The Minister and Sister Sinner

“Ah. I smiled. I’m not really here to keep you from freaking out. I’m here to be with you while you freak out, or grieve or laugh or suffer or sing. It is a ministry of presence. It is showing up with a loving heart.” 
~ Kate Braestrup

I remember sitting in a coffee shop twelve years ago. We were regulars there, Ben and I, at a place close to our city home.

We knew everyone. One of my favourite people, let’s call him Brian (not his real name) was an elderly ex-dragqueen and retired male escort. He was HIV positive, impeccably groomed and an excellent conversationalist. (People always seem to confide their life story and innermost confidences to me, and I am glad that they feel safe to do so.) I kept an eye on Brian and often invited him to dinner or brought him a home-cooked meal. Brian kept me interesting articles from The New Yorker.

Brian had recently been deep in conversation with a younger man, a man who always seemed stressed and harried and who kept to himself. But, on this particular morning, Brian brought that man – Mark (also not his real name) – to my table and introduced him, telling me to look after him because Mark had just experienced a bad night at the deathbed of someone in his community.

We became friends that day and in the months after we often shared a table and a chat over early morning coffee. Mark was clever, funny and sharply sarcastic. Slowly I came to know what Mark did. Slowly he came to know my world too. Mark was a minister on the other side of town. He confided that to me as some kind of illicit secret some months after I first met him. He asked that I didn’t tell anyone who he was or what he did. Jokingly Mark christened me ‘Sister Sinner’ because I was a practising psychic and the Bible expressly forbids that. I explained to him that being psychic wasn’t a choice, just like being gay wasn’t a choice. We were born this way, made this way. Mark agreed.

A few years later Mark abruptly left his ministry, causing a huge scandal. I sat with him over coffee that same morning as he explained why he was leaving. He was from a religious family and he told me that he had no faith, had never had faith, didn’t believe anything he taught, didn’t believe the Bible and envied me that I had a faith at all. He’d taken the job in the church for security, a clear opportunity for advancement, and a safe place for himself as an undeclared gay man. But he hated dealing with people and he hated having to serve a congregation.

I felt so sad for him. Mark had the kind of job I’d wanted for myself when I was small. He was there for all of the important events in the lives of his parishioners. He got to give them comfort, to guide and support them, and to bring them together as a community. As a child at primary school I’d wanted to be a minister but I couldn’t, because I was a girl and also because I struggled with the teachings of the church. It didn’t fit with the feelings and knowledge that I had in my heart. I kept waiting for a better version of religion to show up, but no matter where I went I didn’t find a doctrine that fitted me. In the end, Buddhism meditation practices and my own quiet faith in something bigger than this little life we live are what serves me. I have seen too much to doubt that there is existence beyond this one, although I certainly don’t have all the answers. Which brings me back to Mark, whom I haven’t seen for ten years.

I bumped into him yesterday, in the corridor of a hospital.

He was visiting his elderly mother who is recovering from surgery. He’s back working with the church, studying and writing and following an academic path.

I was visiting a long-time client who had called me in crisis. She reached out to me for guidance about how to be with her six-year-old daughter who is dying from a brain tumour. I was up at the hospital to support this woman, her family and her daughter in these final hours.

Mark and I chatted briefly. Then he hugged me and laughed in a kindly way. ‘So, Nicole,’ he said, ‘it seems you’ve got your own flock after all, although I don’t know what qualifies you. You’re a minister without a church, without a God, without a pay packet. Meanwhile, I’ve got the gold watch, the all-expenses-paid trips to Rome, the superannuation and the bright future. I think you’ve got a bum deal. Best of luck, Sister Sinner.’

I could tell he meant it in the best possible way. I’m glad things worked out for him. I’ll keep him in my prayers and meditations.

Also, Mark, I know you’ll be reading this and I do know what qualifies me. Being human. Having empathy and kindness. Being present for others. Having a deep desire to serve. Devoting myself to this spiritual path, although it may not be one that you understand, and wanting to share this path with others so that it may bring them comfort and meaning.

There are more people on my particular path than you know. Maybe it’s a path that you would finally find meaning from too.

Much love to you, Sister Sinner xx

Being Family Is No Excuse For Bad Behaviour!

“An apology can be a wonderful thing so long as it is infrequent and from the heart. However, beware of the person who justifies bad behavior with apologies. For them it is a means to an end, and quite often at your expense.” 
~ Gary Hopkins

Yesterday I wrote about how the energies right now are causing many sensitive and intuitive souls to back away from drama and poor behaviour in relationships. Instead, sensitive souls are seeking greater peace and harmony in their everyday lives.

I had lots of comments and messages from people who identified with that need for peace and who had been actively stepping out of or minimising difficult relationships, and I also had a few messages like the one below. Although this is a more extreme example the sentiments expressed were a common thread in my inbox:

Dear Nicole, I was wondering if you could help me. I am living in a difficult situation. I moved home from the city a few years ago when my father became ill, and I live in a flat under my parents’ house. I’m self-employed and I’m single with no kids, unlike my siblings, so it was decided I would be the best person to help out.

My dad is an alcoholic invalid who becomes physically violent at times, and my mother often takes out her frustration on me by verbally abusing me, hitting me or wrecking my stuff. On my birthday this year some friends came to our country town for the weekend to celebrate with me. My mum smeared faeces all over my car inside and out just before I was to drive into town to meet them for lunch. There is no taxi service in my town and I was so upset that I cancelled the lunch, and couldn’t get the car clean enough to meet them the next morning either and I was too ashamed to tell my friends what had happened.

My parents rely on me to drive them places, to manage their medications, do their shopping and the lion’s share of the housework. In the few years I have been home they have become increasingly frail and more and more dependent on me. Both of them drink and my mum is addicted to pain meds.

I am at the end of my rope. I’ve just turned forty and my parents may live for another twenty years or more. Respite Care won’t take them and the Blue Nurses will no longer come because both my parents have been violent towards them. Can you please tell me how to find some peace in my situation? It sometimes gets so bad that I consider self-harm.

Dear friend, I have some very simple advice for you. Call your siblings and have a family meeting. Don’t negotiate with them. You’ve done your time. It does not matter that you don’t have children or a partner. Your life is equally valuable! You are wasting your precious life on people who have no regard or respect for you. It’s time to leave.

Just because someone is a family member does not give them the right to abuse you and disrespect you. And just because you are a woman, and a single woman, does not mean you should get stuck with becoming a carer in such a difficult environment. Work with your family and health care providers or the appropriate departments to get a care solution for your family that doesn’t involve you. Or, just leave. Your parents are adults too. They are making their choices and you have the right to make your own.

To all of you dear readers who find yourself in a situation where a family member or loved one shames you, bullies you, intimidates you, hurts you, abuses you, disregards or disrespects you – please understand that being family is not an excuse for bad behaviour. Being family does not give anyone the right to treat you badly. And being family does not mean that you must remain loyal, subservient or tolerate abuse.

If you are a sensitive, intuitive or empathic soul and you are craving quiet over drama, peace over difficulty, safety over trauma, then do what is right by you and distance yourself from the relationship or situation. You can let someone stay in your heart but remove them from your life. This is your one precious life and you don’t get a do-over. Don’t waste it on people who can’t respect or care for you even as you care for and respect them.

I’m sending you so much love, and holding space for you to find the courage to choose a life that gives you back your freedom, Nicole xx

How To Drop The Drama And Nurture Inner Peace

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” 
~ Dalai Lama XIV

Many people are telling me right now that they feel a compulsion to drop the drama. These are people who are going through a spiritual or psychic awakening or who identify as empaths, intuitive, sensitive or psychic.

Suddenly they don’t feel like being with ‘friends’ who gossip destructively, who drink excessively or who otherwise drain them. They find themselves putting up barriers, or going into behaviours such as avoidance by not answering their phone or returning emails. They feel themselves withdrawing from the complexities and overwhelming interaction of their lives. They also feel the need to ‘get their house in order’. For some people that might be doing seven years of overdue taxes. For other people, it could be de-cluttering their home, or even their social calendar so that they can reclaim some calm quiet space for their transformational journey. Does that sound like you?

Many people have also asked me if it’s okay to feel like this? Of course it is! Sometimes we need to simplify and create time for ourselves so that we can heal and reconnect.  When we reduce the outside chatter and the need to be organised and involved we are free to spend times with ourselves, in self and spiritual exploration. Our inner world is rich and filled with delights, directions, ideas and advice, but we can only connect with this aspect of ourselves through peace, solitude and rest. And sometimes we need to rest FIRST. Reconnection can begin after our batteries have recharged enough that we are no longer just in survival mode.

Most of us live bombarded by situations, workplaces, devices and relationships that over-stimulate us. In fact, this overt stimulation seems ‘normal’ and we don’t realise just how frazzled, stressed and over-extended we are because that’s how everyone lives!

In this state of bombardment, our bodies produce extra chemicals to hype us up and help us cope. As we become more stressed we are less able to hear our own inner guidance systems and Universal guidance. This further taxes our body and soul. We also become much more left-brain dominant. Our left brain analyses and organises and prioritises and schedules and criticises to help us cope with the overwhelming inflow of stimulation and information. (I feel exhausted just reading that!) 

Our creative, emotive, spiritual right brain is used much less when we are under stress. That aspect of us becomes ignored. As a result, we become depleted, depressed, exhausted and just plain old stuck. In fact, sometimes we become so depleted or overwhelmed that the Universe assists us in our need to hibernate and reconnect by gifting us an illness, accident or other life-altering drama so that we have no choice but to rest and re-evaluate.

If that sounds even remotely like you, it’s time to nurture some inner peace. Inner Peace is a place of calm connectedness, an energy of stillness and silence that is found deep within you. It replenishes you, it heals and refreshes you, and it radiates from you to touch, heal and calm others.

Here are some simple suggestions for nurturing Inner Peace:

  1. Declare certain days or times of the day to be screen free.
  2. Simplify your life.
  3. Spend less time doing things you don’t want to, and being with people who tax you.
  4. Instead of going to shopping malls and crowded places, try a beach, a park, your garden, or even your lounge or bedroom. (But no TV, phone or computer!)
  5. Let go of some of your extra commitments and activities.
  6. Book a weekend break somewhere in nature where you can eat, sleep, walk, read and rest. Leave the phone and laptop at home and resist the urge to listen to the radio, read the newspaper or watch TV.  Practice being lazy and indulgent.
  7. Learn to meditate.
  8. Take up yoga, tai chi or qi gong and practice it daily on your own.
  9. Indulge in a regular massage, health or beauty treatment that is relaxing and/or healing.  Ask the practitioner not to talk unless the question or instruction is part of the treatment.
  10. Spend five minutes each day just being mindful of where you are, how you feel, what is happening around you in nature, and what is happening in your body.
  11. Walk.
  12. Go on a retreat.
  13. Start a hobby you can do on your own like art, woodwork, knitting or writing.  Make the hobby a form of meditation.
  14. Dance. It frees and builds energy within the body, and promotes joyfulness.
  15. Sleep. (It’s a remarkable antidote to fatigue!) 

Here is a short guided meditation to nurture your connection to inner peace:

Take care of yourself, today and always,
Much love, Nicole xx

Higher Perspectives and Healing – Monday Oracle 15 July 2019

“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” 
~ Albert Einstein

Hello, Lovelies!

July is a powerful month, bringing insight and empowerment. It’s a month for understanding what is holding you back and keeping you trapped. It’s a month for honestly identifying and owning any addictions, self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours and damaging relationships (with people, beliefs or situations). July also gifts you the clarity, energy and courage to end those things that do not serve your Highest Good. (And I have a gorgeous new online course which will help you capitalise on all of this good energy! Details Here) Keep July’s energy in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card Air Guardian brings us.

Air Guardian encourages you to look into all the old hurts, pains and shames of your past. Know that it is possible to do that without being triggered back into pain this week. Instead, you’ll find that – often for the first time – you can look at that situation or relationship and see the learnings that have come from it, so that you can take the learning and then close the door on the past.

Air Guardian supports you as you grow wiser. This is not knowledge from books. This is hard-won wisdom from the experiences of life. Wisdom that is owned in every cell of your body – the kind of knowing that, once understood, can never be lost.

See everything that has happened as part of your growth.

Know that healing is possible. You are a different person today. Today is a new life. Yesterday is forever in the past and your future is anchored in the NOW. Air Guardian invites you to live mindfully in the now, looking forward with hope and your hard-won wisdom.

Supportive crystals this week?

Amazonite (pictured) helps you to live bravely and from your heart. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth. Mookaite is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and embracing change.  Dalmatian Jasper helps you move forward, living in mindfulness. It releases stress and amplifies joy. Yellow Obsidian is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and for embracing change.

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Frankincense and Ylang Ylang essential oils again this week. Frankincense is the Master Healer and is fabulous for connecting to your inner wisdom. Ylang Ylang has proven ability to promote relaxation and positive emotions.

These diffuser blends will work well for you:

  • 2 drops of Frankincense, 2 drops of Ylang Ylang and 2 drops of Cypress to promote clear thinking, forward vision and personal empowerment
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Bergamot and 1 drop of Vetiver for a blend that is grounding and uplifting and sure to shift you into a positive headspace and support taxed adrenals
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Geranium and 2 drops of Lavender for a sublimely relaxing and nurturing blend (this one’s good in the bath too!)
  • 2 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Jasmine, 2 drops of Sandalwood and 1 drop of Frankincense to promote deep meditation and heightened intuition

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Do you want some support for your journey?

My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. Suitable for complete beginners and advanced students. The feedback from students already enrolled in this course has been amazing and their results have been too! Click here to find out more.

Be gentle with yourself this week. There’s no point in beat yourself up about the past. The only place where you have power is when you are in the moment. Learn, grow, turn your face to the sunshine and keep moving forward.

Lots of love, Nicole  xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, Air Guardian’, is from the Angels and Ancestors Oracle Cards by Kyle Gray. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different from the meaning found in a book. 

Staff Meeting, Part Two

“People who enjoy meetings should not be in charge of anything.” 
~ Thomas Sowell

Once upon a time, I was a member of the corporate world. My meetings lasted hours and sometimes days. I wore a suit. I was often bored, or frustrated. Every hour a meeting dragged on made me feel a little more dead inside.

I do meetings differently now.

Our Staff Meeting started with a cup of tea and a tasty piece of cake on the veranda.

After a skype meeting with our team member who’s in another country (Hi, Miss Love, And HAPPY BIRTHDAY FOR TODAY!!!), we broke for sourdough toast and soup in the winter sunshine.

Then we did a little more work.

We finished scheduling our next course and looking at the calendar for 2020. That also involved scheduling a mini-break interstate with Ben for my birthday in September this year. Because holidays matter!

In the afternoon we walked up into the orchard and picked sweet mandarins and lemons.

Just a little more work and then we called it a day.

In the early evening we stood outside looking up at the moon and the stars in the crisp winter sky before we came back to sit by the fire and enjoy a leisurely dinner.

We got plenty of work done and came up with some great new ideas. But we also balanced that work with living. And that feels right for me.

I like this new business model much better than that old way of working. How about you? What kind of business world do you want for yourself?

Much love, Nicole xx

A cup of tea for us, under the Jacaranda tree here at my farm!

Do Your Eyes Do This Weird Thing During Meditation?

“An awake heart is like a sky that pours light.” 
~ Hafiz

Yesterday I received an email from a reader who has been experiencing something unusual when they meditate:

‘Just a small question about meditation. Have you experienced a change in lighting sometimes, like the whole room’s lighting changes? Such as, everything has a slight yellow and blue or even green extra layer to it, like overlayed on top or on the side of the object. It’s really quite annoying during my meditations and I cannot seem to concentrate. It’s happening every, single, time. There’s no resources online for this, so I thought I might ask you. 

If I could describe it in another way, it would be like as though someone took the room’s image into a computer program, and changed the hue on the image to only yellow, blue and green output then stuck it back over the original image. Or a five-year-old’s school art project. 

I guess 1 more bit of crucial info would be that my body sort of locks into place, a sort of temporary paralysis, kind of like when your body does that before astral projecting, going into trance or doing a journey.

Sorry that’s about as much as I know. Your expertise would be greatly appreciated. 

Dear Reader, let me start by reassuring you about the eye tints. I have been meditating in earnest since I was eleven. In the past 41 years, I have experienced everything you’ve described. Many of my students have also experienced aspects of this as well. In fact, today I feel that my eyes have become permanently altered through meditation. One eye holds a warm orange tint when I look through it, and one holds a cold blue tint. It’s unchanging and no optometrist or opthamologist has ever been able to give me an explanation.

Try not to let it bother you. You are adjusting to seeing energy differently. This doesn’t happen to every meditator but it often happens to people who have intuitive and psychic ability. It will settle over time. But it may always happen to some degree.

As to that feeling of being locked into place? That’s also quite normal. An aspect of your consciousness has been outside your body. You must be fully ‘back in’ your body before you regain the capacity to move. Don’t let it alarm you. It’s a very common occurrence.

Try to see both of these quirks of meditation as signs that you are having a genuine energetic experience of an altered state. Feel good about that. It’s an indication of a greater capacity for metaphysical work.

Stay tuned. My team and I are working out the final details of our online spiritual mentoring course which helps give you foundation skills for psychic and spiritual development. We’ll blog all the details just as soon as we’ve nutted them out. That course will be useful for you. And next year I’ll be launching my new online Academy so that there will be somewhere for you to go to learn about your abilities and how to use them, and so you can meet and hang out with other like-minded people.

Until then, keep meditating. It’s one of the best things you can do for stabilising and expanding your metaphysical gifts.

Much love, Nicole xx

Claim Your Personal Power – Monday Oracle 8 July 2019

“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” 
~ Steve Maraboli

Hello, Lovelies!

July is a powerful month, bringing insight and empowerment. It’s a month for understanding what is holding you back and keeping you trapped. It’s a month for honestly identifying and owning any addictions, self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours and damaging relationships (with people, beliefs or situations). July also gifts you the clarity, energy and courage to end those things that do not serve your Highest  Good. (And I have a gorgeous new online course which will help you capitalise on all of this good energy! Details Here) Keep July’s energy in mind as we look at the gifts of inspiration which the card High Priest brings us.

High Priest reminds you of something vitally important this week. This life is YOUR life. It’s not a life for you to please your mother, or placate your partner, or to be submissive to a bully, or to stand in the wings waiting for someone to notice you and invite you to the stage. This is YOUR life.

Your life starts as an empty canvas, a book yet to be written, a movie waiting to be made. You’re the star. So, what do you want your life to be about? If it hasn’t happened yet it’s not too late. Every day is a chance to start afresh.

There’s no point playing small. There’s no point in comparing yourself to others and, in doing that, being defeated before you’ve even started. This is YOUR life. And no-one can change it for you. No-one is coming to save you. You must save yourself. You must change your life for yourself!

High Priest invites you to think about how you want your life to be, no matter what your current situation, and then create the intention that your life can be different from what it is now. Dream, plan and decide. And most importantly, don’t be afraid to act.

Thinking is not enough. Dreaming is not enough. Planning is not enough. High Priest shows you that, in order to change your life, you must combine vision with action. But if you do that, you WILL change. Not only that, from that place of action you will draw forth many unexpected helpful energies and miracles of manifestation. So, courage my friend. You CAN do this!

Supportive crystals this week?

Amazonite (pictured) helps you to live bravely and from your heart. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth. Mookaite is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and embracing change. Fluorite taps you into your innate creativity, fires up your inspiration and helps you to be honest, objective and innovative with your life. Orange Calcite connects you to creativity, inspiration and your heart’s desires and helps you to develop confidence in yourself and your dreams. Use it to help you see your first steps forward.

Helpful essential oils?

I’m loving Frankincense and Ylang Ylang essential oils this week. Frankincense is the Master Healer and is fabulous for connecting to your inner wisdom. Ylang Ylang has proven ability to promote relaxation and positive emotions.

These diffuser blends will work well for you:

  • 2 drops of Frankincense, 2 drops of Ylang Ylang and 2 drops of Cypress to promote clear thinking, forward vision and personal empowerment
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Bergamot and 1 drop of Vetiver for a blend that is grounding and uplifting and sure to shift you into a positive headspace and support taxed adrenals
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Geranium and 2 drops of Lavender for a sublimely relaxing and nurturing blend (this one’s good in the bath too!)
  • 2 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Jasmine, 2 drops of Sandalwood and 1 drop of Frankincense to promote deep meditation and heightened intuition

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Do you want some support for your journey?

My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. Suitable for complete beginners and advanced students. The feedback from students already enrolled in this course has been amazing and their results have been too! Click here to find out more.

This week I urge you to value yourself and your life. This is not a dress rehearsal, and you won’t get a do-over. Every day that passes is one you’ll never live again. Let this week support you to reclaim your personal power and make this life count.

Lots of love, Nicole  xx

PS: Monday’s oracle card, High Priest, is from the Angels and Ancestors Oracle Cards by Kyle Gray. I use any cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different from the meaning found in a book. 

12 Signs You Are Having A Psychic Awakening

I suspect everybody has a degree of psychic ability, just as a everybody has a degree of athletic or artistic ability. Some people have special gifts; other people have a particular interest that leads them to develop their abilities. But the phenomenon itself is ordinary and widespread.” 
~ Michael Crichton

I’ve had many people asking me about the difference between Spiritual Awareness and Psychic Awakening since my post a few days ago. Spiritual awareness leads to an opening of our hearts and to a period of personal and spiritual growth. Psychic Awakening leads to an opening of our hearts, to personal and spiritual growth AND an unmistakable, unignorable call to a path of service.

Here are twelve signs that what you’re experiencing is an awakening of your psychic abilities. You may have experienced any or all of these:

1. Crowds become overwhelming, distressing and make you feel psychically battered and energetically drained.

2. Your dreams become increasing vivid and seem to contain messages, information and symbols that go beyond what your normal subconscious would put on the nightly view-screen of the inside of your eyelids. You remember these dreams and keep thinking about them during the day, trying to work out what they mean.

3. You become confused at what people tell you, when part of you knows that the words they are saying don’t match their emotions, inner thoughts or energy. You can’t put it into words, but you feel that conflict and find it disturbing. You have no way to prove what you feel.

4. You get feelings of heat in your palms and fingers, your feet, around your heart, on your forehead around your third eye chakra, or in the top of your head. You may also get a sensation of moving energy or tingling.

5. Your sleep becomes disturbed. You wake up at 2am, wide awake and waiting for something. But what? Weirdly, by about 4am you can get back to sleep again, and you don’t become tired from this crazy routine.

6. You become suddenly attracted to crystals, healing arts and metaphysical tools. You may feel energy in stones, places or people, or access impressions or information if you touch a person or an object.

7. You get a fullness or a choking sensation in your throat (or throat chakra) like something is stuck there, or you want to speak, but there isn’t anything you can think of to say.

8. Electro-magnetic energy, wi-fi and electrical fields make you feel fuzzy, off-balance or exhausted. You feel immediately better in nature, or out of cities.

9. Your sense of deja vu increases and you experience moments of having been somewhere before, reliving a conversation or performing an activity again, even if it really is the first time you have experienced this thing.

10. You know things about people or situations that prove to be correct, even though there is no way you could have consciously known about those things.

11. You have been compelled to make sudden changes in your life, such as giving up smoking or drinking alcohol, or leaving a long-term relationship. Or you haven’t done it yet but you’re seriously thinking about it and know it’s inevitable that you will.

12. You should be happy but… your life doesn’t feel like it fits anymore and you no longer feel like you know who you are, what you want or where you are going even if from the outside you look like you’ve got it all together. You’ll also feel like no-one will understand if you try to explain how you feel.

If this sounds like you, please don’t feel that there is something wrong with you, or that you are going crazy. Intuitive ability and psychic awakening is a normal part of our soul’s development. Modern western culture may no longer recognise the path you are taking, but it is very real, and you are not alone in this journey.

Trust that your time is now, and that you are very much needed in the world. Know that there is a place for you here in my tribe, and that I value you and all you are experiencing. Stay tuned for next Tuesday’s blog, where I’ll have all the details of my new Online Spiritual Mentoring Course for people who are going through Psychic Awakening.

Much love, Nicole xoxo

Grown-Ups Get To Choose!

“We are always told that anyone over the age of eighteen should know what they are doing. The fact is, they don’t.” 
~ Rae Earl

One of the most important lessons I ever learned in life came from a trip to the corner store at the end of the street.

I was cooking dinner and realised I had run out of potatoes. Ben walked with me for the company and busied himself at the front counter while I rifled through the potato bin. He bought himself a bag of mixed lollies (candies), all counted out into a striped paper bag.

I paid for my two potatoes and then reached out for a sweet. ‘Hey,’ said Ben pulling the packet out of reach. ‘These are mine. If you want some, get your own!’ He was joking, but it made me realise something.

Lollies? I never bought lollies. I hadn’t bought a bag of sweets like that since I was a kid and my pa would give me fifty cents to buy some in the holidays. ‘Okay, I will!’ I said defiantly. It was wonderful to choose them, and on the way home I felt like a kid as I let myself eat a couple right before dinner – something my mum would never have allowed. By the time we got in the front door Ben’s bag was empty. I told him off for ruining his dinner.

‘Nic,’ he said, ‘I’m a grown-up. I can do what I want. I would have eaten them all before dinner or after dinner, but I ate them now because I felt like them and they were delicious. That’s the thing about being an adult. You get to choose.’

It might sound weird but that was a revelation for me. I’d grown up in a strict household, and I carried that strictness and all of those rules into my own independent life. But now there was no-one to tell me what to do. I could do what I wanted. I was an adult. I didn’t even have to eat my dinner if I didn’t want to. I could just eat my bag of lollies.

That freedom of being able to eat breakfast cereal for dinner, to not make your bed or to stay in pyjamas all day can be an awesome thing. But so often we only use that freedom adulthood bestows upon us to make childish or insignificant choices. The rest of the time we let life happen to us, or we make a choice once and think we can no longer make another. These July energies support change and I want you to understand that as an adult there are many other things you can use this superpower of choice on.

You can choose to give up smoking. You can choose to get a better job. You can choose to stay and work on a marriage with problems. You can choose to leave a bad relationship. You can choose to sell everything up and travel the world. If you’re stuck, if you’re unhappy, if something’s not working YOU CAN CHOOSE SOMETHING ELSE INSTEAD.

What will you choose in July?

Much love, Nicole xx

PS – Need some help with your choices?

My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. I show you how to do a ten-card spread and how to interpret each card to answer questions that will give you insights and clear guidance for your life. This versatile spread can be used for yourself and others and is a favourite of mine when I’m looking for more than just a superficial answer to a current challenge.

Everyone who has done the course is raving about it, and many have compared it to the kind of in-depth teaching I do during my exclusive retreats. It’s only $47 AUD and that includes over 2 hours of instructional videos, two guided meditations and a beautiful downloadable workbook. Click here to find out more.

Energies of July 2019

“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” 
~ May Sarton

Hello, Lovelies!

At the beginning of every month, I discuss the energies and gifts of the month ahead and how we can best use them to make our lives satisfying, meaningful and productive. I also choose a card to support the energies of the month. The deck I am using this year is The Good Tarot by Colette Baron-Reid, and July’s card is TEMPTATION

July is a powerful month  –  it is both your wake-up call and your warning, and it will lead to further self-empowerment!

It’s time to identify what is holding you back and keeping you trapped. It’s a month for honestly identifying and owning any addictions, self-destructive or self-sabotaging behaviours and damaging relationships (with people, beliefs or situations). July also gifts you the clarity, energy and courage to end those things that do not serve your Highest  Good.

Where are you being pulled off your path?  Where are you failing to walk your truth or to put yourself, your values and your important projects or calling first?

Don’t be a slave to debt, to abusive relationships of any kind, or to situations where you are not valued.  This is a month that calls you to free yourself from those chains. Look to where you feel or are indeed trapped –  then work out what to do about it.

July shows you that there is no need to go for the quick fix or to chase after every bright shiny new promise.  All you ever need is the simplicity of well-considered goals that you care about and find engaging and satisfying.

Don’t be swayed by the lure of materialism either. At the end of your life what will have counted most are experiences, relationships, accomplishments, shared moments and moments where you have glimpsed the face of God – whatever you perceive that energy to be.

This is a month to overcome fear and doubt, a month to become stronger in yourself and your life direction, a month to remind yourself about what truly matters.

Best crystals this month? – Amazonite and Mookaite

Amazonite helps you to live bravely and from your heart. It will boost self-confidence and self-worth.

Mookaite is a gently shielding stone that helps you to think clearly and to break patterns of self-criticism and negative thinking. It aids in looking for positive solutions to life’s dilemmas and embracing change. 

Essential oils to support your journey?

I’m loving Ylang Ylang essential oil for July. It’s one of the main ingredients in the perfume Chanel No. 5 and it’s famed the world over for its luxurious uplifting floral fragrance. Ylang Ylang isn’t just a pretty scent though. It has proven ability to promote relaxation and positive emotions so it’s a great addition to your emotional wellbeing toolkit.

Try massaging a drop or two into the back of your neck to soothe you when you’re frazzled, or put a few drops into an Epsom Salts bath for deep relaxation.

If you’d like to diffuse it, try these blends:

  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Bergamot and 1 drop of Vetiver for a blend that is grounding and uplifting and sure to shift you into a positive headspace and support taxed adrenals
  • 3 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Geranium and 2 drops of Lavender for a sublimely relaxing and nurturing blend (this one’s good in the bath too!)
  • 2 drops of Ylang Ylang, 2 drops of Jasmine, 2 drops of Sandalwood and 1 drop of Frankincense to promote deep meditation and heightened intuition

I’m passionate about essential oils and their capacity to support our wellness journey and our spiritual and emotional wellbeing. If you’d like to know more or want to source the oils I recommend and trust visit this site or contact me at channelnc@gmail.com

Ylang Ylang flowers
Ylang Ylang Flowers. Image from www.malva-parfum.ua

Extra Help for Your Spiritual Journey

Are you ready to learn how to use Oracle or Tarot cards intuitively? Whether you’re a complete beginner or if you’ve been using cards for years you’ll love my new online course Journey of Transformation. I don’t teach you how to read cards the traditional way – I show you how to use them as a tool for your intuition!

My new self-paced Journey of Transformation online course teaches you how to use your intuition and oracle or tarot cards to gain insight and guidance for life’s troubles or to get clear on your future direction. I show you how to do a ten-card spread and how to interpret each card to answer questions that will give you insights and clear guidance for your life. This versatile spread can be used for yourself and others and is a favourite of mine when I’m looking for more than just a superficial answer to a current challenge.

Everyone who has done the course is raving about it, and many have compared it to the kind of in-depth teaching I do during my exclusive retreats. It’s only $47 AUD and that includes over 2 hours of instructional videos, two guided meditations and a beautiful downloadable workbook. Click here to find out more.

Above all, look after yourself this month. Stand up for yourself. Stand up for your hopes, your dreams, your values and the causes dear to your heart.

Refuse to let others treat you badly. Refuse to treat yourself badly. Honour this precious life for the gift that it is. And on this journey remember to slow down every so often to smell the roses.

Great change is coming. So start preparing now by tuning in to what is most needed in your life. Act on that wisdom.

I’m holding space for you to be all you came here to be, and I’m cheering you on!

All my love, Nicole xx