Mini-Retreat Day 2 – Connect to Your Guide

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”
~ Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

 

We’re deep into our inner work, here at retreat. The shifts for my students and myself have already been profound, and there is so much more to come.

Yesterday we worked with the energy of our Higher Self.

Today we’ll be connecting in with a Guide, Angel or other energetic being who can help us to understand ourselves, and provide insights and answers to our current situations.

The Universe only ever speaks to us through love. Sometimes that might be tough love, as we face up to something we’ve been avoiding or some truth we didn’t want to hear. But the guidance will always be encouraging, supportive and kind. It also offers us new perspectives and an opportunity to see situations from a different angle.

Our Guides and Angels are always with us. Sometimes we may know that they are here because of a feeling of peace or enveloping love that comes over us. Some people who are quite energetically sensitive may even feel gooseflesh, the sense of a breeze or gentle touch on their skin, or have the experience of curtains moving gently or a candle flickering in a room where the windows are closed tight.

I’ve recorded a short guided meditation for you, to help you connect to one of your Guides or Angels.

Stay open after the meditation. Pay attention throughout the day. Trust the your Guide or Angel will do all they can to help you know that they are here and with you, and that they love you.

To complete today’s activity in our mini-retreat you’ll need

  • A crystal or stone you can hold comfortably in your hand (you can choose a different one to yesterday if you wish!)
  • A journal
  • Some pens and pencils
  • A deck of your favourite oracle or tarot cards that you have chosen just because you love their pictures.
  • A little time set aside just for you. The meditation requires 10 minutes and you’ll need at least another ten for journalling. If you have the luxury, allow an hour. Take more time if you have it, and are ready for a big dose of love and guidance.

Guided Meditation for Connecting with Your Spiritual Guide

To do the meditation, hold your chosen crystal, and then sit or lie comfortably, close your eyes, and follow along to the sound of my voice:

 

 

Journal and Card Activity

Hold the stone that you used in meditation while you work with your cards and journal. It will help you to maintain a strong energetic connection to your Guide or Angel.

Journal Prompts:

Use your time to explore the following questions in your journal. Write the question at the top of the page, and then close your eyes for a moment, and feel back into your connection with your Guide or Angel. Feel the incredible unconditional love, acceptance and guidance that is available to you. Then open your eyes and write your response.

*Important – make sure that when you finish writing your answer, leave space to write one more response below. Give yourself half a page or a full page if possible.

The questions to ask are:

  • How can I love myself better right now?
  • What activities will bring me joy and happiness?
  • Which relationships in my life are supportive of me?
  • Where can I best express my talents and gifts?
  • How can I improve my financial security?
  • What do I most need to know right now?

Write as much or as little as you need. You may feel like you are making it all up. That’s okay. Keep writing. Trust the process.

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Using your Oracle or Tarot Cards

When you have finished journalling, take your cards, offer up a small prayer that whatever you do be for your Highest Good, and then shuffle the deck, asking that your Guide or Angel continue to guide you.

Now go back to the first question. Read the question again, but not your first response.

Shuffle the deck again, asking your Guide or Angel What else do I need to see in relation to this question?  Choose one card. How you choose is up to you. Split the deck. Fan them out. Top or bottom. Dive right in. There is no right or wrong.

Now look at your card and hold your crystal in your non-writing hand. Really look at the card. Don’t use the book or the ‘proper’ meaning. We are being intuitive here, people! Trust the guidance of your Angel or Guide. What stands out for you in the picture? What thoughts and ideas do the images provoke? Take a minute or two and write those thoughts down. You may want to use a different coloured pen for this part. I know, you might still feel like you’re just making it all up. That’s okay. Write anyway. Trust that there is a part of you that is wise and that has been waiting for this chance to speak with your conscious mind.

If you need to, draw up to five cards to gain further insight and clarity for this situation.

Then move to the next question and repeat the process.

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Gift yourself this important time of connection and reflection today, and if you can, spend some quiet time outside in nature. Silence helps us to consolidate changes and integrates the energetic shifts we are experiencing.

Tomorrow we’ll be doing more focus work and planning for our mini-retreat, so stay tuned because there is more to come.

Thinking of you all, and sending so much love to you from our retreat, Nicole xoxo

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Mini-Retreat Day 1 – Higher Self Connection

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.”
~ Ernest Hemingway

“You are one thing only. You are a Divine Being. An all-powerful Creator. You are a Deity in jeans and a t-shirt, and within you dwells the infinite wisdom of the ages and the sacred creative force of All that is, will be and ever was.”
~ Anthon St. Maarten

 

So often we look outside ourselves for answers, forgetting that there is a source of wisdom that is always available to us – our own Higher Self.

Your Higher Self is the wisest aspect of you. Your soul. The same soul that has lived with awareness through all of this lifetime, the space between lifetimes, and any lifetimes you may have experienced prior to this one.

Your Higher Self is not your conscious mind or your ego, or your subconscious, although it knows all of these aspects of yourself. Instead it is an energy of pure love, compassion and wisdom, imbued with your own unique gifts, talents and preferences.

When you are struggling for answers, when you have lost your direction, it is good to reconnect to your Higher Self so that you can work through your issues with guidance from the part of you who remembers your best self and your potential. Your Higher Self also knows your Heart Path – the direction in life that will give you emotional satisfaction and happiness.

Today we’re going to connect with our Higher Self and then use that energy and connection to explore some important life questions.

To complete this activity in our mini-retreat you’ll need

  • A crystal or stone you can hold comfortably in your hand
  • A journal
  • Some pens and pencils
  • A deck of your favourite oracle or tarot cards that you have chosen just because you love their pictures.
  • A little time set aside just for you. The meditation requires 13 minutes and you’ll need at least another ten for journalling. If you have the luxury, allow an hour. Take more time if you have it, and are ready for a big dose of soul work.
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Image from Iran Style

 

Guided Meditation for Connecting with Your Higher Self

To do the meditation, hold your chosen crystal, and then sit or lie comfortably, close your eyes, and follow along to the sound of my voice:

 

Journal and Card Activity

Know that you have this connection to your Higher Self, continue to hold your crystal to help strengthen that bridge of connection. Yes, it’s okay to put the stone down and pick it up again – but hold the stone when you are writing, or reflecting on a card.

Journal Prompts:

Use your time to explore the following questions in your journal. Write the question at the top of the page, and then close your eyes for a moment, and feel back into the energy of your Higher Self. Strengthen the white and golden light. Feel that sense of peace and calm and expansion come upon you. Then open your eyes and write your response.

*Important – make sure that when you finish writing your answer, leave space to write one more response below. Give yourself half a page or a full page if possible.

The questions to ask are:

  • What do I most need to know right now?
  • What is my place of greatest possibility in using my talents and gifts?
  • What is my next step?
  • What simple changes can I make to affect greater happiness in my life?
  • What is my Higher Self’s greatest vision for my life?

Write as much or as little as you need. You may feel like you are making it all up. That’s okay. Keep writing. Trust the process.

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Using your Oracle or Tarot Cards

When you have finished journalling, take your cards, offer up a small prayer that whatever you do be for your Highest Good, and then shuffle the deck.

Now go back to the first question. Read the question again, but not your first response.

Shuffle the deck again, asking your Higher Self What else do I need to see in relation to this question?  Choose one card. How you choose is up to you. Split the deck. Fan them out. Top or bottom. Dive right in. There is no right or wrong.

Now look at your card and hold your crystal in your non-writing hand. Really look at the card. Don’t use the book or the ‘proper’ meaning. We are being intuitive here, people! Trust the guidance of your Higher Self. What stands out for you in the picture? What thoughts and ideas do the images provoke? Take a minute or two and write those thoughts down. You may want to use a different coloured pen for this part. I know, you might still feel like you’re just making it all up. That’s okay. Write anyway. Trust that there is a part of you that is wise and that has been waiting for this chance to speak with your conscious mind.

If you need to, draw up to five cards to gain further insight and clarity for this situation.

Then move to the next question and repeat the process.

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Image from madagascarminerals.com

 

Enjoy your reflection time, and if you can, spend a little time in nature today. This weekend has such a powerful ability to connect you in to your own and higher wisdoms. Use that energy well to help you get answers to your questions, and to provide direction for the months and years ahead.

I’ll see you tomorrow, when we’ll be connecting in with our guides and angels!

Sending much love to you from our retreat, Nicole xoxo

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Getting Ready for June 2015

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Image from vk.com

“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”
~ Eckhart Tolle

“Dare to dream again.
For dreaming is the language of your soul,
And nothing your soul truly desires could ever be wrong or impossible.”
~ Jacob Nordby

 

Hello, Lovelies <3

It’s June already. We’re nearly at the midpoint of our year. I promised that I would support you in making the most of this year’s opportunities, so here’s my Heads Up about the month ahead, as well as a few suggestions for embracing all that June has to offer.

June has a sense of expansiveness and possibility that’s been lacking in recent months. There’s an abundance of energetic support for you to explore and open up to new opportunities and new directions in your life. You’re being encouraged to put energy into making your dreams a reality.

It reminds me of the movie Field of Dreams, with its taglines If you build it, he will come… and If you believe the impossible, the incredible can come true.

Card for the Month:

I’ve chosen two cards for May for you: one from the Osho Zen Tarot Deck, and one from Colette Baron-Reid’s Wisdom of the Hidden Realms. Remember that I don’t use these cards in the conventional way, but rather as a stimulus for channelled information.

Here is what I have received from each card:

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The message of this first card, Abundance, is all about sitting in a position of gratitude for the many blessings already present in our world and using that positive space to build on our own hopes and dreams. When we actively practice gratitude we begin to cultivate an energy of joy in our daily life.

In June we have the opportunity to work on things that bring us a sense of emotional satisfaction, as well as toiling joyfully on the foundations of enterprise and activity that will go on to create material reward for us. Plant seeds now so that the harvest will be healthy and abundant in times to come.

June is a month for planning and acting on our dreams. It is also a time for social connection, for celebration and for doing the things that make us happy.

It’s expected that June will be a busy month, but when we are engaged with things that we enjoy being busy is never a trial. June calls us to pour our heart and soul into life, and the things that matter to us. Always from a position of gratitude.

When we acknowledge abundance more blessings flow to us.

We are also cautioned against being cynical or judging ourselves or others. Everyone walks their own path, and only your path is your business. You may not get to scale the highest peaks in June but if you at least begin the climb there is a very good chance that eventually you will make it to that high peak, or somewhere better.

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The second card I’ve chosen brings a message of great support. The Web Weaver reminds you that you are not alone in the Universe. As you take action and begin to move in the direction of your dreams expect support from unexpected quarters, divine synchronicities and that magical feeling of things happening easily or just falling into place.

June is all about waking up from that long cold winter of stuckness and shooting tendrils of fresh vigorous growth out into the world as the sun shines down upon you and gentle rain falls as needed, in order that the growth be sustainable and healthy.

You’re being reminded to dream big, and to not judge yourself or the likelihood of your success by your present circumstances. Where you are now is the result of where you’ve been. It’s old news. It isn’t where you need to stay. In each moment you can reinvent yourself. It’s never too late. You’re never too old. Don’t look behind you any more. Have faith in your dreams, chart a course, keep your eyes on the horizon and move ahead.

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Image from pinterest.com

Need some extra encouragement, support or inspiration?

Try these posts:

Starting From A Place of Gratitude – Thoughts on being mindful of the small blessings in every day.

Guided Meditation for Anchoring Into Oneness Energy – A thirty minute free guided meditation for helping you realise and appreciate your connection to all things. It is soothing, relaxing and empowering.

Join Me For A Magical Carpet Ride? – Some fun writing prompts to help you get clear about what you really want in life

The Power Of Mentors – Journal prompts and planning activities to help you manifest your dreams

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Image and poem by msmoem.com

June is lifting you up and giving you wings. Where do you want to fly?

Much love, Nicole <3 xx

Journal Challenge Week 1 – Full Moon

“If you’re going to doubt something, doubt your limits.” ~ Don Ward

 

Welcome to Week One of our four week journaling challenge. There are some very favourable energies about right now to help us in connecting to our authentic selves, and from that place of truth we can then dream a new life, a new self, a new future into being.

This week we’ll be influenced by the Full Moon in Taurus. This beautiful moon is also known as the Earth Mother’s Moon. The Earth Mother Moon helps us to understand our life as an ecosystem, so that we can identify and give ourselves what we need to thrive in a balanced and sustainable way. It is a practical energy, a patient energy, and a kind energy. Sounds good, doesn’t it?

Because we’ll still be under the influence of the recent partial Solar Eclipse and the previous New Moon in Scorpio all this month, we need to work with these bigger energies too. The gift here is in seeking the truth, completing patterns from the past, and experiencing breakthroughs as we step into this new phase of our lives.

To do this we must be committed to becoming honest, vulnerable and exposed with ourselves. We must be brave enough to own our truth – not the one others ascribe to us, or the one we would like to choose for somewhere outside of ourselves – our truth just is, and we find it within our tender, wounded, doubting hearts.

This is a time for exploring and owning what has been repressed, forgotten or shoved to one side in our lives.

It’s a great time to facilitate a gathering awareness of our truth and a strengthening sense of wholeness for ourselves.

And wholeness gives us hope, strength, valor and inspiration.

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Image from SmiteBoards.net

Let’s Begin!

Choosing a Crystal

You may wish to choose a crystal to work with this week. It is entirely optional, and you’d be fine without one too – but for my fellow rock lovers, read on…

You can hold this crystal as you write or meditate, place it under your pillow or beside your bed while you sleep, or carry it in your pocket to help you stay focused.

You could choose your stone based on what most appeals to you. That’s a very valid approach. But if you need a little direction, good crystals to work with this week include:

  • Clear Quartz or Quartz with Inclusions or Phantoms
  • Aragonite
  • Carnelian
  • Bloodstone
  • Unakite
  • Tiger Eye
  • Petrified Wood
  • Smoky Quartz
  • Red Jasper

Here’s what I’ll be using – it’s a Tibetan Chlorite Phantom Quartz with window. Feel free to let us know what kind of crystal you choose by leaving a comment below or over at our facebook page.

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Journal Dedication:

Begin the challenge by writing this dedication in the front of your journal, and then signing your name and date.

Dear Universe,

I yearn to create a life for myself that is richly fulfilling. I am open now to truly understanding what it is that I need in order to thrive, to grow, to shine.

I understand that I deserve to be happy, and I am prepared to sit in vulnerability and truth in order to clear the obstacles to my happiness.

I am ready to own the parts of myself that I have cast aside. I am ready to embrace my fullness, my wholeness, my true and complete soul truth.

I understand that I am destined for more – being more, loving more, sharing more, having more.

Although I am uncertain, although I still cannot name all the changes I desire, my heart is open to them if they be for my Highest Good.

Today I honour my desire and intention for positive change, and I offer it up to you, trusting that I will be guided to discover the next steps, that I will be drawn to inspiration and opportunity, and that I can create a life for myself which is more expansive, more aligned to my purpose, more in flow.

My commitment to you is that for the next 4 weeks (and beyond) I am willing to explore and open to the possibilities of change, and to celebrate the many Blessings I already enjoy.

With love and gratitude,

_____________________________________

(insert your own name here)

 

Week One Meditation:

We can’t think, or be in flow, if we are stressed and uptight. This week, before you begin to reflect on and journal your exploratory questions, take a minute or two to perform this simple meditation.

Belly Breathing Technique

Before you begin writing, sit or lie quietly. Place your crystal in one hand and then put that hand over your heart. Place your other hand on your belly.

Visualise a colour in your crystal, or if you are just using your hands, visualise a colour in the palm of your hand above your heart. Breathe in to activate your hands and let that colour expand, so that it links both of your hands. You’ll now have a glow of coloured energy sitting from your throat to your groin. That light is healing and energising. Don’t think about it too much. Just let it be there in the background. Close your eyes if it feels comfortable to do so.

Now take 6 deep breaths.

For each breath, when you inhale focus on your belly rising out further than your chest.

Take 6 long, slow and unforced breaths, gently allowing your hands to rise and fall with your chest and belly.

You’ll feel your body relax and unwind. You can stop after six breaths or do another cycle of six.

Now you’re ready to write!

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Journal Questions:

You can choose any or all of the questions below. I suggest going with what resonates and repels for a good balance. Write as much or as little as you need. It could be three words or three pages. Spread it out over a week, or spend a solid hour or two over one day – it’s up to you! If you’re in flow, keep going and see where it takes you. Be ruthlessly honest. Be practical. No airy-fairy here please. We need tools we can work with.

If you’re using a crystal, hold it in your non-writing hand, or place it in your lap or pocket. Feel free to get yourself a beverage, or to sit in a coffee shop while you do this. Enjoy the process!

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Know that this journal work will provide a platform for future planning, growth and self-awareness. You’ll be coming back to these answers again in the future, so take your time and enjoy the process.

You can also write more in the future, taking yourself deeper and clearer each time you come back to that question. Trust that more will be revealed as your own wholeness is revealed.

If you don’t know how to answer something, ask yourself what am I resisting here? What can this teach me about myself? And then be brave and go deeper. Come back to that question again and again until you have clarity or at least a starting place for understanding or further action. If the question is impossible, seek help. A counselor, a healer, a trusted friend or adviser, or whomever else feels right to give you some guidance around this question.

  1. What does my physical body most need right now?
  2. How can I best ensure that my body can have these things it needs to thrive?
  3. Do I need to get help with my health, and what would that look like?
  4. What environments make me feel good?
  5. What helps me to have a restful night’s sleep? – How can I create more of that in my life?
  6. What movement and exercise does my body most need? How could I easily and realistically bring that into my life?
  7. What style of clothing helps me feel like my best and most authentic self?
  8. What self-care routines most nourish and heal me?
  9. What small things in my life that are a source of irritation can I deal with effectively now with just a small amount of effort or organisation?
  10. What big things in my life irritate or worry me, that I need to face up to and sort out or give to an expert to sort out on my behalf?
  11. What have I always believed about myself that is keeping me small?
  12. What have others told me about myself, or have made me conform to, which is limiting me and my happiness?
  13. Who is bad for me?
  14. Who would I benefit from seeing more of?
  15. Do I need more hugs and connection, or more personal space right now? How do I make this happen?
  16. What things have I stopped doing that used to make me happy?
  17. What things am I doing that make me unhappy or unbalanced right now?
  18. What am I stopping myself from doing?
I, Mother Earth by moonxels at deviantart

I, Mother Earth by moonxels at deviantart

And now for some dreaming and co-creating energy. Be informed by the writing you have done with your exploratory questions. Let yourself step into the energy of possibility and growth. Let yourself dream about how good life could be. Don’t limit yourself. This is about painting your canvas with the colours and energy that will shape a powerful positive future life. Write at least a paragraph. Be detailed and specific where you can.Truly imagine what your best life could be like. What do you look like? Where are you living? What does your day look like?

If you’re still not sure, then write it as a story, a fairy-tale that might one day come true. Don’t limit yourself. Be joyful in your creating! There are always the seeds of truth and possibility in dreams and imagination…

1. My desire and intention for my body and health that I am now creating is that…

2. My desire and intention for my love relationship that I am now creating (this could be with a life partner, yourself or even with God) is that…

3. My desire and intention for my lifestyle and work that I am now creating is that…
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And remember to pop over to our facebook page this week. There will be extra rune guidance there for you. I’ll be giving away some lovely surprises and there will also be a party later this week where I’ll be on line to answer your questions and have some fun! Let’s make magic together. The world needs you and your gifts.

Lots of love, Nicole xx

Why You Need A Tribe

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A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.
~ Unknown

 

We all need a tribe. A tribe isn’t often the family we are born into. A tribe is a group where we find a spiritual home – a group of people who care passionately about something dear to our own hearts, and who give us a place to belong. A tribe is a place where we can grow, and learn. A tribe is also a place where we can share our knowledge and wisdoms with those walking the same path.

Tribes are built around common interests. I belong to more than one. I’m sure you’ll need at least a couple too.

Before I belonged to any kind of tribe I banged around uselessly on my own, reinventing wheels that never needed all of that effort. There was no-one with whom I could share my successes or failures, no-one to bounce ideas off, no-one to laugh or cry with. I’m all for self-development, but it’s a hard and lonely way to live.

This past long weekend I hung out in the mountains with my writing tribe – the wonderful Sisters of the Pen. We wrote, talked writing, ate and talked writing, wrote some more, laughed a lot, ate, wrote, slept and recharged our batteries with some self time and time in nature. We gave ourselves space and permission to put our passion for writing front and centre in our lives for a few precious days.

I surprised myself, and wrote heaps on a brand new project, as well as getting plenty of planning and project management done. Yep, that’s 17028 words. Yay! My beautiful sistahs helped me negotiate some plot twists and gave useful feedback on issues I’d struggled to nut out on my own.

Our little band of writers has also morphed into something so much more than just a group of women who dig words. We’ve shared tough times and great celebrations, we’ve been secret keepers, cheer squads and good medicine for each other. That’s the beauty of a tribe. You evolve and grow together.

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I also belong to a business mentoring group – we are all successful six-figure entrepreneurs who run our businesses in a heart-based way, and who value the support, guidance and friendship of like-minded people. (Yes, my spiritual friends – it is perfectly okay to enjoy prosperity!)  Each week we connect by skype, and then on an online forum, sharing our progress, goals and problems. We live vast distances from each other,  but we have managed to forge connections across oceans, and despite time differences. It’s actually hard to adequately express how valuable this group has been for my own business. It’s just so good to have friends who get where I am coming from, because they are in that same space too.

My business tribe don’t just support me, they hold a space for me, and they call me on my stuff. They are the ones who shout out to me to slow down when I’m being unrealistic, they are the ones who champion my good ideas and who aren’t afraid to tell me if they think my plan is lousy. 🙂  And of course, I do the same for them.

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Image from biz-tutor.com

My other tribe is my spiritual community, including my students and clients, and my many friends and readers from around the world whom I’ve met through blogging and social media. I am happy to step up as a leader for my tribe, and I include them in my daily thoughts, prayers and meditations. If you’re reading this, know that you are included in that energy and intention.

My spiritual tribe is where I share my own spiritual and psychic journey, and the things my teachers passed down to me. It’s where we can feel included and normal together, where we can share the sorts of things that other people in our lives may never experience or understand.

Tribes sometimes exist already, and all you have to do is find them.

Sometimes the tribe is waiting to be formed.

They can be a group of people who meet for coffee and a chat, or people who connect over the internet. Or a bit of both.

When you find or create your tribe, the beautiful music inside you finds a way to be expressed in the wider world.

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Are you having trouble identifying your tribe? Maybe you’ll find the following exercise useful. Writing in a journal is a great way to connect to your own deeper wisdom.

Journal Exercise:

Start by writing this passage at the top of your page.

Dear Universe, 

I trust that there is a part of me that already knows what makes my heart sing. I also trust that there is a Universal Wisdom which recognises my gifts and talents, and that understands what outcomes and adventures are best for my Highest Good.

I am ready to embrace the possibility of a better life for myself. I am ready to move from struggle into flow.  I am ready for friendship and belonging, and I’m keen to embrace abundance in all its forms. I want you to know that I’m ready for whatever wonderful experiences and opportunities you send my way. I am ready for my Soul to show me my heart’s true desire. I am ready to embrace the kinship of my Soul Tribe.

Now choose any of the following journal starters, and use it to begin writing.  Don’t judge what comes next, and don’t over-think it.  Just trust that what you write will begin to create a greater sense of personal and spiritual awareness in your life.

  • I’ve always loved to…
  • One thing that makes me completely lose track of time is…
  • If I could do anything well, the thing I would choose is _____ because…
  • You’ll never guess how it happened.  It all worked out perfectly in the end. One day…
  • When I look back, the themes in my life have been…
  • If I think about it, the happiest times in my life involve…
  • One thing I never get tired of is…
  • The thing that fires me up, and that makes me feel completely alive is…
  • The sort of people I most want to hang out with include…
  • Something people tell me I’m really good at helping them with is…

Once you are clearer about the things that light you up, seek out others who feel the same, or put your own group together! My writers group was formed after we all met at a series of weekend workshops. My business mentoring group was formed from within an online community, and my spiritual tribe has grown out of my own business and interests.

Tribes give you momentum and support, two things that are very valuable in a society where we are often disconnected from ourselves and each other.

So, what’s stopping you? Go find your tribe!

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PS:If you’d like to spend time in the company of some wonderful people and are looking to connect with a tribe of your own perhaps my Soul Sanctuary Retreat is what you’re looking for. Come join us in beautiful Byron Bay from November 29 to December 5 for a soulful week of connection, rejuvenation and inspiration.We still have a few places left.

More details on the retreat can be found here

Lots of love, Nicole xx

Who’s your Support Crew in 2014?

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Image of the Blue Angels Support Crew watching a U.S. Navy diamond flight formation 1952 – Wikimedia Commons

“Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends”

~ John Lennon and Paul McCartney

Few of us get there on our own. The journey is always made easier when we have support, no matter what that journey is. So my big question to you is this:

Who is YOUR support crew in 2014?

No matter what kind of year you’re in for, we all need friends and helpful people. People who can cheer us on, offer helpful advice, pick us up when we fall, do the things we need doing but cannot do for ourselves, lend their own kind of magic to ours for that beautiful effect that multiplies our success to be greater than the sum of the parts.

I know that most of you are a lot like me…

Sensitive souls, empaths, carers, healers, kind-hearted people – we are stunningly good at putting everyone else first, and being that support which others need – being a support person is just what we’re wired to do. And if we’d had rough patches in life we’ve become good at being resilient and self-sufficient too.

All of this means that we may not be so flash at asking for favours or putting our hand up for help.

This year I’m putting up my own hand and asking for help. I’m drawing to me the best support crew I can to get me through 2014. I’m also minimising my contact with the crazy-makers and relationships that drain or sabotage me and my direction. (Want help with toxic relationships? Click here!)

Mots of us already have a support network. We may even be putting energy into supporting THEM right now. The biggest issue for many of us is that we don’t ask, or have found ourselves in the habit of having the barriers up as we steam along in that solo kind of self-sufficiency mode. Or we just plain forget that these people are here for us to draw on.

Not all of our support crew will work for love. And that’s okay too. Hiring people to support us is a great act of self-love and affirmation of self-worth. We can also access this support through books, courses and audio files.

We all need a cheer squad, and sometimes we need more tangible help. The point is – we can’t do it all alone!!!

Image of this awesome supportcrew from the South East London Ladies Swimming Club

Image of this awesome support crew from the South East London Ladies Swimming Club

Right now I have my husband and my wonderful PA, Dana, creating firewalls and boundaries in my work and personal life.

My fridge is full of nurturing soup from kind friends. Others have offered to clean my house while I’m too unwell to do this for myself.

I may not be able to get out much, but my sister and a few friends are on speed dial. I have great neighbours, and a fabulous bunch of Soul Sisters from my mentoring groups and retreats. I have all of you, dear readers, lending your support and kindness.

My Sisters of the Pen are always there for online and ‘for reals’ conversation and support for writing and life. The Queensland Writers Centre is my go-to place for continuing development of my craft.

And beyond my emotional needs I have doctors, herbalists, accountants, a good lawyer, a web designer (Hi Tim!), dentist, chiropractor, acupuncturist, an online business mentoring group, lyme boards and forums, music, libraries, bookshops and the internet. I have the Farmers Markets and some wonderful local cafes. There’s also the yellow pages for when I need a plumber, a termite expert or a tree lopper.

Of course, none of these people will be any good to me if I don’t reach out and ask!

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Image by maryam

2014 is shaping up to be a big year, and it’s time to start thinking about who you need on your support crew.

To help you get a better picture of what that may look like I’ve created a simple journal exercise for you!

Journalling my Web of Support

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Image from akmhcweb

Here are some simple questions for you to think about and journal. Don’t feel that you have to answer them all today, but DO give them thought over the next few weeks.

1. Who in my family can I draw on for support, guidance, laughs or to help me lift that heavy bookcase? Remember that it’s okay to include loved ones who’ve passed over. I talk to my grandparents all the time!

2. Which friends in my life (online as well as people I’ve met in person) are supportive of me, my interests and my ambitions?

3. What do I really need to get done this year that I keep putting off?

4. Do I really need to do this myself? Who can help me with this thing? What kind of support do I need for each of those goals or tasks? Do I know someone? Can I pay someone?

5. Who can help me with my health this year?

6. Who can help me with my finances and/or business?

7. Who can help me with my spirituality and soul questing?

8. Who can I laugh with?

9. Who can I cry with?

10. Who’ll cheer me on up that mountain?

11. Music, movies and other motivators that keep me feeling good about myself and on track?

12. Habits and actions I KNOW do me good and support my journey?

I hope in some small way that I can support you too, through my blog and my facebook page. Let’s make this our best year yet – together!

Lots and lots of love,

Nicole xoxo

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Making My Life Work for Me – Week 4

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“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.”~ Jiddu Krishnamurti

“Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”
~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Welcome to Week 4 of our six week Making My Life Work for Me Program. (If you’re just joining us now, pop back and read the very first post so that you can gather the materials we’ll be using today and catch up with our prior activities.)

Our focus this week is on knowledge – and the acts of learning, sharing and valuing our own knowledge and skills.

Life is a learning journey, and we come here to teach as much as we come here to gain knowledge.  One of the ways to make our life work better for us is to identify areas where we’d like to learn more, and to acknowledge the things we already know and can do with a level of mastery.  I’m not just talking school learning – one of my best friends, a woman with very little formal education, has just begun teaching sewing lessons, and it has turned into a thriving business for her.

Instructions:

We follow the same format each week.  Read through this entire post before you get started. You can do the activities all on one day, or spread them put over the week – whatever works best for you.

Meditation:

We’re going to start with a meditation to help you connect into and draw more love into your life.  Hold your crystal and drape your scarf or shawl around your shoulders.  Set aside ten minutes for this. When you’re ready click the link below and simply follow the sound of my voice:

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for connecting to our own Wisdom and Path

 

Visualisation:

Do this straight after your meditation, when you are ready and open for receiving! Close your eyes and use your imagination. See yourself the way you want yourself to be in the world.  Feel yourself using your talents and gifts in ways that give you joy and meaning. See yourself in the flow of abundance that is ours as we step into a life that works for us.  Really put some energy into this.  You can repeat this step again this week (even daily) if it feels right.  Thoughts are things, and this is how you manifest in the Universe!

Using Your Journal:

Go back to the front of your journal and read your Pledge out loud.

You’ve committed to making a better life for yourself.  A better life means valuing your time and your skills, investing in yourself, and setting clear boundaries.  Be open to knowledge in all its forms as you work with your journal this week.

Feel free to use your paints, coloured pens, glitter and stickers to make your journal visually attractive. Be mindful of words and what they mean to you this week.  Look for words that make you feel clear, focused and powerful.,

Card of the Week: 

2013-03-24 16.30.18Let’s start our week by selecting some reflective spiritual Guidance.  Take your deck of positive cards, or your rune bag.  Close you eyes and offer up a prayer for the Highest Good, and then quiet your mind.

Randomly select a card/rune, trusting that it will have a message to guide you this week.  Write down the name of the card/rune and the message.  Feel free to add any additional thoughts or insights you might have.

This week’s card, chosen by me, bears an important message. We often think of boundaries as limitations, but boundaries can have many positive advantages in our lives, if we use them to protect what is precious to us.

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2013-04-14 17.07.14

Take some time to reflect on the boundaries in your life.  Do you expect respect, or do you let people take advantage of you? Do you make room for your own interests and dreams, or does everyone else come first?

Week 4 Journal Activity:

On a new page write a stream of consciousness around the question What knowledge and skills can I share with the world?  Think outside the square.  What are you good at?  What do you enjoy doing? Where have you developed skill and expertise? What do you enjoy doing, or teaching others? Draw pictures or mind map if you feel like it. Think right back to when you were young, and then follow the path of your life to the present, and beyond that into the future.

And this week’s creative activity is:

Collage – The Essence of ME and All that I’m Becoming  Today’s collage will help you to understand what your soul loves to do and share, and the learning paths you might follow into the future, to further enrich your life.

Take your pile of old magazines and place them in front of you.  Holding your crystal close your eyes and say out loud “Universe, I am open to all Guidance and my own Higher Wisdom to help me understand my own wisdom and my future possibilities.”  Take a moment and sit in that energy, really feeling yourself connecting into and opening to all that your soul knows now and desires still to learn.

Then when you’re ready, open your eyes and start flicking through the magazines.  If any pictures or words appeal to you, cut or rip them out and place them beside you. When you have enough images cut them up neatly, and then spend some time arranging them on a page or double page of your journal. Let the images and words inspire and inform you. If your journal isn’t big enough, feel free to use a sheet of cardboard. Glue your images to the page and leave it open to dry.

What did you notice as themes from this exercise? What new possibilities can you see for yourself?

Gratitude:

What’s already working in your life?  List five things in your journal each day that you are grateful for in your life.

Nightly Healing :

Get into bed and spend five minutes lying quietly in meditation with your eyes closed.  Call on God, Universal Energy, your Angels, your Guides, your Ancestors, whomever you feel comfortable and safe with.  Ask for their help.  Fill your body with white light, and then draw coloured light (just allow a colour to come to you) through your crown chakra (an energy point on the top of your head) and send it anywhere in your body that needs healing.  Feel the warmth as the energy radiates through your body, uplifting and healing you.  Know that answers will come while you are sleeping.

Give thanks, send this same healing gift from you to anyone or anywhere else if it feels right, and then sleep.  Expect dreams that clarify, empower and enlighten. Wishing you a wonderful week.

Much love to you, Nicole ♥ xx

When the Muse vanishes – thoughts on the loss of creativity

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“Creativity is our true nature; blocks are an unnatural thwarting of a process at once as normal and as miraculous as the blossoming of a flower at the end of a slender green stem.”
~ Julia Cameron 

If you’ve ever had some sort of creative block, where the juices stop flowing and the ideas dry up, then you’ll probably just find the quote above to be irritating, maddening and mocking.

Yes, we are all supposed to be creative.  Yes, creativity is meant to be our natural state.  But what happens when it’s not?  What’s wrong with us?  Why can’t we be creative like everybody else, or like we used to be?

juicingI actually believe that creativity is a little like a bicycle-powered juicer. You have to start pedalling BEFORE there can be enough power for the juice to be extracted. It’s the same with creativity – once you have some momentum up you’ll find yourself in flow, even if you weren’t there to start with.

But…

Sometimes we can’t even get on the darn bike.

Before you start gnashing your teeth, and muttering self-loathing thoughts, or committing to epic self-evaluation or a psychiatrist’s couch, ask yourself the following questions:

  • Has sleep been an issue lately?
  • Is there something on your mind?
  • Are you unwell?
  • Suffering from anxiety and/or depression?
  • Is there a situation that threatens your financial security?
  • Is there a situation that threatens your emotional well-being?
  • Are you stressed to the max, with too much on your plate?
  • Are you raising very small and demanding children (or bigger children who are going through ‘stuff’)?
  • Is there a safe and amenable place for you to practice your particular brand of creativity?
  • Have you already created something big recently?
  • Are you being creative and productive in another area as part of your work life?
  • Are you suffering from burn-out in ANY area of your life?

Sometimes we are simply just too tired, too sick, too worried, too stressed, too overwhelmed or too broken to be in a productive and creative space.

And that’s okay.

The biggest gift you can give yourself creatively when you’re in this place is time to rest and heal, and time to attend to the things that are sucking up all of your energy and head space.  Get that thesis finished.  Get that tax out of the way, or the divorce, or the bathroom finally renovated enough that you can shower and brush your teeth instead of standing outside with the garden hose.

There is a difference between ‘not feeling in the mood to create’ and being wrung out, battered, bruised and exhausted by life. Sometimes we need to rest and fill up the well before we can begin again.

Activity:

Think about what you want to create or the vision you have, or did have for a creative project.  (If you can’t even THINK of a project, then go with the desire to create rather than naming an actual project.)

Now tune in to your emotions. One a scale of one to ten how is your energy towards this project right now?

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At 0 we are excited, motivated, happy and raring to go. We are emotionally engaged and enthusiastic about our project, and we are already sitting down and getting on with it. In fact, in the moments where we are not working on our project we find ourselves thinking about it, planning for it and wanting to get back to it.

At 10 we can’t even think of a project – it’s just a big black sucking hole, or a misty grey fog, or some other equally miserable and barren wasteland. We are flat out breathing and coping with life and that takes ALL of our energy.

What to do about it!

Strangely, one of the best medicines for a lack of creativity is creative exposure. Take some time this week to sit down with your journal and write a list of creative pursuits and activities that you have a flicker of interest for, but that are NOT your life passion.

For example, if you want to write the Next Great Novel, steer clear of anything to do with writing.  If you want to be the next prima ballerina, avoid anything to do with ballet. If you want to be a chef, stay away from food.  Are you getting the picture here?

Instead think of other cultural, artistic and creative pursuits.  Could you take up beading, chainsaw ice sculpting, macrame pot holders, hair braiding, decoupage, dancing the tango, painting some old chairs, making your own sourdough (no chefs – you guys go learn to make and fly your own kites!) etc. Do something that sounds interesting but where you don’t care whether you set the world on fire with your macrame skills or ability to compost garden scraps.

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Make a list of music you’d like to listen to, bands you’d like to see, DVDs you’d like to watch, books to read, movies and theatre to see, galleries and cafes and markets and other places it would be interesting to visit. Think about painting those chairs on the back deck, or making a meal with a Moroccan Tagine.  Just because it’s fun.  Just because you can.

Over the next little while, dip into your list.  Don’t expect the Muse to turn up.  You don’t need her right now.  You just need some restorative time, some time with no pressure, no deadlines and no expectations.

That’s truly the meaning of Art as Therapy.  We do something a little creative and it restores a lost or damaged part of us to ourselves, so that we become fuller, more rounded, more whole.

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Image by www.smashingchintz.co.uk

This post is part of my 2013 Creative Challenge Project.  If you’d like to read more, visit these posts:

Join my 2013 Creative Project Challenge

Creative Project Challenge – February Check In

Lost your Creative Mojo?

Welcoming 2013

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“I have always been delighted at the prospect of a new day, a fresh try, one more start, with perhaps a bit of magic waiting somewhere behind the morning. ” 

~ J. B. Priestley

I know the calendar says that we’re already into February, but from an energetic point of view today, 2nd February, is really the very first day of 2013. (Read more about the energy of 2013 by clicking here.)

It’s an unusually quiet morning down at my farm, and the air is thick with fragrant smoke from all the burning piles of green vegetation knocked down during last week’s storms.  It smells a little like a giant incense stick burning, so I consider 2013 well smudged into being.

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Smudge Ceremony – Image from www.whisperingwoodsbrockville.com

Today is a beautiful day for some quiet reflection and journalling to set the tone for your year ahead. I’ve also prepared a short guided meditation for you to help you focus your thoughts and energies.

Guided Meditation

This 7 minute meditation will help you to step into the vibration of this new year.  It was recorded at my farm at dawn this morning, so you’ll also hear the cacophony of frogs, birds, cows, baby magpies and hungy owl chicks. They’re adding their special energies to this meditation too.  To listen, all you need to do is click on the link below:

Nicole Cody’s Guided Meditation for 2013

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Journal Activity

After you’ve listened to my meditation, find some time today to sit somewhere on your own and write down your thoughts and feelings about the following questions:

  1. I am happiest when I…
  2. The issues I care about most are…
  3. The creative projects I’d like to engage in this year are…
  4. The healing work I’d like to focus on for my own well-being this year is…
  5. The healing or service work I’d like to devote time to for helping others this year is…
  6. Activities I’d like to include more of this year include…
  7. Relationships that are important to me this year are…
  8. The one thing I want to devote attention to this year is…
  9. My greatest wish for myself is…
  10. My greatest wish for the world is…
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Dragging your tail into 2013? Maybe its not you…

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“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”  ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

 

So here we are in 2013. It’s shaping up to be a great year.  If you haven’t checked it out already here’s what I have to say about 2013 here:

2013 – Guidance For The Year Ahead

But maybe you’re just not feeling it yet. Maybe you’re feeling a little lost, exhausted, down, directionless, or simply without the passion you’d like to be bringing into a new year.

Well guess what?

It’s not you. And you’re not alone.

You’ll be comforted to know that we’re still in the throes of that big ol’ energy of 2012. It’s been a huge year, and for many, a tough one. Right now we’re still in that mop-up place.  Tidying up loose ends, cleaning up the mess, catching our breath…

2013’s magic doesn’t even begin to kick in until early February. So if you’re just not feeling it yet, if you haven’t got the New Year Mojo, take comfort.

I created a meditation a while ago especially for this – for letting go of 2012 and putting it behind us.  Here’s the link:

A Guided Meditation for the End of 2012

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Yami drinking Tea by splitterDreams at www.splitterDreams.deviantart.com

And for now there is plenty that you can do to make the most of this time of transition.  Here are some suggestions:

  • Rest. Don’t go launching into new projects just yet. Instead use this time to put positive changes in place that will support you to make the most of the opportunities available to you in 2013. Look after your health, and clean up the remnants of 2012.  Potter around.  Go slow.  It’s okay to do that right now.
  • Plan. Planning is a very worthwhile exercise.  Spend some time thinking about what you want to put into place this year. Journal that.  Make lists from that.  Get clear in your head about where you’re going, even though you haven’t started yet.  What learning might you need?  What resources?  What time frames? What support and connections? What space will you use?
  • Tidy.  Yep, you heard me right.  Go through your cupboards.  Get your desk in order.  Weed the flower bed.  Plant vegetables.  Find a cleaner or a gardener.  Get ready for the new year.
  • Meditate.  Spend time in nature.  Nurture your connection with God, Oneness, the Universe, Guides, Guardian Angels, Earth or whatever you call that Greater Energy in our lives.

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Some Journalling Activities you might find useful:

Releasing Limitations Through Journalling

Getting to the Heart of Things

Writing Ourselves in Awareness

Writing Yourself into Abundance

Be gentle with yourself right now.  Be patient.  Be kind.  And extend that energy to others. That’s what being a Lightworker is all about.  Bless ♥ xx