“Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives. Such striving may seem admirable, but it is the way of foolishness. Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life. Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples and pears. Show them how to cry when pets and people die. Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand. And make the ordinary come alive for them. The extraordinary will take care of itself.”
I’ve had a number of people message me about my upcoming Platform Retreat, all with the same issue. It’s an issue that might be affecting you too.
Here’s an example:
Hi Nic, writing a book and course has been a dream of mine for years. I’d love to come to your retreat but I’d feel like a big fat fraud. Who am I to be telling other people how to do things differently? It seems arrogant to think that I can make a difference in peoples lives, or that they would want to pay me for what I know. Also – I AM fat, and I worry that people will judge me as a middle-aged overweight woman who talks a lot.
Lovelies, here’s the problem: you keep judging yourself by all the bright-eyed pretty-young-things out there on Instagram and Facebook, with their magnificently styled and curated lives.
Of course you won’t feel like you measure up if you compare yourself to them, but why do you need to? (Also, many people would say that Oprah is a middle-aged overweight woman who talks a lot!)
It’s a big world, and out there in the world are plenty of people just like YOU, or a younger version of you. People like you will be grateful to hear from someone just like them – they’ll relate to you BECAUSE you are yourself. There are people out there right now who are looking for the answers you have, the life experience you have, the help and support you can give them.
My big message to you today is that you are enough. Just as you are. What you have to say matters. You matter. Please don’t deprive the world of what you have to share because of self-doubt.
We are the ones who have come here to change the world. And to do that we need to be ourselves, and share what’s in our hearts.
I’m cheering you on, lots of love, Nicole xx
PS – Some of you have also said you’d love to come to Retreat but you don’t know what to write about. That’s my job to help you find your starting point. As long as you know the broad topic and area, we can hone in on the specifics together! 😉