“Another way to be prepared is to think negatively. Yes, I’m a great optimist. but, when trying to make a decision, I often think of the worst-case scenario. I call it ‘the eaten by wolves factor.’ If I do something, what’s the most terrible thing that could happen? Would I be eaten by wolves? One thing that makes it possible to be an optimist, is if you have a contingency plan for when all hell breaks loose. There are a lot of things I don’t worry about because I have a plan in place if they do.”
~ Randy Pausch
this is a short and possibly sombre post, but also a necessary one.
It’s about Wills and about the fact that I want to make sure you have one.
In this last week I’ve had four clients rushed to hospital after sudden accidents or illness, and another four diagnosed with terminal cancer.
All of them have young children, pets, possessions. Of the eight, six are single parents.
Two of these single parents are in critical condition and unable to communicate. None of the eight of them have a will, or have talked with anyone about what their wishes might be if something like this was to occur.
Because, of course, we seldom think about these kinds of things when everything is going along normally.
Now the families and friends of these severely injured and incapacitated souls are scrambling to put things in place, but there is nothing to guide them.
What do these people want for their children in the event of their death?
What did they want for themselves when faced with major medical decisions?
I know it’s a chore to get organised for something like this. It forces us to think about things that all of us would prefer to ignore. But once it is done you’ll have the peace of mind of knowing that your wishes can be known and that you won’t be leaving further stress and mess for the very loved ones you’d want to protect.
Love and hugs, Nicole ❤ xoxo
PS – Want some questions to guide you in thinking about these things?
Try this blog post:
Conversations about Dying – We Need To Have Them