The Importance of Solitude

“Our language has wisely sensed these two sides of man’s being alone. It has created the word “loneliness” to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word “solitude” to express the glory of being alone.” 
~  Paul TillichThe Eternal Now

 

We’re on Retreat right now, walking a path of meditation and contemplation. I promised to share some simple wisdoms and activities from retreat, so today I’d like to focus on the human need for solitude. As much as we need companionship and community, we also need alone time. This time on our own enables us to think deeply about our life, our problems and opportunities, our relationships and our work. Alone time quietens us and reduces our stress, allowing us to come back to the world refreshed. It makes room for the kind of deep listening that brings us answers and inspiration. It deepens our intuition. And it provides space for learning and healing.

Many of us in the modern world have lost touch with our need for regular periods of solitude. We have become overwhelmed by busy-ness and an avalanche of consumerism and trivial information.

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One of my guides, Silith, offered this advice for helping us to come back to a place of peace and connection with her ‘Three Useful Cures for Nearly Everything’:

  1. Walking – Walking is essential to our health and well-being. Humans evolved as walkers, and walking puts us into a natural meditative state. Walking promotes healthy digestion and strong immunity, and gifts us time for thinking and integration of new ideas and change.
  2. Time in nature, alone. When we spend time in nature our body relaxes, and we are able to ground any excess of positive ions. Nature replenishes our spirit and gives us the deep quiet we need for listening to our own answers and inner guidance, as well as tuning our intuition in to any spiritual guidance or direction. This could be time in parks, natural spaces or wilderness, but it can also be time spent in your garden.
  3. Sleep. Sleep is an important time of solitude. Most of us don’t get enough of it. Turn off the wifi and all screens at bed time. Sleep in a cool and well ventilated bedroom that is dark and quiet. Have a comfortable bed and a good pillow.

 

We need to make sure we balance the busy with the quiet, for ourselves and for our children too. If you feel called to spend more time in solitude, trust that calling. We seek solitude whenever we need healing, or because we are incubating the energy to make a profound change in our lives, or are bringing new ideas and projects into being.

What can you do this week to find more time for solitude?

Sending much love your way, Nicole  xx

Breakthroughs Ahead! – Monday Oracle September 25 2017

A single day is enough to make us a little larger or, another time, a little smaller.
~ Paul Klee

Hello, Lovelies!

If you read my forecast for September, you’ll know that it’s a month of possibility and expansive energy, of change and curiosity, and of starting small projects that may take a long time, but that we care about deeply. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts which the oracle card Recovery brings us.

So, what awareness does Recovery bring us this week?

This is a card of hope, heralding a time of intense healing, breakthroughs, self-discoveries and, for some, the need to answer a personal calling.

Got a problem? Recovery reassures you there are solutions and that the best way to deal with your problem is to stop going it alone and seek someone who has successfully walked the same hard road that you now struggle with. This week, find a mentor, a teacher, a counsellor, expert, therapist, course or coach. Walk that hard road with their guidance.The best criteria for choosing someone to work with? They’ve travelled the road ahead of you and are now in a better place – or they are deeply experienced in bringing positive results to someone in your situation and have a track record of success. How do you find the right person? Ask questions, use word of mouth, look for evidence of good results, trust that the right kind of help can show up in your life.

There’s no need to reinvent the wheel. Why make life harder for yourself than it has to be? This week use someone else’s system, knowledge, road map.

It’s also a great week for deep thinking and reflection, journalling and self-work. Ask, and expect answers. Even more, expect to gain understanding and knowledge so that you can make lasting change in your life.

For a select few this is also a week where you will feel stirred to answer a calling. You see, you will be the one who blazed the trail and survived the hard journey. If that’s you, it’s time to use that experience to help guide and support others. You can be the teacher, healer, guide or author that you wished you’d been able to find for yourself.

Supportive crystals this week?

Smoky Quartz keeps us grounded and gifts us inner strength and the ability to listen deeply. Fuchsite  taps us in to the healing power of nature, and helps us to rediscover optimism. Moss Agate helps us navigate shift and opens us to change. Rose Quartz is a stone of love and nurture – the crystal world equivalent of a great big reassuring hug, a soothing cup of tea and a best friend to hold your hand through life’s decisions and challenges. 

Here are those stones (as well as some Kimberley Fire Quartz) in the grid we’ve made for our Temple of Light Retreat that I’m facilitating this week:

Helpful essential oils?

Each of the following oils will work beautifully on their own for you this week, but they also make a delicious combination for diffusing. Frankincense elevates our mood and promotes spiritual connection and intuition, Basil enhances focus and mental clarity,  Lavender supports us emotionally and gifts us calm and a sense of relaxation and safety, and Orange for joy, gratitude and optimism. To diffuse add 2 or three drops of each oil to your room or personal diffuser. You can find the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Recovery’, is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

 

Feeling Tired Or A Bit Emotionally Wobbly?

“Where there is ruin, there is hope for a treasure.” 
~  Jalaluddin Rumi

 

How are you feeling, lovelies? Are you travelling okay?

It’s rather a fierce week, this week. And so was the week we’ve just had. Lots of solar flares, and a few polar shifts thrown in.

All this astrological and ecological phenomena can be quite disturbing for sensitive and empathic people. What makes us sensitive – that ability to feel and sense energies and information that might not be so readily apparent to others – is also the thing that can make us more vulnerable to influence by the energetic shifts and changes of our solar system.

We may experience a sudden draining of our energy, feel heavy and fatigued, or ache as though we are coming down with the flu. We may find that we feel depressed or anxious for no reason, or that our sleep patterns are disrupted. We may feel unbalanced, not quite in our body, suffer from headaches or fuzzy thinking, or be irrational, teary, angry or upset – once again with no apparent cause.  We may become highly over-sensitive – to foods, people, weather, noise and light. We might decide that our ideas suck, that we suck, that the whole situation sucks…

But lovelies, it’s a phase and that phase will pass. Right now the solar flares are making the earth’s crust charged with positive ions rather than the usual negative ones. That makes it hard for us to ground. We become like sleep-deprived toddlers, incapable of clear thought or reason as all of the positive charged ions we naturally build up in us by thinking, living and interacting with computers and electrical devices suddenly has no good way to clear our system.

There are several practical things you can do to ride out the energies of this week (which finish up in the early hours of Friday – thank goodness!):

  • standing or soaking in water will help – so think baths or foot soaks with a handful of sea salt or epsom salts, or a swim or paddle in the closest river, ocean or lake.
  • staying well hydrated, especially with electrolytes
  • using magnesium orally or topically
  • good crystals to wear or carry include hematite, red jasper and black tourmaline
  • for emotional distress use carnelian and moonstone
  • eat lots of grounding root vegetables, such as potato, onions, garlic, radish, sweet potato, carrots, beetroot, turnips and parsnips
  • set clear boundaries and avoid situations and people who tax or distress you
  • essential oils will also help; geranium for emotional comfort and clarity, frankincense for energetic connection and to stabilise your intuitive abilities and sensitivities, lavender as a soother for frazzlement – I also love Young Living’s Peace and Calming blend at times like these, to ease me into sleep and keep me rested
  • avoiding an excess of sugar and caffeine

This image by www.eatingbyelaine.com – go check out her page – lots of yumminess there!

The good news? It’s a powerful week for honouring our instincts and getting clear about what matters to us. This week trust your instincts and let them guide you – above using your mind (which may be fried!) or your intuition (which is a combination of heart and mind – cos mind fried!). You’ll find that living instinctively brings you great clarity and direction. In fact, if you tap into your instinctive energy this week you’ll find that you can reach those breakthroughs that you’ve been seeking and not finding using all your other usual methods.

Not sure how to use your instincts to navigate life? I covered it all in yesterday’s blog.

 

Above all, be kind to yourself this week. Live gently and sustainably if you are feeling a little wobbly, and know that this will pass. It’s not you. You’re not going crazy. You’re just a sensitive soul – which is a GOOD thing. You can do this, and the benefits of tuning in instinctively will help you to truly understand yourself and what best serves you and your life path.

Sending so much love your way,

Nicole ❤ xx

Music For Dinner

“Music expresses that which cannot be put into words and that which cannot remain silent” 
~  Victor Hugo

 

Last night we were so churned. We couldn’t eat. We couldn’t sleep. After a while we turned off the lights and lay in the dark, side by side, dogs snuggled up beside us, and we played music until our hearts were full.

All the feelings we couldn’t put into words floated up and out of us, carried away on the voices of artists and instruments.

Something happened there in the dark, as the music wrapped around us. All the worry emptied out. Peace came.

And then we slept.

Our August Meditation Stones Winner

“Heaven is under our feet as well as over our heads.” 
~  Henry David Thoreau

 

I was moved to tears by many of your entries into the August competition. Thank you for trusting me with your stories and your sharings.

After much deliberation, the winner of the August Meditation Stones and personalised meditation giveaway is…

DANNE SARING

Congratulations, Danne! Can you please contact Chelsi at chelsi@cauldronsandcupcakes.com with your contact details? I’ll need to touch base with you so that I can create your very own guided meditation to use with the stones.

And Jo, who won July’s stones – know that your two stones have been programmed just for you and are sitting in a grid for just a few more days before we pack them up and send them off to you.

Meanwhile I have chosen two more beautiful meditation stones for September. You use both stones together, and as part of the month’s prize I will again record a personal guided meditation just for the winner! I’ll give you details about these September stones and how to win them on Thursday September 7.

I want you to know that I’ve added all of the August competition participants to my daily healing meditations and said a prayer for each of you.

I’ll be giving away a set of stones every month between now and December, so there are still more chances for you to win.

Biggest love and hugs to all of you, Nicole   xoxo

Is this life of mine my fault?

“If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.”
~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Lovelies, I received a very thought-provoking question recently in regard to the quote from Rainer Maria Rilke at the top of this post, and I wanted to address it here on my blog. Like many things in life there is no simple answer, and as it is a question I have asked myself over and over again in this lifetime I wanted to share my response.

Here’s the excellent question:

Good morning,
Mine is a question Nicole that troubles me.
I always love the captions/snippets from other writers under your lovely images and this morning’s starts with ” if your daily life seems poor don’t blame it” 
My question is how does this fit with all the poor souls born into or find themselves in shocking conditions they have no control over such as absolute poverty, war, famine, abusive families?
How have they created this? How can it possibly be their fault?
These questions have troubled me because they don’t seem to fit into the positive thinking or “ask and it shall be given” brackets. Can your guides help with some clarity here ?
Thank you for your blogs, they have been part of my day for years now.
Elle xx

As many of you know my life has had its share of troubles, pain and obstacles. When I was young and idealistic I thought that this suffering was unfair. Why did I have these problems when friends of mine seemed to be floating along on a cloud of joy, love, support and happiness?

But looking into the window of the life of another never truly tells you what is going on. I have found, through life experience and in my decades of working as a psychic and mentor, that all of us have troubles and many of these are invisible to those around us.

Throughout my life, in an attempt to heal, I have also explored every possible avenue including much time spent in trying to undo, rectify or heal any wrong-doing, thought or action I may have taken that may have led to my suffering.

Goodness, how mean I have been to myself – blaming myself for my circumstances and believing that this suffering was all my fault.

War, famine, drought, accidents, random acts of violence and horror, abusive relationships, terrible illnesses. Did we sign up for these? Much of the New Age movement would have us think so. Works such as the book ‘You can heal your life’ and the philosophy of the Law of Attraction make it easy to buy into the concept that any problems or suffering in our lives are a direct result of our karma, our thoughts and our attitudes. Perhaps we even chose suffering as part of our ‘contract’ in coming here to this life.

I have seen the dramatic recent rise of shaming of people who actually need our empathy and support – people with issues as diverse as addictions, autistic children, staying in a marriage with a partner who has mental health issues, cancer, chronic illness, depression, or displacement from their country due to war. Human kindness is too often replaced by judgement from those fortunate enough to not be in the same circumstances. Rise up, they say. Change your thoughts. Juice vegetables. Go vegan. Wear a crystal. Parent better. Use less chemicals. Make different choices. Have more discipline. Heal your past lives!

(Want to read more on this theme? My Sad Unicorns post covers this ‘dangerous magical thinking’ problem in detail.)

I’ve seen mothers told that their young children’s illness is the result of past-life religious transgressions. I’ve listened as people have judged someone with cancer for having caused it by not having a clean lifestyle. Yes, it’s true that there are lifestyle factors involved with many illnesses, including cancer. But that’s not the whole picture. I’ve watched friends who are vegans, vegetarians, yoga instructors – every possible thing that you could consider the epitome of a healthy, anti-cancer chemical-free loving and natural lifestyle be struck down and taken by cancers, savagely and fast.

Dear Elle, yours is an excellent question, and this is what I believe. Life is difficult and wonderful and dangerous and fraught with risk. Things happen for which we will never find a reason. People in power make decisions that affect millions. Accidents and mistakes happen. Weather patterns change. Our genetics hands us a bad card or wild one. Illnesses occur and we don’t yet have the science to interpret and understand them fully. And none of that is our fault. If we look wider we see that this is also true for plants and animals and places. No-one and nothing is immune to suffering, desecration, destruction or death.

So what does that have to do with Rainer Maria Rilke’s quote? I think this quote is more about how we cope with life’s suffering than our thoughts as a causative agent of that suffering. I believe that there is one thing we do have control over. We can choose how we feel, how we react, what we think. In even the most difficult of lives we can find tiny windows of calm, of nurture, of beauty, and small moments of grace and gratitude. That is one of the gifts of suffering – it can promote mindfulness and with mindfulness comes an opportunity to mentally lift ourselves out of impossible pain and hardship for a short while. It gifts us resilience, and meaning and a way to endure.

I hope that helps,

Much love, Nicole xx

Win Our August Meditation Crystals!

“It is more important to go slow and gain the lessons you need along the journey then to rush the process and arrive at your destination empty.” 
~  Germany Kent

All this month I have been very busy meditating with two carefully chosen meditation stones – an Anchoring Stone and a Connection Stone. These pairs are also known as ‘Mother Earth Father Sky’ stones. The stones work together, and are both held as you meditate – one in each hand.

 As I meditate with these stones each day for the month of August I work with the intent that they will hold energies in a way that can be transferred to the user. As part of the month’s prize I will record a personal guided meditation to accompany the stones so that you can be sure how to use them.

Let me introduce the stones to you.

The first stone is petrified wood from Longreach. My maternal grandfather was born at Longreach, and it’s a very important place to me. It’s a place of wide open skies, sunshine, fresh air and that feeling of timelessness and ancient grounded energy. I found this crystal on one of my early morning walks. It is this month’s Anchoring Stone – anchoring stones help us to stay grounded, clear and calm, connecting into our bodies, and to the earth and nature.

Here’s where I found it, half buried in the dust, still cold from the night’s transit:

The energies and intention I am infusing into this Longreach Petrified Wood are that the holder moves from pain and fear to calm and acceptance of all that is. That the many layers of old thoughts, feelings and hurts fall away, leaving only love and wisdom. It is also a stone for calling in Guides and Ancestors to watch over you. It will reduce inflammation and promote circulation. It feels so comforting in my hand, and I know you’ll find it a comfort too.

The second stone is the Connection Stone, and it is a delicious rough Smoky Citrine Phantom Quartz that I found in the river bed behind our house. Connection stones connect us to Universal energy, as well as to Angels, Guides, Ancestors and our own wise soul energy.

This special crystal treasure holds energies of the volcanic cradle that is Byron Bay, and it will help you to shed old patterns and ways of being so that you can come into deeper alignment with your true self. It’s a stone of emotional healing and spiritual awakening.

The Smoky Citrine Phantom Quartz is protective and promotes joy. It’s also a stunning stone for connecting you to past life wisdom and to creative ideas that are waiting to be brought forth through you.

The energy of these two natural Australian stones is very strong and clear, and they compliment each other very well.

Instructions on how to win these stones:

Do one of any of the following;

  1. Write a comment on this post, explaining why you want to win these stones
  2. Post a comment on our facebook page, explaining why you want to win these stones
  3. Post a comment on your facebook page and tag us in (use @cauldronsandcupcakes and @nicolecody)
  4. Post a picture on Instagram with the hashtag #CandCAugustRocks and in your description explain why you want to win these stones
  5. Send us an email to chelsi@cauldronsandcupcakes.com explaining why you want to win these stones

This competition closes on September 4th at 8pm Brisbane time, and I’ll announce the winner on September 5th.

I’ll be giving away a set of stones every month between now and December, so there are plenty of chances for you to win.

Biggest love and hugs to all of you, Nicole   xoxo