Sadly enough, the most painful goodbyes are the ones that are left unsaid and never explained. ― Jonathan Harnisch Hey, Lovelies. Yesterday was a sad day for me. I learned that one of our clients, Mariette, took her own life on Sunday night. Mariette lived in Italy with her husband Anton. This time three years […]
The Accident And The Miracle
My client nearly died a few months ago, and they say that his survival was a miracle. Yesterday he told me what really happened…
Worrying. Not Worrying.
If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever. ― Dalai Lama XIV Hey, Lovelies. The good old Dalai Lama is usually […]
Today’s A Doona Day!
Sometimes you just need to refill your tank…
Life Lessons From A Deathbed
Dying? I’m quite looking forward to it. ~ Annie D. Hey, Lovelies. A friend of mine died. I couldn’t write about it yesterday – after she passed on Tuesday night – I was still too choked with emotion. But she wanted me to write about it, so, here it is. My friend Annie died the […]
Answering your questions about my wellbeing
Am I okay? Thanks for asking. Here’s my answer…
Verbal Assault Is Still Assault
Another day where, for me, wearing a mask attracts abuse. Another day where a friend of mine is paying a high price for a carer not wearing theirs…
What I heard when I talked to the trees
Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words. ~ Roy T. Bennett Hey, Lovelies. Maybe I’ll speak to […]
Vale, Craig Ruddy
Sensitive people care when the world doesn’t because we understand waiting to be rescued and no one shows up. We have rescued ourselves, so many times that we have become self taught in the art of compassion for those forgotten. Shannon L. Alder Hey, Lovelies. A short post today, to honour my friend Craig Ruddy […]
Vale, Sophie.
Sadly enough, the most painful goodbyes are the ones that are left unsaid and never explained. Jonathan Harnisch Hey, Lovelies. Last week I had a zoom call with a friend, Irene, who is helping me with some analytics and marketing. As we talked, she raised the idea of me finding a web dev (web developer) […]
68, 3, 11, 97, 1, 116, 382 – Numbers To Wake You Up
Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand–and melting like a snowflake… Francis Bacon For Lilly, because I promised you I would… For Angela, and all the things we never got to do… For Kate, who was […]
Helping Children Choose a Crystal For Emotional Support During Grief and Loss
When you wake up with a song stuck in your head, it means an angel sang you to sleep. Denise Baer Hey Lovelies, A dear friend called me yesterday. She co-parents with her ex and right now her child is living with her. Her ex-partner, the child’s father died in a car accident on the […]
My Friend Peter And His Message For Me
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about. Rumi Hey, Lovelies. Yesterday I was searching the internet for something related to my health, and a familiar name came up in the Google […]
My Grandfather’s Voice, Guiding Me
The people you love become ghosts inside of you, and like this you keep them alive. Rob Montgomery Hey, Lovelies! I’m probably around the age now that my grandparents were when I came into their lives as a baby. All of my grandparents have since passed away, and I still miss them, and think of […]
How To Clear The Energy of Secondhand Clothes
Ethical fashion is the recognition that there are human beings behind the clothes that we wear. Elizabeth Joy Hey, Lovelies! Have you ever bought secondhand clothes, shoes or accessories? Did you wonder if these items might hold unwanted energies? One of our community sent me a question yesterday, and suggested I might answer it via […]
The Mother, The Daughter and The Fire Alarm
A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace […]
The COVID Doctor, our Midnight Call, and a way you can help her
Even in times of trauma, we try to maintain a sense of normality until we no longer can. That, my friends, is called surviving. Not healing. We never become whole again … we are survivors. If you are here today… you are a survivor. But those of us who have made it thru hell and […]
My Message From Heaven, Via A Kind Man And A Sacred Bird!
If it’s possible to send a message from heaven, I’ll get one to you. Lurlene McDaniel Hey, Lovelies.Do you believe in signs? I certainly do, and I wanted to update you on yesterday’s post, where I called my dead friend Kate in the middle of the night, because in my exhaustion I had forgotten she […]
For Kate, who might read this from Heaven
I was waiting for the longest time, she said. I thought you forgot. It is hard to forget, I said, when there is such an empty space when you are gone. Brian Andreas Dear Kate, I called your number last night. It was late, and I was writing, and sipping tea, and playing music softly […]
The Changes I’m Grateful For As An Immuno-Compromised Person In This COVID Era
Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world. Nelson Mandela Hey, Lovelies. I was looking back over my diary from this time a couple of years ago. I had travelled to attend a very small group training with a business mentor. Participants were coming from around the world. It […]
Can I ask you a question?
Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin. Grace Hansen Hey, Lovely, Can I ask you a question? I want to know one simple thing. In your day, how much of that day is time for you? Life is short, and there is no do-over. Every minute gone is […]
What Do Russian Roulette And COVID have in common?
It is easy to be wise after the event. Arthur Conan Doyle Hey, Lovelies. I know. I’m usually Love and Light and Optimism. But you also know, above all, I’m going to be real, I’m going to talk straight with you. I’m going to do that now. Because, you see, I’m worried that you are […]
It’s Not Normal To Be Happy All The Time
“Emotions, in my experience, aren’t covered by single words. I don’t believe in “sadness,” “joy,” or “regret.” Maybe the best proof that the language is patriarchal is that it oversimplifies feeling. I’d like to have at my disposal complicated hybrid emotions, Germanic train-car constructions like, say, “the happiness that attends disaster.” Or: “the disappointment of […]
I cleared space in my calendar last night
“Death twitches my ear; ‘Live,’ he says… ‘I’m coming.” Virgil Lovelies, I remember one particular morning so clearly. It was the day we all thought I would die. None of the treatments had worked. There was nothing more to be done. And so I waited through the long hours of my last night, wrote my […]
That long COVID night…
I’ve been thinking: This is what the living do. And yesterday, hurrying along those wobbly bricks in the Cambridge sidewalk, spilling my coffee down my wrist and sleeve, I thought it again, and again later, when buying a hairbrush: This is it.Parking. Slamming the car door shut in the cold. What you called that yearning. […]
Accepting Loss As A Coping Strategy – Advice for Dealing With The Disruption Caused by Coronavirus
“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.” John Steinbeck Hello, Lovelies. During a conversation with someone from the chronic illness community yesterday, we compared notes on how part of our own journey of coping – with difficult diagnoses and prognoses and the devastating […]
Up All Night Because Of COVID-19
“Nicole, tell them to be worried, tell them take this seriously, tell them not to be like we were, unbelieving. Because now my husband is dying. This should not have happened but it did. So, tell them!” Mariette Hello, Lovelies. I’m late blogging this morning because I have been up most of the night talking […]
No Blog Today
Hi Lovelies, I’m busy suddenly supporting someone who is helping a dying parent pass over. So, I’ll catch up with you tomorrow. Sending so much love your way, Nicole xx
Don’t wait to start living
So have adventures. Go exploring. Drive around at midnight. Feel the wind running through your hair. Life is so short, my darling. And there’s no day like today. Morgan Matson Hello, Lovelies. There is an important story I want to share with you today. Two people died yesterday. I’d like to tell you about them. […]
The Decision Not To Plant
We are the first generation to feel the sting of climate change, and we are the last generation that can do something about it. Jay Inslee Hello, Lovelies. When we first moved to Byron Bay, fleeing eleven years of drought on our organic farm in Queensland, the locals laughed that they called it a drought […]
A Spiritual Reason Not To Stay Indifferent To Climate Change
The greatest danger to our future is apathy. Jane Goodall I had a strange conversation with someone yesterday. A person who happens to be a spiritual leader, teacher and author – a person many look up to, and by whom many are guided. A person I consider a friend. (No, I’m not going to name […]
Vale, Margaret Fulton, a National Treasure!
“You must immerse yourself in your work. You have to fall in love with your work … You must dedicate your life to mastering your skill. That’s the secret of success.” ~ Chef Jiro Oh goodness! One of Australia’s icons, the beloved Margaret Fulton, food writer and cook, passed away yesterday at the age of 94. Margaret […]
You’re Gone And I Still Miss You
“If I had a flower for every time I thought of you… I could walk through my garden forever.” ~ Alfred Tennyson Yesterday was July 4. It’s our niece’s birthday. It was our first dog Charlie’s birthday, Charlie who is now Harry. And it was Kate’s birthday. Kate was such a dear friend. I met her hanging […]
Energies of July 2019
“We have to dare to be ourselves, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.” ~ May Sarton Hello, Lovelies! At the beginning of every month, I discuss the energies and gifts of the month ahead and how we can best use them to make our lives satisfying, meaningful and productive. I also choose a […]
How Controversial Should I Be?
She had been suicidal once, at a truly difficult time in her life.
I’m Stepping Away From Work For A Few Days
“It is a curious thing, the death of a loved one. We all know that our time in this world is limited, and that eventually all of us will end up underneath some sheet, never to wake up. And yet it is always a surprise when it happens to someone we know. It is like […]
I can’t write this morning because my heart is broken
cyber bullying, bullying, school bullying, child suicide, loss, grief, losing a child to suicide
How To Be Strong
“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.” ~ Masaru Emoto Someone asked me yesterday how I came to be so strong. […]
Rufous – Rescue Dog, At Your Service
“When we give cheerfully and accept gratefully, everyone is blessed.” ~ Maya Angelou Our beautiful young red cattle dog, Rufous, has found a new calling. He’s certainly at home on our farm doing his chores and rounding up the cows. But he’s also discovered a wonderful hidden talent – he’s become a hit at the aged […]
Slipping Away
“It is best as one grows older to strip oneself of possessions, to shed oneself downward like a tree, to be almost wholly earth before one dies.” ~ Sylvia Townsend Warner One of our loved ones is elderly and in care. She has dementia and numerous health problems, but until recently she has always alternated between […]
A Heart-Gladdening Walk
“I only went out for a walk and finally concluded to stay out till sundown, for going out, I found, was really going in.” ~ John Muir I felt raw yesterday, raw and exhausted and all used up. (not sure why, read this post) I tried to sit at my desk and work, but couldn’t find […]
Sitting In The Dark With A Stranger
“We feel most alive when we are closest to death.” ~ Nenia Campbell I’m in Adelaide right now, staying on my own while I write and work and attend a conference. After dining with friends last night I went back to my hotel and, on a whim, decided to go and check out the outside pool […]
Telling Beautiful Lies
“There is a way of being wrong which is also sometimes necessarily right.” ~ Edward Abbey Ah, lovelies, I’m so tired just now. We’ve been travelling endlessly back and forward between our farm and Brisbane the last two years as one of our elderly family members has become more and more incapacitated. Advancing dementia, mobility issues, […]
Holding Hands Because It Matters
“Caregiving often calls us to lean into love we didn’t know possible.” ~ Tia Walker We have an elderly family member in hospital right now. It’s a place she has visited frequently these past few months after her the first major fall. She is old and frail and her health is failing. Things keep going […]
A Week Of Wonders
“Well, I always know what I want. And when you know what you want–you go toward it. Sometimes you go very fast, and sometimes only an inch a year. Perhaps you feel happier when you go fast. I don’t know. I’ve forgotten the difference long ago, because it really doesn’t matter, so long as you […]
Write Your Will, Tell Someone Your Wishes!
“Another way to be prepared is to think negatively. Yes, I’m a great optimist. but, when trying to make a decision, I often think of the worst-case scenario. I call it ‘the eaten by wolves factor.’ If I do something, what’s the most terrible thing that could happen? Would I be eaten by wolves? One […]
Chronic Illness? This is a Spiritual Retreat for you!
“The lotus is the most beautiful flower, whose petals open one by one. But it will only grow in the mud. In order to grow and gain wisdom, first you must have the mud — the obstacles of life and its suffering. … The mud speaks of the common ground that humans share, no matter […]
Crying Over Sushi
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask “What if I fall?” Oh but my darling, What if you fly?” ~ Erin Hanson Yesterday was quite a remarkable day for me. In the morning I drove to the other side of town for a meeting with an illustrator […]
Disturbing Dreams and Strange Comforts
“Use the wings of the flying Universe, Dream with open eyes; See in darkness.” ~ Dejan Stojanovic One of the things my Aboriginal Aunties taught me when I lived in the Kimberley was that night flying would become a very important part of my healing business. During the night while I was asleep my […]
Vale, Tony, my precious friend
“Everyone must leave something behind when he dies, my grandfather said. A child or a book or a painting or a house or a wall built or a pair of shoes made. Or a garden planted. Something your hand touched some way so your soul has somewhere to go when you die, and when people […]
Only Someone Who Has Chronic Pain or Illness Knows…
“Illness is the night side of life, a more onerous citizenship. Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship, in the kingdom of the well and in the kingdom of the sick. Although we all prefer to use the good passport, sooner or later each of us is obliged, at least for a spell, to identify […]
Death Of A Friend – Saying Goodbye to Bert
“We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own, live within a fragile circle; easily and often breached. Unable to accept its awful gaps, we would still live no other way. We cherish memory as the only certain immortality, never fully understanding the necessary plan.” ~ Irving Townsend And […]
A Quiet Wednesday Today
“When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” ~ Kahlil Gibran Wednesday is my day for posting about death and dying. Today just happens to be Ben’s birthday as well. And for us, death and dying just came […]
The Week Ahead – Oracle Reading for Monday 16 January
“Grief does not change you… It reveals you.” ~ John Green Hello, dear friends! I apologise that today’s post is late in coming. In fact I was unsure if I would even be able to write it at all. But here it is. Here’s the oracle card I have chosen this Monday, and my take on the […]
Let The Dying Live!
“You’ve got this life and while you’ve got it, you’d better kiss like you only have one moment, try to hold someone’s hand like you will never get another chance to, look into people’s eyes like they’re the last you’ll ever see, watch someone sleeping like there’s no time left, jump if you feel like […]
Conversations About Dying – We Need To Have Them!
“When the time comes to die, make sure that all you have to do is die!” ~ Jim Elliot “Everybody will die, but very few people want to be reminded of that fact.” ~ Lemony Snicket This post is the next in my Wednesday series on Death and Dying… Last year a good […]
Accidents and Sudden Deaths – My thoughts from a psychic perspective
“Do not stand at my grave and weep. I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning’s hush, I am that swift uplifting […]
Suicides and Sudden Deaths – Perspectives From My Experience as a Psychic
“Did you really want to die?” “No one commits suicide because they want to die.” “Then why do they do it?” “Because they want to stop the pain.” ~ Tiffanie DeBartolo The morning I am blogging about suicide comes directly after the night where I have been awake for most of it, messaging and […]
What Happens When We Die?
“There once was a girl who found herself dead. She peered over the ledge of heaven and saw that back on earth her sister missed her too much, was way too sad, so she crossed some paths that would not have crossed, took some moments in her hand shook them up and spilled them like […]
Supporting Your Loved One at the End Stage of Life
“And then we ease him out of that worn-out body with a kiss, and he’s gone like a whisper, the easiest breath.” ~ Mark Doty Welcome to the second post in my Wednesday series on death and dying. Today I’d like to talk about the end stage of life, and what you might expect […]
Some Early Reflections on Death
“Death is no more than passing from one room into another. But there’s a difference for me, you know. Because in that other room I shall be able to see.” ~ Helen Keller Hello, friends. Welcome to my Wednesday series on Death and Dying. This week, I’ll kick off the series by discussing some […]
A Short Blog Series on Death and Dying
“I’ve been making a list of the things they don’t teach you at school. They don’t teach you how to love somebody. They don’t teach you how to be famous. They don’t teach you how to be rich or how to be poor. They don’t teach you how to walk away from someone you don’t […]