How To Attract a Soul Mate Into Your Life

“When you make a choice, you change the future.” 
Deepak Chopra

 

July is a wonderful month for love. But what if you don’t have any in your life yet? Today I’d like to share a simple technique with you that can help you call in a soul mate or rejuvenate an existing relationship. (Yes, Leisa, I wrote this post for you!)

When it comes to manifestation the Universe works like a giant restaurant. It will only deliver you what you order. If you keep changing your mind it makes it hard for those hard-working kitchen angels to create the right ‘dish’ and deliver it speedily to you.  Mixed messages are confusing for everyone, and will ultimately frustrate you in your attempts to find true love.

Most people spend more time choosing a car than they do choosing a life partner.  How often do people fall into a relationship and then try and make it over into the one they want?  We throw so much time and energy and money into trying to make square pegs fit into round holes.  Often years of our lives are spent fighting battles we were never meant to win.

Discernment is the key to successful relationships, and discernment must ALWAYS start with awareness.  Are you aware of what you want in a relationship?  For many people, their clearest opinions and decisions start out being based around what they DON’T want.  This is as good a place to start as any, as long as you are able to then turn each negative into a positive.  “I don’t want a partner who will cheat on me” becomes, “I deserve a partner who will be faithful and loyal to our relationship.”  Look to the good and unsuccessful relationships around you to guide you in making your love choices.

Take time to really think about the sort of partner and the type of relationship you are looking for. As you become clearer about what you want, begin by writing down the qualities and characteristics of this relationship. Create a ‘Love Shopping List’ and add to it as your awareness increases. Take your time with this. Do you rush into buying a house, or choosing an expensive once-in-a-lifetime holiday? Make your list comfortable, accurate and reflective of your innermost desires.

If you meet someone who clearly does not fit what you ordered, then wait!  Maybe the Universal Chef is still cooking your meal.  (And. of course, they may wonderfully surpass all of your expectations!)

 

Activity

I have used this method myself, and so have many of my students, friends and clients.  This activity involves letting the Universe know exactly what you are wanting in a love relationship so that it can deliver this to you. In every single case that I am aware of it has been successful! I also know of people who have refreshed and revived existing relationships using the same technique.

When you have compiled your list of characteristics and qualities for your desired partner (as explained in the previous paragraphs above) review them until you are satisfied with your choices.

Take a clean white sheet of paper and write the following:

I, (Insert your name), now chose the following in my life partner:

Now write down your list. Finish the work by writing, I now accept this or better in my life. Sign the work and set it to one side. 

Take a second piece of paper. On this piece write down all of the qualities and characteristics within YOU that you can offer a loving partner.  Be honest and humble.  Sign it with, I offer this and better to my life partner.  This part is important because the Universe is governed by laws of energetic exchange – you don’t get anything for nothing!

Now fold both pieces of paper and seal them in an envelope. Hold the letter in your hands. In your mind’s eye, imagine these pieces of paper and surround them with a pink bubble of Light. Pour love energy into the pink bubble until your letter feels fully charged.

Put the envelope somewhere safe, and place your expectations to one side. If you ever think of the letter send more love and light to the pink bubble of energy surrounding it. Be open to what comes to you. The Universe always surprises us with more good than we could ever imagine for ourselves.

Wishing for you a month of kindness, love and heart healing,

Nicole  xx

Are You Using The Hive Mind Yet?

“Hive Mind – a collective consciousness, analogous to the behavior of social insects, in which a group of people become aware of their commonality and think and act as a community, sharing their knowledge, thoughts, and resources” ~ dictionary.com

“Twitter in particular has often been termed a “hive mind” that connects users to draw on the help of a larger group, such as getting suggestions for where to eat in an unfamiliar city.” ~ Ben Zimmer

We’re at the dawn of a new energetic era – a time of co-operation, collaboration, community and connection. And we’ve just left an energetic era that was all about hoarding knowledge as power and of the rise of the independent and disconnected individual.

What that means for most of us who were born prior to 2012 is that we’re lousy at asking for help, and we’ve grown up expecting to solve our own problems and to suffer silently in the doing of that.

I can feel you nodding your heads in agreement. Empaths, intuitives and sensitive souls especially – we’re not good at asking for ourselves, we’re only good at helping others.

Which brings me to the reason I’m writing this post.

It’s no longer necessary for us to have all the answers. It’s time to throw ourselves open to the hive mind. It’s time to start asking for help. This era asks that of us – if we are to evolve and grow.

Trust that someone within your family, workplace, social network or in the wider community will hold the solution to your problem, or as a group they will work out something more elegant and suited to your needs than anything you could come up with on your own.

I have a dear friend whose husband has just been diagnosed with cancer this week. They live in a rural community with their young children, but her husband will need to come to the city for treatment. She told me she’d love to come with him for his first appointments and chemo sessions, but she needs to be home for her children. But she doesn’t. She lives within a community. She has friends and family, and a wider group of people who care. If she throws her problem over to them someone or several of the group will come up with a solution for her. She doesn’t have to do this alone. And I know if someone else in her community was in her position she would naturally be one of the first people to offer them help or to rally a group to support them.

Please, lovelies, stop struggling on your own and ask for help. Then accept that help. Contribute your own energy to the hive mind, but also use it yourself.

I’m so excited about the possibilities of this new era and how it can help all of us move to a place of more kindness, compassion, community and connection. And it starts with us asking and being open to help and new ideas, and us sharing our own wisdom and knowledge.

Breathe a sigh of relief. It feels good not to have to struggle on our own. It feels good to be able to reach out to others for help and to help others too. Not every burden is ours to carry alone.

Much love to you, Nicole   xx

 

Breaking Curses – Leaving Fear Behind

“There is only one curse that really exists and that is to believe naively that curses really exist!” 
Mehmet Murat ildan

Every year I receive messages from the public or see clients who tell me that all of the suffering in their life is because of a curse someone has put upon them on or upon their family. These people are earnest, in fear, and often in a bad way.

Here’s a recent example:

I am struggling with life. Had a Aunty from Croatia who is a Nun put a family curse on my mum and her children (my brother and I)  Then my father passed away.3 days prior to his 53rd birthday day and was buried on his birthday. The next day I was married to my first. The church burnt down 1year after our marriage and the reception hall burnt down the second year after the wedding. And a lot more. Now I become successful and then fail. I am so broke now at 49 and haven’t even a home or a car. Do you know how to break curses? Ps The Curse came as a Voodoo doll of a woman stuffed with pins. We later were told the pins were cursed. Mum’s finger was pricked.

Every time I read these, or hear the stories from my clients I feel so saddened. Fear has run their lives, and their minds have become magnets to drawing more negative events into their lives.

But why? Is there power in a curse?

Only if you believe there to be.

Our minds are powerful things. Much more powerful than we really understand. And the power of our own mind can always overcome the thoughts or energies of anything external to us. But for that to happen we must believe in our own power.

Think for a minute about someone you know with a completely different religious or political view to you. No matter how much they argue with you, or try to cajole or convince you they can’t change your mind. You know what you believe, and you sit in certainty with your belief. Their words roll off you with no impact. You might actively tune out to their conversation. You just don’t buy into what they are saying. You’re empowered in your own belief.

Many of my readers and community members will feel like that when asked about voodoo, spells and black magic. We don’t even think about it usually. It’s not a part of our world, or our belief system. For us it holds no power.

The power of a curse is the power that we give it. If we give it power our own mind attracts and manifests all of the problems that flow from that belief. Our thoughts and words have power. The more we talk about the thing, and think about the thing, the bigger its energy becomes. (And this is true for ANY belief we hold, positive or negative.)

When we believe in something we begin to look for evidence of it in our lives. And no matter what our belief is, if we begin to focus on it and look for evidence of it we will find it. What we seek we find. What we think about we attract. We are the ultimate manifestors in our own lives. If we keep looking for tragedy, bad luck and bad energy we will surely find it and attract more to us.

Those negative things that have happened and which you want to use as proof of a curse? I’m sorry. We all get our fair share of illness, accident, peril and bad news. Life is fraught with risk, even as it is filled with wonders.

But that brings me back to the gentleman who wrote me this latest email. His fear and belief are strong. Which means his mindset and belief sends a vibration in the world that will continue to magnetise him to events and relationships of a similar vibration. We attract what we think about and believe. (Did I mention that our minds are powerful?)

How does he step out of this energy of feeling cursed? How does he break that energetic feedback loop inside his head?

When you become this deeply entrenched in a belief it’s not always so easy to do a flip and begin to believe something else. Which is why ritual becomes important. In every situation of someone believing they are cursed they have given their authority and power away to another person – the one who supposedly created the curse. Here’s a simple ritual to take your power back, and it’s a ritual that feels amazingly supportive. In fact if you don’t believe yourself cursed but you are feeling bullied, afraid, vulnerable or insecure this ritual can help. It’s a ritual that only needs to be done once, and it is very affirming and empowering.

One With The Light

Sit or stand in a place where you won’t be disturbed. If you love rituals and really want to ramp up the symbolism create a ring of salt to stand in or around your chair to symbolise purification. And light a candle to symbolise bringing light into darkness.

Now breathe in white light. Do this any way that feels good to you – by visualising or imagining or sensing white light coming into your body with every breath. You might breathe it in through your nose and mouth or draw it in through the top of your head. Fill every cell in your body with white light, and then create a bubble of light around you (your auric field) and fill that with white light too. As you do this you can affirm “I am one with the Light. I am one with Spirit (use God instead of Spirit if you prefer). Nothing can come between me and the Light. Nothing can come between me and Spirit.” Do this until you feel strong and light-filled. Know it to be true. Want to take it further in breaking that energetic connection? Add this phrase “I forgive all enemies and release them with Love and Light.” Then finish by saying “I reclaim my sovereign power. It is so.”

If you made a circle of salt step out of it and then extinguish the candle. But all of the props are unnecessary so only use them if it feels right for you.

If you believe a curse has affected your family line you have the authority to act on their behalf in removing those thought patterns and energy. To do this follow the ritual in the same way, but end by saying “I reclaim sovereign power for myself and my family. It is so.”

Once you’ve performed the ritual STOP THINKING ABOUT THE CURSE. Let it go. Let go of fear. Don’t talk about it anymore. If you find yourself dwelling on the past stop yourself and move on to thinking about something else. You can also remember the feeling of drawing white light into your body and remind yourself again “I am one with the Light, I am one with Spirit. Nothing can come between me and the Light. Nothing can come between me and Spirit.”

Use your powerful mind to search for evidence of what is going well in your life. Count your blessings. Live from love and from your own internal authority.

Sending you love, and all good thoughts and intentions for you to move to a place of better flow and awareness. Nicole  xx

 

 

10 Ways To Be Kind to Yourself

There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.  ~ Brian Andreas

Mostly when we think of kindness, we think of how we can act towards others. But today I want to focus on another equally important type of kindness – that which we extend to ourselves.

Too often we forget ourselves in the hurry and bustle of the year, and many sensitive souls get so busy looking after others that they forget to look after themselves at all.

Why not let 2018 be your year of aware self-care?

Here are ten simple acts of kindness you can give as gifts to yourself:

1.  Eat well – a simple, nourishing home-cooked meal eaten slowly and with appreciation – to replenish your body and comfort your soul. If there’s no time for cooking, have some healthy take-out options already thought through so that you don’t succumb to junk. (Pictured below is my Easy Kale and Orange Salad with Miso Dressing)

2.  Say no when you’re too tired.  No-one can run on adrenalin forever.  Honour your feelings and your own needs. Listen to your heart. Let yourself rest.  Replenish those batteries.  * Good advice here:  Are you too nice? 

3. Indulge in some self-maintenance.  Get your hair cut, have a massage, update your wardrobe or make that appointment with the doctor or dentist. For more info try 8 Ingredients for Better Health

4. Move your body! We were designed to move, and exercise is good for the body, mind and spirit. Choose an activity or sport that you enjoy, or simply go for a walk.

5.  Read a book.  Self-help, romance, educational, escapism, fantasy or non-fiction.  Reading is a wonderful way to take some time for yourself, to relax or to give yourself a mental stretching session.

6.  Make time for the things that you enjoy.  Indulge your hobbies, and connect with like-minded people who share your interests.

7.  Spend some real time with people (and creatures) you love!  Friends, family, pets – everyone who loves us and who makes us feel good about ourselves.  Social isolation is an insidious thing – facebook and texting can’t make up for that special energy of meeting up face to face for love, hugs, and laughs.

8.  Spend a little time dreaming…  Dreams aren’t just for kids.  Everybody needs a dream.  Try this great journalling activity: Writing Yourself into a Brighter Future

9.  Hang out in nature.  Spend the day or a week! Feel the sun at your back, the wind in your hair, the rain on your skin. Let nature fill you up and get you grounded again. Read more here: The Healing Power of Nature

10.  Ask for help.  Sometimes we just can’t do it on our own.  And sometimes we just don’t know what to do or where to start. On the days when we’re wrung out and hanging on by our fingernails, there will be someone out there who cares and is in a place where they can extend that guidance and support to you.  Asking for help is one of the greatest acts of kindness we can give ourselves. There’s more on this here: Sometimes your only job is to ask for help

You are worthy, beautiful, and you deserve love and kindness. Most of all, you need it from yourself.  The way we treat ourselves sets the tone in the wider Universe for how we expect to be treated. And our expectations have a way of manifesting…  Choose kindness!

Bless.

Much love, Nicole ♥ xx

What To Do After Meditation

“Meditate, visualize and create your own reality and the universe will simply reflect back to you.”  ~ Amit Ray

Do you meditate?

It’s one of the things we are practicing on retreat right now. Even a few minutes a day, done regularly, can change your life – bringing calm and increasing your ability to cope with life’s daily stresses.

But what about after meditation?

I’ve been teaching my students that those first few minutes after meditation are the perfect time for you to spend in visualisation. Simply hold a vision in your mind of the life you want to create for yourself – in any area of your life. Make it as real and immediate as you can, as though you already have that change in your life. Allow yourself to feel good about that change. And then bring yourself back into your body and go about your day.

That simple additional step of visualising after meditation, while you are still in connection with Universal Energy and calm and open to receiving will make a powerful difference to the way that you manifest in the world.

Try it. I promise you’ll be pleased that you did.

Sending lots of love and good energy to you from here at retreat, Nicole  xx

My Charming Coffee Companion

“Coffee is real good when you drink it. It gives you time to think. It’s a lot more than just a drink. It’s something happening. Not as in hip, but like an event, a place to be, but not like a location, but like somewhere within yourself. It gives you time, but not actual hours or minutes, but a chance to be, like be yourself, and have a second cup.” ~ Gertrude Stein

This week was one of those weeks.

In the midst of it a good friend accompanied me while I had some medical tests and then she took me for coffee when we were done.

This delightful fellow found his way to our table and hung out for a while with us. Well, he hung out with the hope that my toasted sandwich might find its way into his mouth.

He didn’t really have eyes for us at all.

I guess it’s always good to know what you want and to keep your eye on the prize.

My charming companion’s visualisation of the moment that food might reach his lips was so good he could taste it. (And yes, I did share some sandwich with him.)

How about you? What are you focusing on right now? Are you thinking more about what you want or don’t want?

Think about something you really want to do, be or have. Think about yourself as if you already have it. Think how that will make you feel. How your life will be different. Feel that gratitude in your heart.

Make it so real you can taste it.

That’s how you call something into your life.

Sending you all my love, and my hopes that you spend a little time visualising this weekend. Make room for some magical manifestation in your life! Nicole   xx

 

It’s Not Too Late To Join My Business Mentoring Program!

“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” 
Benjamin Franklin

In the past few weeks I’ve been inundated with people asking me if it’s too late for them to join my business mentoring program for 2018.

The short answer to that is NO, but the doors won’t stay open much longer. I’ll be closing out this group on March 15 and the doors won’t open again until January 2019.

My mentoring program combines a year-long membership to my Year of ME community and Planner, as well as a ten-month business course designed to help you get up and running or to level up and create better cashflow in your existing business.

And all of this while learning to be beautifully, comfortably and authentically yourself!

What’s Involved?

There are three options for this mentoring:

  1. The standard package which costs $770 – truly this is a no-brainer. Where else can you get ten months of business course and group coaching for $440 AND email support from me? Which is what it boils down to after we subtract the twelve-month Year of ME (YOM) community membership and course – the YOM course is compulsory and is where I teach many of the metaphysical foundations you’ll find so helpful in a soul-centred business. The YOM community is where I hang out, and where you can get access to me for all kinds of stuff. Incidentally, if business isn’t your thing or if you’re in that long queue of people waiting for a reading with me or to come on my next retreat you should consider joining YOM because I run regular webinars and Facebook live sessions where I share many of the concepts and skills I teach on retreats, and I also do card readings in my live sessions where I give my YOMMERS guidance and support – it’s awesome. Did I say you should come join us?! Details in my shop! The standard business mentoring package is available as a one-time purchase or monthly subscription. Note: total subscription cost slightly higher than one-time price
  2. The standard package plus ad hoc coaching hours – you can buy coaching sessions as you need them with me, to get that extra targeted support.
  3. The Deluxe YOMpreneur package. This package includes membership to YOM and YOMpreneur 2018, with one important extra. Dedicated one-on-one coaching time with me as we work through the YOMpreneur program. As a Deluxe YOMpreneur for 2018 you’ll receive:
    • Priority booking status ahead of all my other clients
    • 10 hours of intensive business coaching and personal metaphysical mentoring to be used throughout the year. All our sessions will be recorded and made available to you as MP3s.This can be taken as phone, skype or face-to-face sessions.
    • A twenty-minute orientation call/skype where we map out your coaching time with me for the year ahead.
    • Email support.
    • This can also be paid for as a one-time buy or as a monthly subscription

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Why work with me?

I have worked as a private business coach for a number of high-profile clients for over fifteen years, helping them to grow their businesses in sustainable ways. To do this work I combine my psychic and business abilities as well as my professional training and experience to help identify opportunities, strengths and skills – and to then generate business plans that elevate performance, create teams and build sustainable and strong businesses.

I’ve got a strong business and adult education background and qualifications in those fields, as well as being able to use my intuitive and psychic skills. My current business is a healthy six-figure gig that I run from home, part-time and often in my pyjamas, with help from a great team. I’ve run other people’s businesses, been a business trouble-shooter, a business lecturer, and run my own corporate communications company with universities, government departments, international agencies and global corporations as clients. I understand how to create businesses that can support your needs, especially if you have a family, are a carer or are working from a place of illness, fatigue or disability.

In 2017 I launched the pilot program of YOMpreneur – a program to help my Cauldrons and Cupcakes community and my metaphysical mentoring students to create their own success in business.

In 2018 I’ve refined this process to become YOMpreneur Business 2018. In this mentoring program I will work with you on your existing small business or a new business idea to build something that can generate income and help you to take your ideas and products to the world.

Seriously, I’ll never offer this amazing course at such a ridiculously cheap price ever again, so why not sign up now and take advantage of the chance to work with me to help make your business dreams a reality!

Read on to find out more below.

 

What’s In the YOMpreneur Course for 2018?

The YOMprenuer Course is designed to be used in conjunction with the Year of ME Planner yearly membership and course. Access to the YOM course and materials is part of the YOMpreneur Package.

The YOMpreneur Coursework and Support runs from February to November 2018.

In these ten months I will work to skill you up in the following areas:

  • how to think like an entrepreneur – the ‘ideas’ part of the business
  • how to think like a business manager – the ‘get stuff done’ part of the business
  • how to actively learn from the past year, and incorporate those learnings into your business
  • how to incorporate your intuition and values into your business planning and everyday business activities
  • how to understand and clearly define your business offerings and audience
  • how to develop business plans that are sustainable and that honour your own style of working and living
  • how to create systems to support your business and your work/life balance
  • how to identify your best opportunities for growth and success in 2018
  • how to work towards turning ideas into action, results and profit
  • how to generate cash-flow in your business
  • how to avoid burnout and make business fun again!

You’ll also get to connect with other intuitive and empathic entrepreneurs

If you join up as a YOMpreneur I’ll show you how to navigate and plan for the year ahead in business, and how to incorporate those activities back into your Year of ME Planner so that you get on track and then keep going. The YOMpreneur membership will suit you if you have a business idea but haven’t taken it further, but it will also work for you if you have an existing business and are looking to make it work better for you or take things to the next level! There is something here for all heart-based entrepreneurs.

I’m going to help you create the plan and then work the plan.

The emphasis in 2018 is on getting you cash-flow positive. We’re going to do this through regular group coaching calls, coursework and webinars.

YOMpreneur offers something very important – like-minded people, accountability and a chance to be less isolated in your business development and entrepreneurial dreams.

I’ll also have webinars and facebook live events to keep you updated, motivated and heading in the right direction. You’ll also have a special accountability buddy for the year ahead – me!

YOMpreneur 2018 includes the Year of ME membership (YOM) and year-long course as well as the YOMpreneur membership and course. Both groups also have private facebook pages.

YOMpreneur Course Program:

January & February 2018:

  • existing Deluxe YOMpreneur Members’ private one-on-one coaching sessions with me. Note: If you sign up for the YOMpreneur Business 2018 Package you can still access private coaching with me by purchasing coaching hours.
  • YOM Ruzuku program is online. YOM first webinar to walk you through the Planner and discuss the energies of the year ahead. (replays are available of all webinars)

February:

  • YOMpreneur Ruzuku course opens. Access to Business Planner and Review package.
  • Access to all course resources
  • Webinar to walk you through the Business Planner and to discuss the levels of business and where you currently sit within the 5 level framework.
  • Thinking like an Entrepreneur.
  • You’ll have homework – Your Ideas Catalogue and Creative Brief
  • Accountability Buddy program begins

March:

  • Knowing the Soul of your business
  • Knowing your Story
  • Identifying opportunity and how you can serve your market.
  • The importance of short and long range plans.
  • Minimum, Target and Stretch Goals
  • Group coaching calls start. These are fortnightly live calls where you will have the chance to ask questions about your business and the material we are working through together.
  • How to think like a Business Manager.

April:

  • Webinar about choosing a launch product and path.
  • Committing to the Next Step (this will vary depending on which of the five levels your business is at)
  • Finding the right language for your offering so that it connects to your market.
  • Marketing for people who hate marketing and self-promotion
  • Fining the right model for your first YOMpreneur offering: 1:1 or 1:few for services or leverage for physical products
  • Creating a pilot launch path for a product or service that will generate cashflow for you.
  • Group coaching calls.

May:

  • Building a strong profile and name for yourself and/or your business
  • Building your offering
  • Creating momentum and interest for your offering
  • Working out what you can and can’t do yourself
  • Group coaching calls

June:

  • Webinar and pep talk about launching and how to do it right
  • Generating sales for your launch
  • How long a lead-in do you need?
  • Selling your test product or offering your launch program
  • Collaboration and community as pathways for growth
  • Group coaching calls

July:

  • Launching your product or service
  • Refining on the Run
  • Gathering feedback and testimonials
  • Teams, and why you need one

August:

  • Webinar – What people really want from you and/or your business
  • Branding, social media, and the benefits of PR
  • Intuitive Business Development
  • Counting dollars and setting new goals
  • Systems and services to help your business grow
  • Group Coaching

September:

  • Choosing your Second Offering
  • Creating a calendar of events, launches or time to be sold (includes looking at your 2019 offerings)
  • Managing Failure and Minimising Disasters
  • Where to spend money in and on your business

October:

  • Webinar – Your List and your Story
  • Growing Bigger Sustainably – a How-To
  • Add-ons and value levels for your offerings
  • Group Coaching calls

November:

  • Bonus Final Webinar
  • Learning to review your work
  • Celebrating success for your business and your community
  • Identifying the steps you need to grow to the next level in your business
  • Planning for a successful 2019

Let me help you grow a successful business this year, as well as nourishing you on a soul level. It’s going to be great!

Much love, Nicole   xx

PS – YOMMERS and YOMpreneurs are valued and important members of our community – they also enjoy discounts on many of our services and events, and get priority treatment when booking for readings, retreats and workshops!

 

It’s Not Your Job To Understand The How

“The Universe is under no obligation to make sense to you.” 
Neil deGrasse Tyson

 

Right now we’re in a great energy for making decisions, crafting plans and dreaming up visions of how we would like our lives and our future selves to be.

I hope you take advantage of this energy to remodel your life or your life direction.

I’d also like to offer some advice;

All you need to work out is what you want. It’s not your job to work out the how.

I see so many people come up with a fantastic vision for their lives, or an incredible business idea. The thoughts they have give them energy and motivation. They are inspired. They are lit up from within.

And then…

And then their brain kicks in.

‘But it’s impossible’, their brain tells them. ‘We don’t know how to do that.’ ‘It’s unrealistic.’ ‘That will never work.’ ‘It will take forever and you’re already too old to be starting something like that.’ ‘We don’t have any money.’

Suddenly goals and dreams that were inspiring and potentially life-changing get whittled down to ‘sensible, practical and achievable’. With that smaller goal comes a total loss of passion and enthusiasm. The spark goes out of it. What was inspired becomes more grind. It breaks my heart!

Here’s the thing. It’s not your job to work out the how. It’s only your job to say YES to this big idea. All you need to do is commit to that vision or goal and start putting energy into it as best you can. As soon as you commit the Universe kicks in support and all kinds of magical synchronicities and help begin to flow your way. As you walk the path you’ll work out what direction to take, or what step needs to come next. Or someone else will show you or assist you.

It doesn’t mean there won’t be setbacks or obstacles. We all experience those, no matter what we do.

So, if an idea comes to you and lights you up, say yes to it. Even if you have no idea how to make it happen. The how comes later. And if you don’t say YES to that idea it will leave you, and go find someone who is willing to invest energy into it to make it move from thoughtform into reality. Think about it – I’m sure you’ve had a good idea before and not acted on it. At some later date you’ve walked down the street or turned on the TV and there’s your idea, brought to life by someone else and making them happy or making them money! Hey, you think. That’s my idea. But it isn’t. Because you didn’t commit. You got stuck in your head and let the HOW question overwhelm you.

So, Lovelies, dream big. Dare to think about your future and what that might look like. Be open to ideas. Invite them in. And don’t worry about the HOW. The universe is an ever-unfolding, ever-expanding miracle, looking for opportunities to express and explore. That means that those inspirations need a home. Be that home. Say YES. The HOW will take care of itself. That’s the way it’s always been done. Commit and you will find a way.

Biggest hugs and love to you, Nicole  xx

What To Do When You’re Stuck

“You need to know things the others don’t know. It’s what no one knows about you that allows you to know yourself.” 
~  Don DeLillo

 

This week’s energies support deep diving and moving into that space of high creativity. This kind of creativity is also a spiritual space, so it’s perfect for any kind of soul work. (If you’d like a recap of the week ahead go here )

It’s awesome energy if you already have a project or plan to work on.

But what if you don’t?

Today’s post is for those of you who are stuck, those of you for whom life just isn’t working right now, those of you who are lost.

Give yourself a good half-hour to do some investigation of your stuckness (big stuck might need more time or multiple sessions – I know this from previous experience!) and gather the following tools:

  • a journal and some pens
  • a deck of tarot or oracle cards where you really like the pictures
  • your favourite crystal or stone (optional but good)

I’d also highly recommend a cup of tea or your favourite non-alcoholic beverage, because soul work can be thirsty work, and what isn’t made better by a cup of tea?

Image by Mysterious Lass at deviantart.com

1. Start by holding your crystal if you have chosen one, and close your eyes. Allow your breathing to become calm, and let yourself relax. Then breathe in white light or draw it in through the crown chakra at the top of your head. Offer up a prayer that everything you do be for the Highest Good. Ask your Highest Self, Guides, Angels, Ancestors or God to guide you. Say or think the intention ‘Show me why I am stuck, and help me see what to do next.’

2. Open your eyes. Hold your crystal or place it beside you while you work (feel free to pick it up and hold it again if you need some energy or encouragement). Take your journal and a pen and write whatever comes, using any of the following prompts. Write your prompt into your journal and then keep writing in response to that prompt. Don’t edit yourself. Just let the words flow.

  • I’m stuck because…
  • I hate my life right now because…
  • What I really don’t like is…
  • What I really want is…
  • What do I need to tell myself right now…
  • What do I really need to know right now…
  • Who am I?
  • What do I want?
  • Where am I going?
  • What’s better for me?
  • I’d rather be doing…

3. If you’re super stuck, and nothing is coming, keep asking yourself Why? Give yourself every Why question you can think of. If you ask Why am I stuck? and then write This is stupid! ask yourself Why is this stupid? Eventually one of the Why questions will pry free all of the feelings and thoughts and answers that are stuck within you. Why are you stuck? Why can’t you do this? Why isn’t this working? Why don’t you know? Why is this a dumb exercise? Why? Why? Why?

4. You’ll end up with words on the page. Hooray! That’s the beginning of unstuckness. Go back over what you’ve written with a highlighter or a pen in another colour where you can underline key words and phrases. Highlight anything that stands out to you.

5. Now choose one of those highlighted areas to investigate further. (I told you this was a week for diving deep.) Write the words you’ve highlighted into your journal again as a new entry, Eg: My relationship with Steve. Close your eyes again, breathe deeply and bring yourself to a place of calm. Feel your energetic team and your Higher Self ready to guide you. Fill yourself with white light and really feel into that support and connection. When you’re ready open your eyes again and pick up your oracle or tarot cards. Shuffle them, thinking about your relationship with Steve. Then choose three cards. The first card shows you where you are now. The second card shows you what the issue or limitation is. The final card shows you your opportunity or outcome. Look at the first card, and really pay attention to whatever thoughts, emotions or ideas come to you, and what the imagery of the card says to you in relation to where you are now with this situation. Then write what comes to you from looking at the card. Repeat this process for the second card, looking to understand what the issues or limitations are. Now use the final card to explore what the opportunities or outcomes can be.

Be open to situations where you may now need to find a coach, mentor or qualified therapist. Sometimes we can own and understand the problem but need help framing up a solution.

Our heart knows what it wants. Our soul can guide us. All we ever need to do is make time for that questing and connection.

As you begin to get unstuck again expect more answers, more flow and a return to inspiration. You’ve got this!

Much love, Nicole ❤ xx

PS – If you missed my Facebook Live video over on my Cauldrons and Cupcakes page yesterday, or if you aren’t on Facebook you can watch it again here. I talk about the energies of this week, the crystals and essential oils that will support you, and some tips about how to work with the energies of the week ahead:

 

 

50 Things I’ve Learned From 50 Years of Life

“A happy birthday this evening, I sat by an open window and read till the light was gone and the book was no more than a part of the darkness.
I could easily have switched on a lamp,
but I wanted to ride the day down into night,
to sit alone, and smooth the unreadable page
with the pale gray ghost of my hand” 
~  Ted Kooser

 

It’s my birthday today. Yay me!

I’m fifty, and it feels GOOD. Originally I was going to post a quick picture of me as a kid, looking all cute, and a few others through the years to now. But when I dug out all my old photos and memorabilia a funny thing happened. I saw so many pictures of friends I have loved and lost, so many family members who’ve passed, and friends whose lives have been touched by tragedy. It made me realise just how lucky I am to still be here at fifty, well loved, safe and secure, with work I adore, despite having had so many health diagnoses and prognoses predicting my demise or failure, and several near-death experiences, starting back when I was in my early twenties. Sure my health is still an ongoing adventure, but hey – I’m alive, and determined to make the most of every day. I’m still here! That deserves celebration!!!

Here are fifty things I’ve learned that have been helpful to me and which might come in useful for you too:

  1. Everyone needs cake on their birthday.
  2. I am not everyone’s flavour, but I am some people’s favourite, and that’s enough for me.
  3. It’s always better to be kind.
  4. No-one is immune to suffering. We all get to have our turn.
  5. Big old trees have much wisdom to share if you can get still and listen.
  6. The sun comes up after even the worst nights and things do look better in the morning.
  7. Sleep is under-rated as a coping mechanism.
  8. Clean sheets and a shower always make you feel better.
  9. Life is too short to live it for other people’s approval.
  10. If you don’t do what matters to you now you might never get your chance.
  11. Don’t wait for things to be perfect.
  12. Surround yourself with people who are real, caring and who think well of you.
  13. Shut the door on mean friends and people who treat you badly or with a lack of respect.
  14. Life needs more picnics and less overtime.
  15. Good books, movies and music are a kind of soul medicine.
  16. Sometimes you just need to take a road trip.
  17. Yes, you really do need to eat your vegetables and get enough fresh air and exercise.
  18. Never be afraid to seek a second opinion.
  19. Getting older is a privilege.
  20. Practice good hygiene, wash your hands after you go to the toilet and before eating, and consider others when you are ill. Not everyone has a robust immune system.
  21. It really is okay to indulge your craving for junk food, sweets or ice-cream occasionally.
  22. A part of you never changes, and stays solid and anchored inside you through all of your life experiences. That essence is always there for you to tap into.
  23. A part of you will change and grow and move you far from where you started. As you change you may outgrow people, places or situations. That’s normal. Don’t let it stress you.
  24. Sometimes we come full circle and find ourselves back where we started, but with new understanding and wisdom. That’s a sweet moment of realisation.
  25. Love is worth the risk of pain and loss.
  26. Laughing opens your heart and lets the light in.
  27. There is something magical about being a stranger in a new city. It unlocks all kinds of mysteries inside you.
  28. You need comfortable shoes for big adventures.
  29. Forgiveness is almost always about you and not the other person.
  30. Listen to your instincts, and honour your intuition. It was given to you for a reason.
  31. Some time on your own to think about everything or nothing is time well spent.
  32. Everyone should be able to cook a handful of meals well. Not just for survival but for satisfaction too.
  33. You’re never too old to learn something new.
  34. Do what you can to help others, if you are in a position to do so.
  35. It’s okay to put your own needs first.
  36. Follow your passion, or at least your curiosity. Who knows where it might lead you!
  37. Life rarely goes to plan, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be awesome anyway.
  38. There is always someone or something that can help you manage pain better. Ask and keep asking until you find what you need.
  39. Being vulnerable is a strength.
  40. If you don’t want to do something say no.
  41. If you want something say yes.
  42. It’s better to have been rejected or to fail than to never have tried.
  43. Failure often leads to success.
  44. Every week needs a complete rest day. On the other days? Meditation gives rest on even the craziest of days and can be done in minutes. Learning to meditate is a gift for yourself and an investment in your well-being.
  45. Treat yourself well, and allow yourself pleasure.
  46. Find the things that make you feel like you and then surround yourself with that energy. It could be yoga, a perfume, soy chai lattes or books. Let something define you. Be okay if it changes.
  47. Fall in love. Keep loving, even when it gets hard. It always gets hard. Once you learn how to navigate the first hard bit the wonder of an ever-deepening relationship can reward and comfort you your whole life.
  48. Fall in love with yourself. Let it be a life-long affair and treat yourself gloriously well.
  49. It’s a good thing to be a little different, odd or unusual. Keep being yourself.
  50. Celebrate life – the milestones, the anniversaries and seasonal festivities, the successes and the ordinary. Celebrate on your own. Celebrate with loved ones. Celebrate with strangers. Let each day bring at least one small moment of grace or gratitude. Feel everything deeply and be unafraid.

Thanks for being part of my life.

Sending so much love your way, Nicole  ❤ xoxo