How To Escape The Virtue Trap – Monday Oracle 26 June 2017

“So full of artless jealousy is guilt,
It spills itself in fearing to be spilt.”

~ William Shakespeare

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Guilt’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for June, you’ll remember that June is a gentle month of revitalisation, redirection and emotional and physical nourishment.

Now, lets look at the gifts Guilt brings.

This powerful card asks us to dig deep this week in addressing our patterns of addiction and avoidance.

Sometimes we create a life of ‘virtue’ where we knock ourselves out to make our homes, our jobs, our bodies, our relationships ‘perfect’. We place more importance on how others may judge us than on our own satisfaction with the life we have created. We get stuck on that treadmill of perfection, while simultaneously our self-esteem and ‘sense of self’ evaporate. We lose ourselves.

Often without meaning to we also craft lives that are about serving others at our own expense. It starts out innocently enough where we give happily because we love the person or want them to think well of us.

We cook dinner every night. And clean up.

We do the extra chores. We take the extra job. We go the extra mile at home or at work.

Problem is, after a while, that gift usually becomes a task that is taken for granted by whomever we are serving. And why wouldn’t they, when we started out being such willing givers? They expect that we continue to be happy to offer whatever we have previously given.

We become resentful – trapped in a pattern of our own making and unsure how to get out. This can then lead to the kind of avoidance and addiction patterns that help us to cope with a situation that no longer works for us. We have an extra coffee or treat to get us through the day. We have an extra glass of wine at night. We pop a pill, or overeat, or use other unhelpful numbing mechanisms to mask our boredom, exhaustion, lack of fulfillment or outright anger.

This week Guilt encourages us to live mindfully, and to honour ourselves and what is healthy and satisfying for us.

It’s a great week for getting help for any kind of addiction or self-sabotaging behaviours. It’s a week for setting clear boundaries and asking others to do their fair share.

It’s a week for us to let go of what doesn’t work for us – be that behaviours, mindsets, jobs, relationships or social situations.

It’s not about putting yourself above others. You simply need to make yourself and your needs equal. You may be surprised to find that other people will accept your choice to step back from an over-giving situation.

Be brave this week. Make those changes. Have those conversations. Stand up for yourself. Get the help you need. It will be worth it!

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Quartz helps us to trust and believe in ourselves and our dreams, and to connect to what we truly feel and think. Green Chrysoprase opens our heart and helps us to find the courage to live the life that calls us. Black Tourmaline is great for helping us to see where we need to set boundaries.  Rose Quartz provides nurture and a deep sense of love and connection – great if you feel socially or emotionally isolated.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Awaken essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Geranium, Cedarwood, Lavender and Bergamot. Awaken essential oil blend smells sweet and woody and can be worn as a perfume (Place on wrists, over heart and on back of neck) or used in a diffuser. A few drops in the bath are heavenly too. It’s a great oil to get you out of your head and into your heartspace. It promotes spiritual connection and intuition and is deeply calming. I love this oil, and it’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

Live for What Makes You Come Alive – Monday Oracle 19 June 2017

“My fault, my failure, is not in the passions I have, but in my lack of control of them.”
~ Jack Kerouac

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Passion’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for June, you’ll remember that June is a gentle month of revitalisation, redirection and emotional and physical nourishment.

Now, lets look at the gifts Passion brings this week.

Passion is all about following our heart. Not for fame or glory, but because following our heart enriches our life and gives it shape and meaning.

It’s about singing if you love to sing, even if you will never secure a recording deal or become a world-famous musician.

Your thing could be baking or sewing or horses or writing or building things or growing roses. It might be collecting rare old books or working on your family tree or saving the wilderness.

Following our passions helps us to come alive. It might not be our current career – it might just be our hobby. And that’s okay. What matters most is that we make room for these passions and spend time on them. Passions sometimes have a way of becoming our path. All we ever need to do is be open, and follow our heart. The rest is truly up to the magical synchronicities and miracles of the Universe.

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Passion is also about sharing your gifts and passion with others, if that feels right.

It’s about spending your life in service to what matters to your heart. When we have no passion we become lost to ourselves. Passion is the lamp that lights us from within.

This week, Passion reminds us to craft a life for ourselves that pleases us, and that informs and inspires our days. When we share that magic, it can also brighten and inspire the lives of others too!

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Quartz helps us to trust ourselves and our dreams, and to hear those heart whispers. Green Chrysoprase opens our heart and helps us to find the courage to live the life that calls us. Black Tourmaline is great for helping us to see where we need to set boundaries.  Citrine helps us to bring the sunshine back into our lives, and to think with optimism and clarity!

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Abundance essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Orange, Cedarwood, Frankincense and Ylang Ylang. Abundance opens us to the flow of life, helping us to act from a place of love, trust and benevolence. Just rub a drop together in the palms of your hands and then breathe in and wipe through your aura.  Dab a few drops on your wrists or over your heart – its warm, spicy aroma makes it a great perfume or cologne. A few drops in the bath are wonderful too. You may want to dilute with a drop or two of a base oil such a sweet almond or coconut before applying directly to the skin.  It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser again this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

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The Strength Of Your Song – Monday Oracle 12 June 2017

“Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.”
~ Vernon Howard

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Dissipating’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for June, you’ll remember that June is a gentle month of revitalisation, redirection and emotional and physical nourishment.

Now, lets look at the gifts Dissipating brings this week.

We are cautioned against all forms of dissipation this week.

What does that mean? Dissipation can be defined as an act of diffusion (watering down), dispersion (scattering) or of wasteful expenditure.

In a month that is all about self-nurture and attending to our own priorities we are reminded not to bleed out for others at the expense of ourselves. Don’t end up with no fuel in the tank for what matters. Don’t be busy for busy’s sake. Don’t talk endlessly about the thing you want to do without actually taking any action steps towards it. As my darling guide Rollo often reminds me, don’t feed the chickens (ie don’t waste time helping people who don’t appreciate it, or on people or tasks that time suck – taking you away from important priorities). Chickens are never satisfied and will keep pecking away at you and invite their friends for a free feed too!

 

It’s wise to be mindful of whom you share your stories, hopes and ideas with. Don’t choose people who will put you and your ideas down, or be less than supportive. If you don’t know how your idea will be received then keep it to yourself until it has taken enough form that it won’t easily be knocked down or ruined by the criticism (even well-meaning!) or negativity of others.

And do you see that beautiful golden bird in the bottom left of the card? That’s YOUR bird. If you listen carefully the bird will sing you a song that creates a map for heart happiness. Problem is, most of us have trained that bird to sing songs to make everyone else happy. What could you learn about yourself if you opened up to that magical song this week? How could that change your life?

It’s a very important week for tuning in, for endings and fresh beginnings, for picking things up again, for turning in new directions, for resurrecting what never got finished but that meant the world to you.

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Quartz calms our fears and helps us to trust ourselves and our dreams. Green Chrysoprase opens our heart and helps with emotional healing and self-acceptance. Black Tourmaline is great if you have boundary issues.  Fluorite encourages us to see the possibilities in ourselves, especially in regard to creativity or business.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Abundance essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Orange, Geranium, Frankincense and Myrrh. Abundance opens us to the flow of life, helping us to act from a place of love, trust and benevolence. Just rub a drop together in the palms of your hands and then breathe in and wipe through your aura.  Dab a few drops on your wrists or over your heart – its warm, spicy aroma makes it a great perfume or cologne. A few drops in the bath are wonderful too. You may want to dilute with a drop or two of a base oil such a sweet almond or coconut before applying directly to the skin.  It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser again this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

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Ending Shiny Object Syndrome – Monday Oracle 5 June 2017

“We’re going to have to let truth scream louder to our souls than the lies that have infected us.”
~ Beth Moore

“The greater the artist, the greater the doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a consolation prize.”
~ Robert Hughes

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Insecurity’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for June, you’ll remember that June is a gentle month of revitalisation, redirection and emotional and physical nourishment.

Now, lets look at the gifts Insecurity brings this week.

Have you ever hear of ‘Shiny Object Syndrome’? It’s that distraction tendency we can suffer from where we start something and then don’t finish it because we are suddenly distracted by another idea which we then hurry off to explore.

You might do this with anything. Business ideas, book ideas, love relationships, career choices, chores, study, diets, exercise programs – anything at all!

Suddenly it seems that there are so many choices, and surely one of them will be better than your current one. It can actually send you a little mad…

We all do it to some degree. But this week we are being supported to see this behaviour in ourselves and also to begin to understand the energy behind it.

We chase Shiny Objects for four main reasons:

  1. We lack confidence in our decisions and worry that there might be a better choice for us.
  2. We make our choices to please others, rather than tuning in and honouring our own wisdom and desires.
  3. We care so much about the outcome that we don’t want to mess it up or fail.
  4. Other people constantly undermine and devalue us and our ideas.

Use the energies this week to simplify everything down to the main things that matter. Then put more time into those few things. How do you do this? Take some quiet time and reflect until you get clear. Journal. Pull an oracle or tarot card. Lean in with God (or whatever you perceive that Divine to be), your Guides and your own intuition. This isn’t about listening to other people. It’s about FINALLY listening to yourself.

Stop overthinking and start doing. You’ll be amazed at how much that can change your situation.

Then start saying NO to all of the things that don’t support the path you’ve chosen or that will pull you away from thing you need to complete.

Stuck and at a complete standstill?

Just make a decision. Even the act of making a choice will give you momentum, and you’ll soon know if is the right choice or if you need to pivot to a better one. But at least you’ll be moving again.

There’s a tremendous energy of intuitive clarity, emerging confidence and hope for you to tune in to this week.

Make the most of it!

 

Supportive crystals this week?

Blue Quartz helps us to overcome anger, resentment and jealousy, and move to a place of better emotional balance. Green Chrysoprase opens our heart and helps with emotional healing and self-acceptance. Citrine helps us to bring the energy and enthusiasm back into our lives, so our thoughts become optimistic and clear. Fluorite encourages us to see the possibilities in ourselves, especially in regard to creativity or business.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Abundance essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Orange, Geranium, Frankincense and Myrrh. Abundance opens us to the flow of life, helping us to act from a place of love, trust and benevolence. Just rub a drop together in the palms of your hands and then breathe in and wipe through your aura.  Dab a few drops on your wrists or over your heart – its warm, spicy aroma makes it a great perfume or cologne. A few drops in the bath are wonderful too. You may want to dilute with a drop or two of a base oil such a sweet almond or coconut before applying directly to the skin.  It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

The Healing Medicine of Kindness – Monday Oracle 29 May 2017

“So long as we love we serve; so long as we are loved by others, I would almost say that we are indispensable; and no man is useless while he has a friend.”
~ Robert Louis Stevenson

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Service’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for May, you’ll remember that May brings beautiful heart-nurturing energies, helping you to move towards love, forgiveness, inner peace and emotional freedom.

So, what gifts does Service bring for you this week?

Service is not about helping others from a place of duty or obligation. This week, Service reminds us that when we are kind and thoughtful with others we create opportunities for healing, growth and positive change within others and also in ourselves.

Service encourages us to live from love this week. To be kind rather than needing to be right. To forgive. To help. To share. To encourage. To support. To see. To hear.

This is an energy we can flow outward from ourselves to others.

But it is also an energy we can flow inwards to ourselves.

Go back and read that last sentence again.

In fact, it’s so important that I’ll repeat it: Service is also an energy we can flow inwards towards ourselves.

We can be kind with ourselves rather than judgemental. We can forgive ourselves. We can help ourselves. We can give to ourselves. We can encourage ourselves. We can support ourselves. We can truly see and hear ourselves. That’s a powerful gift, and a powerful place from which to create true growth and change.

This is a week for selfless giving, for creating better stories for ourselves and for asking for help – especially from our Ancestors and ‘upstairs’ crew (God, Guides, Angels and so on).

So much can come from an act of kindness or encouragement. Why not try it and see for yourself!

 

Supportive crystals this week?

Rhodonite is great for supporting us to follow our hearts. Green Chrysoprase opens our heart and helps with emotional healing and self acceptance. Amazonite gifts us courage to speak the truth and to act from truth.  Turquoise encourages empathy, compassion and kindness.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Abundance essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Orange, Geranium, Frankincense and Myrrh. Abundance opens us to the flow of life, helping us to act from a place of love, trust and benevolence. Just rub a drop together in the palms of your hands and then breathe in and wipe through your aura.  Dab a few drops on your wrists or over your heart – its warm, spicy aroma makes it a great perfume or cologne. A few drops in the bath are wonderful too. You may want to dilute with a drop or two of a base oil such a sweet almond or coconut before applying directly to the skin.  It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

Time to Let Go and Move On – Monday Oracle 22 May 2017

“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
~ Steve Maraboli

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Release’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for May, you’ll remember that May brings beautiful heart-nurturing energies, helping you to move towards love, forgiveness, inner peace and emotional freedom.

So, what gifts does Release bring for you this week?

We are often weighed down in life by emotional burdens, especially in relation to our past. These burdens take the form of  anger, fear, loss, shame, guilt, rejection, hate, resentment, judgement, abandonment, failure, injustice, poor decisions, mistakes, sorrow, pain.

This week we are encouraged to let go of the past. To forgive. To walk away. To close doors. To move on.

Why do we need to do this? Not for others. For ourselves. We can end up living in our heads, living in the past, wasting all of our precious life force on what was or what could have been. What we could have said or done differently.

But we can’t change the past. Our power lies in this moment. And when we can forgive and let go of the past so many things can change for us. So many things can open up or come into our lives.

Walking away from old patterns and behaviours that hurt us, diminish us or derail us. Yep, Release speaks to the support available for you this week to address these things.

Release is also about turn-arounds. Draining and negative situations will come to a close. Solutions will be found. New perspectives and knowledge will become available. Help will show up. If you’ve been looking for a sign, perhaps this is it!

It’s a week for us to embrace hope, love, forgiveness and compassion. A week for us to remember that we are not alone, that answers can be found, that we can move forward, and that we are truly loved.

Supportive crystals this week?

Rhodonite is great for supporting us to follow our hearts. Snowflake Obsidian will help to remove old negative self-talk and replace it with optimism. Amazonite gifts us courage to speak the truth and to act from truth.  Red Jasper will keep you grounded and emotionally supported if you need to move through trauma or anxiety in order to make changes.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Release essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Frankincense and Lavender. Release essential oil blend smells grounding and uplifting. We use it as a working tool on our retreats to help facilitate emotional clearing and spiritual shifts. Just rub a drop together in the palms of your hands and then breathe in and wipe through your aura.  A few drops in the bath are wonderful too. You may want to dilute with a drop or two of a base oil such a sweet almond or coconut before applying directly to the skin. Rub onto the back of your neck for instant effect. It’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx

You might find these posts helpful too:

Knowing When To Let Go

What To Do When You’re Forced To Let Go

The Art Of Surrender

How To Deal With Toxic People

Burning The Past – A Ritual For Cleansing Pain

Get Yourself An Ugly Journal

Choosing What Matters – Monday Oracle 15 May 2017

“Sometimes the dreams that come true are the dreams you never even knew you had.”
~ Alice Sebold

“If you want to identify me, ask me not where I live, or what I like to eat, or how I comb my hair, but ask me what I am living for, in detail, ask me what I think is keeping me from living fully for the thing I want to live for.”
~ Thomas Merton

 

Hello, Lovelies!

Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the energetic outlook for the week ahead. I use any oracle or tarot cards shown as a prompt for channelled messages and my own intuitive wisdom, so my take is sometimes quite different to the meaning found in a book. ‘Destiny’ is from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Deck by Tori Hartman.

If you read my forecast for May, you’ll remember that May brings beautiful heart-nurturing energies, helping you to move towards love, forgiveness, inner peace and emotional freedom.

So, what gifts does Destiny bring for you this week?

Destiny reminds us, with love and wisdom, that this is our one beautiful life. These days will never be repeated. There is no second chance. No matter what other lives we may have, no matter what comes after this life ends, today is all we have, and we cannot rely on having a certain number of tomorrows.

What do you want to do with this one precious life? What do you want your days to look like? Your weeks? Your years?

I don’t mean what was expected of you by your family or your teachers or your culture. What you think you should do. What you think you have to do.  What you think it’s too late to change. And I don’t mean what you are doing now; what you trained for, what you fell into, what you’ve fought for or been handed . No.

I’m talking about what is in your heart. That secret dream, that desire, that urge, that longing, that curiosity, that idea which won’t let go.

Today is all we can be sure of. Destiny nudges our heart, and helps us to see what really matters, and if it matters to us then we must act to make it real for us.

So, my lovelies, what will you choose this week? What matters to you? What would you die regretting if you didn’t follow your heart on this?

Supportive crystals this week?

Rhodonite is great for supporting us to follow our hearts. Snowflake Obsidian will help to remove old negative self-talk and replace it with optimism. Citrine opens us to ideas creativity and being able to accept help and opportunities. Red Jasper will keep you grounded and emotionally supported if you need to move through trauma or anxiety in order to make changes.

Helpful essential oils?

Young Living’s Awaken essential oil blend, or a combination (or singly!) of any of Rosemary, Orange, Frankincense and Lavender. Awaken essential oil blend smells sweet and woody and can be worn as a perfume (place on wrists, over heart and on back of neck) or used in a diffuser. A few drops in the bath are heavenly too. It’s a great oil to get you out of your head and into your heartspace. It promotes spiritual connection and intuition and is deeply calming. I love this oil, and it’s my oil of choice in my diffuser this week. You can find all the oils here.

Holding you, as always, in my thoughts, prayers and meditations, and intending for a you a life of abundance and joy, where you are no longer limited by your doubts.

All my love,

Nicole ❤ xx