A Message To Your Stompy Cranky Self-Sabotaging Inner Five-Year-Old!

“Sometimes defiance is all we have.” 
Stan Grant

Hello,
Today I don’t want to talk to you, dear friend. I want to talk to that stompy cranky five-year-old who dwells defiantly inside you. I want to talk to that inner child of yours because I can see you two are having problems.

You want to do yoga, but your inner five-year-old wants to binge on Netflix and pizza. You want to work on your project, but your inner five-year-old would rather line up all your shoes in order of colour and style. You have a deadline and suddenly your inner five-year-old is sooooo sleepy that you can’t concentrate. Oh, wait! Your pal just called and invited you to the movies. Your inner five-year-old who was too tired to work is suddenly raring to go and ready for a big night out.

The grown-up you is blaming yourself for all of this self-sabotage. I can hear how meanly you’re talking to yourself, blaming yourself, being down on yourself.

And no-one’s listening to that inner child at all.

Why would your inner child go off the rails and make you do the opposite of all the things you know are good for you or that need to be done even if they are no fun?

That is why I want to talk to your inner five-year-old-child directly.

Here goes…

Hello, Little Friend. I’m sorry that you’re feeling so trapped, so bored, so not listened to. I understand that you are tired of being told what to do all the time. I’m sorry that your life feels like an endless to-do list of chores that leave no room for fun or friends or goofing off or being tired when you’re tired instead of having to keep being busy.

No wonder you’re sabotaging everything your Big Self is trying to do!

But can you do me a favour? Why not try and be friends? Why not let your Big Self do yoga, and then let the Little You have a frozen nice-cream cone afterwards? Why not help your Big You do this month’s bookwork and then settle down on the couch together with Netflix?

And maybe, when your Big You feels a little relieved, or less guilty, or more tidy or more organised or more healthy – because you’ve helped them to take a step towards what they think will help them – maybe after that you can both talk about including more of the things that Little You knows are good for your soul too.

Maybe after a good yoga session you can help your Big You face the fact that the job she’s doing is crushing her soul, or that her partner is mean and will never treat her well. I know you have a lot of wisdom inside you, Little Friend, because you see things as they really are, not as the Big You wants them to be, or fears them to be.

I also know that you understand what makes the Big You light up, what excites her and makes her happy, what makes her soul sing, and what direction her feet want to take her in.

All this foot-stompy cranky self-sabotaging behaviour is making both of you miserable. It’s time to kiss and make up, be best friends again and help each other out.

Your poor Big Self thinks it’s all her fault – that she is lazy and lacking in will-power and commitment and self-discipline. She doesn’t understand that wise Little You is having this temper tantrum because no-one is listening to what you have to say. Imagine how much happier and empowered you will be when you begin working as a team again.

Hugs to you both, Little Friend and Big Friend. You’ve got this. I can’t wait to see what comes next for you!
All my love, Nicole  xx

Image from embracingjoy.com

PS – June Workshops and Pop Up Shop:
If you’re looking for some extra support for your spiritual journey come check out my upcoming Pop Up Shop, Channelling Night and One Day Workshops in Brisbane 29 June to July. On Saturday June 30 I’ll be teaching Foundation Spiritual Practices (the things I used to develop my own psychic and intuitive skills, self-awareness and compassion), and on Sunday July 1 I’ll teach Meditation and Mala Making (this second workshop is brilliant if you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, stuck or suffering from anxiety or depression). No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

All details are on my EVENTS tab at the top of my blog post or here at this link.

A Week Of Highs, Lows & Breakthroughs – Monday Oracle 18 June 2018

“Balance. It was all about balance. That had been one of the first things that she had learned: the centre of the seesaw has neither up nor down, but upness and downness flow through it while it remains unmoved. You had to be the centre of the seesaw so the pain flowed through you, not into you. It was very hard. But she could do it!
~  Terry Pratchett

 

Hello, Lovelies!

June is a quieter month energetically – one that invites us to spend time with loved ones, time on ourselves and our wellbeing, and time resting, recharging and doing what we love. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the oracle card Two of Crystals brings us this week.

At the beginning of this week expect some fluctuations in your mood and energy. One moment you’ll be flying high and the next you’ll feel like you need to withdraw from the world. Or you’ll be full of energy and then exhausted. Totally in love with your idea and then decide it sucks. Just flow with it, don’t fight it, and know that by later this week things will begin to settle down again.

The end of this week will see you potentially catapulted into a new phase in your life, and the key to success for you and any ventures you undertake will be co-operation.

One of the most beneficial energies that the Two of Crystals brings is the kind of helpful people and advice that propel you to achieve success in your chosen field or in solving your current dilemma. Be open to help and advice, and be prepared to consider things that might be new ideas or different to what you had planned. Get your team together. Trust that so much more can be done through co-operation and community.

The other thing Two of Crystals supports this week is anything to do with reclaiming health, fitness and overall wellness in your life. Make sure you’re getting balance between busy and quiet, between work and play, between moving your body and sitting in front of a computer or behind a desk.

It’s a week that can end in great progress forward, but remember to look after yourself, to ask for help, and to maintain balance and sustainability.

Supportive crystals this week?

Smoky Quartz opens you to new possibilities and ideas and amplifies your inner voice. Labradorite encourages self-care, supports empathy and intuition, and is a gentle and reassuring stone for developing psychic ability. Bloodstone will gift you energy, vitality and an understanding of how hard to push yourself and when to take a break.  Red Jasper (pictured) is a stone for mental, physical and emotional rejuvenation. Deeply grounding, it helps you connect to your heart and your truth and encourages a sense of safety.  

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Sacred Frankincense or Sandalwood for balance and nurture this week. Sacred Frankincense has a rich, earthy aroma and is calming and supportive – opening you to deeper trust and spiritual connection.  Sandalwood with its distinctive woodsy sweet fragrance is the perfect oil to bring you back to a state of clarity, calm and positivity.

Apply either oil to your pulse points at wrist, neck and over heart like a perfume. Place a few drops in your bath water. Diffuse it in your home or office. Put a drop in the palm of your hand, rub hands together and then inhale the aroma. (Here’s a simple three-minute meditation you can do using any of your favourite essential oils – click here) 

 You can find the oils here.

June Workshops and Pop Up Shop:
If you’re looking for some extra support for your spiritual journey come check out my upcoming Pop Up Shop, Channelling Night and One Day Workshops in Brisbane 29 June to July. On Saturday June 30 I’ll be teaching Foundation Spiritual Practices (the things I used to develop my own psychic and intuitive skills, self-awareness and compassion), and on Sunday July 1 I’ll teach Meditation and Mala Making (this second workshop is brilliant if you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, stuck or suffering from anxiety or depression). No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, Two of Crystals’, is from the Inner Child Cards – A Fairy-Tale Tarot. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

That Day We Always Knew Was Coming…

“The afternoon knows what the morning never suspected.” 
Robert Frost

I’m feeling achy and sad inside today. Late on Monday afternoon, we sent Ben’s elderly mum to hospital. She’s in her nineties and has always been stubbornly independent. And she’s been able to stay at home on her own with help which is just the way she wanted it.

But she’s been in increasing pain from a degenerated hip. Her vision is failing. She’s moved into dementia. Bit by bit we’ve watched as she’s stopped driving, stopped shopping, stopped cooking. We’ve all worried over her, and what to do for her, and what might happen when she moved into that place of no longer coping.

Now, over the past few days she’s not been eating, not drinking water, and all she’s done is cry from pain no matter what we’ve done or with what home doctors have prescribed. So off she went in the back of an ambulance – with a small bag packed with nighties, a hairbrush and toothbrush, a dressing gown, her house keys.

We met with hospital staff yesterday and we realised we’d reached that time we’d always known was coming. She won’t be able to go home to her own home. The hospital will do their best to manage her pain, and to find the best options for her. But when she leaves hospital it will be to go into care.

So last night after we left her in her hospital bed, Ben and I went over to her house to take the perishables from the fridge, water the pot plants and put out the bins for her.

We didn’t think we’d cry, but of course we did. It’s hard to believe that she left in her pyjamas with that tiny bag, and now she won’t be coming back to her home and all the memories and everything she loves.

The only thing that matters to all of us is that she is safe, well cared-for and most importantly that she is not in pain. So she’s in the right place, and this is the right time, but oh, I didn’t think it would be so terribly hard, so terribly sad, or that we would be this emotional.

Maybe it’s better like this. No big dramas, no long-winded goodbyes. No big scenes about putting her into a place she said she’d rather die than have to end up in. She’s happy to stay in hospital or ‘medical places’ until they can get her pain under control. It was a blessing to say goodbye to her yesterday and see her face a little less drawn, and watch her burrow down under the covers and go to sleep in clean sheets, a hot meal in her tummy and kind nurses checking in on her.

Still, we’re struggling with it. Still, we’re wishing there was another way.

Love cracks you open, doesn’t it? But isn’t it fiercely, beautifully worth it to feel it all so deeply.

Biggest hugs to you, my lovelies, from your slightly broken-hearted friend,

Nicole ❤ xx

 

A Week For Self-Care! Monday Oracle 4 June 2018

““We are all butterflies. Earth is our chrysalis.” 
~  LeeAnn Taylor

 

Hello, Lovelies!

June is a quieter month energetically – one that invites us to spend time with loved ones, time on ourselves and our wellbeing, and time resting, recharging and doing what we love. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the oracle card Seven of Wands brings us.

This week we’re encouraged to make choices that support our healing and rejuvenation journey. Think extreme self-care! This isn’t just about diet and exercise, although making healthy choices and being more active is always a good idea.

For some people what will be needed most this week is early nights.

For others it might be a massage, or spending some time on personal maintenance – you know; having a manicure, getting your hair done or buying some new clothes. A little strategic pampering can go a long way this week.

What you might need most this week is a walk on the beach, a night staying up late listening to your favourite music, or a trip to the movies.

You might even need to do some unpleasant things that will ultimately benefit you, such as going to the dentist, getting your will made or seeking legal advice.

Whatever you decide, make choices that support you and help you to feel nourished, loved, uplifted and cared for – especially for all of you who spend the majority of your time looking after everybody else.

Supportive crystals this week?

Smoky Quartz keeps you grounded, gifting inner strength and the ability to
listen deeply to your own needs. Labradorite (pictured) encourages self-care, supports empathy and intuition, and is a gentle and reassuring stone for developing psychic ability. Rose Quartz is extremely nurturing, helping you to act and speak kindly and lovingly towards yourself. Larimar is also a good choice. This pretty blue stone will help you to speak your needs, and acknowledge where you are stuck, out of flow or in need of healing and change. A super stone for calling in healing on all levels.

Helpful essential oils?

Geranium is my choice this week. Geranium is such an underestimated essential oil. With its sweet floral scent it’s brilliant for helping you relax, unwind and get connected to your essence. It will uplift you and stimulate creativity, sensuality and emotional flow. If you’re an over-giver and your tank is dry, geranium oil will fill you back up again.

Apply it to your pulse points at wrist, neck and over heart like a perfume. Place a few drops in your bath water. Diffuse it. One of my favourite uses is as a centering and inspiring pick-me-up. Put a drop in the palm of your hand, rub hands together and then inhale the aroma. (Here’s a simple three-minute meditation you can do using geranium or any of your favourite essential oils – click here)

If you’re completely strung out then Lavender Essential Oil will calm your mind and body. Use in the same way as outlined above for Geranium Essential Oil.

 You can find the oils here.

July Workshops and Pop Up Shop:
If you’re looking for some extra support for your spiritual journey come check out my upcoming Pop Up Shop, Channelling Night and One Day Workshops in Brisbane 29 June to July. On Saturday June 30 I’ll be teaching Foundation Spiritual Practices (the things I used to develop my own psychic and intuitive skills, self-awareness and compassion), and on Sunday July 1 I’ll teach Meditation and Mala Making (this second workshop is brilliant if you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, stuck or suffering from anxiety or depression). No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘Seven of Wands’, is from the Inner Child Cards – A Fairy-Tale Tarot. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

Revisiting Our Guiding Card for 2018

“Be the celebrators, celebrate! Already there is too much—the flowers have bloomed, the birds are singing, the sun is there in the sky—celebrate it! You are breathing and you are alive and you have consciousness, celebrate it!” 
~  Osho

 

As May comes to a close I thought it time to revisit the guiding energies for 2018. This year The Sun is our guiding card and her message is a powerful and wise one.

This year is about connection and inclusion. It’s a fine year for all forms of creativity, fertility and innovation. 2018 is heart-focused. Relationships – with yourself, with others, with your work – that’s what matters this year.It’s a great year for healing old hurts, mending fences and rebuilding relationships. It’s also a year where you’re clearly see where to walk away and put your energies to situations and relationships that are more suitable for you.

The Sun shows us that this year we’re supported to spend time in acts of creativity and innovation. Ideas will flow. Things will come together. Making money, making art, connecting in love, original ideas and projects – all of these things will become easier as we work on healing our old hurts, fears and limiting beliefs.
It’s also a year for socialising, for celebrating and for connecting with family and friends.

The Sun’s energy is strongly aligned with our Solar Plexus Chakra – our centre of Self. Our solar plexus is the bright yellow chakra that sits around the navel, and this chakra is all about our identity and sense of self, our individuality and self-sovereignty. It’s time to be more true to ourselves. We need to shine our Light in the world by being who we came here to be. This might have made the beginning of 2018 difficult for you, as you began to feel into the truth of who you are and to see where the life you are currently living may not have been aligned with your innermost truth and values. Shift and realignment can be uncomfortable while we are in that readjustment period – while we’re facing how far we’ve moved away from our true north – and making changes to our behaviours, beliefs, relationships and circumstances.

It’s a time for making things and creating art. For finding a life path that fills us with gratitude, for celebration and for strong growth in our families and businesses. It’s about belonging to or creating a tribe of our own. A time for enjoying ourselves and this gift that is our lives. A time for moving forward together.

After years on a path of struggle and feeling alone in the world, 2018 opens out onto a kinder energy where we can finally begin to feel like we belong. First thought, we might need to break free of the old. That’s okay. The pain of that change will be worth it.

Don’t waste your year on hard work and striving unless that is absolutely the thing that lights you up, and even then make sure there is ample time to smell the roses. It’s a year where we need to slow down, reflect and find ways to have meaningful engagement with ourselves and the world around us.

At its heart 2018 is a soul-centred and abundant year. It holds a very fresh, nurturing and inspiring energy. It’s a year of possibility, creativity, connectedness, communication, collaboration and community. It’s a time where love can blossom, and relationships can thrive. The families we are born into or create for ourselves, our friendships, our work and community connections – all of these will have a greater importance for us this year.

So, as we come into June which is a month for reflection, soul work, for rest and healing and cosy-ing up with the people we love, it’s worth looking back on what we have already decided, overcome or acted upon this year, and celebrating our milestones, however large or small they may be.

You might also find this simple meditation helpful:

Eating The Sun 

Holding you in my meditations and my heart. Thanks for sharing the journey with me, dear friends, Much love,

Nicole ❤ xoxo

 

Are You Using The Hive Mind Yet?

“Hive Mind – a collective consciousness, analogous to the behavior of social insects, in which a group of people become aware of their commonality and think and act as a community, sharing their knowledge, thoughts, and resources” ~ dictionary.com

“Twitter in particular has often been termed a “hive mind” that connects users to draw on the help of a larger group, such as getting suggestions for where to eat in an unfamiliar city.” ~ Ben Zimmer

We’re at the dawn of a new energetic era – a time of co-operation, collaboration, community and connection. And we’ve just left an energetic era that was all about hoarding knowledge as power and of the rise of the independent and disconnected individual.

What that means for most of us who were born prior to 2012 is that we’re lousy at asking for help, and we’ve grown up expecting to solve our own problems and to suffer silently in the doing of that.

I can feel you nodding your heads in agreement. Empaths, intuitives and sensitive souls especially – we’re not good at asking for ourselves, we’re only good at helping others.

Which brings me to the reason I’m writing this post.

It’s no longer necessary for us to have all the answers. It’s time to throw ourselves open to the hive mind. It’s time to start asking for help. This era asks that of us – if we are to evolve and grow.

Trust that someone within your family, workplace, social network or in the wider community will hold the solution to your problem, or as a group they will work out something more elegant and suited to your needs than anything you could come up with on your own.

I have a dear friend whose husband has just been diagnosed with cancer this week. They live in a rural community with their young children, but her husband will need to come to the city for treatment. She told me she’d love to come with him for his first appointments and chemo sessions, but she needs to be home for her children. But she doesn’t. She lives within a community. She has friends and family, and a wider group of people who care. If she throws her problem over to them someone or several of the group will come up with a solution for her. She doesn’t have to do this alone. And I know if someone else in her community was in her position she would naturally be one of the first people to offer them help or to rally a group to support them.

Please, lovelies, stop struggling on your own and ask for help. Then accept that help. Contribute your own energy to the hive mind, but also use it yourself.

I’m so excited about the possibilities of this new era and how it can help all of us move to a place of more kindness, compassion, community and connection. And it starts with us asking and being open to help and new ideas, and us sharing our own wisdom and knowledge.

Breathe a sigh of relief. It feels good not to have to struggle on our own. It feels good to be able to reach out to others for help and to help others too. Not every burden is ours to carry alone.

Much love to you, Nicole   xx

 

A Big Week For Change and Healing – Monday Oracle 21 May 2018

“I can love who I think you are
Or you can allow yourself
To be yourself
So that I can love YOU.” 
― Kate McGahan

 

Hello, Lovelies!

May is a month that empowers you to take the long view of your goals, and to make decisions and take actions that support those goals. We see that it is pointless to put ourselves under endless pressure. May supports sustainable action, and working towards our goals and dreams bit by bit, step by step. Keep that in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the oracle card The Big Bad Wolf brings us.

The Big Bad Wolf calls on us to face our fears, our shadow side, and the dark place where we hide our secret hopes and dreams.

If you’re honest (and I want you to be honest) there are parts of yourself that you’re ashamed of – things that have happened in the past, that were done to you or that you’ve done to yourself or someone else. Or maybe you’re ashamed of the way you look or the way you act or of your current situation.

There are places and emotions within you that may make you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps it’s anger, maybe it’s lust, or it could be a huge desire to say ‘Screw it!’ and walk away from whatever is the sensible situation or relationship that everyone else keeps telling you is so great.

There are also dreams and desires you keep hidden deep inside because they mean so much to you. If you act on them and fail then who will you be? If you act on them and are judged or are rejected who will love you? If this thing doesn’t work out what will shape your life and give it meaning?

The Big Bad Wolf shows you that these inner places hold the key that will unlock your power. Embracing them and integrating them into your life, or bringing them out into the light to be healed or expressed will help you to grow and give your life satisfaction and meaning.

Think about those shadow parts of yourself and those secret dreams. Then find a way to claim them, heal them, integrate them, act on them. That’s your path to growth, and your path to self-love and reconnection with all that you are. This week can be life-changing if you are brave enough to act.

Trust your intuition – it’s heightened right now and this deeper sensitivity will guide you well.

Supportive crystals this week?

Orange Calcite connects you to inspiration and your heart’s desires and is a wonderful beginner stone for tuning in to the spiritual realms. Use it to help you see your first steps forward. Amethyst helps you tune in to spiritual guidance and also helps you to think deeply about your problems in ways that allow solutions to be found. Smoky Quartz (pictured) helps you tune in to your shadow side with empathy, compassion and wisdom. Tiger Eye will help you focus, make big decisions and act with integrity and courage.

 

Helpful essential oils?

Cypress is a very useful oil this week, unless you’re pregnant or lactating (if you are please don’t use this oil – try Roman Chamomile instead!). Cypress has a woodsy fresh aroma that is expansive and uplifting. It works with our heart chakra, helping us to step into our power and to move through grief, pain and trauma with grace and courage. It’s a great oil for your diffuser.

Want to create a soothing and empowering blend for the week ahead?
Add 6 drops of Cypress, 2 drops of Bergamot, 2 drops of Frankincense and 2 drops of Lavender.

 You can find the oils here.

If you’re looking for some extra support for your spiritual journey come check out my (rescheduled!) Pop Up Shop, Channelling Night and One Day Workshops in Brisbane 29 June to 1 July. I’ll be teaching Foundation Spiritual Practices (the things I used to develop my own psychic and intuitive skills, self-awareness and compassion), Meditation and Mala making (this second workshop is brilliant if you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, stuck or suffering from anxiety or depression). No matter what level you’re at I’ll have something for you on my program. More details here!

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, ‘The Big Bad Wolf’, is from the Inner Child Cards – A Fairy-Tale Tarot. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. 

Being Okay With Where You Are

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” 
Lao Tzu

I’m still recovering from the flu, and gee, it’s taking muuuuuuch longer than I would have liked. On top of that I managed to pick up a vomiting bug because of my dodgy immune system, so that has meant a couple of useless days just as I was picking up again.

I have to be honest. Yesterday morning after a horrid night I was quite despairing. You know; tears of frustration, being totally over it, and yes – being down on myself too. I wanted to be writing. I wanted to be back at work. I wanted to be doing so many other things. I wanted hair free of knots!!! (Try lying in bed through fevers and misery for a month and see what that does to your hair – I know some of you completely get this because things like illness and depression are not friends to long locks…)

And oh the guilt I began to feel that here I was in bed. Again.

I didn’t stop myself feeling any of those things.

That never helps.

This is my truth. I’m getting better slowly. I’m frustrated. I had a less-than-great couple of days. It was okay to be in a bit of a hole.

It’s helpful to be able to be honest about where you are and how you feel. I had a cry on the phone to my sister. I had a cry with Ben. I had a cry with the dogs. After which I slept and slept and slept.

This morning I am doing better. In a week or so I’ll be back to doing all the things I had wanted to do. Meanwhile, I am where I am and it is what it is.

I realised a few years ago that I had bought into this crazy belief that I needed to be 100% on 100% of the time. Because of that belief I pushed myself relentlessly. No matter what my truth was. This perfection thing is all around us – on social media, in magazines and on television and in movies. It’s the expectation at schools and universities and in our workplaces. We’re not meant to have down days, sad days, sick days, ugly days.

Except that we all do.

We all do.

So my lovelies, the next time you have a down day or a sick day, the next day you feel like crawling back under the covers and not facing the day, extend yourself some compassion and know that it’s normal to not be 100% on your game every single day. Only robots and Stepford Wives do that. Everything else you see providing evidence to the contrary is a carefully curated lie. Please don’t buy into that!

A model’s self portrait in the style of the Stepford Wives by Christine McConnell

No matter what your current reality there is no point fighting it. It is what it is. Fighting against your truth is disempowering. You beat yourself up, lower your vibration and end up feeling even worse than you did before. It keeps you in the hole longer.

Accepting where you are at, honestly and without judgement, creates shift.

Don’t like where you are at? Accept that truth. Sometimes that’s all you need to do to create movement in a new direction and a lightening up of your mood and situation.

Don’t want to keep living this current version of yourself? Decide to change it. That’s not fighting it, that’s empowering yourself to move in a different direction. Wanting to change and then deciding to change still honours where you currently are and that’s so important for self-love and self-acceptance. Affirm to yourself I am where I am but I can change. 

No matter our current situation and how difficult things are we still have choices. We change emotionally, intellectually, spiritually or physically. That knowledge can be a life-raft, and it can open doors to new possibilities.

Self-acceptance is, in itself, a powerful force for change and for creating flow.

Sending you love and hugs, and holding you in my meditations, Nicole  xx

Sometimes You Need Right Timing

“Sometimes my successes come quickly and at other times they are terribly slow to arrive. It is not my place to determine the speed at which they arrive or if they arrive at all. My place is to keep forging ahead no matter what.” 
Craig D. Lounsbrough

If you follow my blog you’ll know that I’ve been working on my memoir for a while now. I started it after many of you asked me to keep telling the story of my time in the Kimberley and of my Aboriginal Aunties.

I’m up to my eighth draft now, and I’m fairly sure this will be my final one. This week while I’m mostly in bed recovering from the flu I am making these last few changes. I’d been hoping to be working on it at a writers retreat this week, but I didn’t make the final cut. I would have been too sick to go anyway. Funny, that.

I’ve tried to get this thing out into the world a few times now, and it has never flown. Each time, after the rejection, I have let it sit for a while and then have reworked it. Each time it has changed quite dramatically.

I’d decided that no matter what happened with this latest opportunity that I would complete the draft and then send it on. When I began this latest edit a few days ago I was sure I knew what my story was about, what the themes were and what needed to be changed. And then I had a discussion with my sister. As we talked about family and history I suddenly understood that this draft was missing a major message – something one of those wise Aboriginal women had shared with me which had changed everything I thought about myself. I saw that if it could change everything for me it would do the same for many of you. Some truths are universal like that.

If this draft had not been delayed I would never have reached that critical realisation.

So I’m trusting in right timing. I’m trusting that every rejection and hold-up was needed to shape the story it will become. I’m trusting that very soon it will be time for this story to be born into the world.

Has that ever happened to you? That the timing was all wrong until suddenly it was right. Looking back you knew that every disappointment was okay because now you were exactly where you needed to be.

I’m so looking forward to sharing my story with you. Wish me luck as I labour through these last changes!

Much love to you, Nicole  xx

Keeping It Real For You

“A good selfie is when you successfully capture the feeling of that very moment!” 
Anamika Mishra

 

Yesterday I ventured out into the world for the first time in weeks. This flu has really laid me low, and I’m still far from well but yesterday Ben, Cafe Dog and I went out to check the mail at our post box, to food shop for his mum and to grab a quick coffee.

Harry Dog was thrilled to finally leave the house too. Me? I was not quite with it, but grateful to be dressed and upright.

Makeup and hair styling? All too hard. I was clean, I smelled okay, and I’d swapped pyjamas for going-out clothes. As far as I’m concerned that’s a win!

We were out for less than an hour, by which time I was completely exhausted, but it was worth it to feel like part of the human race again.

I know. I can hear you saying it. I’m damaging my personal brand with these awful selfies. First it was thigh gap, and now real and unadulterated images of me feeling crappy and fluey and still quite horrid (and still with bad hair, wrinkles and oldness).

Oh well.

I’m really a bit over all of these images and stories in my social media feed about how to lose weight, look younger, have bigger boobs, fewer wrinkles, smaller thighs (or thigh gap!) or whiter teeth, and all of those images of perfectly happy people having perfectly wonderful lives.

Does your life look like that?

Mine doesn’t. And sweethearts it is absolutely fine if yours doesn’t either.

Today I want you to embrace yourself just as you are. Give yourself a hug or a virtual high-five from me if you’ve turned up for life today – no matter how hard things are right now. Give yourself an elephant stamp if you managed some personal hygiene. Have a gold star if you accomplished something on your list. Kind to yourself or others? Seriously – you deserve a medal! That’s the world I want to live in. I want a world filled with people who are honest and vulnerable and real – who show up courageously when life is hard, who reach out to others when they have the strength to do so, and who ask for help when they are struggling to manage on their own.

Let’s be kind to all those people with perfectly curated social media lives too. Because I can guarantee you that behind those images will be the same kinds of health dramas, money problems, relationship issues, depression, anxiety and ‘stuff’ that all the rest of us experience. They were just careful to edit those bits out before they put their life on display.

That’s one gift that chronic illness has given me – I’ve realised what matters, and it certainly isn’t about living my life to impress other people.

Lovelies, let’s agree to just keep being ourselves and to support others to be themselves too. Doesn’t that take off an enormous amount of pressure? Without that pressure we’ve freed up untold energy to put to much more constructive uses. Hooray for that. Hooray for real.

Biggest hugs to you from my personal-brand trashing self, Nicole xx