about love, in many different forms. It’s not a fortune-telling exercise for finding a soul mate, instead, it’s about letting more love into your life. All you need to do is scroll through the pictures of my Valentine Cupcakes, and choose the one that appeals to you most. Then go further down the page to read the meaning of the cake you have chosen.

♥♥♥ Love, love, love to you, Nicole xoxo ♥♥♥

Today’s Cupcake Selection

1. Jewelled Delight!

2. Wedded Bliss

Image from thecupcakelicious at flickr

3. Red Velvet Supreme

Image from tasquah at flickr

4. Monster Love

Image from www.hungryhappenings.com

5. Flower Garden\

Image from www.nicoles-confectionscakescreations.blogspot.com.au

6. Snake Cake

Image from www.cupcakestakethecake.blogspot.com

7. Cookies and Cream

Image from www.favim.com

8. Hidden Heart

Image from www.bakeitinacake.com

♥ The Love Message and Gift of each Cupcake ♥

Each Valentine Cupcake has a message for you. I have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of your cupcake.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. (If you’d like to know more about working with crystals click here) The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need and that you are strongly attracting right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word). Your Magical Healing Environment is a place or activity you’ll find supportive and healing.

 Jewelled Delight – Bling and Beauty! It’s time to feel good about yourself and your surroundings. Take pride in your appearance. Have a facial, or treat yourself to a haircut. Paint your toenails a pretty colour, or buy yourself a new outfit. Tidy a corner of your home, put a bunch of fresh flowers on the table, or anything else that lifts your spirit and makes you feel good.  *If you’re in a relationship, or happy on your own, spend your time making yourself feel good. If you’re single think of joining an internet dating site or a dinner group – it’s time to put yourself out into the world.  ♥ Best Crystal – Clear Quartz  ♥ Power Word – Colour  Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that uplifts you.  A salon or day spa, an art gallery or favourite cafe, a florist shop or a beautiful garden.

Wedded Bliss – Acknowledging the love that’s already in your life. Spend time with the important people in your life.  It might be your partner, a best friend, a family member or a pet. We sometimes take the love of others for granted.  What can you do to let another know that you value and appreciate them? Don’t forget quality time for yourself too! *If you’re in a relationship, honour and celebrate your togetherness. If you’re happily single, dwell on the things you like about yourself. If you’re looking for love, get clear about what your values are, and what you’re looking for in a partner.  Don’t settle for second best.  Best Crystal – Rose Quartz   Power Word – Gratitude  Magical Healing Environment – Togetherness, wherever that works best for you.  Cuddles, time together over a meal or a coffee, phone calls, a movie, spending time doing something you used to do together but don’t get time for anymore.

 Red Velvet Supreme – Adventures in Sensuality.  There is so much need for some pleasure and sensuality in your life right now. Explore tastes and textures, indulge all of your senses, make time for massages, lovemaking, dancing and beautiful food. Buy yourself some gorgeous underwear, perfume or body lotion. Let yourself come alive again. *For couples, find ways to bring magic back into your relationship. For happily singles, nurture and nourish your senses.  If you’re looking for love, embrace your sensual side. Think about what pleasure means to you, and get comfortable with it!   Best Crystal – Garnet   Power Word – Feel   Magical Healing Environment – anything that reconnects you to your senses.  Bubble baths, clean sheets, music, dancing, lying in dappled sunlight on soft green grass, ocean swims, perfume and cologne, warm embraces, patisseries and chocolate shops.

 Monster Love – The Call to Create.  Love expresses itself often through creativity. What do you love to do? Or a better question, what did you ‘used to love to do’? Reacquaint yourself with lost loves, be that art, craft, music, foods, hobbies, places or activities. Make room for a creative project in your life, or at least rub shoulders with creative spaces for a while. *For couples, find a common creative interest and go do that thing together. For happily singles make room in your life for something that gives you creative joy. For those of you looking for love, join a group or class that supports a creative interest. And watch out for pregnancies – the ultimate form of creativity!  Best Crystal – Fluorite   Power Word – Explore   Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that gets you in that creative mood. Hardware stores, book stores, craft supply shops, kitchen stores, the library, or wherever you can make, create and play.

 Flower Garden – Old Fashioned Pleasures. Think romance, think fun, think things and activities that make you happy, especially from your past. Did you adore the music of the eighties, black and white movies, roller skating? Allow yourself the gift of time to relax, unwind and take a trip down memory lane. Love can often be found in the pages of a photograph album, or a record collection. *Couples, go hang out in a place that reminds you of happy times from your beginnings. Happily singles, indulge in some sentimentality. If you’re single, make room for a new relationship by creating a space that truly honours and reflects who you are. Be prepared for wonderful new friendships and a little romance. ♥ Best Crystal – Moonstone   Power Word – Remember  Magical Healing Environment – Time for yourself and your interests. Catch up with friends and family, take time to revisit happy aspects of your past, do things you used to enjoy, visit places that hold fond memories.  If it’s appropriate take a friend who shares those memories too.

 Snake Cake – Celebration and Reward  Think of something you really want to do. This year’s the year to make it happen. But don’t just plan and action your idea. Think of how you can reward yourself for completing this dream. Plan your time of celebration and reward. *For couples, talk about your future, and plan a holiday or something meaningful. Happily singles – be bold in deciding what you want, and equally bold in considering your rewards.  For those of you seeking love, set your sights high and know that this is the year you can make your romantic dreams come true.  Best Crystal – Tiger Eye   Power Word – Goals   Magical Healing Environment – Time On Your Own.  Plan out your future, a future that you’ll love. Spend time thinking about what positive changes you can make in your life and know that the Universe is supporting you to do so.

Cookies and Cream – Comfort, Cuddles and Candlelight.  It’s time to do some serious nurture – of yourself, and of your relationship, if you’re in one. Think cuddles, snuggles and time together.  Think hand-holding, curling up on the couch together, and romantic get-aways. Think rest, renewal and revitalisation. *For couples, get cosy! Hug one another and be kind and generous with compliments and gratitude. For happily singles, treat yourself to a good book and some doona time, cuddles with your pets, and lots of lovely rest and nurture. If you’re looking for love, spend time visualising how wonderful it will be to have someone to cherish, and who cherishes you. Let yourself dream a little!  Best Crystal – Rhodochrosite   Power Word – Adore  Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that gives rest, nurture and comfort.  A mountain or beach getaway, a picnic hamper and a rug, a weekend in bed just because you can.

 Hidden Heart – Bringing Your Secret Desires to Life.  What makes your heart sing? Inside you is something so important, so private and around which there is such longing. Don’t be afraid. Open your heart. It’s time! *For couples, share those secret dreams. Make room in your life for new possibilities. If you’re happy on your own, spend time journalling and making room for these ideas to surface. For those of you seeking soul mates, allow yourself to hope.  Imagine your future with your own dreams and room to share them with someone special. ♥ Best Crystal – Prehnite  ♥ Power Word – Passion ♥ Magical Healing Environment – Time to connect with your heart and emotions.  Give yourself permission to dream, and to honour your most sacred plans. It’s time to live your best life.

Monday Oracle – 5 February 2018

“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” 
Antoine de Saint-ExupéryThe Little Prince

 

Hello, Lovelies!

In February we are building on the strength and intuitive connection we found for ourselves at the beginning of the year. February brings opportunities for planning, learning and growing in order to bring about positive change. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of awareness which the oracle card Seeker of Hearts brings us.

This week we open to the understanding that it’s okay to live from our heart, to come from our truth, and to honour our emotions. The Seeker of Hearts reminds us that when we are brave enough to show our true self and feel our feelings magic begins to happen in our lives. Tell people how you feel. Allow yourself to be moved by art or beauty or kindness. Offer forgiveness or friendship to others. Looking for love? Seeker of Hearts encourages you to put yourself out there and to trust that you can find a new relationship. Let your heart lead the way.

The Seeker of Hearts will also show you where you need to protect your heart or call it back to yourself.

Pour your heart into what you love this week. Don’t be afraid to care deeply, in business or your art or in relationships or anything else. It’s that music of your heart, expressed through your words and actions, that will make you or your work magnetic to the right people and situations.

Supportive crystals this week?

Banded Agate (pictured) creates a sense of safety, peace and belonging as you open up to living more fully as yourself. Great if you feel anxious about speaking up or sharing your gifts with the world! Sunstone helps you to sit in a place of abundance thinking so that you see the blessings and possibilities in life. Rose Quartz opens your heart to love and helps you to express and receive love. Ocean Jasper is a healing stone that helps you to feel at home wherever you are, including feeling at home in yourself. To use these stones simply pop them in your pocket, or wear them somewhere on your body. They are also good to hold in meditation or to place under your pillow before sleep.

 

Helpful essential oils?

Rose essential oil is my pick for this week. Its sweet floral aroma is uplifting and heart opening. To bring romance into your world Geranium and Jasmine are also excellent choices. Apply a dab to wrists, neck and over heart as a perfume or diffuse. They are also heavenly in your bathwater.

Want to make your own blend? Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own for you this week, but they’ll also make a great combination for diffusing. Ylang Ylang restores confidence in ourselves and our decisions and is supportive when we feel anxious or overwhelmed, Rose opens our heart to love and heals old emotional hurts, Orange promotes joy, gratitude and optimism and Geranium is great for stress reduction and emotional balance, and for evoking a sense of peace and goodwill. To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.

Need some extra support for your year?

Go grab one of my Year of ME Planners over at my Store (ME stands for Manifesting Energies, and the energies of 2018 are fabulous!) The digital full-year planner can be in your inbox in minutes, ready for you to review 2017 and begin mapping out what matters for you in 2018.

We’ve also got a full-colour A5 version of the Planner, perfect for keeping with you in your bag, and some super crystal packs to give you a host of extra energetic support. (note – these are both so close to sold out!)

Want fun, friendship, learning and loveliness? Join my Year of ME 12 month course and community for a whole year of deliciousness – with webinars, meditations and loads of activities and helpful tools and the most fantastic online facebook group. You’ll feel right at home with us!

I’ve got a fabulous course and coaching options if you are a heart and soul centred entrepreneur or if you want to be. Come join my YOMpreneur group.

All the information you need is over at my Store.

We’ve also got a very special Residential Retreat coming up in March, that will help you to create a sustainable spiritual practice, connect to your Higher Self and Guides, and gain clarity about your inner energy, life path and best direction. More details: Awakening to Spirituality Retreat and here

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Seeker of Hearts’, is from the Inner Child Cards – A Fairy-Tale Tarot. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channeled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

A ‘Renovator’s Delight’ Is Rarely A Good Relationship Choice!

“There is only one real sin, and that is to persuade oneself that the second-best is anything but the second-best.” 
~  Doris Lessing

 

In Australia we have a term for houses that need a stupid amount of work to make them habitable. We call them Renovator’s Delights, and you can be sure that anything that is advertised as such is sure to be a money pit, no matter how much a Real Estate Agent might tell you otherwise in their eagerness to get you to commit to a sale. These houses have much more than cosmetic flaws that could be easily fixed with a coat of paint or some new handles or light fittings. A Renovator’s Delight hides serious structural flaws that are often not apparent to the rookie buyer. This kind of work is expensive to repair, if it can be repaired at all. A smart buyer would be better off looking for a different investment opportunity.

Sometimes a seller will disguise a Renovator’s Delight with a quick paint job and some landscaping so that it looks visually appealling – they can sell you on ‘the dream’ as long as you don’t dig too deep. This is an even worse situation for a buyer who hasn’t done their homework and organised a complete building inspection because they won’t be prepared for the devastating structural issues they will one day find below that pretty surface.

So what does that have to do with relationships? A lot, actually.

In all my time of guiding, advising and counselling others, especially sensitive and empathic souls and those who identify as ‘spiritual’ or ‘healers’ I’ve seen many good men and women choosing the human equivalent of a Renovator’s Delight in love relationships.

Very few people lead with their faults and flaws in a new relationship. That’s normal. We all want to be thought well of, and to be successful in making a relationship last. And what’s perfect anyway? All of us have idiosyncrasies and quirks. Much of that is also what makes us appealing to others. This truth is evident when you see people buy a home. Oh my goodness, one person will say. I can’t stand all those funny little stained-glass windows. That alone will be enough for them to choose not to buy. Oh my goodness, the next person will say. Look at all those funny little stained-glass windows. I totally love that! After which they will buy the house because those funny little windows really spoke to something in their soul.

Image from Alamy at www.architecturaldigest.com

Sometimes after we’ve lived in a home, loved it and been happy there, disaster strikes. A pipe bursts. There is a fire in the kitchen. Termites eat out a pillar or a roof support. But it’s our home. We love it. So we fix it, or try to. We do the work together with our partner, friends or family, we bring experts in, or in some cases we decide to just accommodate the problem and we learn to live with it. In human terms this can be a sudden illness, a bad decision, a stupid action, a transgression, loss of a job or some other calamity. Our commitment to what has been a good and happy relationship and the love involved allows us to stay together, despite a structural flaw. Importantly, everyone acknowledges that flaw. No-one covers it up or suggests that it isn’t real.

Human Renovator’s Delights in new relationships often know that they have serious flaws but they are not invested in fixing them, and they go to great lengths to hide them. Some trade on these flaws or backstory in order to get or keep attention and to excuse behaviours and beliefs. Some will be honest and tell you they are not good relationship material. They mean it, and they say it to give you an out, but a Lightworker or empath will then feel it is their responsibility to stay, help, and fix things.

Inside all of us is a compass that helps us to see if the person in front of us has quirks that will endear them to us or that we can learn to live with, or if there are serious structural flaws that make this relationship not worth our investment. What’s always needed for sound relationship decisions is time and the ability to tune in to that inner compass.

I have friends and clients going through hard times in relationships right now, and they’re wondering how they ended up where they are – with a lover who cheats or gambles, with a husband who suddenly wants out, with a boss who keeps lying.

They’re hurt, distressed and devastated at what has happened and they’ve asked me the questions: Why did this happen? How did this happen? Why did I not see this coming?

Truly, a wise part of them did see it coming. A wise part of them already knew. All of us have intuition, and instinct. This force within us operates with a vast amount of information – not just our conscious awareness.

When pressed, all of these people eventually admitted that there had been things in their relationship from early on that made them uncomfortable. Or there was a point where things began to change, and that point was a long way from where they are now.

In each situation my clients and friends had intuitively picked up on an energy or behaviour that was out of flow, out of truth – either with the way the other person was presenting themselves within the relationship, or with how their partner’s actions and behaviours conflicted with their own values and beliefs. In each case their intuition  red-flagged something, using those feelings of discomfort and that instinctive knowledge to bring the situation to their conscious attention.

So why didn’t they allow themselves to be guided by that intuition? Quite simply, their mind got in the way. They discounted, excused, second-guessed or validated that discomfort away. They saw what they wanted to see, or needed to see, rather than what was. They gave second chances, chose to believe what they were told, and shoved that discomfort back down where it no longer bothered them. In many instances they convinced themselves that the person could change, or that they could help them heal or find ways to help them overcome the issue. Or, they thought that they’d already invested too much to walk away, or that any relationship was better than being on their own.

In many situations this person’s life then became completely consumed by the relationship and their worries over how to fix it, or whether to stay or go. All of the energy that they could have spent enjoying life, being creative, practicing self-care, building or maintaining other relationships was instead diverted into somehow trying to transform their relationship Renovator’s Delight into something more safe and habitable.

Just like a property that is a Renovator’s Delight sucks all your money, a relationship with a Renovator’s Delight sucks all your time and energy until there’s nothing left for anything or anyone else. (Narcissists and Sociopaths – the kind of Renovator’s Delight that can NEVER be fixed – will actually feed off your energy and then discard you once you’re broken or no longer of value to them.)

 

Tune in for a moment. What’s your intuition been telling you? How much of your time is wrapped up in this relationship? Are you both emotionally invested in solving problems and making things work? Is there any action or is it all talk and broken promises? Is it worth it?

A friend of mine recently sold a Renovator’s Delight after finally accepting (ten years and hundreds of thousands of dollars later) that she was never going to make it what she needed it to be. A new couple bought the house and then promptly demolished it to leave a clean canvas for their dream home. After my friend got over the shock she bought herself a brand new apartment with everything she needs – all in full working order. She couldn’t be happier.

The energies this week, and this month, support big decisions and coming into alignment with your values and inner core. Maybe it’s time for you to make a change.

You might also find these resources useful:

Using Your Internal Compass to Navigate Life

Understanding Intuition and Gut Instinct

or this program of eight free exercises designed to help you connect to and work with intuition, energy and the metaphysical:

Strengthening Your Intuition – A program of Exercises

Biggest hugs and love to you, Nicole  xx

 

 

Psychic Connection and Soul Mates – Monday Oracle 3 April 2017

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.”
~ John Joseph Powell

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Soulmate’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for April, you’ll remember that April is all about the mind, our thoughts and self-talk. It’s a month for untangling old not-good-enough stories as we identify what’s working, what’s broken and where to from here.

So, what gifts does Soulmate bring for you this week?

It’s a card about connection, wisdom and tuning in.

This card gently reminds us that our head holds our mind as well as our Third Eye and Crown Chakras. Our mind is a lot like a computer. We exist as consciousness outside of our mind. Our mind does not define who we are – our mind is merely a tool and a governing agent for our body and systems.

We are not just our minds. We are also our emotions. We are also our experiences. We are also our intuition. We are souls having human experiences. Our Crown and Third Eye Chakras are gateways for Universal Flow. We are so much more than just our minds. And EVERYONE is made this way.

This is a big week for intuition and spiritual awareness. It’s a week where inspiration will come, where dreams will hold answers, where spiritual and psychic connection will happen easily and well.

Most importantly it’s a week where your soul and your own inner wisdom will help you to use your mind positively and productively. This week you can reach deep levels of awareness and understanding.

And those of you who were hoping that this was a post about FINALLY finding your true love?

Well, you can use your mind and your intuition to get clear about what you want in a relationship and then draw that to you. Don’t know how? I’ve created a range of activities and a guided meditation that you can use to guide you here.

It’s also a great week for falling in love! <3

Supportive crystals this week?

Snowflake Obsidian will help to remove old negative self-talk and replace it with optimism. Selenite will help you to connect into your guides, angels and psychic ability. Amethyst will truly boost your intuitive abilities and help you on your spiritual path.  Rose Quartz if you’re ready to attract love.

Helpful essential oils? 

Young Living’s Envision essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Geranium, Spruce, Ylang Ylang and Frankincense. Envision oil is one of the oils I use with my students when I teach my intuition and channelling classes. It calms your mind and opens your awareness – and it smells so good! It’s a combination of spruce, orange, sage, geranium, lavender and rose. Just brilliant for connecting heart and mind, and for gently opening you to your psychic capabilities It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

Image from ruthking.net

Valentine Chocolate Oracle

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“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
~ Pablo Neruda

 

Valentine’s Day has a wonderful sentiment – that we should celebrate love and lovers, that we should name the emotions that often sit silent in our heart.

But why have just one day for the celebration of love?  Why not live with that sense of appreciation and joy every day! And of course it’s not just for the young, for couples, and for romantic love.  Love is an emotion that is available to us all.

Today’s blog gives you a mini-reading about love, in many different forms. It’s not a fortune-telling exercise for finding a soul mate, instead it’s about letting more love into your life. All you need to do is scroll through the pictures of my Valentine Chocolates, and choose the one that appeals to you most. Then go further down the page to read the meaning for the chocolate treat you have chosen.

♥♥♥ Love, love, love to you, Nicole xoxo ♥♥♥

Today’s Chocolate Selection

1. Kaleidoscope of Colour!

2.  Celebration Ball!

3. Magical Mousse!

4.  Love Rises Up!

5. ♥ Regal Enchantment!

6.  Artful Luxury!

7.  Playful Reminders!

8. Companionable Cupcake!

♥ The Love Message and Gift of each Chocolate♥

Each Valentine Chocolate has a message for you. I have also selected a crystal to best support the message and energies of your chocolate choice.  You could wear or hold this crystal, pop it in your pocket, under your pillow or beside your bed. (If you’d like to know more about working with crystals click here) The Power Word is a word to remind yourself of the quality you most need and that you are strongly attracting right now.  You can turn it into your own personal mantra by saying “I choose ___________ ” (insert your Power Word). Your Magical Healing Environment is a place or activity you’ll find supportive and healing.

♥ Kaleidoscope of Colour! – Celebrating the joys of life! Life is about living – not just existing! It’s time to enjoy life’s everyday offerings a little more. Take yourself out to a movie or an art exhibition. Meet a friend for coffee. Go to a concert. Visit someplace near home that you haven’t been before. Go shopping somewhere you’ve always wanted to visit and just appreciate all the choices available to you. Pack a picnic and go visit a favourite outdoor place or picnic on the lounge-room floor of a loved one’s space!  *If you’re in a relationship, or happy on your own, spend your time exploring the world outside your front door. Change up your routines. Find the pleasure in life again! If you’re single think of joining an interest or dinner group – it’s time to put yourself out into the world.   Best Crystal – Rutilated Quartz  ♥ Power Word – Enjoyment  Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that reminds you of the blessings and opportunities in your life.  Wandering through the city or your favourite mall, an art gallery or favourite cafe, a florist shop or a beautiful garden.

Celebration Ball!  – Treating yourself well and living your best life! It’s time to value yourself more. You might need a mini-make-over – a new hairstyle, a manicure, a new perfume or cologne, some new clothes that truly suit you and make you look and feel good. It might be time to sort your health out, join that yoga group, and throw out all the junk food. Or maybe it’s time to enrol in that study you’ve always dreamed about. This is your one beautiful life – not some dress rehearsal. You won’t get a chance to do this life over, so make every moment count.  *If you’re in a relationship, refresh the energies with some together time and appreciation. Maybe plan a holiday together, or take yourselves out for a special dinner. If you’re happily single, think about your dreams and goals and make one of them a priority. Make sure your life is rich with meaning and satisfaction. If you’re looking for love, aim high. No renovators delights for you. If love doesn’t elevate you and make you feel safe, warm and cherished it’s not worth settling for.  Best Crystal – Citrine   Power Word – Self-worth  Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that makes you feel good about yourself. This could be a day spa, a session with a personal stylist, time with your wise and loving Nana, a yoga class or a bookshop. It might be sitting in a lecture theatre or kayaking around the bay.

 Magical Mousse – Adventures in Sensuality.  It’s time to bring pleasure and sensuality back into your life. Explore tastes and textures, indulge all of your senses, make time for massages, lovemaking, dancing and beautiful food. Buy yourself some gorgeous underwear, perfume or body lotion. Let yourself come alive again. *For couples, find ways to bring magic and pleasure back into your relationship. For happily singles, nurture and nourish your senses.  If you’re looking for love, embrace your sensual side. Think about what pleasure means to you, and get comfortable with it!  ♥ Best Crystal – Garnet  ♥ Power Word – Feel  ♥ Magical Healing Environment – anything that reconnects you to your senses.  Bubble baths, clean sheets, music, dancing, lying in dappled sunlight on soft green grass, ocean swims, perfume and cologne, warm embraces, patisseries and chocolate shops.

 Love Rises Up! – Stand Up For What You Believe In!  When we sit in our hearts we know what matters. It’s time to stand up for what matters. Maybe you need to start sharing your message or your work. Perhaps it’s time to become an activist or to join a local community group who are working to make one corner of the world a better place. If you chose this oracle the Universe wants you to know that what you care about matters, and that it’s time to give that thing your energy and care. *For couples,have the conversation about what matters to you. Support each other to pursue that thing. For happily singles, go make a stand or start towards that dream of yours. For those of you looking for love, you may well find it on the front line of a protest or at that charity dinner. Go follow your heart and the universe will take care of the rest!  Best Crystal – Amethyst   Power Word – Empowerment   Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that fires your passion and lets you know that your presence matters. Political groups, activist groups, protest groups, organisations or movements for social good, environmental groups, writers groups, support groups, or you on your own, toiling away at your dream!

 Regal Enchantment! – Love of Knowledge! Knowledge and learning can be a beautiful thing. Getting to know yourself, getting to know each other, learning about something new, or taking existing knowledge deeper. Classes, courses, books, travel, study – or you out in the world teaching and sharing your own wisdom. This isn’t superficial learning. This is knowledge that transforms and enriches you. *Couples, go travelling together, or learn something as a team. Happily singles, indulge in whatever learning takes your fancy, or spend time in conversation with someone you’d like to know better. If you’re single, follow your interests and be brave enough to go deeper with them. Don’t be surprised if love aligns itself to this new you.  Best Crystal – Fluorite  Power Word – Wisdom  Magical Healing Environment – Time for yourself and your interests. Read books, join a course, attend a lecture, go travelling, make space to think deeply and to soak up knowledge.

 Artful Luxury! – Levelling Up In Love and Life!  Life is too short to settle for second best. In your job, in your relationships, in your living environment. It’s time to let your life level up. Don’t stay in situations or relationships where you are not happy and fulfilled. Don’t stay friends with people (or family!) who put you down or treat you badly. Value yourself!  *For couples, talk about your future and where your life is headed. Get help if your relationship is in trouble – whether that is counselling to stay together or to exit the relationship. Happily singles – be discerning about your life and reward yourself with things that matter deeply to you.  For those of you seeking love, set your sights high and know that this is the year you can make your romantic dreams come true.  Best Crystal – Tiger Eye  ♥ Power Word – My Highest Potential   Magical Healing Environment – Change.  Change can be a force for good. Plan out your future, a future that you’ll love. Spend time thinking about what positive changes you can make in your life and know that the Universe is supporting you to do so.

 Playful Reminders – Choose Creativity and Playfulness.  Love expresses itself often through creativity. What do you love to do? Or a better question, what did you ‘used to love to do’? Re-acquaint yourself with lost loves, be that art, craft, music, foods, hobbies, places or activities. Make room for a creative project in your life, or at least rub shoulders with creative spaces for a while. *For couples, find a common creative interest and go do that thing together. For happily singles make room in your life for something that gives you creative joy. For those of you looking for love, join a group or class that supports a creative interest. And watch out for pregnancies – the ultimate form of creativity! ♥ Best Crystal – Carnelian  ♥ Power Word – Explore   Magical Healing Environment – Anywhere that gets you in that creative mood. Hardware stores, book stores, craft supply shops, kitchen stores, the library, or wherever you can make, create and play.

 Companionable Cupcake! – True Heart Connection!  Who makes your heart sing? Open your heart and connect with them. Spend time with the important people in your life.  It might be your partner, a best friend, a family member or a pet. We sometimes take the love of others for granted.  What can you do to let another know that you value and appreciate them? Don’t forget quality time for yourself too! *If you’re in a relationship, honour and celebrate your togetherness. If you’re happily single, dwell on the things you like about yourself. If you’re looking for love, get clear about what your values are, and what you’re looking for in a partner. Know that you deserve someone who will love you well and just as you are.  Best Crystal – Rose Quartz   Power Word – Relating  Magical Healing Environment – Togetherness, wherever that works best for you.  Cuddles, time together over a meal or a coffee, phone calls, a movie, spending time doing something you used to do together but don’t get time for anymore. Time communing with a favourite place or hobby.

The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 28 November

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“May what I do flow from me like a river, no forcing and no holding back, the way it is with children.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

 

Hello, Friends!

Welcome to the final days of these fabulous November energies.

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead.

‘Totality’ is from the Osho Zen Tarot deck, and it heralds  a week of flow, good timing and helpful people.

It’s a week where you need to act on intuition. Trust your reflexes. Go with your gut. Know that the first thought will be the right thought.

It’s a week that favours completion of tasks. You’ll find that it’s the kind of week where you can get the impossible done. All it requires of you is focus and commitment. This is not a week to be wishy-washy.

This is a week where the pieces will start to come together for you.

It’s a week where you’ll get more done if you work with a team.

It’s a week where your unwavering commitment to a goal or a dream will see you making progress or experiencing breakthroughs beyond what you conceived as possible.

Within this week’s pattern of advancement and completion we will leave some things behind. Or they will bid us adieu.

That’s okay.

Everything has its season.

Be gracious about these endings. Don’t try to hold on to things that have finished their cycle. Many relationships, situations and patterns of behaviour will come to an end in the lead-up to 2017. It’s their time.

Stay in flow. Be open to what comes next. Be open to the possibilities that this positive change will bring for you.

This week the energies of change will make it hard for you to delude yourself about your true feelings. Situations and solutions will become clear. You’ll feel compelled to do something.

Trust.

Act.

Stay in flow.

It’s a big week for commitment. Saying ‘Yes’. Saying ‘I love you’. Saying ‘Let’s do this!’.

Be brave and jump in!

 

 

 

You’ll feel a return to energy this week. You’ll bounce back stronger. You’ll be able to look the world in the eye and say ‘I’m going places. Come with me or get out of my way.’

Flow with it – whatever it is. Give yourself to the task, the idea, the project, the relationship.

Commit, commit, commit.

You’ll amaze yourself with what changes and gets done!

 

Supportive crystals this week? Fluorite, Amazonite, Citrine and Tiger Eye.  Helpful essential oils? Young Living’s Clarity essential oil blend, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of cedarwood, lemon, ylang ylang and bergamot.

Wishing you a wonderful week and holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations. I can’t wait to see where this week takes you.

Nicole❤ xx

The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 21 November

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“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”
~ Dalai Lama XIV

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”
~ Leo Buscaglia

 

Hello, Friends!

Welcome to the fourth week of these awesome November energies.

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen, and my take on the energetic outlook for the days ahead.

‘The Lovers’ is from the Osho Zen Tarot deck, and the powerful message of this card is that love is what is needed right now.

On the most personal of notes, this is a week that encourages you to reconnect with your partner – as lovers, as friends, as confidants. Not many people talk about how much work actually goes into successful relationships. Partnerships are gardens that require regular attention. There is ample opportunity to rekindle the magic and to rediscover what first created sparks and joy between you. It’s a week for forgiveness, for acceptance, and for celebration of your shared history.

If there’s love still there, but you’ve lost your way, or forgotten how to connect and communicate, seek help to get you both back on track and travelling forward together.

Mostly, what relationships need is time spent together. How can you do more of that this week?

In a relationship that’s fresh and new? You will find ways to deepen your understanding of and commitment to each other in the days ahead.

Those of you who are trapped in relationships that are past their use-by date, that are deeply unhealthy, broken, or finished in all but the leaving, will find that this week facilitates decisions to put yourself back out into the flow of life on your own again. The ending of 2016, and the finalisation of this old, old energetic era we’ve been in is the perfect time for freeing yourself up if your relationship no longer serves you.

If you’re single and looking for love, well… magic is in the air. <3

Above all, this week – love yourself! Don’t wait for someone else to do that for you. Nourish yourself with self-care, kindness and compassion.

Love is an emotion that extends far beyond the sexual, or the intimacy of a partnership. Love is always bigger than that…

This week you’re called to reach out to those you care about – family, friends, neighbours, community – and let them know that you care, let them feel the warmth of that connection, and the reassurance that comes from knowing that their life matters to someone. You can do this in so many ways: a hug, a shared meal, a chat over coffee, a phone call or connection via social media or email, an act of kindness, volunteering time or money, writing letters on behalf of those with no voice, adopting a shelter animal, making a donation, joining a group that does good in the world.

 

Many people have contacted me after my recent post about sensitive and empathic souls and the current energies of upheaval that are affecting us.

I understand that many sensitive souls are having a difficult time right now, and are engulfed with fear, frustration and deep despair around world events.

This week we are reminded that there is always something we can do.

This week we’re encouraged to send love out into the world, and to direct love back to ourselves. Love fills and heals the dark wounds and uncertain spaces caused by fear and hate.

How do we move the world back from the tipping point of divisiveness? Love. Kindness. Compassion. Forgiveness. Inclusion.

Living from our hearts, meditating and sending love into the world, using prayer and visualisation, all of these things help.

 

When we come from a place of love we don’t talk badly of others, or spread gossip or perpetuate stories that feed the energies of uncertainty and fear.

What the world needs now is not more darkness and argument. We don’t need more violent thoughts or deeds. We need love. We need lifting up. We need kindness. We need laughter. We need understanding and coming together.

We need gratitude for what is good in our lives.

We need to place our focus on what we want, and what is good, rather than devoting any energy at all to the things we don’t want.

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This image by my lovely friend Suzie Cheel over at www.suziecheel.com

Supportive crystals for the days ahead? So many to choose from! Rose Quartz, rhodonite, citrine, mookaite jasper, lapis lazuli and malachite.  Helpful essential oils? Young Living’s Joy essential oil blend, or  a combination (or singly!) of any of neroli, rose, ylang ylang and sandalwood.

Wishing you a wonderful week and holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations. You matter to me. I love you.

Nicole❤ xx

 

Here are some simple guided meditations you may find useful this week:

Loving-Kindness Meditation

Forgiveness Meditation and Journalling Activity

Meditation to ease suffering in self and others

Simple Three Minute Meditation using Essential Oils

Guided Meditation for Heart Healing

Tibetan Singing Bowl Healing Meditation

Guided Meditation for Panic, Anxiety and Fear