Love and Devotion Look Like This

“Rather than remain a sealed jar, she sought only to pour herself out to others. Everything she did mirrored her faith. It was as though every waking hour of the day she was devoted to pleasing her God by serving others. This God that she worshiped consumed her. It didn’t ask for a brief visit to a temple, or a small votive offering of food or coin, or a few prayers every now and then. This God wanted all of her.” 
~  Francine Rivers

 

I don’t prepare for retreats the way that many other people do.

My priorities are different.

I am not thinking about funnels, or marketing, or what my hook is. I’m not calculating break-evens or what to sell you next.

No.

I am thinking about your soul. I am creating and holding space for you. I am placing you on a mala that I make with my own hands – choosing a bead for you, on which I will pray and meditate twice a day. I am choosing and preparing crystals for you, cleansing them and channelling their purpose and energies. I walk our rural property, creating grids of stones among the trees, or choosing stones from previous grids, some of them from years ago, but whose energies are important for the work we will do together. I am ensuring that your tools will best support you and your growth. I am honouring your spiritual journey. I am preparing the materials. I am crafting your experience. I am devoting myself to the journey, and to taking you with me to a place of transformation.

There are endless hours spent in this crafting, before we even come together. During our retreat I am yours. I pour myself entirely into the process. And I continue to do so once our event is over and you are navigating your way back into the wider world again. It is an honour and a great responsibility to be entrusted with your care.

Long after we part I will still be praying and meditating for you, sending you energy, wishing you well, night-flying to visit you and keep company a while.

I can’t do it any other way. I must give my whole self to this.

This is what it is to follow your heart, to follow a calling, to live with devotion.

I’m so grateful for this life,

Nicole  xoxo

My Kind of Happiness – Mystical Crystals

 

“Live what you love and what you love will fill your life.” 
~  Jodi Livon

Many years ago when I lived in the Kimberley – that wild outback corner of remote Western Australia – my Aboriginal Aunties showed me how to make stones sing, and how to infuse them with the energies of plants and places.

I’ve put that knowledge to good use this past few months as I have prepared crystals for my final two retreats of the year.

Yesterday I walked our farm here in Byron Bay, digging up crystals that have sat beneath trees and significant plants as the sun and moon have transitted overhead for many months. The crystals are all natural beauties, and now they hold qualities beyond their original energies – just like my students will soon, when we have finished our retreat together.

Today’s task is to write in each journal I will gift my students, adding a photograph of the plant under which their stones have come into their additional qualities, and an explanation of what those energies are.

It’s a labour of love that will take many hours, but I have ample tea and my little farmhouse has been transformed into a workstation for stones and books and bags and other gifts and tools we shall use together on this next retreat, which begins on Saturday.

There are many other things in store for my participants, but I shan’t disclose them here because I don’t want to ruin the surprises! This retreat is my Temple of Light – a shamanic guided meditation retreat, and one of my favourite and most transformative meditation techniques ever.

Our final retreat will be in Byron Bay, Australia, from Saturday 25 November to Friday 1 December – a delicious week of Working With Crystals, where I’ll be teaching you how to connect, heal, create, infuse, grid, program, meditate and make magic with crystals. This is the first time I will have shared most of this information. I’ll be teaching the sorts of things you can’t learn from books, the sorts of things that have been passed to me by other Elders, and of course my Aunties. It’s a very Soul Sanctuary affair, this final retreat of the year, full of learning but also of rest and rejuvenation energies. So there will also be time for beach swims and little adventures in Byron Bay and some pool time in our bright summer sun. And yes, it’s suitable for total beginners as well as advanced practitioners.

Perhaps you’d like to join us? If so, please email my wonderful PA, Dana, at nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com

We’re in the final madness that is retreat prep right now, so Dana won’t be able to send you information until early next week, but we know this final retreat for 2017 – like all my retreats – will fill up very fast, and we will send information to our list in the order we have received it – ie first come, first served.

Meanwhile, I must get back to my stones and journal work.

Sending love and blessings to you all, Nicole  xx

 

How to Do a Birthday Tarot Or Oracle Spread

“A wonderful gift may not be wrapped as you expect.” 
~ Jonathan Lockwood Huie

 

Every year, on the day of my birthday or sometime soon after, I do a Birthday Spread – an oracle or tarot card reading for myself for the year ahead. A ‘spread’ is simply a layout of cards, and I have done a Birthday Spread for myself every year for the past 25 years. I will also sometimes do them on a friend or family member’s birthday, as a little gift for them.

The picture above is of the cards I chose for this – my fiftieth year – as I sat in a favourite coffee shop, drinking chai latte and writing in my journal. The cards I am using are the Green Witch Tarot, which are my chosen personal deck of cards for 2017.

I use the Birthday Reading to gift myself direction, clarity, inspiration and guidance for the year ahead. It’s a very easy thing to do, and a meaningful way to spend time with yourself, reflecting in your life and on your coming year.

Make sure to use a deck with pictures that really speak to you.

Here’s how you can do your own Birthday Reading:

Take your chosen oracle or tarot cards, offer up a small prayer that whatever you do be for your Highest Good, and then shuffle the deck. As you’re shuffling, ask the question ‘What wisdom can guide and grow me well this coming year?’ Say it out loud or hold it as a thought in your head. Either will work.

Choose three cards. How you choose is up to you. Split the deck. Fan them out. Top or bottom. Dive right in. There is no right or wrong.

Place your cards face down in front of you, from left to right. One. Two. Three.

The first card is your Guiding Card. The Guiding Card is about you – your essence and character over the year ahead. The person you already are as well as the person you will grow to become. This is a card to inspire you, and to give you direction and hope.

The second card represents your Strengths. These are the aspects of life that will positively support you over the next twelve months. Knowing this can help you to make better choices, and show you where to seek support and strengthen skills and relationships.

The third card represents your Opportunities. These are the fields of endeavour, relationships and interests that will work well for you in the coming year. Hooray for that!

Interpreting your cards using intuition:

Remember that the Universe and your own Wise Inner Self always speak to you with love and positive messages!

Turn the first card over.

Now look at your card. If you want you can hold a favourite crystal in your hand as you do this. Really look at the card. Don’t use the book or the ‘proper’ meaning. We are being intuitive here, people! What stands out for you in the picture? How does that apply to giving you guidance for the year ahead? What does this card say about you that is positive and supportive? What thoughts and ideas do the images provoke? Take a minute or two and write those thoughts down. I know, you might feel like you’re just making it all up. That’s okay. Write anyway. Trust that there is a part of you that is wise and that has been waiting for this chance to speak with your conscious mind.

Repeat this process with the second card. And then with the third.

I will often do a very quick summary first, writing down any first thoughts for each of the three cards. Later I will go back and write about each card in more depth, and also add my thoughts and plans for the year ahead, based on the cards I have chosen.

If you need to, refer back to the book that came with your cards. Choose anything that really speaks to you from the meaning of each card, and be happy to discard the rest.

I also like to take a photo of the cards with my phone, so I can refer back to it, and so that I can print it out and add it to my journal as a visual reminder of the cards I chose.

During the year I will come back to these pages, reflecting on the guidance I was given, and then actively applying that information in my life.

 

I hope you found this process helpful!
Much love and hugs, Nicole  xoxo

What Does It Mean When You Keep Pulling The Same Oracle Or Tarot Card?

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“Repetition rings a bell!” 
~  Ernest Agyemang Yeboah

I received an email last week, and then another and then another. They all said the same thing although they were written by different people, so I’ll quote just one of them below, which can stand for all the other ones just like it:

Dear Nicole, I think all my Oracle and Tarot decks must be broken. I keep pulling the same card almost every week. This has been happening for me since mid last year. When I go to another deck I pull a card that has almost the same images or the same message. How do I fix this or do I need to throw them away and buy some new cards? Can you suggest any? Love from S

Has this ever happened to you?

It sure has happened to me.

Here’s the card that forced me to choose a whole new deck back in the day, after it just kept coming up on almost a daily basis (it’s from the Self Care deck by Cheryl Richardson):

Funny thing is, my new Doreen Virtue deck was broken too. Because look what card kept coming up for me:

Apart from the stupidly obvious same-same graphic (Hay House, is this the ultimate recycling of images?) the message, energy and feel of the card was exactly the same as my previous deck.

Sigh.

My decks weren’t broken. I didn’t need new ones. I just needed to pay better attention.

When we find ourselves drawing the same card over and over be assured that it is repeating because we have not yet truly understood and integrated the message. Furthermore, we may have understood the message but ignored it.

The fastest way to get a different card is to pay attention to the one that keeps showing itself to you. Act on that.

Back when this card kept showing itself the Universe and my Higher Self knew that what I most needed was rest. But I sure wasn’t paying attention to that message until that second deck’s card (the very first one I ever chose) hit me like a brick to the face. That very day I closed down my corporate business and began to focus on my healing journey in earnest. So much magic and goodness came about from finally paying attention to the message I was being presented.

If the same card keeps coming up for you I also suggest pulling four more cards to do a reading for yourself about why this card keeps appearing:

  1. Choose the first card in response to the question What is this card showing me right now?
  2. Choose the second card in response to the question What obstacles are blocking my path about this situation?
  3. Choose the third card in response to the question What opportunities are presented by this situation?
  4. Choose the fourth card in response to the question What is my best way forward?

Here’s how I used that process myself:

I hope you found that helpful!
Lots of love, Nicole  xx

How to use Intuition to Access Your Psychic Abilities

“Cease trying to work everything out with your minds. It will get you nowhere. Live by intuition and inspiration and let your whole life be Revelation.”
Eileen Caddy

 

 

We all have intuitive abilities – intuition is a glorious part of our human condition.  Problem is, most of us don’t know how to use it.

Today I’m going to take myself right back to the beginning. I’ll share with you some of the stronger intuitive moments I had before I began to really work with my psychic abilities.  I hope that by sharing them, you’ll be better able to recognise these moments in your own lives.  These aren’t fancy or sophisticated.  These are raw moments that led me to a different decision, understanding or action than if I’d just been coming from my head.

The more you listen to your intuition, the more your body attunes to those messages. It begins to heighten your sensitivity. This then begins to develop your extraordinary sensory perception (ESP) and opens the door to your psychic capabilities. All of the small messages to which we pay attention pave the way for the stronger and more important messages to come.

Intuition and gut instinct communicate with us in so many ways. You might get a flash of strong emotion, an image or a movie in your head, a feeling in your body, a sense of deja vu.  You might have an incredibly vivid dream, or a waking dream. Or, you might just know…

Here are some of my own experiences, as a guide for you.

Some of them weren’t about positive things:

In primary school I woke up in the middle of the night because something was wrong.  I could smell smoke, and I felt very anxious. I padded through the house in my pyjamas, but everyone was asleep and everything was as it should be. I climbed back into bed and all I could think about was a girl I knew at school. I wondered if she was angry with me.  The next morning I found out that her house had burned down in the middle of the night.  They were all okay. And their house was too far away from mine for me to have heard a siren or to have smelled anything.  They lost everything.

Image by Martin van Rensburg.

Early in high school, I had a creepy feeling about a family friend. While everyone else liked him, he made me incredibly uneasy. To me his eyes looked ‘too bright’ – like a bird’s eyes’s somehow, always watching, and watching too intensely. Although I couldn’t explain it, I felt very unsafe around him, and I felt that he was full of secrets. Nothing could convince me that he was a nice guy. I could ‘feel’ a wrongness about him somehow.  One day when I was left at home alone with him (he was working as a tradesman and I was home sick from school) he tried to sexually assault me. Mum came home unexpectedly, and I made sure after that to never be around him alone.  Years later, he went to prison – convicted of serial pedophilia and child pornography crimes, mostly against very young boys.

During a university break, a friend asked me to travel north to pick up a car she had just purchased.  We would drive it home together, stopping at beaches and interesting places along the way. Initially I said yes. It sounded like fun. But then everything seemed to conspire against me. I couldn’t get time off from work, I got food poisoning, one of my grandparents went to hospital. Nothing was working in my favour. I ended up saying no, but instead of feeling bad, I was flooded with this strange sense of relief. About two days after she left for her journey I got this metallic taste in my mouth, and I could smell something like hot brakes on a car.  Then I had a tumbling sensation, like being on one of those wild rides at a sideshow.  It came and went for about a week, and I found it distressing, but I had no idea what it was all about. Then it just stopped.  A few days later my friend’s parents called to me she had rolled her car on a dirt road heading down  a hill to a remote beach, and been badly injured. She spent months in hospital.


Some of my intuitive experiences have also been about very positive things:

At primary school I sat an examination to win a scholarship to one of Brisbane’s private high schools. Part of the examination required us to write creatively using one of a range of sentences as a starter. The words poured out of me and I just knew they were good. Although I felt unsure about my performance with the rest of the long examination, I was sure about that essay.  I knew it would win me a scholarship.  I felt a great certainty. The day that the letter came, I also knew. I just knew something really good was about to happen.  I felt light and happy all day.  When I came home mum had bought a cake and my grandparents had bought me a posy of flowers. My letter of offer was propped up on the kitchen table beside them. I’d won.

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One day I was invited to a costume party.  I had no costume, and no idea where to get one from. I had to drive across town to meet a friend, and for some reason I decided not to take the freeway.  As I drove through a particular suburb, I decided for some inexplicable reason to turn right off the main road.  There in front of me was a massive costume hire place. I felt so very clever! And I found an awesome pirate outfit…

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Many of you will already know this story, and it has happened long after I began working with my psychic gifts.  But it shows you how my intuition is still guiding me, even when my mind is somewhere else.  I was shopping, late one scorchingly hot summer afternoon, and I heard a sound like a peeping chicken in the shopping centre carpark. I couldn’t ignore it.  I was compelled to go and investigate, although I needed to get home because I had plans I’d been looking forward to all day. Something made me get out of the car, and go looking for the chicken. Of course it wasn’t a chicken – instead I found a tiny puppy, almost dead from heat and dehydration. I brought him home, and took him to the vet, who didn’t hold out much hope that he would survive the night. He proved everyone wrong, and Bert became a wonderful member of our family.

Beautiful Bert!

All you ever have to do with your intuition is listen, and go with what you are feeling or being shown. The more you use it, the easier it gets.  Intuition becomes stronger. Your senses become attuned to more of the flow of Universal wisdom and energy. We are all intuitive. That is our birthright. Like me, sometimes in life, for no apparent reason, you’ll just know.

Often, as people move into a space of psychic awakening, their daily lives becomes a constant stream of intuitive thoughts and experiences. This can be very confronting or disruptive but it settles down quickly the more that you honour and accept this intuitive aspect of yourself.

How about you? What has happened for you in your life that was guided by intuition? I’d love to know!

Much love to you, Nicole xx

5 Simple Ways To Love Yourself Better

 

“Have the courage to love yourself like you always wished someone would.” 
~  Vironika Tugaleva

 

Everyone knows that self-love is vital to building self-esteem and self-confidence, for setting healthy boundaries and feeling good about yourself. Problem is, if you don’t feel good about yourself to start with, if you don’t like yourself much and you’re feeling pretty depressed and miserable, then trying to love yourself is like holding onto a single helium-filled birthday balloon and expecting it can fly you to Mars.  Mission Impossible!

So what do you do when your sense of self is hanging by a thread, but you just can’t make that mental leap from loathing to loving?

When loving yourself and feeling good about yourself seems impossible, then what you need to do is parent yourself. That’s where you do the things you know you need to do, even when you don’t want to, can’t be bothered, or feel that you don’t deserve to treat yourself well.

Good parents create environments where we can grow, be safe, and learn to get to know ourselves and the world around us.  They support us, provide emotional connection and support, love us and guide us until we move to a place of maturity where we can do these things for ourselves.

Even when you find it hard to love yourself, there is a wise part of your soul that intuitively knows what you need to get back to a place of balance. Your job is to let that parent part of you – the Wise Soul – make the choices for the part of you that is struggling to get on your feet and feel good again.

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Here are five simple things you can do to make a start towards healing your relationship with yourself. I’ve also added suggested crystals that are supportive for each step:

1.  Decide to accept yourself right now, as you are and where you are in life. Too often we tell ourselves that we’ll like ourselves better when we’ve lost weight, found a job, left a bad relationship, found a good relationship, stopped smoking, gotten fit, or won lotto. When we put conditions on loving ourselves, we never get to that mysterious just-around-the-corner place that is forever up ahead and out of our reach.  Be honest with yourself.  If life is painful, admit that. Don’t numb yourself with alcohol, drugs, food or overwork.  Reach out for help if you’re having trouble coping, or need some new skills and strategies to make tomorrow look different to today. Best crystals for self acceptance – Tiger Eye, Blue Calcite or Rhodonite

2.  Create a safe space.  Everyone needs a place to call home, where they can relax, be themselves, and surround themselves with things that reflect their sense of self. Music, plants, posters or paintings, colours and fragrances – all of these things can help ground you and give you a sense of belonging and security.  It’s not about the objects as much as the energy they create. Start by making sure your space is clean. Dirt, mess and clutter drain you and create stagnant energy.  Clear the clutter, and then begin to make your space somewhere that is inviting, uplifting and positive. Best crystals for a sense of safety and peace – Banded Agate, Smoky Quartz, Rose Quartz, Sodalite and Snowflake Obsidian

3.  Practice respect.  Respect yourself enough to avoid, minimise your exposure to or end toxic relationships and to stop toxic behavours. Respect your body by eating well, and by exercising daily – even when it’s hard.  Especially when it’s hard and you don’t want to. That’s what parents do.  They make sure we drink enough water, eat our greens, get enough sleep, and get out of bed in the morning.  In everything that you do, ask yourself “Does this action or choice honour me?”  When we suffer from a lack of self-love it’s easy to make choices that don’t do the best by us.  In some cases we even choose things that sabotage our well-being.  Once again, if you’re really struggling here, ask for help, whether it’s a counsellor, personal trainer, rehab facility or a good friend who has your back. Great crystals healing self-sabotage and supporting self respect – Black Tourmaline, Amazonite, Yellow Turquoise, Bloodstone

4.  Find something to look forward to and work towards it, or include it in your life.  Whether it’s an overseas holiday, salsa dancing lessons, art classes or writing your life story, everyone needs to have a sense of purpose, and that purpose doesn’t have to be career related. Don’t be afraid to dream big, even if you have to start small. Best crystals for joy and connection to the flow of life – Green Aventurine, Citrine, Rose Quartz, Fluorite

5.  Spend some time in nature each day. Fresh air and sunshine has been used as a remedy for depression and to heal all manner of ills for centuries. Watching animals in nature has been proven to lower blood pressure, increase endorphins and relax tension in our muscles. Having contact with pets also helps us heal and feel better about ourselves, and teaches us responsibility for others. Best crystals for connection to nature and the earth – Jasper, Carnelian, Hematite,  Septarian Nodules, Unakite

Treat yourself with kindness today and always. Holding you in my prayers and meditations,

Nicole ❤ xx

How To Ask For A Sign

The Eye of God – Helix Nebula from www.skyimagelab.com

“The Universe sets out little signposts for us along the way, to confirm that we’re on the right path.” 
~  Michelle Maisto

 

This week’s energies are supportive of connection, communication, signs, breakthroughs and synchronicities (you can read more about that here).

But how do you ask for a sign?

I recommend that you ask only once, and then satisfy yourself with the answer as it appears to you.

Here are some things that you can try:

Shuffle your oracle or tarot cards, offer up a small prayer that whatever you do be for your Highest Good, and then shuffle the deck again. As you’re shuffling, ask your question . Say it out loud or hold it as a thought in your head. Either will work.

Choose one card. How you choose is up to you. Split the deck. Fan them out. Top or bottom. Dive right in. There is no right or wrong.  Then really look at the card. Don’t use the book or the ‘proper’ meaning. We are being intuitive here, people! What stands out for you in the picture? What thoughts and ideas do the images provoke? What is the answer that comes to you? Trust that. Don’t ask again.

Ask for your Guide to appear as an animal or some other living thing, some sort of motif that you will associate with them and with their presence.

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Ask to see a specific image or thing, as acknowledgement of a question, or in answer to it.  Perhaps you are driving and you ask to see a red Kombi van if the answer is yes.  Or you ask to see a particular type of bird or something else you’ll recognise as that sign…

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Ask, and then expect an answer.  Perhaps the answer will be a message on a  billboard, a line from a book, a voice on the radio, the words in a song.  The message will stand out for you somehow, and have a special meaning just for you.

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Angels are often associated with white feathers.  Guides are often associated with other coloured or patterned feathers.  I have found feathers during some of the most difficult times in my life, and have felt reassured by them showing up for me.

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When I sense my Great Aunt’s presence I smell roses.  When my Grandmother is near, I smell or even see gardenias.  A friend smells tobacco smoke when her father is with her.  Sometimes loved ones will create a breeze where there was none, stop or start a clock, or move something.  Whatever they do will make sense to you, based on your relationship with them.

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Sometimes God creates magnificent signs, for no reason other than to help us remember the love and miracles in our world…

Rainbow image by Ookami Kouu

And sometimes it’s well-meaning friends who help us know what’s in store for us on the road in life…

AP Photo – Image by Chris Nakashima_Brown

When the road ahead is uncertain, when you need to know you’re supported, when you are looking for answers – it’s okay to ask for a sign.  But do it once, and trust what you get!

♥ And here’s MY sign for you today (Okay, maybe there’s 3…):

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