Talking With Dead People

Ghost by mcnealy

Ghost by McNealy

“Now I know what a ghost is. Unfinished business, that’s what.” 
~ Salman Rushdie, The Satanic Verses

One of the first things I always tell new psychic clients (besides that I don’t do predictions, lotto numbers and other wishful, unempowering stuff – which my clients are all wised up on beforehand anyway) is that I don’t do past lives or dead people.

It’s not that I don’t believe in them. I do. In fact BELIEVE isn’t even the right word. They exist. Just like trees, the sun, the air we breathe. I often find past lives fascinating, but don’t tend to work with past lives because my focus is on helping you make the best of THIS lifetime.

Read more about a past life experience I worked with here – The Baby Who Needed to Speak

And dead people?

‘Dead people’ fall into two categories for me. There’s the deceased souls who are happily ensconced energetically in where ever that place is that we go after we cease existing here in the physical. Ancestors, dead relatives, friends. These are the souls that mediums often work with. Sometimes they come through for me, but it’s not work I seek. Just because we die doesn’t make us all seeing and all knowing. Dear old Aunt Martha may not be the best person to be advising you on your current career and life issues. I have other sources to draw on!

Then there’s the other category of ‘dead people’. These are the souls I call the ‘transitioning dead’. They are no longer in physical bodies, but for some reason they haven’t moved permanently into that peaceful place souls go when we repose between lives. There are many reasons for souls to be in that transitory place, and one of them is unfinished business. They feel that they can’t depart until certain things have been done or understood, by themselves or by people that they love.

Image by Neha Gupta

Image from Neha Gupta

Right now I have a transitioning Soul hanging out in my space. Not usually something I’d do. But I know they are taking comfort from being near me – a bit like finding a calm, safe place to anchor your boat and rest after weeks of stormy seas.

This person first turned up, the night before last, in my lounge room. I could see them suddenly materialise in front of me as I was (and now I must confess…) watching a Star Trek DVD. My dogs saw this person too. And there was this subtle pervasive smell (not unpleasant) that hasn’t left since.

My husband knew something was up. Both of us had goosebumps, and he said the colour drained from my face. I felt that too. It was quite a shock.

As I was watching this dead person appear in front of me Ben quietly turned off the TV and sat in the corner, calming the dogs, while I did my thing.

I’ve never met this person before. But a friend asked me if I could help one of their friends who’d lost someone they loved. And an hour before I’d done a healing meditation and offered up a prayer for those involved.

So, here I am. Dead person and me.

We’ve had several conversations in the past twenty-four hours. I’m learning a lot. About a lot of things. I’m taking the unusual step of holding this person in my space until they’ve finished what they need to do to allow them to transition.

Two things stand out for me, that I thought you might benefit from knowing.

The first is that this dead person’s mum has prayed for them, regularly and often, and the dead person says that they have felt every one of those prayers and the prayers have helped them come to a good place in themselves and to be calm and resolved.

The second is that the dead person was sure there would be a ‘hell’, and to their surprise, death is nothing like they’d feared or expected. ‘Hell’, they tell me, is our own thoughts and emotions, but outside that is only love. And this person’s mum, praying daily for their dead child, has helped for that connection back to love to happen.

That’s why this soul is still here now. And that’s why I’m helping them. Because it’s all about love. It’s always all about love.

If you’d like to read more about the enduring nature of love between the living and those who have passed over you might like these posts:

Alice’s Lifelong Invisible Friend

Smoke Alarms and Lost Souls

The Power of a Father’s Love

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Image from Myspace Things

18 thoughts on “Talking With Dead People

  1. Wow! I love hearing your feedback from your current companion Nicole; goose-bump stuff. So true that we create a hell for ourselves (In our heads). Its good to know about “love afterwards” and thanks for sharing X

    • The thing that moved me most was hearing about how through all of their pain and fear, they could hear their mother’s voice as she prayed for her lost adult child, and that gave them comfort, direction and ultimately helped them find their way again. Not what I was expecting, and I found that piece of information so incredibly soothing and reassuring. To know that it’s not only ‘God’ who hears our prayers. Wow.

  2. Wow, I have just read the other 3 posts. They call what you have a gift, but from what you go through, I just don’t know. It is a gift to everyone you help, but the draining emotion you go through, exhausting, I can’t even begin to imagine what it is like for you. But thank you, from all of us. Sending you so much love xox

  3. Very interesting post. I’ll have to tell my friend about it. She’s recently had ghosts hanging around her, so maybe this is why, except they haven’t actually talked to her yet.

  4. Dear Nicole, thanks for your kind words, great story and the inspiring work you do for us all. I have chosen the path of compassion and those last few years, on top of my passion (Feng Shui), my life has enabled me to work with our traditional owners/custodians and learn from them and the Land. I feel very humble and honoured. And yes, true, a ghost is unfinished business. Life is a great adventure. Keep sharing your wisdom, you contribute to make this place a better world. Thank you – Roseline Deleu

  5. Thank you for this blog Nicole, there are several reassuring messages contained in it. Your sharing means a lot to us. xox

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