“Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends
Mm, I get high with a little help from my friends
Mm, gonna try with a little help from my friends”
~ John Lennon and Paul McCartney
Few of us get there on our own. The journey is always made easier when we have support, no matter what that journey is. So my big question to you is this:
Who is YOUR support crew in 2014?
No matter what kind of year you’re in for, we all need friends and helpful people. People who can cheer us on, offer helpful advice, pick us up when we fall, do the things we need doing but cannot do for ourselves, lend their own kind of magic to ours for that beautiful effect that multiplies our success to be greater than the sum of the parts.
I know that most of you are a lot like me…
Sensitive souls, empaths, carers, healers, kind-hearted people – we are stunningly good at putting everyone else first, and being that support which others need – being a support person is just what we’re wired to do. And if we’d had rough patches in life we’ve become good at being resilient and self-sufficient too.
All of this means that we may not be so flash at asking for favours or putting our hand up for help.
This year I’m putting up my own hand and asking for help. I’m drawing to me the best support crew I can to get me through 2014. I’m also minimising my contact with the crazy-makers and relationships that drain or sabotage me and my direction. (Want help with toxic relationships? Click here!)
Mots of us already have a support network. We may even be putting energy into supporting THEM right now. The biggest issue for many of us is that we don’t ask, or have found ourselves in the habit of having the barriers up as we steam along in that solo kind of self-sufficiency mode. Or we just plain forget that these people are here for us to draw on.
Not all of our support crew will work for love. And that’s okay too. Hiring people to support us is a great act of self-love and affirmation of self-worth. We can also access this support through books, courses and audio files.
We all need a cheer squad, and sometimes we need more tangible help. The point is – we can’t do it all alone!!!
Right now I have my husband and my wonderful PA, Dana, creating firewalls and boundaries in my work and personal life.
My fridge is full of nurturing soup from kind friends. Others have offered to clean my house while I’m too unwell to do this for myself.
I may not be able to get out much, but my sister and a few friends are on speed dial. I have great neighbours, and a fabulous bunch of Soul Sisters from my mentoring groups and retreats. I have all of you, dear readers, lending your support and kindness.
My Sisters of the Pen are always there for online and ‘for reals’ conversation and support for writing and life. The Queensland Writers Centre is my go-to place for continuing development of my craft.
And beyond my emotional needs I have doctors, herbalists, accountants, a good lawyer, a web designer (Hi Tim!), dentist, chiropractor, acupuncturist, an online business mentoring group, lyme boards and forums, music, libraries, bookshops and the internet. I have the Farmers Markets and some wonderful local cafes. There’s also the yellow pages for when I need a plumber, a termite expert or a tree lopper.
Of course, none of these people will be any good to me if I don’t reach out and ask!
2014 is shaping up to be a big year, and it’s time to start thinking about who you need on your support crew.
To help you get a better picture of what that may look like I’ve created a simple journal exercise for you!
Journalling my Web of Support
Here are some simple questions for you to think about and journal. Don’t feel that you have to answer them all today, but DO give them thought over the next few weeks.
1. Who in my family can I draw on for support, guidance, laughs or to help me lift that heavy bookcase? Remember that it’s okay to include loved ones who’ve passed over. I talk to my grandparents all the time!
2. Which friends in my life (online as well as people I’ve met in person) are supportive of me, my interests and my ambitions?
3. What do I really need to get done this year that I keep putting off?
4. Do I really need to do this myself? Who can help me with this thing? What kind of support do I need for each of those goals or tasks? Do I know someone? Can I pay someone?
5. Who can help me with my health this year?
6. Who can help me with my finances and/or business?
7. Who can help me with my spirituality and soul questing?
8. Who can I laugh with?
9. Who can I cry with?
10. Who’ll cheer me on up that mountain?
11. Music, movies and other motivators that keep me feeling good about myself and on track?
12. Habits and actions I KNOW do me good and support my journey?
I hope in some small way that I can support you too, through my blog and my facebook page. Let’s make this our best year yet – together!
Lots and lots of love,