Three In a Row!

“The best cure for insomnia is to get a lot of sleep.” 
W.C. Fields

This morning I’m celebrating a minor miracle at my house.

For the past three nights I have gone to bed, fallen asleep and then woken in the morning.

It’s been years (at least fifteen!) since I’ve had an uninterrupted night’s sleep, and I can’t think of the last time I had three in a row.

Usually I’ve found it hard to fall asleep because of pain. Or pain has woken me up. Or a bladder infection. Or both.

At my worst I was waking up hourly because of my bladder. And a good night meant that I’d get up maybe three times to pee.

The longest time I’d go between waking for any reason was maybe three hours.

And then this miracle happened.

Three nights where I have gone to bed, fallen asleep, slept all night, woke up in the morning.

I am finding it hard to explain how incredible this feels. How marvellous. How miraculous.

I went to bed and slept. Then I woke up and it was morning.

Actually, I’m crying now, writing this.

It’s amazing. Wow.

Dear Lymies and friends with seemingly intractable health problems, don’t ever give up. If it changes for me it can change for you too.

Biggest hugs, Nicole  xx

Will You Honour Your Own Needs This Weekend?

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“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.” 
~  Karl Lagerfeld

Hello, my lovelies!
I was reminded of something powerful yesterday, while attending this three-day professional development conference with Ben.

I know you’ll understand because it’s something that almost all intuitives and empaths have in common – we are polite to a fault, and we are so aware of the feelings and emotional states of other people that we put huge amounts of energy into making sure that others are okay.

Which is great. To a point. But sometimes in the caring for others and being attuned to their needs we neglect our own.

Let me give you an example.

I always make it a practice to talk to new people at events like these, and yesterday I struck up a conversation with a quiet and shy-looking woman near the coffee station.

I introduced myself, and then asked her how she was enjoying the day.

Out flooded a torrent of negativity. She was only here because her husband made her come. They’d travelled from Melbourne. She’d never been to Brisbane. She had no time in her life for anything like this. She hated her job. The traffic was terrible where she lived. She never got time for herself. And on it went.

On and on and on.

I’m sure many of you have found yourself in a similar situation, stuck in a corner with some negative Nellie at a family function or a work party or a gig you attended where you’d really wanted to enjoy yourself.

I’ve set myself a goal of finding a few people to mastermind with over this weekend. The only time we get to meet is in the breaks, and this woman was not someone I wanted to hang out with.

Normally polite Nicole would stay, listen, be empathetic and kind and reassuring. But then I’m not meeting my own needs, I’d be putting hers first. And this woman was dragging my energy down so fast it was like I’d been shot and was leaking life force all over the floor.

As soon as she drew breath I smiled. ‘I hope you can find something positive from the weekend. And if it all gets too much we’re surrounded by great shops and restaurants, so you could go exploring instead. Have a great day!’ After which I got myself out of there fast.

I honoured my own needs. I found some other people to talk with and soon I was enjoying myself again; learning, engaging and growing through more positive conversations.

This weekend will you be like that poor woman, doing something you don’t want to do or being someplace you don’t want to be? (I’ve been in her shoes – haven’t you!) How much better it would have been for her if she’d said no, or found a way to honour her own interests and needs while still supporting her man. Or if she’d found a way to make the most of her experience, even if it wasn’t her first choice. Being open-minded can open us up to extraordinary synchronicities and miracles.

If she’d stayed open-minded and it still sucked for her, there was a world waiting just outside the door. A city she’d never travelled to, and three days to fill!

How about you?

Can you say no this weekend? No to the things that you don’t want.

Can you say yes this weekend? Yes to the things that fulfil you and meet your own needs?

Can you walk away from situations that suck all the joy out of you, and put your own needs front at centre, or at least make them as important as everyone else’s?

I promise that the act of acknowledging what you want and making space for it starts a quiet revolution in your life. One that may well make you a much more happy and fulfilled person.

Wishing you a weekend filled with just what you need!

Biggest love and hugs, Nicole  xx

PS – That unhappy woman would really benefit from attending my upcoming Pop Up Shop and Events. At our Channelling and Guided Meditation Evening we’ll be discussing all kinds of ways to uplift, nurture and heal ourselves, and how to better manage anxiety and depression. Learning a foundation of spiritual practices at my Saturday workshop would give her a framework for self-awareness and a whole toolkit of methods for exploring who she is, what she needs and what life direction will make her soul sing At my Sunday workshop she could craft a meditation mala and then learn how to use it. With that mala around her neck she’d feel comforted and reassured, and she’d have a tool at her fingertips for affirmation, meditation, co-creation and transformation. My events run over the weekend of May 25-27 here in Brisbane, Australia. No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program and a beautiful selection of spiritual tools, crystals, singing bowls, jewellery, prayer shawls and more in my shop. More details here!

Are You Making Time To Learn And Grow?

“The best thing for being sad,” replied Merlin, beginning to puff and blow, “is to learn something. That’s the only thing that never fails. You may grow old and trembling in your anatomies, you may lie awake at night listening to the disorder of your veins, you may miss your only love, you may see the world about you devastated by evil lunatics, or know your honour trampled in the sewers of baser minds. There is only one thing for it then — to learn. Learn why the world wags and what wags it. That is the only thing which the mind can never exhaust, never alienate, never be tortured by, never fear or distrust, and never dream of regretting. Learning is the only thing for you. Look what a lot of things there are to learn.” 
T.H. White

Ben and I are off to attend a three-day conference today, as part of our professional development. Three big days of learning, discussing ideas, and meeting new people.

We make it a point to find a couple of learning events every year. Sometimes about business, sometimes about the state of the world, sometimes about health or culture or some other thing that piques our interest.

From worm farming to real estate investment to World War Two history to green smoothies to straw bale building technology we’ve dipped our toe in the water. Staying curious isn’t hard with such a smorgasbord of topics on offer.

Learning opens us up to new ways of thinking. It gives us fresh topics for discussion and it often triggers further searches for related information.

One of the wonders of our modern world is that learning is so accessible. Sure, we can travel in person to a conference or a lecture. But we can also live-stream an online summit, join a webinar or online course, attend a festival, watch a youtube video or TED talk, listen to an excellent radio program or podcast, join an online forum or mailing list, or read a book.

How about you?

Are you creating space for learning in your life? What is fascinating or deeply engaging you right now? I’d love to know, so let me know in the comments here or over on facebook.

Sending love your way, Nicole  xx

PS – Want to dip your toe in the water of my world? Come join me for our Channelling and Guided Meditation Evening, or for one of my workshops over the weekend of May 25-27 here in Brisbane, Australia. I’ll be teaching foundation spiritual practices, meditation and mala making. No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

Maybe It’s Time To Be More Fully You…

“Don’t compromise yourself – you’re all you have.” 
~  John Grisham

 

Be yourself. Be authentic.

It’s what everyone tells you.

In fact it’s totally hip to be authentic.

But how far should you go?

I’m creating a new website right now. My old one is awful – a static site I can’t change after my previous developers decided it wasn’t cool to have my ‘weird psychic self’ site come up first in searches for their company name at a time when they were heavily investing in representing large government departments and corporations. They gave me 24 hours to find a new host and booted me off so that they’d no longer be associated with me, because how embarrassing for them!

And this blog was never meant to be my main gig.

I’ve put off this whole new website thing anyway. It seemed a bit pointless to spend the money if I was going to croak it, which is a place I’ve danced around for years. My business is successful despite my awful website and total lack of branding.

But as my business is growing I need a website with functionality. Regardless of my varying health status, I’d rather have a new website. So last year I began this journey of ‘rebranding’. It’s a funny thing, building a website around yourself. You need to be able to say who you are, and to put that clearly out into the world.

I spoke to some trusted business colleagues and mentors first. People who are experts in the whole personal branding thing. People I know and care about.

Well, they all asked me, what is it that you do? You’ve got to be authentic and put that out there so others can find you.

Great, I said. I’m a psychic who…

No! You can’t say that, they all interrupted me.

Every single one of them advised me not to call myself a psychic. Psychics are strange and fluffy and lack credibility and are often just bogus. Also, I’ll alienate the whole Christian market, which is big, apparently. Especially in America. In fact some of my marketing friends told me that being a psychic is maybe not Christian and might also be that other thing. The Satan thing. Being a psychic is not cool. If anything it’s an affliction. Maybe I could call myself something else instead? Intuitive’s cool. Why not be intuitive?

Also, they advised me, just pick one thing. Don’t water down your message.

Okay. Great. Which one thing should I pick? I’ve got a rich and complex life happening here.

I’ve never been one of the ‘hip’ crowd. All the stuff I love is either so old or so out there that I am invisible, way at the front end of trends or following far behind. I trusted these people. So I spent all of last year trying to simplify myself and find less offensive words to describe myself.

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Meanwhile I was also working on my memoir, which is now in its final draft stages. And of course my memoir is all about a period in my life where I am going through this profound psychic awakening and needing to come to terms with that. You know some of that story already – from the time where I lived in the Kimberley and was helped by my Aboriginal Aunties.

I recently gave my draft to a few people to read. My well-meaning writing friends and business colleagues told me to tone it down. But all my tribe, the ones who get me, told me to ramp it up. To include more of me and my weirdness, not less.

The more I work on polishing up my memoir the more I see that my tribe are right. Thanks to all of you I’ve decided that I just can’t do it. I can’t pretend to be a watered-down version of myself just to make other people feel more comfortable. If I can’t be myself, how can I ever ask that of you?

I guess it’s because we all worry about being judged, rejected or ridiculed if we show our true selves – warts and all.

Here on my blog I am always myself. I don’t hide anything. I have shared it all – the psychic stuff, the health stuff, the ins and outs of my life. And you guys have come and stayed. Thank you.

I promise you I’ll keep being myself. I’ll just do it bigger, and with a website that can support me to support you better in your own journeys.

I’m not just intuitive. I’m psychic. And I won’t be ashamed of that or hide that anymore. It’s my truth.

What’s your truth? What are you hiding or diminishing within you for fear of being judged?

I promise you that the people who will ‘get’ you, and who are the ones worth hanging out with, will be eager for you to just be yourself. If you have to change yourself or hide yourself you’re running with the wrong crowd.

The world desperately needs more authenticity. Not the hip kind. The unhip kind. The kind that allows us to be ourselves despite that self not looking like what marketers, magazines or social media tells us we need to be.

Will you join me in just being yourself?

Hi, I’m Nicole. I’m a psychic, channel, metaphysical teacher and mentor, a business coach, a blogger who loves to cook, a late-stage Lyme warrior who often lives in pyjamas and who favours gumboots and slippers for footwear ( although gumboots are better for dancing on the farm), and a writer who can’t stop writing, reading and acquiring more books.

How about you? I’d love to get to know you more. Feel free to drop me a comment below, or come visit me on facebook. Be yourself, and know I’ll love you for it!

Biggest hugs, Nicole  xx

Let’s Talk About What Forgiveness Really Means

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“There is great change to be experienced once you learn the power of letting go. Stop allowing anyone or anything to control, limit, repress, or discourage you from being your true self! Today is YOURS to shape – own it – break free from people and things that poison or dilute your spirit.” 
Steve Maraboli

 

The energies of this week support forgiveness, and that was what I blogged about yesterday. After which was I inundated with people messaging me to tell me they could NEVER forgive…

So today’s post is about defining forgiveness, so that perhaps you might reconsider that position.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines forgiveness below:

Definition of forgive

forgave play \fər-ˈgāv, fȯr-\; forgiven play \fər-ˈgi-vən, fȯr-\; forgiving

1: to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) : pardon 

  • forgive one’s enemies
2a : to give up resentment of or claim to requital (see requital 1) for 

  • forgive an insult
b : to grant relief from payment of 

  • forgive a debt

In the middle of a discussion on my facebook page my wise friend Amy Williams wrote

‘I looked up the definition of forgiveness a few months ago because I couldn’t get my head around it. Hearing “can you forgive me?” always made it seem to me that forgiveness was letting the other person off the emotional hook and I was amazed to read that it’s defined as being the act of not feeling bad feelings in yourself any more. It’s for you, not them.’

Forgiving doesn’t mean you approve of or condone a behaviour. Forgive doesn’t mean forget. Forgive means you take the sting out of it. You can’t change it so you stop putting energy into it. For your sake!

You let go of anger and pain and resentment and disappointment. It means that you will no longer give effort to events or people around the areas where you are now hurting. Forgiveness helps you move to a neutral place emotionally and from there you can heal and move forward. It’s not about other people, it’s about you being able to close that door and move on. And yes, sometimes that means forgiving yourself too.

If thinking about a person, situation or event still brings up rage, resentment, anger, pain, hurt, humiliation, worthlessness or any of those other lower vibration emotions, or if you still get triggered unexpectedy into those emotions it might be worth a rethink on your position on forgiveness just so you can set yourself free.

Think of it like cutting energetic cords with the past. You don’t deny or condone the events, but you disconnect yourself from that endless feedback loop of pain. The events of the past lose their power over you. Which gifts you emotional release and a new sense of freedom.

Need a Ritual to Invoke Forgiveness?

Sometimes we benefit from ritual to make the act of forgiveness more meaningful to us. Try this and see if it helps you.

  1. Gather together a candle and matches, a ceramic, metal or glass bowl, a photo or symbolic image of the person or event you wish to forgive, or the name of the event or situation written on a piece of paper.
  2. Light the candle, and stand before it for a moment with your hands in prayer pose, which activates your heart chakra.
  3. Say a small prayer or words of intention that everything you do be for the highest good of all.
  4. Take some deep, slow calming breaths.
  5. Hold the image of the person/event/named-piece-of-paper in your hands.
  6. Hold it out in front of you, muster your sincerity and say “I release you now. This no longer has energetic claim upon me. I release you with Love and Light. I forgive you. I wish you and all things well. And it is done.”
  7. Burn the paper in your fireproof bowl. As this is done visualise or imagine many tiny silver cords easily releasing from your body. Feel yourself come back into a place where the energy is yours alone.
  8. Breathe in white light until your entire body is filled with white light.Then finish by saying “I reclaim my sovereign power. It is so.”
  9. When you are ready, extinguish the candle. Feel that final link disconnect as you put out that flame. Feel the finality of your ritual.
  10. Gift yourself some quiet time for re-integration.

I hope that helps.

Thinking of you and sending much love, Nicole  xx

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10 Ways To Be Kind to Yourself

There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.  ~ Brian Andreas

Mostly when we think of kindness, we think of how we can act towards others. But today I want to focus on another equally important type of kindness – that which we extend to ourselves.

Too often we forget ourselves in the hurry and bustle of the year, and many sensitive souls get so busy looking after others that they forget to look after themselves at all.

Why not let 2018 be your year of aware self-care?

Here are ten simple acts of kindness you can give as gifts to yourself:

1.  Eat well – a simple, nourishing home-cooked meal eaten slowly and with appreciation – to replenish your body and comfort your soul. If there’s no time for cooking, have some healthy take-out options already thought through so that you don’t succumb to junk. (Pictured below is my Easy Kale and Orange Salad with Miso Dressing)

2.  Say no when you’re too tired.  No-one can run on adrenalin forever.  Honour your feelings and your own needs. Listen to your heart. Let yourself rest.  Replenish those batteries.  * Good advice here:  Are you too nice? 

3. Indulge in some self-maintenance.  Get your hair cut, have a massage, update your wardrobe or make that appointment with the doctor or dentist. For more info try 8 Ingredients for Better Health

4. Move your body! We were designed to move, and exercise is good for the body, mind and spirit. Choose an activity or sport that you enjoy, or simply go for a walk.

5.  Read a book.  Self-help, romance, educational, escapism, fantasy or non-fiction.  Reading is a wonderful way to take some time for yourself, to relax or to give yourself a mental stretching session.

6.  Make time for the things that you enjoy.  Indulge your hobbies, and connect with like-minded people who share your interests.

7.  Spend some real time with people (and creatures) you love!  Friends, family, pets – everyone who loves us and who makes us feel good about ourselves.  Social isolation is an insidious thing – facebook and texting can’t make up for that special energy of meeting up face to face for love, hugs, and laughs.

8.  Spend a little time dreaming…  Dreams aren’t just for kids.  Everybody needs a dream.  Try this great journalling activity: Writing Yourself into a Brighter Future

9.  Hang out in nature.  Spend the day or a week! Feel the sun at your back, the wind in your hair, the rain on your skin. Let nature fill you up and get you grounded again. Read more here: The Healing Power of Nature

10.  Ask for help.  Sometimes we just can’t do it on our own.  And sometimes we just don’t know what to do or where to start. On the days when we’re wrung out and hanging on by our fingernails, there will be someone out there who cares and is in a place where they can extend that guidance and support to you.  Asking for help is one of the greatest acts of kindness we can give ourselves. There’s more on this here: Sometimes your only job is to ask for help

You are worthy, beautiful, and you deserve love and kindness. Most of all, you need it from yourself.  The way we treat ourselves sets the tone in the wider Universe for how we expect to be treated. And our expectations have a way of manifesting…  Choose kindness!

Bless.

Much love, Nicole ♥ xx

I Have A Favour To Ask You

“When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him. In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.” 
~  Albert Camus

If you read my Welcome to March post you’ll remember that this month is all about relationships and being committed to what matters to us.

Energetically we’ve just gone through a few weeks with solar flares and planetary alignments creating situations where many of us have faced challenges or have needed to face or address problems in our lives.

I know you will have felt it, as all of you here in our Cauldrons and Cupcakes community are intuitive, empathic and sensitive, which is why we get along and understand each other so well.

So my friends, here’s my weekend challenge to you, based on how you’re feeling. Choose the option that suits you best. And yes, you can choose more than one.

  1. Phone a friend or relative to touch base, say hi and check on how they’re doing. This is especially important if they have ongoing issues or if something has happened recently or a while ago in their lives. The world has a short attention span and often only offers support and caring in the first five minutes of an event. Be that voice of kindness at the end of a phone line.
  2. Catch up with some loved ones or friends. Go for a coffee. Ask them around to your place and have them bring a plate to share. Go bowling or to a movie together. Hang out in each others company and catch up on each others news. Yes, this includes your partner and kids! And maybe your pet needs some attention too 🙂
  3. Spend some time on something that matters to you and that will refill your tanks. Alone or in a group – whatever it is that you most need right now.
  4. If you’re the one feeling wrung out or fragile reach out to someone. Phone a family member or friend, join a support group or make an appointment to get some help from a professional. You don’t have to do this alone.
  5. Do something that makes you feel alive. Dancing, travelling, laughing, gardening, surfing. Something new. An old favourite you don’t have enough time for anymore.
  6. Connect up. Use prayer, meditation or your favourite spiritual practices to connect into the comfort and wisdom of your Higher Self, Guides, Angels, God, Nature or whatever is your faith.

We’re all in this crazy life together, and it’s our togetherness that will get us through.
biggest hugs and love, Nicole xoxo

Sorry You Missed Me Yesterday…

 

“Persistence and resilience only come from having been given the chance to work through difficult problems.” ~ Gever Tulley

I was intending to blog yesterday, and then I couldn’t.

Early on Monday morning I was strapped into a heart monitor and holder for twenty-four hours, and while I was wired I had to stay away from my cell phone, computers and major electrical devices.

I’m okay. Please don’t worry. Over time lyme and other infections have damaged my heart, and after a recent episode of tachycardia and a few miss-beats one of my doctors thought it prudent to investigate a little further. For me that’s pretty much business as usual. There are always background things going on with my health, I just don’t focus on them or talk about them very much.

Two things I am grateful for in this ongoing saga that is my health:

  1. All of the hardship in my life has made me resilient. I know that whatever happens in life I can cope, adapt, manage, and in many cases thrive anyway.
  2. Meditation is my rock, and one of the major factors in me managing my day-to-day circumstances with grace and ease. (Mostly. Some days are still tears and bother!)

I had a lovely time offline. My Spiritual Awakening Retreat starts next Tuesday, so I put together the bags for the participants, undid my latest crystal grid in the back yard and washed the stones and allocated them for my students, assembled the materials for some of the spiritual tools we’ll make for our personal toolkits and baked up a storm in the kitchen – trialling recipes for Easter.

I’ve discovered that as long as you can manage pain (medications and meditation are great for this, or counselling and meditation if your pain is emotional) you can cope with and adapt to just about anything.

No matter what’s going on for you right now, know that you can do this. You can manage, you can cope, you can get through, you can find a way. I believe in you and in your own enduring resilience and spirit.

Sending you wind for your wings, and very big hugs, Nicole❤ xx

Checking In On You

“Are you okay?” ~ Popular movement

Hello, Lovelies.

This morning in my meditation (and I always include you in my morning meditation) I felt the loneliness some of you feel, and your yearning to have someone to connect with.

So, today I’ve made a pot of tea, and gathered some tasty treats and put a table for us out under the jacaranda tree.

Come sit with me a while, and tell me all about your week. Tell me your troubles. Tell me your hopes and dreams. Tell me about your success and your failures. Let’s laugh a little and maybe even cry a little.

That’s what friends are for.

Today I’m checking in on you, to ask if you’re okay and to see what’s going on in your life.

You’re always in my thoughts. I believe in you and your dreams. You can do this, and get through this. I love you, hang in there, Nicole   xx

The restorative power of deep rest

A primitive type of jellyfish called Cassiopea, which goes to sleep nightly, is seen on the floor of their tank at Caltech in Pasadena, California, U.S. in this image released on September 20, 2017. Courtesy Caltech/Handout via REUTERS

“It’s in the morning, for most of us. It’s that time, those few seconds when we’re coming out of sleep but we’re not really awake yet. For those few seconds we’re something more primitive than what we are about to become. We have just slept the sleep of our most distant ancestors, and something of them and their world still clings to us. For those few moments we are unformed, uncivilized. We are not the people we know as ourselves, but creatures more in tune with a tree than a keyboard. We are untitled, unnamed, natural, suspended between was and will be, the tadpole before the frog, the worm before the butterfly. We are for a few brief moments, anything and everything we could be. And then…and then — ah — we open our eyes and the day is before us and … we become ourselves.” 
Jerry Spinelli

 

Don’t you just love the image of the sleeping jellyfish? It’s the sort of whimsical possibility my mind constantly entertained when I was a child, although I never imagined that they might sleep upside down!

I was lying on my acupuncturist’s treatment table yesterday as he felt my pulse and tut-tutted in his mad professor way at the energies within my body, the colour and texture of my tongue and his many other diagnostic tools. He knew it. I know it. The past couple of weeks of family illnesses and drama have exhausted me.

Hmmm, he said. Deep rest. That’s what you need. Deep rest, and rice and beans and sprouts. Warm foods. Warm liquids. No stimulants. No spices. Deep rest. Sleep.

I know he’s right. A good deep rest now and I’ll be back to normal. For me, deep rest is not just sleeping. It’s also quiet time. Time pulled back from the needs and demands of others. Time stepped back from work and busy-ness.

The alternative? I’ve been down that path, and I know you have too. In fact, I know some of you are walking it right now. That’s the path of pushing. We’re tired but we keep getting up. We’re exhausted but we fill ourselves with caffeine or sugar or both, and we force ourselves to keep on going. We bribe ourselves, pep-talk ourselves, bully ourselves and trash-talk ourselves to get our bodies upright and responsive. We push, push, push. And then we break.

All the while we think that we are okay to keep going. We’re not. We’re barely in our bodies. We’re drunk on lack of sleep. Our innovation and enthusiasm, our ability to bounce back, to laugh it off, to create with joy – all of that is missing.

It can be found again through deep rest.

That’s what I’m doing right now, and will be for the next few days. I’m doing a disservice to myself and to you if I don’t.

Today I’m asking you if you’re okay. Do you need to rest? Do you need to step back for a moment? We can’t help others sustainably nor keep on creating if we are not looking after ourselves first. The energies of 2018 do not support push in any form. If you’re pushing, it won’t be working. Look for another way. Your best solution is most likely to be taking a break, refreshing yourself, and then starting again.

Gentle hugs and much love, Nicole  xx