How To Drop The Drama And Nurture Inner Peace

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” 
~ Dalai Lama XIV

Many people are telling me right now that they feel a compulsion to drop the drama. These are people who are going through a spiritual or psychic awakening or who identify as empaths, intuitive, sensitive or psychic.

Suddenly they don’t feel like being with ‘friends’ who gossip destructively, who drink excessively or who otherwise drain them. They find themselves putting up barriers, or going into behaviours such as avoidance by not answering their phone or returning emails. They feel themselves withdrawing from the complexities and overwhelming interaction of their lives. They also feel the need to ‘get their house in order’. For some people that might be doing seven years of overdue taxes. For other people, it could be de-cluttering their home, or even their social calendar so that they can reclaim some calm quiet space for their transformational journey. Does that sound like you?

Many people have also asked me if it’s okay to feel like this? Of course it is! Sometimes we need to simplify and create time for ourselves so that we can heal and reconnect.  When we reduce the outside chatter and the need to be organised and involved we are free to spend times with ourselves, in self and spiritual exploration. Our inner world is rich and filled with delights, directions, ideas and advice, but we can only connect with this aspect of ourselves through peace, solitude and rest. And sometimes we need to rest FIRST. Reconnection can begin after our batteries have recharged enough that we are no longer just in survival mode.

Most of us live bombarded by situations, workplaces, devices and relationships that over-stimulate us. In fact, this overt stimulation seems ‘normal’ and we don’t realise just how frazzled, stressed and over-extended we are because that’s how everyone lives!

In this state of bombardment, our bodies produce extra chemicals to hype us up and help us cope. As we become more stressed we are less able to hear our own inner guidance systems and Universal guidance. This further taxes our body and soul. We also become much more left-brain dominant. Our left brain analyses and organises and prioritises and schedules and criticises to help us cope with the overwhelming inflow of stimulation and information. (I feel exhausted just reading that!) 

Our creative, emotive, spiritual right brain is used much less when we are under stress. That aspect of us becomes ignored. As a result, we become depleted, depressed, exhausted and just plain old stuck. In fact, sometimes we become so depleted or overwhelmed that the Universe assists us in our need to hibernate and reconnect by gifting us an illness, accident or other life-altering drama so that we have no choice but to rest and re-evaluate.

If that sounds even remotely like you, it’s time to nurture some inner peace. Inner Peace is a place of calm connectedness, an energy of stillness and silence that is found deep within you. It replenishes you, it heals and refreshes you, and it radiates from you to touch, heal and calm others.

Here are some simple suggestions for nurturing Inner Peace:

  1. Declare certain days or times of the day to be screen free.
  2. Simplify your life.
  3. Spend less time doing things you don’t want to, and being with people who tax you.
  4. Instead of going to shopping malls and crowded places, try a beach, a park, your garden, or even your lounge or bedroom. (But no TV, phone or computer!)
  5. Let go of some of your extra commitments and activities.
  6. Book a weekend break somewhere in nature where you can eat, sleep, walk, read and rest. Leave the phone and laptop at home and resist the urge to listen to the radio, read the newspaper or watch TV.  Practice being lazy and indulgent.
  7. Learn to meditate.
  8. Take up yoga, tai chi or qi gong and practice it daily on your own.
  9. Indulge in a regular massage, health or beauty treatment that is relaxing and/or healing.  Ask the practitioner not to talk unless the question or instruction is part of the treatment.
  10. Spend five minutes each day just being mindful of where you are, how you feel, what is happening around you in nature, and what is happening in your body.
  11. Walk.
  12. Go on a retreat.
  13. Start a hobby you can do on your own like art, woodwork, knitting or writing.  Make the hobby a form of meditation.
  14. Dance. It frees and builds energy within the body, and promotes joyfulness.
  15. Sleep. (It’s a remarkable antidote to fatigue!) 

Here is a short guided meditation to nurture your connection to inner peace:

Take care of yourself, today and always,
Much love, Nicole xx

Higher Perspectives and Healing – Monday Oracle 15 July 2019

“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” 
~ Albert Einstein

Hello, Lovelies!

July is a powerful month, bringing insight and empowerment. It’s a month for understanding what is holding you back and keeping you trapped. It’s a month for honestly identifying and owning any addictions, self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours and damaging relationships (with people, beliefs or situations). July also gifts you the clarity, energy and courage to end those things that do not serve your Highest Good. (And I have a gorgeous new online course which will help you capitalise on all of this good energy! Details Here) Keep July’s energy in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Air Guardian brings us.

Air Guardian encourages you to look into all the old hurts, pains and shames of your past. Know that it is possible to do that without being triggered back into pain this week. Instead, you’ll find that – often for the first time – you can look at that situation or relationship and see the learnings that have come from it, so that you can take the learning and then close the door on the past.

Air Guardian supports you as you grow wiser. This is not knowledge from books. This is hard-won wisdom from the experiences of life. Wisdom that is owned in every cell of your body – the kind of knowing that, once understood, can never be lost.

See everything that has happened as part of your growth.

Know that healing is possible. You are a different person today. Today is a new life. Yesterday is forever in the past and your future is anchored in the NOW. Air Guardian invites you to live mindfully in the now, looking forward with hope and your hard-won wisdom.

Supportive crystals this week?

Amazonite (pictured) helps you to live bravely and from your heart. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth. Mookaite is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and embracing change.  Dalmatian Jasper helps you move forward, living in mindfulness. It releases stress and amplifies joy. Yellow Obsidian is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and for embracing change.

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Frankincense and Ylang Ylang essential oils again this week. Frankincense is the Master Healer and is fabulous for connecting to your inner wisdom. Ylang Ylang has proven ability to promote relaxation and positive emotions.

These diffuser blends will work well for you:

  • 2 drops of Frankincense, 2 drops of Ylang Ylang and 2 drops of Cypress to promote clear thinking, forward vision and personal empowerment
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Bergamot and 1 drop of Vetiver for a blend that is grounding and uplifting and sure to shift you into a positive headspace and support taxed adrenals
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Geranium and 2 drops of Lavender for a sublimely relaxing and nurturing blend (this one’s good in the bath too!)
  • 2 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Jasmine, 2 drops of Sandalwood and 1 drop of Frankincense to promote deep meditation and heightened intuition

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Do you want some support for your journey?

My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. Suitable for complete beginners and advanced students. The feedback from students already enrolled in this course has been amazing and their results have been too! Click here to find out more.

Be gentle with yourself this week. There’s no point in beat yourself up about the past. The only place where you have power is when you are in the moment. Learn, grow, turn your face to the sunshine and keep moving forward.

Lots of love, Nicole  xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, Air Guardian’, is from the Angels and Ancestors Oracle Cards by Kyle Gray. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different from the meaning found in a book. 

20 Ways To Strengthen Your Connection To Mother Earth

20 Ways To Strengthen Your Connection To Mother Earth

‘Then I was standing on the highest mountain of them all, and round about beneath me was the whole hoop of the world. And while I stood there I saw more than I can tell and I understood more than I saw; for I was seeing in a sacred manner the shapes of all things in the spirit, and the shape of all shapes as they must live together like one being.
And I say the sacred hoop of my people was one of the many hoops that made one circle, wide as daylight and as starlight, and in the center grew one mighty flowering tree to shelter all the children of one mother and one father. And I saw that it was holy…
But anywhere is the center of the world.’

~ Black Elk, Holy Man of the Sioux Nation

20 Ways To Strengthen Your Connection To Mother Earth

We cannot separate ourselves from the Earth. She provides for us in so many ways; the air we breathe, the food we eat, the water we drink, the materials from which we house and clothe ourselves. We have forgotten that we are part of her. What we do to the earth we are also doing to ourselves.

Over time many of us have become distant friends with our planet. We no longer hear or understand her.  Some of us don’t even visit her in her natural spaces anymore.  And yet she continues to love and nurture us.

20 Ways To Strengthen Your Connection To Mother Earth

These ideas might help you reconnect with the Earth, and all she has to offer us. The energy can be used for healing, balancing and grounding us, and for opening us up to higher levels of awareness.

  1. Sit under a tree and become consciously aware of that tree. Introduce yourself to it. Open to its energy.
  2. Go for a walk by a river or creek. Sit for a while and just watch nature.
  3. Swim in the ocean.  Let the water cleanse and revitalise you physically, emotionally and energetically.
  4. Collect some interesting stones that you find on your walks.  Perhaps you’ll be blessed with a feather or a pretty leaf too. Place them somewhere in your home or workplace where they can remind you of the outside world.
  5. Place some cut flowers in your house.  Flowers heal and nurture us with their colour, scent and energy.
  6. Play with crystals – wear them, put them beside your bed or on your windowsill, and hold them!
  7. Sit at a look-out on a hill or mountain. Let peace wash over you.  Feel the Earth breathing in and out.
  8. Plant a garden, even if it’s just a few herbs in a pot.  Nurture those plants. Let their tending be a meditation on mindfulness and nature.
  9. Dance in the rain.
  10. Play with a pet. Animals are wise, loving souls with so much to give us.
  11. Celebrate each season. Enjoy the heat of Summer, eating watermelon and swimming, enjoy Autumn and the falling leaves – the refreshing change in the air, enjoy Winter with slow foods, short days and cold nights, and then celebrate Spring, when new life emerges, leaves and flowers burst forth and the sun begins to sparkle again.
  12. Pay attention to the cycle of the moon and how that makes you feel.
  13. Take a picnic to a favourite park or nature place. Take some friends, a pet or a book, but leave your phone, laptop and worries at home.
  14. Visit a Farmers Market and buy some fresh, seasonal organic produce to nourish yourself and your family. Understand more about where your food comes from, and how it can heal you.
  15. Meditate and consciously connect into the grounding, healing and stabilising energies of Mother Earth
  16. Go outside at night and look at the stars and Moon. If you can’t see them from where you live, consider taking a weekend away in nature to reconnect with the night sky.
  17. Sit by a campfire and listen to the crackle and dance of the flames.
  18. Watch an insect, bird or small animal going about its day. Allow yourself to become quiet and calm and open to any lessons that the creature shares with you.
  19. Visit a wild space. A place where there is only nature. Let it fill you with peace.
  20. Sit in the sunshine and let the warm rays of the sun enter your body with their healing light. Feel yourself relax and unwind.
20 Ways To Strengthen Your Connection To Mother Earth
20 Ways To Strengthen Your Connection To Mother Earth

You’re Gone And I Still Miss You

“If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.” 
~ Alfred Tennyson

Yesterday was July 4. It’s our niece’s birthday. It was our first dog Charlie’s birthday, Charlie who is now Harry. And it was Kate’s birthday.

Kate was such a dear friend. I met her hanging over the fence at my Auntie Doff’s when I was a kid – both of us in primary school. I was a goody-two-shoes. Kate was a foster child, a tough kid and ‘bad girl’ who secretly had a heart of gold, a wicked sense of humour and a shared love of books. She became my penpal at a time when people used to write letters to stay in touch and we became entwined in each other’s lives, using each other like a ‘Dear Diary’ and witnessing each other’s trials, tribulations and wobbly successes.

She died in 2010 and yesterday, July 4, she would have been 49 years old.

Kate was a crap cook, and a lover of junk food, a killer musician, circus and aerial artist and street performer. She was famous for her cupcake kebabs and Horses Doovers Towers – her only two and best dishes!

It’s been nearly ten years since she passed. Still, sometimes I find myself thinking that I’ll call Kate or send her some stupid Facebook thing I know she’d love. Sometimes the grief I feel and the still-missing-her is ferocious. I never knew it could continue to take my breath away at unexpected moments after all this time.

My friend Carls (none other than THE Carly-Jay Metcalfe) was a mate of Kate’s too and we always remember Kate on her birthday, message each other and make sure to eat cake. Kate would have been all for that. She was a girl who loved life and lived it hard.

The older I get the more my heart is marked by those strange unhealable wounds that are created when a loved one has left this life. I’m glad for those wounds, and for my dinged-up battered heart. I feel these departed loved ones around me still and they live on inside me. I still talk to them. I still think about them. I still hold them close.

And sometimes, just sometimes, I miss them so much I can hardly breathe.

That’s okay. That’s just what love does to you.

Hugs and love, Nicole xx

Can’t sleep? Intuitive senses on overdrive? Blame it on the Moon!

“The moon does not fight. It attacks no one. It does not worry. It does not try to crush others. It keeps to its course, but by its very nature, it gently influences. What other body could pull an entire ocean from shore to shore? The moon is faithful to its nature and its power is never diminished.” 
~ Deng Ming-Dao

“She didn’t quite know what the relationship was between lunatics and the moon, but it must be a strong one, if they used a word like that to describe the insane.” 
~ Paulo Coelho

Hello, my sensitive friends!

I just want to reassure you if you’ve suddenly found yourself overly emotional, exhausted, tired but wired, unable to sleep, sleeping too much and can’t seem to wake up, having crazy dreams, anxiety on overdrive, psychic senses on high alert, flushing or feeling weird for no reason.

It’s the Moon. Or, to be more accurate, it’s the influence of Mercury, the Moon, Earth, Solar Flares and a Solar Eclipse. It will settle again in another 3 or 4 days.

Meanwhile, limit caffeine and sugar, increase your intake of magnesium or have an Epsom Salts bath or foot soak before bed, use Lavender, Ylang Ylang and Frankincense essential oils, eat more grounding foods like root vegetables and spend time in nature. Avoid crowds. Limit screen time too.

It’s actually a beautiful thing to be a sensitive soul if you manage it right. It’s a time for clarity, insights and increased awareness. So use this time for psychic work, journalling, resting, dreaming and your inner journey. If you haven’t signed up for my Journey of Transformation online course that would be a good step too!

Much love, Nicole <3 xx

Need Help To Navigate Your Psychic Awakening?

“You can’t stop a teacher when they want to do something. They just do it.” 
~ J.D. Salinger

There’s a difference between ‘Spiritual Awareness’ and a full-on ‘Psychic Awakening’. Spiritual Awareness happens when we begin to understand that there is more to the Universe than meets the eye. It leads to such things as asking the Angels to find you an excellent parking spot right out the front of a crowded supermarket or deciding to learn Reiki. Spiritual Awareness is gentle and lovely and helps you feel connected, loved-up and curious about all kinds of spiritual and energetic things.

Psychic Awakening is a crazy ride, where your psychic and intuitive awareness becomes hyper-stimulated and hyper-alert, and where you cannot control how or when that happens. It leads to a rapid acceleration in your psychic and intuitive gifts and it can be so traumatic that it can tip people into mental illness or breakdown OR cause them to stall in their development or close off their intuitive abilities altogether.

Psychic Awakening is an unstable and often scary time. It’s lonely too because there’s usually no-one to talk with who’ll understand what you are going through. But I do, because I’ve been there. One of the things that led me to the work I do now is that I never wanted another person to have to find their way through a Psychic Awakening on their own and without a teacher – which is what happened to me all those years ago.

Once you’re through your Psychic Awakening you’re open to your intuitive gifts and you can use those gifts to support you in whatever you came to do in this life. Because EVERYONE who goes through Psychic Awakening has come here to this life to be of service in some way. You’ll all have a Calling, a reason for being here, and using your psychic and intuitive gifts will support you in your Calling.

I was sitting with a client yesterday, doing a Life Direction Reading with her. Before we started she told me about why she had come to see me.

‘I was in Bali and it came through in my meditation that I needed to see you. I got your name in my meditation and I googled Nicole Cody and then I made a booking. That probably seems crazy to you!’

‘No,’ I said. ‘It doesn’t sound crazy at all. There’s a certain group of people who find their way to my door because they need my help with a specific thing – their Psychic Awakening. That’s why you’re here.’

We had a great session together, but to navigate a Psychic Awakening you need more than ninety minutes. It just wasn’t enough time for me to give her everything she needed. And that bothered me because she left still needing my help.

My client was the fourth person I’ve seen in the past few weeks who is sitting in full-blown Psychic Awakening, and one of several I’ve talked with who feel that they are in some kind of strange feedback loop or go-slow with their psychic development after stepping into the initial stages of Psychic Awakening.

Which is why I’m posting this today. You see, I’m noticing this huge upswing in Awakening as we move toward 2020, and I know it’s the beginning of a major shift in consciousness.

So, I am considering creating a pilot ‘online spiritual mentoring course’ to help people cope with their Awakening and to teach them foundation skills for using their psychic gifts. Keeping it online means you’d be able to join in from wherever you are.

The format would be me leading a group of you through live teaching webinars and Q and A sessions, as well as giving you access to workbooks, videos, weekly activities and a private forum. I’d be mentoring you and showing you everything I’ve used to open up my own gifts to a place of stability, connection and flow. It’s the stuff I usually only teach on retreats, and some of it is stuff I’ve never taught to groups before. But it’s time, and I know you’re ready.

I’m thinking of an 8-to-10-week format, and for the course to start in mid to late August this year. If enough people are interested.

So, if this sounds like something you’re interested in you need to let us know.

Leave a comment below or contact my PA, Trish Lyons, at nicolecodyinfo@gmail.com

Lots of love, Nicole xx

Energies of July 2019

“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” 
~ May Sarton

Hello, Lovelies!

At the beginning of every month, I discuss the energies and gifts of the month ahead and how we can best use them to make our lives satisfying, meaningful and productive. I also choose a card to support the energies of the month. The deck I am using this year is The Good Tarot by Colette Baron-Reid, and July’s card is TEMPTATION

July is a powerful month  –  it is both your wake-up call and your warning, and it will lead to further self-empowerment!

It’s time to identify what is holding you back and keeping you trapped. It’s a month for honestly identifying and owning any addictions, self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours and damaging relationships (with people, beliefs or situations). July also gifts you the clarity, energy and courage to end those things that do not serve your Highest  Good.

Where are you being pulled off your path?  Where are you failing to walk your truth or to put yourself, your values and your important projects or calling first?

Don’t be a slave to debt, to abusive relationships of any kind, or to situations where you are not valued.  This is a month that calls you to free yourself from those chains. Look to where you feel or are indeed trapped –  then work out what to do about it.

July shows you that there is no need to go for the quick fix or to chase after every bright shiny new promise.  All you ever need is the simplicity of well-considered goals that you care about and find engaging and satisfying.

Don’t be swayed by the lure of materialism either. At the end of your life what will have counted most are experiences, relationships, accomplishments, shared moments and moments where you have glimpsed the face of God – whatever you perceive that energy to be.

This is a month to overcome fear and doubt, a month to become stronger in yourself and your life direction, a month to remind yourself about what truly matters.

Best crystals this month? – Amazonite and Mookaite

Amazonite helps you to live bravely and from your heart. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth.

Mookaite is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and embracing change. 

Essential oils to support your journey?

I’m loving Ylang Ylang essential oil for July. It’s one of the main ingredients in the perfume Chanel No. 5 and it’s famed the world over for its luxurious uplifting floral fragrance. Ylang Ylang isn’t just a pretty scent though. It has proven ability to promote relaxation and positive emotions so it’s a great addition to your emotional wellbeing toolkit.

Try massaging a drop or two into the back of your neck to soothe you when you’re frazzled, or put a few drops into an Epsom Salts bath for deep relaxation.

If you’d like to diffuse it, try these blends:

  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Bergamot and 1 drop of Vetiver for a blend that is grounding and uplifting and sure to shift you into a positive headspace and support taxed adrenals
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Geranium and 2 drops of Lavender for a sublimely relaxing and nurturing blend (this one’s good in the bath too!)
  • 2 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Jasmine, 2 drops of Sandalwood and 1 drop of Frankincense to promote deep meditation and heightened intuition

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Ylang Ylang flowers
Ylang Ylang Flowers. Image from www.malva-parfum.ua

Extra Help for Your Spiritual Journey

Are you ready to learn how to use Oracle or Tarot cards intuitively? Whether you’re a complete beginner or if you’ve been using cards for years you’ll love my new online course Journey of Transformation. I don’t teach you how to read cards the traditional way – I show you how to use them as a tool for your intuition!

My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. I show you how to do a ten-card spread and how to interpret each card to answer questions that will give you insights and clear guidance for your life. This versatile spread can be used for yourself and others and is a favourite of mine when I’m looking for more than just a superficial answer to a current challenge.

Everyone who has done the course is raving about it, and many have compared it to the kind of in-depth teaching I do during my exclusive retreats. It’s only $47 AUD and that includes over 2 hours of instructional videos, two guided meditations and a beautiful downloadable workbook. Click here to find out more.

Above all, look after yourself this month. Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your hopes, your dreams, your values and the causes dear to your heart.

Refuse to let others treat you badly. Refuse to treat yourself badly. Honour this precious life for the gift that it is. And on this journey remember to slow down every so often to smell the roses.

Great change is coming. So start preparing now by tuning in to what is most needed in your life. Act on that wisdom.

I’m holding space for you to be all you came here to be, and I’m cheering you on!

All my love, Nicole xx


Does God Make Mistakes? What Happened After Israel Folau’s Homophobic Post

“Encourage yourself, believe in yourself, and love yourself. Never doubt who you are.”
~ Stephanie Lahart

*Note – names and details have been changed to protect the identities of those involved. I have been given permission to post this story on the condition that this family remain anonymous. It’s a long read and an important one. Maybe make yourself a cuppa before you start.

One Saturday afternoon in Brisbane a few months ago, I heard a knock at my door. There stood a sweaty eager-faced young boy with grazed knees, clutching a bicycle helmet and a grubby envelope. His bike, wheels still spinning, was laying on the lawn in my front yard.

‘You’re Nicole Cody, right?’ he said. ‘I’m Matt. My parents have seen you. You know, Julie and David Smith. I’d like to see you too please.’ He handed me the envelope which was stuffed with five and ten dollar notes. ‘That’s my mowing money. Is it enough?’

I handed back his money, got him to stow his bike in our garage and invited him upstairs into my office. ‘No charge,’ I said. ‘Let’s just have a chat instead’

And then Matt told me his problem, cracking my heart open with his honesty and self-awareness.

‘I’ve got a big problem,’ he said. ‘You see, I’m gay. You know, a homosexual. I’m sure about that. I was born this way and I’ve known since I was little. I’m only twelve, so I’m not sexually active yet, but I’m attracted to men, not women. I’ve already had crushes. Not with my friends or anything. Just with people on TV and stuff. You know, all kids get crushes. When I was little I wanted to marry Justin Bieber. I thought you could marry anyone when I was little, but now I’m old enough to know better.’

‘So this gay thing is a problem for me right now,’ Matt continued. ‘You know Dad was a footballer, and my older brothers are all good at football, and I love playing football and maybe if people know I am gay or if my school knows they will ask me not to play any more, or my friends won’t want to be around me in case I fall in love with them, but I don’t think it works like that anyway. And it gets even worse than that. It’s a lot of problems.’ He sighed heavily.

I asked him to tell me more.

‘The biggest problems are all mixed up together and they are that I haven’t told my parents yet, and I’m worried about what they will say or maybe they will be ashamed of me or they won’t love me the same way any more. Right now they love me and they don’t know, and we don’t have any gay people as our friends so homosexuality is not a thing they know much about.

‘I don’t think they’ll be happy about my news. Dad was against the Gay Marriage Bill. Then when we were at Church last weekend the Minister was really negative about gay people and their lifestyles. I’m not sure what he meant but he is God’s representative and I really like him. So that upset me because if he knows I am gay he won’t approve of me and he won’t like me anymore, or maybe he will need me to leave that church, or maybe he will ask me to change but I prayed and prayed to God to change me already and nothing ever happened.’

Matt started to cry. Tears trickled down his cheeks and I slid a box of tissues over to him.

‘Keep going,’ I said. ‘I’m listening.’

‘Well, there is this footballer. His name is Israel Folau, and he is one of my favourite athletes because he is so good and talented and he wrote this thing about gay people and how we are going to Hell and so that’s two people who are important to me and both of them are telling me that I am a bad person and a faulty person because I am gay. I follow Mr Folau on Instagram and that’s where I saw this.’

He’d saved a copy of the post on his phone, and he showed it to me.

I noticed that Israel Folau would probably include me and most of my community under the label of ‘witchcraft’. I’ve been up against this kind of ignorance before.

‘That must have been difficult for you to read,’ I said, ‘especially coming from someone you respect and admire.’

‘It was. Really difficult.’

Matt looked suddenly smaller in the chair. He was just a boy, after all. A boy who should have been out playing footie with his friends.

He started again. ‘I know you are not a minister but my mum says you are really wise and a kind of Earth Angel and so I thought you would know the answer to this big question I have that is all I can think about.’

I nodded encouragingly. I couldn’t speak for the lump in my throat.

‘My question is…’

He paused and then his voice got so quiet that I had to lean in to hear him.

‘My question is does God make mistakes, and am I just a mistake?’

It took all I had not to cry with him.

He kept going. ‘Israel Folau says that I am going to hell with the drunks and liars and thieves and other bad people. I am only twelve and I am trying my best. I thought God loved me but now I don’t know anymore. I just feel bad and ashamed. I don’t know what to do.’

Then he said the thing that made my heart stop.

‘It makes me feel so bad that I wish I was dead. I think everyone might be better off without me if I can’t fix this problem.’

The boy was crying so much now that he was a tear and snot-soaked mess. We talked some more about how God is Love, and that if God is Love then God can only have love for Matt and that he wasn’t a mistake at all. He was simply part of the beautiful diversity that is humanity. When he was calm I made him a cup of tea and then I rang his mum, Julie. She came straight over and I supported Matt while he had a very hard conversation with his mum about his sexuality. Both of them cried and we all hugged and Julie promised her son that she still loved him and that everything would be okay.

Then Julie sent Matt downstairs to put his bike on the racks on the back of her car. ‘I’ve thought that he might be gay ever since he was two or three,’ she said. ‘And of course his Dad will be okay with it. It’s 2019. We’re a modern family. All we want for our boys is that they are healthy and happy.’

‘Did you know he’s been thinking about harming himself?’ I asked.

Julie went pale. ‘No,’ she said, her eyes filling with tears. ‘Okay, thanks for letting me know. I’ll take him home now and we’ll get this sorted.’ We hugged again and she drove away.

I was deeply affected by my visit from Matt. Matt’s homosexuality is not a ‘lifestyle choice’. He is a child of only twelve. He was born this way and has felt this way since his earliest memories. As Israel Folau might see it, Matt was made that way by God. If God is all-powerful and all-loving, then this is no mistake but an act of pure love. Matt is a clever, kind, funny and sensitive boy who is popular at school, a good sportsman, an active member of his church and a good citizen. It devastated me to see him feeling so judged and condemned that he was contemplating self-harm.

Like Matt, I struggled as a child, being different to others and feeling like I was ‘a mistake’. I was born the way I am too. I am psychic. I’ve been this way all my life. I can’t change it. It’s hard-wired into who I am. It took a long time for me to be open about my abilities as an adult for fear of being judged. Many Christians have ridiculed, humiliated, judged and bullied me. I’ve had people refuse to sit beside me at conferences after finding out who I am, quoting Leviticus (the Bible) to me: “If a person turns to mediums and necromancers, whoring after them, I will set my face against that person and will cut him off from among his people.” and “A man or a woman who is a medium or a necromancer shall surely be put to death. They shall be stoned with stones; their blood shall be upon them.” I don’t believe that. I believe that we come from Love and return to Love, and that love and kindness are more Godly than judgement and cruelty.

Julie rang me late yesterday. Matt is in hospital after a suicide attempt. He’s twelve. He’s a great kid who has been terribly distressed by everything that is happening right now about Israel Folau’s fight with Rugby Australia over Folau’s right to freedom of speech, and about Matt’s idol’s continued stance on homosexuality as a sin against God.

Israel Folau, I support your right to your own opinion and to practice the religious beliefs of your choice. But you are also a role model and a public figure representing your country, a club brand and a sporting code. As part of that code, and your acceptance of your role within that code and the pay packets you received as an employee of that code, you had a duty of care to uphold the values of that code and to not do harm to your fans and supporters. You have failed that duty of care.

I am struggling to find the words right now for the fallout your post and subsequent actions have created. If any good is to come of it, then I hope that is this – we start having the conversations we need to have around these issues, and that we can find a way forward as a community that is inclusive, compassionate and kind.

With much love, Nicole xx

PS – Need help? In Australia you can contact Kids Helpline or  Lifeline, and for people outside Australia you can find help here.

Why You Should Join My YOM Community

https://cauldronsandcupcakes.com

“Let your community be your testimony.” 
~ Jaco Strydom

I’m busy creating an online Learning Academy for next year. Why? I’m so darn passionate about helping you to connect to your inner wisdom, intuition and psychic abilities. And you can get access as a Foundation Member now by joining my YOM Community. (Ready to jump in? Click Here)

Imagine that you are lost, stuck, miserable, confused or hating on yourself. You don’t know what to do. You don’t know how to help yourself or how to move forward.

Imagine that you’re full of ideas, but they all lead in different directions and you don’t know which one to choose.

Imagine that you always lead with your head, but that your heart – your intuition – often shows up and gives you a different take on things which you always ignore. Afterwards, when your head was wrong and you wished you’d listened to that inner knowing, you wonder why you always second-guess yourself.

In each of these situations, your intuition and inner knowing is a compass that can guide you forward. Most people have just forgotten how to use it and I know how to show you!

I’m passionate about helping people to reclaim their natural intuitive and psychic ability, to stop being afraid of it, and teaching them how to use it in their daily lives. The change I want to make in the world is to teach you how to reconnect with your own inner knowing and natural spirituality and to understand that being empathic, psychic, sensitive and intuitive is normal and good. Being intuitively connected empowers us to know ourselves, to become self-aware, to live more authentically and to become more confident in ourselves, our direction and our decisions. It helps us to live as better and more satisfied versions of ourselves. Yep, that’s the world I want to live in. That’s why I want you to join my membership community.

If you’re ready, and if you’re looking for a teacher and mentor, I’m here. And so is a beautiful community of like-minded souls. Come join us.
All my love, Nicole xx

Not convinced? Let some of my YOMMERS give you their feedback on what it has meant to them to join my community:


Hey Nicole!!!! 

I just needed to drop you a line to tell you how excited I am about the Academy Of Learning that you are creating for our tribe! I know that there are many people out there that read your blog like I have and are just timid about signing up to join the YOM community. Maybe they are like I was, and think it is just a daily planner. OH, but we both know it is more than that. Lets see….I started following your blog back in 2012. Your free guided meditations and blog helped me get through cancer treatment and the death of my mom. I loved your Kimberley stories, and occasionally you would put some journal activities for us to partake in. Then you created your YOM planner, and community….and I was like….I don’t do planners. If I had KNOWN that it was much more than a planner, I would have joined then. However, I was slow to the take….but I did join  GeSHiDoMo in 2017, which came with a online group. By being in that group of such welcoming ,wonderful people, I was convinced to join the YOM community for 2018. Talk about a life changing year for me! Wow! By February 2019 I was on a plane to Australia going to your Advanced Channeling Retreat! I had never been overseas in my life! The Tribe and you (Ben and the dogs, too) so embraced me and let me feel so welcome! I think about that so much. People I had never met in person offering to let me stay with them, pick me up from the airport….DRIVE ME FROM BRISBANE TO BYRON BAY….I tear up now thinking about it. The retreat was all I could hope for and more, and I now have life long friends that I so cherish. Most importantly, I had been looking for my teacher for a very long time on my spiritual quest. I remember reading this particular blog post. https://cauldronsandcupcakes.com/2018/03/08/last-one-standing/ and thinking “I have found her.”

You are such a profoundly inspirational writer as well as teacher,  I think your own writing will sum up what I love about you the most. https://cauldronsandcupcakes.com/2019/02/20/the-authority-of-soul/ Incidentally, when you wrote this I was on retreat with you…..I remember coming out of retreat and reading this…thinking yes. This is exactly why I love this woman as my mentor, friend and fellow traveler. To quote your own words:

“One of the things that is most important to me as a metaphysical teacher is for you to understand that your ultimate power lies within you, your ultimate authority and wisdom also. This is YOUR life, and when you learn to tune in to your own wisdom you become empowered to make the decisions that are right for you. No-one knows you better. And everything I teach is for the purpose of helping you know yourself, to connect you to your inner wisdom and to help you forge your own considered path in the world.” 

I just really wanted to give my deep heart filled thanks to you and your team. I look so forward experiencing the YOM community evolve into Your Academy For Learning., and where this will take the tribe and myself next.  

You wrote in a blog once….”If you are looking for a teacher, here I am”…….and yes you are. Always. 

Much love to you, Christi


I have been using the ‘Year of ME’ planner since 2016 and to say it has been life changing is not an exaggeration. 

The one thing I love about working with Nicole and her diary is that she has a knack of empowering and guiding you without you ever feeling like you’ve got it wrong or you don’t belong. 

What do I love about the diary the most? It helps me get clear about ‘everything’ in my life, on a daily basis, a weekly & monthly basis and quarterly. The reviews I feel are what I find most helpful plus I can work at my own pace.

Plus you’ve got the added bonus of the FB group which is so supportive & respectful of each other. 

Some folk turn on the TV in the morning for the news, but I go straight to my inbox and look for “Cauldrons & Cupcakes”…Nicole is the BEST guide & I feel so blessed to be part of this community, and I’m sure you will too

Satisha Y.


What has the YOM community given me?

It has given me the gift of myself. It has reconnected me to long forgotten pieces and parts of my soul that have lain dormant, forgotten and neglected. It has taught me to honour me, care for me, tune in to me and to be gentler with myself. It has connected me to a tribe of women who are just like me. They are sensitive, searching and have experienced life in all it’s bloody glory. They have huge hearts, wise words, and comforting hugs. In fact, some of my closest friends now in my own little circle are women I have met because of Nicole and YOM.

Belonging to YOM means I know that there is a place that I can reach out at any time of the day or night and someone will be there to listen, laugh with or support me.

I am on a spiritual journey, hungry for knowledge. Belonging to YOM means I always have access to information, classes, courses, a pool of talented, experienced souls and a wise teacher leading the tribe.

My planner is a jouney into me at the start of every year. It is solitude, reflection, heart space and starting the year off right. Using oracle cards and meditation, I create a clear vision for the year ahead. I have also developed the habit of tracking my finances and looking at my net position at the end of every month for the first time in my life! I love the weekly cards, the gratitude practise and knowing when the moon is full or new.

With, Nicole, and through YOM I have found a space where my hungry soul is fed and I have found a safe and nurturing place where my soul feels home.

Emma P.


Testimonials for Nicole for Year of Me

Testimonial about using the Planner

I am a planner girl from way back! I love a hard copy planner I can write my appointments and meetings in but like many people I’ve never quite found the ideal planner for me.

At the start of 2016 I started working with the Year of Me Planner created by Nicole Cody. Nicole’s planner offered me much more than the traditional planners I had worked with before, and has become my go-to planner ever since.

The Year of Me planner allowed me to integrate my spiritual work along with my practical day-to-day schedule. Spending time analysing the year that had just ended, seeing how the year ahead looked, and using oracles cards to get a feel for my week, month and year has guided me to a place I could never foresee these past three and a half years.

The practical nature of the planner has allowed me to tick more off my to-do list than I ever thought possible. The process Nicole shares in the planner has also helped me gain clarity around my bigger personal and professional goals, allowing me to step more fully onto my true path.

If you’re looking for a planner that takes you deeper, that supports you on your spiritual path, and helps you tick off your to-do’s, I highly recommend the Year of Me Planner.

Helen Joy Butler

www.helenjoybutler.com


Testimonial about the course and community

In 2016 I purchased Nicole Cody’s Year of Me Planner and twelve month online course and support forum – and I have been a part of the community ever since!

I’ve attended a number of Nicole’s retreats and knew that the guidance she would offer through the course would help me reach the goals I wanted to achieve each year. What I didn’t realise was that the online community would become one of my favourite places to hang out online, to grow, learn and support others, and receive support in return.

The Year of Me course and support materials Nicole has created really do help you reach your personal and professional goals with grace and understanding of where you’re at and what your needs are. Knowing there is a community behind you, supporting you and cheering you on, is an incredible part of this journey, one I am glad I made the choice to be part of.

Helen Joy Butler

www.helenjoybutler.com

Bountiful Blessings and Celebration – Monday Oracle 17 June 2019

“Be the celebrators, celebrate! Already there is too much—the flowers have bloomed, the birds are singing, the sun is there in the sky—celebrate it! You are breathing and you are alive and you have consciousness, celebrate it!”  ~ Osho

Hello, Lovelies!

June brings energies of growth and transformation. This month you can build on existing situations, foundations and opportunities, further transforming your life through work and self-belief. (And stay tuned, because I have a gorgeous new online course launching tomorrow which will help you capitalise on all of this good energy!) This month you’ll start to see results, and your progress will become visible to others too. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Rainbow Dragon brings us.

This is another really beautiful week of spiritual connection. But it’s not that raw intuitive place we were in last week, where you may have felt like all of your senses were in overload. This week’s energies are gentle – and focus on supporting you to be both perceptive and grateful.

You’ll be open and heart-centred and able to truly feel what’s going on from a space of empathy and kindness. It’s a great week for gratitude, for counting your blessings, for celebration. It is absolutely a week for sharing your love and appreciation and affection with the people around you and celebrating all of those things that are good in your life. 

It’s also a week of feeling kinder and more generous toward yourself, and toward those you love.

If your relationship with yourself has been less than stellar you’ll find yourself softening this week, so that you can embrace yourself, forgive yourself, laugh at yourself (kindly of course), accept yourself and love yourself more easily. You’ll also feel more inclined to try things without being so darned judgemental and critical of yourself.

If your relationship with a friend or loved one has been less than great you’ll find that you are able to mend bridges, to let go of hurt, to move on, to try again. It’s a wonderful time for reminiscing and discussing memories of experiences you’ve shared. It’s also a time of creating a new way forward that can work better for both of you so that you can leave the pain and hurt of the past in the past.

Celebrate a little or a lot this week. Because what’s life without celebration?

Supportive crystals this week?

Map Jasper helps you to concentrate, analyse and understand. It supports the adrenals and counteracts overthinking and intellectual exhaustion. (Can’t find Map Jasper? Use a combination of your favourite Jasper with Black Tourmaline.) Peach Moonstone encourages self-care, soothes worry, raises vibration and stimulates your capacity to problem solve using both intuition and reason. White Howlite will promote calm, tranquillity, self-acceptance and a feeling of emotional spaciousness. Amber (pictured) supports you to find and live from a place of creativity and joy, opening you to possibility while helping you to stay grounded.

amber

Helpful essential oils?

Essential oils that support love, creativity and connection are what you need this week. Try any of these on their own, or choose a few from the list to add to your diffuser – they all work well together:

  • Rose
  • Green Mandarin
  • Neroli
  • Ylang Ylang
  • Lavender
  • Sandalwood
  • Lemon

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Support for your Intuitive Journey

I’ve got something exciting for you tomorrow – but I’m going to wait til then to tell you what it is!

Have fun this week. Live from your heart, stay kind and celebrate the small and the big things of your life. Above all, cultivate gratitude and mindfulness. Let your heart guide you and you can’t go wrong!

Lots of love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Rainbow Dragon’, is from the Sacred Power Reading Cards by Anna Stark. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different from the meaning found in a book.