With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side, I am on my side, each day I am more and more on my own side. Susan Weiss Berry Hey, Lovelies. It’s so easy […]
How To Identify Toxic Friendships
Friendship – it’s wonderful, except when it isn’t. Here’s how to spot a toxic friend.
3 Affirmations To Support You In Difficult Times
“Sometimes, little things make a big difference…” ~ Nino Varsimashvili Hey, Lovelies. Every morning when I wake up, before I get out of bed, before I pray or meditate, before I do anything else at all, I say a little affirmation. In fact, sometimes I will chant it like a mantra. In my head, or […]
Taking Care Of Yourself First- Monday Oracle 1 November 2021
If you want to have enough to give to others, you will need to take care of yourself first. A tree that refuses water and sunlight for itself can’t bear fruit for others. Emily Maroutian Hello, Lovelies! This Quarter I am using the Nature’s Whispers Oracle Cards by Angela Hartfield, with artwork by Josephine Wall, for my […]
What to do if someone doesn’t like you or want what you have to share with the world
You have people come into your life shockingly and surprisingly. You have losses that you never thought you’d experience. You have rejection and you have learn how to deal with that and how to get up the next day and go on with it. Taylor Swift Hey, Lovelies. Ever been rejected? Judged? Criticized? Been told […]
Shame
Never start a sentence with the words ‘No offense’. Gretchen Rubin Can I tell you something? I struggle often, sometimes daily, with being who I am. Although I am accepting of who I am, I also carry a deep sense of shame about that, and I am working hard to parent myself out of this […]
Don’t Wait For Someone Else To Meet Your Needs
With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side, I am on my side, each day I am more and more on my own side. Susan Weiss Berry Hey, Lovelies. I was speaking with […]
Knowing When To Quit
If you quit on the process, you are quitting on the result. Idowu Koyenikan Hey, Lovelies. Everyone tells you not to be a quitter. Everyone. And that’s fine, if what you are quitting on is actually what you want. Hence the quote at the top of this page: If you quit on the process, you […]
It’s Okay To Choose For Yourself
“Look to your heart and soul first, rather than looking to your head first, when choosing. Rather than what you think, consider instead how you feel. Look to the nature of things. Feel your choices and decisions. It just might change everything.” ~ Jeffrey R. Anderson Hello, Lovelies. Today I have a favour to ask of […]
A Short But Important Message For You
“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” ~ Shannon L. Alder Every morning when I wake up I sit in meditation. I say prayers for my family and friends, I send healing to those who need it, I send energy and […]
It’s Okay to Keep Changing – and How to Cope with People Who Don’t Recognise That
“If people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve made, if they don’t realize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to go.” ~ Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free I […]
A Christmas Gift for Yourself
“You’re gorgeous, you old hag, and if I could give you just one gift ever for the rest of your life it would be this. Confidence. It would be the gift of confidence. Either that or a scented candle.” ~ David Nicholls, One Day I was talking with a girlfriend yesterday. A very organised […]
Looking Back at Me
“We look back on our life as a thing of broken pieces, because our mistakes and failures are always the first to strike us, and outweigh in our imagination what we have accomplished and attained.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Maxims and Reflections It’s odd, this process of writing about yourself. Seldom do we […]
Is Your Self Talk Blocking Your Success?
“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” ~ William Shakespeare, Measure for Measure I’m on Retreat right now, teaching beginners how to channel. Yesterday was a big day, as the students worked through a number of activities to connect them to their guides […]
3 Affirmations to Change Your Life
“Sometimes, little things make a big difference…” ~ Nino Varsimashvili Every morning when I wake up, before I get out of bed, before I pray or meditate, before I do anything else at all, I say a little affirmation. In fact, sometimes I will chant it like a mantra. In my head, or if […]
Reflections From A Cancer Clinic Waiting Room
“From even the greatest of horrors irony is seldom absent.” ~ H.P. Lovecraft, Tales of H.P. Lovecraft A small family cluster of us sat endlessly in the waiting room of a cancer clinic yesterday. It was a busy place, at a busy hospital. On the way to the clinic, we’d passed a young woman who […]
Breaking Inherited and Created Patterns of Low Self-Worth
“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.” ~ Nic Sheff […]
When I Loved Myself Enough…
“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of […]
Kindness Challenge – Week Six
“Are we being good ancestors?” ~Jonas Salk Hello Lovelies! Welcome to the sixth and final of our Kindness Challenge. To participate in today’s challenge all you need to do is select and perform one of the following kindness activities. This week’s challenge is all about leaving a legacy that can benefit others in some way. I encourage you […]
My Whole Life I Was Wrong
“If I am right, Thy grace impart Still in the right to stay; If I am wrong, O, teach my heart To find that better way!” ~ Alexander Pope, Moral Essays My whole life I was wrong. I laboured under the illusion that I needed to be perfect. More beautiful. Thinner. My relationships harmonious. My […]
A Day Just For Me
“Rest and self-care are so important. When you take time to replenish your spirit, it allows you to serve others from the overflow. You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” ~Eleanor Brownn I’ve designated a day of rest. Today I have no agenda, no chores to do, and nowhere to be. I’ll leave the […]
Ten Ways to find ‘Me’ Time
“There comes a time when the world gets quiet and the only thing left is your own heart. So you’d better learn the sound of it. Otherwise you’ll never understand what it’s saying.” ~ Sarah Dessen, Just Listen No matter how committed we are the love and care of others, no matter how much is on our […]
Steps Towards Loving and Accepting Yourself
“Your problem is you’re … too busy holding onto your unworthiness.” ~ Ram Dass “Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” ~ Rumi Most of us believe that to be truly loved by another, their love […]
Saying No to Conditional Love
“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of […]
The Unworthiness Issue OR Why am I freaking out when things are finally going so well?
“It seemed so natural, receiving it, watching others receive it, assuming that the approval of others determined our worth. Then one day we found we couldn’t feel any worth without it. We’d forgotten that we were gifted in ways unimaginable, created with a unique purpose like no other, that people are hurting, that we beat […]
When you don’t know what you want…
“Even though there are no ways of knowing for sure, there are ways of knowing for pretty sure.” ~ Lemony Snicket Yesterday’s post was all about using your imagination to create a day designed around one thing – giving yourself emotional satisfaction and pleasure. I was thrilled with your responses – it’s such a fun game […]
Do Not Be Friends With Mean People!
“It is only the great hearted who can be true friends. The mean and cowardly can never know what true friendship means.”~ Charles Kingsley I spent some time with a little girl yesterday who is having a hard time with other girls being mean and bullying her at school. Madeline (I changed her name here, […]
Self Care isn’t Selfish
“Nourishing yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go is attainable, and you are worth the effort.” ~ Deborah Day A friend of mine has finally taken time out from her crazy over-giving-to-everyone-else-but-herself life to focus on her health. She’s run herself ragged, and her poor body […]
Ditch those Toxic Friends!
“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” ~ Wayne Dyer A woman I’ve known since school rang me in tears yesterday, totally confused about who she is, and what she is capable of. She’s depressed, lost and about to give up on a dream that once upon a time was […]
What to do when someone doesn’t like you
“You have people come into your life shockingly and surprisingly. You have losses that you never thought you’d experience. You have rejection and you have learn how to deal with that and how to get up the next day and go on with it.” ~ Taylor Swift I’ve had so many private messages about this […]
When is it okay to break a promise?
I take giving my word very seriously. Promises made are never made lightly, and since childhood I have rarely needed to break one. But I’m going to break one now. This isn’t information I’d normally share, but I have given so much thought to this that I felt my musings might be helpful to someone […]
Defining Your Priorities in Life
Life is short. Life is precious. And in our lives we need to be able to fit into a limited amount of time the things that will satisfy us, grow us, and make us happy. So many people that I know have this terrible sense of never having enough time, and never getting around to […]